it means that everything that I need to
get back up I have in me if I don’t have
what I need I can go get it
once I figured that out the world was my
like playground like the questions just
where do I go get it well I don’t know
about that would I go get it and and I
don’t come from a learning background
where I was a great student I wasn’t you
know my highest grade in school was a C+
and when I got a C+ I did the happy
dance and and so I didn’t have a
background where studying was natural
for me
but when I realized that if I go study
something and I learn it I own it it’s
mine now
man it was crazy cuz all through school
I struggled I the last time I took an
English class my English teacher told me
I was the weakest writer she ever met in
her entire life
lovely yeah lovely and the same year I
took a speech class and my speech
teacher he said quote unquote miss
Nichols I recommend you never speak in
public that you get a desk job and so I
mean yeah it just is just you know it
was it was demotivated people sad people
hurt people hurt sad people make other
people sad bottom line don’t take it
personal her people hurt that’s really
rad I don’t want to derail your stories
amazing we are gonna finish that tale
but hurt people hurt people are sad
that’s they make other people say it’s a
Buick other ones that because people
love company everywhere you are you want
company and so without taking it
personal just see where people are and
so a part of that was I had to see who I
was hanging around and you know
miserable people want company you know
and I had to literally be willing and I
only relocated my mind but relocate my
body so I can relocate my finances and
relocate my possibility relocate my
son’s future I was very clear the future
of my son was gonna have if I didn’t do
something and I was not subscribing to
that not on my watch my son’s father
went to prison when he was 8 months old
and he’s been in prison since my son was
8 months old whoa my son turns 22 this
year my son is an african-american male
child living in South Central Los
Angeles went at that time he had a 66%
chance rate of going to prison not on
watch so I was willing to be radical see
most people want the convenience of
transformation without the inconvenience
required required for transformation so
my grandmother says and I love to repeat
this your conviction what you’re
passionate about your conviction and
your convenience don’t live on the same
block they ain’t even in the same zip
code so if you want to have a conviction
for something you have to sign up sign
up to the inconvenience we’re trying to
find convictions and passion and
breakthrough on the inside of our box
well when you realize that the box
doesn’t even exist like someone made up
oh you’re playing outside the box so we
all bought into there’s a box well I
don’t live it I don’t even own a box
I don’t even only want to get in your
box like oh you better come out here cuz
I ain’t getting in there and so when you
start thinking like that time all of a
sudden everything is possible so I you
know people I disrupted want to make me
extraordinary because it lets you off
the hook god that’s good why you gave me
right everywhere I go all around the
world yeah cuz they let you off the hook
you get to play like oh if I had to like
hurt no what if you do what if you do
what if the got that we call God the
divine whatever your faith is what if
there’s no partial it’s not gonna give
me a hook up and not give you one not
gonna give me an opportunity give you
one I’m just gonna go after it if I die
on my down a treadmill like wasn’t said
I’m gonna be on the treadmill running
you know I’m not I’m just not gonna stop
because I believe all things are
available to us I’m just wanting to go
after are you willing and then that is
so disruptive cuz then you got to make a
decision cuz it’s easier to live inside
the parameters of well as a black woman
well as born and raised in South Central
well I’m academically – I’m Dyslexic
I’m dyslexic I wrote seven books on
dyslexic you know I just I just tell the
stories I’m just not the one to edit the
then we all in trouble put a period at
the beginning of the sentence right so
just knowing like I’m not perfect what I
do Willie well is I manage my
imperfection well and so we’re all
waiting for perfect it’s an illusion
that will never come to you and it’s an
excuse to never show up and play your
story is not meant to be your fortress
your story is meant to be your fuel any
story like the fact the beauty of me
being one of the top 1% earners in
America is that I was on government
assistance right like that’s the beauty
like come on it wouldn’t be a big deal
my family was rich whatever like I’m
supposed to do something the beauty is
that when you show the little engine
that could story like I’m not gonna run
fast but I ain’t gonna stop running I
might slow down and have to breathe and
catch my breath but I’m not stopping
because I believe all things are
available to all of us and good people
should do well because when good people
do well good people just do more good in
the world all right I need to stop and
catch my breath because right you
thought this is what it right it was all
right so we’re gonna really drive a
point home because you just messed me up
[Laughter]
you make me extraordinary to let
yourself off the hook
yeah I’ve I’ve never been able to really
get my hands around the thing one of the
things that really really frustrates me
which is that people discount me because
they see me as successful right and in
doing that they robbed themselves of
something because they you can’t show
somebody like your physical
transformation by the way is astonishing
watching your video but the hashtag
chasing Michelle Obama arms hashtag
hashtag respect it’s amazing watch these
videos she’s so vulnerable it’s crazy
and you see a side of Lisa Nichols in
that in that transformation that you’d
never really let people into before that
was just a vulnerability and everything
about you was absolutely breathtaking
thank you but that’s easy to show people
yes right but showing them the
transformation that you went through
mentally is not now I used to Big
Brother in South Central so I went to
USC it is an oasis right in the heart of
worst neighborhoods as you well know
right and so I had there was an
african-american kid that had been
adopted and I got very involved in him
and his family and spent a lot of time
in South Central
it’s drab there’s nothing that says this
is your future other ability this and I
remember talking to him and his
framework reference for what his future
could be was so terrifying that all I
used to do and this is back when I was
dirt poor I used to take him to Beverly
Hills to watch movies I would take him
to a fast food restaurant in Beverly
Hills just anything in Beverly Hills so
he could see hey there’s like another
part of this world that looks different
it’s vibrant
just because I wanted him to see that so
how on earth do you go in the middle of
that your son’s father goes to prison
you’re on public assistance you’re in
the middle of this incredibly drab place
where teachers are telling you that
you’re the worst I’ve ever seen like I
can’t even like what would possibly
other than what you’ve already said that
they’re just trying to drag you down
place it there at how what ideas are
bouncing around in your head at that
moment that you because it could have
been an empty promise right you put your
hand on Jay Lonnie’s tummy and you tell
him I’m never gonna be this broke again
don’t worry but that could have been an
empty promise right but it wasn’t so
what what happened like what was going
on in your mind right first of all I
knew something in me knew as a young
child that I wasn’t supposed to stay in
my environment so I live between the
Harlem 30s and the rollin 60s
and I had three fights a week to get
home from school and I remember when I
was 15 my teacher said what do you want
to be when you grow up and I said alive
I can when I get to 21 ask me again but
I don’t have that luxury you have and I
remember that I remember that like it
were yesterday
and but I also knew that I was worthy of
something but I didn’t know where it was
I didn’t see it anywhere and if you
remember all the television shows during
that time that had african-americans in
them they’re pretty drab so yeah good
times nothing was good right you had
different strokes where the white man
was saving a little black kids except
for in 1984 when the Huxtables came out
well that wasn’t what I grew up with I
was on my way to college then but I used
to watch The Brady Bunch and I should
say I don’t know what they have to do to
have that kind of life but they always
worked everything out in the end and I
declared I want a peaceful life like
that I want a life of possibility and
almost every single one of my initial
mentors I couldn’t touch I couldn’t talk
to I didn’t have access to but I held on
to them like they were oxygen because
they were they were my visit to Beverly
Hills so I would go in my head I would
go through television and I don’t want
to be rich I never really aspired to be
rich and I never aspired to be famous I
aspired to have peace of mind to have
grace and ease in my life to be able to
provide for myself so I already had this
experience that I wanted and so when I
when when fast forward to answer your
question I’m in Inglewood living off our
Boveda I want government assistance and
I run out of money and I had to buy
pampers for Jelani and I had $11 and 42
cents in the bank and I remember
wrapping my son in the towel for two
days you know someone said because when
I tell the story I always get teary eyed
and someone said do you fabricate the
tears because you’ve told the story so
much no I’m a momma every time I tell
the story I fill it again I remember the
second day like you said I had my sump
my hand on Jelani stomach and I said
don’t worry baby
mommy will never be this broke or broken
was I was willing and I don’t know if
this is gonna sound crazy I was willing
to completely die to any form of me that
I had been so that I can birth the woman
that I was becoming the reason why a lot
of people won’t become who they want is
because they’re too attached to who
they’ve been and you hear it all the
time when people say I’ve always been
this way okay well if that’s working for
you keep doing that I knew it wasn’t
working for me any longer I had hit my
version of rock bottom so I was willing
to let go of everything and everybody
see another reason why people won’t get
there is because the doorway is for you
to fit through you trying to carry
everybody else through cuz you’re trying
to be rescued 9-1-1 and you gotta rescue
you first i am much more valuable to my
family and to my community because i was
willing to let them go go through the
door myself teach myself learn myself
condition myself and then come back and
get them now much more valuable to them
now but i have to go through a window
time of ten years of judgment you
leaving us hanging out with white people
all the time you go into these crazy
countries we don’t know what you’re I
have to be willing to to allow my
conviction to make me inconvenienced see
we want to grow but we want to stay
liked by everybody I was willing to be
my own rescue at the risk of your
approval most of us aren’t like that
Facebook is example we want to be liked
well I woke up and I liked myself today
so you’ll like his extra my job is to
like me first
I was willing to say everyday Lisa you
like you at least are you proud of you
at least are you playing Fallout
everyday before I checked in with
anybody else
that’s lonely by the way why won’t most
people do it because it’s scary and it’s
lonely so what did I do
I was willing to find people who had
what I didn’t have who were living lives
that I wasn’t living who believed things
that I didn’t know about and I was
willing to become their student I got up
every day and I ate a slice of humble
pie see when you get to this level even
me ten years ago you can get caught up
by reading your own fine print see
whenever I hear people reading my bio
and before I came on you read my body
I’m in the back going yeah yeah yeah
yeah yeah yeah cuz I don’t want to ever
think I arrived I don’t ever that bio
was old I you should be interested in my
future oh that’s my bio what’s my future
Oh what are you doing what am i who am i
becoming for 2020 and we get caught up
in our BIOS we get caught up in our
status I never allowed that to stop me
from going and sitting at the hem of
someone and saying what do you know
about wealth see because it’s three
forms to money I still relationship to
money we learn how to earn it we learn
how to keep it and we learn how to grow
it well I learned how to earn it because
my theme song was I’m a hustler baby and
I want you to know everybody with me and
a where I been but where I’m about to go
so I was singing that song I was singing
that song when I was I wasn’t working
out of my closet as my office I was in a
walk-in closet where you really couldn’t
walk in you stepped in and turn right
and and and the clothes rack you know
how you have the hanger rack I have pant
hangers in the closet and I had manila
folders clipping on the pant hangers
those are my client files and I was sit
there and I put $2.99 mirrors off that
you get from CVS I put them all around
my closet walls so that I can make my
office look bigger I worked out of that
closet office for four years singing
that song and I ain’t where I’ve been or
where I’m about to go I knew that I knew
how to make money I don’t know how to
keep it cause ain’t nobody had none of
my family so keeping was an issue girl
was never an issue so I went to people
who knew how to
make it keep it grow it I went to people
who was about serving others to the
highest level see I make a lot of money
because I serve more people see all your
successes on the other side of service
people trying to make money if it begins
and ends with money it’s gonna be a
short-lived victory but if it’s about
transforming lies then the wind keeps
going and going and growing and growing
so I went to people that knew what I
didn’t know and I killed my ego every
day murder my shego every day cuz I got
a big she go come on come on right every
day time and I got hungry and I learned
I went to the same training 42 times yes
I said 42 some focus stops and so I’ve
been now ready I learned that already
now I wasn’t there I wanted to be able
to finish their sentences I want to know
what you know I want to walk like you
talk like you and then I want to then
embed me in it but successfully his
clothes we just not picking him up I was
the only african-american person at this
conference I was one of two women at
this conference within the last twenty
nine sessions I led the conference but I
was willing to be the student first so
that’s what I did number one and number
two I looked at every toxic behavior in
my life every one you see me go behind
my own black curtain people don’t want
to tell on yourself you’re trying to
protect you’re trying to do four things
you’re trying to protect prove hide and
defend if you wake up everyday and say
I’ve nothing to protect I have nothing
to prove I have nothing to hide I have
nothing to defend now who do I choose to
be because your energy is consumed with
protecting proving hiding and defending
but if you let go of that then now
you’re in creation every day I told
myself that every day I got in the
mirror and I said three sentences and I
gave each sentence seven different
endings and at times I was crying so
hard I couldn’t understand myself
because the ending that sentence was so
difficult to say every day I looked in
the mirror said Lisa I’m proud that you
and I found seven different things to
celebrate Lisa for because we are under
celebrated because you want someone to
celebrate you more and you celebrating
yourself you want to hear thank you from
others more than you’re thinking
yourself
you wanna hear other people say I love
you more than you saying I love yourself
you were teaching the where I set this
on Oprah when I set this on / she’s oh
my god I believe the exact same thing so
I knew I had one thing right the world
is looking at you and following your
example of how to treat you how to treat
you they’re following your example of
how to treat you so how you treat you
the world’s gonna follow your lead so I
had to start treating Lisa better
because I was everything for everybody
but nothing for myself and so every day
I got in the mirror and I completed
three sentences Lisa I’m proud of you
for second thing Lisa I forgive you for
that one took me down daily because I
had a son with a man who was now
imprisoned my biggest nightmare my
greatest nightmare I had been in a
relationship that turn mentally and then
physically abusive when my son was three
years old I made money but lost it I was
on government assistance I was on
welfare I was on WIC women infant and
children I got a lot of forgiveness that
I had to do but I was willing to forgive
myself every day and every day I said
the same thing for like six months until
it got easier and then one day I went
least I forgive you for it and that
thing didn’t come up anymore I was like
oh okay honor the next seven different
endings and the last thing I did every
day last sentence is Lisa I commit to
you that because we make bigger
commitments to other people if I commit
to y’all something right or die you can
bet your last dime that imma be there
i’ma show up you’re gonna get two dimes
but I want make commitments for me for
myself and I wouldn’t do it I eat my
weight so I started every day
celebrating Lisa forgiving Lisa and
making a commitment to Lisa and then I
was willing to invest money in me I was
willing to invest money in me literally
literally literally I worked at LA
Unified School District and I knew I
couldn’t stay there cuz
they needed a degree I didn’t have a
degree they didn’t seem happy I want to
be happy so I would I would have my son
at daycare during the day I’d work nine
hours I pick him up from daycare take
him back to my office I take a 30-minute
break from 6 o’clock to 6:30 to go get
him I start working from 6:30 until
midnight every day at my office on me
every day put my son on a little you
know primary color blanket something to
occupy him give him toys that I took the
batteries out of so he’d be confused for
a little while true I’m not working I’m
sure I’m serious and I did it every day
every day every day I stopped going out
to dinner I stopped going out dancing I
stopped getting my nails done stop
getting my hair done in every two weeks
when LA Unified paid me I brought a
check to my dream and I wrote in the
memo line funding my dream and I would I
would mail the check to the bank Wells
Fargo and I mailed a check to myself
every two weeks for three and a half
years my family thought you know I
thought I was smoking on drugs like
Shane going out she not she eaten
beanies and weenies always we think she
on drugs but she’s not getting to be
smaller so maybe not and and I went to
the bank after three and a half years
this is the story you’re talking about I
walked in the bank I said I’m just gonna
check and see where that account is cuz
I wouldn’t open the who wouldn’t open
the statements cuz my mother used to say
when I was growing up girl this money
burn in my pocket and I’m like oh I
think money hot and thank you thank you
so much and it goes away fast so I’m not
gonna open the statement cuz I don’t
want to know how much money I have
because I’d have a healthy relationship
to money I didn’t even know our
relationship with money so while I’m at
these trainings they just kept saying
saves I’m like okay imma save I didn’t
need the money that I was writing
cheques for because it was the money I
use on my nails in my hair and then
every check I wrote to myself I made a
challenge with myself that had to
be 5% more than the next check Wow in
the previous check so I and I didn’t
really know how to calculate the fiber
since I’m like oh I’ll just add 30
dollars I’ll just say add 60 I really
didn’t know anything about it
then I went out and got a second job and
I started working in the evenings less
on my business and more out on job so I
can write a bigger check so I learned
how to live on $31,000 that’s all I was
living on $31,000 we can make it we got
it
I sold my Ultima I had at the time I
bought an old export Explorer you know I
just I just I just skinny down I moved
out of my three-bedroom house I moved in
with the roommate she smoked even and I
was like okay I’m gonna put towels under
the base of the door y’all you got to be
inconvenienced
I put towels on the base of doors little
smoke coming to room with me and my son
we slept side-by-side in the same bed
went from a three-bedroom you know
three-bathroom house two story to a
roommate you know cuz I was willing to
write a check to fund my dream and I
kept writing funding my dream funding my
dream funding my dream and I walked in
the Wells Fargo three and a half years
later and I I gave her my name and said
hi my name is Lisa Nichols and she’s
like you’d have funded my dream lady
yeah so all these tellers came running
around the manager came around cuz I
guess everybody a process to check or to
and they’re like we all been wondering
like everybody wants to know what’s the
dream you find it and I was like so I
said I just came to get my balance and
just see where it is cuz I haven’t
opened any of the statements or like why
so no I haven’t open any of the
statements cuz money burns my mama’s
pocket so it might burn my pocket so I
don’t want to spend it so she wrote the
balance down are they right the balance
down and she turned it and passed it to
me and I looked at it and I said no
ma’am my name is Lisa Shante this is my
social security number I don’t even want
that money cuz y’all going on the back
and I don’t want to get in trouble so
can you just give me my account you know
cuz I didn’t know anyone in my family
that had $5,000 in their account $10,000
in the account so when you write down
that I have sixty two thousand five
hundred dollars in my account that’s not
mine and so they all teared up like
everybody start crying they’re like no
it’s yours
I look
my son Jelani who was five years old now
and I said Jelani I think life is gonna
change for you and mommy my son said
cuz I’ve been making them homemade Big
Macs Wow mommy can make you better big
mac then you know Ronald McDonald so
because I was here I was willing to
inconvenience my entire life my entire
life I was willing to disrupt my entire
life to buy my future to buy my
possibility to give my dream a chance
see we’re not supposed to tuck our
dreams in on the on the pillow when we
get up in the morning we’re not supposed
to leave them at home then going fulfill
somebody else’s dream we’re not supposed
to do that that’s not what we’re wired
to do that’s not who we are your human
spirit doesn’t care about the economy
the human spirit doesn’t care that my
son’s father went to prison but the
human spirit doesn’t care what’s
happened to your family the human spirit
doesn’t care about the past you may have
been molested or your family have may
have been broke her or you may have been
betrayed or you may have a divorce your
human spirit doesn’t care about any of
that your human spirit simply says
what’s our command for tomorrow what do
you want to create it’s not keeping
score your brain is keeping score cuz
your brain is designed to keep you safe
your soul your intuition your human
spirit is designed to make you sore and
when you get to the edge of that stage I
want to get out right now
can I give him whatever you want no no
when you get to the edge your brain will
always tell you to step back it’s always
gonna tell you to step back because you
can fall always it’s gonna tell you step
back because before you fail the last
time you did this you saw someone else
fail you could hurt you could be off
work it’s gonna tell you it’s designed
to keep you safe so you have to be
willing to play between your brain and
your soul and on some days you got to
just listen to your soul and you got to
say I’m a leap I’m gonna get to the edge
most people are at the edge and you
the edge and you’re watching everyone
else fly that’s pimp my ride watch my
crib all this stuff you know washing
people’s lives on Facebook you’re at the
edge watching someone else live
wondering what it’s gonna be like when
you jump without ever jumping and I’m
just here to tell you jump because only
three things can happen you’re either
gonna jump and fly are you gonna jump
and fall on something soft are you gonna
fall down hard either way you’re gonna
get back up you already know you got
what it takes to get back up you’re not
your greatest fears not that you will
fall your greatest fears that you will
live a full life and never fly that you
never leaped you’re not afraid of dying
you’re afraid of dying before the world
sees who you really are before they
really get your fingerprint before they
really feel your breath before they
really get your contribution if they
really feel you that’s what you don’t
want to happen you don’t want to leave
this place without us knowing you were
here all I’m doing is giving my dream a
chance and I’m not extraordinary you
don’t get off the hook you don’t get to
be let off back I’m an ordinary woman
who chooses every day to make one more
extraordinary decision you’re a grinder
and look there’s a lot of people out
there that can talk
you obviously have a profound gift for
storytelling but there’s a lot of
storytellers
what made you so interesting to me is
that you you’ve done the hard work to
get there you don’t make a secret of it
you’ll walk people through it your books
our how-to manuals it’s about doing the
work it’s really how god you have a
great quote there’s no shortcuts at the
top there’s no elevator there ain’t
nothing but stairs stairs you gotta get
your glutes in action I was this more I
was I was on the wall this morning doing
my squats I don’t know about y’all but I
was doing my squats this more I was
doing my lunges this morning every day
I’m prepared for what’s ahead of me
there’s no elevator there’s no elevator
you can’t Google download this somebody
trying to Google download it you know
you can’t you can’t follow me on
Facebook and get to where I am you’re
just gonna see where I am he just
watched me through my window there’s no
glory in that if you watch me watch me
to inspire you to get up and do one more
squat just a little bit longer if you
watch me watch me to inspire you to
forgive the perceiving the unforgivable
and love the per seemingly unlovable so
the universe can love you back like that
if you watch me watch me so that it
makes you want to be a better man I
wanna be a better woman see when I rub
myself up against somebody great it’s so
that I can want to be a better woman in
their presence only hang around people
who make you stand on your tippy toes
that’s what I do all the time and then I
hang around people who I makes them on
their tippy toes that’s what I do that’s
when people step onto my campus I train
I’m a trainer I’m a trainer I’m a
transformational coach I teach people
how to turn that it’s the the
unbelievable into your reality that’s
what I do we’re gonna grind first thing
I wanna do is say look get your
deodorant out put your tennis shoes on
we’re gonna squat with on lunge long run
but on the other side of this you will
see a life that’s barely recognizable
why cuz I’m living that life look at my
look at Who I am I’m a c’ student from
Dorsey high school I ran track I got a
dean’s
– and speech and a fail in English when
my English professor from high school
was in Barnes and Nobles and he turned
over Chicken Soup for the African
American soul my first book
when he saw my face on the back he said
he stood in Barnes and Nobles and
started crying well he said he knew I
was a good person but he didn’t know if
I make it cuz I wasn’t talented in any
particular area that then track
I wasn’t talented academic wise I didn’t
it didn’t fire off fast for me I learned
later that it was because I was dyslexic
and I had all these other learning
styles it makes me more unique you know
but in school it didn’t show up that way
and so I’m clear that I didn’t get a
hook up and I’m clear because of that
this is available to everybody so I’m
passionate about inviting people onto my
campus
come on get in my live room get him out
online I online trainings deep dive in
the book the book is like a three day
training by itself my latest book
abundance now I put everything in that
that’s what my legacy will be it will
free more people than any other body of
work that I’ve ever done other than the
abundant life live program that I do
because I’m all about touching people
touching people and letting them see
touch me let me touch you so you can see
there’s zero distance between us
and I believe the universe says God says
when there’s zero distance between you
and it it is yours so I used to go
around my girlfriend very very wealthy
her husband created she created
something it was so to Kimberly Clark
they made they did one sale for 100
million dollars and life changed
overnight for them so I would often go
to their house in La Jolla California
and I just rub all they stuff no really
I’ve been rubbing my friends stuff for
like years
I rub all this stuff and because I
believe that zero distance between you
and it means it’s available to you so
surround yourself in the things that
stretch you and I’m not even into the
material things though I want to live a
great life like I’m not into cars but if
I got to be on the road I want to be on
the road or something absolutely amazing
you know I’m not into materialistic
things but I wanted to have that kind of
indicator that my life is right I’m
doing the right things as well as in
less than 30 days I take eight of my
family members to a Wahoo for a vacation
and all I got to do is pack right just
pack right I’ll take care of everything
else my grandmother was 87 my mother my
father my son my nephew just just a ton
of people that to me money just buys
better memories money just buys better
memories it’s not about the money but
listen if I got to have a problem oh and
I want to end my day and go to a house
that reflects the type of day I have so
I just would I would surround myself I
get I get hungry for it I’d hunt for it
but through service and I will be remiss
if I didn’t say this I was willing to
love some people from a distance I was
willing to love some people from a
distance because they were holding you
back I wouldn’t even say they we you
know we used the phrase they were
holding me back as if they got a
slingshot around my neck but I look up
so half the time and I’m holding onto
them trying to use them as my excuse I’m
just saying just I don’t know if it
steps on your toes if it does sit
indian-style I’m not stop I you know I
cuz I could use my son well I don’t want
to leave my phone I can use my family
they’re not holding on to me I’m holding
on to them I’m using them as an excuse
to not play for logs I’m afraid if I go
to the edge on my fault mm-hmm no my son
when he was eight years old he said
mommy when you go to the faraway places
that I can’t go to that I can’t call you
out I get really sad please don’t go I
could have stopped then when he was
eight but instead I took him out of a
public school put him in a private
school went to the principal the private
school and said I’d like to enroll my
son but let me tell you what we’re gonna
do here when I leave and I’m going and I
go away real far where he can’t call me
we’re gonna distance learn him together
and you’re gonna send him away with a
packet of homework and I’m gonna FedEx
that homework back to you she says miss
Nichols we don’t have such a program I
said oh I’m happy to help you co-create
and so when I went to Kenya my son went
to Kenya with me for a month and we did
all of his homework his homework was
like the everybody’s project and we
FedEx it back home winter Swahili he
went to Swahili with me when I went to
Australia Austria with me and we FedEx
is horrible I was willing to be
inconvenienced for my conviction like if
you go where you’ve never gone do what
you’ve never done and say what you never
said you’ll become the woman in the men
you’ve always known yourself to be
you’re trying to be someone new doing
the same thing you’ve done or at least
going to the edge and because most
people live in the center Tom when
you’re on the edge you feel the breeze
on your chicken you think you did some
come on like right that’s oh yeah at the
edge of the box no I want to be out of
the box there’s no box like I came here
to disrupt everyone watching me to make
sleeping and complacency difficult to
make you mildly to moderate to
significantly uncomfortable in any form
of mediocracy I don’t come to keep you
comfortable I don’t come to Rye Rye you
I don’t come to Kumbaya motivate I come
to disrupt your norm so that you’re
abnormal can come out so that your
original can come out your uncharted
turf can come out I come to disrupt any
form of normal and I do it with the
freedom of being like they’re not liked
I got love everyone here to like me love
everyone here to like me but my freedom
is if you don’t like me it ain’t even my
business my grandma says other people’s
perception of you ain’t none of your
business is your job to do the best you
possible and in doing you you inspire us
because we’re all trying to do each
other if you want me to give you Oprah I
will always undoubtably fail you but
whenever you’re interested I do it damn
good Lisa Nichols I got her on lock that
if you can master you and your
contribution to the planet your unique
fingerprint your individual breath your
DNA you’re an unrepeatable miracle you
are an unrepeatable miracle give me some
of you give me your uniqueness I’m just
here to disrupt everybody’s norm and
give them my uniqueness and hopefully
inspire millions
do the same and you may not always be
able to monetize your passion it’s not
always about monetizing your passion let
your investor aka your job I like to
call it your investor but your investor
help you do your dream by simply
stabilizing your household letting your
light stay on because you can’t be
creative when the lights are out believe
me I’ve tried keeping food in your
refrigerator so your passion is not
always for profit your passion is not
always something you monetize your
investor takes care of your needs and
then you go do your passion yeah it’s
interesting because we all have an
opportunity to to create who we are to
be something that’s truly unique in our
own and so few people are actively
trying to do that how so walk me through
because what makes you special is you go
way beyond just the motivation what are
you teaching
Jelani about like what are the actual
words or tools that you’re giving him to
be himself
Jelani is now he’ll be 22 this year
six-foot to 210 pounds so what I teach
my son is to do him not me what I teach
he’s gonna find his best lessons and his
biggest mistakes so don’t be afraid of
mistakes do you think most people don’t
know who they are like if you really
especially young how do you help him
find or how do you help anybody find
that define it create it yeah so you’re
going into transformation now and I love
transformation more than I love
motivation because it’s it’s it’s a
game-changer so I do a series of
exercises constantly it’s like it’s like
doing app work you want great abs you
can do sit-ups one time and get it you
got to go back again and again and again
and again that’s the same for
self-development you got it you got to
live in it it’s not a one-time shot so
when someone tells me oh I did your
workshop already I said oh you think you
got it all like I did the same workshop
42 times right and still can go back and
get something new so one I teach people
how do you get connected with you you
haven’t met you yet how do you meet you
and so there’s a series of exercises
that I have to do one exercise I’ll give
you one exercise and someone’s gonna go
home today and do this and it’s a game
changer and it’s not even pretty so they
say rah rah because first of all as a
transformational coach very different
than a motivational speaker
inspirational speaker and informational
speaker those people are there to incite
you excite your transformational coach
is designed to go to the dark place with
you hold your hand and coach you out
into a brighter light that’s why it’s
the road less traveled so one exercise I
have them do and this is and you’ll
notice just in this exercise you’ll see
how I helped get them there so this
exercise is called expose the lies and I
have you get about 16 blank sheets of
paper you may not feel like fill them
all up but if you’re playing big in the
world like you are you might feel them
all up and I have you write down every
lie you tell yourself and I have you
talk about just the lies around money
first
you might fill up two three pages just
the lies are money and don’t you can’t
think about it and then not write it cuz
if you think about is a lie because the
but the exercises expose the lies so
think of the lie you tell yourself so
I’ll never have enough money money is
hard to earn I have to work hard to earn
good money alright that’s a lie
like really it is something I don’t know
that you can make money while you sleep
if you set it up right right so all the
lies about money that you
yourself then I have you tell yourself
all the lies you’ve told you some about
who you are as a person like I used to I
used to say I’m stupid because I used to
hear all the time that I was are you you
almost in the you almost qualify for the
little bus you know I see all kind of
stuff and I began to believe it I used
to tell me what I’m a slow learner oh
don’t slow down I believed it so I would
write all the lies you tell yourself
about who you are
NextEra lies which is why you have 16
sheets of paper and each each mindset
each category can take you to three
sheets of paper all the lies you tell
you about relationships romantic family
friends all the lies my family will
never understand me that was on in my
life they’ll never really get me I’ll
never have a long-lasting relationship
with a man and then all the lies that
you tell yourself around your health and
fitness then all the lies you tell
yourself around your spirituality can I
tell you it’s gonna be ugly people
normally like I don’t want to do this
they stop well it ain’t gonna feel good
if you stop before we get to the finish
line so you have all these lies between
every lie you skip four lines are
equivalent to four lines of space once
you finish that you read all the lies
again so that you and you’re gonna feel
nauseous and it may take you two or
three days because you got it got to
take a break from it right you finish it
don’t put it off more than four days
because now you’re procrastinating again
and so again you know you know you and
then in between the lies so you write
all the lies down in pencil very
important you write them all in pencil
16 sheets of paper 10 sheets of paper
whatever then you get a red pen and you
write the truth in between each lie even
if you can’t believe it yet
now most people get stopped is that well
I don’t know what the truth is okay but
there is a truth because this is a lie
and every lie has a truth even if you
can’t believe it yet so now you write
the truth down you’re gonna cry you’re
gonna cry on the lies you’re gonna cry
on the truth cuz it’s gonna be exposed
to you the truth that you knew but you
forgot you knew it so you’re living like
you don’t know your truth then after
you’ve done that and the truth is
written between every lie lies in pencil
truth is in rip ready you read for two
days the lie the truth the lie the truth
the lie the truth the lie the truth two
days at least four times each day
because now you’re training your brain
neural linguistic programming so the
next time the light comes up your brain
is gonna naturally default to the truth
that you wrote and ready because you
gave your brain to things versus just
having this lie cuz when people say
you’re stupid the only thing you tell
you you counter that with is I’m not
stupid right that’s not positive right
and so now your brain is going lie to
lie truth lie truth light Routh then
after the second day of reading the lie
the truth Getti eraser and what you
don’t do
erase the lie and now you’re just left
with the truth so when you ask how do I
get people there I do things like that
so I always tell people watch my life
and you’ll be entertained step in and
learn how to manage your life and you’ll
be transformed step onto my campus
I’ve just finished this mega series of
videos they’re not even out yet called
abundant life and I did them after the
book abundance now because people kept
saying how do I get the stuff that you
say in the book and I go oh so I did 14
videos in my home I’m committed to
showing others I don’t want to be here
long amount to top don’t feel good when
you’re honor by yourself you want
company like you want company we’re
tribal we want queer community there’s
no glory and me being here by myself
there’s none whatsoever I want the bus
the doors open every single person in
this room every single person listen to
my voice look into our face I want every
single person plus the double doors open
and go get yours and UPS is not gonna
come to your door saying hello I have a
life for you please sign here
you gotta go you’re not coming
they’re not coming you got to go out the
door put on your best running shoes get
your back strong and go after then run
like it after it like you’re late for
work I will run if we’re late for work
run for someone else’s dream harder than
we’re wrong for ours yeah I love what
you were saying about men you want
people to cheer for you more than you
cheer for yourself loving you more than
you love yourselves and anything which
is actually really odd it’s really odd
to expect somebody to be more impressed
with you than you are with yourself to
treat you better then you treat yourself
and then I just got to go here I got I
got a pass I can go here ladies we
really do it men do it as well but
ladies were extroverted doing it we
dumped on our men and put the
responsibility on you of our beauty of
our love of our self-worth and and and
men manage it differently you manage it
in possessions and in money and in bank
account and in status that’s where you
go for that traditionally there’s always
exceptions to rules traditionally but as
women we emote and make you have to be
our self-esteem which is so incredibly
unfair we ask questions we don’t want to
hear to answer to we ask questions that
you only have one answer you can give us
you really don’t have freedom in that
answer there’s one answer I need right
now to make me feel good and I just give
it to me that’s so incredibly unfair and
we say we even have the old adage I just
in marriage I mean a man to complete me
that’s a big job you a lot of woman to
complete come on you know where you come
from and your issues that’s not the
truth it’s my job and I love the dance
between relationship where there’s a
woman woman man man man woman I love the
dance between love in relationship but
it’s not anyone’s job to complete you
it’s my job to complete me and then it’s
your opportunity to compliment my
and so my job is to work on Lisa versus
to ask you to give me what I need and I
think when we get that self development
is something we haven’t jumped into
enough and I don’t know about every
culture but as african-americans and
some other cultures as well people I’ve
met we must take spirituality for self
development and we think spiritual
awareness is self-development spiritual
awareness is spiritual awareness and
it’s understanding the divine and the
higher power in the god whatever you
call it and having some place to release
– that’s not self development self
development is doing that dad going work
I just talked about exposing the lies
that are in your head that’s running you
the chatter the negative Nancy in your
head you know it managing it and
exposing exposing it that’s our work and
no one shows us how to do that work yeah
that’s a really important distinction
that’s really interesting and I think
that people cloud the issue in their own
mind
because Ryan Holliday who’s been on the
show talks a lot about how merely
defining your dream your goal your
whatever can be intoxicating enough that
you forget to actually go do the work
yes and I think that they’re never
thought about it until you just said
that but there is a sense of connection
wonderment that when you can tap into
spirituality that is consciousness
consciousness is very important but it
means nothing without action we got a
whole bunch of conscious stuff people
they conscious they know it all they
know all the awareness they know
affirmations but Joan Baez says that
action is the antidote antidote antidote
for despair Lisa Nichols adds action is
the prescription for success how can you
have one word one theory be the the the
antidote for something while being the
prescription for another that’s a
powerful something action Will Smith
said it when he was being interviewed by
Tavis Smiley
I’m just i’ma work harder the next guy I
fight if I’m on the treadmill my dial to
treadmill like I get it I was in South
Africa and this gentleman was
translating in Swahili took from another
gentleman and the gentleman asked me was
I gonna go to the the party that night
and I said I’ll try to make it and he
went to go back and tell me those are
you gonna go to the party and I said
I’ll tell him I try to make and he went
to translate again he turned that goes
are you gonna go to the party and I said
how am I try to make any look goes lady
there is no word try in Swahili or
I’ll be very like think about that but
in Swahili there’s no word for try we
use try as a crutch to say I really
don’t want to do it but I don’t want to
tell you now just say I’m not gonna do
it or I’m gonna do it like I love it I
never say try anymore after that
I bowed yes or boat no just choose cuz
no one wants to live in uncertainty and
ambiguity and we live a life of a B I
don’t know what I want to be I don’t
know what I’m gonna do because you’d
never have to move in ambiguity instead
just say I’m afraid to leap help me leap
help me leap help me get the courage to
leap cuz I don’t want to live a life on
the edge just say that that’s just this
the truth is sexy and it’s liberating
and it’s sobering and what I believe
people love most about me is that I give
them the gift of the truth my truth
first and then in some way I want to
inspire you to share your truth and be
okay with your truth and I just tell you
guys I’m that same girl who ran track
for Dorsey high school who struggled to
get into the high school who got kicked
out of college cuz I couldn’t afford to
stay that was on government’s I’m the
same girl I’m that same girl I don’t
forget her I’m also that same woman who
runs a multi-million dollar business
I’m also the same woman who has seven
bestsellers I own both of those I own
all I don’t shrink to my greatness and I
don’t live in my side of my saw
if you can own your brilliance while
owning your your imperfections if you
can own your giant while owning your
smallness if you can live in duality
constant duality the freedom will be
earth-shaking if you can live in that
sea either you don’t want to be as great
as you really are
and you’re trying to dim your light so
that others won’t feel insecure about
themselves in your presence and so you
keep playing at 79 Watts when you know
you’re supposed to shine at 159 Watts
and you keep checking the temperature of
the room to see what the room can handle
versus just given the room you and
letting them it but if your lights too
bright then let them put on some shades
can you give yourself permission to live
in the duality of your imperfections and
your smallness and what you’re learning
and what you still have to learn and
your greatness and your brilliance in
your light can you allow them to
co-exist and then serve them up to the
world to love you to see you to inhale
you to judge you to leave you to love
you
you’re just some of us are just as
afraid of being loved as we are to be
left can you give the world permission
y’all can breed now where can they find
you you can go to abundance now
online.com abundance now online.com and
that gives you access to my book but it
also gives you access to some tools I
don’t just want you to pick up the book
I want you to pick up the book and
become a student so that you can have
the transformation so I give you a lot
of free things when you go there but
most importantly you step on my campus I
want you to step on my campus I want you
to find ways if it feels good if it
doesn’t feel good learn from someone
else but if it feels good and I speak
your language then step on the campus
and give yourself that chance I would
invite you to we don’t even have it out
yet but when it comes out you’ll hit the
abundant life when the abundant life
program comes out run to it run to it
it’s that it’s gonna be that
game-changer I just believe it with all
my heart and soul I believe that on the
other side of it when I sit down my
grandmother says when you get my age
baby
you supposed to she always felt causes
all baby when you get my age baby you
supposed to sit in your favorite rocking
chair and tell the story of your life
but when you’re your age when you’re
your age when you’re your age you
supposed to make sure the story’s gonna
be good to tell and I just believe that
the abundant life program helps to make
sure that your story is gonna be good to tell so go to abundance now online.com
get back up I have in me if I don’t have
what I need I can go get it
once I figured that out the world was my
like playground like the questions just
where do I go get it well I don’t know
about that would I go get it and and I
don’t come from a learning background
where I was a great student I wasn’t you
know my highest grade in school was a C+
and when I got a C+ I did the happy
dance and and so I didn’t have a
background where studying was natural
for me
but when I realized that if I go study
something and I learn it I own it it’s
mine now
man it was crazy cuz all through school
I struggled I the last time I took an
English class my English teacher told me
I was the weakest writer she ever met in
her entire life
lovely yeah lovely and the same year I
took a speech class and my speech
teacher he said quote unquote miss
Nichols I recommend you never speak in
public that you get a desk job and so I
mean yeah it just is just you know it
was it was demotivated people sad people
hurt people hurt sad people make other
people sad bottom line don’t take it
personal her people hurt that’s really
rad I don’t want to derail your stories
amazing we are gonna finish that tale
but hurt people hurt people are sad
that’s they make other people say it’s a
Buick other ones that because people
love company everywhere you are you want
company and so without taking it
personal just see where people are and
so a part of that was I had to see who I
was hanging around and you know
miserable people want company you know
and I had to literally be willing and I
only relocated my mind but relocate my
body so I can relocate my finances and
relocate my possibility relocate my
son’s future I was very clear the future
of my son was gonna have if I didn’t do
something and I was not subscribing to
that not on my watch my son’s father
went to prison when he was 8 months old
and he’s been in prison since my son was
8 months old whoa my son turns 22 this
year my son is an african-american male
child living in South Central Los
Angeles went at that time he had a 66%
chance rate of going to prison not on
watch so I was willing to be radical see
most people want the convenience of
transformation without the inconvenience
required required for transformation so
my grandmother says and I love to repeat
this your conviction what you’re
passionate about your conviction and
your convenience don’t live on the same
block they ain’t even in the same zip
code so if you want to have a conviction
for something you have to sign up sign
up to the inconvenience we’re trying to
find convictions and passion and
breakthrough on the inside of our box
well when you realize that the box
doesn’t even exist like someone made up
oh you’re playing outside the box so we
all bought into there’s a box well I
don’t live it I don’t even own a box
I don’t even only want to get in your
box like oh you better come out here cuz
I ain’t getting in there and so when you
start thinking like that time all of a
sudden everything is possible so I you
know people I disrupted want to make me
extraordinary because it lets you off
the hook god that’s good why you gave me
right everywhere I go all around the
world yeah cuz they let you off the hook
you get to play like oh if I had to like
hurt no what if you do what if you do
what if the got that we call God the
divine whatever your faith is what if
there’s no partial it’s not gonna give
me a hook up and not give you one not
gonna give me an opportunity give you
one I’m just gonna go after it if I die
on my down a treadmill like wasn’t said
I’m gonna be on the treadmill running
you know I’m not I’m just not gonna stop
because I believe all things are
available to us I’m just wanting to go
after are you willing and then that is
so disruptive cuz then you got to make a
decision cuz it’s easier to live inside
the parameters of well as a black woman
well as born and raised in South Central
well I’m academically – I’m Dyslexic
I’m dyslexic I wrote seven books on
dyslexic you know I just I just tell the
stories I’m just not the one to edit the
then we all in trouble put a period at
the beginning of the sentence right so
just knowing like I’m not perfect what I
do Willie well is I manage my
imperfection well and so we’re all
waiting for perfect it’s an illusion
that will never come to you and it’s an
excuse to never show up and play your
story is not meant to be your fortress
your story is meant to be your fuel any
story like the fact the beauty of me
being one of the top 1% earners in
America is that I was on government
assistance right like that’s the beauty
like come on it wouldn’t be a big deal
my family was rich whatever like I’m
supposed to do something the beauty is
that when you show the little engine
that could story like I’m not gonna run
fast but I ain’t gonna stop running I
might slow down and have to breathe and
catch my breath but I’m not stopping
because I believe all things are
available to all of us and good people
should do well because when good people
do well good people just do more good in
the world all right I need to stop and
catch my breath because right you
thought this is what it right it was all
right so we’re gonna really drive a
point home because you just messed me up
[Laughter]
you make me extraordinary to let
yourself off the hook
yeah I’ve I’ve never been able to really
get my hands around the thing one of the
things that really really frustrates me
which is that people discount me because
they see me as successful right and in
doing that they robbed themselves of
something because they you can’t show
somebody like your physical
transformation by the way is astonishing
watching your video but the hashtag
chasing Michelle Obama arms hashtag
hashtag respect it’s amazing watch these
videos she’s so vulnerable it’s crazy
and you see a side of Lisa Nichols in
that in that transformation that you’d
never really let people into before that
was just a vulnerability and everything
about you was absolutely breathtaking
thank you but that’s easy to show people
yes right but showing them the
transformation that you went through
mentally is not now I used to Big
Brother in South Central so I went to
USC it is an oasis right in the heart of
worst neighborhoods as you well know
right and so I had there was an
african-american kid that had been
adopted and I got very involved in him
and his family and spent a lot of time
in South Central
it’s drab there’s nothing that says this
is your future other ability this and I
remember talking to him and his
framework reference for what his future
could be was so terrifying that all I
used to do and this is back when I was
dirt poor I used to take him to Beverly
Hills to watch movies I would take him
to a fast food restaurant in Beverly
Hills just anything in Beverly Hills so
he could see hey there’s like another
part of this world that looks different
it’s vibrant
just because I wanted him to see that so
how on earth do you go in the middle of
that your son’s father goes to prison
you’re on public assistance you’re in
the middle of this incredibly drab place
where teachers are telling you that
you’re the worst I’ve ever seen like I
can’t even like what would possibly
other than what you’ve already said that
they’re just trying to drag you down
place it there at how what ideas are
bouncing around in your head at that
moment that you because it could have
been an empty promise right you put your
hand on Jay Lonnie’s tummy and you tell
him I’m never gonna be this broke again
don’t worry but that could have been an
empty promise right but it wasn’t so
what what happened like what was going
on in your mind right first of all I
knew something in me knew as a young
child that I wasn’t supposed to stay in
my environment so I live between the
Harlem 30s and the rollin 60s
and I had three fights a week to get
home from school and I remember when I
was 15 my teacher said what do you want
to be when you grow up and I said alive
I can when I get to 21 ask me again but
I don’t have that luxury you have and I
remember that I remember that like it
were yesterday
and but I also knew that I was worthy of
something but I didn’t know where it was
I didn’t see it anywhere and if you
remember all the television shows during
that time that had african-americans in
them they’re pretty drab so yeah good
times nothing was good right you had
different strokes where the white man
was saving a little black kids except
for in 1984 when the Huxtables came out
well that wasn’t what I grew up with I
was on my way to college then but I used
to watch The Brady Bunch and I should
say I don’t know what they have to do to
have that kind of life but they always
worked everything out in the end and I
declared I want a peaceful life like
that I want a life of possibility and
almost every single one of my initial
mentors I couldn’t touch I couldn’t talk
to I didn’t have access to but I held on
to them like they were oxygen because
they were they were my visit to Beverly
Hills so I would go in my head I would
go through television and I don’t want
to be rich I never really aspired to be
rich and I never aspired to be famous I
aspired to have peace of mind to have
grace and ease in my life to be able to
provide for myself so I already had this
experience that I wanted and so when I
when when fast forward to answer your
question I’m in Inglewood living off our
Boveda I want government assistance and
I run out of money and I had to buy
pampers for Jelani and I had $11 and 42
cents in the bank and I remember
wrapping my son in the towel for two
days you know someone said because when
I tell the story I always get teary eyed
and someone said do you fabricate the
tears because you’ve told the story so
much no I’m a momma every time I tell
the story I fill it again I remember the
second day like you said I had my sump
my hand on Jelani stomach and I said
don’t worry baby
mommy will never be this broke or broken
was I was willing and I don’t know if
this is gonna sound crazy I was willing
to completely die to any form of me that
I had been so that I can birth the woman
that I was becoming the reason why a lot
of people won’t become who they want is
because they’re too attached to who
they’ve been and you hear it all the
time when people say I’ve always been
this way okay well if that’s working for
you keep doing that I knew it wasn’t
working for me any longer I had hit my
version of rock bottom so I was willing
to let go of everything and everybody
see another reason why people won’t get
there is because the doorway is for you
to fit through you trying to carry
everybody else through cuz you’re trying
to be rescued 9-1-1 and you gotta rescue
you first i am much more valuable to my
family and to my community because i was
willing to let them go go through the
door myself teach myself learn myself
condition myself and then come back and
get them now much more valuable to them
now but i have to go through a window
time of ten years of judgment you
leaving us hanging out with white people
all the time you go into these crazy
countries we don’t know what you’re I
have to be willing to to allow my
conviction to make me inconvenienced see
we want to grow but we want to stay
liked by everybody I was willing to be
my own rescue at the risk of your
approval most of us aren’t like that
Facebook is example we want to be liked
well I woke up and I liked myself today
so you’ll like his extra my job is to
like me first
I was willing to say everyday Lisa you
like you at least are you proud of you
at least are you playing Fallout
everyday before I checked in with
anybody else
that’s lonely by the way why won’t most
people do it because it’s scary and it’s
lonely so what did I do
I was willing to find people who had
what I didn’t have who were living lives
that I wasn’t living who believed things
that I didn’t know about and I was
willing to become their student I got up
every day and I ate a slice of humble
pie see when you get to this level even
me ten years ago you can get caught up
by reading your own fine print see
whenever I hear people reading my bio
and before I came on you read my body
I’m in the back going yeah yeah yeah
yeah yeah yeah cuz I don’t want to ever
think I arrived I don’t ever that bio
was old I you should be interested in my
future oh that’s my bio what’s my future
Oh what are you doing what am i who am i
becoming for 2020 and we get caught up
in our BIOS we get caught up in our
status I never allowed that to stop me
from going and sitting at the hem of
someone and saying what do you know
about wealth see because it’s three
forms to money I still relationship to
money we learn how to earn it we learn
how to keep it and we learn how to grow
it well I learned how to earn it because
my theme song was I’m a hustler baby and
I want you to know everybody with me and
a where I been but where I’m about to go
so I was singing that song I was singing
that song when I was I wasn’t working
out of my closet as my office I was in a
walk-in closet where you really couldn’t
walk in you stepped in and turn right
and and and the clothes rack you know
how you have the hanger rack I have pant
hangers in the closet and I had manila
folders clipping on the pant hangers
those are my client files and I was sit
there and I put $2.99 mirrors off that
you get from CVS I put them all around
my closet walls so that I can make my
office look bigger I worked out of that
closet office for four years singing
that song and I ain’t where I’ve been or
where I’m about to go I knew that I knew
how to make money I don’t know how to
keep it cause ain’t nobody had none of
my family so keeping was an issue girl
was never an issue so I went to people
who knew how to
make it keep it grow it I went to people
who was about serving others to the
highest level see I make a lot of money
because I serve more people see all your
successes on the other side of service
people trying to make money if it begins
and ends with money it’s gonna be a
short-lived victory but if it’s about
transforming lies then the wind keeps
going and going and growing and growing
so I went to people that knew what I
didn’t know and I killed my ego every
day murder my shego every day cuz I got
a big she go come on come on right every
day time and I got hungry and I learned
I went to the same training 42 times yes
I said 42 some focus stops and so I’ve
been now ready I learned that already
now I wasn’t there I wanted to be able
to finish their sentences I want to know
what you know I want to walk like you
talk like you and then I want to then
embed me in it but successfully his
clothes we just not picking him up I was
the only african-american person at this
conference I was one of two women at
this conference within the last twenty
nine sessions I led the conference but I
was willing to be the student first so
that’s what I did number one and number
two I looked at every toxic behavior in
my life every one you see me go behind
my own black curtain people don’t want
to tell on yourself you’re trying to
protect you’re trying to do four things
you’re trying to protect prove hide and
defend if you wake up everyday and say
I’ve nothing to protect I have nothing
to prove I have nothing to hide I have
nothing to defend now who do I choose to
be because your energy is consumed with
protecting proving hiding and defending
but if you let go of that then now
you’re in creation every day I told
myself that every day I got in the
mirror and I said three sentences and I
gave each sentence seven different
endings and at times I was crying so
hard I couldn’t understand myself
because the ending that sentence was so
difficult to say every day I looked in
the mirror said Lisa I’m proud that you
and I found seven different things to
celebrate Lisa for because we are under
celebrated because you want someone to
celebrate you more and you celebrating
yourself you want to hear thank you from
others more than you’re thinking
yourself
you wanna hear other people say I love
you more than you saying I love yourself
you were teaching the where I set this
on Oprah when I set this on / she’s oh
my god I believe the exact same thing so
I knew I had one thing right the world
is looking at you and following your
example of how to treat you how to treat
you they’re following your example of
how to treat you so how you treat you
the world’s gonna follow your lead so I
had to start treating Lisa better
because I was everything for everybody
but nothing for myself and so every day
I got in the mirror and I completed
three sentences Lisa I’m proud of you
for second thing Lisa I forgive you for
that one took me down daily because I
had a son with a man who was now
imprisoned my biggest nightmare my
greatest nightmare I had been in a
relationship that turn mentally and then
physically abusive when my son was three
years old I made money but lost it I was
on government assistance I was on
welfare I was on WIC women infant and
children I got a lot of forgiveness that
I had to do but I was willing to forgive
myself every day and every day I said
the same thing for like six months until
it got easier and then one day I went
least I forgive you for it and that
thing didn’t come up anymore I was like
oh okay honor the next seven different
endings and the last thing I did every
day last sentence is Lisa I commit to
you that because we make bigger
commitments to other people if I commit
to y’all something right or die you can
bet your last dime that imma be there
i’ma show up you’re gonna get two dimes
but I want make commitments for me for
myself and I wouldn’t do it I eat my
weight so I started every day
celebrating Lisa forgiving Lisa and
making a commitment to Lisa and then I
was willing to invest money in me I was
willing to invest money in me literally
literally literally I worked at LA
Unified School District and I knew I
couldn’t stay there cuz
they needed a degree I didn’t have a
degree they didn’t seem happy I want to
be happy so I would I would have my son
at daycare during the day I’d work nine
hours I pick him up from daycare take
him back to my office I take a 30-minute
break from 6 o’clock to 6:30 to go get
him I start working from 6:30 until
midnight every day at my office on me
every day put my son on a little you
know primary color blanket something to
occupy him give him toys that I took the
batteries out of so he’d be confused for
a little while true I’m not working I’m
sure I’m serious and I did it every day
every day every day I stopped going out
to dinner I stopped going out dancing I
stopped getting my nails done stop
getting my hair done in every two weeks
when LA Unified paid me I brought a
check to my dream and I wrote in the
memo line funding my dream and I would I
would mail the check to the bank Wells
Fargo and I mailed a check to myself
every two weeks for three and a half
years my family thought you know I
thought I was smoking on drugs like
Shane going out she not she eaten
beanies and weenies always we think she
on drugs but she’s not getting to be
smaller so maybe not and and I went to
the bank after three and a half years
this is the story you’re talking about I
walked in the bank I said I’m just gonna
check and see where that account is cuz
I wouldn’t open the who wouldn’t open
the statements cuz my mother used to say
when I was growing up girl this money
burn in my pocket and I’m like oh I
think money hot and thank you thank you
so much and it goes away fast so I’m not
gonna open the statement cuz I don’t
want to know how much money I have
because I’d have a healthy relationship
to money I didn’t even know our
relationship with money so while I’m at
these trainings they just kept saying
saves I’m like okay imma save I didn’t
need the money that I was writing
cheques for because it was the money I
use on my nails in my hair and then
every check I wrote to myself I made a
challenge with myself that had to
be 5% more than the next check Wow in
the previous check so I and I didn’t
really know how to calculate the fiber
since I’m like oh I’ll just add 30
dollars I’ll just say add 60 I really
didn’t know anything about it
then I went out and got a second job and
I started working in the evenings less
on my business and more out on job so I
can write a bigger check so I learned
how to live on $31,000 that’s all I was
living on $31,000 we can make it we got
it
I sold my Ultima I had at the time I
bought an old export Explorer you know I
just I just I just skinny down I moved
out of my three-bedroom house I moved in
with the roommate she smoked even and I
was like okay I’m gonna put towels under
the base of the door y’all you got to be
inconvenienced
I put towels on the base of doors little
smoke coming to room with me and my son
we slept side-by-side in the same bed
went from a three-bedroom you know
three-bathroom house two story to a
roommate you know cuz I was willing to
write a check to fund my dream and I
kept writing funding my dream funding my
dream funding my dream and I walked in
the Wells Fargo three and a half years
later and I I gave her my name and said
hi my name is Lisa Nichols and she’s
like you’d have funded my dream lady
yeah so all these tellers came running
around the manager came around cuz I
guess everybody a process to check or to
and they’re like we all been wondering
like everybody wants to know what’s the
dream you find it and I was like so I
said I just came to get my balance and
just see where it is cuz I haven’t
opened any of the statements or like why
so no I haven’t open any of the
statements cuz money burns my mama’s
pocket so it might burn my pocket so I
don’t want to spend it so she wrote the
balance down are they right the balance
down and she turned it and passed it to
me and I looked at it and I said no
ma’am my name is Lisa Shante this is my
social security number I don’t even want
that money cuz y’all going on the back
and I don’t want to get in trouble so
can you just give me my account you know
cuz I didn’t know anyone in my family
that had $5,000 in their account $10,000
in the account so when you write down
that I have sixty two thousand five
hundred dollars in my account that’s not
mine and so they all teared up like
everybody start crying they’re like no
it’s yours
I look
my son Jelani who was five years old now
and I said Jelani I think life is gonna
change for you and mommy my son said
cuz I’ve been making them homemade Big
Macs Wow mommy can make you better big
mac then you know Ronald McDonald so
because I was here I was willing to
inconvenience my entire life my entire
life I was willing to disrupt my entire
life to buy my future to buy my
possibility to give my dream a chance
see we’re not supposed to tuck our
dreams in on the on the pillow when we
get up in the morning we’re not supposed
to leave them at home then going fulfill
somebody else’s dream we’re not supposed
to do that that’s not what we’re wired
to do that’s not who we are your human
spirit doesn’t care about the economy
the human spirit doesn’t care that my
son’s father went to prison but the
human spirit doesn’t care what’s
happened to your family the human spirit
doesn’t care about the past you may have
been molested or your family have may
have been broke her or you may have been
betrayed or you may have a divorce your
human spirit doesn’t care about any of
that your human spirit simply says
what’s our command for tomorrow what do
you want to create it’s not keeping
score your brain is keeping score cuz
your brain is designed to keep you safe
your soul your intuition your human
spirit is designed to make you sore and
when you get to the edge of that stage I
want to get out right now
can I give him whatever you want no no
when you get to the edge your brain will
always tell you to step back it’s always
gonna tell you to step back because you
can fall always it’s gonna tell you step
back because before you fail the last
time you did this you saw someone else
fail you could hurt you could be off
work it’s gonna tell you it’s designed
to keep you safe so you have to be
willing to play between your brain and
your soul and on some days you got to
just listen to your soul and you got to
say I’m a leap I’m gonna get to the edge
most people are at the edge and you
the edge and you’re watching everyone
else fly that’s pimp my ride watch my
crib all this stuff you know washing
people’s lives on Facebook you’re at the
edge watching someone else live
wondering what it’s gonna be like when
you jump without ever jumping and I’m
just here to tell you jump because only
three things can happen you’re either
gonna jump and fly are you gonna jump
and fall on something soft are you gonna
fall down hard either way you’re gonna
get back up you already know you got
what it takes to get back up you’re not
your greatest fears not that you will
fall your greatest fears that you will
live a full life and never fly that you
never leaped you’re not afraid of dying
you’re afraid of dying before the world
sees who you really are before they
really get your fingerprint before they
really feel your breath before they
really get your contribution if they
really feel you that’s what you don’t
want to happen you don’t want to leave
this place without us knowing you were
here all I’m doing is giving my dream a
chance and I’m not extraordinary you
don’t get off the hook you don’t get to
be let off back I’m an ordinary woman
who chooses every day to make one more
extraordinary decision you’re a grinder
and look there’s a lot of people out
there that can talk
you obviously have a profound gift for
storytelling but there’s a lot of
storytellers
what made you so interesting to me is
that you you’ve done the hard work to
get there you don’t make a secret of it
you’ll walk people through it your books
our how-to manuals it’s about doing the
work it’s really how god you have a
great quote there’s no shortcuts at the
top there’s no elevator there ain’t
nothing but stairs stairs you gotta get
your glutes in action I was this more I
was I was on the wall this morning doing
my squats I don’t know about y’all but I
was doing my squats this more I was
doing my lunges this morning every day
I’m prepared for what’s ahead of me
there’s no elevator there’s no elevator
you can’t Google download this somebody
trying to Google download it you know
you can’t you can’t follow me on
Facebook and get to where I am you’re
just gonna see where I am he just
watched me through my window there’s no
glory in that if you watch me watch me
to inspire you to get up and do one more
squat just a little bit longer if you
watch me watch me to inspire you to
forgive the perceiving the unforgivable
and love the per seemingly unlovable so
the universe can love you back like that
if you watch me watch me so that it
makes you want to be a better man I
wanna be a better woman see when I rub
myself up against somebody great it’s so
that I can want to be a better woman in
their presence only hang around people
who make you stand on your tippy toes
that’s what I do all the time and then I
hang around people who I makes them on
their tippy toes that’s what I do that’s
when people step onto my campus I train
I’m a trainer I’m a trainer I’m a
transformational coach I teach people
how to turn that it’s the the
unbelievable into your reality that’s
what I do we’re gonna grind first thing
I wanna do is say look get your
deodorant out put your tennis shoes on
we’re gonna squat with on lunge long run
but on the other side of this you will
see a life that’s barely recognizable
why cuz I’m living that life look at my
look at Who I am I’m a c’ student from
Dorsey high school I ran track I got a
dean’s
– and speech and a fail in English when
my English professor from high school
was in Barnes and Nobles and he turned
over Chicken Soup for the African
American soul my first book
when he saw my face on the back he said
he stood in Barnes and Nobles and
started crying well he said he knew I
was a good person but he didn’t know if
I make it cuz I wasn’t talented in any
particular area that then track
I wasn’t talented academic wise I didn’t
it didn’t fire off fast for me I learned
later that it was because I was dyslexic
and I had all these other learning
styles it makes me more unique you know
but in school it didn’t show up that way
and so I’m clear that I didn’t get a
hook up and I’m clear because of that
this is available to everybody so I’m
passionate about inviting people onto my
campus
come on get in my live room get him out
online I online trainings deep dive in
the book the book is like a three day
training by itself my latest book
abundance now I put everything in that
that’s what my legacy will be it will
free more people than any other body of
work that I’ve ever done other than the
abundant life live program that I do
because I’m all about touching people
touching people and letting them see
touch me let me touch you so you can see
there’s zero distance between us
and I believe the universe says God says
when there’s zero distance between you
and it it is yours so I used to go
around my girlfriend very very wealthy
her husband created she created
something it was so to Kimberly Clark
they made they did one sale for 100
million dollars and life changed
overnight for them so I would often go
to their house in La Jolla California
and I just rub all they stuff no really
I’ve been rubbing my friends stuff for
like years
I rub all this stuff and because I
believe that zero distance between you
and it means it’s available to you so
surround yourself in the things that
stretch you and I’m not even into the
material things though I want to live a
great life like I’m not into cars but if
I got to be on the road I want to be on
the road or something absolutely amazing
you know I’m not into materialistic
things but I wanted to have that kind of
indicator that my life is right I’m
doing the right things as well as in
less than 30 days I take eight of my
family members to a Wahoo for a vacation
and all I got to do is pack right just
pack right I’ll take care of everything
else my grandmother was 87 my mother my
father my son my nephew just just a ton
of people that to me money just buys
better memories money just buys better
memories it’s not about the money but
listen if I got to have a problem oh and
I want to end my day and go to a house
that reflects the type of day I have so
I just would I would surround myself I
get I get hungry for it I’d hunt for it
but through service and I will be remiss
if I didn’t say this I was willing to
love some people from a distance I was
willing to love some people from a
distance because they were holding you
back I wouldn’t even say they we you
know we used the phrase they were
holding me back as if they got a
slingshot around my neck but I look up
so half the time and I’m holding onto
them trying to use them as my excuse I’m
just saying just I don’t know if it
steps on your toes if it does sit
indian-style I’m not stop I you know I
cuz I could use my son well I don’t want
to leave my phone I can use my family
they’re not holding on to me I’m holding
on to them I’m using them as an excuse
to not play for logs I’m afraid if I go
to the edge on my fault mm-hmm no my son
when he was eight years old he said
mommy when you go to the faraway places
that I can’t go to that I can’t call you
out I get really sad please don’t go I
could have stopped then when he was
eight but instead I took him out of a
public school put him in a private
school went to the principal the private
school and said I’d like to enroll my
son but let me tell you what we’re gonna
do here when I leave and I’m going and I
go away real far where he can’t call me
we’re gonna distance learn him together
and you’re gonna send him away with a
packet of homework and I’m gonna FedEx
that homework back to you she says miss
Nichols we don’t have such a program I
said oh I’m happy to help you co-create
and so when I went to Kenya my son went
to Kenya with me for a month and we did
all of his homework his homework was
like the everybody’s project and we
FedEx it back home winter Swahili he
went to Swahili with me when I went to
Australia Austria with me and we FedEx
is horrible I was willing to be
inconvenienced for my conviction like if
you go where you’ve never gone do what
you’ve never done and say what you never
said you’ll become the woman in the men
you’ve always known yourself to be
you’re trying to be someone new doing
the same thing you’ve done or at least
going to the edge and because most
people live in the center Tom when
you’re on the edge you feel the breeze
on your chicken you think you did some
come on like right that’s oh yeah at the
edge of the box no I want to be out of
the box there’s no box like I came here
to disrupt everyone watching me to make
sleeping and complacency difficult to
make you mildly to moderate to
significantly uncomfortable in any form
of mediocracy I don’t come to keep you
comfortable I don’t come to Rye Rye you
I don’t come to Kumbaya motivate I come
to disrupt your norm so that you’re
abnormal can come out so that your
original can come out your uncharted
turf can come out I come to disrupt any
form of normal and I do it with the
freedom of being like they’re not liked
I got love everyone here to like me love
everyone here to like me but my freedom
is if you don’t like me it ain’t even my
business my grandma says other people’s
perception of you ain’t none of your
business is your job to do the best you
possible and in doing you you inspire us
because we’re all trying to do each
other if you want me to give you Oprah I
will always undoubtably fail you but
whenever you’re interested I do it damn
good Lisa Nichols I got her on lock that
if you can master you and your
contribution to the planet your unique
fingerprint your individual breath your
DNA you’re an unrepeatable miracle you
are an unrepeatable miracle give me some
of you give me your uniqueness I’m just
here to disrupt everybody’s norm and
give them my uniqueness and hopefully
inspire millions
do the same and you may not always be
able to monetize your passion it’s not
always about monetizing your passion let
your investor aka your job I like to
call it your investor but your investor
help you do your dream by simply
stabilizing your household letting your
light stay on because you can’t be
creative when the lights are out believe
me I’ve tried keeping food in your
refrigerator so your passion is not
always for profit your passion is not
always something you monetize your
investor takes care of your needs and
then you go do your passion yeah it’s
interesting because we all have an
opportunity to to create who we are to
be something that’s truly unique in our
own and so few people are actively
trying to do that how so walk me through
because what makes you special is you go
way beyond just the motivation what are
you teaching
Jelani about like what are the actual
words or tools that you’re giving him to
be himself
Jelani is now he’ll be 22 this year
six-foot to 210 pounds so what I teach
my son is to do him not me what I teach
he’s gonna find his best lessons and his
biggest mistakes so don’t be afraid of
mistakes do you think most people don’t
know who they are like if you really
especially young how do you help him
find or how do you help anybody find
that define it create it yeah so you’re
going into transformation now and I love
transformation more than I love
motivation because it’s it’s it’s a
game-changer so I do a series of
exercises constantly it’s like it’s like
doing app work you want great abs you
can do sit-ups one time and get it you
got to go back again and again and again
and again that’s the same for
self-development you got it you got to
live in it it’s not a one-time shot so
when someone tells me oh I did your
workshop already I said oh you think you
got it all like I did the same workshop
42 times right and still can go back and
get something new so one I teach people
how do you get connected with you you
haven’t met you yet how do you meet you
and so there’s a series of exercises
that I have to do one exercise I’ll give
you one exercise and someone’s gonna go
home today and do this and it’s a game
changer and it’s not even pretty so they
say rah rah because first of all as a
transformational coach very different
than a motivational speaker
inspirational speaker and informational
speaker those people are there to incite
you excite your transformational coach
is designed to go to the dark place with
you hold your hand and coach you out
into a brighter light that’s why it’s
the road less traveled so one exercise I
have them do and this is and you’ll
notice just in this exercise you’ll see
how I helped get them there so this
exercise is called expose the lies and I
have you get about 16 blank sheets of
paper you may not feel like fill them
all up but if you’re playing big in the
world like you are you might feel them
all up and I have you write down every
lie you tell yourself and I have you
talk about just the lies around money
first
you might fill up two three pages just
the lies are money and don’t you can’t
think about it and then not write it cuz
if you think about is a lie because the
but the exercises expose the lies so
think of the lie you tell yourself so
I’ll never have enough money money is
hard to earn I have to work hard to earn
good money alright that’s a lie
like really it is something I don’t know
that you can make money while you sleep
if you set it up right right so all the
lies about money that you
yourself then I have you tell yourself
all the lies you’ve told you some about
who you are as a person like I used to I
used to say I’m stupid because I used to
hear all the time that I was are you you
almost in the you almost qualify for the
little bus you know I see all kind of
stuff and I began to believe it I used
to tell me what I’m a slow learner oh
don’t slow down I believed it so I would
write all the lies you tell yourself
about who you are
NextEra lies which is why you have 16
sheets of paper and each each mindset
each category can take you to three
sheets of paper all the lies you tell
you about relationships romantic family
friends all the lies my family will
never understand me that was on in my
life they’ll never really get me I’ll
never have a long-lasting relationship
with a man and then all the lies that
you tell yourself around your health and
fitness then all the lies you tell
yourself around your spirituality can I
tell you it’s gonna be ugly people
normally like I don’t want to do this
they stop well it ain’t gonna feel good
if you stop before we get to the finish
line so you have all these lies between
every lie you skip four lines are
equivalent to four lines of space once
you finish that you read all the lies
again so that you and you’re gonna feel
nauseous and it may take you two or
three days because you got it got to
take a break from it right you finish it
don’t put it off more than four days
because now you’re procrastinating again
and so again you know you know you and
then in between the lies so you write
all the lies down in pencil very
important you write them all in pencil
16 sheets of paper 10 sheets of paper
whatever then you get a red pen and you
write the truth in between each lie even
if you can’t believe it yet
now most people get stopped is that well
I don’t know what the truth is okay but
there is a truth because this is a lie
and every lie has a truth even if you
can’t believe it yet so now you write
the truth down you’re gonna cry you’re
gonna cry on the lies you’re gonna cry
on the truth cuz it’s gonna be exposed
to you the truth that you knew but you
forgot you knew it so you’re living like
you don’t know your truth then after
you’ve done that and the truth is
written between every lie lies in pencil
truth is in rip ready you read for two
days the lie the truth the lie the truth
the lie the truth the lie the truth two
days at least four times each day
because now you’re training your brain
neural linguistic programming so the
next time the light comes up your brain
is gonna naturally default to the truth
that you wrote and ready because you
gave your brain to things versus just
having this lie cuz when people say
you’re stupid the only thing you tell
you you counter that with is I’m not
stupid right that’s not positive right
and so now your brain is going lie to
lie truth lie truth light Routh then
after the second day of reading the lie
the truth Getti eraser and what you
don’t do
erase the lie and now you’re just left
with the truth so when you ask how do I
get people there I do things like that
so I always tell people watch my life
and you’ll be entertained step in and
learn how to manage your life and you’ll
be transformed step onto my campus
I’ve just finished this mega series of
videos they’re not even out yet called
abundant life and I did them after the
book abundance now because people kept
saying how do I get the stuff that you
say in the book and I go oh so I did 14
videos in my home I’m committed to
showing others I don’t want to be here
long amount to top don’t feel good when
you’re honor by yourself you want
company like you want company we’re
tribal we want queer community there’s
no glory and me being here by myself
there’s none whatsoever I want the bus
the doors open every single person in
this room every single person listen to
my voice look into our face I want every
single person plus the double doors open
and go get yours and UPS is not gonna
come to your door saying hello I have a
life for you please sign here
you gotta go you’re not coming
they’re not coming you got to go out the
door put on your best running shoes get
your back strong and go after then run
like it after it like you’re late for
work I will run if we’re late for work
run for someone else’s dream harder than
we’re wrong for ours yeah I love what
you were saying about men you want
people to cheer for you more than you
cheer for yourself loving you more than
you love yourselves and anything which
is actually really odd it’s really odd
to expect somebody to be more impressed
with you than you are with yourself to
treat you better then you treat yourself
and then I just got to go here I got I
got a pass I can go here ladies we
really do it men do it as well but
ladies were extroverted doing it we
dumped on our men and put the
responsibility on you of our beauty of
our love of our self-worth and and and
men manage it differently you manage it
in possessions and in money and in bank
account and in status that’s where you
go for that traditionally there’s always
exceptions to rules traditionally but as
women we emote and make you have to be
our self-esteem which is so incredibly
unfair we ask questions we don’t want to
hear to answer to we ask questions that
you only have one answer you can give us
you really don’t have freedom in that
answer there’s one answer I need right
now to make me feel good and I just give
it to me that’s so incredibly unfair and
we say we even have the old adage I just
in marriage I mean a man to complete me
that’s a big job you a lot of woman to
complete come on you know where you come
from and your issues that’s not the
truth it’s my job and I love the dance
between relationship where there’s a
woman woman man man man woman I love the
dance between love in relationship but
it’s not anyone’s job to complete you
it’s my job to complete me and then it’s
your opportunity to compliment my
and so my job is to work on Lisa versus
to ask you to give me what I need and I
think when we get that self development
is something we haven’t jumped into
enough and I don’t know about every
culture but as african-americans and
some other cultures as well people I’ve
met we must take spirituality for self
development and we think spiritual
awareness is self-development spiritual
awareness is spiritual awareness and
it’s understanding the divine and the
higher power in the god whatever you
call it and having some place to release
– that’s not self development self
development is doing that dad going work
I just talked about exposing the lies
that are in your head that’s running you
the chatter the negative Nancy in your
head you know it managing it and
exposing exposing it that’s our work and
no one shows us how to do that work yeah
that’s a really important distinction
that’s really interesting and I think
that people cloud the issue in their own
mind
because Ryan Holliday who’s been on the
show talks a lot about how merely
defining your dream your goal your
whatever can be intoxicating enough that
you forget to actually go do the work
yes and I think that they’re never
thought about it until you just said
that but there is a sense of connection
wonderment that when you can tap into
spirituality that is consciousness
consciousness is very important but it
means nothing without action we got a
whole bunch of conscious stuff people
they conscious they know it all they
know all the awareness they know
affirmations but Joan Baez says that
action is the antidote antidote antidote
for despair Lisa Nichols adds action is
the prescription for success how can you
have one word one theory be the the the
antidote for something while being the
prescription for another that’s a
powerful something action Will Smith
said it when he was being interviewed by
Tavis Smiley
I’m just i’ma work harder the next guy I
fight if I’m on the treadmill my dial to
treadmill like I get it I was in South
Africa and this gentleman was
translating in Swahili took from another
gentleman and the gentleman asked me was
I gonna go to the the party that night
and I said I’ll try to make it and he
went to go back and tell me those are
you gonna go to the party and I said
I’ll tell him I try to make and he went
to translate again he turned that goes
are you gonna go to the party and I said
how am I try to make any look goes lady
there is no word try in Swahili or
I’ll be very like think about that but
in Swahili there’s no word for try we
use try as a crutch to say I really
don’t want to do it but I don’t want to
tell you now just say I’m not gonna do
it or I’m gonna do it like I love it I
never say try anymore after that
I bowed yes or boat no just choose cuz
no one wants to live in uncertainty and
ambiguity and we live a life of a B I
don’t know what I want to be I don’t
know what I’m gonna do because you’d
never have to move in ambiguity instead
just say I’m afraid to leap help me leap
help me leap help me get the courage to
leap cuz I don’t want to live a life on
the edge just say that that’s just this
the truth is sexy and it’s liberating
and it’s sobering and what I believe
people love most about me is that I give
them the gift of the truth my truth
first and then in some way I want to
inspire you to share your truth and be
okay with your truth and I just tell you
guys I’m that same girl who ran track
for Dorsey high school who struggled to
get into the high school who got kicked
out of college cuz I couldn’t afford to
stay that was on government’s I’m the
same girl I’m that same girl I don’t
forget her I’m also that same woman who
runs a multi-million dollar business
I’m also the same woman who has seven
bestsellers I own both of those I own
all I don’t shrink to my greatness and I
don’t live in my side of my saw
if you can own your brilliance while
owning your your imperfections if you
can own your giant while owning your
smallness if you can live in duality
constant duality the freedom will be
earth-shaking if you can live in that
sea either you don’t want to be as great
as you really are
and you’re trying to dim your light so
that others won’t feel insecure about
themselves in your presence and so you
keep playing at 79 Watts when you know
you’re supposed to shine at 159 Watts
and you keep checking the temperature of
the room to see what the room can handle
versus just given the room you and
letting them it but if your lights too
bright then let them put on some shades
can you give yourself permission to live
in the duality of your imperfections and
your smallness and what you’re learning
and what you still have to learn and
your greatness and your brilliance in
your light can you allow them to
co-exist and then serve them up to the
world to love you to see you to inhale
you to judge you to leave you to love
you
you’re just some of us are just as
afraid of being loved as we are to be
left can you give the world permission
y’all can breed now where can they find
you you can go to abundance now
online.com abundance now online.com and
that gives you access to my book but it
also gives you access to some tools I
don’t just want you to pick up the book
I want you to pick up the book and
become a student so that you can have
the transformation so I give you a lot
of free things when you go there but
most importantly you step on my campus I
want you to step on my campus I want you
to find ways if it feels good if it
doesn’t feel good learn from someone
else but if it feels good and I speak
your language then step on the campus
and give yourself that chance I would
invite you to we don’t even have it out
yet but when it comes out you’ll hit the
abundant life when the abundant life
program comes out run to it run to it
it’s that it’s gonna be that
game-changer I just believe it with all
my heart and soul I believe that on the
other side of it when I sit down my
grandmother says when you get my age
baby
you supposed to she always felt causes
all baby when you get my age baby you
supposed to sit in your favorite rocking
chair and tell the story of your life
but when you’re your age when you’re
your age when you’re your age you
supposed to make sure the story’s gonna
be good to tell and I just believe that
the abundant life program helps to make
sure that your story is gonna be good to tell so go to abundance now online.com
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