listen how’s your new your coming out so
far I know it’s early it’s January 15th
and I thought I’d send you out this
little video message because you know
what that day means don’t you January
15th is the cutoff
statistics show that 95% of the people
that actually made a new year’s
resolution have already broken it by
today and that’s if you even made a
resolution now if you’re the exception
of that I’m thrilled for you and I
support you and I say keep rocking it
but if you’ve missed maybe I can drop
you a quick little message or two here
that can help you not only recover but
get way beyond just making some new
year’s resolution and make some real
lasting change in your life I mean think
about it most people don’t even make a
resolution anymore why because they
banned him from years and years and
years and they know they’re not gonna
follow through so after a while who
wants to disappoint yourself who wants
to be upset with yourself why even
bother to set a new standard for this
year you know it’s gonna be the same as
last year if you’re the kind of person
watching this right now and you’ve
actually opened this email and you
haven’t shut me off already then
obviously that’s not you so the question
is you know what is it that makes us
even want to make a resolution
interesting question why is it at the
beginning of a year we have this
tradition but it goes beyond tradition
it’s something inside of us that makes
us want to make things better and I
think part of it is the calendar gives
us this idea that we can have a fresh
start that we can start from fresh and
have this great victory and it’s really
the calendar itself is quite arbitrary
it’s wonderful to use it but if you
didn’t use it effectively let’s use the
calendar to serve you today let’s just
see what does it really take to make
this thing happen because there’s no
denying that inside of you the only
thing that’s gonna make you happy and
but you’re ahead in the decades ahead
it’s gonna be having you up an
experience where on a regular basis you
feel like your life is making progress
if there’s one thing I teach I want to
remind you of it it’s really simple
things getting things is not gonna make
you happy
that’s good news in a tough economy it’s
a good reminder you know it doesn’t
matter what you get doesn’t matter
whether it be money or opportunity all
those things might excite you for the
moment you know even a relationship as
magnificent it may be might be exciting
for a while but if you don’t keep
growing that relationship isn’t gonna
stay exciting so the secret to real
happiness is progress progress equals
happiness and if we can make progress on
a regular basis we feel alive and that’s
why at the beginning of the year we get
this thing like okay I could have this
fresh start I could really do what my
soul desires I could expand I could grow
I can improve I could change or maybe
better than change I could progress see
think about that progress is an
aliveness to it doesn’t it you don’t
have to work at changing people say all
the time that well I’m working on
changing don’t worry about it yeah the
work on changing changes automatic your
body’s gonna change whether you want it
or not as the years go by you no matter
how hard you work there’s gonna be some
changes going on there if the economy is
gonna change no matter what you want it
to do the weather is gonna change
relationships are gonna change
everything in life is always changing we
have to work on change change is
automatic but progress is not so if you
want to make real progress then you
really got to look at your life in a
different way you gotta say I gotta take
control of this process and not just
hope that’s gonna work out like people
do who make a resolution cuz really
isn’t that what they’re really doing at
the beginning of the year they’re saying
well here’s my resolutions for the year
and they really basically tell you their
wishes it’s their wish list it’s what
they hope it all comes together and then
they call it a resolution but they don’t
know what a resolution is when you
resolve something to have a resolution
is to resolve it when you’ve resolved
this is how it’s gonna be that’s when
you cut off any possibility except the
thing you’ve committed to it’s like the
old adage if you want to take the island
you burn the boats because when you burn
those boats there’s no going back you’re
gonna find a way to make things work and
most people they’re stating what they
hope will come together and if
doesn’t happen then they’re disappointed
but they’re not too disappointed cuz
they’re not too vested what does it take
to successfully create a lasting change
in your life to not only have a new
year’s resolution you follow through on
but really have a lasting change well
the first step for lasting change is
very much like making a new year’s
resolution fundamentally it’s the same
the first step is you got to have a
vision a vision for what it is you
really truly want not what you think you
want or what you should have I mean what
are most people’s new year’s resolutions
I’m gonna stop eating sugar you know I’m
gonna stop smoking I’m gonna lose 10
pounds probable that is it’s not very
inspiring for most people you know it’s
not telling you what you’re gonna get
it’s only what you’re not gonna do and
it’s kind of hard to have you move
forward with that a vision is about what
you’re here to create a vision that
really works is one that excites you if
you say well my you know my resolution
my goal my outcome for this month this
week this year is to lose X number of
pounds that’s okay but it’s not very
compelling it has to be a compelling
vision it’s gotta have something has the
power to pull you not something you have
to push yourself to do those are two
different kinds of motivation push
requires willpower and willpower never
lasts what will last is pull having
something so exciting so attractive so
something to desire so much that you
have a hard time going to sleep at night
you get so up early in the morning to a
rocket and take it to the next level
that’s what you’re looking at great that
wasn’t easy to get but one of the
reasons we do seminars and events be
saying you know why do that why isn’t
why not just read a book or something is
because when you get an environment
where you were people that are being put
in a peak state like when you’re going
to a sporting event if you watch the
sporting event at home it might have a
certain level of excitement but when
you’re in a stadium with 50,000 people
suddenly it has a whole different level
of intensity when we feel that and the
bottom line of our follow-through comes
down to our emotional intensity in a
different state of mind you’re gonna
come up with a much better and more
exciting vision than if you’re sitting
the couch going okay what are my new
resolutions for this year and you’re
doing it the morning after the new year
is started and you’re a little
inebriated and the football games on the
background probably not gonna have the
power of focus they’re probably not
gonna have the power the energy to
create something that’s gonna pull you
for this year and you
to do that so it’s got to be a vision
that’s compelling something that you
know it’s gonna be a gift to make sure
that it happens and also along with that
compelling vision you gotta have strong
enough reasons that you’re gonna follow
through and the going gets tough that’s
one of the biggest things missing for
most people they said this is what I
want to do it’s not very exciting it’s
not very compelling but most importantly
they don’t have strong enough reasons to
push themselves through what’s gonna be
necessary to get that dream to get that
goal when the inevitable challenges come
up when you’re starving hungry and
you’re trying to go on a diet right when
you got no time and you’re stressed out
you haven’t worked out still that’s what
you’re supposed to do when the economy
gets tight and what you thought you’re
gonna do it doesn’t work and so you give
up on the goal instead of finding
another way to get there you don’t let
the fear take you over if you got strong
enough reasons those reasons can be
positive where those reasons can also be
negative they can be if I don’t do this
this is going to cost me and if I do to
this this is what I’m gonna gain in my
life reasons come first answers come
second if you get a compelling vision
and you got strong enough reasons that
will push you through the tough times
you’re gonna do things other people
don’t do instead of collapsing even if
you get off target you won’t go oh I
blew it you’ll get right back on target
make the change make things happen and I
knew you’ve done this in many areas your
life just think about it again and
you’re not teaching me something really
new here today I just want to remind you
what your soul knows you got a change
you got to improve and you’ve got to go
through a simple process fundamentally
to make that progress first step vision
that’s compelling second step make sure
that they’re strong enough reasons to
follow through third step you got to
review it and feel it every day I mean
anything have you ever had this happen
in your life has there been anything in
your life that you’ve ever
one it’s so badly you were so desirous
of against such a hunger for it that you
couldn’t stop thinking about it could
been a career move could have been when
you’re a kid a car
it could have been a relationship that
could have been anything but you were
obsessed you wanted to make this happen
you wanted to track this to your life
you wanna you just wanted something and
you didn’t even know how to get it but
it was so compelling to you kept
thinking about it every day and
visioning imagining it feeling it and
then stuff happened and suddenly you
started attract people or situations to
your life and it just came together like
you didn’t even have a total plan it was
just that it was so part of your focus
with so much intensity and emotion so
often that it sensitize you to notice
anything that could get you there
there’s a part of your brain called the
reticular activating system for sure we
call it the RAS that part of your brain
determines what you notice in the world
and it’s really important because when
you set a goal when you get really clear
in a vision they’re strong enough
reasons and you review it enough it
becomes a part of you that part of your
brain says anything that relates to this
I need to notice it’s like did you ever
buy a certain kind of car or maybe a
certain outfit suddenly you see that car
everywhere those outfits everywhere you
know the cars we’re always around but
why do you see it now because your Ras
knows this is important this is part of
my world now similarly when you really
get clear and it’s compelling and you’re
reviewing it every day got strong
reasons you’re viewing it every day and
you’re feeling it the brain becomes
incredibly acute at noticing anything to
get you to move forward and so that’s
the power of this so you know what do
people do with New Year’s resolution
they come up with something they kind of
want it’s not a compelling vision they
don’t really have strong enough reasons
and they never review it again until to
notice that they broke what they said
they really want to have make happen
they didn’t really resolve if you
resolve you got the vision it’s
compelling you review it daily and you
feel it you envision it and you
experience it simple as it sounds now
ultimately what is this really about
alts in the way if you’re gonna have
lasting change in anything you’re really
talking about just raising your
standards and I always tell people if
you want to know how to change your life
and give it to you in three words boring
as it sounds raise your standards what
does that mean
corny as it sounds raise your standards
they’ll thank you for the breakthrough
thought Tony I’m glad I wasted my time
watching this little email with you but
think about it lasting change is
different than a goal you don’t always
get your goals but you always get your
standards maybe they’ll help you is to
think about it this way I try to explain
standards to people with a different set
of words think of it as everybody in
life gets there must they don’t get
their shirts but think about it you must
be above a list of shits now if they
don’t you a list of the shoulds things
you should do you should follow through
on I I should lose some weight I should
work out more I should make more calls I
should respond more rapidly to my email
whatever you know I should get into the
office earlier I should be you know more
confident whatever your list is
people loved after should let’s make me
net but it’s kind of like New Year’s
resolutions if it does it’s really
exciting but if it doesn’t which is most
the time it’s a little disappointing but
you kind of know it’s not gonna happen
but when you decide something as a must
for you an absolute must when you come
up any possible you say I’m gonna find
the way I’m gonna make the way human
beings when they resolve things may I
make a real resolution inside themselves
which is they raise the standard they
make it a must they find a way I think
about it you realize haven’t you had
some area of your life where you raise
your standard your life has never been
the same maybe at one time your life do
you smoke cigarettes or you did
something and you did it for years and
you kept trying to change it trying to
change it and kept telling yourself I
should and then one day something
happened something just clicked you over
something took you over that kind of
tipping point and inside yourself you
said no more it was a very very
different experience wasn’t it something
inside has shifted and what was a should
became a must and you’ve never gone back
is there an area like that in your life
you could think of again I ever smoked
cigarettes did you ever eat a certain
way drink a certain form of alcohol and
then finally saying no more you just
don’t go back and notice this it doesn’t
really take any willpower anymore
because somewhere when we make this
click we make something a must we attach
ourselves to it it becomes part of our
identity the one thing I’ve learned in
the last gosh 33 years are working with
people from now over 100 countries four
million people is human beings
absolutely follow through on who they
believe they are if you say said to me
well I’m really gonna work hard to stop
smoking but you know I’ve been a smoker
my whole life and I’m you know I am a
smoker I know your days are numbered
you’re gonna be back smoking cigarettes
again because we all act consistent with
who we believe we are
I tell people the strongest force in the
whole human personality is this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves
if you define yourself as somebody who
is really conservative you’re not gonna
be crazy and act nuts unless you’re
really drunk or something and then you
can say it’s the alcohol when it really
does you finally getting permission to
be yourself the alcohol is your excuse
if you’re a really crazy person you act
crazy outrageous playful you don’t act
conservative because that’s not who you
are
very often people say well I can’t do
that I’m not that
kind of person and I always say to
people really when did you define
yourself I mean really how many years
ago did you come up with what you could
and couldn’t do in your life how many
years ago most people if they really
look at how they’re living their life
today it’s based on a set of standards a
set of beliefs that they made choices
about 10 20 30 or more years ago I mean
very often we made decisions in our
youth or very young about what to
believe about what we were capable of
about who we are as a person and that
becomes the glass ceiling if you will
that controls us there’s a corny
metaphor but it’s true I remember one
time I was with my family at the circus
and there’s a person there and they had
this big giant elephant you look at this
elephant and they take this little rope
put it around that opens neck and they
drive the stake into the ground and I
mean you look at this you know that
elephant could rip down the entire tent
with almost no effort and yet the
elephant doesn’t struggle doesn’t try
why cuz the elephant’s conditioned and
they can take that elephant conditioned
the elephant when it’s a baby elephant
that’s how they train them when it’s a
little baby elephant and it doesn’t have
the power yet they put a big rope around
it and they drive this huge stake in the
ground and the elephant fights and
fights and fights and one day finally
that often decides I’m not capable
pulling this out and once that becomes
the definition of an identity of anyone
an elephant in this case they don’t even
try anymore it’s just who I am that’s
how it is that’s just the way it is in
my life I’d like to ask you to take a
look at any place you’ve got a
limitation ask yourself when did I
decide to accept that limitation and you
may not even see it as a limitation you
might see there just that’s who I am but
so often our lives we’ve adapted to be a
certain way so that we don’t fail or so
that people will like us or respect us
but it’s not necessarily who we are joy
comes when you’re spontaneous it’s
really hard to be truly happy when
you’re not being yourself and most of us
have no clue who we are and so a big
part of my work if you’ve ever been to
an event you know is to get people and
do things spontaneously without thinking
because that’s when the real you shows
up that’s when the energy comes alive
and when you do that
when you start to connect your true
nature suddenly there’s energy available
for you to set a higher standard for
what you want in your life that’s what
this is really all about and when I talk
about standards when I talk about you
know shoulds versus muss think about
your own life I know there have been
areas in your life where some point in
time you just shift it and you raise the
standard in your life change because
whatever people have their identity
attached to they live we live who we
believe we are that’s just how it works
it’s just kind of like I give an example
look at your physical body your physical
body today is an absolute reflection of
only one thing
not your goals not your desires but your
standards the identity line for yourself
if your standard is you’re an athlete
then there’s a certain amount of
strength a muscle tone and energy that’s
available in your body on a regular
basis because that’s who you are and so
you do whatever is necessary to maintain
that identity again the strongest force
and the human personalities this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves because if you don’t know who
you are you would not act once you lock
in on that identity your brain finds a
way to keep you there if you say you
know and I’m overweight I’ve always been
overweight I’m big-boned and that’s the
story you’ve got then you’re gonna
always find a way to get back there
that’s you’re settling point that’s your
identity that’s where things walk in if
you see somebody who’s in really great
shape you ask him do you work out you
know the answer yes how
three times four times five times a week
whatever in a seminar last people who
here works out at least five days a week
and I’m stand-up and you look around
that room and you know that they work
out five times a week as you can see
their body you don’t just get a result
without some kind of action without some
form of ritual ritual meaning actions
you do consistently now do you think you
know those people that are out there
working out five days a week do they
have more time than you do or I have for
anybody else of course none is that a
wife less busy of course not it’s just a
must for them they must work out that
way and they made that turning their
life change so I’m not sitting after
workout five days a week I’m just saying
whatever you really want once don’t get
met consistently standards do whatever
you identify this is Who I am and so
it’s not so much about changing your
identity as this expanding it you know
deciding that you know instead of your
goals to lose ten pounds which is not
compelling what if your vision was to
get back to my fighting weight you know
just this year this month this next 90
days I’m gonna transform my body I’m
gonna take on a new challenge I’m gonna
find some technique or strategy there’s
a million of them that can reframe
myself or I want to feel younger
stronger more vibrant than ever before
here’s my reasons because I want the
energy to really make my life work
because it’s tough out there and I want
to be stronger than I’ve ever been
before I want to go in front of the
mirror if I’m naked not you know when I
laugh I won’t look there and take a good
look and go yeah
I’m proud of whatever I see there
whatever it takes something’s gonna make
you laugh smile something that’s gonna
tease yourself but something’s gonna
move you to another level if you
identify yourself in a new way and you
own that every day and that becomes the
staredown you live you’ll find the way
to make that standard real money is the
same way think about it doesn’t matter
what’s happening quote-unquote in the
marketplace people that make money find
a way to make money no matter what don’t
they I mean most people’s standard is to
pay their bills so that’s what most
people find a way to do even when
economic times get tough most people if
that’s their absolute standard they find
a way some people’s standard is pay
their bills most of the time and so most
of the time they do some people standard
is not just to pay their bills but to
take care of their family and maybe even
some of their friends and they find a
way in fact you know if some people may
be in a family where they don’t have
enough money they barely have money to
pay their bills
they work through guts out and then
somebody their mother their father or
somebody else their sister gets ill and
there’s not enough money to take care of
it nobody else has money in family they
don’t either but they find a way to get
that money to take care of their mother
or father don’t they and pay their bills
they never could do it before why the
situation made them raise their own
standard and not everybody does that
somebody else in the family might have
money and still don’t take care of her
mother
it all comes down to the inner game my
friends changing your life is a change
in the inner game the outside world you
can’t control but you have absolute
control over this one if you learn the
dynamics of what shapes you and identity
is one of those simple clear fundamental
basics that if you start to shift it
everything else will shift in your life
as well contribute the way they want if
that’s their must Lee find a way I know
that sounds overly simplistic but it’s
true now somebody once said you can take
all the money in the world out of the
hands of everybody out of all the
wealthy people in the world who are
really successful given to other people
it wouldn’t take too long those people
have it back in their hands it’s not
because their manipulator it’s because
they have a standard someone manipulate
don’t get me wrong but they’ve got a
standard of what they’re gonna find a
way to make happen I’m just simply
saying to you take those three magic
words and live them raise your standard
if you really want to do it then I’ll
tell the most important secret have you
ever done this have you ever told
yourself you’re raised you’re saying
okay I’m gonna go make this happen I’m
gonna go make this much money I’m gonna
transform my kids I’m gonna create the
ultimate relationship of my life so I’m
gonna transform my body whatever it is
and then you don’t have strong enough
reasons and you don’t lose use it you
don’t follow through it’s because you
didn’t back up your standards with what
makes those standards real and that’s
rituals rituals all of the power is
whenever we do our Robbins results
coaching and we did Robbins equals
results late we get results with people
it’s the same way if you listen to my
ultimate edge program are back in the
old days personal power or if you went
to one of my seminars you know what I do
is I take these huge challenges you got
and we break them down into little
bite-sized steps little things you do
each day that after you do them you get
so much momentum that it’s easy to
succeed you’re not overwhelmed you have
these victory day after day after day on
little things if you’d went to ultimate
edge I’m sure you learned about the hour
of power or the 15 minutes to be able to
be fulfilled or 30 minutes to thrive
where you literally just condition your
body and emotion with a couple little
rituals so it doesn’t matter what’s
going on in your world you feel that
strength and it’s not
it’s not some pump up it’s coming from
inside you and it works rituals define
us see all the results in your life are
coming from your rituals they start with
a standard and then have rituals that
follow it up like for example if you are
where you want to be physically you have
very different rituals than if you’re
not where you want to be physically if
you’re overweight you and I both know
you got a different ritual than if
you’re physically fit completely
different you get up in the morning
what’s the first thing you do if you’re
fit your shoes are there you roll over
no matter how you feel you put on your
shoes you lacing you start walking or
whatever that ritual is if you’re
overweight you roll over and you have a
very different ritual you might roll
over several times to turn the alarm
clock off you go in and get your mocha
mocha whatever you know special coffee
stop by at Starbucks or over the case
maybe have your nice sugar muffin you
know it’s supposed to be really nice for
you whatever you do it’s a different
ritual if you have a great passionate
relationship you have very different
rituals and how you come home than if
you have a lousy relationship you come
home and the first thing you do is
you’re tweeting somebody or you’re
emailing or flipping on the news or you
don’t even come home and what are the
rituals
whenever I study people that are
successful well I look for is what’s the
standard they hold himself to and then
what are all those little rituals that
because think about it success and
failure are not giant events they don’t
just show up you don’t just suddenly
become successful or suddenly have this
cataclysmic event that makes you fail it
may look that way but failure comes from
all the little things its failure to
make the call its failure to check the
books its failure to say I’m sorry its
failure to push yourself to do things
physically that you don’t want to do and
all those little failures day after day
come together until one day some
Cataclysm event happens you blame at
that event happen because you missed all
the little stuff do you agree with me
and success by the way is not some
overnight event it’s all these little
things success is having a vision
is making a compelling success is really
seeing it feeling it every day was
strong enough for reasons success is
feeling the sense that I’m here to grow
I’m here to give something to the world
more than just myself success is caring
about other people success is calling
and saying I love you in the middle of
day for no damn reason or sending a note
that will change a relationship have a
ritual of something funny playful or a
surprise you do how many relationships
are dead today because they have no
surprise rituals anymore you need to
have some rituals some cool things you
do that nobody else does that gives you
a better life than anybody else has all
the little stuff that’s where success
comes from in business it comes to
delivering more than anybody could
imagine all those little things add up
people go wow that’s who I want to do
business with it’s true in any area of
your life so if you look at somebody’s
really successful you think wow I mean
they’re so amazing there’s such a genius
you got a dig underneath you gotta
remember something people are rewarded
in public for what they’ve practiced for
years in private myself and my business
people say how are you get up and
speaking of nono-chan you go for three
days and nights and the room is like it
he’s wired it’s incredible if I go rock
concert how do you do that how do you
get that confidence of home and you know
it’s not confidence it’s experience now
but I did so much behind the scenes and
I still do to make things right I mean
how many people would know that since
the time I was 17 years old of
walk on stage school due to this day
wouldn’t need to do it but I still do it
I never walk out there without being in
an absolute peak state of mind you know
there days my back is hurting my throat
was hurting or I may have had a
challenger my father passed away and I
still got to deliver for these people
cuz my standard is give my all every
time everything has to be better doctor
anybody has been to her events for five
ten years some of our trainers
I don’t know he does it he’s always
finds a way to make it better that’s not
an ego thing that’s a standard in me I
have to find the way and my ritual
though is I prepare I think I got the
new information I figure how to put
something across better what do people
need I spend time with our customers I
see what’s going on and before I get on
stage each time as I saw rich ooh ‘el to
put myself in a state of mine and I did
it starting with like 17 years old I
started doing it say I now command my
subconscious mind and I say this out
loud several times this little phrase
set of phrases as an incantation to kind
of condition my mind and body and that’s
an now command my subconscious mind to
direct me and helping as many people as
possible today by giving me the strength
and the emotion and the humor and the
brevity whatever it takes to show this
person and help this person change their
life now and I started that with a
person when I work with people one on
one I will do that for 45 minutes
driving in my Volkswagen to go serve and
coach somebody for the first time now I
don’t say that person I say these people
and I can go out in the room of 10,000
people and deliver for 50 hours and I do
it every time I come back onstage it’s a
ritual a ritual you going to Peaks day
peak states don’t just show up they
don’t interrupt you great ideas don’t
interrupt you got to pursue them
I talked to Michael Jordan I’ll never
forget dad the peak of his career and
got to watch his final games saw him
backstage and spent some time with him
and there’s pretty exciting time there’s
a basketball player and I think that
ever lived and has ever lived and I
asked him I said you know what sets you
apart Michael you know what is it and is
it god-given talent ability skill what
is it nice tell me you know he said I
can shoot you straight you know it’s not
you know me trying to act humble he goes
I have a lot of town a lot of god-given
town a lot of skill I’ve worked really
hard but he said really it’s my
standards he said every day I demand
more for myself than anybody else could
humanly expect I’m not competing with
somebody else I’m competing with what
I’m capable of hmm magic formula because
most of us lower our standards why
because who you spend time with my
friends is who you become one of the
biggest reasons I started going to
seminars when I was like 17 as I had
nobody around me is a great role model I
could read about somebody but being
around people being in that environment
was very different
finding way to go to work with someone
who lived that standard life was very
different
you get around people’s low standards
and you compete with it you don’t need
to compete with it it’s like okay I mean
remember Jerry Springer I don’t he’s
still in the air but you know I’ve never
used to get people on the show I thought
where would he find these people you
have to change your life all you have to
do is find somebody with a lower
standard you’ll feel good about yourself
but if you feel that good feeling it’s
an illusion the only thing that’s gonna
make you happy my friend and this year
or any other is to step up it’s to raise
the standard it’s to discover what
you’re capable of and feel that
incredible power of pushing through
whatever is holding you back and get to
the other side of more of your true self
that’s what this game is all about and
look at the best of the world anything
Tiger Woods what’s what’s his vision to
win golf tournaments no to be the best
that ever lived
that’s his goal that’s his vision but
here’s what’s interesting he backs it up
with rituals if you just have a vision
and you don’t have the rituals stop
lying to yourself his rituals are he
started doing things nobody did before
he went started lifting weights golfers
lifting weights no way he went out and
he changed his swing when he was the
best in the world because he realized
already be the best that ever lived he’s
gonna have to change his swing if you
don’t thing about golf you don’t change
your swing when you’re the best and he
went and retrained himself because he
has different rituals than other golfers
now many people are modeling as rituals
to get better it’s amazing you know you
look at somebody like Michael Phelps the
2008 swimmer won seven you know only two
people I think in history if I remember
correctly that have gotten seven gold
medals in one session and here’s a guy
he’s got number six centers belt he’s
exhausted and he’s going in for that
final swim I’m sure you remember and how
does the guy win by one hundredths of a
second do you think that was some
massive skill that got him over the top
or was it a standard that says this is
Who I am I am the champion and no one is
taking this from me and somehow in those
finals milliseconds hundredth of a
second he pushed himself just beyond his
competitor
but you know about Michael Phelps what
allow them be able to push beyond that
moment is this rituals go study the guy
most people who swim have these
unbelievable workouts he does two and
three of the workout sessions a day all
the other swimmers in the beginning
thought he was insane you can over train
you can’t do that it’s not physically
possible but he had a standard and the
rituals to back it up so here’s my final
message to you because I’ve gotten
carried away if I was gonna send you
like a five-minute message but you can
see there’s no script here it just me go
a little crazy with you but I want to
really see you get what you want this
year don’t let this year be like last
and if last year was great still don’t
let it be that way raise the standard if
your life is perfect and extraordinary
you darn well know you’re not gonna be
happy unless you keep making it better
that’s what makes us feel live it’s not
what we get that make us happy it’s who
we become and what we’re able to give
because we’ve become more that sense of
contribution is what creates the deepest
meaning so here’s my assignment for if
you want one if you want to go from
conversation to some action here’s a
simple thing to do
what’s an area your life right now that
you really want improve what’s an area
that’s important to improve your body’s
great how about your career careers
great how about your relationship
intimate one especially or your kids or
your relationship with your Creator your
spiritual side of your life or is it
your finances figure an area that really
matters decide on that area number one
write down what your life is like in
that area right now specifically as
possible so you might say well I’m
thirteen point five pounds overweight
you know whatever the weight is whatever
the situation is or my body fats like
this or I’m wake up exhausted in the
morning and you write the truth of where
you are right now so you’re real clear
or I’m not in a relationship I say I
want a relationship but I I’m not in one
I don’t seem to find them all the good
ones seem to be gone is my belief you
know I really do want one but I don’t
have it whatever your definition I’m in
a relationship and god I wish I wasn’t
in a relationship I’m planning my escape
wherever you are or I have a wonderful
relationship we’d love each other but
there just isn’t enough passion just
right the truth of where you are the air
you want to change but right how it is
and then the second step is that’s where
you got to be really honest with
yourself
what are the rituals that have put me
there because whatever results you’re
getting even if you don’t like the
results there are some rituals that are
keeping you in that place there’s some
rituals of what you eat or don’t eat how
you move or don’t move how you sleep or
don’t sleep there’s some rituals and the
lack of variety or spice or energy or
focus in an area there’s something
you’re doing and it’s usually not one
thing it’s a bunch of little things they
kind of do consistently whatever you
think about getting in a relationship
whatever you think about working out
whenever you think about money and get
yourself in a state of overwhelm you
start thinking about all the things you
can’t control just write down all the
rituals you have and then here’s the
third step what do you want what’s your
vision and be really specific I want to
be my fighting weight I want to be the
strongest I’ve ever felt I want to be
I’m gonna turn my act whatever it is be
specific and then last step number four
what are the rituals that will get you
there what would you need it differently
each morning if you’re gonna be that
kind of energy that kind of strength how
would you have to how often would you
work out what days would you work out
what time a ritual something you do
consistently usually at a specific time
so becomes automatic let me tell you
something
willpower doesn’t last but rituals can
last a lifetime I bet you have some
rituals in your life right now you’ve
been doing for years even though some of
them don’t serve you
I’m just saying wake yourself up make if
you want a new year and a new life you
don’t need to start in January first
start today start with this little video
and just begin to see what happens and
see how easy it is to just do a few
little rituals don’t do them all just do
two or three new things and you know
what happens you’ll get momentum because
once you discipline yourself in one area
life you feel yourself doing in other
areas as well I always say something my
original teacher taught me always remind
people
there’s always two pains in life there’s
at the pain of discipline or as the pain
of regret and discipline weighs ounces
is my friend Jim Rohn taught me regret
weighs tons you don’t ever grab so right
now what do you want to change what’s it
really like one of the rituals that got
you there that will take a little
homework if you’re not sure ask the
people around you they’ll tell you what
your rituals cover what do I really want
in depth one of the rituals that will
get me there and then get yourself to
start a few those actions and lock them
in place so I can help you in any way
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starting with you if you make the change
in yourself you’re gonna be proud this
year and no amount of money or accolades
other people can mirror the feeling of
being proud of knowing you’ve taken back
control of your life or you’ve taken a
great life to another level as once you
do that you have something you can give
other people with it be your kids or
your friends or your family and
ultimately that’s why it’s about some
thanks for listening I know how long I
went to here but I hope this has been
helpful for you I just thought it’s a
new year and I want people to be able to
truly create a new life and till I see
again hopefully some soon or it gets a
chance to meet you live strong and live
with passion and of course god bless to you
far I know it’s early it’s January 15th
and I thought I’d send you out this
little video message because you know
what that day means don’t you January
15th is the cutoff
statistics show that 95% of the people
that actually made a new year’s
resolution have already broken it by
today and that’s if you even made a
resolution now if you’re the exception
of that I’m thrilled for you and I
support you and I say keep rocking it
but if you’ve missed maybe I can drop
you a quick little message or two here
that can help you not only recover but
get way beyond just making some new
year’s resolution and make some real
lasting change in your life I mean think
about it most people don’t even make a
resolution anymore why because they
banned him from years and years and
years and they know they’re not gonna
follow through so after a while who
wants to disappoint yourself who wants
to be upset with yourself why even
bother to set a new standard for this
year you know it’s gonna be the same as
last year if you’re the kind of person
watching this right now and you’ve
actually opened this email and you
haven’t shut me off already then
obviously that’s not you so the question
is you know what is it that makes us
even want to make a resolution
interesting question why is it at the
beginning of a year we have this
tradition but it goes beyond tradition
it’s something inside of us that makes
us want to make things better and I
think part of it is the calendar gives
us this idea that we can have a fresh
start that we can start from fresh and
have this great victory and it’s really
the calendar itself is quite arbitrary
it’s wonderful to use it but if you
didn’t use it effectively let’s use the
calendar to serve you today let’s just
see what does it really take to make
this thing happen because there’s no
denying that inside of you the only
thing that’s gonna make you happy and
but you’re ahead in the decades ahead
it’s gonna be having you up an
experience where on a regular basis you
feel like your life is making progress
if there’s one thing I teach I want to
remind you of it it’s really simple
things getting things is not gonna make
you happy
that’s good news in a tough economy it’s
a good reminder you know it doesn’t
matter what you get doesn’t matter
whether it be money or opportunity all
those things might excite you for the
moment you know even a relationship as
magnificent it may be might be exciting
for a while but if you don’t keep
growing that relationship isn’t gonna
stay exciting so the secret to real
happiness is progress progress equals
happiness and if we can make progress on
a regular basis we feel alive and that’s
why at the beginning of the year we get
this thing like okay I could have this
fresh start I could really do what my
soul desires I could expand I could grow
I can improve I could change or maybe
better than change I could progress see
think about that progress is an
aliveness to it doesn’t it you don’t
have to work at changing people say all
the time that well I’m working on
changing don’t worry about it yeah the
work on changing changes automatic your
body’s gonna change whether you want it
or not as the years go by you no matter
how hard you work there’s gonna be some
changes going on there if the economy is
gonna change no matter what you want it
to do the weather is gonna change
relationships are gonna change
everything in life is always changing we
have to work on change change is
automatic but progress is not so if you
want to make real progress then you
really got to look at your life in a
different way you gotta say I gotta take
control of this process and not just
hope that’s gonna work out like people
do who make a resolution cuz really
isn’t that what they’re really doing at
the beginning of the year they’re saying
well here’s my resolutions for the year
and they really basically tell you their
wishes it’s their wish list it’s what
they hope it all comes together and then
they call it a resolution but they don’t
know what a resolution is when you
resolve something to have a resolution
is to resolve it when you’ve resolved
this is how it’s gonna be that’s when
you cut off any possibility except the
thing you’ve committed to it’s like the
old adage if you want to take the island
you burn the boats because when you burn
those boats there’s no going back you’re
gonna find a way to make things work and
most people they’re stating what they
hope will come together and if
doesn’t happen then they’re disappointed
but they’re not too disappointed cuz
they’re not too vested what does it take
to successfully create a lasting change
in your life to not only have a new
year’s resolution you follow through on
but really have a lasting change well
the first step for lasting change is
very much like making a new year’s
resolution fundamentally it’s the same
the first step is you got to have a
vision a vision for what it is you
really truly want not what you think you
want or what you should have I mean what
are most people’s new year’s resolutions
I’m gonna stop eating sugar you know I’m
gonna stop smoking I’m gonna lose 10
pounds probable that is it’s not very
inspiring for most people you know it’s
not telling you what you’re gonna get
it’s only what you’re not gonna do and
it’s kind of hard to have you move
forward with that a vision is about what
you’re here to create a vision that
really works is one that excites you if
you say well my you know my resolution
my goal my outcome for this month this
week this year is to lose X number of
pounds that’s okay but it’s not very
compelling it has to be a compelling
vision it’s gotta have something has the
power to pull you not something you have
to push yourself to do those are two
different kinds of motivation push
requires willpower and willpower never
lasts what will last is pull having
something so exciting so attractive so
something to desire so much that you
have a hard time going to sleep at night
you get so up early in the morning to a
rocket and take it to the next level
that’s what you’re looking at great that
wasn’t easy to get but one of the
reasons we do seminars and events be
saying you know why do that why isn’t
why not just read a book or something is
because when you get an environment
where you were people that are being put
in a peak state like when you’re going
to a sporting event if you watch the
sporting event at home it might have a
certain level of excitement but when
you’re in a stadium with 50,000 people
suddenly it has a whole different level
of intensity when we feel that and the
bottom line of our follow-through comes
down to our emotional intensity in a
different state of mind you’re gonna
come up with a much better and more
exciting vision than if you’re sitting
the couch going okay what are my new
resolutions for this year and you’re
doing it the morning after the new year
is started and you’re a little
inebriated and the football games on the
background probably not gonna have the
power of focus they’re probably not
gonna have the power the energy to
create something that’s gonna pull you
for this year and you
to do that so it’s got to be a vision
that’s compelling something that you
know it’s gonna be a gift to make sure
that it happens and also along with that
compelling vision you gotta have strong
enough reasons that you’re gonna follow
through and the going gets tough that’s
one of the biggest things missing for
most people they said this is what I
want to do it’s not very exciting it’s
not very compelling but most importantly
they don’t have strong enough reasons to
push themselves through what’s gonna be
necessary to get that dream to get that
goal when the inevitable challenges come
up when you’re starving hungry and
you’re trying to go on a diet right when
you got no time and you’re stressed out
you haven’t worked out still that’s what
you’re supposed to do when the economy
gets tight and what you thought you’re
gonna do it doesn’t work and so you give
up on the goal instead of finding
another way to get there you don’t let
the fear take you over if you got strong
enough reasons those reasons can be
positive where those reasons can also be
negative they can be if I don’t do this
this is going to cost me and if I do to
this this is what I’m gonna gain in my
life reasons come first answers come
second if you get a compelling vision
and you got strong enough reasons that
will push you through the tough times
you’re gonna do things other people
don’t do instead of collapsing even if
you get off target you won’t go oh I
blew it you’ll get right back on target
make the change make things happen and I
knew you’ve done this in many areas your
life just think about it again and
you’re not teaching me something really
new here today I just want to remind you
what your soul knows you got a change
you got to improve and you’ve got to go
through a simple process fundamentally
to make that progress first step vision
that’s compelling second step make sure
that they’re strong enough reasons to
follow through third step you got to
review it and feel it every day I mean
anything have you ever had this happen
in your life has there been anything in
your life that you’ve ever
one it’s so badly you were so desirous
of against such a hunger for it that you
couldn’t stop thinking about it could
been a career move could have been when
you’re a kid a car
it could have been a relationship that
could have been anything but you were
obsessed you wanted to make this happen
you wanted to track this to your life
you wanna you just wanted something and
you didn’t even know how to get it but
it was so compelling to you kept
thinking about it every day and
visioning imagining it feeling it and
then stuff happened and suddenly you
started attract people or situations to
your life and it just came together like
you didn’t even have a total plan it was
just that it was so part of your focus
with so much intensity and emotion so
often that it sensitize you to notice
anything that could get you there
there’s a part of your brain called the
reticular activating system for sure we
call it the RAS that part of your brain
determines what you notice in the world
and it’s really important because when
you set a goal when you get really clear
in a vision they’re strong enough
reasons and you review it enough it
becomes a part of you that part of your
brain says anything that relates to this
I need to notice it’s like did you ever
buy a certain kind of car or maybe a
certain outfit suddenly you see that car
everywhere those outfits everywhere you
know the cars we’re always around but
why do you see it now because your Ras
knows this is important this is part of
my world now similarly when you really
get clear and it’s compelling and you’re
reviewing it every day got strong
reasons you’re viewing it every day and
you’re feeling it the brain becomes
incredibly acute at noticing anything to
get you to move forward and so that’s
the power of this so you know what do
people do with New Year’s resolution
they come up with something they kind of
want it’s not a compelling vision they
don’t really have strong enough reasons
and they never review it again until to
notice that they broke what they said
they really want to have make happen
they didn’t really resolve if you
resolve you got the vision it’s
compelling you review it daily and you
feel it you envision it and you
experience it simple as it sounds now
ultimately what is this really about
alts in the way if you’re gonna have
lasting change in anything you’re really
talking about just raising your
standards and I always tell people if
you want to know how to change your life
and give it to you in three words boring
as it sounds raise your standards what
does that mean
corny as it sounds raise your standards
they’ll thank you for the breakthrough
thought Tony I’m glad I wasted my time
watching this little email with you but
think about it lasting change is
different than a goal you don’t always
get your goals but you always get your
standards maybe they’ll help you is to
think about it this way I try to explain
standards to people with a different set
of words think of it as everybody in
life gets there must they don’t get
their shirts but think about it you must
be above a list of shits now if they
don’t you a list of the shoulds things
you should do you should follow through
on I I should lose some weight I should
work out more I should make more calls I
should respond more rapidly to my email
whatever you know I should get into the
office earlier I should be you know more
confident whatever your list is
people loved after should let’s make me
net but it’s kind of like New Year’s
resolutions if it does it’s really
exciting but if it doesn’t which is most
the time it’s a little disappointing but
you kind of know it’s not gonna happen
but when you decide something as a must
for you an absolute must when you come
up any possible you say I’m gonna find
the way I’m gonna make the way human
beings when they resolve things may I
make a real resolution inside themselves
which is they raise the standard they
make it a must they find a way I think
about it you realize haven’t you had
some area of your life where you raise
your standard your life has never been
the same maybe at one time your life do
you smoke cigarettes or you did
something and you did it for years and
you kept trying to change it trying to
change it and kept telling yourself I
should and then one day something
happened something just clicked you over
something took you over that kind of
tipping point and inside yourself you
said no more it was a very very
different experience wasn’t it something
inside has shifted and what was a should
became a must and you’ve never gone back
is there an area like that in your life
you could think of again I ever smoked
cigarettes did you ever eat a certain
way drink a certain form of alcohol and
then finally saying no more you just
don’t go back and notice this it doesn’t
really take any willpower anymore
because somewhere when we make this
click we make something a must we attach
ourselves to it it becomes part of our
identity the one thing I’ve learned in
the last gosh 33 years are working with
people from now over 100 countries four
million people is human beings
absolutely follow through on who they
believe they are if you say said to me
well I’m really gonna work hard to stop
smoking but you know I’ve been a smoker
my whole life and I’m you know I am a
smoker I know your days are numbered
you’re gonna be back smoking cigarettes
again because we all act consistent with
who we believe we are
I tell people the strongest force in the
whole human personality is this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves
if you define yourself as somebody who
is really conservative you’re not gonna
be crazy and act nuts unless you’re
really drunk or something and then you
can say it’s the alcohol when it really
does you finally getting permission to
be yourself the alcohol is your excuse
if you’re a really crazy person you act
crazy outrageous playful you don’t act
conservative because that’s not who you
are
very often people say well I can’t do
that I’m not that
kind of person and I always say to
people really when did you define
yourself I mean really how many years
ago did you come up with what you could
and couldn’t do in your life how many
years ago most people if they really
look at how they’re living their life
today it’s based on a set of standards a
set of beliefs that they made choices
about 10 20 30 or more years ago I mean
very often we made decisions in our
youth or very young about what to
believe about what we were capable of
about who we are as a person and that
becomes the glass ceiling if you will
that controls us there’s a corny
metaphor but it’s true I remember one
time I was with my family at the circus
and there’s a person there and they had
this big giant elephant you look at this
elephant and they take this little rope
put it around that opens neck and they
drive the stake into the ground and I
mean you look at this you know that
elephant could rip down the entire tent
with almost no effort and yet the
elephant doesn’t struggle doesn’t try
why cuz the elephant’s conditioned and
they can take that elephant conditioned
the elephant when it’s a baby elephant
that’s how they train them when it’s a
little baby elephant and it doesn’t have
the power yet they put a big rope around
it and they drive this huge stake in the
ground and the elephant fights and
fights and fights and one day finally
that often decides I’m not capable
pulling this out and once that becomes
the definition of an identity of anyone
an elephant in this case they don’t even
try anymore it’s just who I am that’s
how it is that’s just the way it is in
my life I’d like to ask you to take a
look at any place you’ve got a
limitation ask yourself when did I
decide to accept that limitation and you
may not even see it as a limitation you
might see there just that’s who I am but
so often our lives we’ve adapted to be a
certain way so that we don’t fail or so
that people will like us or respect us
but it’s not necessarily who we are joy
comes when you’re spontaneous it’s
really hard to be truly happy when
you’re not being yourself and most of us
have no clue who we are and so a big
part of my work if you’ve ever been to
an event you know is to get people and
do things spontaneously without thinking
because that’s when the real you shows
up that’s when the energy comes alive
and when you do that
when you start to connect your true
nature suddenly there’s energy available
for you to set a higher standard for
what you want in your life that’s what
this is really all about and when I talk
about standards when I talk about you
know shoulds versus muss think about
your own life I know there have been
areas in your life where some point in
time you just shift it and you raise the
standard in your life change because
whatever people have their identity
attached to they live we live who we
believe we are that’s just how it works
it’s just kind of like I give an example
look at your physical body your physical
body today is an absolute reflection of
only one thing
not your goals not your desires but your
standards the identity line for yourself
if your standard is you’re an athlete
then there’s a certain amount of
strength a muscle tone and energy that’s
available in your body on a regular
basis because that’s who you are and so
you do whatever is necessary to maintain
that identity again the strongest force
and the human personalities this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves because if you don’t know who
you are you would not act once you lock
in on that identity your brain finds a
way to keep you there if you say you
know and I’m overweight I’ve always been
overweight I’m big-boned and that’s the
story you’ve got then you’re gonna
always find a way to get back there
that’s you’re settling point that’s your
identity that’s where things walk in if
you see somebody who’s in really great
shape you ask him do you work out you
know the answer yes how
three times four times five times a week
whatever in a seminar last people who
here works out at least five days a week
and I’m stand-up and you look around
that room and you know that they work
out five times a week as you can see
their body you don’t just get a result
without some kind of action without some
form of ritual ritual meaning actions
you do consistently now do you think you
know those people that are out there
working out five days a week do they
have more time than you do or I have for
anybody else of course none is that a
wife less busy of course not it’s just a
must for them they must work out that
way and they made that turning their
life change so I’m not sitting after
workout five days a week I’m just saying
whatever you really want once don’t get
met consistently standards do whatever
you identify this is Who I am and so
it’s not so much about changing your
identity as this expanding it you know
deciding that you know instead of your
goals to lose ten pounds which is not
compelling what if your vision was to
get back to my fighting weight you know
just this year this month this next 90
days I’m gonna transform my body I’m
gonna take on a new challenge I’m gonna
find some technique or strategy there’s
a million of them that can reframe
myself or I want to feel younger
stronger more vibrant than ever before
here’s my reasons because I want the
energy to really make my life work
because it’s tough out there and I want
to be stronger than I’ve ever been
before I want to go in front of the
mirror if I’m naked not you know when I
laugh I won’t look there and take a good
look and go yeah
I’m proud of whatever I see there
whatever it takes something’s gonna make
you laugh smile something that’s gonna
tease yourself but something’s gonna
move you to another level if you
identify yourself in a new way and you
own that every day and that becomes the
staredown you live you’ll find the way
to make that standard real money is the
same way think about it doesn’t matter
what’s happening quote-unquote in the
marketplace people that make money find
a way to make money no matter what don’t
they I mean most people’s standard is to
pay their bills so that’s what most
people find a way to do even when
economic times get tough most people if
that’s their absolute standard they find
a way some people’s standard is pay
their bills most of the time and so most
of the time they do some people standard
is not just to pay their bills but to
take care of their family and maybe even
some of their friends and they find a
way in fact you know if some people may
be in a family where they don’t have
enough money they barely have money to
pay their bills
they work through guts out and then
somebody their mother their father or
somebody else their sister gets ill and
there’s not enough money to take care of
it nobody else has money in family they
don’t either but they find a way to get
that money to take care of their mother
or father don’t they and pay their bills
they never could do it before why the
situation made them raise their own
standard and not everybody does that
somebody else in the family might have
money and still don’t take care of her
mother
it all comes down to the inner game my
friends changing your life is a change
in the inner game the outside world you
can’t control but you have absolute
control over this one if you learn the
dynamics of what shapes you and identity
is one of those simple clear fundamental
basics that if you start to shift it
everything else will shift in your life
as well contribute the way they want if
that’s their must Lee find a way I know
that sounds overly simplistic but it’s
true now somebody once said you can take
all the money in the world out of the
hands of everybody out of all the
wealthy people in the world who are
really successful given to other people
it wouldn’t take too long those people
have it back in their hands it’s not
because their manipulator it’s because
they have a standard someone manipulate
don’t get me wrong but they’ve got a
standard of what they’re gonna find a
way to make happen I’m just simply
saying to you take those three magic
words and live them raise your standard
if you really want to do it then I’ll
tell the most important secret have you
ever done this have you ever told
yourself you’re raised you’re saying
okay I’m gonna go make this happen I’m
gonna go make this much money I’m gonna
transform my kids I’m gonna create the
ultimate relationship of my life so I’m
gonna transform my body whatever it is
and then you don’t have strong enough
reasons and you don’t lose use it you
don’t follow through it’s because you
didn’t back up your standards with what
makes those standards real and that’s
rituals rituals all of the power is
whenever we do our Robbins results
coaching and we did Robbins equals
results late we get results with people
it’s the same way if you listen to my
ultimate edge program are back in the
old days personal power or if you went
to one of my seminars you know what I do
is I take these huge challenges you got
and we break them down into little
bite-sized steps little things you do
each day that after you do them you get
so much momentum that it’s easy to
succeed you’re not overwhelmed you have
these victory day after day after day on
little things if you’d went to ultimate
edge I’m sure you learned about the hour
of power or the 15 minutes to be able to
be fulfilled or 30 minutes to thrive
where you literally just condition your
body and emotion with a couple little
rituals so it doesn’t matter what’s
going on in your world you feel that
strength and it’s not
it’s not some pump up it’s coming from
inside you and it works rituals define
us see all the results in your life are
coming from your rituals they start with
a standard and then have rituals that
follow it up like for example if you are
where you want to be physically you have
very different rituals than if you’re
not where you want to be physically if
you’re overweight you and I both know
you got a different ritual than if
you’re physically fit completely
different you get up in the morning
what’s the first thing you do if you’re
fit your shoes are there you roll over
no matter how you feel you put on your
shoes you lacing you start walking or
whatever that ritual is if you’re
overweight you roll over and you have a
very different ritual you might roll
over several times to turn the alarm
clock off you go in and get your mocha
mocha whatever you know special coffee
stop by at Starbucks or over the case
maybe have your nice sugar muffin you
know it’s supposed to be really nice for
you whatever you do it’s a different
ritual if you have a great passionate
relationship you have very different
rituals and how you come home than if
you have a lousy relationship you come
home and the first thing you do is
you’re tweeting somebody or you’re
emailing or flipping on the news or you
don’t even come home and what are the
rituals
whenever I study people that are
successful well I look for is what’s the
standard they hold himself to and then
what are all those little rituals that
because think about it success and
failure are not giant events they don’t
just show up you don’t just suddenly
become successful or suddenly have this
cataclysmic event that makes you fail it
may look that way but failure comes from
all the little things its failure to
make the call its failure to check the
books its failure to say I’m sorry its
failure to push yourself to do things
physically that you don’t want to do and
all those little failures day after day
come together until one day some
Cataclysm event happens you blame at
that event happen because you missed all
the little stuff do you agree with me
and success by the way is not some
overnight event it’s all these little
things success is having a vision
is making a compelling success is really
seeing it feeling it every day was
strong enough for reasons success is
feeling the sense that I’m here to grow
I’m here to give something to the world
more than just myself success is caring
about other people success is calling
and saying I love you in the middle of
day for no damn reason or sending a note
that will change a relationship have a
ritual of something funny playful or a
surprise you do how many relationships
are dead today because they have no
surprise rituals anymore you need to
have some rituals some cool things you
do that nobody else does that gives you
a better life than anybody else has all
the little stuff that’s where success
comes from in business it comes to
delivering more than anybody could
imagine all those little things add up
people go wow that’s who I want to do
business with it’s true in any area of
your life so if you look at somebody’s
really successful you think wow I mean
they’re so amazing there’s such a genius
you got a dig underneath you gotta
remember something people are rewarded
in public for what they’ve practiced for
years in private myself and my business
people say how are you get up and
speaking of nono-chan you go for three
days and nights and the room is like it
he’s wired it’s incredible if I go rock
concert how do you do that how do you
get that confidence of home and you know
it’s not confidence it’s experience now
but I did so much behind the scenes and
I still do to make things right I mean
how many people would know that since
the time I was 17 years old of
walk on stage school due to this day
wouldn’t need to do it but I still do it
I never walk out there without being in
an absolute peak state of mind you know
there days my back is hurting my throat
was hurting or I may have had a
challenger my father passed away and I
still got to deliver for these people
cuz my standard is give my all every
time everything has to be better doctor
anybody has been to her events for five
ten years some of our trainers
I don’t know he does it he’s always
finds a way to make it better that’s not
an ego thing that’s a standard in me I
have to find the way and my ritual
though is I prepare I think I got the
new information I figure how to put
something across better what do people
need I spend time with our customers I
see what’s going on and before I get on
stage each time as I saw rich ooh ‘el to
put myself in a state of mine and I did
it starting with like 17 years old I
started doing it say I now command my
subconscious mind and I say this out
loud several times this little phrase
set of phrases as an incantation to kind
of condition my mind and body and that’s
an now command my subconscious mind to
direct me and helping as many people as
possible today by giving me the strength
and the emotion and the humor and the
brevity whatever it takes to show this
person and help this person change their
life now and I started that with a
person when I work with people one on
one I will do that for 45 minutes
driving in my Volkswagen to go serve and
coach somebody for the first time now I
don’t say that person I say these people
and I can go out in the room of 10,000
people and deliver for 50 hours and I do
it every time I come back onstage it’s a
ritual a ritual you going to Peaks day
peak states don’t just show up they
don’t interrupt you great ideas don’t
interrupt you got to pursue them
I talked to Michael Jordan I’ll never
forget dad the peak of his career and
got to watch his final games saw him
backstage and spent some time with him
and there’s pretty exciting time there’s
a basketball player and I think that
ever lived and has ever lived and I
asked him I said you know what sets you
apart Michael you know what is it and is
it god-given talent ability skill what
is it nice tell me you know he said I
can shoot you straight you know it’s not
you know me trying to act humble he goes
I have a lot of town a lot of god-given
town a lot of skill I’ve worked really
hard but he said really it’s my
standards he said every day I demand
more for myself than anybody else could
humanly expect I’m not competing with
somebody else I’m competing with what
I’m capable of hmm magic formula because
most of us lower our standards why
because who you spend time with my
friends is who you become one of the
biggest reasons I started going to
seminars when I was like 17 as I had
nobody around me is a great role model I
could read about somebody but being
around people being in that environment
was very different
finding way to go to work with someone
who lived that standard life was very
different
you get around people’s low standards
and you compete with it you don’t need
to compete with it it’s like okay I mean
remember Jerry Springer I don’t he’s
still in the air but you know I’ve never
used to get people on the show I thought
where would he find these people you
have to change your life all you have to
do is find somebody with a lower
standard you’ll feel good about yourself
but if you feel that good feeling it’s
an illusion the only thing that’s gonna
make you happy my friend and this year
or any other is to step up it’s to raise
the standard it’s to discover what
you’re capable of and feel that
incredible power of pushing through
whatever is holding you back and get to
the other side of more of your true self
that’s what this game is all about and
look at the best of the world anything
Tiger Woods what’s what’s his vision to
win golf tournaments no to be the best
that ever lived
that’s his goal that’s his vision but
here’s what’s interesting he backs it up
with rituals if you just have a vision
and you don’t have the rituals stop
lying to yourself his rituals are he
started doing things nobody did before
he went started lifting weights golfers
lifting weights no way he went out and
he changed his swing when he was the
best in the world because he realized
already be the best that ever lived he’s
gonna have to change his swing if you
don’t thing about golf you don’t change
your swing when you’re the best and he
went and retrained himself because he
has different rituals than other golfers
now many people are modeling as rituals
to get better it’s amazing you know you
look at somebody like Michael Phelps the
2008 swimmer won seven you know only two
people I think in history if I remember
correctly that have gotten seven gold
medals in one session and here’s a guy
he’s got number six centers belt he’s
exhausted and he’s going in for that
final swim I’m sure you remember and how
does the guy win by one hundredths of a
second do you think that was some
massive skill that got him over the top
or was it a standard that says this is
Who I am I am the champion and no one is
taking this from me and somehow in those
finals milliseconds hundredth of a
second he pushed himself just beyond his
competitor
but you know about Michael Phelps what
allow them be able to push beyond that
moment is this rituals go study the guy
most people who swim have these
unbelievable workouts he does two and
three of the workout sessions a day all
the other swimmers in the beginning
thought he was insane you can over train
you can’t do that it’s not physically
possible but he had a standard and the
rituals to back it up so here’s my final
message to you because I’ve gotten
carried away if I was gonna send you
like a five-minute message but you can
see there’s no script here it just me go
a little crazy with you but I want to
really see you get what you want this
year don’t let this year be like last
and if last year was great still don’t
let it be that way raise the standard if
your life is perfect and extraordinary
you darn well know you’re not gonna be
happy unless you keep making it better
that’s what makes us feel live it’s not
what we get that make us happy it’s who
we become and what we’re able to give
because we’ve become more that sense of
contribution is what creates the deepest
meaning so here’s my assignment for if
you want one if you want to go from
conversation to some action here’s a
simple thing to do
what’s an area your life right now that
you really want improve what’s an area
that’s important to improve your body’s
great how about your career careers
great how about your relationship
intimate one especially or your kids or
your relationship with your Creator your
spiritual side of your life or is it
your finances figure an area that really
matters decide on that area number one
write down what your life is like in
that area right now specifically as
possible so you might say well I’m
thirteen point five pounds overweight
you know whatever the weight is whatever
the situation is or my body fats like
this or I’m wake up exhausted in the
morning and you write the truth of where
you are right now so you’re real clear
or I’m not in a relationship I say I
want a relationship but I I’m not in one
I don’t seem to find them all the good
ones seem to be gone is my belief you
know I really do want one but I don’t
have it whatever your definition I’m in
a relationship and god I wish I wasn’t
in a relationship I’m planning my escape
wherever you are or I have a wonderful
relationship we’d love each other but
there just isn’t enough passion just
right the truth of where you are the air
you want to change but right how it is
and then the second step is that’s where
you got to be really honest with
yourself
what are the rituals that have put me
there because whatever results you’re
getting even if you don’t like the
results there are some rituals that are
keeping you in that place there’s some
rituals of what you eat or don’t eat how
you move or don’t move how you sleep or
don’t sleep there’s some rituals and the
lack of variety or spice or energy or
focus in an area there’s something
you’re doing and it’s usually not one
thing it’s a bunch of little things they
kind of do consistently whatever you
think about getting in a relationship
whatever you think about working out
whenever you think about money and get
yourself in a state of overwhelm you
start thinking about all the things you
can’t control just write down all the
rituals you have and then here’s the
third step what do you want what’s your
vision and be really specific I want to
be my fighting weight I want to be the
strongest I’ve ever felt I want to be
I’m gonna turn my act whatever it is be
specific and then last step number four
what are the rituals that will get you
there what would you need it differently
each morning if you’re gonna be that
kind of energy that kind of strength how
would you have to how often would you
work out what days would you work out
what time a ritual something you do
consistently usually at a specific time
so becomes automatic let me tell you
something
willpower doesn’t last but rituals can
last a lifetime I bet you have some
rituals in your life right now you’ve
been doing for years even though some of
them don’t serve you
I’m just saying wake yourself up make if
you want a new year and a new life you
don’t need to start in January first
start today start with this little video
and just begin to see what happens and
see how easy it is to just do a few
little rituals don’t do them all just do
two or three new things and you know
what happens you’ll get momentum because
once you discipline yourself in one area
life you feel yourself doing in other
areas as well I always say something my
original teacher taught me always remind
people
there’s always two pains in life there’s
at the pain of discipline or as the pain
of regret and discipline weighs ounces
is my friend Jim Rohn taught me regret
weighs tons you don’t ever grab so right
now what do you want to change what’s it
really like one of the rituals that got
you there that will take a little
homework if you’re not sure ask the
people around you they’ll tell you what
your rituals cover what do I really want
in depth one of the rituals that will
get me there and then get yourself to
start a few those actions and lock them
in place so I can help you in any way
we’re here as a company to support you
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starting with you if you make the change
in yourself you’re gonna be proud this
year and no amount of money or accolades
other people can mirror the feeling of
being proud of knowing you’ve taken back
control of your life or you’ve taken a
great life to another level as once you
do that you have something you can give
other people with it be your kids or
your friends or your family and
ultimately that’s why it’s about some
thanks for listening I know how long I
went to here but I hope this has been
helpful for you I just thought it’s a
new year and I want people to be able to
truly create a new life and till I see
again hopefully some soon or it gets a
chance to meet you live strong and live
with passion and of course god bless to you
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