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A Traição Mudou Minha Vida, Para Melhor, aos 60 | Isabel Dias | TEDxBlumenauSalon


[Music]
who has been betrayed here
raise your hands and it ‘s not just the
betrayal of love people is betrayal is
My friend, what a paquero boyfriend who tells his
Intimate secret is the friend everyone
only when betrayal involves the
love when the betrayal is
exactly with that person with whom
Are you walking and walking?
Betting all your player chips is
inhumane and that we see every day
right? What else do you have these crimes?
violence due to treason
my life started a fairy tale
while the fairies we
We met at the wedding of friends.
dear ones
The bride took two hours to
we had plenty of time to
We left the wedding together and
we did not separate until the 32 years of
married
we had a perfect family
margarine claim children raised
planning retirement on the beach until
One day the phone rings and one
Girl tell me, your husband has a
girlfriend was my husband or even think
I obviously that gesba ly as
an ostrich
I stuck my head in the hole I was with the
ass out and I swore he was faithful
This mistake took a while for him.
assuming that he had in fact had
a faith faith is more beautiful than a case
it is not a case of police thing already
It involves then he had an affair but I
She was the woman in his life.
It is obvious that this is where we lived in
indoor city
everything that happened is in our friends
it was always the man to change his wife for
two of 20 but no woman changed the
your man for two out of 20
this was already pretty prejudiced
I for five years
I was very afraid of being afraid of
look scared to go after and find
Because when you fuck and woman you have
An intuition is certain, you will.
behind because the team may be few
But it’s got something for you and then I went to
and find out not him with a person and
discover with four in the same time saw
Excuse me, we’re more at ease.
I wish I did not risk breaking
The foot is right here.
and it was exactly that I sank down
I sank into sadness and sank into
depression because I was not
losing the sun last and the present with
him I was losing all my future
that we had been planning the 32 years
married and contradicting all
opinions and advice because
advice is good but once in a while
spare
is neither the therapist told me ‘no
You have to stay in June was
chiang rai
You have to stay inside just not
You can leave here. I said no, I will.
though and what I used to hear was old
Grandpa if nothing and in Sao Paulo not
It’ll work only if they’re Paul for me.
at that moment it was my only
anonymity alternative
I needed to and I got away from myself
to escape from what I thought
I did not want to find
and I went to live alone in Sao Paulo
The first time in my life that I went
living alone and suddenly I shared one
example our digital time
I discovered internet looks nothing to see
no comparison with emi Eder
you even have to give some advice to
her because I think the 78 options
It may have spoiled her a little bit.
the search and the internet
I went and I made a profile on my profile
it was much simpler my profile said
that I was a mature woman of values
and that of the independent and that I did not want
change my current situation but
I was looking for interesting moments that I
He was tall lean’re right I I tell
you who have not even a little bit
Numbers but that’s ok, we do not
no one uses calculator no
have a problem
It’s right and I wanted my search is a
friend before a friend with the bookkeeper
I wanted a decent person for good.
so the return was much better.
than from the very best and then from
suddenly super depressed because I was
abandoned alone I see myself as a
choice option
my ego thanked me without shadow of
doubts
and then I made the selection already
discarding those who lived very
far from it is difficult for those who
escaped from high school
those who already wanted to set up a
business with me, financing is the
another who wanted to come from koch china with
my miles to meet me
So we’re discarding and I
I really thought to you since
we are talking about intimacies that
I would never find anyone
personally until he gave him and we
Let’s have coffee.
was an interesting and coffee guy
I felt fit in some position
sweet hot thing
the next day was very difficult is the
I looked, I did not speak
It was you who did this and all that
You always preached everything you
you always did
You’re going crazy, but I did not even see the
image of the good of that moment
interesting I was talking and screwed
It’s okay, it was good, it’s good I have to
assuming was good
scary the ribbon and that’s where the
second
and there came the third and fourth was so
Good that I repeat
and then my therapist very
cleverly because I had
moments of great sadness is still
same time I already had the one
light at the end of the tunnel I had all
my life and not only the 32 years of life
As a family couple I had the
my life that had to disassemble everything and
I started to write about the
experiences and I started to
report as a journal and each
Experience is obvious I had moments
and in which the cold Russian was my greatest
company
I want you to give me strength to go
go after and to feel alive
only when I was depressed sad
I was going to read what I had written and
I really liked it but it was everything
third person was not I was not
another person who was writing to you
she wrote she did she gave her
I did not like I was a mere
spectator until after a while
is perhaps even preserved by the
distance
I told a son who was away.
that I was writing
He’s a writer and he sent me to
I want to read and I have to record everything
in the third person hits everything fiction
and then I had to listen to him, mother, boot
everything in the first person because everything
this is you
It’s just that my self-esteem was so
Low is and I was such a good girl.
disbelieving me way magina he he
vaticine is going to give a book a book one
Imagine book will not give
only he edited it set fire and
Suddenly we go with a 32 one blog
man for every year I spent with you
and in six months of blogging in the air
the book a publisher has come to us for
to publish because then I am 60 years older
I have no expiration date and my
body and even less my horny
excuse
No one said that my body was already
your stop
It’s okay and sorry, I think it’s
a situation where if I ask
now for man the male man is all
Father, do you?
truth or lie there was no truth
mother fuck aa mother and grandmother because I
I’m old enough to be a grandmother, too.
no I fuck and like
I ‘m not even ashamed of myself.
say that’s right and then the publisher when
was to publish the book is solved
honoring how it could not fail to be
simone of dread on the cover only that are
Taken photographed from real women
that they are voluntary.
butt out
The cover of the book is beautiful, too.
You’re right, it’s beautiful because it’s the
idea was to represent the truth and
signing the book was a fight I’m going
pseudonym button will turn fiction
fiction anyone can write is a
man up to a man to talk about
adventures of the woman and I said not me
I think now is the time for me to close
this cycle of closing my life I did the
that I wanted and signed Isabel’s
truth
the book’s launch week
Folha de São Paulo made a story
about the book that was the most
read the newspaper all week
and then in the days of launch
also called the cover of this is the
see I was on the television of the time
tell
I showed up and it was only then that my friends
inside they knew it, that’s right.
and I had friends who on Facebook me
Deleted a screen selector our photos
of little childhood there too
because I became a bad company
sorry the other there is not another me until
to feel
She says that every time she saw me in the
facebook I spoiled in the face
the life she was living in and I
I felt for her and perhaps for lack of
courage
the discovery of what I could
discovery is of my son telling me
that I could take over made me another
person absolutely another person
I’m scared I’m scared to death I’m
I’m scared to death here, I do not know how I
I got the shoe in front of
so many people why taking off the shoe is the
first to admire né geniuses
so I took off my shoe but I’m going
To hide it now, at the same time, I
I have had many criticisms many
as if people were asking me
because I’m using my body
The way I want it is not mine
right and when we get
the older the body becomes the
society wants to control the
greeting my dress the size of
my cleavage
It’s right the body is mine then
those people who were not happy
with my action that is full of
people
I can only say that I’m sorry
because I’m just getting started
[Applause]
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