I think the challenge is that most
people have this illusion about life
work balance that’s you know if you’re
gonna accomplish it it’s what people are
laughing is you know right um what’s
true is life work integration so I was
just in twenty one country or seven
countries twenty-one days but who’s with
me is my family who’s with me as my
friends and I’ve done well enough to
have a plane and that rooms and all that
kind of cool stuff makes it but when I
didn’t we still we puffed it together
and beginning days it was coach and
dragging ourselves around but I thought
it was great for my kids to have
schooling but I thought an education was
more valuable and traveling the earth
was a part of that but you know we’re in
the middle of this crazy schedule but
we’re it’s not work it’s a mission when
it’s work it’s that I was asked people I
said how would you describe what you do
and people I say because at work it’s a
couriers admission and most people of
course they have to work and that’s
exactly what does this heavy if it’s you
know if it’s your career it gives you
something more but your mission it
doesn’t wear you out it brings energy to
you it’s fulfilling and if you can tie
your mission in with the people that you
love it’s pretty cool you know there’s
some people assume they’re my friends I
see being here in front row here and
it’s like we’re all on this mission and
we find time to connect and be with each
other and have a blast with each other
but we’re sharing about things that
matter I’m not a person to go to a party
and like you know go in the corner and
chitchat it’s like you want to talk
about something deep let’s rock you
don’t let me go home and be with my
family or you know let me go do
something fun that some of that nature
if you can combine your mission with
your family combine your mission with
some of your friends then you’re gonna
accomplish a million times more but if
you think it’s a sacrifice don’t do it
because then all you’re doing is you’re
gonna have resentment later on or
frustration later on and and then you
really aren’t contributing because it’s
you’re you’re trading off you’re not
giving no great oh good I think I’m a
nine-year-old kid does you know me know
I am a nine-year-old child in my body
pinching myself every day that I get to
do this that I get to do it is
extraordinary I could not would not want
to be doing anything else I mean it’s
hard work and it’s and it’s like I’m
push myself or anybody else but I love
it I love it I love it I cannot imagine
doing anything else and that’s the
challenge right the question is a lot of
people are doing something to get to
something else and that’s just wrong and
it’s matter of don’t do cuz your parents
told you because you heard on an
infomercial because whatever if do what
is your highest calling in life and love
it and so I don’t work at all I really
don’t work you know dan has told me to
get rid of it so I get rid of it well
you know I mean this this room is filled
with some very high achievers and
obviously what I wanted to derive from
you guys is this some insight somehow to
some what it is you do to just give them
you know perspective and stuff and I
carefully chose some questions and this
one is you’re both masters at achieving
what most people consider impossible and
I mean really like what you guys do most
people consider absolutely impossible so
when something is considered
quote/unquote impossible how do you
reframe it so it becomes possible in
your mind and how much of that is
mindset I think
impossible is not a fact it’s an opinion
when someone tells me it’s impossible
I always just look at anybody around me
knows that they can’t do this that’s
part of it but if they didn’t know me
it’s your opinion then don’t say no
science shows and I say yeah I know how
many times the science shows something’s
impossible now science shows it’s
possible things are impossible till
somebody does it and so I find that you
know most of your business people you
look at businesses and what does it take
to make a business grow it’s not
impossible like a business grow up has
been shrinking for a long time or it’s
been stuck the real problem is always
the chokehold as always the psychology
and the skills of the leader always an
80% of that as psychology and 20% of the
mechanics like if you don’t know how to
read your financials and you’re trying
to fly the plane of your your company I
mean come on you know if all you do is
go down you look at profit loss and you
see what it is and you have a beer
either way you either celebrated a Brass
you know something you know you’re gonna
be in trouble right but if you have the
skillsets that’s one thing but you can
get any skill set if you have the
psychology and anytime of this
is not growing it is not because it’s
impossible it’s because they are
innovating and they’re not innovating
because they’re believing it’s
impossible I mean if we all know what
does it take to transform and obviously
help people it takes three things to
create a breakthrough in anything and
your personal life in your business
anywhere you need a strategy but that’s
not the first place you should look it’s
the first place all of us look me too
it’s our inherent thing you want to lose
weight or how do I do it
I’m gonna grow my business how do I do
it it’s it’s instinctively been trained
to think that way but the problem is the
how-to is usually not that complex
I’m gonna come on 70% of America is what
75% of America now is overweight is that
because it’s so complex that’ll be fit
and strong right you know only the 1% no
the answer is they hide it from you you
have to work your ass off to not hear
what it takes right and so so you know I
never I went to this I went to a TED med
center and I watched about 12 doctors
won’t have to know to get up and do
these stories about how we could just
get patients to take their medications
and try to figure out the whole thing
and I was just looking and going you’re
all talking about strategy you’ve
forgotten psychology because strategies
wonder if I’m a strategist of my whole
life freaking out strategy is we both
know a strategy could save you a decade
right and this is a strategy could save
you you know it could make the
devastating success and failure but most
people have strategies available or they
could get them or you could create them
but the problem is you got a story and
your story is why it isn’t working and
the story is I’ve tried what everything
if you tried everything you’d be fit you
tried everything you’d be profitable if
you tried everything you’d be there but
people said you know I’m big-boned
that’s what I use I’m still big-boned
but I’m 38 pounds lighter than I was 25
years ago and I’ve never gained it back
right a was big-boned that was my story
all the good ones are gone that’s why
I’m not in a relationship or they’re
gone I’m not a.m. they are or whatever
the story is there’s always a story and
what I tell people’s you know if you can
just divorce the story of your
limitation and marry the truth of your
unlimited capacity then the whole game
changes but it’s hard to do that because
when you’re in your story you don’t even
realize it so you need a third piece for
breakthrough and that’s really what my
life’s about which is changing people
States because in a different state or
different people you know
mean people be nice yes or no yes or no
who’s there when they’re a nice day
can I speak mean sure I too get a mean
stay so really learning to train
yourself to be in an ideal state where
the best of you comes out for yourself
for your family for your mission for
your world for your co-workers to me
that’s one of the most important
decisions in life to make used to ask me
of all the people I’ve met all the
things I’ve seen
you know what creates a magnificent life
you know everybody has goals and dreams
that are different some people want you
know picket fence some want to make a
billion dollar some you don’t want to
have this huge breakthrough in
technology some people want to write
through the poetry whatever is right for
people is what I want them for
themselves I don’t want to be like me or
you or anybody else I want them to have
their dream but to have that you need
two skills you need number one to have
the science of achievement it’s a
science you have to know how to take
your vision and make it real and most of
people in stru have already figured that
out and this guy sure as hell has and
you have and I have so most of us know
and we can all refine our skills in that
area but we know how to take what we
dream about make it real if you don’t
you can learn from somebody who does you
know the simplest thing is get crazily
hungry for something we all know when
you get so hungry so desirous your brain
starts coming up with answers and then
it’s massive action but effective
execution which is all modeling which is
I assume what this is about
find the best example compress the time
let someone else take 20 years to figure
it out you do it in two weeks or two
months or what are the period is that we
should all be standing the shoulders the
people around us instead of reinventing
the wheel and then there’s this thing
called grace now if you work your ass
off
you’re totally focused you’re trying to
serve something larger than yourself and
you really are executing what works you
need a little grace might want to call
it luck if you prefer God the universe
but it’s there and we got all achieve
but I think the more important skill if
you ask me is to have an extraordinary
is the art of fulfillment
it’s an art it’s not a science because
there’s a science to making money I
don’t care who you are if you do certain
things you’re gonna have too much
financial stress you do other things
you’re gonna have an abundance there’s a
science there’s a science to your body
everyone here is bio chemically
different different genome but there’s
certain fundamental pad
if you and I follow them you’re gonna
have tons of energy in the field good if
you break them you’re gonna pay the
price and have low energy or disease but
fulfillment is an art what’s going to
fulfill you is differently at first next
you’re not gonna learn that from anybody
else you got to find it because success
without fulfillment is the ultimate
failure and I get those phone calls all
the time for the multi billionaire
entrepreneur or politician or business
person or a person just won their
Academy Award and they’re depressed and
they can’t tell anybody because they got
all their goals but they’re not
fulfilled because they really don’t have
that sense of meaning in their life they
went for something and they got it they
achieved and if you doubt this what I’m
saying is relevant to you or us or
anyone just think about about a year and
what a month ago we lost what I consider
be a national treasure robbing wipes how
many of you loved robbing lives we’re
gonna keep the ounce of look and mostly
you didn’t know him almost anywhere you
go in the world people love robbing
wings by the way was he great at
achievement oh my god that guy he said
he want to make become a great comedian
he did that I want to make the world
laugh he did I want to make my own TV
show he did I wanted the number one TV
show he did it I want to make movies he
did I want an Academy Award for not
being funny not his skill set drama and
he did it I want a beautiful family he
did it and then he hung himself make
everybody happy but yourself not a good
plan so if I had a gift to give you it
would be maybe make a different decision
and a decision is that no matter what
happens in your life you’re gonna live
in a beautiful state a beautiful state
and that could be happy that could be
grateful that could be being generous
those are all beautiful states aren’t
they could be curious
it could be fun it could be playful
you’re not limited to one state but it’s
different than suffering and most people
suffering and all suffering I’ve ever
seen I traveled 100 countries I’ve dealt
with presence of countries and you know
presidents of businesses CEOs I’ve dealt
with people in prison I dealt with you
name average people suffering always
comes but you’ve obsessed about
something related to you you can only be
depressed if you’re focusing on yourself
so now I’m depressed kisses my kids and
and they’re not doing well no you’re
depressed because you feel you’ve failed
your kids it’s about you it’s about how
you think you what you should have done
or shouldn’t have done or what someone
did to you or didn’t do to you in the
past through the future which don’t even
exist so I have a simple goal my goal is
help people make a decision that says I
don’t know what’s gonna happen you might
get a divorce even though you don’t
think so
you might find a family of your family
with cancer you might have your house
get burned down or have a tornado go by
and if you live in the same place it
happens every two years and you move
back we should talk but some people seem
to do that for some reason you can’t
control those things I can’t control
those things I don’t want those to
happen to you or anybody I love or
anybody who’s even a stranger to me but
they’re going to happen true not
positively just the truth so if that’s
gonna happen I say make a decision now
that says I’m a little bit a beautiful
state and I’m gonna find beauty in
whatever Life brings me cuz life is too
short not to I see a little buddy over
here names Sean I remember when I got a
phone call from the make-a-wish
Foundation see if a young man is about
to die and he wants to meet you he came
to a seminar and then I took him out
after his in time if he coughed too much
they said they said he can’t grab him I
said I want to take him cross the fire I
said take him cross the fire said of me
if he coughs he breaks a rib I said I’ll
be really gentle we’re gonna do this
thing and he did it and then afterwards
and I sat down and I said man I don’t
have the answers but if your body is
you’re just coughing and it’s gonna make
you break a rib your body is so acid I
said you should get alkaline let me put
you the other with a doctor how many
years ago is that you were 19 year now
36 I like seeing you here so brother you
but Shawn but maybe think of Shawn as
Shawn lives in a beautiful state
he could be bitching and complaining and
whining what does he do his whole life
is not about himself that’s why he’s so
happy he doesn’t live in himself he
lives outside himself serving days he
loves he still takes care of himself and
he’s funny he likes to seduce women and
things like I can’t talk about right now
but I’m glad to hear it’s about freakin
time John good to see you grew up now
the bottom line is this young man over
here who knows different stage of life
he’s always been anyways I think he
lived because he lived for more than
himself yeah I’m sure he felt pain but
we only suffer when we think about
what’s being done to us or what people
are gonna think or what they should have
done it happened done and you can’t
control that stuff anyway I mean why be
pissed when people can do our people
gonna be mean yes or no are people gonna
be unfair and unjust yes or no are
people gonna be beautiful and generous
yes or no you just never know when
that’s gonna happen so might as well
enjoy yourself along the way and I
suggest today if you want there’s any
gift I came by to give you it’s to tell
you what you know already but get you to
make a decision about to actually decide
I’m gonna live in a beautiful state that
doesn’t mean I don’t get angry or too
tired well you know suffering arises and
you end it the moment you go I’m
thinking about me if I leave this I’ll
always be suffering the human mind is
always looking for what’s wrong the
human brain is not designed to make you
happy it’s designed to make you survive
happiness that’s your job and you only
get it if you draw a line in the sand
that’s how it’s gonna be and I can tell
you the few people to do it I know a few
people that have done it they have
magnificent wives and when you’re a
beautiful state the best ideas come here
this man was in a beautiful state every
time I talk to him I love st. Peter
Peter’s just always on fire about
something but notice you know he’s doing
unbelievably well there’s nothing wrong
with that but almost everything he’s
doing is about more than himself and so
that’s why he feels so alive he’s not
suffering it out
he’s an ecstasy he’s not lucky he’s
living life a certain way it’s a
beautiful way I’m honored to have you as
a friend
thank you brother how many met this man
before and he was in a wonderful state
let me see her hands
I don’t think I’ve ever seen not a
wonderful state I’ve seen him absolute
painful challenging places but he
doesn’t stay there and look what he’s
able to create because of it he’s a he
is a nine-year-old boy who’s on fire
he’s not fired to light the world on
fire with what’s possible it’s a
beautiful thing I honor you so the
contribution I’ll make thank you Tony
and I think it was about impossible and
mindset and so forth yeah his the
reality is there is very little that’s
impossible
period it just is and and your mindset
as soon as you say something is
impossible then you shut down every
possibility for solving it right and we
all know this and the challenge is that
it’s really hard not to be in that state
because we get thrown stuff all the time
and what I want to share with you is an
experiment which is to say okay not only
how do I make it not how do I make it
possible but how do I actually go ten
times bigger and you’ve heard me speak
about this you know moonshot thinking
bold thinking whatever the case whatever
terminology you want to give it and most
of us in our life are trying to make a
10% improvement and we know this this is
I’m trying to infuse my revenues by 10
percent I’m trying to increase Mont you
reduce my sales by 10% save 10% more of
the you know the lands out there
whatever it truly is we all have this
sort of beaten into us by life and by
the rest of universe that you can make
these small incremental improvements but
the fact the matter is that there are
those in the world that go ten times
bigger and you every one of us can be
that and as soon as you say I want to I
want to not only solve this thing but go
ten times bigger in my work in the
things and can I say this in something
that you’re truly passionate about not
just about earning a little more money I
mean it really should be in something
that you care truly about that is bigger
than yourself that is impacting the
world as soon as you try and go ten
times bigger three magical things happen
number one even if you have no idea how
to solve it no idea how to get there
you’ll be amazed at what
you come up with and what’s interesting
is our legacy our past anchors us to
where we are today
and you have to let go of that you truly
have to let go of all the stuff in your
past what you thought you’d done all of
the heart you know the infrastructure
that you’ve built to let yourself go you
know when Elon Musk built Tesla the
reason Tesla was such an amazingly
better car is he didn’t have a hundred
years of Detroit to hold on to he start
with a clean sheet of paper and imagine
what could be the second thing is when
you try and go ten times bigger versus
ten percent bigger it’s a hundred times
the value proposition and it’s never a
hundred times more expensive or a
hundred times harder and so you get this
increased capability and then the third
thing is when you try and go you know
ten times bigger to solve a problem ten
times bigger
you’ve got to reinvent stuff you have to
actually go and figure out okay I have
no idea how I’m gonna solve that you’re
gonna start to reinvent things so when
Eric and I were working on you know
asteroid mining
we had to reinvent we had to have you
know so much computational power onboard
the spacecraft we had to come up with
brand new sensors and hyperspectral and
mid wave IR that didn’t exist had never
been licensed because these spacecraft
were gonna be operating at 200 million
miles away and that forced us to come up
with new kinds of capabilities that were
not currently possible and you’ll be
amazed with those capabilities that you
create in your business in your life
enable you to do and so there’s this
massive benefit this payoff this
dividend that comes from expanding your
mind and not being anchored to the past
and so I think that there very few
things that are truly impossible I think
that impossible is a is a state of mind
and I’ll say one other thing the people
in your life are part of that anchoring
so how do you anchor yourself with a new
set of people right I’m looking at my
dear friend Naveen Jain here with whom
we’ve opened up XPrize India and are
really working on solving women’s and
girls issues in India
and providing abundant drinking water in
India I mean so what do you how do you
surround yourself with amazing people
who live in the state of anything is
possible
I’m blessed at XPrize at singularity
University at H line PR I live I live
that constantly and so how do you do
that
where are you doing that what is your
nothing is impossible community it is
truly here and so that’s really
critically important because once you
get into that mindset then you start
freeing yourself from that other that
you tell yourself and people tell you
because we are living in a world where
constant amazing miracles happen the
other thing because I’ll put my
commercial into this stop watching the
news stop watching the news you could
not pay me enough to have the crisis
news network with the constantly
negative news network whatever you call
CNN pollute my mind really I have social
networks I have you know Google filters
and so forth I was just telling Arianna
about this and hopefully she’ll do this
I want on the front page of Huffington
Post I said I want a slider where I can
control the percentage of positive news
stories right how would you like that
instead of because right now it’s right
now it’s it’s you know it’s ten to one
negative to positive it’s true it’s like
why would you possibly invest in the
world and in the life and all these
things if the world is falling apart if
you know if the crisis new network is
like showing you airplane accent an
airplane accent airplane accident what
problem is that the news networks never
tell you there was no school shooting
today at this school you know or there
was this airplane actually flew LA to
New York and actually made it an
everybody survived it’s not used and so
we get this disproportionate view and so
our minds are constantly the mindset you
have when you watch the negative news is
awful not it’s not going on it’s not
that there’s this amazing hardship and
and lives that are on the
sis of of hunger and death around the
world but the world is getting better an
extraordinary rate and you can make a
difference in it and there is no problem
there is no problem we cannot solve
period end of statement all right so
since both of you are two of the the
greatest achievers and biggest thinkers
at least that I know in the history of
well honest to god you know what no in a
really serious way I you know it’s funny
I can’t imagine there will ever be
another Tony Robbins you are a frickin
best week of nature that’s true
unfortunate and I mean one of the most
amazing things like when when I went to
date with destiny would he’ll ask how
many of you came here you’re thinking
about committing suicide and literally I
don’t know anywhere from 6 to 12 or
whatever I don’t know the amount stand
up and you literally take that on I
don’t know another time fitting that
could I mean it’s it’s my modeling and
you flip it you take a person in a
horrible hopeless state and they’re
coming to your seminar maybes a
last-ditch effort but there’s that hope
and you just channel it but then you
share that with freaking thousands of
people live on the spot I mean and
that’s just one of like hundreds of
things that you do that have my mom your
everybody I see there’s no way there’s
no way he can do this there’s no way you
can saw how can you possibly and then
boom it’s done you do it it is it is
truly a blessing to have it on it’s nice
things I mean like were you born this
way it’s too stupid question but like
I’m saying it for other people like you
built yourself to be Tony Robbins I was
your dream sequence I was a kid from
Azusa who had no certainty who we had no
food and had to be in charge because my
mother was a little crazy and I promised
myself that my future family would never
go through this and so I decide I hated
suffering as I experienced it and I
wanted ended so I read some of her books
near
human development psychology and
physiology when I was still 17 18 19 to
21 20 years old a singles gonna read a
book of dead and do that but I’ve still
immersed I went to every event I
listened to everything I got immersed
but when it comes to people you know
I’ve been doing now I’ve been doing this
for you know 38 years and I’ve been with
50 million people so in a hundred
countries so there’s nothing I haven’t
seen at this point that somebody stands
up so it’s beautiful it happens
different every time it comes through me
and I really believe in grace I really
believe it’s there but I prepared a
level the most most people never dream
of and I also know that there’s whatever
human beings feel we are not our
feelings we are not our patterns those
are things we might identify with or not
that and so when I see a pattern it
doesn’t work I don’t think the person’s
broken I don’t think anybody’s broken
I’m not here to fix people but I am here
to break up the patterns that don’t work
and I’ve never lost to suicide knock on
wood and you know thousands for 38 years
and we follow up two years later three
years later we’re making they’re making
a documentary right now so how do you
both deal with or think about or even
channel like extreme levels of stress
adversity criticism public opinion or
failure because both of you have had you
know things that just flat-out didn’t
work but you’re quite your public
figures and how do you handle it or deal
with it or think about it I really let
go of criticism really fast I actually I
I might you know sort of process in the
moment to try and figure out this is
something that I truly learn from there
valid but I let go of it really fast and
so if I’m in a you know a fight a
personal fight or whatever it’s like is
so time is so precious
sign is so precious failure god I’ve had
a wonderful series of failures and you
know I built a launch vehicle company
that we won this huge contract and then
couldn’t finance it and had to close it
down
I’ve built a multitude of companies you
know luckily you know a third have been
great a third have been ok and the third
have been life lessons but it’s I have
to believe that what I’m doing
in my heart of hearts is the right thing
to do and if I’m doing the very best I
can and I believe it is something
because I take a dollar from sub
buttocks as a donation or as an
investment I and those of you who are in
the room here who who have supported me
or invested in me know that it’s like
it’s me it’s like you got you got my
cell phone number and I care and I am so
so committed to making you know to
delivering I will do everything I
possibly can so I need to know that for
myself and I can sleep at night if
something fails I know I gave it
everything I can’t possibly could and
there are also those times where is
hit and you know it’s like nosedive and
I will stop everything else I’m doing
and I will go laser-like on that a
hundred percent 24 hours a day seven
days a week and I will do everything
humanly possible and it takes that a lot
of times it absolutely takes that a lot
of time so I mean that’s for me awesome
thank you I say you know I love to light
people up since this little kid I love
light people up and so early on I was
want to make everybody happy all the
time and then I you know I come in this
package I was 5-1 and then fixed Nano in
67 I do 10 inches in a year because I
had a tumor in my brain and and I don’t
even know it when I grew so I’m big and
so and I’m you know quiet and unassuming
I’m hard time expressing my true
feelings so it makes it difficult for
people to understand what I’m really
like
no I’m fairly loud and intense and what
happened for me in the beginning as I
was trying to make everybody happy all
the time and then I just been realizing
everybody wants to be happy
and and gradually I began to realize
opinions are a dime a dozen
but impact is all that matters to me so
you know when you’ve had the impact and
you don’t need anybody else to tell you
and you don’t need something else to
acknowledge you you know but if it stars
in your chart and you do what’s right
you know it and no one could take that
from you didn’t take away anything you
have but they can’t take away who you
become and you become something unique
when you find a way to grow and you find
a way to give and you do that
consistently it creates an extraordinary
life so I’d like to say that I’ve you
know want people I don’t want people to
hate me or dislike me but I would be
accurate to say I don’t care but I don’t
care enough to change what I’m doing
that’s what I’m doing is value
and I think that as far as failure is
concerned oh my god there’s so many
failures but I just don’t hold it that
way and it’s not a technique or being
positive just being intelligent you know
failure is education if you use it maybe
you learn something it’s not a fairy if
you don’t learn to thing then it’s
failure but if you learned something I
mean how many of you in this room had
something out in your life that was
horrific you hated it you’ve never want
to go through it again
you never want something you care about
to go through it they’re looking back on
it five ten years later you say I’m so
glad I went through that because it made
me so much stronger or so much smarter
and maybe care so much more who can
relate I’m curious right so if that’s
true then you know why not adopt the
philosophy that life is not happening to
me it’s happening for me and everything
is happening for me even what I thought
was failure and now my job is to figure
out where is the benefit and use it use
it for greater good so I’m sure I could
probably list unlimited failures but I
would be insincere because I don’t
really look at as a missed failure and
that’s not cause in positive just
because I work my ass up to figure out
what can I learn from that how can I use
that and I’d like to make people happy
and but I’ve also learned in business
like I fire customers I don’t need them
it’s a privilege to business to the left
because we will more than deliver times
then and so I teach my team we so rarely
have to do it anymore but you know you
fire a customer and you say listen we’re
not gonna be able to meet your needs
clearly because there are there people
out there that no matter what you do
they’re gonna be unhappy yes or no but
why are you doing business with them and
you and taking the life energy of your
organization from it I get rid of them
so fast and then they always want that
again and I never let them back never
and then but they become a public
hanging and other people go oh this is
how you play here because it’s me it
world of the Internet
we’ve lost any form of kindness people
say things that are the most harsh
horrific thing of the stuff people write
and all it is is people who feel
insignificant who would never have the
guts to say something to your face but
we’ve created an environment where it’s
tolerated and so I think reversing that
it’s really important you have to define
your environment your business your
world your family because we all get
what we tolerate I’m gonna tolerate it
I’ll give my soul to a stranger but I
won’t tolerate somebody being abusive
any member of my team or
to people my audience or to me certainly
not to my family and you get what you
tolerate you got to decide and you also
get what you tolerate in yourself and I
think if you can look at what you’re
tolerating yourself and say I’m not
gonna tolerate that anymore myself that
it’s easier to lead other people if you
just tell other people you want to
tolerate they’ll look at you and go yeah
yeah you don’t tolerate but look how you
are in order to be perfect but people
see how you don’t know who I am
you’ll have to watch my lips move you
can see how my feet have moved for 38
years that’s Tony Robbins right that’s
probably the best signature you can give
that’s the brand that you put out there
it’s the way you live the thing you said
the line which I love life is not
happening to me it’s happening for me is
that like you know I mean as part of
that a trick you plan yourself or do you
truly believe everything you have you
are able to take that as is ingredients
of this is all happening for me this
most horrible most horrendous thing from
diseases to to suffering I mean that’s
that’s an important line and I like to
it’s not just it’s not just a line I
there’s a woman that I just saw that I
had met 15 years ago and she just showed
my seminar and she was suicidal because
one of her daughters had gotten sick and
she brought to the hospital and the
doctor said she’s fine she brought her
home and the child died and she was
gonna kill herself and she had three
other kids so I really truly had to work
with her and I remember working with her
back then I looked it up because we have
an almost stuff I’ve ever done on film
and I asked her I said what are your
spiritual beliefs and she said I believe
everything happens for a reason and all
that stuff he said so you’re gonna
abandon what you believe spiritually
because life didn’t turn out the way you
want right now she’s no no I said if
it’s if it’s the truth it’ll be the
truth when it’s painful to be the truth
when it’s pleasurable so I I would like
you to say I jump up and go oh this is
happening for me right now I don’t do
that I think what the hell’s happening
white and then I catch myself and I go
there’s some good in this and my core
belief my real core belief underneath
that is everything I’ve ever been able
to help people with us because I faced
some portion of it if if if I you know
have got to face a divorce I decided I
need to go through a divorce and was I
didn’t want to know i’ma tell you to
pick your partner after 14 years it was
the most horrific thing in the world but
I thought if I can figure out how to do
this I will intelligently lovingly no
matter what the other parties like and I
can help anybody else if I you know I’ve
had several businesses over the decades
that were you know near the verge of
bankruptcy out of resort and Fiji and
there’s a coup you know it’s kind of
inconvenient you know and I’m losing a
million dollars a month you know and
it’s like and I didn’t have a million
dollars a month to be losing at that
time just I wanted to create this great
place for people but it’s like in the
midst of all those elements you know I’d
come back and say if I can figure this
out I can help any other business so
almost all my skills have come because
of some thing I had a salt in me or help
someone else solve and my views if I can
figure it out for me I can help millions
of people and so that makes the problem
inspiring as opposed to the problem
being why did it happen to me because
we’re all gonna experience problems I
mean the only thing that we all have in
common is everyone here is gonna
experience severe bang on account rich
you are money is not gonna create
immunity of pain suffering can get
immunity from from the decision I told
you about but we’re all gonna have
problems we’re all gonna have challenges
the only difference is what the hell you
gonna do with them and if we just deal
with our own problems they get really
boring and some people need problems to
have drama in their life to cover the
fact they’re not doing anything but I
think it’s much more interesting to
solve it and move on and help other
people do the same cuz you’ve actually
done it not because you talked about it
yeah gotcha what I love is Robin Sharma
who we did a call with he’s in the
roomies he has his thing the 5 a.m. Club
a guy named Hal Elrod wrote a book of
miracle morning you do priming in the
morning I love to hear what you guys
feel are your best rituals or what it is
that that you are doing that just
massively impacts you to be as effective
as both of you are if there’s something
simple or something that you just do
that makes your life work starting being
a morning ritual or just anything that
people here it is watching cartoons with
my kids at 7:00 a.m. count no you eat
that maybe back your I mean it’s for me
it’s anchored in my desiring to make the
impossible stuff I
set-out happen right it’s it’s anchored
in this infinity challenge I’m never
bored these problems I’ve taken on with
an amazing group of people are all sort
of infinite and there’s no getting there
so when they’re for me they’re my
guiding star so it’s like okay what am I
gonna do right now to move the game
forward this day you know I wish I could
say I was a great meditator or yoga
person or so forth and that will come
but not right now for me it’s just it’s
dedication to the child inside me and
what I care deeply about which is making
this making these succeed and and
ultimately it’s it’s trying to be clear
about what I’m enjoying doing right it’s
surfing the the stuff I love versus this
is work I’m probably not good at this
work who else can I find they can do it
and doing the stuff that I truly love
better and doing more of more of that I
mean it’s it’s there’s nothing
sophisticated there tell me what do you
what do you got um I think anyone who
succeeds has something that they aspire
to there’s a mission there’s a direction
there is a desire and they bring it up
regularly and you do that even though
you say you don’t do it this Fisk
eight-way attacking human genome and and
figuring how to get meteors to to feed
you what you need is a fairly large
vision somewhat sophisticated our minds
really simple mine simples I I believe
that the body is the place that drives
the mind the fastest you can go inside
your head all day long trying to resolve
things and make excuses or freaked out
but I learned early on in my life that
in order to make myself do things I had
to trigger this body to feel strength
and to know that when I say something I
mean it and so I have a simple ritual
that it’s actually enjoyable it may not
sound enjoyable is now which is I get up
every morning and I’m privileged to have
multiple homes so from those homes one
of the homes I have a river the rest of
them I have
plungers and I I go into 56 degree
temperature just for about 60 seconds I
jump straight in or I was just in Sun
Valley the rivers 38 degrees a little
bit cooler and I took my nephew and said
you’re about to learn how to start your
day and I bring all my friends when they
come back the day they all have to do
this but every cell every nerve in your
body explodes and it’s phenomenal for
your lymph system phenomenal for your
health but it also is just a simple
discipline it says I say it it happens
I’m gonna say I’m gonna do this I’d do
it and I thought it so much it’s there
and it’s invigorating and then I do as
you said something I call priming I
don’t you know you wake up and you’re
you know 22 hours off your normal time
zone and you’ve got to get up and take
care of 2,000 people for three days and
nights for 14 is 15 hours you don’t
always wake up feeling wow is this the
coolest thing in the world
somebody’s wake up and go what
universe’s is my body in you know and so
I do my physical ritual but then I also
do this priming and priming for me as
just I don’t hope that I’m gonna show up
with my best I create a state for it
most of you know probably the principle
of priming you know you can they prove
it in so many scientific studies we all
think we make our decisions consciously
when much of our decision-making that we
think is conscious is being made by
contextual environmental manipulation
that we’re not even thinking about on
one study they took some people and they
hired actors they’ll go to a hundred
people and they’d walk up to you and if
they were trained to do the exact same
look same expression and they’d say
would you hold this they hand you a
coffee cup and they reach in their
pocket and grab their phone put some
back say thank you very much they just
to kind of assume the action and they
would do it the same way same facial
expression one hundred people one way a
hundred people out there and what was
the only difference cold iced coffee
versus hot coffee an hour later they
come back with some people different
people who’ve got little caps on their
sing listen we’ll give you ten dollars
if they’ll give us two minutes if you
read this three paragraph story and give
us two question answers and they read
this whole story everyone’s the same
story and at the end they asked them how
would you describe the main character
what do they like as a person 80% of
people that got warm coffee said they’re
warm they’re generous they’re loving the
warm is always one of the language
80% like clockwork people got the iced
coffee same story say that they’re very
cold that they had they were using
generate language like being obsessed or
being about themselves selfish things of
this nature I give you dozens examples
so what I do each morning is I do a
breathing pattern it’s an explosive
green path and I learned in any of
breathing a breath hand exploding it out
you know from that got out the nose and
I do that three sets of 10 pause 3 sets
of 10 plus 3 sets of 10 so alters my
state and I just do three things for 10
minutes because I have this deal with
myself if you don’t have 10 minutes of
yourself you don’t have a life who’s
with me on this so I said you know what
I don’t I don’t need to have 20 minute
30 minute 40 minute meditations I want
10 minutes and I don’t know I need a
meditate I don’t know if I meditate I
don’t to not think I don’t know too many
people can do that and I don’t know that
I want to not freaking think you know so
I thought what I want to do is I want to
focus on the emotions that will cause me
to be the better me and the two motions
that most people are messed up by our
anger and fear and when you’re grateful
you can’t be angry try to be grateful
and angry simultaneous it’ll never work
and you can’t be fearful when you’re
grateful so when I look at people almost
always they’re reacting out of fear or
the reacting out of anger at some
version of those two so gratitude to me
is the antidote so I spend 3 minutes
just three minutes and I think of three
things I’m grateful for 3 people 3
situations but I step into it I don’t
you know I don’t remember the roller
coaster over there riding it I put
myself in the front seat going of the
edge so I feel the moment and I make
sure one of the three things I’m
grateful for is something really simple
like the wind on my face or something
beautiful like my child smile and the
reason I do that is because I remember
you know interviewing some of the
astronauts Buzz altering these guys and
so most of you probably know you can
imagine you know to be an astronaut this
man knows that meets aspire to do that
and then to go through the thousands of
people and be picked and then to
actually go to the moon and stand on the
moon and look back and see that picture
we’ve all seen that blue-green earth I
mean you imagine and then you come home
and what happens there’s a ticker tape
parade and you shake the press
Hanne now what the hell you you’re 32
what the hell do you do for the rest of
your life and you know what if you know
the story of many whose astronauts most
of them have some major emotional
challenges right some abused alcohol
some drugs and they had a real rough
time because they forgot to find
adventure and a smile I thought the only
way to just go to the moon so I trained
myself to make sure not just the big
beautiful things that are part of my
life but the little things and so I feel
that for three minutes then I do three
minutes of a blessing corny as it may
sound I I imagine life God energy coming
into my body healing every muscle every
nerve in my body strengthening
everything’s you strengthen
straightening the best of me my passion
my love my generosity and my creativity
my humor I love and then I see any
problem that needs to be solved just
being solved because I otherwise I
didn’t think I got to do it all and then
once I feel that fully and that energy
comes through me and back through me
multiplies that I do a circle of my
intimate family my kids my wife my
friends this little character over here
is one of my lists and I just Circle out
all the way out to my clients and I send
that same energy them and I imagine as
corny as it sounds they’re being healed
they’re getting what they need energy
wise they’re having the life that they
deserve and seeing it multiplied so I do
that for three minutes in the last three
minutes or my three to thrive I think of
three specific outcomes that matter to
me and I don’t think about achieving
them I see feel and experience them as
done and I see the impact that it has I
see people’s lives touched I see the joy
I feel it as done and I feel grateful
and it’s ten minutes but honestly it
usually goes 15 or 20 because I’m having
a damn good time by having a ten minute
walk there’s no excuse not to do it and
I do it every day and I don’t hope I’m
gonna feel good and then what happens is
you’re primed you’re you literally you
see things through a different set of
filters you make decisions some of the
filters and also think of it most people
are wired for stress they’re wired for
frustration the wild for feeling lonely
and they you know they got a highway to
pissed off and they’ve got dirt roads to
happiness so I decided I’m gonna wire
myself happen
that way I had my view as I have to
change the whole earth to be happy today
that’s different from me now I can just
wake up and be happy because I’ve wired
myself in a different way neurologically
and then I showed the people how to do
this as well
you guys are awesome I really really
appreciate you both coming to this and
taking it thank you so much [Music]
people have this illusion about life
work balance that’s you know if you’re
gonna accomplish it it’s what people are
laughing is you know right um what’s
true is life work integration so I was
just in twenty one country or seven
countries twenty-one days but who’s with
me is my family who’s with me as my
friends and I’ve done well enough to
have a plane and that rooms and all that
kind of cool stuff makes it but when I
didn’t we still we puffed it together
and beginning days it was coach and
dragging ourselves around but I thought
it was great for my kids to have
schooling but I thought an education was
more valuable and traveling the earth
was a part of that but you know we’re in
the middle of this crazy schedule but
we’re it’s not work it’s a mission when
it’s work it’s that I was asked people I
said how would you describe what you do
and people I say because at work it’s a
couriers admission and most people of
course they have to work and that’s
exactly what does this heavy if it’s you
know if it’s your career it gives you
something more but your mission it
doesn’t wear you out it brings energy to
you it’s fulfilling and if you can tie
your mission in with the people that you
love it’s pretty cool you know there’s
some people assume they’re my friends I
see being here in front row here and
it’s like we’re all on this mission and
we find time to connect and be with each
other and have a blast with each other
but we’re sharing about things that
matter I’m not a person to go to a party
and like you know go in the corner and
chitchat it’s like you want to talk
about something deep let’s rock you
don’t let me go home and be with my
family or you know let me go do
something fun that some of that nature
if you can combine your mission with
your family combine your mission with
some of your friends then you’re gonna
accomplish a million times more but if
you think it’s a sacrifice don’t do it
because then all you’re doing is you’re
gonna have resentment later on or
frustration later on and and then you
really aren’t contributing because it’s
you’re you’re trading off you’re not
giving no great oh good I think I’m a
nine-year-old kid does you know me know
I am a nine-year-old child in my body
pinching myself every day that I get to
do this that I get to do it is
extraordinary I could not would not want
to be doing anything else I mean it’s
hard work and it’s and it’s like I’m
push myself or anybody else but I love
it I love it I love it I cannot imagine
doing anything else and that’s the
challenge right the question is a lot of
people are doing something to get to
something else and that’s just wrong and
it’s matter of don’t do cuz your parents
told you because you heard on an
infomercial because whatever if do what
is your highest calling in life and love
it and so I don’t work at all I really
don’t work you know dan has told me to
get rid of it so I get rid of it well
you know I mean this this room is filled
with some very high achievers and
obviously what I wanted to derive from
you guys is this some insight somehow to
some what it is you do to just give them
you know perspective and stuff and I
carefully chose some questions and this
one is you’re both masters at achieving
what most people consider impossible and
I mean really like what you guys do most
people consider absolutely impossible so
when something is considered
quote/unquote impossible how do you
reframe it so it becomes possible in
your mind and how much of that is
mindset I think
impossible is not a fact it’s an opinion
when someone tells me it’s impossible
I always just look at anybody around me
knows that they can’t do this that’s
part of it but if they didn’t know me
it’s your opinion then don’t say no
science shows and I say yeah I know how
many times the science shows something’s
impossible now science shows it’s
possible things are impossible till
somebody does it and so I find that you
know most of your business people you
look at businesses and what does it take
to make a business grow it’s not
impossible like a business grow up has
been shrinking for a long time or it’s
been stuck the real problem is always
the chokehold as always the psychology
and the skills of the leader always an
80% of that as psychology and 20% of the
mechanics like if you don’t know how to
read your financials and you’re trying
to fly the plane of your your company I
mean come on you know if all you do is
go down you look at profit loss and you
see what it is and you have a beer
either way you either celebrated a Brass
you know something you know you’re gonna
be in trouble right but if you have the
skillsets that’s one thing but you can
get any skill set if you have the
psychology and anytime of this
is not growing it is not because it’s
impossible it’s because they are
innovating and they’re not innovating
because they’re believing it’s
impossible I mean if we all know what
does it take to transform and obviously
help people it takes three things to
create a breakthrough in anything and
your personal life in your business
anywhere you need a strategy but that’s
not the first place you should look it’s
the first place all of us look me too
it’s our inherent thing you want to lose
weight or how do I do it
I’m gonna grow my business how do I do
it it’s it’s instinctively been trained
to think that way but the problem is the
how-to is usually not that complex
I’m gonna come on 70% of America is what
75% of America now is overweight is that
because it’s so complex that’ll be fit
and strong right you know only the 1% no
the answer is they hide it from you you
have to work your ass off to not hear
what it takes right and so so you know I
never I went to this I went to a TED med
center and I watched about 12 doctors
won’t have to know to get up and do
these stories about how we could just
get patients to take their medications
and try to figure out the whole thing
and I was just looking and going you’re
all talking about strategy you’ve
forgotten psychology because strategies
wonder if I’m a strategist of my whole
life freaking out strategy is we both
know a strategy could save you a decade
right and this is a strategy could save
you you know it could make the
devastating success and failure but most
people have strategies available or they
could get them or you could create them
but the problem is you got a story and
your story is why it isn’t working and
the story is I’ve tried what everything
if you tried everything you’d be fit you
tried everything you’d be profitable if
you tried everything you’d be there but
people said you know I’m big-boned
that’s what I use I’m still big-boned
but I’m 38 pounds lighter than I was 25
years ago and I’ve never gained it back
right a was big-boned that was my story
all the good ones are gone that’s why
I’m not in a relationship or they’re
gone I’m not a.m. they are or whatever
the story is there’s always a story and
what I tell people’s you know if you can
just divorce the story of your
limitation and marry the truth of your
unlimited capacity then the whole game
changes but it’s hard to do that because
when you’re in your story you don’t even
realize it so you need a third piece for
breakthrough and that’s really what my
life’s about which is changing people
States because in a different state or
different people you know
mean people be nice yes or no yes or no
who’s there when they’re a nice day
can I speak mean sure I too get a mean
stay so really learning to train
yourself to be in an ideal state where
the best of you comes out for yourself
for your family for your mission for
your world for your co-workers to me
that’s one of the most important
decisions in life to make used to ask me
of all the people I’ve met all the
things I’ve seen
you know what creates a magnificent life
you know everybody has goals and dreams
that are different some people want you
know picket fence some want to make a
billion dollar some you don’t want to
have this huge breakthrough in
technology some people want to write
through the poetry whatever is right for
people is what I want them for
themselves I don’t want to be like me or
you or anybody else I want them to have
their dream but to have that you need
two skills you need number one to have
the science of achievement it’s a
science you have to know how to take
your vision and make it real and most of
people in stru have already figured that
out and this guy sure as hell has and
you have and I have so most of us know
and we can all refine our skills in that
area but we know how to take what we
dream about make it real if you don’t
you can learn from somebody who does you
know the simplest thing is get crazily
hungry for something we all know when
you get so hungry so desirous your brain
starts coming up with answers and then
it’s massive action but effective
execution which is all modeling which is
I assume what this is about
find the best example compress the time
let someone else take 20 years to figure
it out you do it in two weeks or two
months or what are the period is that we
should all be standing the shoulders the
people around us instead of reinventing
the wheel and then there’s this thing
called grace now if you work your ass
off
you’re totally focused you’re trying to
serve something larger than yourself and
you really are executing what works you
need a little grace might want to call
it luck if you prefer God the universe
but it’s there and we got all achieve
but I think the more important skill if
you ask me is to have an extraordinary
is the art of fulfillment
it’s an art it’s not a science because
there’s a science to making money I
don’t care who you are if you do certain
things you’re gonna have too much
financial stress you do other things
you’re gonna have an abundance there’s a
science there’s a science to your body
everyone here is bio chemically
different different genome but there’s
certain fundamental pad
if you and I follow them you’re gonna
have tons of energy in the field good if
you break them you’re gonna pay the
price and have low energy or disease but
fulfillment is an art what’s going to
fulfill you is differently at first next
you’re not gonna learn that from anybody
else you got to find it because success
without fulfillment is the ultimate
failure and I get those phone calls all
the time for the multi billionaire
entrepreneur or politician or business
person or a person just won their
Academy Award and they’re depressed and
they can’t tell anybody because they got
all their goals but they’re not
fulfilled because they really don’t have
that sense of meaning in their life they
went for something and they got it they
achieved and if you doubt this what I’m
saying is relevant to you or us or
anyone just think about about a year and
what a month ago we lost what I consider
be a national treasure robbing wipes how
many of you loved robbing lives we’re
gonna keep the ounce of look and mostly
you didn’t know him almost anywhere you
go in the world people love robbing
wings by the way was he great at
achievement oh my god that guy he said
he want to make become a great comedian
he did that I want to make the world
laugh he did I want to make my own TV
show he did I wanted the number one TV
show he did it I want to make movies he
did I want an Academy Award for not
being funny not his skill set drama and
he did it I want a beautiful family he
did it and then he hung himself make
everybody happy but yourself not a good
plan so if I had a gift to give you it
would be maybe make a different decision
and a decision is that no matter what
happens in your life you’re gonna live
in a beautiful state a beautiful state
and that could be happy that could be
grateful that could be being generous
those are all beautiful states aren’t
they could be curious
it could be fun it could be playful
you’re not limited to one state but it’s
different than suffering and most people
suffering and all suffering I’ve ever
seen I traveled 100 countries I’ve dealt
with presence of countries and you know
presidents of businesses CEOs I’ve dealt
with people in prison I dealt with you
name average people suffering always
comes but you’ve obsessed about
something related to you you can only be
depressed if you’re focusing on yourself
so now I’m depressed kisses my kids and
and they’re not doing well no you’re
depressed because you feel you’ve failed
your kids it’s about you it’s about how
you think you what you should have done
or shouldn’t have done or what someone
did to you or didn’t do to you in the
past through the future which don’t even
exist so I have a simple goal my goal is
help people make a decision that says I
don’t know what’s gonna happen you might
get a divorce even though you don’t
think so
you might find a family of your family
with cancer you might have your house
get burned down or have a tornado go by
and if you live in the same place it
happens every two years and you move
back we should talk but some people seem
to do that for some reason you can’t
control those things I can’t control
those things I don’t want those to
happen to you or anybody I love or
anybody who’s even a stranger to me but
they’re going to happen true not
positively just the truth so if that’s
gonna happen I say make a decision now
that says I’m a little bit a beautiful
state and I’m gonna find beauty in
whatever Life brings me cuz life is too
short not to I see a little buddy over
here names Sean I remember when I got a
phone call from the make-a-wish
Foundation see if a young man is about
to die and he wants to meet you he came
to a seminar and then I took him out
after his in time if he coughed too much
they said they said he can’t grab him I
said I want to take him cross the fire I
said take him cross the fire said of me
if he coughs he breaks a rib I said I’ll
be really gentle we’re gonna do this
thing and he did it and then afterwards
and I sat down and I said man I don’t
have the answers but if your body is
you’re just coughing and it’s gonna make
you break a rib your body is so acid I
said you should get alkaline let me put
you the other with a doctor how many
years ago is that you were 19 year now
36 I like seeing you here so brother you
but Shawn but maybe think of Shawn as
Shawn lives in a beautiful state
he could be bitching and complaining and
whining what does he do his whole life
is not about himself that’s why he’s so
happy he doesn’t live in himself he
lives outside himself serving days he
loves he still takes care of himself and
he’s funny he likes to seduce women and
things like I can’t talk about right now
but I’m glad to hear it’s about freakin
time John good to see you grew up now
the bottom line is this young man over
here who knows different stage of life
he’s always been anyways I think he
lived because he lived for more than
himself yeah I’m sure he felt pain but
we only suffer when we think about
what’s being done to us or what people
are gonna think or what they should have
done it happened done and you can’t
control that stuff anyway I mean why be
pissed when people can do our people
gonna be mean yes or no are people gonna
be unfair and unjust yes or no are
people gonna be beautiful and generous
yes or no you just never know when
that’s gonna happen so might as well
enjoy yourself along the way and I
suggest today if you want there’s any
gift I came by to give you it’s to tell
you what you know already but get you to
make a decision about to actually decide
I’m gonna live in a beautiful state that
doesn’t mean I don’t get angry or too
tired well you know suffering arises and
you end it the moment you go I’m
thinking about me if I leave this I’ll
always be suffering the human mind is
always looking for what’s wrong the
human brain is not designed to make you
happy it’s designed to make you survive
happiness that’s your job and you only
get it if you draw a line in the sand
that’s how it’s gonna be and I can tell
you the few people to do it I know a few
people that have done it they have
magnificent wives and when you’re a
beautiful state the best ideas come here
this man was in a beautiful state every
time I talk to him I love st. Peter
Peter’s just always on fire about
something but notice you know he’s doing
unbelievably well there’s nothing wrong
with that but almost everything he’s
doing is about more than himself and so
that’s why he feels so alive he’s not
suffering it out
he’s an ecstasy he’s not lucky he’s
living life a certain way it’s a
beautiful way I’m honored to have you as
a friend
thank you brother how many met this man
before and he was in a wonderful state
let me see her hands
I don’t think I’ve ever seen not a
wonderful state I’ve seen him absolute
painful challenging places but he
doesn’t stay there and look what he’s
able to create because of it he’s a he
is a nine-year-old boy who’s on fire
he’s not fired to light the world on
fire with what’s possible it’s a
beautiful thing I honor you so the
contribution I’ll make thank you Tony
and I think it was about impossible and
mindset and so forth yeah his the
reality is there is very little that’s
impossible
period it just is and and your mindset
as soon as you say something is
impossible then you shut down every
possibility for solving it right and we
all know this and the challenge is that
it’s really hard not to be in that state
because we get thrown stuff all the time
and what I want to share with you is an
experiment which is to say okay not only
how do I make it not how do I make it
possible but how do I actually go ten
times bigger and you’ve heard me speak
about this you know moonshot thinking
bold thinking whatever the case whatever
terminology you want to give it and most
of us in our life are trying to make a
10% improvement and we know this this is
I’m trying to infuse my revenues by 10
percent I’m trying to increase Mont you
reduce my sales by 10% save 10% more of
the you know the lands out there
whatever it truly is we all have this
sort of beaten into us by life and by
the rest of universe that you can make
these small incremental improvements but
the fact the matter is that there are
those in the world that go ten times
bigger and you every one of us can be
that and as soon as you say I want to I
want to not only solve this thing but go
ten times bigger in my work in the
things and can I say this in something
that you’re truly passionate about not
just about earning a little more money I
mean it really should be in something
that you care truly about that is bigger
than yourself that is impacting the
world as soon as you try and go ten
times bigger three magical things happen
number one even if you have no idea how
to solve it no idea how to get there
you’ll be amazed at what
you come up with and what’s interesting
is our legacy our past anchors us to
where we are today
and you have to let go of that you truly
have to let go of all the stuff in your
past what you thought you’d done all of
the heart you know the infrastructure
that you’ve built to let yourself go you
know when Elon Musk built Tesla the
reason Tesla was such an amazingly
better car is he didn’t have a hundred
years of Detroit to hold on to he start
with a clean sheet of paper and imagine
what could be the second thing is when
you try and go ten times bigger versus
ten percent bigger it’s a hundred times
the value proposition and it’s never a
hundred times more expensive or a
hundred times harder and so you get this
increased capability and then the third
thing is when you try and go you know
ten times bigger to solve a problem ten
times bigger
you’ve got to reinvent stuff you have to
actually go and figure out okay I have
no idea how I’m gonna solve that you’re
gonna start to reinvent things so when
Eric and I were working on you know
asteroid mining
we had to reinvent we had to have you
know so much computational power onboard
the spacecraft we had to come up with
brand new sensors and hyperspectral and
mid wave IR that didn’t exist had never
been licensed because these spacecraft
were gonna be operating at 200 million
miles away and that forced us to come up
with new kinds of capabilities that were
not currently possible and you’ll be
amazed with those capabilities that you
create in your business in your life
enable you to do and so there’s this
massive benefit this payoff this
dividend that comes from expanding your
mind and not being anchored to the past
and so I think that there very few
things that are truly impossible I think
that impossible is a is a state of mind
and I’ll say one other thing the people
in your life are part of that anchoring
so how do you anchor yourself with a new
set of people right I’m looking at my
dear friend Naveen Jain here with whom
we’ve opened up XPrize India and are
really working on solving women’s and
girls issues in India
and providing abundant drinking water in
India I mean so what do you how do you
surround yourself with amazing people
who live in the state of anything is
possible
I’m blessed at XPrize at singularity
University at H line PR I live I live
that constantly and so how do you do
that
where are you doing that what is your
nothing is impossible community it is
truly here and so that’s really
critically important because once you
get into that mindset then you start
freeing yourself from that other that
you tell yourself and people tell you
because we are living in a world where
constant amazing miracles happen the
other thing because I’ll put my
commercial into this stop watching the
news stop watching the news you could
not pay me enough to have the crisis
news network with the constantly
negative news network whatever you call
CNN pollute my mind really I have social
networks I have you know Google filters
and so forth I was just telling Arianna
about this and hopefully she’ll do this
I want on the front page of Huffington
Post I said I want a slider where I can
control the percentage of positive news
stories right how would you like that
instead of because right now it’s right
now it’s it’s you know it’s ten to one
negative to positive it’s true it’s like
why would you possibly invest in the
world and in the life and all these
things if the world is falling apart if
you know if the crisis new network is
like showing you airplane accent an
airplane accent airplane accident what
problem is that the news networks never
tell you there was no school shooting
today at this school you know or there
was this airplane actually flew LA to
New York and actually made it an
everybody survived it’s not used and so
we get this disproportionate view and so
our minds are constantly the mindset you
have when you watch the negative news is
awful not it’s not going on it’s not
that there’s this amazing hardship and
and lives that are on the
sis of of hunger and death around the
world but the world is getting better an
extraordinary rate and you can make a
difference in it and there is no problem
there is no problem we cannot solve
period end of statement all right so
since both of you are two of the the
greatest achievers and biggest thinkers
at least that I know in the history of
well honest to god you know what no in a
really serious way I you know it’s funny
I can’t imagine there will ever be
another Tony Robbins you are a frickin
best week of nature that’s true
unfortunate and I mean one of the most
amazing things like when when I went to
date with destiny would he’ll ask how
many of you came here you’re thinking
about committing suicide and literally I
don’t know anywhere from 6 to 12 or
whatever I don’t know the amount stand
up and you literally take that on I
don’t know another time fitting that
could I mean it’s it’s my modeling and
you flip it you take a person in a
horrible hopeless state and they’re
coming to your seminar maybes a
last-ditch effort but there’s that hope
and you just channel it but then you
share that with freaking thousands of
people live on the spot I mean and
that’s just one of like hundreds of
things that you do that have my mom your
everybody I see there’s no way there’s
no way he can do this there’s no way you
can saw how can you possibly and then
boom it’s done you do it it is it is
truly a blessing to have it on it’s nice
things I mean like were you born this
way it’s too stupid question but like
I’m saying it for other people like you
built yourself to be Tony Robbins I was
your dream sequence I was a kid from
Azusa who had no certainty who we had no
food and had to be in charge because my
mother was a little crazy and I promised
myself that my future family would never
go through this and so I decide I hated
suffering as I experienced it and I
wanted ended so I read some of her books
near
human development psychology and
physiology when I was still 17 18 19 to
21 20 years old a singles gonna read a
book of dead and do that but I’ve still
immersed I went to every event I
listened to everything I got immersed
but when it comes to people you know
I’ve been doing now I’ve been doing this
for you know 38 years and I’ve been with
50 million people so in a hundred
countries so there’s nothing I haven’t
seen at this point that somebody stands
up so it’s beautiful it happens
different every time it comes through me
and I really believe in grace I really
believe it’s there but I prepared a
level the most most people never dream
of and I also know that there’s whatever
human beings feel we are not our
feelings we are not our patterns those
are things we might identify with or not
that and so when I see a pattern it
doesn’t work I don’t think the person’s
broken I don’t think anybody’s broken
I’m not here to fix people but I am here
to break up the patterns that don’t work
and I’ve never lost to suicide knock on
wood and you know thousands for 38 years
and we follow up two years later three
years later we’re making they’re making
a documentary right now so how do you
both deal with or think about or even
channel like extreme levels of stress
adversity criticism public opinion or
failure because both of you have had you
know things that just flat-out didn’t
work but you’re quite your public
figures and how do you handle it or deal
with it or think about it I really let
go of criticism really fast I actually I
I might you know sort of process in the
moment to try and figure out this is
something that I truly learn from there
valid but I let go of it really fast and
so if I’m in a you know a fight a
personal fight or whatever it’s like is
so time is so precious
sign is so precious failure god I’ve had
a wonderful series of failures and you
know I built a launch vehicle company
that we won this huge contract and then
couldn’t finance it and had to close it
down
I’ve built a multitude of companies you
know luckily you know a third have been
great a third have been ok and the third
have been life lessons but it’s I have
to believe that what I’m doing
in my heart of hearts is the right thing
to do and if I’m doing the very best I
can and I believe it is something
because I take a dollar from sub
buttocks as a donation or as an
investment I and those of you who are in
the room here who who have supported me
or invested in me know that it’s like
it’s me it’s like you got you got my
cell phone number and I care and I am so
so committed to making you know to
delivering I will do everything I
possibly can so I need to know that for
myself and I can sleep at night if
something fails I know I gave it
everything I can’t possibly could and
there are also those times where is
hit and you know it’s like nosedive and
I will stop everything else I’m doing
and I will go laser-like on that a
hundred percent 24 hours a day seven
days a week and I will do everything
humanly possible and it takes that a lot
of times it absolutely takes that a lot
of time so I mean that’s for me awesome
thank you I say you know I love to light
people up since this little kid I love
light people up and so early on I was
want to make everybody happy all the
time and then I you know I come in this
package I was 5-1 and then fixed Nano in
67 I do 10 inches in a year because I
had a tumor in my brain and and I don’t
even know it when I grew so I’m big and
so and I’m you know quiet and unassuming
I’m hard time expressing my true
feelings so it makes it difficult for
people to understand what I’m really
like
no I’m fairly loud and intense and what
happened for me in the beginning as I
was trying to make everybody happy all
the time and then I just been realizing
everybody wants to be happy
and and gradually I began to realize
opinions are a dime a dozen
but impact is all that matters to me so
you know when you’ve had the impact and
you don’t need anybody else to tell you
and you don’t need something else to
acknowledge you you know but if it stars
in your chart and you do what’s right
you know it and no one could take that
from you didn’t take away anything you
have but they can’t take away who you
become and you become something unique
when you find a way to grow and you find
a way to give and you do that
consistently it creates an extraordinary
life so I’d like to say that I’ve you
know want people I don’t want people to
hate me or dislike me but I would be
accurate to say I don’t care but I don’t
care enough to change what I’m doing
that’s what I’m doing is value
and I think that as far as failure is
concerned oh my god there’s so many
failures but I just don’t hold it that
way and it’s not a technique or being
positive just being intelligent you know
failure is education if you use it maybe
you learn something it’s not a fairy if
you don’t learn to thing then it’s
failure but if you learned something I
mean how many of you in this room had
something out in your life that was
horrific you hated it you’ve never want
to go through it again
you never want something you care about
to go through it they’re looking back on
it five ten years later you say I’m so
glad I went through that because it made
me so much stronger or so much smarter
and maybe care so much more who can
relate I’m curious right so if that’s
true then you know why not adopt the
philosophy that life is not happening to
me it’s happening for me and everything
is happening for me even what I thought
was failure and now my job is to figure
out where is the benefit and use it use
it for greater good so I’m sure I could
probably list unlimited failures but I
would be insincere because I don’t
really look at as a missed failure and
that’s not cause in positive just
because I work my ass up to figure out
what can I learn from that how can I use
that and I’d like to make people happy
and but I’ve also learned in business
like I fire customers I don’t need them
it’s a privilege to business to the left
because we will more than deliver times
then and so I teach my team we so rarely
have to do it anymore but you know you
fire a customer and you say listen we’re
not gonna be able to meet your needs
clearly because there are there people
out there that no matter what you do
they’re gonna be unhappy yes or no but
why are you doing business with them and
you and taking the life energy of your
organization from it I get rid of them
so fast and then they always want that
again and I never let them back never
and then but they become a public
hanging and other people go oh this is
how you play here because it’s me it
world of the Internet
we’ve lost any form of kindness people
say things that are the most harsh
horrific thing of the stuff people write
and all it is is people who feel
insignificant who would never have the
guts to say something to your face but
we’ve created an environment where it’s
tolerated and so I think reversing that
it’s really important you have to define
your environment your business your
world your family because we all get
what we tolerate I’m gonna tolerate it
I’ll give my soul to a stranger but I
won’t tolerate somebody being abusive
any member of my team or
to people my audience or to me certainly
not to my family and you get what you
tolerate you got to decide and you also
get what you tolerate in yourself and I
think if you can look at what you’re
tolerating yourself and say I’m not
gonna tolerate that anymore myself that
it’s easier to lead other people if you
just tell other people you want to
tolerate they’ll look at you and go yeah
yeah you don’t tolerate but look how you
are in order to be perfect but people
see how you don’t know who I am
you’ll have to watch my lips move you
can see how my feet have moved for 38
years that’s Tony Robbins right that’s
probably the best signature you can give
that’s the brand that you put out there
it’s the way you live the thing you said
the line which I love life is not
happening to me it’s happening for me is
that like you know I mean as part of
that a trick you plan yourself or do you
truly believe everything you have you
are able to take that as is ingredients
of this is all happening for me this
most horrible most horrendous thing from
diseases to to suffering I mean that’s
that’s an important line and I like to
it’s not just it’s not just a line I
there’s a woman that I just saw that I
had met 15 years ago and she just showed
my seminar and she was suicidal because
one of her daughters had gotten sick and
she brought to the hospital and the
doctor said she’s fine she brought her
home and the child died and she was
gonna kill herself and she had three
other kids so I really truly had to work
with her and I remember working with her
back then I looked it up because we have
an almost stuff I’ve ever done on film
and I asked her I said what are your
spiritual beliefs and she said I believe
everything happens for a reason and all
that stuff he said so you’re gonna
abandon what you believe spiritually
because life didn’t turn out the way you
want right now she’s no no I said if
it’s if it’s the truth it’ll be the
truth when it’s painful to be the truth
when it’s pleasurable so I I would like
you to say I jump up and go oh this is
happening for me right now I don’t do
that I think what the hell’s happening
white and then I catch myself and I go
there’s some good in this and my core
belief my real core belief underneath
that is everything I’ve ever been able
to help people with us because I faced
some portion of it if if if I you know
have got to face a divorce I decided I
need to go through a divorce and was I
didn’t want to know i’ma tell you to
pick your partner after 14 years it was
the most horrific thing in the world but
I thought if I can figure out how to do
this I will intelligently lovingly no
matter what the other parties like and I
can help anybody else if I you know I’ve
had several businesses over the decades
that were you know near the verge of
bankruptcy out of resort and Fiji and
there’s a coup you know it’s kind of
inconvenient you know and I’m losing a
million dollars a month you know and
it’s like and I didn’t have a million
dollars a month to be losing at that
time just I wanted to create this great
place for people but it’s like in the
midst of all those elements you know I’d
come back and say if I can figure this
out I can help any other business so
almost all my skills have come because
of some thing I had a salt in me or help
someone else solve and my views if I can
figure it out for me I can help millions
of people and so that makes the problem
inspiring as opposed to the problem
being why did it happen to me because
we’re all gonna experience problems I
mean the only thing that we all have in
common is everyone here is gonna
experience severe bang on account rich
you are money is not gonna create
immunity of pain suffering can get
immunity from from the decision I told
you about but we’re all gonna have
problems we’re all gonna have challenges
the only difference is what the hell you
gonna do with them and if we just deal
with our own problems they get really
boring and some people need problems to
have drama in their life to cover the
fact they’re not doing anything but I
think it’s much more interesting to
solve it and move on and help other
people do the same cuz you’ve actually
done it not because you talked about it
yeah gotcha what I love is Robin Sharma
who we did a call with he’s in the
roomies he has his thing the 5 a.m. Club
a guy named Hal Elrod wrote a book of
miracle morning you do priming in the
morning I love to hear what you guys
feel are your best rituals or what it is
that that you are doing that just
massively impacts you to be as effective
as both of you are if there’s something
simple or something that you just do
that makes your life work starting being
a morning ritual or just anything that
people here it is watching cartoons with
my kids at 7:00 a.m. count no you eat
that maybe back your I mean it’s for me
it’s anchored in my desiring to make the
impossible stuff I
set-out happen right it’s it’s anchored
in this infinity challenge I’m never
bored these problems I’ve taken on with
an amazing group of people are all sort
of infinite and there’s no getting there
so when they’re for me they’re my
guiding star so it’s like okay what am I
gonna do right now to move the game
forward this day you know I wish I could
say I was a great meditator or yoga
person or so forth and that will come
but not right now for me it’s just it’s
dedication to the child inside me and
what I care deeply about which is making
this making these succeed and and
ultimately it’s it’s trying to be clear
about what I’m enjoying doing right it’s
surfing the the stuff I love versus this
is work I’m probably not good at this
work who else can I find they can do it
and doing the stuff that I truly love
better and doing more of more of that I
mean it’s it’s there’s nothing
sophisticated there tell me what do you
what do you got um I think anyone who
succeeds has something that they aspire
to there’s a mission there’s a direction
there is a desire and they bring it up
regularly and you do that even though
you say you don’t do it this Fisk
eight-way attacking human genome and and
figuring how to get meteors to to feed
you what you need is a fairly large
vision somewhat sophisticated our minds
really simple mine simples I I believe
that the body is the place that drives
the mind the fastest you can go inside
your head all day long trying to resolve
things and make excuses or freaked out
but I learned early on in my life that
in order to make myself do things I had
to trigger this body to feel strength
and to know that when I say something I
mean it and so I have a simple ritual
that it’s actually enjoyable it may not
sound enjoyable is now which is I get up
every morning and I’m privileged to have
multiple homes so from those homes one
of the homes I have a river the rest of
them I have
plungers and I I go into 56 degree
temperature just for about 60 seconds I
jump straight in or I was just in Sun
Valley the rivers 38 degrees a little
bit cooler and I took my nephew and said
you’re about to learn how to start your
day and I bring all my friends when they
come back the day they all have to do
this but every cell every nerve in your
body explodes and it’s phenomenal for
your lymph system phenomenal for your
health but it also is just a simple
discipline it says I say it it happens
I’m gonna say I’m gonna do this I’d do
it and I thought it so much it’s there
and it’s invigorating and then I do as
you said something I call priming I
don’t you know you wake up and you’re
you know 22 hours off your normal time
zone and you’ve got to get up and take
care of 2,000 people for three days and
nights for 14 is 15 hours you don’t
always wake up feeling wow is this the
coolest thing in the world
somebody’s wake up and go what
universe’s is my body in you know and so
I do my physical ritual but then I also
do this priming and priming for me as
just I don’t hope that I’m gonna show up
with my best I create a state for it
most of you know probably the principle
of priming you know you can they prove
it in so many scientific studies we all
think we make our decisions consciously
when much of our decision-making that we
think is conscious is being made by
contextual environmental manipulation
that we’re not even thinking about on
one study they took some people and they
hired actors they’ll go to a hundred
people and they’d walk up to you and if
they were trained to do the exact same
look same expression and they’d say
would you hold this they hand you a
coffee cup and they reach in their
pocket and grab their phone put some
back say thank you very much they just
to kind of assume the action and they
would do it the same way same facial
expression one hundred people one way a
hundred people out there and what was
the only difference cold iced coffee
versus hot coffee an hour later they
come back with some people different
people who’ve got little caps on their
sing listen we’ll give you ten dollars
if they’ll give us two minutes if you
read this three paragraph story and give
us two question answers and they read
this whole story everyone’s the same
story and at the end they asked them how
would you describe the main character
what do they like as a person 80% of
people that got warm coffee said they’re
warm they’re generous they’re loving the
warm is always one of the language
80% like clockwork people got the iced
coffee same story say that they’re very
cold that they had they were using
generate language like being obsessed or
being about themselves selfish things of
this nature I give you dozens examples
so what I do each morning is I do a
breathing pattern it’s an explosive
green path and I learned in any of
breathing a breath hand exploding it out
you know from that got out the nose and
I do that three sets of 10 pause 3 sets
of 10 plus 3 sets of 10 so alters my
state and I just do three things for 10
minutes because I have this deal with
myself if you don’t have 10 minutes of
yourself you don’t have a life who’s
with me on this so I said you know what
I don’t I don’t need to have 20 minute
30 minute 40 minute meditations I want
10 minutes and I don’t know I need a
meditate I don’t know if I meditate I
don’t to not think I don’t know too many
people can do that and I don’t know that
I want to not freaking think you know so
I thought what I want to do is I want to
focus on the emotions that will cause me
to be the better me and the two motions
that most people are messed up by our
anger and fear and when you’re grateful
you can’t be angry try to be grateful
and angry simultaneous it’ll never work
and you can’t be fearful when you’re
grateful so when I look at people almost
always they’re reacting out of fear or
the reacting out of anger at some
version of those two so gratitude to me
is the antidote so I spend 3 minutes
just three minutes and I think of three
things I’m grateful for 3 people 3
situations but I step into it I don’t
you know I don’t remember the roller
coaster over there riding it I put
myself in the front seat going of the
edge so I feel the moment and I make
sure one of the three things I’m
grateful for is something really simple
like the wind on my face or something
beautiful like my child smile and the
reason I do that is because I remember
you know interviewing some of the
astronauts Buzz altering these guys and
so most of you probably know you can
imagine you know to be an astronaut this
man knows that meets aspire to do that
and then to go through the thousands of
people and be picked and then to
actually go to the moon and stand on the
moon and look back and see that picture
we’ve all seen that blue-green earth I
mean you imagine and then you come home
and what happens there’s a ticker tape
parade and you shake the press
Hanne now what the hell you you’re 32
what the hell do you do for the rest of
your life and you know what if you know
the story of many whose astronauts most
of them have some major emotional
challenges right some abused alcohol
some drugs and they had a real rough
time because they forgot to find
adventure and a smile I thought the only
way to just go to the moon so I trained
myself to make sure not just the big
beautiful things that are part of my
life but the little things and so I feel
that for three minutes then I do three
minutes of a blessing corny as it may
sound I I imagine life God energy coming
into my body healing every muscle every
nerve in my body strengthening
everything’s you strengthen
straightening the best of me my passion
my love my generosity and my creativity
my humor I love and then I see any
problem that needs to be solved just
being solved because I otherwise I
didn’t think I got to do it all and then
once I feel that fully and that energy
comes through me and back through me
multiplies that I do a circle of my
intimate family my kids my wife my
friends this little character over here
is one of my lists and I just Circle out
all the way out to my clients and I send
that same energy them and I imagine as
corny as it sounds they’re being healed
they’re getting what they need energy
wise they’re having the life that they
deserve and seeing it multiplied so I do
that for three minutes in the last three
minutes or my three to thrive I think of
three specific outcomes that matter to
me and I don’t think about achieving
them I see feel and experience them as
done and I see the impact that it has I
see people’s lives touched I see the joy
I feel it as done and I feel grateful
and it’s ten minutes but honestly it
usually goes 15 or 20 because I’m having
a damn good time by having a ten minute
walk there’s no excuse not to do it and
I do it every day and I don’t hope I’m
gonna feel good and then what happens is
you’re primed you’re you literally you
see things through a different set of
filters you make decisions some of the
filters and also think of it most people
are wired for stress they’re wired for
frustration the wild for feeling lonely
and they you know they got a highway to
pissed off and they’ve got dirt roads to
happiness so I decided I’m gonna wire
myself happen
that way I had my view as I have to
change the whole earth to be happy today
that’s different from me now I can just
wake up and be happy because I’ve wired
myself in a different way neurologically
and then I showed the people how to do
this as well
you guys are awesome I really really
appreciate you both coming to this and
taking it thank you so much [Music]
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