Translated by: yasser.aboelgheit@gmail.com One of the most important ways to calm oneself is to be careful
No matter how difficult the situation is, we can see the difference between what someone did
And between what he meant to do.
This principle is legally recognized and illustrated in the difference between premeditated homicide
And manslaughter
The result may be one .. a bloodied body, but all of us
We feel very different based on the intention of the culprit
Motives are very important.
But unfortunately we rarely understand the motives well
Behind the events that infuriate us. We easily and often make mistakes
We assume unrealistic motives, exaggerate things and quarrel
In situations that do not require violent or nervous reactions.
Of the reasons we jumped quickly to the bad conclusions and the assumption of conspiracies against us
To insult us and our diet is indeed an impressive psychological phenomenon
Self-hatred
The less we love ourselves the more likely we are to see ourselves
Goals worthy of ridicule and victimization
Why does the excavator start work once we start work?
Why does the excavator start work once we start work?
Why do not you get e-mails, although we have to be in the meeting now?
Why does the phone operator take a lot of time to find our data?
Because there is a conspiracy against us because we are suitable targets
For such things
We thought it was natural for us to be involved in digging
We think we deserve this.
When we carry with us disgust of ourselves wherever we go
Working clandestinely in our subconscious mind we will always look
For the confirmation of the surrounding world that we are not valuable to us as we always think ourselves
In most cases, the reason stems from our childhood
When someone close to us usually feels that we are bad and guilty
As a result, we move among society expecting the worst.
Not necessarily because it makes us feel happy, but because that feeling is familiar to us
Not necessarily because it makes us feel happy, but because that feeling is familiar to us
Because we do not yet know the impact of our past on us
It was possible to be more balanced in dealing with adults
If we could use the same methods to maintain our calm in dealing with children
Young children behave in a neurotic way
Screaming in the face of those taking care of them, throwing a bowl full of food
They throw something I brought for them. But we rarely feel
With personal anger or abuse. The reason for this
Is that we do not see in their actions a bad intention or desire to harm
We then look for the best explanations
Usually we think that maybe they are stressed out or have an inflammation of the gums
Or they are upset because of the birth of a younger child
We have a full repertoire of alternative explanations
In our head and all do not lead to anger or excite our nerves
This is in sharp contrast to what happens when we are dealing with adults … when we imagine
People are deliberately exposed to us
If we had someone in the airport queue we would usually think
He deliberately so, we believe the reason he knows he can be exposed to us without any consequences
We believe he is delighted to make our lives worse
But if we apply the way we think with children
Our first interpretation would be completely different. Maybe we think it
He did not sleep very well today. Or knees hurt or quarrel with his beloved.
It is said that the French philosopher “Emilio Vachei” known as “AA” was
The best teacher in France in the first half of the twentieth century
He invented a way to calm himself and calm his disciples when dealing with annoying people.
His way is: Never say that people are evil
But always look for the screw.
What he meant was to look for the pain that drives people to behave badly.
The calming thinking is to imagine that they are suffering from something they are hiding
The calming thinking is to imagine that they are suffering from something they are hiding
Part of being mature is to be able to imagine what others are experiencing
Despite the lack or absence of evidence. Maybe they do not look narrow
Or suffer from a psychological problem
They may look cheerful or confident, but the nail must be present
Otherwise they would not have done any harm.
When others are angry
We must imagine frustration, pain, anxiety and grief
Behind their violent behavior
We have to feel sorry for those who constantly harass us
We have to feel sorry for those who constantly harass us
We have to do this strange behavior. Move from feeling angry to pathetic
No matter how difficult the situation is, we can see the difference between what someone did
And between what he meant to do.
This principle is legally recognized and illustrated in the difference between premeditated homicide
And manslaughter
The result may be one .. a bloodied body, but all of us
We feel very different based on the intention of the culprit
Motives are very important.
But unfortunately we rarely understand the motives well
Behind the events that infuriate us. We easily and often make mistakes
We assume unrealistic motives, exaggerate things and quarrel
In situations that do not require violent or nervous reactions.
Of the reasons we jumped quickly to the bad conclusions and the assumption of conspiracies against us
To insult us and our diet is indeed an impressive psychological phenomenon
Self-hatred
The less we love ourselves the more likely we are to see ourselves
Goals worthy of ridicule and victimization
Why does the excavator start work once we start work?
Why does the excavator start work once we start work?
Why do not you get e-mails, although we have to be in the meeting now?
Why does the phone operator take a lot of time to find our data?
Because there is a conspiracy against us because we are suitable targets
For such things
We thought it was natural for us to be involved in digging
We think we deserve this.
When we carry with us disgust of ourselves wherever we go
Working clandestinely in our subconscious mind we will always look
For the confirmation of the surrounding world that we are not valuable to us as we always think ourselves
In most cases, the reason stems from our childhood
When someone close to us usually feels that we are bad and guilty
As a result, we move among society expecting the worst.
Not necessarily because it makes us feel happy, but because that feeling is familiar to us
Not necessarily because it makes us feel happy, but because that feeling is familiar to us
Because we do not yet know the impact of our past on us
It was possible to be more balanced in dealing with adults
If we could use the same methods to maintain our calm in dealing with children
Young children behave in a neurotic way
Screaming in the face of those taking care of them, throwing a bowl full of food
They throw something I brought for them. But we rarely feel
With personal anger or abuse. The reason for this
Is that we do not see in their actions a bad intention or desire to harm
We then look for the best explanations
Usually we think that maybe they are stressed out or have an inflammation of the gums
Or they are upset because of the birth of a younger child
We have a full repertoire of alternative explanations
In our head and all do not lead to anger or excite our nerves
This is in sharp contrast to what happens when we are dealing with adults … when we imagine
People are deliberately exposed to us
If we had someone in the airport queue we would usually think
He deliberately so, we believe the reason he knows he can be exposed to us without any consequences
We believe he is delighted to make our lives worse
But if we apply the way we think with children
Our first interpretation would be completely different. Maybe we think it
He did not sleep very well today. Or knees hurt or quarrel with his beloved.
It is said that the French philosopher “Emilio Vachei” known as “AA” was
The best teacher in France in the first half of the twentieth century
He invented a way to calm himself and calm his disciples when dealing with annoying people.
His way is: Never say that people are evil
But always look for the screw.
What he meant was to look for the pain that drives people to behave badly.
The calming thinking is to imagine that they are suffering from something they are hiding
The calming thinking is to imagine that they are suffering from something they are hiding
Part of being mature is to be able to imagine what others are experiencing
Despite the lack or absence of evidence. Maybe they do not look narrow
Or suffer from a psychological problem
They may look cheerful or confident, but the nail must be present
Otherwise they would not have done any harm.
When others are angry
We must imagine frustration, pain, anxiety and grief
Behind their violent behavior
We have to feel sorry for those who constantly harass us
We have to feel sorry for those who constantly harass us
We have to do this strange behavior. Move from feeling angry to pathetic
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