In order to survive in this world
We have the easy choice of spending our lives protected
As if ignoring our weak side
And we cling to certain feelings, and focus on not feeling most of the time.
But what is needed in relationships is otherwise, being a good lover
It means having the ability to express pain, desire and affection.
This requires balance
Between the great power we need most of the day, and the delicacy that dominates its use for the rest of the time.
No wonder the journey from independence to weakness is very busy
And if the desire for closeness is accompanied by fear
And what appears to be – but it is not – accompanied by evil.
Even after spending years with someone, there may be an obstacle of fear in trying to get close to him.
Two major shows tend to appear
The first is to try isolation, or as psychologists call it: avoidance.
We want to get closer to our partners, but we are concerned that we are undesirable
Instead, let’s say we’re busy
Pretend we are thinking about other things
We claim that the need for reassurance is the last we think.
We may even enter into an affair in a final attempt to save the face to be safely isolated
Often two hours to confirm that we do not need the love of our partners
Love that we were too conservative to ask.
Or we can become dominant, what therapists call anxiety
We feel that our partners are emotionally avoiding us, and we respond by trying to pursue them administratively
We get angry without justification if they are a little late
And severely punish them for not doing some duties,
We ask them constantly if they have completed the task they promised to complete.
All this rather than admit “I’m worried that I’m not important to you”
We think we can not force our partner to show love and warmth
We can not force them to want us, even if we do not actually ask them to do so.
So we try to control them gradually
With a tragic episode we will continue to become shadowy and annoying to the other person.
So it seems that it is impossible to love them anymore,
But in truth we love them, but we are very afraid that they may not like us.
But if they understand our harsh and rude behavior on what it really is,
Instead of expressing rejection, a strange picture will be very distorted
For a genuine appeal to tenderness.
We have to empathize with ourselves
Relations require that we place ourselves in a very vulnerable position with our partners.
If they ever want to use their power they control us, sometimes they do
They know exactly how they use it, and that’s very scary.
This aspect of relationships is more difficult if our early experiences in childhood
The rapprochement made it somewhat frightening
If we have encountered people who have used our weaknesses as their targets.
So we are not afraid of rapprochement because we are fools
But it is a challenge to be next to someone who can easily hurt us
And continue to have a relationship even though it may sometimes be used to know us
Causing harm.
Convergence is threatened by nature, but we can gradually show courage and tolerance
The trouble is to replace defense with explanation
We can say that we are afraid and why
Rather than becoming isolated or dominant
We can begin to see what our partners are trying to get through their annoying behavior.
We may never meet the requirements for acceptance.
This is not a curse limited to the weak or the minor
Anxiety in love is a sign of wellness.
It means that we did not allow ourselves to deliver to someone else
It means that we are still realistic enough to realize that things can really end badly
And that we are empowered enough to care.
We have to be better at seeing love and longing behind some of the most moments
The coldness and cruelty that is issued by us and our partners,
Which was our own way of dealing with our anxiety in trying to get closer.
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We have the easy choice of spending our lives protected
As if ignoring our weak side
And we cling to certain feelings, and focus on not feeling most of the time.
But what is needed in relationships is otherwise, being a good lover
It means having the ability to express pain, desire and affection.
This requires balance
Between the great power we need most of the day, and the delicacy that dominates its use for the rest of the time.
No wonder the journey from independence to weakness is very busy
And if the desire for closeness is accompanied by fear
And what appears to be – but it is not – accompanied by evil.
Even after spending years with someone, there may be an obstacle of fear in trying to get close to him.
Two major shows tend to appear
The first is to try isolation, or as psychologists call it: avoidance.
We want to get closer to our partners, but we are concerned that we are undesirable
Instead, let’s say we’re busy
Pretend we are thinking about other things
We claim that the need for reassurance is the last we think.
We may even enter into an affair in a final attempt to save the face to be safely isolated
Often two hours to confirm that we do not need the love of our partners
Love that we were too conservative to ask.
Or we can become dominant, what therapists call anxiety
We feel that our partners are emotionally avoiding us, and we respond by trying to pursue them administratively
We get angry without justification if they are a little late
And severely punish them for not doing some duties,
We ask them constantly if they have completed the task they promised to complete.
All this rather than admit “I’m worried that I’m not important to you”
We think we can not force our partner to show love and warmth
We can not force them to want us, even if we do not actually ask them to do so.
So we try to control them gradually
With a tragic episode we will continue to become shadowy and annoying to the other person.
So it seems that it is impossible to love them anymore,
But in truth we love them, but we are very afraid that they may not like us.
But if they understand our harsh and rude behavior on what it really is,
Instead of expressing rejection, a strange picture will be very distorted
For a genuine appeal to tenderness.
We have to empathize with ourselves
Relations require that we place ourselves in a very vulnerable position with our partners.
If they ever want to use their power they control us, sometimes they do
They know exactly how they use it, and that’s very scary.
This aspect of relationships is more difficult if our early experiences in childhood
The rapprochement made it somewhat frightening
If we have encountered people who have used our weaknesses as their targets.
So we are not afraid of rapprochement because we are fools
But it is a challenge to be next to someone who can easily hurt us
And continue to have a relationship even though it may sometimes be used to know us
Causing harm.
Convergence is threatened by nature, but we can gradually show courage and tolerance
The trouble is to replace defense with explanation
We can say that we are afraid and why
Rather than becoming isolated or dominant
We can begin to see what our partners are trying to get through their annoying behavior.
We may never meet the requirements for acceptance.
This is not a curse limited to the weak or the minor
Anxiety in love is a sign of wellness.
It means that we did not allow ourselves to deliver to someone else
It means that we are still realistic enough to realize that things can really end badly
And that we are empowered enough to care.
We have to be better at seeing love and longing behind some of the most moments
The coldness and cruelty that is issued by us and our partners,
Which was our own way of dealing with our anxiety in trying to get closer.
Translating team translating translate autrjim @
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