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This is Why You Don’t SUCCEED – One of the Best Motivational Speeches Ever


My guest tonight has written three best-selling books.
And in his speech (Ted) leadership Inspiring is one of the most watched ever
When he speaks it is impossible not to listen.
My name is Simon Senik, and
I have a clear vision of what I want to build in this world.
Imagine a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every morning
Inspired to go to work,
They feel safe when they are there,
And come back home and they feel satisfied at the end of the day
I promise you
That our guest will help you to gain behaviors,
And patterns of thinking that you need in order to be successful in anything you are trying to achieve.
I have not yet delivered a speech, or a meeting where someone does not ask me a question Millennial.
What is the millenarians question?
It seems that millenarians generation
– which is a group of people who were born nearly 1984 and after –
Anchors are tough.
They are accused of arrogance
Narcissism
And those interested in themselves
And dispersed focus
Lazy
But arrogance is the largest
Since they often confuse The Leader,
What happens is that the leaders ask millenarians
“what do you want?”
And millenarians say
“We want to work in the place of his goal.” I love that.
“We want to have the effect of us.” As you know, whatever that means.
“We want free food, chairs awkward
And then …
Someone is checking, somewhat in the target
There are a lot of free eating, there are chairs awkward
But for some reason
They are still unhappy
This is because
There is a missing piece.
What I learned is
I can into four parts of his guards
There are four things, four properties.
One is the father and mother,
The other is technology,
The third is the lack of patience,
The fourth is the environment.
Generation, which we call the millennium generation,
Many of them grew up
Exposed to, not my words
Breeding strategies failure by the father and mother
you know?
Where, for example,
They were told that they were privileged … all the time.
They were told that they could be anything they want in life,
Just because they want it.
We were told …
Some of them arrived at the
Honors in the school and not because they deserve but because their parents complain
Some of them got excellent grade in all subjects and not Bmjhadeh
But because teachers do not want to deal with their parents
Some of the kids got medals to participate. It Medallion is given to the one who finally comes. is not it?
Who taught, we know very clear,
Which degrades the metal and is the reward for those who actually work hard,
This fact makes the person who comes finally feel embarrassed
Because they know they do not deserve it so it actually makes them feel worse feeling is not it?
If you take this class of people,
The graduate of the study, and get a job,
And Tzjhm in the real world.
At the moment they find out: they are not distinct.
They can not do to their mothers for promotion
You will not get anything for coming in the last
By the way, you can not get it because you just want
At the moment shatter the image Almatah.bokmlha
You will have a whole generation is growing with low self-esteem more than previous generations.
The other problem that matters worse:
We grow old in the world of Facebook, and Instagram.
In other words, we know how we put filters on things.
We know how to portray people that life is wonderful, although I am depressed. is not it?
And all the people are showing strong and all the people look as if they understood everything
The reality is: that there are a few who have the strength and adequate understand everything around them
Even when people say older
“Well, what should we do?”
They will say, “This is what you should do!”
And they do not have the slightest idea.
So you have a whole generation is growing with low self-esteem more than previous generations. is not it?
From the mistakes they did not commit
From the mistakes they did not commit, is not it?
They were placed in the face of data can and Living situation does not change
Now let’s add the technology.
We know that dealing with social media
And our mobiles,
It launches a chemical called dopamine.
For this reason, when we receive a message we are satisfied. is not it?
You know it’s happening with us all: when you feel a little sad or lonely
So you send ten texts to ten friends, you know,
Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello.
Because it makes you feel comfortable when response brings you, right?
is not it? This is why we promise Likes
For this reason we go back ten times to see if …
If you did not happen …
Aanstagrama began to become slower
I would like to … I did not do something wrong? Are they not love me anymore? is not it?
Shock for young children when removing friendship, is not it?
Because we know when you get it you get paid dopamine, which makes you feel good
That is why we love this stuff
For this reason we continue to return.
Dopamine is the same chemical
That make us feel good feeling when we smoke, when we drink, and when we gamble
In other words:
It’s a very severe addiction
is not it?
We have age restrictions on smoking, gambling and alcohol.
And we do not have any age restrictions on social media and mobile phones.
Which is equivalent to open the closet and tell the liquor to teenagers
“By the way, ordering the teen Taatabk prefer …”
But this is basically what happens.
This is basically what is happening, is not it?
This is basically what happened.
You have a whole generation can get to something addictive
Chemical anesthesia, called dopamine, through social media and mobile phones
As they pass through the high pressure of adolescence.
Why is this important? Almost all Mdmnyen alcohol
They discovered alcohol when they were teenagers.
When they are very small, the only approval that we need the consent of parents.
And we go until the end of the period of adolescence are doing this shift where we now need the approval of our peers.
Very frustrating for parents we have,
It is very important for us.
Allow us to Ntthagaf outside the immediate families to a wider tribe.
is not it? It’s a period of stressful and very tense of our lives.
We are supposed to learn to rely on our friends.
Some people by accident discovers alcohol and drug dopamine Altotearer
To help them cope with stress and anxiety during adolescence.
It is regrettable to become fixed in their minds
For the rest of their lives
When suffering from severe pressure they will not look for someone who will look for the bottle
Social pressure and financial pressures, job stress.
This is pretty much the main reason why alcohol addict back to drink, is not it?
What happens is,
Because we allow unrestricted access to these devices and media dopamine
Initially, it has become constant. What we see is when they grow older.
For many children do not know how to configure profound meaningful relationships.
Their words, not my words.
Will admit that a lot of superficial friendships
They will admit that their friends …
They do not trust their friends, they do not rely on their friends. They enjoy with their friends only.
But they also know that their friends will Algonhm as soon as they find something better
With deep meaningful relationships do not have because they did not exercise their skill set,
Worse still, they do not have to adapt to deal with stress and pressure mechanisms.
So when the tension considerably appears in their lives
They do not resort to someone. They resort to a device, they resort to the means of social Aaltoasl,
They resort to these things that provide temporary relief.
We know, the science is clear, and we know
That people who spend more time on Facebook
Suffer higher rates of depression than people who spend less time on Facebook.
is not it? These things are balanced.
Alcohol is not bad, a lot of bad alcohol.
Gambling is fun, and a lot of serious gambling.
is not it? There is nothing wrong in the social media and mobile phones.
He was a lack of balance. is not it ? If you’re sitting at dinner with your friends,
Freelancing someone is not present with you
it’s a problem,
This addiction.
If you’re sitting in a meeting,
With people who are supposed to listen to them and talk to them
And you put the phone on the table – geared up or down, I do not care –
This sends a message to the unconscious in the room that you are not that important to me now
is not it? This is what happens.
The fact that you can not put it away, this is because you’re addicted.
is not it? If you wake up and you check your phone before you say good morning to your friend or spouse Aosidiktk,
You are addicted
Like all the time with this addiction will destroy relationships,
It will cost time, and will cost money, and will make your life worse.
is not it?
So that you have a generation grow up with low self-esteem,
They do not have to adapt to stress mechanisms.
is not it?
Now we add the lack of patience. is not it? They’ve grown up in a world of instant gratification.
When you want to buy something? Amazon’s go. And up the next day.
When you want to watch a movie? Log in and watched the movie.
Does not verify the times of movies
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You no longer need to wait a week for one week to another. is not it?
I know people who neglect seasons just so they can indulge at the end of the season. is not it?
Instant gratification.
Want to go on a date? No longer in need even to learn how to be like:
“Hey …”
No longer in need to learn and practice that skill.
Maztara no longer be satisfied with non-person who says
“Yes” when you mean “no”, and say “no” when you mean “no”, when “Yes” when …
Maztara Lai no longer than that. Drag to the right. Bannag, I stud!
is not it? No longer you learn social adjustment mechanisms.
is not it?
Everything you can get it immediately.
Everything you want, instant gratification,
Except
Job satisfaction, and the strength of relations
There is no application for it.
They are slow,
Meandering, uncomfortable, and the operations of chaotic
So I keep on meeting these young idealists wonderful, intelligent and hard-working
I had just graduated from the study. They’re working on the entry level. I sit with them when they go. “How is it going?” They say
“I think I will resign.”
I tell them why?
They’re saying, “I do not Make effect.”
I tell them I’ve been here for eight months. “
As if they are standing at the foot of a mountain,
They have this concept called abstract effect, and they want to achive in the real world,
It is the summit.
But the money they see is the mountain?
I do not care if you go to the top of the mountain quickly or slowly.
But there is still a mountain.
That’s what this generation needs of young people to learn is patience,
Some things are very important too
Like love,
Owalrdy career at work
enjoying life,
I love life, self-confidence, and a set of skills, none of these things.
All of these things take time.
Sometimes you can speed up parts of it.
But the overall trip …
Arduous, long and difficult.
If you do not ask for help and learn basic skills
It will fall down from the mountain.
… or in the worst-case scenario.
Worst-case scenario.
We are already witnessing.
The worst case scenario is that we are seeing an increase in suicide rates.
We are seeing an increase in this generation.
We are seeing an increase in deaths caused by accidents due to overdoses of drugs.
We see more and more children drop out of school or taking the absence of leaves because of depression
They have not heard about this is this is really bad but the best scenario
Those are all bad cases against the best scenario is you will have an entire people
Grow up and go through life and did not really find fun life
They will not really find deep satisfaction at work or in life. It will only
Just transit through life. Just as Basic
how is your work? Not quite the same as yesterday?
How is your relationship? There is nothing wrong Shi of this AD is such that this is the best scenario
Which brings me to the fourth point, which is the environment, which we are taking this
An amazing group of young men who are wonderful and exposed to no where Living situation no control or influence of
And put them in corporate environments that are interested more in numbers
Which care about these young people wonderful and more interested in achieving short-term gains from the long life of these
Humans care about young people who care more about them than the lives of tongues, the person
is not it? And put them in companies that do not help them to build their environments
Which does not help to learn cooperation skills that do not help to overcome the challenges facing the digital world and find more balance
This does not help them
Overcoming the need for instant gratification, and teach them to enjoy life and influence
Next and the satisfaction of working on a difficult thing for a long time can not be completed within a month or even a year
And
We Nzj them in corporate environments and the worst part about it is that they think they Gltthm. Blame themselves
They think it Gltthm they can not handle and it makes everything worse
It’s not as well as I’m here to tell them. It’s not their problem. It’s companies. It’s corporate environments
It is the total absence of good leadership in our world today. Who made them feel the way they feel now
Dharovhm was bad, and I hate to say it
But it is the responsibility of the company from being bad you have no choice, right
This is what we got and I hope that the community and their parents have done a better job. But they did not and we will make them
We are working in our companies, and we now have to help who fail
We have to work extra hard to figure out ways in which we can build their confidence. We have to work extra hard
To find ways to teach them social and social skills they lack them
There should not be mobile phones in conference rooms none zero
I do not mean this kind of like to sit and wait and send messages
I mean, like when you are sitting waiting for a meeting to start no one is b
This is what we all do and we all sit here and wait for the start of the meeting
It began meeting Well, we start the meeting. No, this is not the way Ti_ichael relations. We talked about it so small things
The relationships in this way: We are waiting for a meeting to start to go
How is your father heard that he was in the hospital. Yup. he is fine . Thank you for your question. I actually hope not
I’m really glad it was really amazing. I know it became really scary, but this is the way that form relationships
Hey, does this report put you in touch on my God? No, I did not oh yes
I totally uh I can help you with it really?
This is the way that does not constitute a form of trust and confidence in one event in one day even the bad times. Does not constitute trust immediately
It slow
And stability
Continua We need to create mechanisms where we allow these small benign reactions occur
But when we allow mobile phones in the meeting rooms we only
Well, the meeting was then my favorite is like when there is a phone, and it rings and makes sure it is
Rings and look at him will not question it only hinted you Mr. You know merlin
When you’re out for dinner with your friends like II do I do with my friends when we are on our way to dinner
And we leave together
Leave cell phones at home
Maybe one of us will bring the phone in case we need to call or oper take a picture of the meal.
you are crazy. Come on.
I. I’m not
I am a perfect, but I’m not crazy
I mean, it looks really good
We will take one phone and
For example, an alcoholic bottle does not leave him at home … because we can not trust our will power
We just are not strong enough, but when you remove the temptation
In fact it makes it a lot easier
Even when you do not say Taathakqgua of Hoatvkm O my people literally will go like this person goes to the bathroom and what is
The first thing we do
Because I do not want to see around me in the bathroom and a half minutes you know for, but if you do not have phone
Rather you will enjoy the world and here where ideas occur
And constantly, constantly, continuous involvement is not where you have innovation and ideas
Ideas occur when our minds wonder you go and see things I bet they can do it and this is called innovation
is not it? But we took all those small moments
is not it? You should not … No one of us is not one of us must ship his phone next to his bed
We should charge phones in the living room
The right to remove the temptation that you will wake up in the middle of the night because you can not sleep, but you will not check your phone
Which makes it even worse, but if it is in the living room?
I have softened it, but the phone is the alarm clock. Then to buy an alarm clock
It costs $ 8
I’ll buy you the alarm clock
But the point is the point is that we are now in the industry
Whether we like it or not. We did not get to choose for
We now have a responsibility to make up the shortfall and help these idealists people’s fascinating
Fantastic generation build their learning patience to learn social skills
Find a better balance between life and technology because it frankly this is the right thing to do
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