I told you this was the last Monday
morning of your life what if I told you
you died this week would you complain
about your crap job or that test you
don’t want to take I doubt it you’d go
much higher level thinking well that’s
really what it takes it takes
understanding that if you’re not pumped
right now if you’re begrudging what
you’re about to do if you’re if you’re
not looking forward to it look I respect
practicality you got to go through
school because your parents want to you
got to pay your rent you got student
loans I get it but please recognize the
world we’re living in we’re living in a
world where there’s so much more
opportunity this internet thing created
way more opportunity for all of us way
more I mean look you only not even be
alive like your mom and dad could have
had sex like three minutes later and you
wouldn’t even exist and you’re
complaining you could have ended up
being a bus a tree I just don’t get the
mentality of being head down sad on a
Monday morning I’m gonna make Monday
morning my I’m gonna make you Saturday
Monday morning that’s what I want to do
every morning and that’s what I want
from you please take a step back and
think about how awesome it actually is
and then recognize that you can attack
the world in a totally different way
because you were lucky enough to be born
during this era lot of you feel stuck
because you’re waiting for some kind of
external force to either push you and
pressure you to change and to be great
and to be amazing or you’re waiting for
somebody to give you permission you’re
either sitting back because you need
some sort of external motivation from
somebody it’s gonna push you or praise
you or pressure you in order to change
or some life circumstance like maybe in
your past you’ve experienced trauma or
you face something really scary and that
was the thing that made you change and
then the second thing that people wait
around for is permission
look those may or may not come in your
life if you are somebody that is sitting
around waiting for some external force
to come and do the work for you that is
such a losing bet it’s unbelievable
maybe you’ll get lucky maybe somebody
will come but more than likely know
when it’s coming the only kind of force
that will truly create change in your
life is you the internal kind of force I
hate to say it but for those of you that
feel really really stuck and you keep
thinking that somebody’s got to pick me
or somebody’s gonna discover me or
somebody’s got to give me permission to
write this book it’s it’s ridiculous
this is external versus internal force
and what you have to figure out if
you’re stuck is are you the kind of
person that is guilty of needing wanting
and waiting for external forces people
an event some outside force to kick you
in the ass so that you’ll finally do the
stuff that you’ve been dreaming about
doing I want to tell you something no
one’s coming no one the people in life
that get what they want are the ones
that aren’t waiting for an external
force to validate their dreams to
inspire them to give them permission
it’s the people that realize that
success but happiness that control it
comes from the internal force and what
is the internal force it’s you it’s you
it’s you being able to realize that no
one’s going to do the work for you it’s
you realizing that you’re never gonna
feel ready
in fact even as you start working toward
the things that you really want to do
you’re definitely not going to feel
ready and you’re going to feel outside
your comfort zone and that’s normal when
you start to feel like you’re stretching
yourself and you’re sticking your
scrawny neck out there and you’re taking
some risks that’s amazing because you’re
the oldest thing is the games were trade
straight away I was no different
soon as I finished skill absorbs getting
pestered what are you doing with your
life you know they still not and they
didn’t know what it was they didn’t know
MMA was didn’t know what this didn’t
know it could make a career as far as
they were concerned me mind I’m talking
about as far as they were concerned I’m
just getting into a cage of fighting
with some other guy they didn’t know
nothing about it
no one did really but I knew and I mean
I knew well that and then I got it I end
up getting a trade just to keep them
quiet Azusa had a lot of fights with me
dial-up like trade did you get I end up
getting a trade as a plumber and
literally open the back eyes on our open
we closed the week-long mountain and
feeling like that but say it was one of
the biggest sites in Europe kill Tiernan
was right at that ski in place huge and
now it’s just abandoned now it’s just
deserted so I used to go up there six
o’clock folks folk rock Romano’s on that
m50 I just have to walk to the end for
about half an hour from your house wait
for some memory card I didn’t even know
he drove on the m4 and I had to flag him
down nightmare you have two hours down
on the m-52 hours by usually 14-hour
days and I was there I was the first
year I was the I had to go and do
everything like to go to the shop I’d to
go and get this and get that so I always
had trouble down I was like this isn’t
for me this is not for me how long did
you last I lasted 18 18 months stealing
well it was tough you know just it
wasn’t wasn’t the life for me and I’m
and then and then John said because I
was training with jhana as well at the
time and then John got on Twitter says
there I have a show on the show Woodlake
the fight honey and then that was he I
just packed it in didn’t show up weed I
used to come in and punch the head on me
and like try and drag me out of bed and
I just wouldn’t go and I hadn’t opal or
for a good few years when I’m all verbal
and and that was it I just packed it in
quit and then focused on training and
that’s I knew I knew I knew what was
gonna happen I knew I was gonna get here
they didn’t there’s a lot of stressful
years I want to recommend that you take
just one hour a day five days a week and
devote this hour to exercising your mind
pick one hour a day on which you can
fairly regularly count and during this
hour every day take a completely blank
sheet of paper at the top of
Paige write your present primary goal
clearly simply then since our future
depends upon the way in which we had
love work write down as many ideas as
you can for improving that which you now
do try to think of 20 possible ways in
which the activity that fills your day
can be improved you won’t always get 20
but even one ideas good now remember two
important points with regard to this one
this is not particularly easy and to
most of your ideas won’t be any good now
when I say it’s not easy I mean it’s
like starting any new habit at first
you’ll find your mind a little reluctant
to be hauled up and out of the old
familiar red but as you think about your
work and ways in which it might be
improved write down every idea that pops
into your mind no matter how absurd it
might seem let me tell you what will
happen some of your ideas will be good
and worth testing the most important
thing this X tower accomplishes however
is that it deeply embeds your goal in
your subconscious mind starts the whole
vital machinery working and 20 ideas a
day if you come up with that many total
a hundred a week even if you don’t think
on weekends an hour a day five days a
week tolls 260 hours a year and still
leaves you three thousand seven hundred
and forty hours of free leisure time and
this means you’ll be thinking about your
goal and ways of improving our
performance increasing your service six
and I have four extra working weeks a
year six and a half 40-hour weeks
devoted to thinking and planning can you
see how easy it is to rise above the
so-called competition and will still
leave you with fifteen hours a day this
appendage of please starting each day
thinking you’ll find that your mind will
continue to work all day long you’ll
find that at odd moments when you least
expect it really great ideas will begin
to pop into your mind and when they do
write them down as soon as you can just
one great idea can completely
revolutionize your work and as a result
you’re alive you’re chasing your dream
and when you’re when you’re walking hard
and completely dedicated it just it just
happens you don’t you don’t you can’t
really note notice it you know even
still to this day I’m gonna an amazing
position in my life but I’m still I’m
still working like I’m not I’m still
working like I’m not in this position
absolutely I’m still working like none
of this is even yeah I mean yeah yeah
it’s just it’s just something I love to
do and I just keep pushing I keep
working hard I can’t pinpoint an exact
moment for you but yep if anything I
always felt like it was happening way
back then and now it is happening but
now I almost feel like it’s not
happening anymore and more intrigued by
mindset because I used to think of it as
fluffy like self-help and now I think it
more as strategy what’s your strategy in
life somebody asked me on Instagram
after I posted a scary if the mindset
has been skewed how can you bring it
back and I answered with by surrounding
yourself with people who have the
mindset you aspire to my friends please
understand that mindset is controllable
in the same way that all our opinions
are controllable the key is to add more
people with optimism and cut people with
negativity it’s very very simple now
it’s very hard to cut people with
pessimism cynicism and negativity when
they are the people that are the closest
to you parents siblings spouse but the
bottom line is if you’re asking the
question I’m gonna give you the answer
the answer is add more people with
positivity and optimism and cut people
with pessimism and cynicism who you
surround yourself matters what content
you consume matters I basically
suffocate myself for a long period of my
time and created an environment that was
based on offense and optimism and now I
know no different please do the same for
you make that move mold and I mean mold
your mindset by what you consume and
with whom you consume it
you gotta have a plan everybody’s got a
dream
everybody’s got a goal what’s the plan
and your plan has got to have something
I call the c5 complex your plan has got
to be clear concise compelling
consistent and committed you’ve got to
have a plan and when you’re trying to do
something that you are truly passionate
about there is no plan B okay Plan B
okay so it’s as simple as that you gotta
have a plan I mean think about that for
a second mm-hmm three examples Michael
Jordan won six NBA championships with
the Chicago Bulls because he was
committed to playing a not plan B Oprah
Winfrey became the queen of all media
because she was committed to plan a not
Plan B whatever your politics are Barack
Obama is sitting in the White House
because he was committed to plan a not
there’s parents coming in with their
kids from like the height bringing them
into the gym Amanda but I saw it
encouraging that’s never like that
that’s gonna go to a next level when you
have the parents encouraging the dream
and regardless of people again people
can say it’s barbaric and martial arts
is barbaric or this game is too it’s too
much be anonymous two men beating each
other or whatever the martial arts life
will give you a discipline will give you
dedication will give you a drive that
you won’t get nowhere else so whatever
these kids that come in touch with our
parents whatever they decide to do where
they decide to conquer the martial arts
world the fighting game or whether they
want to go and conquer the business
world whatever they decide to do
training for combat sport training
martial arts will give them that
confidence to go and excel and anything
so people can can criticize a better all
they want but the results speak for
themselves and seeing these the kids
come in this size it’s it’s good times
notice I said simple I didn’t say easy
and the reason why it’s not easy is
because you have to deal with you and
now we know that you’re a control freak
and you’re stubborn and you got all
these excuses you’re a real pain and I’m
gonna teach you though the very very
simple way to get what you want there’s
only one rule when it comes to
productivity there’s only one rule when
it comes to success
there’s only run rule to getting
everything you’ve ever wanted and here
it is you’re never gonna feel like it
ever in any area of your life that you
don’t have what you want whether it’s
the amount of money the amount of people
on your team the amount of sales the
amount of trips for your family the reef
you only did the things that you don’t
feel like doing you’d have everything
you’ve ever wanted those areas where
you’re happy you do the work those areas
where you’re complaining you don’t feel
like it
you don’t do it
so it’s a lot like kids if you think
about it what’s your job as a parent
it’s to make kids do the things they
don’t feel like doing so they can grow
up and move out and become independent
adults my son never feels like getting
off the DS he never feels like putting
his feet down when he’s caught in the
car my daughter never feels like
cleaning up the Barbies I have no idea
always naked and the funny thing is when
you grew up and moved out your parents
never said to you guess what you are a
total pain in the rear end
you never feel like doing anything you
don’t feel like doing your homework you
don’t feel like going out you don’t feel
like making your bed you don’t feel like
saying hello to strangers you don’t feel
like using your manners you don’t feel
like cleaning your room good luck to you
so the only way to get what you want is
to pair it yourself but I’m gonna make
it easy for you we’re about to move
you’ve learned a ton about the brain now
the brain is gonna screw you over the
brain is gonna go into autopilot the
brain is going to tell you it doesn’t
feel like doing things that’s trickery
you now know that so how do you be
effective with yourself knowing that
you’re never gonna feel like doing all
the work that it takes to have this
business be everything that it possibly
could so you’re gonna use the
five-second rule and what that means is
this
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from the moment that you have the idea I
should email out the Fall collection I
should go through the contact list for
my college or university and reach out
to people I should go through my contact
lists and invite 23 people this week to
just take the dogs for a walk I should
make a request of a friend and ask if I
can come to a presentation at lunch at
his law firm from the second you have
that idea you’ve only got five seconds
to take action otherwise it’s gone your
brain will swoop in so fast me uh oh
there’s an idea oh no way no wait you
don’t feel like it you’re overwhelmed
you you’ve got five seconds and that’s
it today I want you to practice this
because what you’re gonna notice is
you’re gonna notice a little bit later
like in the networking section and you
know afterwards and in some of these
events after this particular speech
you’re gonna notice that you have an
impulse you have an impulse to walk
towards somebody that’s really
successful that’s built a team that
could possibly help you and guess what
you’re not gonna do it you’ve probably
had them the entire time that you’ve
been here oh I should go over and talk
to this person hey I’ll catch them later
oh that person looks really interesting
I I don’t know I should really take some
photos of this fall line and start to
eat that might be too pushy so what do
you do how does it work you have the
thought you’ve got five seconds that’s
it and what do you need to do just say
something out loud that’s one way you
could start walking the second you feel
like you should meet somebody because
you’re drawn to them again it’s from
here it’s not from here
start walking because if you’re already
walking the likelihood is you’ll
actually make it to them and then you’re
gonna say something write it down
schedule it send an email to yourself or
make the request one of the things that
was so interesting about talking to Tara
this morning is it was clear that a
couple people had been in there sharing
their brains out about Jay Hilbert and
yet it never progressed into the side of
the conversation of would you like
information would you like to do it
and I’m sure whoever it was it was lying
on the table probably had that thought
like you know I should probably say
something should I getting a facial is
that weird to be talking about business
at the same time
five seconds gone talked yourself out of
let’s to have one big goal I give a goal
setting exercise all over the world that
is life-changing I go back a year later
or two years later or three years later
and I have thousands of people come up
to me almost like us a guru or a sage
and they say you changed my life you
made me rich and I said it was the goals
wasn’t it and they said it yes it was
the goal is how did you know and what I
teaches this is take a piece of paper
make a list of ten goals that you’d like
to achieve in the next 12 months
these are one-year goals now sometimes
I’ll have a one day a one week one month
three months six months but they’re all
goals that you want to accomplish within
12 months then you look over this list
and you say if I could wave a magic wand
and achieve any one goal on this list
within 24 hours which one goal would
have the greatest positive impact on my
life and then you look at your list of
ten and the answer will jump out at you
and that becomes your major definite
purpose this becomes your major goal
then you transfer this to a clean sheet
of paper and you write a deadline when
you want to achieve this goal you make a
list of everything that you could think
of that you could do to achieve this
goal you then organize this list like a
checklist in order of sequence what do
you do first what do you do second what
do you do third and then you take action
on your goal and then you do something
on that goal every day seven days a week
it’s a very simple system decide the
most important goal write it down
make a plan work on it every day and
then all of your other goals will start
to move forward you’ll start to make
progress on the big goal but all the
other goals will start to move forward
almost without you even paying attention
to them so that’s really the key to
success is single focus Warren Buffett
and Bill Gates were at a dinner party
with Bill Gates father and a large
number of other people at Bill Gates
home in Seattle last year and they were
chatting with each other they’re very
good friends and somebody came up to
them and said excuse me gentleman I
don’t mean to interrupt you but you’re
three of the most important was
successful people in the world Bill
Gates and Warren
offered her number one number two
wealthiest man in the world what would
you say is the most important ingredient
for success and they all stopped broke
off their conversation and all turned
simultaneously and looked at the man and
said focus focus is the most important
quality for success if you can focus you
can do anything if you can’t focus you
must always work for someone else who
will make you focus now wonderfully
enough focusing is like learning how to
ride a bicycle or type with a keyboard
it’s a learn about skill you can learn
to focus by practicing focus until it
becomes automatic one of my favorite
quotes is from good too the German
philosopher and he said everything is
hard before it’s easy so the formation
of any new habit is hard before it’s
easy you have to keep working at it it’s
just like a bicycle you keep falling
down you have to keep getting back up
again until finally it becomes easier
and easier and soon it becomes automatic
and when you automatically get up each
day plan your day and work on your most
important goal your whole life will
find what you’re looking for I’ve been
giving a lot of thought to kind of just
watching what I’m seeing out there in
the social digital ecosystem and very
honestly just real life and I’m watching
so many people over the last two to
three years look for negativity look for
something that’s wrong
find where people disagree with them
fight look for what was me downside the
half glass empty and and then I go to a
Twitter search or look around the world
and I find ridiculously beautiful things
every day every day thousands of kind
acts randomly by people all people that
I have conversations with who see the
opportunities whether it’s in business
like voice and AR or whatever it may be
just this amazingly interesting thing
that I feel the majority of you are
looking for the wrong while there’s a
plenty of wrong and plenty of right in
the world it comes down to one very
simple thing what are you choosing to
look for because I promise you if you
right now and I’m making this video for
one reason twenty-four hours of trying
to find the good somebody saves a kid
somebody opens the door somebody does a
nice thing for you bit somebody says
thank you 24 hours of looking for
positivity could change your life
honestly making this for one person one
one person watches this video chooses to
do 24 hours of looking for good instead
of looking for bad and their game
changes d-roc heard somebody at a
convenience store saying mom you’re
always so negative you’re always so
negative I am blown away by the fact
that life gets real simple if you break
down into this are you looking for the
negative this sucks this government
sucks this person sucks this is what are
you looking for the positive she’s nice
that’s remarkable I’ve got this
opportunity you choose what you’re
looking for because what you look for
you find that’s how life works but 20
years ago in the movies rules are very
clearly defined they provided the
security of your stardom in a sense if
you’d been successfully playing an angry
young man you’d pretty much be angry and
young for the rest of your life
if you’ve been a police inspector in
three movies odds were you’d be in the
next 33 – they supplied two female
actresses also wives or wives
seductresses were seductresses
mother-in-law’s were mother-in-law’s and
so on and so forth
few actors would have willingly switched
from romantic heroes to obsessively
violent lovers I took the leap not
because I was particularly brave but
because a very dear director friend of
mine sat me down and told me I was
extremely ugly and being ugly
necessarily meant I know now I know and
being ugly necessarily meant I do bad
guy roles I wasn’t the romantic hero
types he said actually he used the words
that my face was not chocolaty enough so
I started to eat a lot of chocolate and
while waiting for it to take effect I
jumped into bad guy roles there means
fair in Hindi and everyone always tells
you at speeches like this that you ought
to be brave so I’m not going to bore you
with that idea instead let me tell you
this being brave means being scared all
the way to the party
yeah I’m sorry if that word is being
very scared all the way to the body but
getting there but getting there all the
same and doing the funky chicken in
front of all your teenage kids friends
anyway let me just add or not behalf of
all the fathers of the world who have
embarrassed the kids by doing this it
takes a lot of bravery resolve and grit
to do it so just do it don’t let your
fears become boxes that enclose you open
them out feel them and turn them into
the greatest courage you are capable of
I promise you nothing will go wrong but
if you live by your fears everything
that can pass possibly go wrong will go
wrong and you won’t even have done the
funky turtle I’m inspired YouTube we’re
gonna make this the episode thing you’ll
get whatever you want Tyler but this is
the Corbin
you just saw it on stage trust you just
saw it on stage dying on your sword is
better than dying on someone else’s so
many of you are doing things making
decisions and navigating your lives
based on somebody else’s thesis you’re
doing it because you think it’s the
right thing because your dad’s telling
you it’s the right thing you’re doing
what you’re doing right now because
you’re pandering to your boss even
though you don’t believe in it get
something you never had you have to do
something you never did les Brown’s a
motivational speaker you made an analogy
about this he says imagine you’re on
your deathbed and standing around your
deathbed are the ghosts representing
your unfulfilled potential the ghosts of
the ideas you never acted on the ghosts
of the talents you didn’t use and
they’re standing around your bed angry
disappointed and upset they say we came
to you because you could have brought us
to life they say and now we have to go
to the grave together so I ask you today
how many ghosts are gonna be around your
bed when your time comes you need to bet
on your strengths and don’t give a fuck
about what you suck at you’re gonna way
too many people in this room are gonna
spend the next 30 40 years of their
lives trying to check the boxes other
things that they’re not as good at and
that you’re gonna waste a load of time
and lose I highly recommend auditing
yourself or if you have no empathy or EQ
or self-awareness then find somebody in
your family or friendship that does and
let them tell you who you are and once
you believe that either for yourself or
someone else told you go directly all
chips all into that because that is the
only possible way in my opinion watching
from the outside that is limited phrase
that is a very highly likely way of
over-indexing because the truth is if
you want to be an anomaly you’ve got to
act like one you know like and so that’s
it that’s what I got so thanks for
having me
this test called the dark triad test
which again anything important like this
nobody ever learned it in school because
schools are too stupid to take real
powerful science and apply it to life
but the dark triad is a worldview
barometer for everybody watching you can
take it there’s a different free dark
triad tests online it tests for three
main traits negative qualities
narcissism Machiavellianism and being
psychotic and I’ve personally tested
thousands and thousands of people it’s
the most accurate test and what happens
narcissism okay one of the symptoms of a
narcissist it’s not just like oh I like
to look in the mirror right that’s what
we think of narsil one of the classic
symptoms is very thin-skinned they’re
always offended if you have a friend
that anything you say constructively
they fall apart it’s almost always
narcissism even if they’re introverted
there’s multiple forms there’s
introverted narcissism extroverted
exploitative all these different sub
facets of narcissism but we live in a
society that’s very narcissistic you’re
told like everybody who’s a winner
no not everybody’s a winner that’s like
saying everybody’s blonde there’s a
definition of what blonde is blonde is
like this yellowish air so you lose
meaning when you start going and
everybody’s blonde
well everybody doesn’t win and the
sooner you wake up to that that biology
is ruthless man then you get a little
fear in you and when you get a little
fear in you you start listening because
if you’re truly afraid you listen let a
little fear come in and drive you and
motivate you other theme in
entrepreneurship is there is way too
much fodder brought to the idea Hoover
was magic cab three years earlier
uber is not an idea uber existed it’s
called magic cab but the guys that
execute it sucked so they lost so I
think you know if there’s any level of
romance left in this room about your
idea I’d like to suffocate it because I
think the actual situation is what you
you have to go out and find people who
are successful financially and reverse
engineer what they did reverse engineer
re I keep that little acronym in my head
it’s one of the most powerful acronyms
that you can remember re reverse
engineer so for example when I was
starting out I was like what would it
take to become a millionaire and I’ll go
alright
win the lottery a lot of people play the
lottery and then some people one or two
become millionaires but if you reverse
engineer I asked myself this one day I
started study what makes the most
millionaires what’s made the most
millionaires and the United States
self-made not people who inherited their
money and the answer is tada real estate
now you don’t even have to be trying to
make a million dollars or reclaim a
millionaire but just think about that
reverse engineer that and put it into
your life it’s not just about a career
but it’s about also passive income
because your careers active income you
work on your career you go to your job
even if you’re an entrepreneur right
but what about when you’re asleep here’s
a crazy statistic if you just listen to
this for a sec if you make what’s
minimum wage let’s say let’s just say 15
bucks an hour that’s thirty thousand
dollars a year right
but what happens if you make $15 an hour
24/7 okay now that’s 90 thousand dollars
a year triple it but you can’t work 24
hours a day so that means you have to
have this thing called passive income
and passive income means a lot myself in
my own living room here
oh god this way I was filming over here
so what I started doing is going I gotta
have my active income job career
entrepreneurship but I want to reverse
engineer the passive income that the
most millionaires have ever the most
what has created the most millionaires
number one thing that scares me in life
is regret I really really really don’t
want to be on my deathbed whether that’s
tomorrow or when I’m 97 and think I
should have done that I should like
that’s that spooks me right like hard
work people judging me leaving you know
trolling me on social media like all the
stuff that normal people worry about I
don’t worry about I worry about regret
and so I’m trying to squeeze that
everything out of my life and so yeah I
for three number three studied two
multimillionaires do not take heed to
this do not study a millionaire once a
person becomes a millionaire the first
thing they do unfortunately is going to
conservation to protect the million
study multi millionaire study people
that have consistently developed and
proven because the tens or 20s or 30s
are hundreds of millions of dollars that
they’ve accumulated that they have the
right practice the right discipline and
they’re still expanding you don’t need
22 mentors study two people deep that
have gotten it right study two people
are so deeper than 20 people shallow I
promise you will make a difference if
you get a chance to spend three days
with anybody that’s accumulated 30 40 50
a hundred million dollars I’ll promise
you it’s a game-changer so put that on
your bucket list I’m gonna spend three
days with a multi-millionaire in an
environment where I can learn from them
it will be a game-changer for you and
also limit your study there to people
not twenty two people that will create
you from having conflictive data and
there is definitely an epidemic of
overprotective parenting but it’s useful
to ask why and my suspicions are is that
this is driven by very fundamental
biological and cultural phenomena that
aren’t generally considered in
relationship to this issue we don’t have
very many children we don’t have 12 you
know six of whom die we have one or two
and that makes them very precious right
we’re unwilling to take risks with them
and no wonder and then we also have them
much later in life and so like if you
have a kid when you’re 18 you’re still a
kid you know you’re gonna go out and
have your life right because you’re so
well you’re in the in the height of your
exploratory you’re in the height of the
exploratory part of your life you’re not
gonna over protect your kids because
you’re still a kid but if you’re 40 and
you have one child it’s like all your
eggs are in one basket and the
probability that you’re going to take
undue risks with that precious person is
very very low now obviously there’s some
advantages to that because great you
would devote resources to your child you
know and foster their development but
the downside is that you have every
motivation to hover and maybe you’re
also extraordinarily desperate as a
mother to maintain that bond with your
child because you’ve struggled so long
to achieve it it’s highly highly
valuable
you can’t take a risk well so these so
we might say well perhaps overprotective
parenting is a secondary and unintended
consequence of the birth control pill
and the fact that people now have
children later in life could easily be
no if you have six kids it’s like what
are gonna do hike helicopter parent them
it’s like diddle yeah you’re so tired
you can’t even get off the couch if you
have six kids and there they outnumber
you right there raising each other
they’re competing and they’re taking
each other down a peg they’re not
there’s no overprotection there but with
it with a single child landscape or dual
child landscape
mostly a single child landscape then
you’re gonna over protect and then that
ethos starts to permeate the schools and
it starts to permeate the higher
education institutions as those children
mature and then that all reinforces it
not good it’s not obvious what to do
about it either because if it is driven
by demographics and that in that sense
it’s a much more intractable problem
than we think so I did some of that in
twelve rules for life you know I said
look you what you have to understand is
that you’re a danger to your children no
matter what right you can let them go
out in the world and be hurt or you can
over protect them and hurt them that way
so you here’s your choice you can make
your children competent and courageous
or you can make them safe but you can’t
make them safe because life isn’t safe
so if you sacrifice their courage and
competence on the altar of safety then
you disarm them completely and all they
decisions fast people say man you’re a
hard man you’re a tough dude okay look
you’ve got to make hard decisions fast
when things get tough
they say the tough get going truth is
when things get tough
the successful make hard decisions
quickly
that’s why super successful people are
often misunderstood they’re willing to
make hard decisions that often don’t
make them look good and for which
they’re later judge the truth is for you
to be financially successful you will
have to make very very difficult
decisions when you do make them fast my
mom used to say if you’re walking
so I quit my job comfy corporate job
doing really well for myself and I’m
trying to get into media and so I’m
writing to every big media company with
before my videos and saying please give
me a job like I’ll come in like a video
journalist salary I was looking at
salaries that like a quarter of what I
made I was like I don’t care about the
money I want to make videos and I want
to spread a message I’m getting
rejection email after rejection email
saying Jay you never studied media Jay
you have no background so I’m getting
rejected by all the biggest companies
Business Insider HuffPost The Economist
wired you name it I’ve got all the
emails and then I try and network with
the editors of these magazines so I find
out where they are I go to the events I
try and talk to them and they liked me
hey man you’re like 28 years old why do
you want to do this you make more money
right now hang in the corporate world do
it as a hobby I remember running after
one of our biggest news anchors in
England called John snow and he rides a
biker in London he’s like he’s huge is
on Channel four one of the biggest
broadcasters for us and so I’ve run off
to him when he’s on his bike and I’m
like John please please stop and he
stops he’s really climbed and say John
can you please give me a job I just I
don’t want to get paid I will just watch
you and I because he creates these
powerful documentaries he’s interviewed
the best of the best like Mandela and
all this stuff life-changing
conversations and he goes to me he gives
me a card and he goes Jay go get a
masters in media and come back I’m
thinking oh it’s going to three more
years yeah exactly I’m gonna go back
like and so I came to a point where I
literally had no other option than to
start a YouTube channel and and my
honest limiting belief at the time was
that doesn’t work for anyone and that’s
what I said to myself as well it’s not
gonna work for anyone but I literally
had exhausted I think it’s Thomas Edison
who says when you feel you’ve exhausted
every option remember you haven’t and
I’d come to that point where I felt I’d
exhausted every option
apart from starting a YouTube channel so
I launched the channel Jam 3rd 2016 two
I’m not 20 years old in contract here at
Michigan um the biggest pleasure you
know gain credibility of business being
doing in the industry yeah
so good question I’m glad you said new
to the industry not because you’re only
twenty years old
you got it you got to get you got to
become you got to become the the expert
buddy I don’t I don’t know how to tell
you this any other way you got to become
you got to become the expert in the room
you got to know more than everybody else
you’ve got to be like people say oh if
you’re in if you’re in a room and you’re
the smartest guy in the room you’re in
the wrong room you go in a room yeah you
need to be the smartest guy in the room
you need to be the guy in a row this
sucks the oxygen out of the room so Elon
walks in a room and I always like going
up to the office but doing my best just
try to build rapport you know no no
don’t don’t try to build rapport dude
you gotta you gotta become an expert at
your deal like if you’re milking cows
you need to become the freakin god it
knows every freakin angle on an owner on
a cow’s titty okay like right okay Jeff
so dude take take like like you’re 20
years old bro spend the next four or
five years becoming an expert in your field
morning of your life what if I told you
you died this week would you complain
about your crap job or that test you
don’t want to take I doubt it you’d go
much higher level thinking well that’s
really what it takes it takes
understanding that if you’re not pumped
right now if you’re begrudging what
you’re about to do if you’re if you’re
not looking forward to it look I respect
practicality you got to go through
school because your parents want to you
got to pay your rent you got student
loans I get it but please recognize the
world we’re living in we’re living in a
world where there’s so much more
opportunity this internet thing created
way more opportunity for all of us way
more I mean look you only not even be
alive like your mom and dad could have
had sex like three minutes later and you
wouldn’t even exist and you’re
complaining you could have ended up
being a bus a tree I just don’t get the
mentality of being head down sad on a
Monday morning I’m gonna make Monday
morning my I’m gonna make you Saturday
Monday morning that’s what I want to do
every morning and that’s what I want
from you please take a step back and
think about how awesome it actually is
and then recognize that you can attack
the world in a totally different way
because you were lucky enough to be born
during this era lot of you feel stuck
because you’re waiting for some kind of
external force to either push you and
pressure you to change and to be great
and to be amazing or you’re waiting for
somebody to give you permission you’re
either sitting back because you need
some sort of external motivation from
somebody it’s gonna push you or praise
you or pressure you in order to change
or some life circumstance like maybe in
your past you’ve experienced trauma or
you face something really scary and that
was the thing that made you change and
then the second thing that people wait
around for is permission
look those may or may not come in your
life if you are somebody that is sitting
around waiting for some external force
to come and do the work for you that is
such a losing bet it’s unbelievable
maybe you’ll get lucky maybe somebody
will come but more than likely know
when it’s coming the only kind of force
that will truly create change in your
life is you the internal kind of force I
hate to say it but for those of you that
feel really really stuck and you keep
thinking that somebody’s got to pick me
or somebody’s gonna discover me or
somebody’s got to give me permission to
write this book it’s it’s ridiculous
this is external versus internal force
and what you have to figure out if
you’re stuck is are you the kind of
person that is guilty of needing wanting
and waiting for external forces people
an event some outside force to kick you
in the ass so that you’ll finally do the
stuff that you’ve been dreaming about
doing I want to tell you something no
one’s coming no one the people in life
that get what they want are the ones
that aren’t waiting for an external
force to validate their dreams to
inspire them to give them permission
it’s the people that realize that
success but happiness that control it
comes from the internal force and what
is the internal force it’s you it’s you
it’s you being able to realize that no
one’s going to do the work for you it’s
you realizing that you’re never gonna
feel ready
in fact even as you start working toward
the things that you really want to do
you’re definitely not going to feel
ready and you’re going to feel outside
your comfort zone and that’s normal when
you start to feel like you’re stretching
yourself and you’re sticking your
scrawny neck out there and you’re taking
some risks that’s amazing because you’re
the oldest thing is the games were trade
straight away I was no different
soon as I finished skill absorbs getting
pestered what are you doing with your
life you know they still not and they
didn’t know what it was they didn’t know
MMA was didn’t know what this didn’t
know it could make a career as far as
they were concerned me mind I’m talking
about as far as they were concerned I’m
just getting into a cage of fighting
with some other guy they didn’t know
nothing about it
no one did really but I knew and I mean
I knew well that and then I got it I end
up getting a trade just to keep them
quiet Azusa had a lot of fights with me
dial-up like trade did you get I end up
getting a trade as a plumber and
literally open the back eyes on our open
we closed the week-long mountain and
feeling like that but say it was one of
the biggest sites in Europe kill Tiernan
was right at that ski in place huge and
now it’s just abandoned now it’s just
deserted so I used to go up there six
o’clock folks folk rock Romano’s on that
m50 I just have to walk to the end for
about half an hour from your house wait
for some memory card I didn’t even know
he drove on the m4 and I had to flag him
down nightmare you have two hours down
on the m-52 hours by usually 14-hour
days and I was there I was the first
year I was the I had to go and do
everything like to go to the shop I’d to
go and get this and get that so I always
had trouble down I was like this isn’t
for me this is not for me how long did
you last I lasted 18 18 months stealing
well it was tough you know just it
wasn’t wasn’t the life for me and I’m
and then and then John said because I
was training with jhana as well at the
time and then John got on Twitter says
there I have a show on the show Woodlake
the fight honey and then that was he I
just packed it in didn’t show up weed I
used to come in and punch the head on me
and like try and drag me out of bed and
I just wouldn’t go and I hadn’t opal or
for a good few years when I’m all verbal
and and that was it I just packed it in
quit and then focused on training and
that’s I knew I knew I knew what was
gonna happen I knew I was gonna get here
they didn’t there’s a lot of stressful
years I want to recommend that you take
just one hour a day five days a week and
devote this hour to exercising your mind
pick one hour a day on which you can
fairly regularly count and during this
hour every day take a completely blank
sheet of paper at the top of
Paige write your present primary goal
clearly simply then since our future
depends upon the way in which we had
love work write down as many ideas as
you can for improving that which you now
do try to think of 20 possible ways in
which the activity that fills your day
can be improved you won’t always get 20
but even one ideas good now remember two
important points with regard to this one
this is not particularly easy and to
most of your ideas won’t be any good now
when I say it’s not easy I mean it’s
like starting any new habit at first
you’ll find your mind a little reluctant
to be hauled up and out of the old
familiar red but as you think about your
work and ways in which it might be
improved write down every idea that pops
into your mind no matter how absurd it
might seem let me tell you what will
happen some of your ideas will be good
and worth testing the most important
thing this X tower accomplishes however
is that it deeply embeds your goal in
your subconscious mind starts the whole
vital machinery working and 20 ideas a
day if you come up with that many total
a hundred a week even if you don’t think
on weekends an hour a day five days a
week tolls 260 hours a year and still
leaves you three thousand seven hundred
and forty hours of free leisure time and
this means you’ll be thinking about your
goal and ways of improving our
performance increasing your service six
and I have four extra working weeks a
year six and a half 40-hour weeks
devoted to thinking and planning can you
see how easy it is to rise above the
so-called competition and will still
leave you with fifteen hours a day this
appendage of please starting each day
thinking you’ll find that your mind will
continue to work all day long you’ll
find that at odd moments when you least
expect it really great ideas will begin
to pop into your mind and when they do
write them down as soon as you can just
one great idea can completely
revolutionize your work and as a result
you’re alive you’re chasing your dream
and when you’re when you’re walking hard
and completely dedicated it just it just
happens you don’t you don’t you can’t
really note notice it you know even
still to this day I’m gonna an amazing
position in my life but I’m still I’m
still working like I’m not I’m still
working like I’m not in this position
absolutely I’m still working like none
of this is even yeah I mean yeah yeah
it’s just it’s just something I love to
do and I just keep pushing I keep
working hard I can’t pinpoint an exact
moment for you but yep if anything I
always felt like it was happening way
back then and now it is happening but
now I almost feel like it’s not
happening anymore and more intrigued by
mindset because I used to think of it as
fluffy like self-help and now I think it
more as strategy what’s your strategy in
life somebody asked me on Instagram
after I posted a scary if the mindset
has been skewed how can you bring it
back and I answered with by surrounding
yourself with people who have the
mindset you aspire to my friends please
understand that mindset is controllable
in the same way that all our opinions
are controllable the key is to add more
people with optimism and cut people with
negativity it’s very very simple now
it’s very hard to cut people with
pessimism cynicism and negativity when
they are the people that are the closest
to you parents siblings spouse but the
bottom line is if you’re asking the
question I’m gonna give you the answer
the answer is add more people with
positivity and optimism and cut people
with pessimism and cynicism who you
surround yourself matters what content
you consume matters I basically
suffocate myself for a long period of my
time and created an environment that was
based on offense and optimism and now I
know no different please do the same for
you make that move mold and I mean mold
your mindset by what you consume and
with whom you consume it
you gotta have a plan everybody’s got a
dream
everybody’s got a goal what’s the plan
and your plan has got to have something
I call the c5 complex your plan has got
to be clear concise compelling
consistent and committed you’ve got to
have a plan and when you’re trying to do
something that you are truly passionate
about there is no plan B okay Plan B
okay so it’s as simple as that you gotta
have a plan I mean think about that for
a second mm-hmm three examples Michael
Jordan won six NBA championships with
the Chicago Bulls because he was
committed to playing a not plan B Oprah
Winfrey became the queen of all media
because she was committed to plan a not
Plan B whatever your politics are Barack
Obama is sitting in the White House
because he was committed to plan a not
there’s parents coming in with their
kids from like the height bringing them
into the gym Amanda but I saw it
encouraging that’s never like that
that’s gonna go to a next level when you
have the parents encouraging the dream
and regardless of people again people
can say it’s barbaric and martial arts
is barbaric or this game is too it’s too
much be anonymous two men beating each
other or whatever the martial arts life
will give you a discipline will give you
dedication will give you a drive that
you won’t get nowhere else so whatever
these kids that come in touch with our
parents whatever they decide to do where
they decide to conquer the martial arts
world the fighting game or whether they
want to go and conquer the business
world whatever they decide to do
training for combat sport training
martial arts will give them that
confidence to go and excel and anything
so people can can criticize a better all
they want but the results speak for
themselves and seeing these the kids
come in this size it’s it’s good times
notice I said simple I didn’t say easy
and the reason why it’s not easy is
because you have to deal with you and
now we know that you’re a control freak
and you’re stubborn and you got all
these excuses you’re a real pain and I’m
gonna teach you though the very very
simple way to get what you want there’s
only one rule when it comes to
productivity there’s only one rule when
it comes to success
there’s only run rule to getting
everything you’ve ever wanted and here
it is you’re never gonna feel like it
ever in any area of your life that you
don’t have what you want whether it’s
the amount of money the amount of people
on your team the amount of sales the
amount of trips for your family the reef
you only did the things that you don’t
feel like doing you’d have everything
you’ve ever wanted those areas where
you’re happy you do the work those areas
where you’re complaining you don’t feel
like it
you don’t do it
so it’s a lot like kids if you think
about it what’s your job as a parent
it’s to make kids do the things they
don’t feel like doing so they can grow
up and move out and become independent
adults my son never feels like getting
off the DS he never feels like putting
his feet down when he’s caught in the
car my daughter never feels like
cleaning up the Barbies I have no idea
always naked and the funny thing is when
you grew up and moved out your parents
never said to you guess what you are a
total pain in the rear end
you never feel like doing anything you
don’t feel like doing your homework you
don’t feel like going out you don’t feel
like making your bed you don’t feel like
saying hello to strangers you don’t feel
like using your manners you don’t feel
like cleaning your room good luck to you
so the only way to get what you want is
to pair it yourself but I’m gonna make
it easy for you we’re about to move
you’ve learned a ton about the brain now
the brain is gonna screw you over the
brain is gonna go into autopilot the
brain is going to tell you it doesn’t
feel like doing things that’s trickery
you now know that so how do you be
effective with yourself knowing that
you’re never gonna feel like doing all
the work that it takes to have this
business be everything that it possibly
could so you’re gonna use the
five-second rule and what that means is
this
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from the moment that you have the idea I
should email out the Fall collection I
should go through the contact list for
my college or university and reach out
to people I should go through my contact
lists and invite 23 people this week to
just take the dogs for a walk I should
make a request of a friend and ask if I
can come to a presentation at lunch at
his law firm from the second you have
that idea you’ve only got five seconds
to take action otherwise it’s gone your
brain will swoop in so fast me uh oh
there’s an idea oh no way no wait you
don’t feel like it you’re overwhelmed
you you’ve got five seconds and that’s
it today I want you to practice this
because what you’re gonna notice is
you’re gonna notice a little bit later
like in the networking section and you
know afterwards and in some of these
events after this particular speech
you’re gonna notice that you have an
impulse you have an impulse to walk
towards somebody that’s really
successful that’s built a team that
could possibly help you and guess what
you’re not gonna do it you’ve probably
had them the entire time that you’ve
been here oh I should go over and talk
to this person hey I’ll catch them later
oh that person looks really interesting
I I don’t know I should really take some
photos of this fall line and start to
eat that might be too pushy so what do
you do how does it work you have the
thought you’ve got five seconds that’s
it and what do you need to do just say
something out loud that’s one way you
could start walking the second you feel
like you should meet somebody because
you’re drawn to them again it’s from
here it’s not from here
start walking because if you’re already
walking the likelihood is you’ll
actually make it to them and then you’re
gonna say something write it down
schedule it send an email to yourself or
make the request one of the things that
was so interesting about talking to Tara
this morning is it was clear that a
couple people had been in there sharing
their brains out about Jay Hilbert and
yet it never progressed into the side of
the conversation of would you like
information would you like to do it
and I’m sure whoever it was it was lying
on the table probably had that thought
like you know I should probably say
something should I getting a facial is
that weird to be talking about business
at the same time
five seconds gone talked yourself out of
let’s to have one big goal I give a goal
setting exercise all over the world that
is life-changing I go back a year later
or two years later or three years later
and I have thousands of people come up
to me almost like us a guru or a sage
and they say you changed my life you
made me rich and I said it was the goals
wasn’t it and they said it yes it was
the goal is how did you know and what I
teaches this is take a piece of paper
make a list of ten goals that you’d like
to achieve in the next 12 months
these are one-year goals now sometimes
I’ll have a one day a one week one month
three months six months but they’re all
goals that you want to accomplish within
12 months then you look over this list
and you say if I could wave a magic wand
and achieve any one goal on this list
within 24 hours which one goal would
have the greatest positive impact on my
life and then you look at your list of
ten and the answer will jump out at you
and that becomes your major definite
purpose this becomes your major goal
then you transfer this to a clean sheet
of paper and you write a deadline when
you want to achieve this goal you make a
list of everything that you could think
of that you could do to achieve this
goal you then organize this list like a
checklist in order of sequence what do
you do first what do you do second what
do you do third and then you take action
on your goal and then you do something
on that goal every day seven days a week
it’s a very simple system decide the
most important goal write it down
make a plan work on it every day and
then all of your other goals will start
to move forward you’ll start to make
progress on the big goal but all the
other goals will start to move forward
almost without you even paying attention
to them so that’s really the key to
success is single focus Warren Buffett
and Bill Gates were at a dinner party
with Bill Gates father and a large
number of other people at Bill Gates
home in Seattle last year and they were
chatting with each other they’re very
good friends and somebody came up to
them and said excuse me gentleman I
don’t mean to interrupt you but you’re
three of the most important was
successful people in the world Bill
Gates and Warren
offered her number one number two
wealthiest man in the world what would
you say is the most important ingredient
for success and they all stopped broke
off their conversation and all turned
simultaneously and looked at the man and
said focus focus is the most important
quality for success if you can focus you
can do anything if you can’t focus you
must always work for someone else who
will make you focus now wonderfully
enough focusing is like learning how to
ride a bicycle or type with a keyboard
it’s a learn about skill you can learn
to focus by practicing focus until it
becomes automatic one of my favorite
quotes is from good too the German
philosopher and he said everything is
hard before it’s easy so the formation
of any new habit is hard before it’s
easy you have to keep working at it it’s
just like a bicycle you keep falling
down you have to keep getting back up
again until finally it becomes easier
and easier and soon it becomes automatic
and when you automatically get up each
day plan your day and work on your most
important goal your whole life will
find what you’re looking for I’ve been
giving a lot of thought to kind of just
watching what I’m seeing out there in
the social digital ecosystem and very
honestly just real life and I’m watching
so many people over the last two to
three years look for negativity look for
something that’s wrong
find where people disagree with them
fight look for what was me downside the
half glass empty and and then I go to a
Twitter search or look around the world
and I find ridiculously beautiful things
every day every day thousands of kind
acts randomly by people all people that
I have conversations with who see the
opportunities whether it’s in business
like voice and AR or whatever it may be
just this amazingly interesting thing
that I feel the majority of you are
looking for the wrong while there’s a
plenty of wrong and plenty of right in
the world it comes down to one very
simple thing what are you choosing to
look for because I promise you if you
right now and I’m making this video for
one reason twenty-four hours of trying
to find the good somebody saves a kid
somebody opens the door somebody does a
nice thing for you bit somebody says
thank you 24 hours of looking for
positivity could change your life
honestly making this for one person one
one person watches this video chooses to
do 24 hours of looking for good instead
of looking for bad and their game
changes d-roc heard somebody at a
convenience store saying mom you’re
always so negative you’re always so
negative I am blown away by the fact
that life gets real simple if you break
down into this are you looking for the
negative this sucks this government
sucks this person sucks this is what are
you looking for the positive she’s nice
that’s remarkable I’ve got this
opportunity you choose what you’re
looking for because what you look for
you find that’s how life works but 20
years ago in the movies rules are very
clearly defined they provided the
security of your stardom in a sense if
you’d been successfully playing an angry
young man you’d pretty much be angry and
young for the rest of your life
if you’ve been a police inspector in
three movies odds were you’d be in the
next 33 – they supplied two female
actresses also wives or wives
seductresses were seductresses
mother-in-law’s were mother-in-law’s and
so on and so forth
few actors would have willingly switched
from romantic heroes to obsessively
violent lovers I took the leap not
because I was particularly brave but
because a very dear director friend of
mine sat me down and told me I was
extremely ugly and being ugly
necessarily meant I know now I know and
being ugly necessarily meant I do bad
guy roles I wasn’t the romantic hero
types he said actually he used the words
that my face was not chocolaty enough so
I started to eat a lot of chocolate and
while waiting for it to take effect I
jumped into bad guy roles there means
fair in Hindi and everyone always tells
you at speeches like this that you ought
to be brave so I’m not going to bore you
with that idea instead let me tell you
this being brave means being scared all
the way to the party
yeah I’m sorry if that word is being
very scared all the way to the body but
getting there but getting there all the
same and doing the funky chicken in
front of all your teenage kids friends
anyway let me just add or not behalf of
all the fathers of the world who have
embarrassed the kids by doing this it
takes a lot of bravery resolve and grit
to do it so just do it don’t let your
fears become boxes that enclose you open
them out feel them and turn them into
the greatest courage you are capable of
I promise you nothing will go wrong but
if you live by your fears everything
that can pass possibly go wrong will go
wrong and you won’t even have done the
funky turtle I’m inspired YouTube we’re
gonna make this the episode thing you’ll
get whatever you want Tyler but this is
the Corbin
you just saw it on stage trust you just
saw it on stage dying on your sword is
better than dying on someone else’s so
many of you are doing things making
decisions and navigating your lives
based on somebody else’s thesis you’re
doing it because you think it’s the
right thing because your dad’s telling
you it’s the right thing you’re doing
what you’re doing right now because
you’re pandering to your boss even
though you don’t believe in it get
something you never had you have to do
something you never did les Brown’s a
motivational speaker you made an analogy
about this he says imagine you’re on
your deathbed and standing around your
deathbed are the ghosts representing
your unfulfilled potential the ghosts of
the ideas you never acted on the ghosts
of the talents you didn’t use and
they’re standing around your bed angry
disappointed and upset they say we came
to you because you could have brought us
to life they say and now we have to go
to the grave together so I ask you today
how many ghosts are gonna be around your
bed when your time comes you need to bet
on your strengths and don’t give a fuck
about what you suck at you’re gonna way
too many people in this room are gonna
spend the next 30 40 years of their
lives trying to check the boxes other
things that they’re not as good at and
that you’re gonna waste a load of time
and lose I highly recommend auditing
yourself or if you have no empathy or EQ
or self-awareness then find somebody in
your family or friendship that does and
let them tell you who you are and once
you believe that either for yourself or
someone else told you go directly all
chips all into that because that is the
only possible way in my opinion watching
from the outside that is limited phrase
that is a very highly likely way of
over-indexing because the truth is if
you want to be an anomaly you’ve got to
act like one you know like and so that’s
it that’s what I got so thanks for
having me
this test called the dark triad test
which again anything important like this
nobody ever learned it in school because
schools are too stupid to take real
powerful science and apply it to life
but the dark triad is a worldview
barometer for everybody watching you can
take it there’s a different free dark
triad tests online it tests for three
main traits negative qualities
narcissism Machiavellianism and being
psychotic and I’ve personally tested
thousands and thousands of people it’s
the most accurate test and what happens
narcissism okay one of the symptoms of a
narcissist it’s not just like oh I like
to look in the mirror right that’s what
we think of narsil one of the classic
symptoms is very thin-skinned they’re
always offended if you have a friend
that anything you say constructively
they fall apart it’s almost always
narcissism even if they’re introverted
there’s multiple forms there’s
introverted narcissism extroverted
exploitative all these different sub
facets of narcissism but we live in a
society that’s very narcissistic you’re
told like everybody who’s a winner
no not everybody’s a winner that’s like
saying everybody’s blonde there’s a
definition of what blonde is blonde is
like this yellowish air so you lose
meaning when you start going and
everybody’s blonde
well everybody doesn’t win and the
sooner you wake up to that that biology
is ruthless man then you get a little
fear in you and when you get a little
fear in you you start listening because
if you’re truly afraid you listen let a
little fear come in and drive you and
motivate you other theme in
entrepreneurship is there is way too
much fodder brought to the idea Hoover
was magic cab three years earlier
uber is not an idea uber existed it’s
called magic cab but the guys that
execute it sucked so they lost so I
think you know if there’s any level of
romance left in this room about your
idea I’d like to suffocate it because I
think the actual situation is what you
you have to go out and find people who
are successful financially and reverse
engineer what they did reverse engineer
re I keep that little acronym in my head
it’s one of the most powerful acronyms
that you can remember re reverse
engineer so for example when I was
starting out I was like what would it
take to become a millionaire and I’ll go
alright
win the lottery a lot of people play the
lottery and then some people one or two
become millionaires but if you reverse
engineer I asked myself this one day I
started study what makes the most
millionaires what’s made the most
millionaires and the United States
self-made not people who inherited their
money and the answer is tada real estate
now you don’t even have to be trying to
make a million dollars or reclaim a
millionaire but just think about that
reverse engineer that and put it into
your life it’s not just about a career
but it’s about also passive income
because your careers active income you
work on your career you go to your job
even if you’re an entrepreneur right
but what about when you’re asleep here’s
a crazy statistic if you just listen to
this for a sec if you make what’s
minimum wage let’s say let’s just say 15
bucks an hour that’s thirty thousand
dollars a year right
but what happens if you make $15 an hour
24/7 okay now that’s 90 thousand dollars
a year triple it but you can’t work 24
hours a day so that means you have to
have this thing called passive income
and passive income means a lot myself in
my own living room here
oh god this way I was filming over here
so what I started doing is going I gotta
have my active income job career
entrepreneurship but I want to reverse
engineer the passive income that the
most millionaires have ever the most
what has created the most millionaires
number one thing that scares me in life
is regret I really really really don’t
want to be on my deathbed whether that’s
tomorrow or when I’m 97 and think I
should have done that I should like
that’s that spooks me right like hard
work people judging me leaving you know
trolling me on social media like all the
stuff that normal people worry about I
don’t worry about I worry about regret
and so I’m trying to squeeze that
everything out of my life and so yeah I
for three number three studied two
multimillionaires do not take heed to
this do not study a millionaire once a
person becomes a millionaire the first
thing they do unfortunately is going to
conservation to protect the million
study multi millionaire study people
that have consistently developed and
proven because the tens or 20s or 30s
are hundreds of millions of dollars that
they’ve accumulated that they have the
right practice the right discipline and
they’re still expanding you don’t need
22 mentors study two people deep that
have gotten it right study two people
are so deeper than 20 people shallow I
promise you will make a difference if
you get a chance to spend three days
with anybody that’s accumulated 30 40 50
a hundred million dollars I’ll promise
you it’s a game-changer so put that on
your bucket list I’m gonna spend three
days with a multi-millionaire in an
environment where I can learn from them
it will be a game-changer for you and
also limit your study there to people
not twenty two people that will create
you from having conflictive data and
there is definitely an epidemic of
overprotective parenting but it’s useful
to ask why and my suspicions are is that
this is driven by very fundamental
biological and cultural phenomena that
aren’t generally considered in
relationship to this issue we don’t have
very many children we don’t have 12 you
know six of whom die we have one or two
and that makes them very precious right
we’re unwilling to take risks with them
and no wonder and then we also have them
much later in life and so like if you
have a kid when you’re 18 you’re still a
kid you know you’re gonna go out and
have your life right because you’re so
well you’re in the in the height of your
exploratory you’re in the height of the
exploratory part of your life you’re not
gonna over protect your kids because
you’re still a kid but if you’re 40 and
you have one child it’s like all your
eggs are in one basket and the
probability that you’re going to take
undue risks with that precious person is
very very low now obviously there’s some
advantages to that because great you
would devote resources to your child you
know and foster their development but
the downside is that you have every
motivation to hover and maybe you’re
also extraordinarily desperate as a
mother to maintain that bond with your
child because you’ve struggled so long
to achieve it it’s highly highly
valuable
you can’t take a risk well so these so
we might say well perhaps overprotective
parenting is a secondary and unintended
consequence of the birth control pill
and the fact that people now have
children later in life could easily be
no if you have six kids it’s like what
are gonna do hike helicopter parent them
it’s like diddle yeah you’re so tired
you can’t even get off the couch if you
have six kids and there they outnumber
you right there raising each other
they’re competing and they’re taking
each other down a peg they’re not
there’s no overprotection there but with
it with a single child landscape or dual
child landscape
mostly a single child landscape then
you’re gonna over protect and then that
ethos starts to permeate the schools and
it starts to permeate the higher
education institutions as those children
mature and then that all reinforces it
not good it’s not obvious what to do
about it either because if it is driven
by demographics and that in that sense
it’s a much more intractable problem
than we think so I did some of that in
twelve rules for life you know I said
look you what you have to understand is
that you’re a danger to your children no
matter what right you can let them go
out in the world and be hurt or you can
over protect them and hurt them that way
so you here’s your choice you can make
your children competent and courageous
or you can make them safe but you can’t
make them safe because life isn’t safe
so if you sacrifice their courage and
competence on the altar of safety then
you disarm them completely and all they
decisions fast people say man you’re a
hard man you’re a tough dude okay look
you’ve got to make hard decisions fast
when things get tough
they say the tough get going truth is
when things get tough
the successful make hard decisions
quickly
that’s why super successful people are
often misunderstood they’re willing to
make hard decisions that often don’t
make them look good and for which
they’re later judge the truth is for you
to be financially successful you will
have to make very very difficult
decisions when you do make them fast my
mom used to say if you’re walking
so I quit my job comfy corporate job
doing really well for myself and I’m
trying to get into media and so I’m
writing to every big media company with
before my videos and saying please give
me a job like I’ll come in like a video
journalist salary I was looking at
salaries that like a quarter of what I
made I was like I don’t care about the
money I want to make videos and I want
to spread a message I’m getting
rejection email after rejection email
saying Jay you never studied media Jay
you have no background so I’m getting
rejected by all the biggest companies
Business Insider HuffPost The Economist
wired you name it I’ve got all the
emails and then I try and network with
the editors of these magazines so I find
out where they are I go to the events I
try and talk to them and they liked me
hey man you’re like 28 years old why do
you want to do this you make more money
right now hang in the corporate world do
it as a hobby I remember running after
one of our biggest news anchors in
England called John snow and he rides a
biker in London he’s like he’s huge is
on Channel four one of the biggest
broadcasters for us and so I’ve run off
to him when he’s on his bike and I’m
like John please please stop and he
stops he’s really climbed and say John
can you please give me a job I just I
don’t want to get paid I will just watch
you and I because he creates these
powerful documentaries he’s interviewed
the best of the best like Mandela and
all this stuff life-changing
conversations and he goes to me he gives
me a card and he goes Jay go get a
masters in media and come back I’m
thinking oh it’s going to three more
years yeah exactly I’m gonna go back
like and so I came to a point where I
literally had no other option than to
start a YouTube channel and and my
honest limiting belief at the time was
that doesn’t work for anyone and that’s
what I said to myself as well it’s not
gonna work for anyone but I literally
had exhausted I think it’s Thomas Edison
who says when you feel you’ve exhausted
every option remember you haven’t and
I’d come to that point where I felt I’d
exhausted every option
apart from starting a YouTube channel so
I launched the channel Jam 3rd 2016 two
I’m not 20 years old in contract here at
Michigan um the biggest pleasure you
know gain credibility of business being
doing in the industry yeah
so good question I’m glad you said new
to the industry not because you’re only
twenty years old
you got it you got to get you got to
become you got to become the the expert
buddy I don’t I don’t know how to tell
you this any other way you got to become
you got to become the expert in the room
you got to know more than everybody else
you’ve got to be like people say oh if
you’re in if you’re in a room and you’re
the smartest guy in the room you’re in
the wrong room you go in a room yeah you
need to be the smartest guy in the room
you need to be the guy in a row this
sucks the oxygen out of the room so Elon
walks in a room and I always like going
up to the office but doing my best just
try to build rapport you know no no
don’t don’t try to build rapport dude
you gotta you gotta become an expert at
your deal like if you’re milking cows
you need to become the freakin god it
knows every freakin angle on an owner on
a cow’s titty okay like right okay Jeff
so dude take take like like you’re 20
years old bro spend the next four or
five years becoming an expert in your field
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