vision if no one in your life get your
vision it could be because God didn’t
give your vision to them
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this book abundance now is a culmination
of about 25 years of work in 1994 which
isn’t quite 25 years ago but in 1994 I
was on government assistance and I had
to get on government assistance to have
my son and I was on WIC women infant and
children which is free cheat he’s free
pasta free milk and I’m grateful I was
embarrassed but I was grateful because
as a mom you just want to take care of
your child
and when my son was 8 months old I’m
just kind of telling you how did this
book come about without me knowing that
the book was coming about when my son
was 8 months old I needed Pampers some a
change of pampers and I went to the
cupboard to get pampers and there was
none so I went to the ATM to get $20 out
to buy pampers and I had 11 dollars and
42 cents to my name yeah that’s exactly
what I did when I saw insufficient funds
and I remember going home wondering what
am I gonna do I wrapped my son in a
towel and for the next two days I just
changed his towel that’s all I could do
and so on the second day I never said
without getting emotional people go you
still get emotional yeah I was still the
same mom who I’m just allowing myself to
recall that experience so that I can
share it so you understand the why it’s
never easy to recall the experience
because I think there’s only two things
you want to do with your children that’s
people safe to be able to be at the
razor and I felt like I can only do one
which is keep them safe but up
challenging and so on the second day of
my son being wrapped in a towel I put my
hand on my son Geelani stomach and I
said Jelani don’t worry mommy will never
be this broke again ever and that was
the journey to now like I just want to
kind of give you all the way back then a
lot of things happened since then but
I’ve been interviewed in 2009 alone I
was interviewed 155 times that’s when my
first single book came out when I was
interviewed 155 times and probably a
hundred and forty-seven times they asked
how did you do it how did you go from
being broke and on government assistance
to running a multi-million dollar
company and lately I hear how did you go
from being on public assistance to
running a publicly held company my
company went public two years ago I am
the only company in the self-development
industry to have a company on Wall
Street and I’m one of two African
American women founders to own a
publicly held company so I get that
question thank you thank you thank you I
get that question a lot how did you go
from publica system in on public and I
always have to start with that in that
on that day in 1994 when I put my son on
my hand on my bit my son’s belly and
said don’t worry Jelani mommy will never
be this broke again something shifted I
was willing to do what I’d never done
before I was willing to say what I’d
never said before but first I had to
learn what I didn’t even know I knew
that abundant thinkers prosperous
prosperous people successful people were
doing something that I wasn’t doing
because my life was evidence your life
is an evidence of what you’re up to
good bad or indifferent your life is
evidence of what you’re up to and so I
wanted to be up to something different
but I didn’t know how to be up to
something different I needed to learn
something different to be up to
something different and so I started
following successful people and I want
to know what if they do in the morning
what if they do at night what did they
do when they failed and I liked those
behind the black curtain questions like
I don’t just wanna know what goals do
you set I don’t know what happens when
someone pisses you off and you got to
forgive them what happens
when you fall down and you don’t know
how to get back up what happens what
happens when you start leaving the
people you love based on your level of
success how do you stay connected to
your community or your tribe and still
go after your dreams how do you get out
of a mindset that says I’m only gonna
have this much success because I’m a
woman because I’m a woman of color
because I was born and raised in South
Central or wherever whatever that story
is that we make up how do I unleash
myself from that story and and hook
myself to my future how do I do that
anybody else curious about that I just
wanna make sure I’m in the right place I
don’t need a lot of people I just need
to write people because a lot of the
wrong people are more distracting than a
few of the right people yes all right so
so I was hungry like I was hungry people
often want to call me the exception like
oh my god you’re the exception no I’m
not the exception I’m an average
ordinary woman who chose every day to
make one more extraordinary decision I’m
an average ordinary mom who said I want
to drastically transform my son’s future
that he deserves to have every option
that every other child would have
irregardless of what he was born into I
just was crazy enough to believe that
that it doesn’t matter the color of my
skin doesn’t matter my religious
background doesn’t matter my origin it
doesn’t matter my mom’s bank account my
dad’s been coming I was born none of
that means my future that’s just the
circumstance that I came from that’s not
what defines my future I just believe
that not a lot validated it but faith is
believing in the unseen anyway so I have
enough faith to go I know like I know
like I know like I know I don’t
necessarily have to see it yet and so
abundance now is it’s the the notes that
I took it’s the things that I did it’s
the lessons that I learned and then some
that I began to adopt that I hadn’t
learned that when I hit my head against
the wall enough I realize don’t do that
let me tell it
anyone who’s reading the book don’t do
that that only looks sexy and so not
right and so it really is this book is
designed to be disruptive it’s designed
to disrupt a couple of myths a few myths
number one myth number one is that we
believe that abundant this is the part
you want to write down
we believe that abundance is for some
people some people of a certain hue a
certain origin a certain background and
we teach that society just teaches that
but you have to come from this place to
have abundance there’s them and then
there’s us yes you guys okay by the way
I’m an interactive like I’m not here
just to do you alright just for the
record like what I learned is that I am
a major part of my own rescue I’m a
major part of my own breakthrough so
whether you’re here because you want to
get out of a place of being stuck or
whether you’re here because you want to
go to the next level of possibility you
are part of that next level so I’m gonna
ask questions
I love a dialogue not a monologue I’m
not a performer though I can’t I can’t
be entertaining at times this is really
about a dialogue a juicy delicious
dialogue that I hope on this day January
6 they created some kind of shift in you
some kind of jolt to you where
afterwards you like I think I just need
to do something just right I need to
tweak this not that anything’s wrong but
how do we what does uplevel look like
what does next level look like and so
the first myth is that and when I say
myth these are the things you there’s so
much value in what you unlearn sometimes
the best thing you can do is unlearn
some things we’re all always going after
learning something new because we’re
information junkies because we have all
these forms of information coming at us
on the internet coming at us in books
coming at us on the radio coming out of
the television that we want to learn
learn learn but sometimes your biggest
breakthrough is in what you unlearn and
then you relearn sometimes you have to
disrupt your soil pull your soil up take
that dry dirt that’s been planted for
years I know I’ve just been knowing this
for years is what my mother taught me
that’s what we’ve always done
you have to disrupt that soil in order
to plant a new seed to grow a new fruit
yeah yeah you guys got that and so I
came very comfortably to disrupt your
soil like that’s what I came for to
disrupt your soil not to necessarily
keep you comfortable what you know stay
comfortable that I want to disrupt you
with some things that are new awareness
to go oh wait hold on or new awareness
about what you’ve been doing
based on what you’ve known forever that
doesn’t fit your future anymore because
I can guarantee you every single one of
us who want something different than
what we’re getting we’re doing something
unconsciously from all patterns that
doesn’t even serve our future that’s
when the tongue in your mouth and the
tongue in your shoe are going in two
totally different directions and your
job is to align them up so that you can
move forward in a powerful way yes yes
all right when I say yes yes sure q2 say
yes yes back it makes me feel really
good inside thank you so much for your
generosity
next time we all could sell out so myth
number one is that abundance is for some
people it’s not for everyone it you got
to come from a certain origin or have a
certain background whatever story we
make up and the truth is and what I love
about the truth is the truth doesn’t
change whether you accept it or not it’s
still the truth and so once you’re made
aware from from your unconscious to your
conscious of a truth live like you know
that truth and watch things change just
live like you know that truth a lot of
times when you learn a lesson and you
keep revisiting that same pain it’s
because you’re not living like you
learned the lesson how many of us by
show of hands have asked the question
how did I end up here again raise your
hands up I just make sure I’m in the
right room okay great it’s because we
forgot we learned the lesson so the
universe guy whatever you call it have
to give you the lesson again and then
you go okay I got I got I got I got it
right I’ve set it I got a guy like that
okay live like you learn to listen and
then it won’t ever come again same thing
with the truth when you live like you
know a new truth or an old truth that
you didn’t really recognize you knew
when you live like you know the truth
your life will show up to match that
truth you know so first true abundance
is available to every
everyone irregardless of your culture
background origin no matter how you
start at least so what if I you can do
all the what-ifs it’s still available to
you now whether you go get it or not
and off the times you don’t go get it
because the story you’re telling
yourself doesn’t agree with what’s
available for you and our stories are
huge because your story is your
perception your perception is your truth
and you will live into that perception
myth number two is that abundance is
singularly focused on possessions and
money right that’s all about what you
drive what you live in how much money
you make when in fact this couldn’t be
further from the truth
wealth is possessions and money
abundance is a 360 experience abundance
is a 360 experience true abundance true
abundance is your health because if you
don’t have great health life does not
feel good
abundance is relationship and at the end
of your life literally you will measure
the quality of your life by the quality
of the relationships you had all the
other stuff will fall away that
promotion you’re thinking about you’re
wondering about that race it will fall
away in the area of importance when you
get to the end of your life you will
begin to look at the quality of your
relationships how are your children
related to you how your siblings really
– do you have love in your life you
literally will start looking at
relationships at a higher level as you
get older so when you mind them now you
take care of them and I know that for a
fact I have a friend who’s who’s worth
14 billion dollars billion would it be
he was just partying at my house all
night long wouldn’t leave 4 in the
morning go home and he flew in from
Canada to go to my New Year’s party
because he loves my family connection
and he doesn’t have one he is
financially wealthy
he’s relationship broke so that make
sense
abundance is a 360 experience it’s about
relationships it’s about health it’s
about your spiritual groundedness that
doesn’t mean you have a religious origin
it’s about can you release can you
forgive can you let go can you be still
do you meditate do you have time with
yourself that has a lot to do with the
quality of your life that ability and I
talked about this in the book and I and
I and I’m a teacher so I give you ways
to enhance every area that I’m talking
about
I don’t just introduce it to you I go
listen if you want to strengthen this
area why don’t you do these things so
you’ll find page 58 is dynamic page 265
dynamic worth it so and then the final
area is Finance
fine it’s there times where it is about
the money and people of service people
who are givers people who are natural
lovers of life we sometimes don’t want
to talk about the money money is a
dignified conversation to have
matter of fact you should do very very
well financially because when good
people do well good people simply do
more good in the world like we could in
hunger we could we could in homelessness
when enough good people do well we’re
now empowered financially to make some
major differences so money is a
dignified conversation money is a tool
money is a team member money buys you
access to great memories mmm that’s a
different look at it huh money is not
the end game money simply buys me access
to great memories money buys me freedom
I’m able to do more in life now because
I have more money that’s it I have
access to better better memories my
money bought me the memory of my son at
age 10 he’s now 21 at age 10 standing on
top of one of the tallest mountains in
Kenya with no front teeth saying mommy
I’m on top of the tallest mountain in
Africa I still have that memory it
burned in my head because the first time
I took my son on a trip with me my money
was able to buy my son and I surfing in
Brisbane Australia this last May yes we
surfed mama was on a surfboard for about
2.2 seconds but I got it on video so it
doesn’t matter I’m a clip it and just
keep like just add it together to give
myself about a good two minutes right
and so money allowed me to jump out of a
plane with my son and Australia’s along
the Gold Coast of Australia and fly over
the Gold Coast of Australia so money is
not the end game it’s a tool it’s a team
member it simply gives you access to
greater memories I want to invite up my
son here to New York he’s been one to
come to New York for ever mom
New York New York ok great I’m going in
January for my book – he’s like jQuery
he’s like no no that’s one that’s when
it’s cold there right as I do I’m going
to New York it’s time to come
you’ll be back is that kind of access he
knows it goes but mom when you go to
London I’m so with you no matter what
time of the year and that’s the same kid
that I have to wrap in the towel that’s
the sweetest part of the memories is
that the story I get to tell is
transformational because I was willing
to invest the pennies in my pocket in my
mind so that my pocket can overflow with
something in there and so I’m here to
disrupt you a bit I’m here to make you
mildly to moderately to significantly
uncomfortable in any form of mediocracy
that’s my agenda because when someone
loves us enough to shake us up a bit and
make it uncomfortable to do business as
usual that’s a favor that’s a favor and
I was so uncomfortable in 1994 that the
last thing I wanted was to do business
as usual and so the book is my it’s my
answering of the question I’ve been
asked so many times how did you do it
and I would be unfair if I just gave you
one line there were many things I did
and when I look at my life I traveled
the world I’m on the road over 310 days
out of the year and I don’t mind cuz 24
years ago I had a prayer god I want to
travel the world run my mouth and
autograph anything and now I’m like
update travel the world half the time
and so I live my dreams and perfect far
from that but what I’ve learned how to
do is perfectly manage my imperfection
and accept it and be at peace with it
and then find out how we can bring out
the best in each other and so I stopped
by Google and this is a you talk about
the law of attraction this is
this is a full circle five years ago I
opened my offices for the first time
I’ve been working out of my home for 15
years and my little home office I
started in a closet a walk-in closet
well it wasn’t really a walk all the way
in you know it’s they should call some
causes stepping in closets so it was a
step in and turn around closet and I put
on the wall you know those little
handheld mirrors you can get at the
store and just a little handy about
$4.99 I bought about four to six of
those mirrors and I put those mirrors on
the wall in the walk-in closet so when I
sat down it looked bigger and on the
pant hang inverted this walk-in closet
to my office and I used pant hangers
with clips on them as my files so I
clipped manila folders on the pant
hangers and I just sliding a little
vanilla photos across put a little desk
in there and I worked out of that off
out of that office out of that closet
for four years building my company then
I graduated to a little room off the
side of my bedroom five years ago I
graduated to a 3,500 square-foot office
to you guys that small but to me that
was really really big because it was a
walk-in closet at one time and when I
opened my office’s I had about three
employees and now we’re up to about 20
25 26 or something
and still small and some people stand up
a big for me on my own right and when I
started my offices this is my connection
to do us but I would tell you this
connection I had I watched the
documentary on who I really loved the
intention around making the employees
feel at home make them in foot pump I
love that essence I love that the whole
and I’ll probably butcher this up
forgive me it’s my first time with you
guys but the whole food area right like
oh my gosh chefs and food and cuisines
and I was like this is amazing oh my god
they can go in and eat it’s amazing how
can i duplicate this on my little bit
and so my duplication ever you should
come to my office I invite you all to
visit my office you walk in my office
and Carla can tell you she’s on my team
you walk in my office and when you go
into my kitchen my version of Google is
there’s a shopping list and you can put
anything you want to eat on the shopping
list and we’ve stocked the refrigerator
every week with fresh food that you
choose and I have a George form and
that’s my chef that’s that’s y’all Shep
is our George Foreman it’s y’all chef
and so and and everything for breakfast
everything for lunch everything for
dinner is in the cabinets and in the
and if you want something just put on
and I model that and I tell everyone
whenever I’m giving a tour and I give
tours a lot in my office that I I was
inspired by Google to do that so you got
to start somewhere right you gotta start
somewhere and so when I found out that
during our tour I was coming to go it’s
like finally I get to actually see the
real so when I leave here I’m so going
over to your cafeteria I’m gonna take
pictures in the cafeteria I’m gonna put
that picture up in my office so you guys
will be it you will be your your
cafeteria will be in my cafeteria the
pictures so that I could show that the
connection and I believe that when God
when the universe bring something within
your realm that’s showing you that
something is available to you more than
where you are wherever you’re going but
you got to be willing to dream big
enough to scare yourself if your dreams
don’t scare you you ain’t dreaming big
enough if you already know the how
you’re not dreaming big enough you’re
why should be so big you’re what should
be so big that you sit back and go now
how am I gonna do that good it’s finally
big enough so many of us stop dreaming
big because we’ve had some failures in
the past well let me tell you about
abundant thinkers abundant thinkers we
give ourselves permission to fail all
the time we give ourselves permission to
fail all the time and let me tell you
why because when you give yourself
permission to fail you actually just
gave yourself permission to fly because
if you try to avoid failure all the time
you’ll never take a leap and the moment
you say I’m okay whatever happens you’ll
take a leap I’d rather fall flying then
live a life on the edge and never
jumping off because then you get to 90
and go what would have happened if I
didn’t play it 70 percent and you got to
watch out for yourself because you’re so
brilliant then just raise your hand if
this is you that you’re 70 percent looks
like someone else’s 159 percent come on
you guys bust yourself out don’t just
kind of put it up a little bit put it
all the way in the air just that’s the
truth the truth is sexy your brilliant
raise your hand you know you brilliant
you can see the brilliance in the room
and you got to watch out because you can
literally
is 70% and be impressive and yet you
know you know and there’s no one to hold
you accountable because in your family
circle you are the bomb.com right like
woo they’re bragging on you works at
Google got it made it out the
neighborhood or whatever it is it’s my
neighborhood that’s what they say and so
you have to constantly be holding
yourself accountable to the version of
you that you desire to become you have
to constantly keep yourself in an
environment of other people who are
willing to hold you accountable if you
came here with someone or there’s
someone back in your office or someone
back in your community that can hold you
accountable
tell them the thing that you’re afraid
to say out loud and then follow it with
please hold me accountable to the man
the woman that I’m becoming not to Who I
am
please don’t be impressed with my bio
cuz I already did that and my people
look at my bag of whoa don’t don’t spend
a lot of time on that that’s so that’s
so oh eight I already did that like hold
me accountable to what is in my head
that I want to do in the next ten years
that’s what I need you to really know
and so when you look at that and you
play that big and you’re willing to
stretch and you willing to think
ginormous not being not huge but
ginormous and you’re willing to walk
alone see so many of us are afraid of
leaving someone behind we’re afraid of
walking alone here’s what I know about a
great vision and if someone else in your
life doesn’t get your vision as some of
you came just for this everything else
someone in your life doesn’t get your
vision if no one in your life get your
vision it could be because God didn’t
and whatever you call your faith I’m not
here to impose my belief system on you
but your vision was given to you so if
you got to walk with it and hold it and
nurture it for a while be okay with that
that’s like being impregnated with
something beautiful but you want
everyone else to see it and describe it
before you let it out to the world it’s
impossible physically your job is the
birthday now you can be here and still
be creative you can be here and have a
passion inside the book I talked about
the four ease
oh yeah I thought I was just gonna talk
about the book and read from the book
y’all knows not even bring a book up to
your life get the book right and then
you got both y’all gonna get the bugs on
just come from a free conversation
because this is just the outskirts the
book is the deep dive of the how to this
could be called entertainment in a
couple of hours that’s where you have
the breakthrough where you do the work
so many times we don’t want to be
inconvenience by having we don’t wanna
be inconvenienced with our convictions
let me tell you in order to have
something different you are going to
have to do something different in order
to have something more you have to do
something haven’t done yet I have to say
the things I didn’t want to say do the
things I didn’t feel like doing to have
the life I know I want it period period
and all I did was give instructions for
here do this bite-sized do this
bite-sized do this bite-size bite-size
digestible palatable pieces of what you
can do it’s that sound good you guys and
when you look up and you don’t have to
have a magnificent change over 12 months
have a small change over 30 days and
then a small change over 30 days your
breakthrough comes will come in
needlepoint moves and you look up look
up in five years and not recognize your
life and you need tools because you’ve
gotten yourself as far as you can get
yourself that was the best thing I
learned is that I taking myself as far
as I could take myself I keep a coach in
my life I keep a coaching every part of
my life that matters right before we
landed here I was in the car texting
back my spiritual mentor and I have a
business mentor and I have a health
mentor because those areas of my life
really really mattered
to me so get someone who’s 2 to 10 steps
ahead of you and then just say give me
some give me some breadcrumbs
give me some breadcrumbs I’m good and so
that’s what I did in the book I just
said here if you’re interested in
financial growth and I tell people to
skip to finances if that’s important for
you skip to relationships if that’s the
thing you want to enhance build heal
move through skip to self esteems
which is called self enrichment if
that’s the area you want to work on
yourself worth you want to work on your
on your value you want to work on making
your yeses more powerful making your
nose matter then skip to self enrichment
don’t read the book in order to read the
book base is how you based on how you
need yes and three minutes I’m open up
for questions your job is to have some
really great questions
my job is create master and here’s the
guideline on questions you can ask me
anything say anything you guys want to
say anything say anything I know you
guys have a corporate policy of
corporate correct and what you can ask
I’m the author and I said what anything
I’m committed to your breakthrough even
though there’s one person that’s perfect
for me so well out the hours spent well
if only one person has a great day and
sometimes the question you need to ask
is not the normal question or the
politically correct question so there’s
no question you could ask of me that I
feel is inappropriate there’s not can we
agree with that everyone we’re all got
that now you choose the question and my
job is to answer you transparently now
your job is to be able to handle the
answer because I already had to get used
to it right so in about two minutes
we’ll go into Q&A um when I I was I just
appeared on The Steve Harvey Show
yesterday and it’s about my probably
seventh time on my seventh time on The
Steve Harvey Show
I’m a resident coach on The Steve Harvey
Show a resident coach on The Today Show
and more on the Steve Harvey Show hand I
have a relationship that’s pretty cool
he hired me two years ago a year and a
half ago two years ago he hired me to
coach him and I coached him for a year
and a half on how to become an
inspirational speaker and actually have
a division in his company that’s a self
development division he said I want to
use my name I want to use my brand to
inspire people now and not just make
them laugh III feel like I owe it to my
fans to inspire them and so I don’t know
if you kind of saw about a year and a
half ago he started moving more sort of
kinda he’s kind of hard to corral but
the intention was that he would move
more toward inspirational speaking so I
was on his show yesterday and I wasn’t
physically there we recorded a couple of
weeks ago because I was here yesterday
launching my book and one of the key
things was how do I shift my
relationships and you’ll realize that
when you look at the quality of your
life you’re gonna look at relationships
and you’re gonna look at money those are
the two things that’s absorbs so much of
our energy as money and relationships
and one of the things I said that in
relationships we make the mistake of
thinking we can change someone and
thinking if they just change like this
they’ll be okay with me and the reality
is can you love them where they are I
see the giggles can you love them where
they are if they never change can you
of them and if you say yes to that then
you become more of an inspiration for
change versus a push for change does
that make sense you guys if you agree to
love them as is as is then you inspire
change versus push change and the second
thing is and these are the two key
things that I said on his show yesterday
is relationships begin to shift and go
downhill when you’re more committed to
being right then you are to being in
harmony you forget that harmony is more
important than being right that at the
end of a debate discussion argument most
of the time all you want to know is
where am i right
was i right though and yet you’ve killed
off the relationship in that moment now
there’s silent dinners and silent hours
in the house when in fact you just want
to be reconnected so if you commit to
harmony over being right and then in
finances and I always like to leave
people with this I was just that essence
I did an 8-hour 8-hour eight station 11
City radio interview this morning then I
left there and went to essence and I
left there and came to you guys I’m just
getting started it’s a day right wake up
ready
and over at essence they asked can you
talk about money
you know coz money has such an energy
attached to it and I’m gonna I’m gonna
rattle off some blueprints you may want
to write this down because this was a
big shift for me around my mindset
around money number one you won’t ever
attract more money to you until you
become a even greater steward of the
money that you have that when you mind
your pennies dollars will flow but if
you are currently not the best steward
of the money that you have meaning you
spend it fast you give it away you don’t
know how much you have then it’s
difficult for the universe to give you
more of what you’re not taking risk
total and the highest level of
responsibility around that’s the ouch
but it’s the truth like I kept wanting
to make more money but I wasn’t minding
the money I was making right and when I
begin to mind because my money my mother
used to say money burns her pockets so I
thought money was hot and I had to spend
it fast and once I learned how to mind
my existing money all of a sudden I
begin to have space to attract more
money in my space so being a good
steward of your existing dollars are
very
very important because that will bring
about more more more prosperity I don’t
want to say well because prosperity
comes in many different forms but
there’s several blueprints that you have
and I’m gonna rattle through these fast
so that I can go into Q&A you have
blueprints around money and the
blueprint is an unconscious
awareness you don’t even know you’re
listening to this is gonna be really
interesting but and I talked about this
and unpacked this in the book unpack
this in the book I actually have you
take a financial assessment in the book
so you just can kind of see where you
are financially you rate yourself and
then you focus on the areas that you
didn’t write where you wanted to write
it it’s a very personal powerful tool
the assessments in the book so your
money blueprint there are several money
blueprints that you want to look at one
you have a cultural money blueprint the
way your culture relates to money has a
lot to do with how you relate to money
unconsciously right now not even
consciously but the way your culture my
culture my Gremory can make a dime going
twenty different direction I called it a
gift so it’s my honor to make a dime
going 20 different directions so when I
found myself having twenty-one dimes
it was actually more of a problem
that makes sense you guys because I was
so used to culturally making my dime
stretching all the sudden my dime didn’t
have to stretch when I my company got to
nine hundred and seventy five thousand
dollars we were in October and I talked
about money openly because it means it
only means what you make it mean it
doesn’t mean a lot it’s just it’s just a
measure of work that’s it
when I got to nine hundred seventy five
thousand dollars it was in October I
stopped working the rest of the year I
said I was tired then the next year I
got to nine hundred and eighty-two
thousand dollars by August I wanted to
stop working again for the rest of the
year didn’t make sense that was like six
months so I was forced to look at why
was I slowing down right before a
million dollars every year because I was
afraid that if I made a million dollars
it would change Who I am as a woman as a
woman of color as a black woman my
cousins were all talking about robbing
Peter to pay Paul I wanted to stay in
the conversation you will you as much as
you want to have success you want
community more than you want success
right and unconsciously you can start
what I call moonwalking you look like
you’re moving but you’re not going
anywhere because you’re afraid you might
be so different I don’t know I’m just
sharing with you these can be
unconscious converse I’m not implying
this is you I’m just telling you these
are some things that happen what
happened to me it’s happened to many
people so culturally gender wise you
have a conversation around money as it
comes to gender men your masculinity is
attached to how much money you make how
successful you are and your ability to
provide for your family unfortunately
your masculinity is attached to that
right or wrong I’m not saying any of
this is right or wrong it’s just how
societies put it out there to us and you
take it on or you don’t a woman either
you grow up and get a good job or what
are you marry rich man I haven’t got a
good job either you get a good job and
you get a good man with a good job right
we’re raised that way right so I just
want to show you some society
unconscious influences that
and so even now a woman can be equally
as qualified in the same role as a man
as she’s still making less than a man
because we take that on societies take
them off your next blueprint so there’s
culture blueprint
there’s your gender blueprint the next
is your geographical blueprint how money
was related to in your community was it
a struggle was a gator get got was it
keep up with the Joneses
was it fluid and flowing whatever that
is its had an impression on you around
money I’m speaking to all of your
unconscious influences you guys and then
there’s your economic and your
economical blueprint how was money in
your house was a divisive was an
inclusive did it by the lifestyle you
want it as a child vacation to the
family and all that good stuff or did it
keep your parents away because they were
always working to provide money for you
whatever your economical blueprint was
that’s what you’ll have and then last is
your spiritual blueprint however your
spiritual background or your religious
background no matter even if you move
from religious to spiritual whatever
your religion religious blueprint was
you there’s some unconscious influence
Baptist ours mine was you don’t need
money so that’s why I stopped working
every time I got to that point cuz I
felt like oh I don’t need money I’ll
need that much money and so my spiritual
influence was blueprint was really
influencing me until I said thank you so
because we often wait for the fear to go
away to take action and when you realize
that fear is actually your friend fear
is not an enemy
I love disrupting things like this fear
is only your enemy when you allow it to
paralyze your your movement but fear
will get you up early
fear will make you do your research fear
will humble you out fear will have you
asked for help
fear is your friend when you use it to
inform you of what do you need
whenever I’m afraid and I stay afraid
because I’m always playing so freaking
bad I’m like are we gonna do that right
haven’t I been playing big ever since we
I find with Harper on this book like
we’re gonna do this and we’re gonna do
that then I go and go so fear feeds you
so what I want to celebrate you from
moving afraid and sharing it with your
husband secondly I want to remind you
and I’ll say this respectfully don’t
share your million-dollar dreams with
dollar thinkers she’s it I’m right there
I don’t don’t like be selective who you
share your million-dollar dreams with
Sharon but Sharon what people were gonna
put helium in your balloon that was
Cheryl people gonna try to throw a pin
at it why would I make my blue expose my
dream balloons if someone who would a
bunch of darts doesn’t say we don’t love
them any less but based on where they’re
dreaming and thinking they have to see
the evidence before it becomes real when
I talked about my company was named
motivating the masses in 1992 you guys I
didn’t even touch the masses in 2008
that’s how long it was my dream no one
even knew I had the company name in my
family because they only knew I had
motivating the teen spirit cuz they
could see me working with teens but I
had motivating the masses over there and
it could and I would tell the people who
can hold that dream and they will
constantly put helium in that dream and
then when I when I was on Oprah kid you
not I was on Oprah talking about the
secret in 2007 and when I went home my
family said we’re angry at you I said
why are you angered me because you
keeping some kind of secret that’s what
they knew about the secret
I said no that’s a project that’s a book
that’s the video they’re like what what
what what I was like I gave you the book
like two years ago they’re like oh
you’re ioan open that I could tell so I
selected Lee choose who you shared that
million dollar dream with first of all
so that you don’t feel deflated have you
ever shared a dream with someone and the
dream busters just came swooped in and
start busting the dream and you were
afraid and it made you kind of doubt the
dream a little more oh no no no no no
don’t don’t make me doubt my dream I’m
so your job is to share with the right
people and not hold people who can’t
dream that be responsible for
celebrating your dream that’s unfair of
for you to do that’s not that’s number
number one number two I love where you
are make a clear concrete plan don’t do
some day I want the next time I see you
talk to you come on follow me on
Facebook talk to me and my email I want
to know the day you start traveling so
January so January 1 okay so then I want
to know
watch this level of clarity so am ambach
ambiguous goals bring about ambiguous
results but when you get to a new level
of crystal clarity watch this
tell me the day you start traveling tell
me the airline you’re going to choose
tell me the flight number I’ll care the
flight number changes but pick a flight
to the location and choose that flight
number right take a picture of the
luggage that you’re going to use take a
picture of the way you’re gonna make
money even if someone else is making
that kind of money now of how they’re
making it put all that inside your
reality book not your dream book and
your reality book get so crystal clear
share with your husband share with your
children start talking about things
where are you going to travel get a
postcard from the first place you don’t
go to like order it go somewhere I find
them and bring them into your existence
start eating it breathe it walk it talk
it when you sweat it comes from your
pores so that’s all you’re doing your
start drawing it to you faster you’ll
start building up momentum toward it
when you do that and then get an action
and then one of the first things is
they’ll take you for you to do
find out how much does it if it does it
cost to buy your freedom I found out how
much it costs to buy my freedom I was
working for LA Unified School District
and I got my first check I wrote to
myself was a hundred and ten dollars
it’s in the book I just follow what I
did from the book about buying your
freak I wrote a check to myself for $110
I’ve put in the memo line funding my
dream I wanted to clear with the dream
boys and I would have checked it myself
every two weeks for three and a half
as I walked into Wells Fargo
and I said my name is Lisa Nichols I
said Oh coz I used to mail the check in
and I wouldn’t open the statements cuz I
was afraid I’d spend the money if I open
the statement cuz my mother said money
burned her pocket so I don’t want to
burn my pocket so if I didn’t know you
you gotta trick yourself sometimes right
so I said if I don’t know I’m not gonna
spend it so I went into Wells Fargo I
said my name is Lisa Nichols I came to
check my balance they said you’re the
funding my dream lady I said because I
wrote that every time every two weeks in
the memo line for three and a half years
and they all ran around the teller and I
said yes I am they said we got a
question managers came around and said
what’s the dream right and I said my son
was five and a half then he I started
when he was two I said I’m not sure oh
my god make myself cry I said I’m not
sure but I had something to do what
inspiring people assume there’s
inspiring people all around the world
and I said I just came to check my
balance they wrote the balance down turn
it around and it says $62,500 I turned
it back around giving back to I said my
social security is five four nine six
seven I don’t even want that money it’s
not my money I don’t want to y’all gonna
ask more back I know that’s not for me
my family has never had $5,000 in the
bank I know I don’t have 62,000 and they
cheered up I cheered up and they said
miss Nichols you have sixty two thousand
five hundred dollars what are you gonna
do with it
and I say I don’t know but my dream gets
funded today and that’s why I started so
you’re on the right path
I can give her hand so my goal was to
come and just do a little or a lot of
disruption my goal was to stir something
in your soul to make you stretch a
little further to the Magnificent
feature that belongs to you
it belongs to you by burglar abundance
now is not a abundance later abundance
when you get it alright abundance when
you its abundance now like what better
time than now so I just stopped by to
inspiring I’m gonna hang around on the
sign books and it takes and itches and
hopefully create just a little
needlepoint move and trajectory of your
life
and in the future you’ll have to
remember my name
you know I’d remember anything just
remember the moment you make
because that’s what matters your life
is most more valuable to the people that
it inspires it will actually ever be
clean
your job is towards
that list from your legacy will live
much longer than you
anyone
himself Cinderella
Holika 3006 t who got a c-plus in school
in 12 years that was my highest grade
the last time I took English I got a
fail and my English teacher told me I
was the weakest writer she ever met in
her entire life and the last time right
I should send her a book right with my
face on a right autograph some of your
best motivation does not come wrapped in
a red bow it comes wrapped in sandpaper
you get to use everything as fuel the
last time I got a took a speech class I
got a d-minus and my speech teacher said
quote unquote miss Nichols I recommend
you never speak in public some of your
best motivation might come wrapped in
sandpaper I just stopped by to disrupt
you a bit to inspire you a bit and to
hold on and love you a bit I hope it’s
been good for you guys because definitely good for me