Often, our partner is not necessarily
Terrible in any public form
But we are increasingly saddened
About the nature of our relationship.
The partner is not the center with us as we had hoped.
There are many times where
They do not understand us properly.
They are often busy or preoccupied with something.
They may be somewhat rude and indifferent.
They are not much interested
With the details of our day.
They call their friends instead of talking to us.
We are disappointed and disappointed
Love, it was supposed to be beautiful.
But without anything one of the most important went wrongly
It does not seem that way, day after day.
This sadness has a paradoxical source.
We are now displeased because
At some point in the past,
We were really lucky.
We are sad, because we were lucky.
To explain this apparent contradiction,
We need to look at the emotional roots of love.
Tell us what you should be
love relationship
And a feeling to be loved,
Never comes from what we have seen
In adulthood.
It arises from a strange and powerful source.
The idea of a happy marital relationship
Express a basic image
For comfort, deep safety, non-talk communication,
It is our understanding of our needs without bothering
Which comes from early childhood.
In the best moments of childhood,
If things go reasonably well,
One of our loving parents offered us extraordinary satisfaction.
They knew when we were hungry or tired.
Although we usually could not explain it.
We did not need to make an effort.
Made us feel completely safe.
We were included in the reassurance.
We received and demonstrated.
Even if we do not remember all the details,
The experience of being pampered
Has left a deep impression on us.
It has deeply rooted in our minds
As did the ideal mold of what love should be.
As adults, it is not really to notice,
We are still interested in this concept
To be loved.
Reversing the best Mavi experience of our first years
In our current relationships
And their strong desire as a result.
It is a harsh comparison
And unfair.
The love we receive from a parent
It can never be a practical model
For our subsequent experience with love.
The reason is fundamental,
We were children then
We are adults now.
Split with several major implications.
At first, our needs were much simpler.
At that time, we needed to be washed and entertained,
And we put in bed.
But we did not need someone to catch him
Intelligently through the turbulent corners of our minds.
We did not need to take care of us to understand
Why we prefer the first series of TV show
About the second.
Why it is necessary to see our aunt on Sunday.
Or why it matters so much that the curtains are coordinated
With a sofa cover.
Or that the bread should be cut with a proper bread knife.
The parents knew exactly what was needed
With respect to certain physical requirements
And emotional.
Our partner on the other hand,
He stumbles in the darkness
About needs that are very subtle,
Not clear, it is very complex
To be delivered.
Secondly, none of them was reciprocated at the time.
The parents were intensely focused on our care
But they knew and completely accepted that we
We will not share their needs
Not imagined for a moment
They can throw us their problems
Or expect us to sponsor them.
They did not need to ask them about their day.
Our responsibility was surprisingly simple.
All that pleased them was our presence around them.
Our more normal actions, rolling on our stomachs,
Pick up biscuits with our small hands,
He charms them with ease.
We were loved, did not need to love.
The difference between types of love
Which language was subtly devised,
Protect us from the difference between
Being the lucky future of love,
Moreover, our parents were good enough
Lihmana from the trouble
Imposed by our care.
Keep the facade reasonably bright,
So they would be blown into their bedroom.
In this case, we can see real losses in their efforts
But by that time we were asleep.
They gave us the honor of not showing
It cost them to take care of us.
Which was very nice,
But our damage is permanent,
Has been formed unintentionally
What it means is that someone loves us
Which is not true in the first place.
And later in Hilla
We may end up loving an angry lover
And is very tired to talk at the end of the day,
Who is not surprised by all the strange behavior we do,
He does not bother to listen to what we say
We may feel, with some sadness
Our parents were not
The irony that has a side editor
Is that in fact, that is exactly how our parents were,
Just in their bedroom, when we were asleep,
We were not aware of anything.
The source of our present sorrow
Not, therefore, a special failure
By our adult lovers.
They are not uniquely bankrupt or selfish.
Instead we judge our adult experiences
In light of a very different kind of childhood love.
We do not feel sad about it
We ended up with the wrong person
But, unfortunately
We were forced to grow old.
Terrible in any public form
But we are increasingly saddened
About the nature of our relationship.
The partner is not the center with us as we had hoped.
There are many times where
They do not understand us properly.
They are often busy or preoccupied with something.
They may be somewhat rude and indifferent.
They are not much interested
With the details of our day.
They call their friends instead of talking to us.
We are disappointed and disappointed
Love, it was supposed to be beautiful.
But without anything one of the most important went wrongly
It does not seem that way, day after day.
This sadness has a paradoxical source.
We are now displeased because
At some point in the past,
We were really lucky.
We are sad, because we were lucky.
To explain this apparent contradiction,
We need to look at the emotional roots of love.
Tell us what you should be
love relationship
And a feeling to be loved,
Never comes from what we have seen
In adulthood.
It arises from a strange and powerful source.
The idea of a happy marital relationship
Express a basic image
For comfort, deep safety, non-talk communication,
It is our understanding of our needs without bothering
Which comes from early childhood.
In the best moments of childhood,
If things go reasonably well,
One of our loving parents offered us extraordinary satisfaction.
They knew when we were hungry or tired.
Although we usually could not explain it.
We did not need to make an effort.
Made us feel completely safe.
We were included in the reassurance.
We received and demonstrated.
Even if we do not remember all the details,
The experience of being pampered
Has left a deep impression on us.
It has deeply rooted in our minds
As did the ideal mold of what love should be.
As adults, it is not really to notice,
We are still interested in this concept
To be loved.
Reversing the best Mavi experience of our first years
In our current relationships
And their strong desire as a result.
It is a harsh comparison
And unfair.
The love we receive from a parent
It can never be a practical model
For our subsequent experience with love.
The reason is fundamental,
We were children then
We are adults now.
Split with several major implications.
At first, our needs were much simpler.
At that time, we needed to be washed and entertained,
And we put in bed.
But we did not need someone to catch him
Intelligently through the turbulent corners of our minds.
We did not need to take care of us to understand
Why we prefer the first series of TV show
About the second.
Why it is necessary to see our aunt on Sunday.
Or why it matters so much that the curtains are coordinated
With a sofa cover.
Or that the bread should be cut with a proper bread knife.
The parents knew exactly what was needed
With respect to certain physical requirements
And emotional.
Our partner on the other hand,
He stumbles in the darkness
About needs that are very subtle,
Not clear, it is very complex
To be delivered.
Secondly, none of them was reciprocated at the time.
The parents were intensely focused on our care
But they knew and completely accepted that we
We will not share their needs
Not imagined for a moment
They can throw us their problems
Or expect us to sponsor them.
They did not need to ask them about their day.
Our responsibility was surprisingly simple.
All that pleased them was our presence around them.
Our more normal actions, rolling on our stomachs,
Pick up biscuits with our small hands,
He charms them with ease.
We were loved, did not need to love.
The difference between types of love
Which language was subtly devised,
Protect us from the difference between
Being the lucky future of love,
Moreover, our parents were good enough
Lihmana from the trouble
Imposed by our care.
Keep the facade reasonably bright,
So they would be blown into their bedroom.
In this case, we can see real losses in their efforts
But by that time we were asleep.
They gave us the honor of not showing
It cost them to take care of us.
Which was very nice,
But our damage is permanent,
Has been formed unintentionally
What it means is that someone loves us
Which is not true in the first place.
And later in Hilla
We may end up loving an angry lover
And is very tired to talk at the end of the day,
Who is not surprised by all the strange behavior we do,
He does not bother to listen to what we say
We may feel, with some sadness
Our parents were not
The irony that has a side editor
Is that in fact, that is exactly how our parents were,
Just in their bedroom, when we were asleep,
We were not aware of anything.
The source of our present sorrow
Not, therefore, a special failure
By our adult lovers.
They are not uniquely bankrupt or selfish.
Instead we judge our adult experiences
In light of a very different kind of childhood love.
We do not feel sad about it
We ended up with the wrong person
But, unfortunately
We were forced to grow old.
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