We always hear that selfishness is one of the worst personal traits that anyone can possess.
It combines greed, merit and cruelty.
However, part of the reason why we failed to get the life we deserve, and because of it, we end up with a sense of shame, violence and irritability
It is our suffering from an opposite problem: excessive altruism
Excessive humility, and excessive obedience to the wishes of all but ourselves.
Our problem is that we are not selfish enough.
We all stand confused because we failed to distinguish between good and bad versions of selfishness.
The good and desirable type of selfishness involves courage and self-awareness to give priority
To ourselves at certain points, trust to be frank about our needs
Not to hurt or reject other people’s requests, but to serve them in a deeper, more sustainable and long-term sense.
On the other hand, there are no obvious ends or lofty selfish selfish motives.
We do not refuse to help organize our resources, or to give others a greater gift in the end
We just can not be upset.
Unfortunately, because of our confusion about this distinction, we often fail to be brave enough
To mention our needs as clearly as they should be
This leads to catastrophic consequences specifically for those who are supposed to serve them.
For example, to be a good parent, we may need an hour for ourselves every day.
We may need to take a long time in the hot tub to think carefully about the events.
We may need to do something that seems a little easy, like drawing a nature or attending a lesson to learn the psalm.
But because we may feel that the expectations of these desires may seem contradictory
We may choose to stay calm and do not miss our requirements and continue with this work.
So we turn into tough, angry and violent people with those who depend on us.
The lack of selfishness – slowly – may turn us into moody and ineffective people.
Good selfishness increases the awareness of what we need to increase our benefit to others.
As people of good selfishness, we accept the need to develop our abilities, and put our minds in the right frame
Gather our most useful abilities, organize our thoughts and feelings so that we can ultimately benefit the world.
We are aware that at certain moments we must retreat from doing what people want us to do.
But we never regret when we politely explain to them that we can not be there for them.
Unlike the selfish person who will smile and help sincerely and then explode anger and revenge one day.
We know, as good people, that we may be embarrassed by the sense of non-observance
But our innate conviction of our sincerity provides us with tranquility to achieve our goals politely and in our own way.
And so as not to be accused of the wrong kind of selfishness, you have to become the best ambassador for your intentions.
We have to tell those around us in a convincing and nice way that we are not lazy or cruel (and indeed we are not).
But we have to show them that we will better serve their needs
By not doing the expected things for a while.
Gentle people continue to risk alien and very important turning into a nuisance to other people
Which seems like a good idea: always putting others first, but it is not.
As good selfish people know, putting yourself first is usually the best way
To serve others correctly in the long term.
Translation team translated @autrjim
It combines greed, merit and cruelty.
However, part of the reason why we failed to get the life we deserve, and because of it, we end up with a sense of shame, violence and irritability
It is our suffering from an opposite problem: excessive altruism
Excessive humility, and excessive obedience to the wishes of all but ourselves.
Our problem is that we are not selfish enough.
We all stand confused because we failed to distinguish between good and bad versions of selfishness.
The good and desirable type of selfishness involves courage and self-awareness to give priority
To ourselves at certain points, trust to be frank about our needs
Not to hurt or reject other people’s requests, but to serve them in a deeper, more sustainable and long-term sense.
On the other hand, there are no obvious ends or lofty selfish selfish motives.
We do not refuse to help organize our resources, or to give others a greater gift in the end
We just can not be upset.
Unfortunately, because of our confusion about this distinction, we often fail to be brave enough
To mention our needs as clearly as they should be
This leads to catastrophic consequences specifically for those who are supposed to serve them.
For example, to be a good parent, we may need an hour for ourselves every day.
We may need to take a long time in the hot tub to think carefully about the events.
We may need to do something that seems a little easy, like drawing a nature or attending a lesson to learn the psalm.
But because we may feel that the expectations of these desires may seem contradictory
We may choose to stay calm and do not miss our requirements and continue with this work.
So we turn into tough, angry and violent people with those who depend on us.
The lack of selfishness – slowly – may turn us into moody and ineffective people.
Good selfishness increases the awareness of what we need to increase our benefit to others.
As people of good selfishness, we accept the need to develop our abilities, and put our minds in the right frame
Gather our most useful abilities, organize our thoughts and feelings so that we can ultimately benefit the world.
We are aware that at certain moments we must retreat from doing what people want us to do.
But we never regret when we politely explain to them that we can not be there for them.
Unlike the selfish person who will smile and help sincerely and then explode anger and revenge one day.
We know, as good people, that we may be embarrassed by the sense of non-observance
But our innate conviction of our sincerity provides us with tranquility to achieve our goals politely and in our own way.
And so as not to be accused of the wrong kind of selfishness, you have to become the best ambassador for your intentions.
We have to tell those around us in a convincing and nice way that we are not lazy or cruel (and indeed we are not).
But we have to show them that we will better serve their needs
By not doing the expected things for a while.
Gentle people continue to risk alien and very important turning into a nuisance to other people
Which seems like a good idea: always putting others first, but it is not.
As good selfish people know, putting yourself first is usually the best way
To serve others correctly in the long term.
Translation team translated @autrjim
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