there are so many people in the world
and and and you know you may be watching
this right now and you have these
incredible ideas and what you think is
missing is motivation and that’s not
true because the way that our minds are
wired and the fact about human beings is
that we are not designed to do things
that are uncomfortable or scary or
difficult our brains are designed to
protect us from those things because our
brains are trying to keep us alive and
in order to change in order to build a
business in order to be the best parent
the best spouse to do all those things
that you know you want to do with your
life with your work with your dreams
you’re gonna have to do things that are
difficult uncertain or scary which sets
up this problem for all of us you’re
never gonna feel like it motivations
garbage you you only feel motivated to
do the things that are easy right what
do you think that is oh I know exactly
why that is because I I’ve studied this
so much because for me one of the
hardest things to figure out was why is
it so hard to do the little things that
would improve my life and what I’ve come
to realize and what we’ll talk a lot
about today is that the way that our
minds are designed is our minds are
designed to stop you at all costs from
doing anything that might hurt you and
the way that that that that this all
happens is it all starts with something
super subtle that none of us ever catch
and that is with this habit that all of
us have that nobody’s talking about we
all have a habit of hesitating hmm we
have an idea you’re sitting in a meeting
you have this incredible idea and
instead of just you know saying it you
stop and you hesitate now what none of
us realize is that when you hesitate
just that moment that micro moment that
small hesitation it sends a stress
signal to your brain it wakes your brain
up and your brain all of a sudden goes
oh wait a minute wait why is he
hesitating he didn’t hesitate when he
put on his
spikey sneakers he didn’t hesitate with
the really cool track pants he didn’t
hesitate with the NASA t-shirt now he’s
hesitating to talk something must be up
so then your brain goes to work to
protect you it has a million different
ways to protect you one of them is
called the spotlight effect it’s a known
phenomenon where your brain magnifies
risk why to pull you away from something
that it perceives to be a problem and so
you can truly trace every single problem
or complaint in your life to silence and
hesitation those are decisions and what
I do and what’s changed my life is
waking up and realizing that motivations
garbage I’m never gonna feel like doing
the things that are tough for difficult
or uncertain or scary or new so I need
to stop waiting until I feel like it and
number two I am one decision away from a
totally different marriage a totally
different life a totally different job a
totally different income a totally
different relationship with my kids
not like one decision I’m divorcing you
in in the marriage example but one
decision on you know you could be having
a conversation with your spouse and you
feel your emotions rise up and within a
tiny window those emotions can take over
and can impact how your marriage goes or
you can learn how to take control of
that micro moment and make a decision to
act in a way that actually shifts your
marriage your life comes down to your
decisions and if you change your
decisions you will change everything now
here’s a few more things on
communication one is to have something
good to say and number two is to say it
well now here’s number three this is
where some people now start to lose it
and that’s to read your audience
if you’re talking to a child you got to
read because we have that expression
right do you read me so if a child now
is listening you need to know whether or
not they read you are you getting it if
you’re talking to a large audience you
need to know if they’re getting it I had
some trouble with us now in the
beginning because I used to just lecture
with all my notes and just keep on going
I think in those early days some of the
audiences could have left right and I
would have just you know kept right on
going it took me a while to look up and
see what’s happening
do I need to slow down do I need to
speed up do I need to get a little
softer should I save that for some other
time is this a little too strong for now
you get that by reading your audience
what’s happening I remember the first
time I spoke to 10,000 Zig Ziglar was
along Zig Ziglar and Paul Harvey and dr.
norman vincent peale this is a long time
ago back in those early days and I think
we were in Kansas City 10,000 had never
spoken to 10,000 people before in my
life Wow Zig said to me Jim Rohn you
better be good and you better watch
what’s happening
because when 10,000 people turn on you
you’re in trouble I thought whoa so this
time when I’m up there lecturing I’m
looking in the balconies right I’m
looking everywhere to see if it’s going
okay going over I never forget that
experience so if you got this now you’ve
got to read the face of a child you’ve
got to read what’s happening so you’ll
know how to proceed so now let me give
you three ways to read here’s the first
one you read what you see pick up the
signals you can see if you’re talking to
somebody they got their arms crossed
like this and their chin tucked down and
they’re frowning hey this one looks like
you’ve got you’ve got your work cut out
for you this one’s not going to be easy
so we pick up those signals by what we
see somebody’s leaning toward the door
they’re not going to be here long so we
pick up what we see now here’s the
second one we pick up what we hear mama
said to me if you want to be a good
speaker you have to be a good listener
if you want to communicate well with
someone you talk let them talk you talk
about thin talk in fact mama said with
two ears and one mouth you should listen
twice as much as you talk and I thought
that’s not a bad idea so listening helps
you to pick up the signals what to say
next you listen to someone’s comments
and then you answer the question or you
continue the conversation so we pick up
what we see second we pick up what we
hear now here’s the third one that’s a
little mysterious you’ve got to pick up
what you feel here’s another place where
women have it a little over the men
because they learn to pick up these
emotional signals where a man might
ignore them a woman seems to sense it
they pick up everything especially
danger
women are so good on danger I think that
was way back Papa’s off providing Mama’s
home protecting and she learned to
recognize the sounds she learned to
recognize when there might be danger so
she developed these incredible instincts
women have it men can learn it takes a
little more for us to learn that women
seem to have it built in in the middle
of the night the baby cries Mama’s awake
Papa sleep mother’s sleep near the
surface waiting for the least of the
or in the middle of the night she nudges
her husband says go look good look good
something isn’t right he said I’m
telling you everything’s okay she says
go look he says okay he gets out of bed
stumbles downstairs the front door is
interesting analogy in the Bible here’s
what it said there are shepherds and
there are sheep and there are wolves
pretty standard right so you got to make
sheep we’ve got to look out for the
wolves Shepherds got to be careful
keep the wolves from getting the sheep
that’s not the end of the story here’s
what it says you got to be so careful
because some wolves have learned to
now you need a woman man says looks like
a sheet talks like a sheep woman said
ain’t no she I don’t know how they know
they just know when I was putting some
enterprises together years and years ago
when I was interviewing someone to be
part of the enterprise I used to have
woman Cydia that worked with me and when
the interview was over I knew what I
heard and I knew what I saw but I would
ask her but how did you feel she would
say hey I felt good now I didn’t always
take him into account but I never left
it out or she would say something
something something women know this
something stuff something tells me some
what is that I don’t know but here’s
what it can be very useful never ignore
it now men can learn to pick up these
emotional signals signals that tell you
you shouldn’t talk this harsh you should
back off a little bit yes there are some
things you should come on strong but I’m
telling you come on this is part of what
we ultimately pick up the emotional
so number one have something good to say
number two say it well number three
learn to read your audience now here’s
number four the fourth key to good
communication is intensity the power of
your emotion because there’s certainly a
difference in intellect and emotion but
here’s the key they must work together
the intellect the language and the
now the question always comes and some
of this you have to decide you know in
sort of a split second how much emotion
so jot this down enough emotion to fit
the occasion enough emotion to fit the
occasion
or enough emotion to fit the point you
don’t need a major explosion for a minor
some kids have an honest beef
by saying you make too big a deal out of
a little deal
this is good for parents to learn leave
a little deal as a little deal don’t
make a big deal out of a little deal
because that’s too confusing now if it
is a big deal you make it a big deal but
if it’s a little deal that’s too much
emotion that’s too much sometimes to
handle making such a big deal out of a
little deal
so this emotional content now and what
you say is very important because the
emotion is so powerful in fact it’s the
emotion that drives the language that
speaks to the heart and the mind in the
soul it’s the emotion that drives the
language to speak to the heart it said
on the day that Christian church was
started a magnificent sermon was
preached to a multitude huge crowd of
people and it said some that heard this
fabulous presentation were smitten they
were hit by the message they were hit by
the words it got him like a sword the
words be that powerful that it’s lights
grabbed your consciousness and shakes it
up drives it to your heart you say whoa
yes but the key is you have to use it
wisely
words are like a little straight pin I
buy a shirt rights got a little pin so
you’d take these pins up what if I took
one of those little straight pins and I
threw it at you and that little straight
pin hit you in the face or hit you you’d
feel it but what if I took that little
straight pin and wired it to the end of
an errand barn about to steal and let
you have it
see I could drive the pin through your
fire so make the note now the pin is the
words the onion bars the emotions talk
about effective if you learn not to just
use your language but if you learn to
use your emotions your effectiveness so
multiply that 2 by 3 by fragmenting an
emotion makes all the difference in the
he
measured emotions
with well-selected words that’s what’s
power measured emotions not too much
[Music]
we say don’t shoot a cannon at a rabbit
that’s too much firepower it’s effective
one of my speaker friend said you should
have been there the other day I blew
them all away I said oh no where are
they now you blew them all oh that’s not
necessary now too little emotion when a
actor on the stage or in the movies they
have to miss a good script with properly
measured emotions not too much to look
ridiculous for the pointer for the
occasion and not too little to lose them
you say wow this is a pretty good art to
learn it is and guess how often we’re
faced with it every day what to say and
how much emotion to put into whatever we
now next let’s talk now about being
these are highly emotional tools and if
you’re skillful they can be very useful
but you’ve got to underline the word
last tools of last resort when we’re
dealing with problems and challenges
when we’re dealing with opportunity and
promise and future sometimes we have to
use these tools of last resort not to be
used unless there’s like no hope left
and this is the only thing left Oh Joe
Kennedy taught his son John a key phrase
it can be used so many ways I want you
to jot it down and then we’ll go through
it here’s what old Joe taught John if it
is not necessary to change it is
necessary not to change it is not
necessary to change it’s necessary not
now the key is also with these tools of
last resort if it’s not necessary to use
these tools of last resort it is
so now let’s talk about two semesters
here’s number one your temper now there
are occasions when it’s okay to lose
your temper I mean it’s because there’s
no hope left the only way to correct
this situation perhaps is to just let it
all go but here’s the key to temper not
every day and not all day as a tool of
last last last resort you might resort
to your template there’s only two or
three occasions recorded to where Jesus
lost his cool just two or three but when
he did the day he dealt like could come
at you grabbed a whip and drove them all
out of the temple and kicked over the
tables and the money scattered
everywhere and so did the people and he
justanna two or three occasions he used
some money anybody would use that
language would fear for your life but he
didn’t use an everyday didn’t use it on
every occasion because he talked to
little children then he lost his the
full range of emotions gentle with the
children when the occasion called for so
he got that now tools the blasters
tempers one if it is not necessary to
lose your temper it is necessary not to
lose it hang on to next a direct attack
where you go after someone directly
usually to solve a problem we go
indirectly and we tell you about the men
who said it was gonna be ok it doesn’t
here’s what I told him and he ignored me
here’s what happened to it now you’re
trying to get this message across to
somebody you’re talking to but instead
of telling them directly you use the
illustration here’s what we call it a
third party rather than direct sometimes
you use third party to talk about
something that you don’t want to be so
confrontational with someone you talk
about someone that you’ve had this
occasion to talk with this particular
problem before here’s how we solved
but then sometimes it’s called for
it’s got to be very careful
here’s why
emotional highly charged emotional
conversation deals with matters of the
heart and when you deal with matters of
the heart you got to be very careful
even if the heart needs an operation if
you were about to go under to have a
heart operation then you heard the
doctor say
hand me the hatchet you’d come awake so
make this note now you can’t you can’t
operate on the heart with a hatchet when
you get ready to operate on the emotions
and the heart and the spirit or the soul
you got to be very very very very
careful
next scolding you got to be very careful
of scolding because it is so highly
emotionally charged especially in public
gotta be very careful somebody walks in
late you say where have you been
see that’s loaded you wouldn’t want to
do that unless it happened so often and
there was no other hope to correct the
situation to blurt out something
anything but on the first occasion no
you find other ways but as a tool of
last resort you could use scolding
you’ve got to be careful in scolding
your tool only when it’s totally
necessary uncalled for
what if you scolded the children all day
long all day long all day long here’s
what scolding does it sort of cuts to
get somebody’s attention now the cut
will heal and maybe you need him to cut
somebody to get their attention and now
you can cover the matter and it’s okay
and defined names someday it’ll be
forgotten
but if you did it move it some parents
and yes it may heal but who knows what
psychic scars may be left by being
slashed every day cut every day cut down
every day so if you underlined it now
tools of last resort to scold some
things are too severe some language is
some punishments are necessary but we
consider some punishments a little too
severe in some countries if you steal
they will cut off your hand and we say
maybe a little piece of the finger maybe
but you know not the whole not the whole
hand but it is effective
you said you ever steal anything else he
said you kiddin with one hand I mean you
know my stealing days are over but now
remember now jot this down now severity
only when it’s called for severity only
when it’s called for not to be used
recklessly because you’ve got the
ability to talk and use it to save it to
save it to save it if mama screams all
day see it finally used loses the kids
learned it just tolerated someone comes
to visit and they say don’t mind mama
she’s just a screamer right she just
screams all see now it’s lost its
effectiveness and now it could be tragic
the little three-year-old is headed for
the street and a truck is coming and
Momma screams everybody ignores it if
mama saves up her scream so that the day
she screams the world stops and
everybody around their blood turns to
ice water because she saved it up and
now jot this down the more you care the
stronger you can be
when it comes time for strength and
and maybe using tools of estrogen here’s
where they can be useful is if you
really care the more you care the
stronger you can be all of us will allow
somebody to really get on our case if we
know they really do but if we don’t
think they’re they care really care we
would resist all efforts to browbeat it
sort to do some things as a tool of
don’t mind a minister consigning my soul
I don’t mind that as long as he doesn’t
wouldn’t we all resist a dry-eyed sermon
on Hellfire you can’t preach health care
for human beings unless you sob and the
tears flow but if you preached hail fire
for human beings with dry eyes and your
heart wasn’t broken all of us would
there are some conversations you cannot
have with your children until the tears
flow and your heart breaks otherwise the
conversation doesn’t make sense if the
tools and letters but you can be very
powerful very strong and deal with some
tough stuff if you really [Music]
and and and you know you may be watching
this right now and you have these
incredible ideas and what you think is
missing is motivation and that’s not
true because the way that our minds are
wired and the fact about human beings is
that we are not designed to do things
that are uncomfortable or scary or
difficult our brains are designed to
protect us from those things because our
brains are trying to keep us alive and
in order to change in order to build a
business in order to be the best parent
the best spouse to do all those things
that you know you want to do with your
life with your work with your dreams
you’re gonna have to do things that are
difficult uncertain or scary which sets
up this problem for all of us you’re
never gonna feel like it motivations
garbage you you only feel motivated to
do the things that are easy right what
do you think that is oh I know exactly
why that is because I I’ve studied this
so much because for me one of the
hardest things to figure out was why is
it so hard to do the little things that
would improve my life and what I’ve come
to realize and what we’ll talk a lot
about today is that the way that our
minds are designed is our minds are
designed to stop you at all costs from
doing anything that might hurt you and
the way that that that that this all
happens is it all starts with something
super subtle that none of us ever catch
and that is with this habit that all of
us have that nobody’s talking about we
all have a habit of hesitating hmm we
have an idea you’re sitting in a meeting
you have this incredible idea and
instead of just you know saying it you
stop and you hesitate now what none of
us realize is that when you hesitate
just that moment that micro moment that
small hesitation it sends a stress
signal to your brain it wakes your brain
up and your brain all of a sudden goes
oh wait a minute wait why is he
hesitating he didn’t hesitate when he
put on his
spikey sneakers he didn’t hesitate with
the really cool track pants he didn’t
hesitate with the NASA t-shirt now he’s
hesitating to talk something must be up
so then your brain goes to work to
protect you it has a million different
ways to protect you one of them is
called the spotlight effect it’s a known
phenomenon where your brain magnifies
risk why to pull you away from something
that it perceives to be a problem and so
you can truly trace every single problem
or complaint in your life to silence and
hesitation those are decisions and what
I do and what’s changed my life is
waking up and realizing that motivations
garbage I’m never gonna feel like doing
the things that are tough for difficult
or uncertain or scary or new so I need
to stop waiting until I feel like it and
number two I am one decision away from a
totally different marriage a totally
different life a totally different job a
totally different income a totally
different relationship with my kids
not like one decision I’m divorcing you
in in the marriage example but one
decision on you know you could be having
a conversation with your spouse and you
feel your emotions rise up and within a
tiny window those emotions can take over
and can impact how your marriage goes or
you can learn how to take control of
that micro moment and make a decision to
act in a way that actually shifts your
marriage your life comes down to your
decisions and if you change your
decisions you will change everything now
here’s a few more things on
communication one is to have something
good to say and number two is to say it
well now here’s number three this is
where some people now start to lose it
and that’s to read your audience
if you’re talking to a child you got to
read because we have that expression
right do you read me so if a child now
is listening you need to know whether or
not they read you are you getting it if
you’re talking to a large audience you
need to know if they’re getting it I had
some trouble with us now in the
beginning because I used to just lecture
with all my notes and just keep on going
I think in those early days some of the
audiences could have left right and I
would have just you know kept right on
going it took me a while to look up and
see what’s happening
do I need to slow down do I need to
speed up do I need to get a little
softer should I save that for some other
time is this a little too strong for now
you get that by reading your audience
what’s happening I remember the first
time I spoke to 10,000 Zig Ziglar was
along Zig Ziglar and Paul Harvey and dr.
norman vincent peale this is a long time
ago back in those early days and I think
we were in Kansas City 10,000 had never
spoken to 10,000 people before in my
life Wow Zig said to me Jim Rohn you
better be good and you better watch
what’s happening
because when 10,000 people turn on you
you’re in trouble I thought whoa so this
time when I’m up there lecturing I’m
looking in the balconies right I’m
looking everywhere to see if it’s going
okay going over I never forget that
experience so if you got this now you’ve
got to read the face of a child you’ve
got to read what’s happening so you’ll
know how to proceed so now let me give
you three ways to read here’s the first
one you read what you see pick up the
signals you can see if you’re talking to
somebody they got their arms crossed
like this and their chin tucked down and
they’re frowning hey this one looks like
you’ve got you’ve got your work cut out
for you this one’s not going to be easy
so we pick up those signals by what we
see somebody’s leaning toward the door
they’re not going to be here long so we
pick up what we see now here’s the
second one we pick up what we hear mama
said to me if you want to be a good
speaker you have to be a good listener
if you want to communicate well with
someone you talk let them talk you talk
about thin talk in fact mama said with
two ears and one mouth you should listen
twice as much as you talk and I thought
that’s not a bad idea so listening helps
you to pick up the signals what to say
next you listen to someone’s comments
and then you answer the question or you
continue the conversation so we pick up
what we see second we pick up what we
hear now here’s the third one that’s a
little mysterious you’ve got to pick up
what you feel here’s another place where
women have it a little over the men
because they learn to pick up these
emotional signals where a man might
ignore them a woman seems to sense it
they pick up everything especially
danger
women are so good on danger I think that
was way back Papa’s off providing Mama’s
home protecting and she learned to
recognize the sounds she learned to
recognize when there might be danger so
she developed these incredible instincts
women have it men can learn it takes a
little more for us to learn that women
seem to have it built in in the middle
of the night the baby cries Mama’s awake
Papa sleep mother’s sleep near the
surface waiting for the least of the
or in the middle of the night she nudges
her husband says go look good look good
something isn’t right he said I’m
telling you everything’s okay she says
go look he says okay he gets out of bed
stumbles downstairs the front door is
interesting analogy in the Bible here’s
what it said there are shepherds and
there are sheep and there are wolves
pretty standard right so you got to make
sheep we’ve got to look out for the
wolves Shepherds got to be careful
keep the wolves from getting the sheep
that’s not the end of the story here’s
what it says you got to be so careful
because some wolves have learned to
now you need a woman man says looks like
a sheet talks like a sheep woman said
ain’t no she I don’t know how they know
they just know when I was putting some
enterprises together years and years ago
when I was interviewing someone to be
part of the enterprise I used to have
woman Cydia that worked with me and when
the interview was over I knew what I
heard and I knew what I saw but I would
ask her but how did you feel she would
say hey I felt good now I didn’t always
take him into account but I never left
it out or she would say something
something something women know this
something stuff something tells me some
what is that I don’t know but here’s
what it can be very useful never ignore
it now men can learn to pick up these
emotional signals signals that tell you
you shouldn’t talk this harsh you should
back off a little bit yes there are some
things you should come on strong but I’m
telling you come on this is part of what
we ultimately pick up the emotional
so number one have something good to say
number two say it well number three
learn to read your audience now here’s
number four the fourth key to good
communication is intensity the power of
your emotion because there’s certainly a
difference in intellect and emotion but
here’s the key they must work together
the intellect the language and the
now the question always comes and some
of this you have to decide you know in
sort of a split second how much emotion
so jot this down enough emotion to fit
the occasion enough emotion to fit the
occasion
or enough emotion to fit the point you
don’t need a major explosion for a minor
some kids have an honest beef
by saying you make too big a deal out of
a little deal
this is good for parents to learn leave
a little deal as a little deal don’t
make a big deal out of a little deal
because that’s too confusing now if it
is a big deal you make it a big deal but
if it’s a little deal that’s too much
emotion that’s too much sometimes to
handle making such a big deal out of a
little deal
so this emotional content now and what
you say is very important because the
emotion is so powerful in fact it’s the
emotion that drives the language that
speaks to the heart and the mind in the
soul it’s the emotion that drives the
language to speak to the heart it said
on the day that Christian church was
started a magnificent sermon was
preached to a multitude huge crowd of
people and it said some that heard this
fabulous presentation were smitten they
were hit by the message they were hit by
the words it got him like a sword the
words be that powerful that it’s lights
grabbed your consciousness and shakes it
up drives it to your heart you say whoa
yes but the key is you have to use it
wisely
words are like a little straight pin I
buy a shirt rights got a little pin so
you’d take these pins up what if I took
one of those little straight pins and I
threw it at you and that little straight
pin hit you in the face or hit you you’d
feel it but what if I took that little
straight pin and wired it to the end of
an errand barn about to steal and let
you have it
see I could drive the pin through your
fire so make the note now the pin is the
words the onion bars the emotions talk
about effective if you learn not to just
use your language but if you learn to
use your emotions your effectiveness so
multiply that 2 by 3 by fragmenting an
emotion makes all the difference in the
he
measured emotions
with well-selected words that’s what’s
power measured emotions not too much
[Music]
we say don’t shoot a cannon at a rabbit
that’s too much firepower it’s effective
one of my speaker friend said you should
have been there the other day I blew
them all away I said oh no where are
they now you blew them all oh that’s not
necessary now too little emotion when a
actor on the stage or in the movies they
have to miss a good script with properly
measured emotions not too much to look
ridiculous for the pointer for the
occasion and not too little to lose them
you say wow this is a pretty good art to
learn it is and guess how often we’re
faced with it every day what to say and
how much emotion to put into whatever we
now next let’s talk now about being
these are highly emotional tools and if
you’re skillful they can be very useful
but you’ve got to underline the word
last tools of last resort when we’re
dealing with problems and challenges
when we’re dealing with opportunity and
promise and future sometimes we have to
use these tools of last resort not to be
used unless there’s like no hope left
and this is the only thing left Oh Joe
Kennedy taught his son John a key phrase
it can be used so many ways I want you
to jot it down and then we’ll go through
it here’s what old Joe taught John if it
is not necessary to change it is
necessary not to change it is not
necessary to change it’s necessary not
now the key is also with these tools of
last resort if it’s not necessary to use
these tools of last resort it is
so now let’s talk about two semesters
here’s number one your temper now there
are occasions when it’s okay to lose
your temper I mean it’s because there’s
no hope left the only way to correct
this situation perhaps is to just let it
all go but here’s the key to temper not
every day and not all day as a tool of
last last last resort you might resort
to your template there’s only two or
three occasions recorded to where Jesus
lost his cool just two or three but when
he did the day he dealt like could come
at you grabbed a whip and drove them all
out of the temple and kicked over the
tables and the money scattered
everywhere and so did the people and he
justanna two or three occasions he used
some money anybody would use that
language would fear for your life but he
didn’t use an everyday didn’t use it on
every occasion because he talked to
little children then he lost his the
full range of emotions gentle with the
children when the occasion called for so
he got that now tools the blasters
tempers one if it is not necessary to
lose your temper it is necessary not to
lose it hang on to next a direct attack
where you go after someone directly
usually to solve a problem we go
indirectly and we tell you about the men
who said it was gonna be ok it doesn’t
here’s what I told him and he ignored me
here’s what happened to it now you’re
trying to get this message across to
somebody you’re talking to but instead
of telling them directly you use the
illustration here’s what we call it a
third party rather than direct sometimes
you use third party to talk about
something that you don’t want to be so
confrontational with someone you talk
about someone that you’ve had this
occasion to talk with this particular
problem before here’s how we solved
but then sometimes it’s called for
it’s got to be very careful
here’s why
emotional highly charged emotional
conversation deals with matters of the
heart and when you deal with matters of
the heart you got to be very careful
even if the heart needs an operation if
you were about to go under to have a
heart operation then you heard the
doctor say
hand me the hatchet you’d come awake so
make this note now you can’t you can’t
operate on the heart with a hatchet when
you get ready to operate on the emotions
and the heart and the spirit or the soul
you got to be very very very very
careful
next scolding you got to be very careful
of scolding because it is so highly
emotionally charged especially in public
gotta be very careful somebody walks in
late you say where have you been
see that’s loaded you wouldn’t want to
do that unless it happened so often and
there was no other hope to correct the
situation to blurt out something
anything but on the first occasion no
you find other ways but as a tool of
last resort you could use scolding
you’ve got to be careful in scolding
your tool only when it’s totally
necessary uncalled for
what if you scolded the children all day
long all day long all day long here’s
what scolding does it sort of cuts to
get somebody’s attention now the cut
will heal and maybe you need him to cut
somebody to get their attention and now
you can cover the matter and it’s okay
and defined names someday it’ll be
forgotten
but if you did it move it some parents
and yes it may heal but who knows what
psychic scars may be left by being
slashed every day cut every day cut down
every day so if you underlined it now
tools of last resort to scold some
things are too severe some language is
some punishments are necessary but we
consider some punishments a little too
severe in some countries if you steal
they will cut off your hand and we say
maybe a little piece of the finger maybe
but you know not the whole not the whole
hand but it is effective
you said you ever steal anything else he
said you kiddin with one hand I mean you
know my stealing days are over but now
remember now jot this down now severity
only when it’s called for severity only
when it’s called for not to be used
recklessly because you’ve got the
ability to talk and use it to save it to
save it to save it if mama screams all
day see it finally used loses the kids
learned it just tolerated someone comes
to visit and they say don’t mind mama
she’s just a screamer right she just
screams all see now it’s lost its
effectiveness and now it could be tragic
the little three-year-old is headed for
the street and a truck is coming and
Momma screams everybody ignores it if
mama saves up her scream so that the day
she screams the world stops and
everybody around their blood turns to
ice water because she saved it up and
now jot this down the more you care the
stronger you can be
when it comes time for strength and
and maybe using tools of estrogen here’s
where they can be useful is if you
really care the more you care the
stronger you can be all of us will allow
somebody to really get on our case if we
know they really do but if we don’t
think they’re they care really care we
would resist all efforts to browbeat it
sort to do some things as a tool of
don’t mind a minister consigning my soul
I don’t mind that as long as he doesn’t
wouldn’t we all resist a dry-eyed sermon
on Hellfire you can’t preach health care
for human beings unless you sob and the
tears flow but if you preached hail fire
for human beings with dry eyes and your
heart wasn’t broken all of us would
there are some conversations you cannot
have with your children until the tears
flow and your heart breaks otherwise the
conversation doesn’t make sense if the
tools and letters but you can be very
powerful very strong and deal with some
tough stuff if you really [Music]
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