It may sometimes seem terribly clear that we are not interested in anybody.
They barely feel our presence, they can hardly hear what we have to say
They do not catch any of our data – and feel extremely focused on the relevant projects and daily concerns
Based on these facts, it is easy for us to come to such an end
and sad about our situation: that we are deeply lonely
beyond any connection or empathy. But the truth can be at one time
more telling and somewhat more hopeful. Most of us, we are extremely willing to help when
we need an urgent need, but we are also constantly distracted, intensely busy with our lives
and unable to notice whether there is anything wrong with the people around, unless
the problem has been spelled syllable in the clearest way. Then and only then
we can act and offer all our intelligence and readiness to support someone else’s pain
In other words we respond well to shouts, but not to data.
The problem is posed especially in the face of tragic cases when someone we know takes his life.
We are sure that if we knew how desperate they were, we would have
doing everything to come to your aid. At the same time we know we have not investigated enough,
we have not closely observed the data, and we have certainly given the impression of being always
busy. Ignorantly, we feel completely miserable and heartless. It would be awake
to embed these facts on human nature with no grudge or surprise when we are
more fragile and desperate. The apparent indifference of others is in fact apparent. We need it
learn to scream. Unfortunately, we are not confident enough to do so exactly
at the right moment, as the primitive fear of shame keeps us from being near
to those in need, as if it were in the nature of every person, breaking up in life only thanks to their sharpness
Part of the tragedy of being desperate is how illogical the agony we feel.
Though we should never allow ourselves to forget that whatever the indifference of others is,
we are surrounded by people who, when they see a critical condition,
jump to frozen rivers to escape completely unknown. If we clearly know someone
(even a casual acquaintance) has a great need for us, we will abandon everything and run
to help. But at the same time, we are hopeless in reading the minds or capturing data.
The next round that we are in trouble, we need to remember not to hate ourselves when we seek help and
to call, in the hope that, when they arrive, most of the people around
will respond to our pain. We have to remember to scream a bit more – and
hate our own less.
We’ve just launched an app that can help you track people
with whom you can have strong and meaningful connections. Follow the link on your screen to download.
They barely feel our presence, they can hardly hear what we have to say
They do not catch any of our data – and feel extremely focused on the relevant projects and daily concerns
Based on these facts, it is easy for us to come to such an end
and sad about our situation: that we are deeply lonely
beyond any connection or empathy. But the truth can be at one time
more telling and somewhat more hopeful. Most of us, we are extremely willing to help when
we need an urgent need, but we are also constantly distracted, intensely busy with our lives
and unable to notice whether there is anything wrong with the people around, unless
the problem has been spelled syllable in the clearest way. Then and only then
we can act and offer all our intelligence and readiness to support someone else’s pain
In other words we respond well to shouts, but not to data.
The problem is posed especially in the face of tragic cases when someone we know takes his life.
We are sure that if we knew how desperate they were, we would have
doing everything to come to your aid. At the same time we know we have not investigated enough,
we have not closely observed the data, and we have certainly given the impression of being always
busy. Ignorantly, we feel completely miserable and heartless. It would be awake
to embed these facts on human nature with no grudge or surprise when we are
more fragile and desperate. The apparent indifference of others is in fact apparent. We need it
learn to scream. Unfortunately, we are not confident enough to do so exactly
at the right moment, as the primitive fear of shame keeps us from being near
to those in need, as if it were in the nature of every person, breaking up in life only thanks to their sharpness
Part of the tragedy of being desperate is how illogical the agony we feel.
Though we should never allow ourselves to forget that whatever the indifference of others is,
we are surrounded by people who, when they see a critical condition,
jump to frozen rivers to escape completely unknown. If we clearly know someone
(even a casual acquaintance) has a great need for us, we will abandon everything and run
to help. But at the same time, we are hopeless in reading the minds or capturing data.
The next round that we are in trouble, we need to remember not to hate ourselves when we seek help and
to call, in the hope that, when they arrive, most of the people around
will respond to our pain. We have to remember to scream a bit more – and
hate our own less.
We’ve just launched an app that can help you track people
with whom you can have strong and meaningful connections. Follow the link on your screen to download.
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