Since around 1750
We live in a very special age in the history of love
Which we can call “romance”
Romance emerged as an ideology
In Europe in the middle of the 18th century
In the minds of poets, artists and philosophers.
And invaded the world now.
There is not one relationship at all that has followed the romantic mold literally.
But the outlines are often present, however.
They can be summarized as follows:
Romance has a deep optimism about marriage.
Romance takes marriage
For a perspective that seems to be an actual union and an emotionally moderate one
And melts them together with an emotional love story
To produce a unique goal about a passionate love marriage that lasts a lifetime.
Along the way romance unite love and sex.
In the past, people thought they could have sex with characters who did not like them,
And they can love someone without having a great sex practice with them.
Sex romance rose to the highest expression of love.
Permanently, a mutually satisfactory sex becomes a health creed for any relationship.
Without necessarily having to say that romance has made the sex anarchist and debilitating leading to disasters.
Romance suggested that true love should mean that isolation is over.
The right partner, promises us, with full understanding of ourselves
Maybe without even having to talk to us.
They guarantee our lives.
Romances put a special privilege on the idea that our partner may understand us without having to say anything.
Romance believes that choosing a partner should be by allowing the feelings to guide us
Rather than practical considerations.
You know that you are in love because you have a distinct feeling.
Romance has a strong showing of contempt for practical and financial matters.
It’s a cool feeling, or as we say, non-romantic
Say that you know that you are with the right person because both of you are financially fit.
Or because you cherish things like bathroom etiquette and punctuality.
Romance believes that true love is synonymous with accepting everything about someone.
The idea that someone’s partner or himself may need to change
This is taken as a sign that the relationship is on the outskirts of the crash.
That you are heading towards change “This is the latest threat”
This mold of love is a historical form
It is very beautiful and delightful in many ways.
But we can boldly say: romance was a disastrous situation for relations.
It is an intellectual and spiritual movement
Had a devastating effect on the ability of ordinary people
To live a successful emotional life.
Saving love lies in overcoming a series of mistakes within romance.
These are some of the romantic legends.
We should meet someone exceptional inner and outer beauty
And we immediately feel a special appeal to them, they are also for us.
We must practice a very satisfactory sex, not only at first, but forever.
We should never be attracted to someone else
We should understand each other intuitively.
We do not need to study love.
We may need training to become pilots or brain surgeons, but not to be “loved ones.”
We will follow the length of our feelings.
We must not have secrets and spend a fixed time together.
Work is not an obstacle in our way
We must establish a family without any loss of sexual or emotional intensity.
Our soul mate must be our soulmate, best friend, father, driver, accountant, housekeeper and spiritual guide.
If we are to wonder about the romantic view hypotheses of love.
It is not in order to destroy love, but to save it.
We need to compile a “post-romantic” theory for couples
Because in order to make a partnership relationship
We have to be loyal to the romantic emotions that brought us to it in the first place.
We need to replace the romantic mold with a psychologically mature vision of love can call it “classic”
Which encourages unusual change, but we hope to have an effective behavior.
For example:
It is natural that love and sex may not always belong together.
To discuss money, early, in the foreground, in a serious way, is not a betrayal of love.
To check that we are somewhat flawed, our partner is also well, is a great win for the couple.
It increases the amount of tolerance and generosity in our life cycle.
We would not find everything in one person, as everything is not Vienna.
Not because of some unique imbalance, but because this is human nature.
We need to make an effort and often instead of artificial efforts to understand each other.
Intuition can not bring us to what we need to reach.
And spending two hours discussing whether the bath towels should be hung or could be left on the floor
It is not a trivial matter or a serious one.
There is a special status about laundry issues and keeping time.
All these attitudes and more belong to, a new future, more hopeful, to the future of “post-romantic love.”
We live in a very special age in the history of love
Which we can call “romance”
Romance emerged as an ideology
In Europe in the middle of the 18th century
In the minds of poets, artists and philosophers.
And invaded the world now.
There is not one relationship at all that has followed the romantic mold literally.
But the outlines are often present, however.
They can be summarized as follows:
Romance has a deep optimism about marriage.
Romance takes marriage
For a perspective that seems to be an actual union and an emotionally moderate one
And melts them together with an emotional love story
To produce a unique goal about a passionate love marriage that lasts a lifetime.
Along the way romance unite love and sex.
In the past, people thought they could have sex with characters who did not like them,
And they can love someone without having a great sex practice with them.
Sex romance rose to the highest expression of love.
Permanently, a mutually satisfactory sex becomes a health creed for any relationship.
Without necessarily having to say that romance has made the sex anarchist and debilitating leading to disasters.
Romance suggested that true love should mean that isolation is over.
The right partner, promises us, with full understanding of ourselves
Maybe without even having to talk to us.
They guarantee our lives.
Romances put a special privilege on the idea that our partner may understand us without having to say anything.
Romance believes that choosing a partner should be by allowing the feelings to guide us
Rather than practical considerations.
You know that you are in love because you have a distinct feeling.
Romance has a strong showing of contempt for practical and financial matters.
It’s a cool feeling, or as we say, non-romantic
Say that you know that you are with the right person because both of you are financially fit.
Or because you cherish things like bathroom etiquette and punctuality.
Romance believes that true love is synonymous with accepting everything about someone.
The idea that someone’s partner or himself may need to change
This is taken as a sign that the relationship is on the outskirts of the crash.
That you are heading towards change “This is the latest threat”
This mold of love is a historical form
It is very beautiful and delightful in many ways.
But we can boldly say: romance was a disastrous situation for relations.
It is an intellectual and spiritual movement
Had a devastating effect on the ability of ordinary people
To live a successful emotional life.
Saving love lies in overcoming a series of mistakes within romance.
These are some of the romantic legends.
We should meet someone exceptional inner and outer beauty
And we immediately feel a special appeal to them, they are also for us.
We must practice a very satisfactory sex, not only at first, but forever.
We should never be attracted to someone else
We should understand each other intuitively.
We do not need to study love.
We may need training to become pilots or brain surgeons, but not to be “loved ones.”
We will follow the length of our feelings.
We must not have secrets and spend a fixed time together.
Work is not an obstacle in our way
We must establish a family without any loss of sexual or emotional intensity.
Our soul mate must be our soulmate, best friend, father, driver, accountant, housekeeper and spiritual guide.
If we are to wonder about the romantic view hypotheses of love.
It is not in order to destroy love, but to save it.
We need to compile a “post-romantic” theory for couples
Because in order to make a partnership relationship
We have to be loyal to the romantic emotions that brought us to it in the first place.
We need to replace the romantic mold with a psychologically mature vision of love can call it “classic”
Which encourages unusual change, but we hope to have an effective behavior.
For example:
It is natural that love and sex may not always belong together.
To discuss money, early, in the foreground, in a serious way, is not a betrayal of love.
To check that we are somewhat flawed, our partner is also well, is a great win for the couple.
It increases the amount of tolerance and generosity in our life cycle.
We would not find everything in one person, as everything is not Vienna.
Not because of some unique imbalance, but because this is human nature.
We need to make an effort and often instead of artificial efforts to understand each other.
Intuition can not bring us to what we need to reach.
And spending two hours discussing whether the bath towels should be hung or could be left on the floor
It is not a trivial matter or a serious one.
There is a special status about laundry issues and keeping time.
All these attitudes and more belong to, a new future, more hopeful, to the future of “post-romantic love.”
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