Human “needy” is a fertile example of the cartoon character:
They ask you so much, and cry when you go to bring a glass of water,
Feel abandoned when you inspect your mobile screen,
They get upset if you watch a movie without them.
We hate those in need.
But let’s look at it differently.
There are certainly people who depend on others in a highly satisfactory way,
But most of the time, contrary to what is often believed,
The problem is not in the person “in need” at all, but is our problem;
We are the ones who launch the accusations.
We feel that someone is a disgusting “need”
When we do not see ourselves as suitable for someone else’s needs.
Somewhere inside us,
We do not believe that we are trustworthy, strong, depend on us, not admired or respected,
We are not quite mature,
And those who need something of us
We consider them turbulent and cynical.
When the first sign indicates that one of them depends on us, we vow.
We suspect that this person needs us so much that he is dependent on us
For a holiday or an enjoyable evening with us you must be sick.
The basis for our hatred of people in need is our self-sacrifice.
On the face of it, we all need love,
But when love becomes reciprocal,
It can be very distressing if we are not convinced of our seriousness of love.
We begin to think in a bad way about the person we were just admiring.
We feel naïve because they find us wonderful,
Are far more wonderful than we think ourselves.
We think they are easy to deceive, and are impressed with personality
Which we do not believe in ourselves.
The solution is not necessarily to try to change the beloved,
To tell them to stop asking for so much.
They often do not ask for much at all.
All in all, it does not bother them to feel strange
To love or exchange love.
In other words, they are strong enough to reveal to us
They are not immune or wise enough to love our appearance
They think they need to show the need
It is a prerequisite for strength rather than weakness
The solution is to review our view of ourselves
To see ourselves as acceptable people
For someone else until he needs us
Fear of people in need is a form of self-hatred
Who goes abroad to hit our lover.
Reducing self-hatred does not depend on self-promotion
(That is, to tell ourselves that we are wonderful).
We must learn to tolerate ourselves not by believing that we are wonderful
But by recognizing that everyone is at the same time acceptable but a little bit odious.
This is enough for the merit of love.
We can heal from malignant self-doubt
To have a closer look at what it means to be normal
We are certainly a little weak, a little wacky, a little fool, if we are to kindly expression.
But all the people as well.
We are no more foolish or stubborn than the person next to us.
We can accept the hopes of another person to have a close and deep relationship with us
To simply understand that we are all a little bit alien and broken.
The need of the beloved is not imaginary,
It is a real call that every human being has defects
He likes someone else like him.
We will begin to feel that other humans are much less demanding,
This, in turn, greatly reduces our discomfort because of their need for us,
When we can have a good heart
There is nothing strange or hateful
In person he decided he loved us.
They ask you so much, and cry when you go to bring a glass of water,
Feel abandoned when you inspect your mobile screen,
They get upset if you watch a movie without them.
We hate those in need.
But let’s look at it differently.
There are certainly people who depend on others in a highly satisfactory way,
But most of the time, contrary to what is often believed,
The problem is not in the person “in need” at all, but is our problem;
We are the ones who launch the accusations.
We feel that someone is a disgusting “need”
When we do not see ourselves as suitable for someone else’s needs.
Somewhere inside us,
We do not believe that we are trustworthy, strong, depend on us, not admired or respected,
We are not quite mature,
And those who need something of us
We consider them turbulent and cynical.
When the first sign indicates that one of them depends on us, we vow.
We suspect that this person needs us so much that he is dependent on us
For a holiday or an enjoyable evening with us you must be sick.
The basis for our hatred of people in need is our self-sacrifice.
On the face of it, we all need love,
But when love becomes reciprocal,
It can be very distressing if we are not convinced of our seriousness of love.
We begin to think in a bad way about the person we were just admiring.
We feel naïve because they find us wonderful,
Are far more wonderful than we think ourselves.
We think they are easy to deceive, and are impressed with personality
Which we do not believe in ourselves.
The solution is not necessarily to try to change the beloved,
To tell them to stop asking for so much.
They often do not ask for much at all.
All in all, it does not bother them to feel strange
To love or exchange love.
In other words, they are strong enough to reveal to us
They are not immune or wise enough to love our appearance
They think they need to show the need
It is a prerequisite for strength rather than weakness
The solution is to review our view of ourselves
To see ourselves as acceptable people
For someone else until he needs us
Fear of people in need is a form of self-hatred
Who goes abroad to hit our lover.
Reducing self-hatred does not depend on self-promotion
(That is, to tell ourselves that we are wonderful).
We must learn to tolerate ourselves not by believing that we are wonderful
But by recognizing that everyone is at the same time acceptable but a little bit odious.
This is enough for the merit of love.
We can heal from malignant self-doubt
To have a closer look at what it means to be normal
We are certainly a little weak, a little wacky, a little fool, if we are to kindly expression.
But all the people as well.
We are no more foolish or stubborn than the person next to us.
We can accept the hopes of another person to have a close and deep relationship with us
To simply understand that we are all a little bit alien and broken.
The need of the beloved is not imaginary,
It is a real call that every human being has defects
He likes someone else like him.
We will begin to feel that other humans are much less demanding,
This, in turn, greatly reduces our discomfort because of their need for us,
When we can have a good heart
There is nothing strange or hateful
In person he decided he loved us.
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