Psychotherapy
Winnipeg
How to make the world better?
There are many known and urgent issues that can be started:
Malaria, carbon emissions, tax evasion, drug trafficking, soil erosion, water pollution…
Winnipeg can be named in history because his method is surprisingly simple.
He believes that human happiness is not determined by external politics.
But on the way parents raise their children.
Winniper was born in 1896
Is the first child psychoanalyst in the UK to receive medical training
Although he has no children
But play an important role in public education for childcare.
He has delivered 600 speeches on the BBC
National running lecture
Wrote 15 books
Includes best-selling essays:
Home is where We Start from (Home is where we left)
Winnipeg is a bit strange to the British.
Because the lack of warmth in the UK is notorious and lacks introspection
However, the psychoanalysis of Winnipeg
If you look closely, it is actually very British.
From the perspective of his perspective, there is a British-style humility
The title of his most famous radio show is very simple.
The Ordinary Devoted Mother and Her Baby (Ordinary, Focused Mother and Her Baby)
He hopes that through his ideas, he can help people become “good enough” parents.
Unlike other countries who want “excellent” or “perfect” parents
Just “OK” will do.
So from his point of view, how can you develop a “good enough” parent?
Winnipeg made several suggestions:
1. Remember, your child is very vulnerable
Winnipeg first let his audience notice that the baby’s mentality is very fragile.
Babies don’t know themselves, don’t know where they are, try to survive
He doesn’t know when there is a next meal.
Can’t express yourself or communicate with others
Winniecott’s arguments are closely related to this claim.
He has always stressed
It must be adapted to the baby by the person around the baby, trying to interpret the baby’s needs
Do not impose requirements on infants that are not yet ready
2. Allow the child to be angry
For example, Winnipeg knows that healthy babies may be violent and hateful.
This means that if the parents forget to feed him to eat
Winnipeg reminds everyone:
“If you let the baby down, he will feel as if he is being swallowed by the beast.”
But although babies sometimes want to kill or destroy, parents must be able to let babies express this anger
Not being threatened, or using morally persuasive attitudes to deal with “indecent” behavior
Winnipeg said: “If the baby is angry and crying, and the people around him can remain calm and unharmed,
This experience can greatly enhance the baby’s ability.
Knowing what he really feels is not necessarily true. “
3. Children can’t be too jealous
Parents will be happy when children are disciplined.
This child is considered a child
Winnipeg is very afraid of children
He believes that the parents of a child can’t stand the unruly behavior.
When the child is very young, the child is strictly required to obey
According to Winniecourt’s argument
This will lead to “fake me”
That is, the surface looks obedient and smooth, but suppresses its own life instinct.
In the structure of Winnipeg, there are no creative adults, or people who seem to have no vitality inside.
Her parents can hardly stand the disobedience
When the child is too young, ask the child to be jealous, so the ability to kill the child
Unable to achieve the right, well-behaved and generous charity
4. Let the children be themselves
The failure of each environment will force the child to be precocious.
For example, parents are too chaotic and disordered, and children will soon think too much.
His rational cognitive function is over-stimulated and may become an intellectual if he grows up.
A depressed parent may turn the child into a pistachio because the child does not have time to digest his depression.
Winnipeg sees their problems with children who have to take care of their mother’s emotions.
Winnipeg particularly hated seeing someone shaking his child on his knees and trying to make the child laugh.
Adults deliberately make baby laugh, just to isolate their sorrow
This baby may have a very different mind
Winnipeg believes that the most primitive way of presenting healthy parents
Is able to temporarily forget myself, the needs of the same baby
This little life is beautiful and fragile, and his unique existence must be fully recognized and fully respected.
5. Take a serious look at your parents
Winnipeg found that many parents are tired of their work.
He works hard to support these parents
Remind them of the importance of parenting, no less than the prime minister and cabinet of a country
Winnipeg believes that parental work is “the only real foundation for a healthy society and the only way to build the democratic foundation of the country’s social system.”
Winnipeg describes what his parents should do when they do something for their children.
In fact, it is the “love” that he rarely mentions directly.
We always think that love is magical and instinctively creates “links” with others.
But in the discussion of Winnipeg, we see the different styles of love.
Love is a kind of concession to the “self”, putting one’s needs and assumptions aside
I can listen to another person in a close and focused manner and admit that this person is something we don’t understand.
Moreover, in the case of a “bad” situation, this is often the case when approaching a child or an adult. The self does not feel offended and will not retaliate.
After Winnipeg’s death, we’ve got better in terms of parenting.
But only a little progress
We spend more time with children.
We theoretically know that children are important
But we still haven’t done a good job of Winnipeg’s special attention: adaptation
At the children’s side, we often forget to restrain our own needs or requirements.
We are still learning how to love our children.
So Winnipeg believes that the world is full of injured people.
The surface looks successful, but there is always a sense of unreality inside.
And put your own wounds and anger on others.
To reach “good enough”, we still have a way to go
I think Winnipeg will agree.
This thing has a unique path that is as important as anything else.
Chinese subtitles are reviewed by Yang Mingmin, Taiwan
Winnipeg
How to make the world better?
There are many known and urgent issues that can be started:
Malaria, carbon emissions, tax evasion, drug trafficking, soil erosion, water pollution…
Winnipeg can be named in history because his method is surprisingly simple.
He believes that human happiness is not determined by external politics.
But on the way parents raise their children.
Winniper was born in 1896
Is the first child psychoanalyst in the UK to receive medical training
Although he has no children
But play an important role in public education for childcare.
He has delivered 600 speeches on the BBC
National running lecture
Wrote 15 books
Includes best-selling essays:
Home is where We Start from (Home is where we left)
Winnipeg is a bit strange to the British.
Because the lack of warmth in the UK is notorious and lacks introspection
However, the psychoanalysis of Winnipeg
If you look closely, it is actually very British.
From the perspective of his perspective, there is a British-style humility
The title of his most famous radio show is very simple.
The Ordinary Devoted Mother and Her Baby (Ordinary, Focused Mother and Her Baby)
He hopes that through his ideas, he can help people become “good enough” parents.
Unlike other countries who want “excellent” or “perfect” parents
Just “OK” will do.
So from his point of view, how can you develop a “good enough” parent?
Winnipeg made several suggestions:
1. Remember, your child is very vulnerable
Winnipeg first let his audience notice that the baby’s mentality is very fragile.
Babies don’t know themselves, don’t know where they are, try to survive
He doesn’t know when there is a next meal.
Can’t express yourself or communicate with others
Winniecott’s arguments are closely related to this claim.
He has always stressed
It must be adapted to the baby by the person around the baby, trying to interpret the baby’s needs
Do not impose requirements on infants that are not yet ready
2. Allow the child to be angry
For example, Winnipeg knows that healthy babies may be violent and hateful.
This means that if the parents forget to feed him to eat
Winnipeg reminds everyone:
“If you let the baby down, he will feel as if he is being swallowed by the beast.”
But although babies sometimes want to kill or destroy, parents must be able to let babies express this anger
Not being threatened, or using morally persuasive attitudes to deal with “indecent” behavior
Winnipeg said: “If the baby is angry and crying, and the people around him can remain calm and unharmed,
This experience can greatly enhance the baby’s ability.
Knowing what he really feels is not necessarily true. “
3. Children can’t be too jealous
Parents will be happy when children are disciplined.
This child is considered a child
Winnipeg is very afraid of children
He believes that the parents of a child can’t stand the unruly behavior.
When the child is very young, the child is strictly required to obey
According to Winniecourt’s argument
This will lead to “fake me”
That is, the surface looks obedient and smooth, but suppresses its own life instinct.
In the structure of Winnipeg, there are no creative adults, or people who seem to have no vitality inside.
Her parents can hardly stand the disobedience
When the child is too young, ask the child to be jealous, so the ability to kill the child
Unable to achieve the right, well-behaved and generous charity
4. Let the children be themselves
The failure of each environment will force the child to be precocious.
For example, parents are too chaotic and disordered, and children will soon think too much.
His rational cognitive function is over-stimulated and may become an intellectual if he grows up.
A depressed parent may turn the child into a pistachio because the child does not have time to digest his depression.
Winnipeg sees their problems with children who have to take care of their mother’s emotions.
Winnipeg particularly hated seeing someone shaking his child on his knees and trying to make the child laugh.
Adults deliberately make baby laugh, just to isolate their sorrow
This baby may have a very different mind
Winnipeg believes that the most primitive way of presenting healthy parents
Is able to temporarily forget myself, the needs of the same baby
This little life is beautiful and fragile, and his unique existence must be fully recognized and fully respected.
5. Take a serious look at your parents
Winnipeg found that many parents are tired of their work.
He works hard to support these parents
Remind them of the importance of parenting, no less than the prime minister and cabinet of a country
Winnipeg believes that parental work is “the only real foundation for a healthy society and the only way to build the democratic foundation of the country’s social system.”
Winnipeg describes what his parents should do when they do something for their children.
In fact, it is the “love” that he rarely mentions directly.
We always think that love is magical and instinctively creates “links” with others.
But in the discussion of Winnipeg, we see the different styles of love.
Love is a kind of concession to the “self”, putting one’s needs and assumptions aside
I can listen to another person in a close and focused manner and admit that this person is something we don’t understand.
Moreover, in the case of a “bad” situation, this is often the case when approaching a child or an adult. The self does not feel offended and will not retaliate.
After Winnipeg’s death, we’ve got better in terms of parenting.
But only a little progress
We spend more time with children.
We theoretically know that children are important
But we still haven’t done a good job of Winnipeg’s special attention: adaptation
At the children’s side, we often forget to restrain our own needs or requirements.
We are still learning how to love our children.
So Winnipeg believes that the world is full of injured people.
The surface looks successful, but there is always a sense of unreality inside.
And put your own wounds and anger on others.
To reach “good enough”, we still have a way to go
I think Winnipeg will agree.
This thing has a unique path that is as important as anything else.
Chinese subtitles are reviewed by Yang Mingmin, Taiwan
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