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Разрешить себе быть нормальным | Анастасия Шмеркина | TEDxSadovoeRing


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[applause]
I will tell the story for the first time which is not
connected with the hero’s journey or
drama I will tell a story about myself
I think I have the right to this my life
these are meetings with thousands of people a year all
they come for videos of various formats
someone wants an advertisement
someone wants a private video someone wants
make a film but somehow they all don’t
just want to seem better to the world
by the side
but almost everyone is embarrassed about something
we are afraid to show the world some of our own
traits that we consider ourselves
imperfect on this built on
most social networks and very
a lot of industry in our world
agree with you hardly anywhere
posted photos with your permission
which you don’t like we all want
so that the world does not see what we are not
pretty in myself I am not an exception here
picture of my social networks on
they are absolutely not visible then what I have
which I myself embarrassed for them to be seen
overweight is not visible on them small
no asymmetrical features are visible on them
faces
otherwise they don’t see the most important
I do not see my fear that I am
born with an incomplete set of bones and
one my leg is shorter than the other by 30
centimeters and this is not the words correct either
one of the three operations but it is not
motivating story because i’m talking
now about this for the first time I’m scared
admit to this world but it is such
a little experiment because i know
so many people are afraid to admit
the world of its faults scary that the world is
the answer will hit or bite me lucky u
me the situation is pretty obvious therefore
don’t really talk about it
so many years it was a little bit strange but
the fact is that I really hope that
my story is pretty typical just a little
slightly more concentrated though
it began of course not quite normal
way back in 86 my year
parents had to make two difficult
choosing the first choice was pretty
atypical choice for parents because
that they were offered not to take me away
maternity hospital forget it all like a bad dream
and give birth to a normal second child
the choice was also quite atypical and this
there was a choice to take me and raise me
normal just plain girl
many will think that this is probably almost
it is impossible that there is a society to her evil
children but it is not true children are not evil
children absolutely expanded boundaries
normalcy each of us in childhood
the phenomenon was absolutely normal
be friends with an imaginary speaker
unicorn so we odessa passed
usually it was not a struggle it was not
especially the story because I didn’t know
that i need to fight something i just
wish i just wanted something for me
straightened with legs because it will
faster going to school and you can
sleep 10 minutes longer in the morning
tree in our yard
where our company played my branch was
the top one just because I was
the youngest world did not give me a hint
the fact that something was wrong with me and I was
I am sure that just correctly chosen
the clothes hide it all until one day
youth I did not see myself in the video
for the first time in my life, I was obviously limping and
apparently limped all my life
to all adolescent fear when interfered
another very big and very very
scary he sounded so well am I worthy
the fact that I managed to dream myself
began to look for an answer in the outside world
I saw a lot of answers in the spirit of not
go where you can’t do it
of what you can not cope soberly
evaluate your abilities and most often
after all this the phrase was added we
don’t need the world we have to stick together
because it is this phrase that I heard and
this question
I heard from people who are also driven
in some conditions let’s say so not in
staffed and physically in hospitals
funds for the disabled although hate it
word and still having difficulty pronouncing
about yourself especially
amazing i almost succumbed to
all this has not once turned
attention to one small detail
the outside world never told me
nothing like it was a single sentence
you do not need us to leave here were only
we do not need the world come to us later I became
think about another interesting
Details agree strange
join some communities and
closed organizations with people only
due to some physical signs
because for example, by the age of 18, I understood
that my height will not step over the meter
fifty six
and most likely I will have this
live on however no one ever came up
I did not say to me let’s create
society in which we will be together
worry about what is in stores to us
such disrespect these insanely long
public transport pants by this
insanely high railings and supermarkets
they are not equipped for people with ours
the physical characteristics of any
ladders to climb on the top shelf
agree it is a little strange I even
I allowed myself to buy refrigerators for
the one in 2 meters and and no one has ever
didn’t tell me look how well done she is
copes though on the top shelf
products and literally have to
throw them calmly when put
the awareness of all these things has come
fear that something might not work
because something is wrong with me and
that the world will spit me back left gone
only his little tail associated with
so because we all want to seem
better with love with love that we
are considered
what you need for some reason deserve that
It goes only to those who are flawless.
I was very afraid of this thought because I
I understood inside myself that I myself still
never liked the lame guy this
it was so hard in my life
he appeared only one person but
this is not a romantic story you too
you know his name is Gregory House
this is a wonderful nasty sarcastic
a very harmful person who is also
it was lame and then I realized that the whole
the world is in love with him and that to me
madly impressed
and here it is also worth the lame
so at the end of listing all of it
qualities that it is not important she is it is not
so that everything in my head but just it to
this moment is no longer my fear
began to pass he retreated gradually
step by step after that, it’s been about
For 10-15 years, I’m not even going to tell you right now.
for these 15 years, I realized that my
parents plan to raise an ordinary girl
quite a success
I have a very interesting career in the field
in which
striking appearance is important but I
I have great friends
beautiful husband and my life in some
moments usually at some moments
unusual but I think it is not only mine
history I think this happens to everyone
once i got my tattoo on myself
big victory inside of me at some
period began to sound the words of people who
came up and said you know your
an old age tattoo will do itself not
very attractive physically
I was elated I was elated sincerely
what a serious tattoo are you sure that
it will be exactly the case with tattoos
the class all came together and everything turned out when
it all happened happened and fear
almost gone completely I decided to finish him
finally because over the years I
know the world begins beyond fear
beyond fear which is really
the case is not justified by anything except
some kind of false impression that
the world is a wicked world throwing on every flaw and
hit him more painfully
just probably worth understanding one
the simple idea that our faults are not
what defines us does not mean that
they do not have to fight it does not mean
that you need to relax and not paying
attention to them live on just need
shift the focus
you need to shift the focus of them from the fact that
supposedly prevents us from being happy
what is happiness and how are we to ourselves
come before
it’s crazy scary to do up to 100 i
now before you i’m really doing this in
first time i’m really the first time about
I say this and I do not know what will happen
after i went on stage ted
with just these thoughts they are with some kind of
professional beautiful stories about
that the hero’s journey is what leads
his ultimate goal and this goal should
work on everything he does to me
really scary i don’t know what will happen
further but I know one thing is worth it
thank
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