it’s no surprise that so many people
today have a great deal of uncertainty
about where life the world the economy
is going we’re going to massive changes
and some of them are unprecedented we
haven’t seen for 40 50 60 70 80 years
and yet at the same time we inherently
know that with all this change there’s
opportunity that there’s a chance for
our lives to be better than they’ve ever
been that transformations are happening
and science and technology can truly
change the quality of our lives the
length of our lives
the way we experience life and yet day
to day most people live I think with a
great deal of foreboding a great deal of
uncertainty and so I thought it might be
nice to just drop in for a couple of
minutes and give you a couple triggers
to remind you what I know you know in
your heart and that is we are not made
to survive we’re made to thrive human
beings our spirit our capacity to adapt
our ability to grow our them to learn
with lightning like speed our ability to
find a way to serve others that calling
inside of us that we have as a parent or
as a friend or someone who truly cares
when we put our fear aside because
there’s something we want to serve
greater than ourselves we all have that
ability to find that passion in our life
and as we now are in 2014 a lot of
people start out with a new year and it
becomes a trigger for you know
possibility of a new life but that
disappears after a few disappointments
after coming up with a few New Year’s
resolutions that within a week or two
they’ve already broken I’m gonna talk to
you about just the simple core of what
you and I are made for we are not made
to survive we’re not made to manage our
pain or get through it we’re made to be
creators of our lives
we can create anything anything we can
dream about we can create I know that
sounds like positive thinking you know
just BS but in your soul there have been
times in your life I know when you’ve
had something that you wanted so much
maybe you wanted something for someone
you care about maybe you want something
for yourself but you became so obsessed
with something achieving and
experiencing it whether it was a
transformation you know in yourself a
change in your business you know making
a certain amount of money getting a job
you know increase of some physician
increase maybe it was doing something
for your mom or your dad or your kids
somewhere in your life you got obsessed
enough to really want to create
something that
not even known how you were gonna do it
but you just wanted it desired it that
you started all of a sudden taking
action and you got insights and before
you knew it what used to be just this
impossible dream became a reality is it
fair to say that some stage in your life
that there are some things today in your
life there once just a dream or a goal
that once seemed difficult or impossible
whether it be the job you have or the
relationship you’re in and might be
taking for granted is it is there
anything in your life today that was
once like that well then you and I are
creators and very often when we get
overwhelmed by so many things we feel
out of control by we start getting to
being managers of our life managing our
pain managing through the situation so
my purpose here is to say what does it
take to thrive once again so let me give
you five quick keys number one key to
thriving is you’ve got allow yourself to
be able to take advantage of uncertainty
yes the world is uncertain right now
uncertainty has changed changes life we
both know that we all know that but if
you and I are gonna become masters we
have to understand and we have to work
on change change is automatic progress
is not if you’re not gonna make progress
here in 2014 whatever stage of the year
you looking at this progress comes when
you tell yourself the truth and you’re
able to feel the uncertainty and take
action anyway the thing that stops us
all is fear it’s no surprise if you’re a
failure for your rejection fear the
unknown if you’re not looking good and
that fear we could translate into the
simple thing of uncertainty now when you
look at someone who’s incredibly
successful you look at someone who’s
truly a leader in their life or in their
field but one thing they have in common
is they exude this sense of certainty
towards I come from this is inborn are
they lucky I think just going their way
now great leaders know how to step in
the uncertainty and bring the certainty
to the situation most people life we
really feel like the level of stress in
our life comes to how much of life do
you feel like you control how much does
life control you do you tend to control
more of what’s going on or events
controlling it it’s very easy that those
events start to take control unless we
take control what’s between our ears our
own mind you see what you and I focus on
massively affects how we feel whether
we’re thriving or surviving if you focus
on what you can’t control if you focus
on the past if you focus on what’s
missing from your life constantly that
pattern of focus will make you
frustrated overwhelmed and depressed it
won’t even matter if you’re you know
taking antidepressants if you keep
focusing on what you can’t control
what’s missing from your life you’re
gonna feel depressed though you think as
many antidepressants as you want
focus equals power if you want to thrive
you got to focus on what you can control
you got to focus on the difference you
can make you gotta focus on what’s
already in your life that you’re
grateful for and I have a little process
here at the end that’s my gift to you
which is just a simple ritual that can
bring you back to this place so one
thing that leaders do is they focus on
the things they want they focus on what
they can control they focus on what they
have they have a combination of
gratitude strength and commitment
they’ve really unleashed the second
element they have a vision they have
something that they’re after something
they want to create something they want
to contribute something they want to
give something you want to make happen
and that’s when you become a creator
again instead of a manager of life and
it’s easy to lose that sense of vision
in your life through disappointments hey
we’ve all had them you get all excited
about something and then you know life
seems to crush it
somebody betrays you you betray yourself
you don’t follow through and then you
don’t trust yourself at the same level
what makes somebody a leader is they
build a certainty and not only with
focus and now we do they get a vision
for what they want but they bring that
certainty in their body listen if you’ve
ever been to one of my live events you
know that one of the greatest things
about let’s say unleash the power within
is you go through a weekend where you
literally train your nervous system they
have certainly I mean how the heck did
you get people to storm through fire
it’s not about fire walking it’s about
getting yourself to be able to take
action and the areas of your life that
normally you would more than hold back
or your brain would take over and say I
can’t do this are you crazy somebody
else did it but not me what we do is get
people in a state where you’re gonna
follow through we’re gonna face your
fear and do it anyway and the way we do
that besides changing people’s focus
showing you how to direct and control
that focus is also by learning how to
use your body as the tool to change your
state listen if I drop my shoulders
enough I would have breathe shallow
enough and I would
slow down and say you know I don’t know
I’ll give it a try and go into this
state
I’d be like Samson get us hair cut off
because what we don’t realize is that
our mind is directly affected by the way
we use our body if you change the tempo
what you mover you change the way you
breathe then you change the way you use
your voice you literally change your
biochemistry and the one thing that
you’ll see that’s the same with a
greatest golfer in the world or the
greatest musician or the greatest you
know actor is they have this sense of
certainty and it isn’t born it’s
something that you make is a habit you
drill it into yourself I sure as heck
didn’t have that sense of certainty
growing up not even close and what I
found myself doing early on is I felt so
uncertain I couldn’t get myself to do
anything so I developed these rituals
these rituals of certainty I would go on
these runs and on the run even though I
didn’t feel like it I would do these
incantations where I would say out loud
over and over again you know gods won’t
this circulate in my life his wealth
flows to me an avalanche ISM abundance
all my needs desires and goals are met
instantaneously by infinite intelligence
for I’m one with God and God is
everything and I would say that over and
over and over for 30 minutes just crazy
I would envision that God circling is
well circling my life and I see the
wealth of love and friendship and impact
and growth and economics and all these
things physical fitness and aliveness
I’ve seen this wealth of abundance
flowing oceans of it into my life as I
went and did these things if you
envision something clearly enough and
you bring certainty to it over and over
again if you engage your physical body
in a simple ritual it could be as little
as 10 minutes a day I call it my hour of
power or 15 minutes to be fulfilled and
all you do is you take five minutes and
in those first five minutes you get
yourself moving and you get yourself in
a state of certainty and the way you
move and the way you breathe you focus
on what you’re excited about in your
life you focus on what you want to
create what you want to bring to your
children what you want to bring to the
world and it it changes your state we
all know what happens when you’re out of
state when you’re burnt out when you’re
frustrated when you’re overwhelmed you
snap at people sometimes feel bad about
it you didn’t mean to it’s just the
state you’re in
so to thrive this year take uncertainty
and bring certainty to it to thrive this
year get what I call a compelling future
pick anything a goal a dream of desire
something to excite you so much that
you’re gonna feel yourself compelled to
actually find a way to make it happen
you’ve done it before
you’ve got an abscessed you know you
know how you did it but things happen
and you’ve got yourself to where you
want to be let’s make that happen this
year right now regardless if it’s later
in the year the beginning you’re
watching this I made this so that
hopefully I’d remind you of what you
know that you’re made to thrive not
survive what’s the third element that
makes somebody an effective leader makes
them a thriver even when the environment
is crazy well they bring certainty and
uncertainty that’s leadership skill by
focus and physiology by the way they
move by the way to breathe by what they
do they bring that certainty because
there’s something they want so bad that
it makes them overcome the fear they
focus on what they want to create what
they want to give not oh my god what if
I fail but the third thing they do is
they’re decisive listen nothing changes
your life like decision I mean real
decision though not what people oh well
you know I’ll try or I kind of decided I
want to give it a shot the word decision
comes some incision in Latin to cut off
from and when you make a decision you
cut off from any possibility except the
thing you’ve committed to if I always
tell people if you want to take the
island burn the boats I mean if you make
a real decision every bit of you is
committed to something
it’s amazing how life will move for the
force of nature of the human being man
or woman that says this is how it will
be I don’t know how I’m gonna get it
done but I know this is what I’m gonna
do I know why I’m gonna do it as a
Martin Luther King you said it’s a man
any man hasn’t figured out what he’s
willing to die for isn’t fit to live if
you can find something you’re so excited
about if you can find something that
will drive you with that certainty and
you add to that decisiveness you can
change anything you don’t like your job
change it all but there’s no jobs out
there pull right change it start the job
change who you are in the job where you
are and enjoy yourself change your
perception change your appreciation
change your gratitude change
daily ritual so you start to enjoy
things change what you notice change
from trying to get something to try to
give something the whole game will
change decisiveness is the ability to
make a decision even though you’re
uncertain once again what keeps people
make a decision fear of failure I
remember I had a chance to get to know
general Norman Schwarzkopf during the
time which he was commanding our forces
an amazing man and he would step over
there Desert Storm as they called it in
those days
and he could command a guy that was just
brilliant you know an officer who came
out of you know Harvard or background of
Princeton and he could take a kid from
the inner city and just have that same
command in connection with them and I
think part of what they respected about
him is he respected everyone himself he
had this connection with people but the
other thing everybody respected was the
man was decisive and I asked him where
he developed that decision-making
capability just the willingness to just
make a decision in trust he said Tony
I’ll tell you where I worked for this
general I was very young and I was his
assistant and he said I remember there
was a research project that the you know
the Pentagon had worked on for that time
he said I remember right like five years
and their arguments it was a very
strategic decision for where the Defense
Department was gonna move towards in the
future how they were going to operate
and he said there were arguments for
both sides and for five years they’d
gone back and forth and nothing was
resolved and they came to the general
that he was serving at that time as the
assistant and they had a meeting and the
meeting lasted one hour and at the end
of the hour they didn’t generals stood
up and said do that and he picked one of
the two and he did it with absolute
certainty and in the military he’s
saluted you taking orders and you go
said but swartz cop said he was just
curious really curious to know you know
how can get up and make a decision like
that because swear Scott said I was the
one doing all the research and there was
just there was loads and loads of
research and I know he hadn’t read at
all
they said it bothered me that he’d just
make a decision like that without
knowing everything he could possibly
know and so he said swords got said I
finally went to him and said sir
permission to express myself freely
he said permission granted
he said sir how could you make that
decision he said there are reams and
reams and reams of information you got a
one-hour meeting you heard what 20
minutes of discussion for both sides and
you decided the entire direction where
things are gonna go for their armed
services with it this part of the armed
services and he said how could you
possibly do that you don’t have all the
information he said no one does in fact
information is important to an extent
but ultimately action is what needs to
be taken
someone needs to decide he was about how
do you know you made the right decision
he said no one has made a decision young
man in five years a half a decade what I
decided will be right because either
we’ll put all the resources and we’ll
make it right or if it’s wrong we’ll
discover that quicker than sitting on
the fence for another five years and
we’ll find out it’s not right it will
change leadership is making decisions if
you’re gonna lead your own life you got
to make decisions and what’s worse cos
sends you realize rule number one in
life is when put in charge
I’m putting command take charge make the
decision if it’s right or wrong you’re
gonna find out quicker than if you sit
around and the interesting thing is the
more you make decisions the better you
get what makes somebody a leader what
makes somebody a leader is they’re
willing to make the decision other
people won’t make they will put themself
on the line knowing that you’re gonna be
wrong in some of those decisions but
you’re gonna find out quicker and you
can simply adapt and change your
approach to still get where you want to
go be decisive don’t like your body
change it don’t like your relationship
change it start by changing you if
you’ve changed you it’s still not right
then change it but the way you make any
change happen starts with a decision all
action all results our mother door
fathered if you would by a decision
what’s one small decision you could make
right now they would take you in a
direction you know you need to go what’s
a big decision that might be really
tough but have you really made it
truthfully it would take you on a new
direction in your life because whatever
direction you head into will lead to an
ultimate destination or destiny when you
know it’s right it’s time when you’re
still fearful it’s still time you want
to change your life decide decide
something you’re gonna do decide
something radical to commit an act that
moves you forward instead of thinking
more because we all can get caught up
you know I tell people you get in your
head you’re dead the brain is a great
thing to strategize with but there’s a
point what you
get back in your heart and you got to
put yourself on the line and do
something so if you’re gonna thrive this
year bring certainty to your
decision-making by just putting yourself
in that state and trusting trust your
Creator not just a manager of life what
do you have to do get a vision for what
you want what else decide and step for
real quick act there is no such thing as
a decision without action a real
decision you cut up things off and you
make it happen you do something and I’ve
always found in my life never leave the
sight of making a decision that
something that’s important without doing
something in that moment that commit you
to follow through takes an action in
that moment because otherwise here’s
what happened you get excited or
something makes sense to you
you’re passionate about it and you go
I’m gonna go do this and then you go
home and you get caught up in emails and
phone calls and other people need things
from you the next thing you know you’re
out of state you don’t follow through
has it happened to you before
and I promise you if it hasn’t it will
in the future people that succeed when
opportunity is there they trust they
trust I’m going to thrive this is here
in my wife for a purpose life isn’t
happening to me life is happening for me
and even this pain or challenge or this
opportunity is something you’re gonna
find a way to make yourself I need to
make a decision and I need to do
something right now to move things
forward in the direction of what I
really want for my life even if I don’t
know the final destination I need to
move in that direction how do you take
some form of action most people they
have all these visions maybe they start
to make a little sort of decision but
they don’t make a real decision cuz they
don’t act on it and if you don’t act on
it your ideas your dreams will die in
your mind they’ll die in your lips and
think about most people in North America
around the world the Western world are
they truly fit strong and healthy do
they truly have a relationship that’s
totally passionate do they love their
work
are they economically free the vast
majority you and I both know the answer
is no if you want to be like most people
then what you gotta do is figure out a
survive if you want to lead you got to
thrive and you have that capability and
you’re probably already doing and I’m
probably speaking to the choir to some
extent if you’re still watching this
right now you have turned me off as a
raging maniac who’s on a rant because
that’s where I am I’m gonna land right
now a rant to call to your soul to say
no
great life is take it to next level find
the way to thrive on the very things
that stop other people in the tracks
thrive on what produces fear inside you
and in other people thrive on something
that you envision that you have a higher
purpose for thrive by being decisive
thrive by taking massive action and if
the massive action doesn’t work what you
try doesn’t work just simply try
something else if that doesn’t work try
something else that doesn’t work try
something else until you find what works
now you can speed that up try modeling
by finding somebody who’s already
getting the results that you want to get
in your life somebody already has lost
30 pounds and kept it off they aren’t
lucky it’s been five years somebody who
started with nothing and now they’re
financially free and their family has an
extraordinary quality why not figure out
what they do somebody who truly is happy
not because everything’s going their way
because they find a deeper meaning and a
richness in everything around themselves
whether it be their children or nature
or even problems because obviously if we
have no problems if you’re dead inside
problems can either destroy you or call
you to become more if you look at the
biggest challenges in your life if you
brought certainty to it if you’ve got a
vision beyond the problem if you made
some decision of what you’re gonna
change even if you know how and if you
took immediate action with enough
intensity massive action you probably
found the cure-all you probably found a
way to adapt and get where you want to
be
that’s what thriving is really all about
but the ultimate thriving is not just
breaking through and making things
happen the open thriving for this year
or any year of your life is to remember
the secret to living is giving it’s to
this corny as that sounds it’s to
connect to something bigger than
yourself and it can be done so easily it
can be doing right there at home instead
of running past your kids looking at
your phone if stopping connecting it’s
getting kissing your spouse in a way
where those sparks happen like when
you’re first met instead of how you
doing I’m moving on most of us are
moving so fast trying to manage our
lives that we’re not thriving thriving
comes with depth you’re not gonna find
thriving in a friendship that happens in
milliseconds online nothing wrong with
it’s great connection
but a depth of a real friendship is not
your Facebook friend it’s not the same
as being with somebody and actually
having a full attention not while you’re
monitoring what’s going on on your cell
phone just the experience of being with
somebody but contributing your caring
contributing your interest contributing
you know in a simple way finding some
way to give love attention care joy or
happiness to any human being it doesn’t
have to be working in a soup kitchen but
I could be pretty wonderful to
volunteering an hour in a month an hour
in a week can change a person’s life but
it can be outside world can also be
really on the inside world if you want
to thrive then you got a member life’s
not about me it’s about we you already
know it it’s in your soul you know that
doesn’t matter words I say if I’m saying
something that’s BS you can feel it if
I’m saying something’s true you can feel
at your heart and soul and the thing
that’s true is we’re here for more than
just ourselves and we feel most alive
when we’re doing something that’s beyond
ourselves when there’s something well we
think that by this interaction someone’s
gonna feel more loved somebody’s gonna
feel more lifted someone who is down is
gonna get up someone’s gonna know that
they’re cared for or I’m gonna help
somebody physically through the skills
ability talent whatever helping a
stranger or helping someone you love
help comes from the place where your
abundant your not scarce so the most
important time the help is when you
think you need it
so next time you’re really feeling down
and out maybe find somebody else who’s
much worse off because there’s always
somebody there if you look around and
see what you can do to help them and
watch what that does to change your
entire spirit psychology and state
you’ll find yourself thriving when you
step into a life of meaning beyond you
and ironically life is about you too and
when you’re in that thriving state of
growing and giving and that state of
certainty and that state of a vision of
what you want with a sense of purpose in
that state of decisiveness and that
state of action and that state of giving
oh how can you break a loose and you’re
still gonna thrive oh how could you
break a loose and you’re having a great
time so next time you’re feeling
uncertain remind yourself you’re a
creator of life not a manager of
circumstances and I hope this little
trigger will remind you that also what
you have this is not just this video
that you watched here which maybe watch
it it’ll be helpful maybe not it’s up to
you but if you get the heart of what I’m
really sharing it leads to the end
understanding that we are really our
lives are reflection of our rituals you
know if somebody tells me this is their
dream this is their goal I said that’s a
wonderful tell me your plan but more
importantly let me see your rituals and
we all have rituals well they no they’re
not rituals equal results if you’re
overweight it’s cuz your rituals just
find out what they are and change them
if your rituals are to get up every
morning and go to Starbucks and have a
mocha smoker or whatever the hell it is
you have you know and bunch of carbs and
who everyone knows what it’s not hard to
figure out your blood Sugar’s gonna be
droppin and you’re looking for how to
coffee a few hours later that does a
great life of energy that’s on fire that
creates a place where you’re riding the
roller coaster of how much energy you
have for now there’s an unlimited level
of energy with a different ritual when
you start out your day doing what I call
really my hour power of my 15 minutes to
be fulfilled so the three or four days a
week five days a week it took five or
ten or fifteen minutes one every now and
then you’ll get in so much momentum
you’ll give yourself an hour an hour for
yourself an hour to connect to what
matters most and Howard to be grateful
an hour to get strong working out at
least fifteen minutes I’m gonna tell you
they’ll frame your life in a different
level and you’ll find yourself thriving
so take a look at rituals you have that
don’t work and what might be some new
rituals like instead of focusing what
you don’t have being truly grateful for
what you do have instead of focusing on
what you can’t control
think what you can do right now to
participate in your own rescue not
waiting for someone else to do it
rituals define us and so my hope is
maybe these five things to thrive can
trigger you to get in a state where you
create some new rituals as they will
create the habits and the experiences of
the life that you desire and that you
deserve so that’s my rant I hope it
touched you if it didn’t I apologize
because my intent is pure blessings to
you and I hope I have a chance to serve
and see you soon maybe at an event or
somewhere else in the world and live strong and live of passion
today have a great deal of uncertainty
about where life the world the economy
is going we’re going to massive changes
and some of them are unprecedented we
haven’t seen for 40 50 60 70 80 years
and yet at the same time we inherently
know that with all this change there’s
opportunity that there’s a chance for
our lives to be better than they’ve ever
been that transformations are happening
and science and technology can truly
change the quality of our lives the
length of our lives
the way we experience life and yet day
to day most people live I think with a
great deal of foreboding a great deal of
uncertainty and so I thought it might be
nice to just drop in for a couple of
minutes and give you a couple triggers
to remind you what I know you know in
your heart and that is we are not made
to survive we’re made to thrive human
beings our spirit our capacity to adapt
our ability to grow our them to learn
with lightning like speed our ability to
find a way to serve others that calling
inside of us that we have as a parent or
as a friend or someone who truly cares
when we put our fear aside because
there’s something we want to serve
greater than ourselves we all have that
ability to find that passion in our life
and as we now are in 2014 a lot of
people start out with a new year and it
becomes a trigger for you know
possibility of a new life but that
disappears after a few disappointments
after coming up with a few New Year’s
resolutions that within a week or two
they’ve already broken I’m gonna talk to
you about just the simple core of what
you and I are made for we are not made
to survive we’re not made to manage our
pain or get through it we’re made to be
creators of our lives
we can create anything anything we can
dream about we can create I know that
sounds like positive thinking you know
just BS but in your soul there have been
times in your life I know when you’ve
had something that you wanted so much
maybe you wanted something for someone
you care about maybe you want something
for yourself but you became so obsessed
with something achieving and
experiencing it whether it was a
transformation you know in yourself a
change in your business you know making
a certain amount of money getting a job
you know increase of some physician
increase maybe it was doing something
for your mom or your dad or your kids
somewhere in your life you got obsessed
enough to really want to create
something that
not even known how you were gonna do it
but you just wanted it desired it that
you started all of a sudden taking
action and you got insights and before
you knew it what used to be just this
impossible dream became a reality is it
fair to say that some stage in your life
that there are some things today in your
life there once just a dream or a goal
that once seemed difficult or impossible
whether it be the job you have or the
relationship you’re in and might be
taking for granted is it is there
anything in your life today that was
once like that well then you and I are
creators and very often when we get
overwhelmed by so many things we feel
out of control by we start getting to
being managers of our life managing our
pain managing through the situation so
my purpose here is to say what does it
take to thrive once again so let me give
you five quick keys number one key to
thriving is you’ve got allow yourself to
be able to take advantage of uncertainty
yes the world is uncertain right now
uncertainty has changed changes life we
both know that we all know that but if
you and I are gonna become masters we
have to understand and we have to work
on change change is automatic progress
is not if you’re not gonna make progress
here in 2014 whatever stage of the year
you looking at this progress comes when
you tell yourself the truth and you’re
able to feel the uncertainty and take
action anyway the thing that stops us
all is fear it’s no surprise if you’re a
failure for your rejection fear the
unknown if you’re not looking good and
that fear we could translate into the
simple thing of uncertainty now when you
look at someone who’s incredibly
successful you look at someone who’s
truly a leader in their life or in their
field but one thing they have in common
is they exude this sense of certainty
towards I come from this is inborn are
they lucky I think just going their way
now great leaders know how to step in
the uncertainty and bring the certainty
to the situation most people life we
really feel like the level of stress in
our life comes to how much of life do
you feel like you control how much does
life control you do you tend to control
more of what’s going on or events
controlling it it’s very easy that those
events start to take control unless we
take control what’s between our ears our
own mind you see what you and I focus on
massively affects how we feel whether
we’re thriving or surviving if you focus
on what you can’t control if you focus
on the past if you focus on what’s
missing from your life constantly that
pattern of focus will make you
frustrated overwhelmed and depressed it
won’t even matter if you’re you know
taking antidepressants if you keep
focusing on what you can’t control
what’s missing from your life you’re
gonna feel depressed though you think as
many antidepressants as you want
focus equals power if you want to thrive
you got to focus on what you can control
you got to focus on the difference you
can make you gotta focus on what’s
already in your life that you’re
grateful for and I have a little process
here at the end that’s my gift to you
which is just a simple ritual that can
bring you back to this place so one
thing that leaders do is they focus on
the things they want they focus on what
they can control they focus on what they
have they have a combination of
gratitude strength and commitment
they’ve really unleashed the second
element they have a vision they have
something that they’re after something
they want to create something they want
to contribute something they want to
give something you want to make happen
and that’s when you become a creator
again instead of a manager of life and
it’s easy to lose that sense of vision
in your life through disappointments hey
we’ve all had them you get all excited
about something and then you know life
seems to crush it
somebody betrays you you betray yourself
you don’t follow through and then you
don’t trust yourself at the same level
what makes somebody a leader is they
build a certainty and not only with
focus and now we do they get a vision
for what they want but they bring that
certainty in their body listen if you’ve
ever been to one of my live events you
know that one of the greatest things
about let’s say unleash the power within
is you go through a weekend where you
literally train your nervous system they
have certainly I mean how the heck did
you get people to storm through fire
it’s not about fire walking it’s about
getting yourself to be able to take
action and the areas of your life that
normally you would more than hold back
or your brain would take over and say I
can’t do this are you crazy somebody
else did it but not me what we do is get
people in a state where you’re gonna
follow through we’re gonna face your
fear and do it anyway and the way we do
that besides changing people’s focus
showing you how to direct and control
that focus is also by learning how to
use your body as the tool to change your
state listen if I drop my shoulders
enough I would have breathe shallow
enough and I would
slow down and say you know I don’t know
I’ll give it a try and go into this
state
I’d be like Samson get us hair cut off
because what we don’t realize is that
our mind is directly affected by the way
we use our body if you change the tempo
what you mover you change the way you
breathe then you change the way you use
your voice you literally change your
biochemistry and the one thing that
you’ll see that’s the same with a
greatest golfer in the world or the
greatest musician or the greatest you
know actor is they have this sense of
certainty and it isn’t born it’s
something that you make is a habit you
drill it into yourself I sure as heck
didn’t have that sense of certainty
growing up not even close and what I
found myself doing early on is I felt so
uncertain I couldn’t get myself to do
anything so I developed these rituals
these rituals of certainty I would go on
these runs and on the run even though I
didn’t feel like it I would do these
incantations where I would say out loud
over and over again you know gods won’t
this circulate in my life his wealth
flows to me an avalanche ISM abundance
all my needs desires and goals are met
instantaneously by infinite intelligence
for I’m one with God and God is
everything and I would say that over and
over and over for 30 minutes just crazy
I would envision that God circling is
well circling my life and I see the
wealth of love and friendship and impact
and growth and economics and all these
things physical fitness and aliveness
I’ve seen this wealth of abundance
flowing oceans of it into my life as I
went and did these things if you
envision something clearly enough and
you bring certainty to it over and over
again if you engage your physical body
in a simple ritual it could be as little
as 10 minutes a day I call it my hour of
power or 15 minutes to be fulfilled and
all you do is you take five minutes and
in those first five minutes you get
yourself moving and you get yourself in
a state of certainty and the way you
move and the way you breathe you focus
on what you’re excited about in your
life you focus on what you want to
create what you want to bring to your
children what you want to bring to the
world and it it changes your state we
all know what happens when you’re out of
state when you’re burnt out when you’re
frustrated when you’re overwhelmed you
snap at people sometimes feel bad about
it you didn’t mean to it’s just the
state you’re in
so to thrive this year take uncertainty
and bring certainty to it to thrive this
year get what I call a compelling future
pick anything a goal a dream of desire
something to excite you so much that
you’re gonna feel yourself compelled to
actually find a way to make it happen
you’ve done it before
you’ve got an abscessed you know you
know how you did it but things happen
and you’ve got yourself to where you
want to be let’s make that happen this
year right now regardless if it’s later
in the year the beginning you’re
watching this I made this so that
hopefully I’d remind you of what you
know that you’re made to thrive not
survive what’s the third element that
makes somebody an effective leader makes
them a thriver even when the environment
is crazy well they bring certainty and
uncertainty that’s leadership skill by
focus and physiology by the way they
move by the way to breathe by what they
do they bring that certainty because
there’s something they want so bad that
it makes them overcome the fear they
focus on what they want to create what
they want to give not oh my god what if
I fail but the third thing they do is
they’re decisive listen nothing changes
your life like decision I mean real
decision though not what people oh well
you know I’ll try or I kind of decided I
want to give it a shot the word decision
comes some incision in Latin to cut off
from and when you make a decision you
cut off from any possibility except the
thing you’ve committed to if I always
tell people if you want to take the
island burn the boats I mean if you make
a real decision every bit of you is
committed to something
it’s amazing how life will move for the
force of nature of the human being man
or woman that says this is how it will
be I don’t know how I’m gonna get it
done but I know this is what I’m gonna
do I know why I’m gonna do it as a
Martin Luther King you said it’s a man
any man hasn’t figured out what he’s
willing to die for isn’t fit to live if
you can find something you’re so excited
about if you can find something that
will drive you with that certainty and
you add to that decisiveness you can
change anything you don’t like your job
change it all but there’s no jobs out
there pull right change it start the job
change who you are in the job where you
are and enjoy yourself change your
perception change your appreciation
change your gratitude change
daily ritual so you start to enjoy
things change what you notice change
from trying to get something to try to
give something the whole game will
change decisiveness is the ability to
make a decision even though you’re
uncertain once again what keeps people
make a decision fear of failure I
remember I had a chance to get to know
general Norman Schwarzkopf during the
time which he was commanding our forces
an amazing man and he would step over
there Desert Storm as they called it in
those days
and he could command a guy that was just
brilliant you know an officer who came
out of you know Harvard or background of
Princeton and he could take a kid from
the inner city and just have that same
command in connection with them and I
think part of what they respected about
him is he respected everyone himself he
had this connection with people but the
other thing everybody respected was the
man was decisive and I asked him where
he developed that decision-making
capability just the willingness to just
make a decision in trust he said Tony
I’ll tell you where I worked for this
general I was very young and I was his
assistant and he said I remember there
was a research project that the you know
the Pentagon had worked on for that time
he said I remember right like five years
and their arguments it was a very
strategic decision for where the Defense
Department was gonna move towards in the
future how they were going to operate
and he said there were arguments for
both sides and for five years they’d
gone back and forth and nothing was
resolved and they came to the general
that he was serving at that time as the
assistant and they had a meeting and the
meeting lasted one hour and at the end
of the hour they didn’t generals stood
up and said do that and he picked one of
the two and he did it with absolute
certainty and in the military he’s
saluted you taking orders and you go
said but swartz cop said he was just
curious really curious to know you know
how can get up and make a decision like
that because swear Scott said I was the
one doing all the research and there was
just there was loads and loads of
research and I know he hadn’t read at
all
they said it bothered me that he’d just
make a decision like that without
knowing everything he could possibly
know and so he said swords got said I
finally went to him and said sir
permission to express myself freely
he said permission granted
he said sir how could you make that
decision he said there are reams and
reams and reams of information you got a
one-hour meeting you heard what 20
minutes of discussion for both sides and
you decided the entire direction where
things are gonna go for their armed
services with it this part of the armed
services and he said how could you
possibly do that you don’t have all the
information he said no one does in fact
information is important to an extent
but ultimately action is what needs to
be taken
someone needs to decide he was about how
do you know you made the right decision
he said no one has made a decision young
man in five years a half a decade what I
decided will be right because either
we’ll put all the resources and we’ll
make it right or if it’s wrong we’ll
discover that quicker than sitting on
the fence for another five years and
we’ll find out it’s not right it will
change leadership is making decisions if
you’re gonna lead your own life you got
to make decisions and what’s worse cos
sends you realize rule number one in
life is when put in charge
I’m putting command take charge make the
decision if it’s right or wrong you’re
gonna find out quicker than if you sit
around and the interesting thing is the
more you make decisions the better you
get what makes somebody a leader what
makes somebody a leader is they’re
willing to make the decision other
people won’t make they will put themself
on the line knowing that you’re gonna be
wrong in some of those decisions but
you’re gonna find out quicker and you
can simply adapt and change your
approach to still get where you want to
go be decisive don’t like your body
change it don’t like your relationship
change it start by changing you if
you’ve changed you it’s still not right
then change it but the way you make any
change happen starts with a decision all
action all results our mother door
fathered if you would by a decision
what’s one small decision you could make
right now they would take you in a
direction you know you need to go what’s
a big decision that might be really
tough but have you really made it
truthfully it would take you on a new
direction in your life because whatever
direction you head into will lead to an
ultimate destination or destiny when you
know it’s right it’s time when you’re
still fearful it’s still time you want
to change your life decide decide
something you’re gonna do decide
something radical to commit an act that
moves you forward instead of thinking
more because we all can get caught up
you know I tell people you get in your
head you’re dead the brain is a great
thing to strategize with but there’s a
point what you
get back in your heart and you got to
put yourself on the line and do
something so if you’re gonna thrive this
year bring certainty to your
decision-making by just putting yourself
in that state and trusting trust your
Creator not just a manager of life what
do you have to do get a vision for what
you want what else decide and step for
real quick act there is no such thing as
a decision without action a real
decision you cut up things off and you
make it happen you do something and I’ve
always found in my life never leave the
sight of making a decision that
something that’s important without doing
something in that moment that commit you
to follow through takes an action in
that moment because otherwise here’s
what happened you get excited or
something makes sense to you
you’re passionate about it and you go
I’m gonna go do this and then you go
home and you get caught up in emails and
phone calls and other people need things
from you the next thing you know you’re
out of state you don’t follow through
has it happened to you before
and I promise you if it hasn’t it will
in the future people that succeed when
opportunity is there they trust they
trust I’m going to thrive this is here
in my wife for a purpose life isn’t
happening to me life is happening for me
and even this pain or challenge or this
opportunity is something you’re gonna
find a way to make yourself I need to
make a decision and I need to do
something right now to move things
forward in the direction of what I
really want for my life even if I don’t
know the final destination I need to
move in that direction how do you take
some form of action most people they
have all these visions maybe they start
to make a little sort of decision but
they don’t make a real decision cuz they
don’t act on it and if you don’t act on
it your ideas your dreams will die in
your mind they’ll die in your lips and
think about most people in North America
around the world the Western world are
they truly fit strong and healthy do
they truly have a relationship that’s
totally passionate do they love their
work
are they economically free the vast
majority you and I both know the answer
is no if you want to be like most people
then what you gotta do is figure out a
survive if you want to lead you got to
thrive and you have that capability and
you’re probably already doing and I’m
probably speaking to the choir to some
extent if you’re still watching this
right now you have turned me off as a
raging maniac who’s on a rant because
that’s where I am I’m gonna land right
now a rant to call to your soul to say
no
great life is take it to next level find
the way to thrive on the very things
that stop other people in the tracks
thrive on what produces fear inside you
and in other people thrive on something
that you envision that you have a higher
purpose for thrive by being decisive
thrive by taking massive action and if
the massive action doesn’t work what you
try doesn’t work just simply try
something else if that doesn’t work try
something else that doesn’t work try
something else until you find what works
now you can speed that up try modeling
by finding somebody who’s already
getting the results that you want to get
in your life somebody already has lost
30 pounds and kept it off they aren’t
lucky it’s been five years somebody who
started with nothing and now they’re
financially free and their family has an
extraordinary quality why not figure out
what they do somebody who truly is happy
not because everything’s going their way
because they find a deeper meaning and a
richness in everything around themselves
whether it be their children or nature
or even problems because obviously if we
have no problems if you’re dead inside
problems can either destroy you or call
you to become more if you look at the
biggest challenges in your life if you
brought certainty to it if you’ve got a
vision beyond the problem if you made
some decision of what you’re gonna
change even if you know how and if you
took immediate action with enough
intensity massive action you probably
found the cure-all you probably found a
way to adapt and get where you want to
be
that’s what thriving is really all about
but the ultimate thriving is not just
breaking through and making things
happen the open thriving for this year
or any year of your life is to remember
the secret to living is giving it’s to
this corny as that sounds it’s to
connect to something bigger than
yourself and it can be done so easily it
can be doing right there at home instead
of running past your kids looking at
your phone if stopping connecting it’s
getting kissing your spouse in a way
where those sparks happen like when
you’re first met instead of how you
doing I’m moving on most of us are
moving so fast trying to manage our
lives that we’re not thriving thriving
comes with depth you’re not gonna find
thriving in a friendship that happens in
milliseconds online nothing wrong with
it’s great connection
but a depth of a real friendship is not
your Facebook friend it’s not the same
as being with somebody and actually
having a full attention not while you’re
monitoring what’s going on on your cell
phone just the experience of being with
somebody but contributing your caring
contributing your interest contributing
you know in a simple way finding some
way to give love attention care joy or
happiness to any human being it doesn’t
have to be working in a soup kitchen but
I could be pretty wonderful to
volunteering an hour in a month an hour
in a week can change a person’s life but
it can be outside world can also be
really on the inside world if you want
to thrive then you got a member life’s
not about me it’s about we you already
know it it’s in your soul you know that
doesn’t matter words I say if I’m saying
something that’s BS you can feel it if
I’m saying something’s true you can feel
at your heart and soul and the thing
that’s true is we’re here for more than
just ourselves and we feel most alive
when we’re doing something that’s beyond
ourselves when there’s something well we
think that by this interaction someone’s
gonna feel more loved somebody’s gonna
feel more lifted someone who is down is
gonna get up someone’s gonna know that
they’re cared for or I’m gonna help
somebody physically through the skills
ability talent whatever helping a
stranger or helping someone you love
help comes from the place where your
abundant your not scarce so the most
important time the help is when you
think you need it
so next time you’re really feeling down
and out maybe find somebody else who’s
much worse off because there’s always
somebody there if you look around and
see what you can do to help them and
watch what that does to change your
entire spirit psychology and state
you’ll find yourself thriving when you
step into a life of meaning beyond you
and ironically life is about you too and
when you’re in that thriving state of
growing and giving and that state of
certainty and that state of a vision of
what you want with a sense of purpose in
that state of decisiveness and that
state of action and that state of giving
oh how can you break a loose and you’re
still gonna thrive oh how could you
break a loose and you’re having a great
time so next time you’re feeling
uncertain remind yourself you’re a
creator of life not a manager of
circumstances and I hope this little
trigger will remind you that also what
you have this is not just this video
that you watched here which maybe watch
it it’ll be helpful maybe not it’s up to
you but if you get the heart of what I’m
really sharing it leads to the end
understanding that we are really our
lives are reflection of our rituals you
know if somebody tells me this is their
dream this is their goal I said that’s a
wonderful tell me your plan but more
importantly let me see your rituals and
we all have rituals well they no they’re
not rituals equal results if you’re
overweight it’s cuz your rituals just
find out what they are and change them
if your rituals are to get up every
morning and go to Starbucks and have a
mocha smoker or whatever the hell it is
you have you know and bunch of carbs and
who everyone knows what it’s not hard to
figure out your blood Sugar’s gonna be
droppin and you’re looking for how to
coffee a few hours later that does a
great life of energy that’s on fire that
creates a place where you’re riding the
roller coaster of how much energy you
have for now there’s an unlimited level
of energy with a different ritual when
you start out your day doing what I call
really my hour power of my 15 minutes to
be fulfilled so the three or four days a
week five days a week it took five or
ten or fifteen minutes one every now and
then you’ll get in so much momentum
you’ll give yourself an hour an hour for
yourself an hour to connect to what
matters most and Howard to be grateful
an hour to get strong working out at
least fifteen minutes I’m gonna tell you
they’ll frame your life in a different
level and you’ll find yourself thriving
so take a look at rituals you have that
don’t work and what might be some new
rituals like instead of focusing what
you don’t have being truly grateful for
what you do have instead of focusing on
what you can’t control
think what you can do right now to
participate in your own rescue not
waiting for someone else to do it
rituals define us and so my hope is
maybe these five things to thrive can
trigger you to get in a state where you
create some new rituals as they will
create the habits and the experiences of
the life that you desire and that you
deserve so that’s my rant I hope it
touched you if it didn’t I apologize
because my intent is pure blessings to
you and I hope I have a chance to serve
and see you soon maybe at an event or
somewhere else in the world and live strong and live of passion
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