They are delightful, of course, for good days, very grateful.
But, to clarify some of the things our children are oriented towards, the societies do not dare mention it, and should,
because this silence prevents us from understanding what it means to have children.
There is, in fact, no real sincere transfer of information between generations …
for the same reason that applies to the great, dark truths of love.
We simply overlook our own difficulties.
We should not.
The job of culture is to discover what your friends never talk about,
and privately everyone is finally thinking about it.
So, here is … a summary of great secrets.
Children are destroying your relationship as a romantic, sexual interest.
People say that the children get close together, but this is not emotional, let alone the sexual, intimacy we want.
This is more like a team spirit among colleagues in a bustling kindergarten.
It is almost a biological law: children will kill the relationship that created them.
We believed the idea of all the problems that people might have been suffering from childhood
The fact is that their parents were bad or negligent.
Be good to your children – say psychologists – and everything will be fine.
But it turned out to be a pretty deception.
As a parent, you will always have to be the one who breaks a lot of fun.
It starts with computers and moves from there,
to protect their children, and as a result they will deeply hate you.
Truly, the more you love them, the more you can act in their long-term interest
and it will sometimes hate you.
Unlike all those full-grown parents whose shortcomings make short-term gains.
The more you provide your child with love and security, the more you use it as a hacking bag
when they go to evil in their lives.
All those persuasions – I will always be on your side – will be well-charged.
It will encourage your child to make every frustration and disappointment
point to an adult full of love that has shown that he can and will take over.
He says you can give your children some insights,
– say about money or career or love –
the insights you have gained through the painful experience and will save you time.
Unfortunately, the human race is very enthusiastic about every new generation re-discovering the same stupid mistake.
You can not save people time.
Modern parents want their children to make things easier.
But we know from our own experience that we had the key moments of growing up
only through the things that had their painful side.
We desperately want our children to mature, but without going through terrible things.
I can not do that.
Children will have to be separated from you; it is a biological imperative.
You can not live forever at home.
But, unfortunately, that drive for separation has the habit of expressing very ugly
in the period we call ‘adolescence’.
This often means mocking parents and undermining your life goals and values.
Despite your hard work, your kids will end up being the average.
Maybe you thought that all early lessons and worries and love …
convert into versions of Mozart or Tolstoy. It will not.
They will be very average people who will require you much, much more than average engagement
to become adult people.
Many people who learn that they can not have children are deeply unhappy.
Do not worry.
Have children and you will surely regret it sometimes.
Do not have children and you will surely also regret sometimes.
Both sides are unhappy in an interesting and different way.
But neither side needs much envy of the other.
But, to clarify some of the things our children are oriented towards, the societies do not dare mention it, and should,
because this silence prevents us from understanding what it means to have children.
There is, in fact, no real sincere transfer of information between generations …
for the same reason that applies to the great, dark truths of love.
We simply overlook our own difficulties.
We should not.
The job of culture is to discover what your friends never talk about,
and privately everyone is finally thinking about it.
So, here is … a summary of great secrets.
Children are destroying your relationship as a romantic, sexual interest.
People say that the children get close together, but this is not emotional, let alone the sexual, intimacy we want.
This is more like a team spirit among colleagues in a bustling kindergarten.
It is almost a biological law: children will kill the relationship that created them.
We believed the idea of all the problems that people might have been suffering from childhood
The fact is that their parents were bad or negligent.
Be good to your children – say psychologists – and everything will be fine.
But it turned out to be a pretty deception.
As a parent, you will always have to be the one who breaks a lot of fun.
It starts with computers and moves from there,
to protect their children, and as a result they will deeply hate you.
Truly, the more you love them, the more you can act in their long-term interest
and it will sometimes hate you.
Unlike all those full-grown parents whose shortcomings make short-term gains.
The more you provide your child with love and security, the more you use it as a hacking bag
when they go to evil in their lives.
All those persuasions – I will always be on your side – will be well-charged.
It will encourage your child to make every frustration and disappointment
point to an adult full of love that has shown that he can and will take over.
He says you can give your children some insights,
– say about money or career or love –
the insights you have gained through the painful experience and will save you time.
Unfortunately, the human race is very enthusiastic about every new generation re-discovering the same stupid mistake.
You can not save people time.
Modern parents want their children to make things easier.
But we know from our own experience that we had the key moments of growing up
only through the things that had their painful side.
We desperately want our children to mature, but without going through terrible things.
I can not do that.
Children will have to be separated from you; it is a biological imperative.
You can not live forever at home.
But, unfortunately, that drive for separation has the habit of expressing very ugly
in the period we call ‘adolescence’.
This often means mocking parents and undermining your life goals and values.
Despite your hard work, your kids will end up being the average.
Maybe you thought that all early lessons and worries and love …
convert into versions of Mozart or Tolstoy. It will not.
They will be very average people who will require you much, much more than average engagement
to become adult people.
Many people who learn that they can not have children are deeply unhappy.
Do not worry.
Have children and you will surely regret it sometimes.
Do not have children and you will surely also regret sometimes.
Both sides are unhappy in an interesting and different way.
But neither side needs much envy of the other.
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