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nothing wrong with goals and falling in
love with them that’s the problem it’s
not being able to be flexible and be all
to them something I really believe that
you are the sum total of all of the
choices that you’ve made up until now
and anything about yourself or your life
that you don’t like or it isn’t working
or is mobilizing you is to be looked at
in terms of can I grow rather than why
did I do it or hasn’t this wrong see the
two ways to motivate yourself our
deficiency motivation which says where I
am I don’t like I don’t like what I’ve
done I don’t like the fact that I can’t
do this well or I can’t do that well so
I will list these things in my own
repertoire and then I will be constantly
trying to repair those deficiencies
always assuming that I’m deficient that
there’s something wrong with me and I’m
trying to fix it and when you do that
you spend your whole life doing that and
you never arrive because your life
becomes a series of trying to get
someplace else and it is if you follow
that if you live that if you behave that
then what happens to you is you become a
person who will always suffer from this
disease called more
you always have to have more because
whenever you are getting where you want
to go let’s say you want $100,000 in the
bank and you work and you struggle and
you deny yourself and you do all of
those things and you finally finally you
get there and here you are you got
$100,000 in the bank all of this stuff
will be here of course your life and
that is all you know that’s what you
know how to it’s how you are that is
your being that is your way of being so
that when you do get here what you will
do is say this is not enough you must a
No Limit person is never operating from
deficiency or from lack in their life
they’re never saying I don’t have enough
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you see you’re never going to get enough
you already are everything you’re
everything that you need think of it for
just a moment everything that you need
to have total bliss perfection of your
life you already are you already have it
you came into this world with nothing
that’s how you’re going out and the time
that you have here it’s what you have is
your uniqueness your specialness and you
don’t need anything else now think on
this if you don’t know how to appreciate
what you have and where you are in your
life you don’t need anything because if
you do get something else you won’t know
how to appreciate that either you’ll
just want more or you’ll want it to be
different or you want it to be the way
it used to be or you’ll want someone
else to be the way you think they should
be successful people are no limit people
are self actualizing people or
inner-directed people however you
whatever labels that have been put on
them by great thinkers and philosophers
and therapists and people that have
looked at human beings these kinds of
people are people who always have enough
there are some people if you invite them
over and you say you know I’d like you
to I like you to come over tonight and
I’d like you to stay over if you can
instead of having to drive back and
you’ll say why can you say can you stay
and say well I don’t know if I can stay
or not
well you could sleep on the cot oh no no
I could never sleep on the cot
and if I can’t sleep on cots I got a
sciatica doesn’t heaven I have back pain
and only I got some cots no that’s out
of the question I couldn’t sleep on a
cot and what about breakfast well we
don’t have any food but we have some old
grape fruit that are in the in the
refrigerator there are a few spots on
and off no I could never eat grapefruit
spots no thanks I can any grapefruit
spots I just couldn’t do that and these
are people who never have enough they
are are not able to be flexible into
change and there are other people if you
say would you like to sleep over we got
a place in the sewer hey that’d be great
I can handle that
no problem I’ve slept there before and
all we have is great for all I love
grapefruit well we got biscuits bottom
oh I really like grapefruit spot those
are terrific I’ll go for those there are
some people who can handle anything not
because their circumstances are
different you see your circumstances
have very little to do with your
fulfillment in life
very little it’s it’s how you’re
approaching your circumstances it’s your
attitude towards your circumstances that
make all the difference in the world and
taking what you are and accepting it I
got to show you this I don’t know if the
camera can get this
this is a little advertisement that was
in the Detroit Free Press for I last
September I was giving a speech at the
Unity Church of today in Detroit and it
says dr. Wayne Dyer will talk about your
inner child and how to deal effectively
with problems in all relationships and
it was a real nice ad you didn’t see
that then on top of the ad in the same
paper there’s another ad and the ad says
face it right on top of my ad
there’s no hiding from hair loss they
got a picture of a guy well the box over
again and they have a before and after
guy there and the after guy looked like
he’s just found fulfillment and it says
you can’t run and you can’t hide hair
loss is a problem and unless you take
action it will continue now we’ve got to
look at this in terms of what I can do
with this and how I can handle this see
my daughter helped me with being bald a
long time ago she said dad you’re not
really bald don’t think of yourself that
way she said you’re just about this much
taller than your hair that’s all
it’s sort of a nice way to look at it so
I just sort of outgrew my hair sort of
transcended my hair if you will all
right no limit people are human being
who take what they are and accept it and
don’t tell themselves that somehow
they’re deficient because of anything
about themselves this is a very crucial
concept for for me and for virtually all
of us it’s this idea of taking your life
in your own hands and being the kind of
person that you choose to be and
understanding that everything that comes
your way is an opportunity is a blessing
and it wasn’t until I learned how to
celebrate virtually everything that came
my way that I was able to transcend it
you see everything that was given to us
by God whatever that is it’s perfect no
one can deny the mountains are perfect
and the rivers are perfect and the birds
are perfect and the hippopotamuses are
perfect and and so on this is just what
was given to it everything else that you
have on our planet that we have on our
planet comes about as a result of
thinking thinking thought makes itself
all right
this microphone comes about as a result
of thinking somebody imagines that
somebody then tell somebody else looks
and it creates that the dress that
you’re wearing the shirt that I’m shoes
that you have the stage these cameras
everything that you see that wasn’t
given to us was created by man as a
result of the way that we think the way
that
so what gets inside of us as a cell
comes about as a result of the way that
we choose to think in our lives very
important principle to understand
because once you get a hold of thinking
and that it creates everything that you
have in your life you can change and
make it is absolutely perfect as you
want it to be because thought makes it
so creative visualization is what we’re
talking about here you the imagery or
the image that you have of anything in
your life is really like mental behavior
it’s like going on in practicing if you
go on practice with a basketball
shooting free throws over and over again
that’s physical practice imagery is
mental practice as a mental behavior
when you have an image that you can
succeed at something when you have an
image that you can do it rather than
that you can’t do it when you get into
your car and you have an image that
you’re going to find a parking place
rather than that there’ll be no place to
park so you’re not looking for no place
to park you will start acting on the
image that you have very much like you
will start acting on the practice that
you have when you’re shooting baskets or
when you’re hitting a forehand or or
working on your soup or anything else
that you’re doing Bucky fuller who I
served with on the Hunger Project
Advisory Council for nine years who died
not too long ago said that 99% of who
you are you can’t touch you can’t see
you can’t smell 99% of youth is
untouchable on smellable invisible it is
what Ken Kaiser is called your your
conscious awareness it’s your it’s what
looks out behind those eyeballs what is
that it isn’t it isn’t cells it’s some
kind of conscious awareness that you are
and make no mistake about it you’ve
occupied a whole lot of bodies already
now this is not reincarnation talk
although I don’t know about this
reincarnation people asked me if I
believe in it I said well
I taught in a junior high school in the
inner city of Detroit for four years and
I saw those dead bodies come to life
every day at 3 o’clock so I believed in
reincarnation 9 now if what you if 99%
of who you are you can’t touch and you
can’t feel and you can’t smell then
where did what is it who is it where are
you what is this thing called your
essence or who you are and where does it
go now think of it you were in a body I
have a little baby girl who’s 11 months
old and she and we were all in a body
that size was only a body about this big
got fingers only this long you know got
that tiny tiny little parts all over the
place I mean she’s only this tall now is
that her is that her essence because I
have other children who are much older
and I am much older than that and I can
remember being free and being in a
different body still me still my essence
they’re different but totally doesn’t
look anything like when I look was 11
months old and then I was 13 and had a
funny body at 13 but still my essence
was there in a whole new body hairs
growing all over the place that I didn’t
understand all kinds of things happening
to it you know
then hairs falling out of it later on
you know looking at those hair that’s
all I would say what held it in
yesterday you know what that’s not I
don’t even understand that okay and so
it’s like Who I am has been in many many
bodies already all right and that Eston
you see everything on our planet that is
alive can never die
can never know life doesn’t stop and the
way of being that is the most
transcendent of all is this way that
comes from seeing yourself as love and
only having that to give away only
having that to give away let’s say I
would have stand up here in front of you
and just visualize for a moment that I
have an orange and I take this orange
when I squeeze it as hard as I can
squeeze okay
what’s going to come out juice what kind
of juice or juice apple juice any chance
once in a while come on now and then
little mango juice come out of an orange
one so on no mistakes right never no
matter what
next question everybody passes these are
easy okay why when you squeeze an orange
as hard as you can squeeze it because
orange juice come out
that’s not because it’s a noise because
that’s what’s inside isn’t it on our
planet when you squeeze something what
comes out of it is what’s inside not too
difficult all right
does it matter if your mother squeezes
the orange doesn’t matter what
instruments you use does it matter if
you just had your period and then you
squeeze the noise doesn’t matter if your
boss squeezes it how about if your kids
do it your kids squeezing on does it
matter doesn’t matter what time of day
suppose they do it it knew all right how
about it 4:00 in the morning does that
matter
whenever you squeeze an orange the only
thing you get out is what dinner right
no arguments same thing works for you
same principle works for you it’s a
principle of the universe all right
someone squeezes you that is someone
puts pressure on you someone says things
about you that you don’t like someone
puts tension on you whatever your boss
says something to you that you don’t and
out of you comes anger and out of you
comes hatred and out of you comes fear
or out of you comes stress or out of you
comes tension why is it because of your
boss the way they squeeze never
is it because of your mother I mean she
really can be a pain sometimes right is
it because of your children what comes
out of you always when someone squeezes
you is what’s inside this is the vital
principle of being a No Limit person
it’s so crucial to get this and
understand that that if you have any
hatred in your heart for anyone in this
world or any anger or any fear any of
those things it has nothing to do with
the rest of the world it only has to
with what you put inside now how does
what gets inside of you get there that’s
the key how does it get there as you
think only as you think you see there’s
no anger in the world there’s no stress
in the world there’s no tension it’s
perfect we’ve already spelt it’s perfect
place it works just fine it’s all
flowing the way it’s supposed to flow
the evidence for it is it is that’s all
the evidence you need just look around
you everything out there is a miracle
everything including you there are no
mistakes it’s all perfect and everything
that happens to you in your life whether
it’s a trauma whether it’s a disease
whether it’s somebody treating you in a
certain way there’s a lesson in all of
it no-limit people understand the lesson
in life and therefore celebrate the
lessons it’s true and when you get to
that point in your life where you’re not
cursing the things that come your way
and blaming the things that come your
way and particularly blaming it on
somebody else and you hear it all the
time she hurt my feelings how’s that
possible how can anybody hurt your
feelings your feelings come from your
thoughts no one can hurt your feelings
without your consent no one can make a
fool of you without your consent
no one can embarrass you without your
consent these are choices that you have
that comes from the way that you think
someone calls you a name a stupid did
you turn around
I didn’t even tell anybody I was coming
how did they know that all right and
then you blame the person who called you
a name instead of saying that’s just
their opinion that’s just where they are
that’s where they are on the path and
it’s okay all of you in relationships
right everybody has a relationship of
some kind or another in your
relationship have any problems and if
you have relationship you don’t have any
problems I’d like you to take this
microphone I want to sit down and listen
to you everybody in a relationship has
problems don’t they
now when you say I’m in a relationship I
got problems
therefore something wrong
something’s really wrong now if you’re
in a relationship and you have problems
and something is wrong you got to call
in a consultant right you got to call in
somebody to help you with the problems
you want the problems to go on who you
going to call it you only got yourself
it’s all you got you might get a
therapist once in a while but they got
worse problems than you did the only
consultant who can help you with your
problems is you and who is that
consultant that you’re calling in we’ve
already established that there’s
something wrong with that person right
some wrong so now you’re going to call
in a disabled person to deal with your
problems in your relationship right now
this is a really sick approach to curing
your problem you got somebody that we
got a problem you know talk to you you
came home wait last week and this week I
called you and you didn’t call and I was
supposed to call you and then you didn’t
do it how could you do that now this is
the consultant you’re calling scuse me
you committed help but oh no no you’re
not good moment good that’s the person
you got to deal with your problem all
right now what you can do is you can
change all of that around you can say
I’m in a relationship we got problems
but nothing wrong with that that’s the
way things are you know my problem is
that you are different than I am and you
think differently than I do and you
behave differently than I do
and you smell different than I do and
you have all of these attitudes over
here that I don’t have nothing wrong
with that that’s the way it is when two
people get together in a relationship
you don’t have two people becoming one
if you do that then what you end up with
there to have persons who wants a half a
person in a relationship you always are
single even if you’re married and four
you know and involved in relationship
you’re still always single you’re still
always you your unique special perfect
self that is not trying to love
but who is love who lives love who is
being loved the same as if you pray to
God and say God will you please help me
with my problems and want God to do it
for you
never have you’ve got to be God not be
afraid to carry God around inside if you
want to get healed you have got to
understand that you’re not going to get
healed if you are asking someone else to
heal you and ask any doctor if you know
any surge in particular he was taking
somebody into surgery and ask them which
person has a better chance of living of
surviving a serious surgery is that the
one who has a will to live or so the one
who’s just given up and the surgery and
the cases are exactly the same line but
the person who has that will which we
can’t define you can’t go out and get a
bucket full of will and bring it in
there it’s an attitude it’s an approach
it’s a belief right that you can do
something and when you have that belief
about yourself then you know you’ve got
so much better opportunity to be well in
your life and a belief is everything I
don’t know if you’ve ever thought of
that I watched a little girl five years
old learning how to swim and she holding
on to the edge of the pool and she wants
to get over here to the steps and it’s
just five feet or six feet and she’ll
let go in until hold on again so let go
and she’ll hold on again and finally
there comes a time when she lets go and
go for it
okay you’ve all seen you seamless with
your children you’ve seen and what you
ask yourself is in the moment before
that when she was holding on and then
look at the moment afterwards does she
have any different skills what’s changed
and the skills are missing every new
skills either learning skills in that
second what she had is a belief that she
can do it when you believe it when you
really just believe that you can do it
that’s what allows you to swim and when
you think about it now do you not a swim
so will you dive into the water you
don’t think about that you just know
when you dive into the water you can
swim you don’t have any necessary
swimming skills or anything like that or
when you get on a bicycle you get on you
know that you’re going to unless you
believe you can’t because you’ve never
gone out there
tried it and worked on it I told the
story of a patient of yours who had that
very problem who said she didn’t know
how to ride a bicycle
yeah Gayle who came to me many years ago
and you know why she said she couldn’t
ride a bicycle because her mother
wouldn’t let her get on one cop out yeah
absolutely and she had these beautiful
big white teeth and her mother had
always told her you could fall and break
your teeth and I wouldn’t want that to
happen to you so here she was now in her
30s and telling me that she couldn’t
ride a bike and she was in therapy and I
said to her okay let’s go
she said go where we going I said well
I’ve got a bicycle downstairs and I’m
going to show you how to ride a bike I’m
going to have you teach yourself how to
do this she said look I didn’t come here
to pay you the kind of money that I’m
paying you to have you teach me how to
ride a bicycle I came here to find out
why I can’t I thought well you’re going
to need another 30 seconds of therapy
easy okay the reason you can just
because you never got yourself on a
bicycle and until you do you never will
know how and you just believe that you
can’t oh that’s the end of that there’s
no more to talk about that now what we
have to do is get you to get out and we
went downstairs and it was a woman’s
bike and I’ve helped a lot of people to
teach themselves how to ride a bike and
what you do when you teach you help
someone to teach themselves how to ride
a bike if you don’t teach anybody how to
ride a bike okay is your let them do it
all themselves you let them hold it let
them balance it let them move with it
you let them put the pedal down and move
it themselves you stand back you know
when you’re ready you know and then
you’re moving and you hold on for a
second then you put your foot back down
and you you practice it and practice and
practice that all yourself you know it
was just someone encouraging you and
before long in just a matter of minutes
when I tell you it was minute and this
woman had never been on a bicycle before
she rode like two blocks my bicycles
couldn’t believe it
she now had a belief being to me means
seeing the greatness and the uniqueness
in you and never letting anybody else
convince you to the
when people ask me come on you’re always
talking about being up and you’re always
positive and so on you mean to tell me
that you’re always that way this is I
say yeah yeah I really am and it isn’t
because I’m out there doing something in
an artificial way it’s an authentic
response to my heaven having gotten the
junk out of me and the junk is the way
that I used to think the way that I used
to think think for a moment if you can
visualize right here a clock big clock
and the hands on the clock go from 1 to
12 the clock starts right out here with
the minute hand and it goes over towards
the 3 hour hand minute handle and that’s
the time in your life when you are
moving away from yourself it yourself
that’s the time when you are trying to
put other people down trying to prove
that you’re bigger and better than
somebody else trying to make yourself
right all the time as opposed to being
with somebody else it’s like you’re
moving away and a lot of people spend a
lot of time moving away from their true
self but your true self is this little
child this beautiful little child inside
of you
that has only love and acceptance for
everything in the world and no disease
no absence of these you move away
towards the three and then you move down
here this way and you’re still moving
away from yourself until you hit the six
the six is the point in your life
symbolically metaphorically here when
you are the furthest away from yourself
that you can be at the low point in your
life it’s the point where many people
break down or many people break down
their relationships or they they feel
full of despair they feel full of hatred
whatever it may be and a lot of people
die then a lot of people are put into
hospitals then a lot of people have to
really seek out therapy then and so on
and when you’re at that thing there’s
another part of the clock that goes from
six to twelve that I think of as living
in the light and this is when and see
this clock hand never can go back it
can’t go back it can only go this way it
only goes this way as does life it only
goes this way forward in this period is
placed between six and twelve that’s
when you start coming back to yourselves
that’s when that’s what enlightenment is
that’s what that’s the pathway to
enlightenment when you send out that
stuff that is destroying you killing you
in one way or another and you move
yourself back over here and eventually
you get yourself all the way back this
is the light over here this is the place
where you can’t go back
you be tempted you might be tempted to
steal it might be tempted to to to use
angry might even slip a little bit and
you catch yourself I can say just not
too long ago it was we got a problem
with our sprinkler at in my home one of
the sprinkler heads is off and if you
ever seen that happened you get a gusher
going up there and I didn’t wanted to
get that thing replaced for the longest
time I’m walking out of the bank and
there’s a sprinkler head right there and
far the bank now I practically own this
bankers it’s okay so I go there every
day and I do a lot of business with his
bank and I’m looking at the sprinkler
head and I think you know all I have to
do is just unscrew this thing I wasn’t
honoring the ball replace it tomorrow
morning it’s 98 cents or whatever so I
actually get down there and I listen I
start turning the sprinkler and then I
start thinking do I want this karma to
you know do I want do I want to steal do
I want to take I know it’s only a 90
night and I went into the bank they
probably give me one anyway if I have
and I turn and I just turned it back and
I said if I want a sprinkler head I’ll
go and buy one for myself this doesn’t
belong to me it was just like a
split-second of weakness there or
whatever was but it Illustrated me I
can’t go back there I could never and
there was a time in my life when I could
have done that I can be absolutely Frank
with that I could do that I can’t go
back there anymore
that’s where you’re stuck that’s the
place to fix because when you get all of
that out when that’s all gone and I mean
gone and it only comes about as a result
of the way that you think so it’s just
changing around your approach to light
the way that you think in life when that
starts to go away what you become filled
up with is what your natural self is
which is this loving accepting not
fighting the universe but instead living
in it
and going with the flow and all of the
kinds of cliches that you’ve heard a
thousand times it is that’s the metaphor
there and you see every time you try to
go back can’t do it you can’t do it and
the ingredients that make for a No Limit
life are five in my opinion the first is
quality rather than appearances you
begin to change your thinking from
appearances and how things look and how
other people view me okay because every
time you find yourself upset in life
about anything that anyone else has said
what you’re really saying is what you
think of me is more important than what
I think of me so you change from
appearances to what I call quality
thinking quality what is the quality of
my life rather than how does it appear
to others now do you tell yourself that
because my friends don’t like me that
that means there’s something wrong with
me now that’s see that’s what you have
to learn that another person’s opinion
is just that it’s their opinion and
that’s all it is every time you are
upset or your children are upset because
of what somebody else says about them
including their peers what you are
really saying in that moment and this is
really important what you’re saying is
what you think of me is more important
than what I think of myself and you must
never give anybody that kind of power
and control over you because they will
always have it the funny part about
approval for those of you who really
want it and really now I’m here to tell
you that I like approval I enjoy it I
find it one of the most exciting things
in the way I like it when people read my
books I love it when people applaud I
like it when people tell me nice things
and all I like approval I’m the first
one to admit it what I don’t do is I
don’t need approval
there’s a big difference between wanting
approval and needing approval when you
need approval
it means you become immobilized when you
don’t get it from making other people’s
opinions more important now for those of
you who say yeah but I want approval and
I need and if I don’t get it so under
understand this the people who get the
most approval in life are the ones who
care the least about it and the ones who
get the least approval are the ones who
are always going after it so if you want
approval in this paradoxical way that
I’m talking about it stop leading it
stop concerning yourself ask yourself
who gets the most approval in life think
of the person that gets the most
approval and you’ll see that that person
couldn’t care less what other people are
thinking they’re so busy being they
don’t have time to notice their
neighborhood the roads that this be said
if you advance constantly in the
direction of your own dreams
and endeavor to live the life which you
have imagined you will meet with a
success unexpected in common hours
what that means is that success is not
something that you can get in life
success is an inner process success is
something that you bring to everything
you do in your life it isn’t something
you get out of what you do and when you
get that and you learn how to get the
junk out and advance confidently doing
what makes the most amount of sense to
you based on your inner signals and the
one issue of morality which is you never
interfere with anybody else’s right to
do the same each person has their own
right to advance confidently in the
direction of their own dreams and when
you violate that you’re violating the
principle of the universe the essence of
the universe which is cooperation and
harmony then success will begin to chase
you and it will come into your life and
arrive in your life in amounts that you
never dreamt of before that you never
dreamt up things will start happening to
you that you would never imagine before
I’m working on a book right now that’s
going to be called you’ll see it when
you believe it when you start believing
in some of these principles you’ll start
seeing things that we were blind to for
so long when you were back here in the 2
and the 3 and the 4 and the 5 when you
were moving away from yourself as long
as you’re moving back towards your
Universal essence your harmony with
yourself your cooperation with the rest
things start happening in ways that you
never
you called it synchronicity and we have
a term that we use to explain how
unexplainable coincidence has sort of
happened in our life and how come these
things never share a couple of those
with you before we leave the the quality
versus appearance in your life means
that you get that inner candle flame
working in a way that gives you quality
independent of what other people think
of you Maslow in defining self
actualizing no limit people said they
are independent of the good opinion of
other people of the good opinion of it
independent of it they’re so busy
advancing confidently doing the things
that make sense and bringing success to
changing their baby diapers and bringing
success to weeding their gardens and
bringing it to the job they bring it on
the airplane so that when they run into
somebody who is who is rude to them a
stewardess that is rude they don’t see
it as an attack on them it’s just where
they are and they send them love help
them a little bit you know they’re kind
but somebody wants to get in on the
freeway and their one old temptation
when they were on the one to the sixth
was to say oh yeah nobody’s getting in
front of me I’m getting there first like
it slow down they don’t have all that
type a stuff of having to beat somebody
else and having to defeat somebody it is
the new way of being it’s a way of
quality where you’re harmony allows you
to cooperate and you are a part of what
this whole thing is about new way of
being quality rather than appearances
another new way of being very important
living your life on ethics rather than
rules ethics rather than rules all these
rules all these ways of having to do
things somebody else dictates to them do
you know that some of the most immoral
acts in the world have been perpetrated
in the name of the rules these are the
laws what do you think Nazi Germany was
all about everybody doing all these
horrible things to other people I’m only
doing my job was the defense
we all heard at Nuremberg I was just
doing my job if it’s an immoral rule
it’s immoral to obey it and
self-actualizing people as mezzo tells
us have rules inside of them that they
could never open never disobey ever and
they have to do with ethics how you
treat people how do you think we get to
where we are now you know who Rosa Parks
was the woman in the South the black
woman in the South who said not today
I’m not going to the back today no way I
know what the rules are the rules were
all over the place if you didn’t need if
you needed a reminder there were signs
everyplace colored in the back white in
the front and she said no I’m sitting
here and that made all the difference
ethics not rules when your children
start disobeying rules that need to be
disobeyed don’t be surprised when I was
in the service
they had a policy on Guam where I was
stationed which would not allow the
Guamanian civilians to shop in the PX we
may be engaged but they did allow all
other civilians to shop in the Navy
exchanges and vehicles but if you were
Guamanian that is if your skin was dark
and your eyes were shaped a little
different then you couldn’t a clear
outright violation I was a serviceman I
was in the Navy the communications
cryptographer they had a newspaper on
the Guam Daily News and it said an
invitation to speak your mind there was
a letter writing contest and they
offered $75 to the first prize winner
$75 this was 1961 that was a fortune to
me that was a month’s pay in the Navy at
that time almost so I entered the
contest and I knew I would win it I had
already written a novel at that time a
whole novel I’d written while I was on
Guam I knew it wasn’t going to be a
contest I felt sorry for the other
people entering it I knew I was going to
win unfortunately I didn’t realize that
when you’re in the service and you have
an opinion and you don’t submit it to
the chain of command that you can be
court-martialed for that
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so the headlines on next week’s Guam
Daily News were us sailor a sales policy
of discrimination big hot stuff all
right
and I was called before a Vice Admiral
commander naval forces Marianas Islands
and threatened with a court-martial
because I had disobeyed the rules even
though the rule was immoral there are
lots of them like that and when I went
in and they threatened me with the
court-martial I told them this was my
battle plan I didn’t have Xerox machines
in those days so I had to get a lot of
carbon paper I wrote a letter to the
President John F Kennedy and I wrote a
letter to the Secretary of the Navy and
I wrote a letter I was my hometown was
Detroit I wrote a letter to the Detroit
News and a letter to the Detroit Free
Press telling them what was happening to
me as a result of just expressing my
opinion about an immoral act that was
going on over here on Guam and I showed
the Naval a Vice Admiral my letters
right there I said I’ve only sent the
one to the president in the Secretary of
the Navy
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these letters go to the newspapers
across the country there was one there
to the New York Times as well and the
Los Angeles Times it was the and I just
spread them out before him I said if you
court-martial me punish me in any way
for this then what’s going to happen is
the world is going to find out about
this policy and I’m prepared I’m ready I
can handle it and I was 20 years old I’m
21 not only did I get a blessing from
that because all things come in
blessings for you I got out 90 days
early and they stamped on my record P I
because the president took it up and
sent it to the secretary Muslim and I
never heard from him when I get P I on
your record means political influence
and they don’t like anybody with
political influence on the bottom and as
soon as they saw that they said this is
somebody we probably will be giving a
discharge real soon
there was no book there was no
court-martial and in September of 1962 a
brand new policy was initiated on Guam
which allowed any civilian to shop in
the Navy exchanges and it came about as
a result of someone saying these rules
are immoral and therefore it’s immoral
to obey them new ways of being ethics
rather than rules and when your kids
want to know why how come these rules
are so stupid how come we have to do
that encourage them to change
my mother always did that she would have
to help me get out of the out of the
messes that I got myself into because I
did it in my impetuous youth I would
just when they would say to me what’s
more important your job or school I was
just honest
patek top of course that’s how I felt in
those days but what you do put out in
the world is exactly what’s coming back
to you and if you find things coming
back to you that you don’t like and
don’t understand don’t ask yourself why
these things are coming to you ask
yourself what you’re doing to make sense
when you start putting the
responsibility on yourself and person a
traumatic changes dramatic changes new
way of being
instead of ethic instead of rules ethics
a new another new way of being instead
of looking all your life
for achievements and externals try
living your life on knowledge for the
sake of knowledge knowledge instead of
achievement for the sake of knowledge
being in a in a context in which you
don’t have to collect a lot of merit
badges you don’t have to collect a lot
of a lot of awards and other people’s
value judgments that you go to school or
you go out into the world or you read or
whatever it is you do because it makes
sense to you not because of what
somebody else is going to put on a
transcript or where you’re going to
appear in a class list we need to help
our children to understand and value the
importance of knowledge for the sake of
knowledge and doing things that make
sense rather than taking the easy way
knowledge rather than always trying to
achieve we’re in an achievement oriented
society which tells us that we evaluate
and judge a human being based upon how
many cheese achievements he has but most
of the people who get caught up in that
trap and are always in this circle of
trying to get ahead trying to always get
ahead their reward for that almost
always as higher blood pressure ulcers
early deaths and even things like cancer
we’re beginning to find out are related
to
the kinds of stresses that we have and
remember it’s a perfect universe there’s
no stress in it there’s only people
thinking stressful thoughts
and when you put that pressure on
yourself to always achieve and get it
into the other guy you miss what it’s
really all about another new way of
being for me is to think of yourself in
terms of personal authority rather than
being an authoritarian personal
Authority a person who has authority
never needs to dominate anyone else ever
dominating doesn’t become necessary in
business you can have a Thor that people
have the most authority are the ones who
listen the most and the ones who are the
most conscientious about what do other
people have to say a person in a
relationship who have to dominate
somebody else and has to make the other
person submissive shows that they don’t
have authority because they’re getting
their power not from within for
themselves but on the basis of who they
can control and that never laughs that
never moved the only thing that lasts is
having inner power if you will know
thyself so Shakespeare said know thyself
the more you know yourself the more you
the more you become honest with yourself
honestly becomes just a way of life and
no I don’t think the world necessarily
does but you can’t run your world you
can’t run your world based upon what the
rest of the people in the world want or
don’t want to me honesty is like
karma that goes out into the world how
people free you in the world is there
kind of how you react is yours and what
when you react to it with dishonesty
that’s what you’re putting out into the
world dishonesty and when you put this
out honestly out into the world that’s
what’s going to come back to you because
what goes out is what comes back that
all as you sow so shall you reap I mean
it’s in every great institution that
there is in the world whether it’s a
religion or a philosophy or whatever
what you put out is what comes back
whatever you plant is what you’re going
to get that and the more that you put
out honesty just because it’s what you
are because you are being honesty you’re
not trying to be honest you’re just
being honesty then that’s what will come
back to you on a regular basis and what
it doesn’t you’ll just see that as
another test for you to pass and finally
a fifth way of being that is new for me
and because become a way of life
it’s called serenity instead of
acquisitions the more you try to acquire
the more you try to get the more you try
to collect in your life and evaluate
yourself on the basis of that the less
serenity you’re going to have
more is less it’s almost a secret of the
universe
serenity means inner peace means that
you can find joy in every moment that
you have in your life instead of like
always looking for it it means that
while you are driving along the
countryside you know and seeing instead
of saying are but this is I’m on my way
to this point that you can open your
eyes and see it with new eyes so you see
the rolling mountains see the grass see
the deer see the sky see you can just
stop wherever you are in this second
wherever you are and just look around
you and you can begin to appreciate just
your and your surroundings in your
environment then you can begin to
appreciate the people that are in your
life and even the ones that are negative
and you’re having to the most difficulty
with you can practice a new way of being
with them which is sending them love
sending them flowers send them books and
imitate send them something and just see
what kind of reaction that you get super
emotional health it’s just an attitude
an attitude is everything
I want to love summarize these new ways
of being and again give you the most
important ingredient on the path as we
leave I said that it’s quality in your
life to be focusing on rather than
appearances and it
rules and its knowledge rather than
achievement all that group and is being
personally an authority on yourself
rather than the authoritarian and trying
to be dominant dominating someone else
or to be dominated and serenity which is
the name of my little girl my youngest
daughter Sarina rather than acquisitions
and accumulations and trying to prove
your son that way when you get that
serenity which comes from the way that
you think always then you will replace
all of the other junk that keeps you
back here between 6 and 1 on that clock
and once you’re ten once you get patent
you’ll never ever be able to go back
because light living in the light is a
way of a way of being that if you’re not
there you don’t get it yet but once you
see it and once it begins to and take
over your life you can never go back
that that is your purpose it isn’t your
purpose isn’t to try to be loving your
purpose is to be loved and only have
that to give away well but there’s one
other ingredient and it’s really crucial
forgiveness is the vital ingredient on
the path of enlightenment and if you
don’t know how to do it and practice
sending out love take the person or the
people that you’re having conflict with
any place in your life send them
something you don’t have to even do it
physically just send them something that
comes from inside and what’s inside is
how you choose to think and if you can
make that love and do that and that is
to me the test not whether you can love
someone when they smell good when they
do everything that you’re supposed but
whether you can love someone who has
sent you hate or anguish in your life
and send it back you don’t have to
forget you don’t have to go back but you
got to get it out of you because it just
blocking you and
you back and when I said you’ll see it
when you believe it
all my life I’ve wanted to write fiction
a parable three four years ago I decided
to go off to Hawaii to Maui to kind of
poly beach and to write now the books
that had met the most difference in my
life were the little prince Candide
Siddhartha Jonathan Livingston Seagull
illusions Alice Through the Looking
Glass Gulliver’s Travels terrible’s
teaching parables stories that can tell
a message I went over to Molly and I sat
down on the beach and I’ve been talking
about writing this I’ve been talking
about doing this and it was something
that I have a little girl and her name
is Skye SK ye
I decided to reverse the letters in her
name ey K s and put an eye in there
which symbolizes the self I kiss and I
just created this parable of a woman
whose name as I guess who lives on
another planet the planet is Uranus and
it’s a duplicate mirror image of Earth
only I kiss can only see things as they
are not as we would like them to be and
therefore people are neurotic on Uranus
because they have to be she gives the
anxiety attack report if you will
because anxiety really does attack over
there and tell us about anxiety coming
in on the weekends and so on well my
visitor in my parable goes to Uranus
meet psychic she cannot understand as he
describes earth why people would be
neurotic by choice on earth why would
anybody be unhappy or depressed or
miserable when they don’t have when
anxiety doesn’t attack and when
elevators really don’t scare you and
when if you want a complex on Uranus you
want to give a complex to your wife you
go to the store and buy one it’s what
happened well my husband gave me a
complex
on its – alright on earth if you have a
complex it’s because you’ve chosen to
have once you can’t figure it out okay
but she comes here observes our people
and begins to see the secrets of the
universe and gives us these secrets
talks to the top leaders in our field
and that was my parable when I wrote it
it gives all of these wonderful secrets
some of which I’ve been talking about
here today but what I want to tell you
is that my wife gave me a license plate
and the license plate says I kiss okay
it’s a vanity plate and I was pumping
gas on federal highway in Fort
Lauderdale Florida and a little man from
Greece came up to me and he said but
means this ftas which is how you say
that in Greek I said well that’s just a
word it’s my daughter’s name spelled
backwards it’s a parable that I wrote he
said no he said in Greek that’s
so what could that be he said it means
best wishes for all you’ll see it when
you believe the great big peroneus on
the cosmic erroneous on that you get
this when you’ll have it and understand
it all there is no way to happen
happiness is the way
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you
nothing wrong with goals and falling in
love with them that’s the problem it’s
not being able to be flexible and be all
to them something I really believe that
you are the sum total of all of the
choices that you’ve made up until now
and anything about yourself or your life
that you don’t like or it isn’t working
or is mobilizing you is to be looked at
in terms of can I grow rather than why
did I do it or hasn’t this wrong see the
two ways to motivate yourself our
deficiency motivation which says where I
am I don’t like I don’t like what I’ve
done I don’t like the fact that I can’t
do this well or I can’t do that well so
I will list these things in my own
repertoire and then I will be constantly
trying to repair those deficiencies
always assuming that I’m deficient that
there’s something wrong with me and I’m
trying to fix it and when you do that
you spend your whole life doing that and
you never arrive because your life
becomes a series of trying to get
someplace else and it is if you follow
that if you live that if you behave that
then what happens to you is you become a
person who will always suffer from this
disease called more
you always have to have more because
whenever you are getting where you want
to go let’s say you want $100,000 in the
bank and you work and you struggle and
you deny yourself and you do all of
those things and you finally finally you
get there and here you are you got
$100,000 in the bank all of this stuff
will be here of course your life and
that is all you know that’s what you
know how to it’s how you are that is
your being that is your way of being so
that when you do get here what you will
do is say this is not enough you must a
No Limit person is never operating from
deficiency or from lack in their life
they’re never saying I don’t have enough
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you see you’re never going to get enough
you already are everything you’re
everything that you need think of it for
just a moment everything that you need
to have total bliss perfection of your
life you already are you already have it
you came into this world with nothing
that’s how you’re going out and the time
that you have here it’s what you have is
your uniqueness your specialness and you
don’t need anything else now think on
this if you don’t know how to appreciate
what you have and where you are in your
life you don’t need anything because if
you do get something else you won’t know
how to appreciate that either you’ll
just want more or you’ll want it to be
different or you want it to be the way
it used to be or you’ll want someone
else to be the way you think they should
be successful people are no limit people
are self actualizing people or
inner-directed people however you
whatever labels that have been put on
them by great thinkers and philosophers
and therapists and people that have
looked at human beings these kinds of
people are people who always have enough
there are some people if you invite them
over and you say you know I’d like you
to I like you to come over tonight and
I’d like you to stay over if you can
instead of having to drive back and
you’ll say why can you say can you stay
and say well I don’t know if I can stay
or not
well you could sleep on the cot oh no no
I could never sleep on the cot
and if I can’t sleep on cots I got a
sciatica doesn’t heaven I have back pain
and only I got some cots no that’s out
of the question I couldn’t sleep on a
cot and what about breakfast well we
don’t have any food but we have some old
grape fruit that are in the in the
refrigerator there are a few spots on
and off no I could never eat grapefruit
spots no thanks I can any grapefruit
spots I just couldn’t do that and these
are people who never have enough they
are are not able to be flexible into
change and there are other people if you
say would you like to sleep over we got
a place in the sewer hey that’d be great
I can handle that
no problem I’ve slept there before and
all we have is great for all I love
grapefruit well we got biscuits bottom
oh I really like grapefruit spot those
are terrific I’ll go for those there are
some people who can handle anything not
because their circumstances are
different you see your circumstances
have very little to do with your
fulfillment in life
very little it’s it’s how you’re
approaching your circumstances it’s your
attitude towards your circumstances that
make all the difference in the world and
taking what you are and accepting it I
got to show you this I don’t know if the
camera can get this
this is a little advertisement that was
in the Detroit Free Press for I last
September I was giving a speech at the
Unity Church of today in Detroit and it
says dr. Wayne Dyer will talk about your
inner child and how to deal effectively
with problems in all relationships and
it was a real nice ad you didn’t see
that then on top of the ad in the same
paper there’s another ad and the ad says
face it right on top of my ad
there’s no hiding from hair loss they
got a picture of a guy well the box over
again and they have a before and after
guy there and the after guy looked like
he’s just found fulfillment and it says
you can’t run and you can’t hide hair
loss is a problem and unless you take
action it will continue now we’ve got to
look at this in terms of what I can do
with this and how I can handle this see
my daughter helped me with being bald a
long time ago she said dad you’re not
really bald don’t think of yourself that
way she said you’re just about this much
taller than your hair that’s all
it’s sort of a nice way to look at it so
I just sort of outgrew my hair sort of
transcended my hair if you will all
right no limit people are human being
who take what they are and accept it and
don’t tell themselves that somehow
they’re deficient because of anything
about themselves this is a very crucial
concept for for me and for virtually all
of us it’s this idea of taking your life
in your own hands and being the kind of
person that you choose to be and
understanding that everything that comes
your way is an opportunity is a blessing
and it wasn’t until I learned how to
celebrate virtually everything that came
my way that I was able to transcend it
you see everything that was given to us
by God whatever that is it’s perfect no
one can deny the mountains are perfect
and the rivers are perfect and the birds
are perfect and the hippopotamuses are
perfect and and so on this is just what
was given to it everything else that you
have on our planet that we have on our
planet comes about as a result of
thinking thinking thought makes itself
all right
this microphone comes about as a result
of thinking somebody imagines that
somebody then tell somebody else looks
and it creates that the dress that
you’re wearing the shirt that I’m shoes
that you have the stage these cameras
everything that you see that wasn’t
given to us was created by man as a
result of the way that we think the way
that
so what gets inside of us as a cell
comes about as a result of the way that
we choose to think in our lives very
important principle to understand
because once you get a hold of thinking
and that it creates everything that you
have in your life you can change and
make it is absolutely perfect as you
want it to be because thought makes it
so creative visualization is what we’re
talking about here you the imagery or
the image that you have of anything in
your life is really like mental behavior
it’s like going on in practicing if you
go on practice with a basketball
shooting free throws over and over again
that’s physical practice imagery is
mental practice as a mental behavior
when you have an image that you can
succeed at something when you have an
image that you can do it rather than
that you can’t do it when you get into
your car and you have an image that
you’re going to find a parking place
rather than that there’ll be no place to
park so you’re not looking for no place
to park you will start acting on the
image that you have very much like you
will start acting on the practice that
you have when you’re shooting baskets or
when you’re hitting a forehand or or
working on your soup or anything else
that you’re doing Bucky fuller who I
served with on the Hunger Project
Advisory Council for nine years who died
not too long ago said that 99% of who
you are you can’t touch you can’t see
you can’t smell 99% of youth is
untouchable on smellable invisible it is
what Ken Kaiser is called your your
conscious awareness it’s your it’s what
looks out behind those eyeballs what is
that it isn’t it isn’t cells it’s some
kind of conscious awareness that you are
and make no mistake about it you’ve
occupied a whole lot of bodies already
now this is not reincarnation talk
although I don’t know about this
reincarnation people asked me if I
believe in it I said well
I taught in a junior high school in the
inner city of Detroit for four years and
I saw those dead bodies come to life
every day at 3 o’clock so I believed in
reincarnation 9 now if what you if 99%
of who you are you can’t touch and you
can’t feel and you can’t smell then
where did what is it who is it where are
you what is this thing called your
essence or who you are and where does it
go now think of it you were in a body I
have a little baby girl who’s 11 months
old and she and we were all in a body
that size was only a body about this big
got fingers only this long you know got
that tiny tiny little parts all over the
place I mean she’s only this tall now is
that her is that her essence because I
have other children who are much older
and I am much older than that and I can
remember being free and being in a
different body still me still my essence
they’re different but totally doesn’t
look anything like when I look was 11
months old and then I was 13 and had a
funny body at 13 but still my essence
was there in a whole new body hairs
growing all over the place that I didn’t
understand all kinds of things happening
to it you know
then hairs falling out of it later on
you know looking at those hair that’s
all I would say what held it in
yesterday you know what that’s not I
don’t even understand that okay and so
it’s like Who I am has been in many many
bodies already all right and that Eston
you see everything on our planet that is
alive can never die
can never know life doesn’t stop and the
way of being that is the most
transcendent of all is this way that
comes from seeing yourself as love and
only having that to give away only
having that to give away let’s say I
would have stand up here in front of you
and just visualize for a moment that I
have an orange and I take this orange
when I squeeze it as hard as I can
squeeze okay
what’s going to come out juice what kind
of juice or juice apple juice any chance
once in a while come on now and then
little mango juice come out of an orange
one so on no mistakes right never no
matter what
next question everybody passes these are
easy okay why when you squeeze an orange
as hard as you can squeeze it because
orange juice come out
that’s not because it’s a noise because
that’s what’s inside isn’t it on our
planet when you squeeze something what
comes out of it is what’s inside not too
difficult all right
does it matter if your mother squeezes
the orange doesn’t matter what
instruments you use does it matter if
you just had your period and then you
squeeze the noise doesn’t matter if your
boss squeezes it how about if your kids
do it your kids squeezing on does it
matter doesn’t matter what time of day
suppose they do it it knew all right how
about it 4:00 in the morning does that
matter
whenever you squeeze an orange the only
thing you get out is what dinner right
no arguments same thing works for you
same principle works for you it’s a
principle of the universe all right
someone squeezes you that is someone
puts pressure on you someone says things
about you that you don’t like someone
puts tension on you whatever your boss
says something to you that you don’t and
out of you comes anger and out of you
comes hatred and out of you comes fear
or out of you comes stress or out of you
comes tension why is it because of your
boss the way they squeeze never
is it because of your mother I mean she
really can be a pain sometimes right is
it because of your children what comes
out of you always when someone squeezes
you is what’s inside this is the vital
principle of being a No Limit person
it’s so crucial to get this and
understand that that if you have any
hatred in your heart for anyone in this
world or any anger or any fear any of
those things it has nothing to do with
the rest of the world it only has to
with what you put inside now how does
what gets inside of you get there that’s
the key how does it get there as you
think only as you think you see there’s
no anger in the world there’s no stress
in the world there’s no tension it’s
perfect we’ve already spelt it’s perfect
place it works just fine it’s all
flowing the way it’s supposed to flow
the evidence for it is it is that’s all
the evidence you need just look around
you everything out there is a miracle
everything including you there are no
mistakes it’s all perfect and everything
that happens to you in your life whether
it’s a trauma whether it’s a disease
whether it’s somebody treating you in a
certain way there’s a lesson in all of
it no-limit people understand the lesson
in life and therefore celebrate the
lessons it’s true and when you get to
that point in your life where you’re not
cursing the things that come your way
and blaming the things that come your
way and particularly blaming it on
somebody else and you hear it all the
time she hurt my feelings how’s that
possible how can anybody hurt your
feelings your feelings come from your
thoughts no one can hurt your feelings
without your consent no one can make a
fool of you without your consent
no one can embarrass you without your
consent these are choices that you have
that comes from the way that you think
someone calls you a name a stupid did
you turn around
I didn’t even tell anybody I was coming
how did they know that all right and
then you blame the person who called you
a name instead of saying that’s just
their opinion that’s just where they are
that’s where they are on the path and
it’s okay all of you in relationships
right everybody has a relationship of
some kind or another in your
relationship have any problems and if
you have relationship you don’t have any
problems I’d like you to take this
microphone I want to sit down and listen
to you everybody in a relationship has
problems don’t they
now when you say I’m in a relationship I
got problems
therefore something wrong
something’s really wrong now if you’re
in a relationship and you have problems
and something is wrong you got to call
in a consultant right you got to call in
somebody to help you with the problems
you want the problems to go on who you
going to call it you only got yourself
it’s all you got you might get a
therapist once in a while but they got
worse problems than you did the only
consultant who can help you with your
problems is you and who is that
consultant that you’re calling in we’ve
already established that there’s
something wrong with that person right
some wrong so now you’re going to call
in a disabled person to deal with your
problems in your relationship right now
this is a really sick approach to curing
your problem you got somebody that we
got a problem you know talk to you you
came home wait last week and this week I
called you and you didn’t call and I was
supposed to call you and then you didn’t
do it how could you do that now this is
the consultant you’re calling scuse me
you committed help but oh no no you’re
not good moment good that’s the person
you got to deal with your problem all
right now what you can do is you can
change all of that around you can say
I’m in a relationship we got problems
but nothing wrong with that that’s the
way things are you know my problem is
that you are different than I am and you
think differently than I do and you
behave differently than I do
and you smell different than I do and
you have all of these attitudes over
here that I don’t have nothing wrong
with that that’s the way it is when two
people get together in a relationship
you don’t have two people becoming one
if you do that then what you end up with
there to have persons who wants a half a
person in a relationship you always are
single even if you’re married and four
you know and involved in relationship
you’re still always single you’re still
always you your unique special perfect
self that is not trying to love
but who is love who lives love who is
being loved the same as if you pray to
God and say God will you please help me
with my problems and want God to do it
for you
never have you’ve got to be God not be
afraid to carry God around inside if you
want to get healed you have got to
understand that you’re not going to get
healed if you are asking someone else to
heal you and ask any doctor if you know
any surge in particular he was taking
somebody into surgery and ask them which
person has a better chance of living of
surviving a serious surgery is that the
one who has a will to live or so the one
who’s just given up and the surgery and
the cases are exactly the same line but
the person who has that will which we
can’t define you can’t go out and get a
bucket full of will and bring it in
there it’s an attitude it’s an approach
it’s a belief right that you can do
something and when you have that belief
about yourself then you know you’ve got
so much better opportunity to be well in
your life and a belief is everything I
don’t know if you’ve ever thought of
that I watched a little girl five years
old learning how to swim and she holding
on to the edge of the pool and she wants
to get over here to the steps and it’s
just five feet or six feet and she’ll
let go in until hold on again so let go
and she’ll hold on again and finally
there comes a time when she lets go and
go for it
okay you’ve all seen you seamless with
your children you’ve seen and what you
ask yourself is in the moment before
that when she was holding on and then
look at the moment afterwards does she
have any different skills what’s changed
and the skills are missing every new
skills either learning skills in that
second what she had is a belief that she
can do it when you believe it when you
really just believe that you can do it
that’s what allows you to swim and when
you think about it now do you not a swim
so will you dive into the water you
don’t think about that you just know
when you dive into the water you can
swim you don’t have any necessary
swimming skills or anything like that or
when you get on a bicycle you get on you
know that you’re going to unless you
believe you can’t because you’ve never
gone out there
tried it and worked on it I told the
story of a patient of yours who had that
very problem who said she didn’t know
how to ride a bicycle
yeah Gayle who came to me many years ago
and you know why she said she couldn’t
ride a bicycle because her mother
wouldn’t let her get on one cop out yeah
absolutely and she had these beautiful
big white teeth and her mother had
always told her you could fall and break
your teeth and I wouldn’t want that to
happen to you so here she was now in her
30s and telling me that she couldn’t
ride a bike and she was in therapy and I
said to her okay let’s go
she said go where we going I said well
I’ve got a bicycle downstairs and I’m
going to show you how to ride a bike I’m
going to have you teach yourself how to
do this she said look I didn’t come here
to pay you the kind of money that I’m
paying you to have you teach me how to
ride a bicycle I came here to find out
why I can’t I thought well you’re going
to need another 30 seconds of therapy
easy okay the reason you can just
because you never got yourself on a
bicycle and until you do you never will
know how and you just believe that you
can’t oh that’s the end of that there’s
no more to talk about that now what we
have to do is get you to get out and we
went downstairs and it was a woman’s
bike and I’ve helped a lot of people to
teach themselves how to ride a bike and
what you do when you teach you help
someone to teach themselves how to ride
a bike if you don’t teach anybody how to
ride a bike okay is your let them do it
all themselves you let them hold it let
them balance it let them move with it
you let them put the pedal down and move
it themselves you stand back you know
when you’re ready you know and then
you’re moving and you hold on for a
second then you put your foot back down
and you you practice it and practice and
practice that all yourself you know it
was just someone encouraging you and
before long in just a matter of minutes
when I tell you it was minute and this
woman had never been on a bicycle before
she rode like two blocks my bicycles
couldn’t believe it
she now had a belief being to me means
seeing the greatness and the uniqueness
in you and never letting anybody else
convince you to the
when people ask me come on you’re always
talking about being up and you’re always
positive and so on you mean to tell me
that you’re always that way this is I
say yeah yeah I really am and it isn’t
because I’m out there doing something in
an artificial way it’s an authentic
response to my heaven having gotten the
junk out of me and the junk is the way
that I used to think the way that I used
to think think for a moment if you can
visualize right here a clock big clock
and the hands on the clock go from 1 to
12 the clock starts right out here with
the minute hand and it goes over towards
the 3 hour hand minute handle and that’s
the time in your life when you are
moving away from yourself it yourself
that’s the time when you are trying to
put other people down trying to prove
that you’re bigger and better than
somebody else trying to make yourself
right all the time as opposed to being
with somebody else it’s like you’re
moving away and a lot of people spend a
lot of time moving away from their true
self but your true self is this little
child this beautiful little child inside
of you
that has only love and acceptance for
everything in the world and no disease
no absence of these you move away
towards the three and then you move down
here this way and you’re still moving
away from yourself until you hit the six
the six is the point in your life
symbolically metaphorically here when
you are the furthest away from yourself
that you can be at the low point in your
life it’s the point where many people
break down or many people break down
their relationships or they they feel
full of despair they feel full of hatred
whatever it may be and a lot of people
die then a lot of people are put into
hospitals then a lot of people have to
really seek out therapy then and so on
and when you’re at that thing there’s
another part of the clock that goes from
six to twelve that I think of as living
in the light and this is when and see
this clock hand never can go back it
can’t go back it can only go this way it
only goes this way as does life it only
goes this way forward in this period is
placed between six and twelve that’s
when you start coming back to yourselves
that’s when that’s what enlightenment is
that’s what that’s the pathway to
enlightenment when you send out that
stuff that is destroying you killing you
in one way or another and you move
yourself back over here and eventually
you get yourself all the way back this
is the light over here this is the place
where you can’t go back
you be tempted you might be tempted to
steal it might be tempted to to to use
angry might even slip a little bit and
you catch yourself I can say just not
too long ago it was we got a problem
with our sprinkler at in my home one of
the sprinkler heads is off and if you
ever seen that happened you get a gusher
going up there and I didn’t wanted to
get that thing replaced for the longest
time I’m walking out of the bank and
there’s a sprinkler head right there and
far the bank now I practically own this
bankers it’s okay so I go there every
day and I do a lot of business with his
bank and I’m looking at the sprinkler
head and I think you know all I have to
do is just unscrew this thing I wasn’t
honoring the ball replace it tomorrow
morning it’s 98 cents or whatever so I
actually get down there and I listen I
start turning the sprinkler and then I
start thinking do I want this karma to
you know do I want do I want to steal do
I want to take I know it’s only a 90
night and I went into the bank they
probably give me one anyway if I have
and I turn and I just turned it back and
I said if I want a sprinkler head I’ll
go and buy one for myself this doesn’t
belong to me it was just like a
split-second of weakness there or
whatever was but it Illustrated me I
can’t go back there I could never and
there was a time in my life when I could
have done that I can be absolutely Frank
with that I could do that I can’t go
back there anymore
that’s where you’re stuck that’s the
place to fix because when you get all of
that out when that’s all gone and I mean
gone and it only comes about as a result
of the way that you think so it’s just
changing around your approach to light
the way that you think in life when that
starts to go away what you become filled
up with is what your natural self is
which is this loving accepting not
fighting the universe but instead living
in it
and going with the flow and all of the
kinds of cliches that you’ve heard a
thousand times it is that’s the metaphor
there and you see every time you try to
go back can’t do it you can’t do it and
the ingredients that make for a No Limit
life are five in my opinion the first is
quality rather than appearances you
begin to change your thinking from
appearances and how things look and how
other people view me okay because every
time you find yourself upset in life
about anything that anyone else has said
what you’re really saying is what you
think of me is more important than what
I think of me so you change from
appearances to what I call quality
thinking quality what is the quality of
my life rather than how does it appear
to others now do you tell yourself that
because my friends don’t like me that
that means there’s something wrong with
me now that’s see that’s what you have
to learn that another person’s opinion
is just that it’s their opinion and
that’s all it is every time you are
upset or your children are upset because
of what somebody else says about them
including their peers what you are
really saying in that moment and this is
really important what you’re saying is
what you think of me is more important
than what I think of myself and you must
never give anybody that kind of power
and control over you because they will
always have it the funny part about
approval for those of you who really
want it and really now I’m here to tell
you that I like approval I enjoy it I
find it one of the most exciting things
in the way I like it when people read my
books I love it when people applaud I
like it when people tell me nice things
and all I like approval I’m the first
one to admit it what I don’t do is I
don’t need approval
there’s a big difference between wanting
approval and needing approval when you
need approval
it means you become immobilized when you
don’t get it from making other people’s
opinions more important now for those of
you who say yeah but I want approval and
I need and if I don’t get it so under
understand this the people who get the
most approval in life are the ones who
care the least about it and the ones who
get the least approval are the ones who
are always going after it so if you want
approval in this paradoxical way that
I’m talking about it stop leading it
stop concerning yourself ask yourself
who gets the most approval in life think
of the person that gets the most
approval and you’ll see that that person
couldn’t care less what other people are
thinking they’re so busy being they
don’t have time to notice their
neighborhood the roads that this be said
if you advance constantly in the
direction of your own dreams
and endeavor to live the life which you
have imagined you will meet with a
success unexpected in common hours
what that means is that success is not
something that you can get in life
success is an inner process success is
something that you bring to everything
you do in your life it isn’t something
you get out of what you do and when you
get that and you learn how to get the
junk out and advance confidently doing
what makes the most amount of sense to
you based on your inner signals and the
one issue of morality which is you never
interfere with anybody else’s right to
do the same each person has their own
right to advance confidently in the
direction of their own dreams and when
you violate that you’re violating the
principle of the universe the essence of
the universe which is cooperation and
harmony then success will begin to chase
you and it will come into your life and
arrive in your life in amounts that you
never dreamt of before that you never
dreamt up things will start happening to
you that you would never imagine before
I’m working on a book right now that’s
going to be called you’ll see it when
you believe it when you start believing
in some of these principles you’ll start
seeing things that we were blind to for
so long when you were back here in the 2
and the 3 and the 4 and the 5 when you
were moving away from yourself as long
as you’re moving back towards your
Universal essence your harmony with
yourself your cooperation with the rest
things start happening in ways that you
never
you called it synchronicity and we have
a term that we use to explain how
unexplainable coincidence has sort of
happened in our life and how come these
things never share a couple of those
with you before we leave the the quality
versus appearance in your life means
that you get that inner candle flame
working in a way that gives you quality
independent of what other people think
of you Maslow in defining self
actualizing no limit people said they
are independent of the good opinion of
other people of the good opinion of it
independent of it they’re so busy
advancing confidently doing the things
that make sense and bringing success to
changing their baby diapers and bringing
success to weeding their gardens and
bringing it to the job they bring it on
the airplane so that when they run into
somebody who is who is rude to them a
stewardess that is rude they don’t see
it as an attack on them it’s just where
they are and they send them love help
them a little bit you know they’re kind
but somebody wants to get in on the
freeway and their one old temptation
when they were on the one to the sixth
was to say oh yeah nobody’s getting in
front of me I’m getting there first like
it slow down they don’t have all that
type a stuff of having to beat somebody
else and having to defeat somebody it is
the new way of being it’s a way of
quality where you’re harmony allows you
to cooperate and you are a part of what
this whole thing is about new way of
being quality rather than appearances
another new way of being very important
living your life on ethics rather than
rules ethics rather than rules all these
rules all these ways of having to do
things somebody else dictates to them do
you know that some of the most immoral
acts in the world have been perpetrated
in the name of the rules these are the
laws what do you think Nazi Germany was
all about everybody doing all these
horrible things to other people I’m only
doing my job was the defense
we all heard at Nuremberg I was just
doing my job if it’s an immoral rule
it’s immoral to obey it and
self-actualizing people as mezzo tells
us have rules inside of them that they
could never open never disobey ever and
they have to do with ethics how you
treat people how do you think we get to
where we are now you know who Rosa Parks
was the woman in the South the black
woman in the South who said not today
I’m not going to the back today no way I
know what the rules are the rules were
all over the place if you didn’t need if
you needed a reminder there were signs
everyplace colored in the back white in
the front and she said no I’m sitting
here and that made all the difference
ethics not rules when your children
start disobeying rules that need to be
disobeyed don’t be surprised when I was
in the service
they had a policy on Guam where I was
stationed which would not allow the
Guamanian civilians to shop in the PX we
may be engaged but they did allow all
other civilians to shop in the Navy
exchanges and vehicles but if you were
Guamanian that is if your skin was dark
and your eyes were shaped a little
different then you couldn’t a clear
outright violation I was a serviceman I
was in the Navy the communications
cryptographer they had a newspaper on
the Guam Daily News and it said an
invitation to speak your mind there was
a letter writing contest and they
offered $75 to the first prize winner
$75 this was 1961 that was a fortune to
me that was a month’s pay in the Navy at
that time almost so I entered the
contest and I knew I would win it I had
already written a novel at that time a
whole novel I’d written while I was on
Guam I knew it wasn’t going to be a
contest I felt sorry for the other
people entering it I knew I was going to
win unfortunately I didn’t realize that
when you’re in the service and you have
an opinion and you don’t submit it to
the chain of command that you can be
court-martialed for that
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so the headlines on next week’s Guam
Daily News were us sailor a sales policy
of discrimination big hot stuff all
right
and I was called before a Vice Admiral
commander naval forces Marianas Islands
and threatened with a court-martial
because I had disobeyed the rules even
though the rule was immoral there are
lots of them like that and when I went
in and they threatened me with the
court-martial I told them this was my
battle plan I didn’t have Xerox machines
in those days so I had to get a lot of
carbon paper I wrote a letter to the
President John F Kennedy and I wrote a
letter to the Secretary of the Navy and
I wrote a letter I was my hometown was
Detroit I wrote a letter to the Detroit
News and a letter to the Detroit Free
Press telling them what was happening to
me as a result of just expressing my
opinion about an immoral act that was
going on over here on Guam and I showed
the Naval a Vice Admiral my letters
right there I said I’ve only sent the
one to the president in the Secretary of
the Navy
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these letters go to the newspapers
across the country there was one there
to the New York Times as well and the
Los Angeles Times it was the and I just
spread them out before him I said if you
court-martial me punish me in any way
for this then what’s going to happen is
the world is going to find out about
this policy and I’m prepared I’m ready I
can handle it and I was 20 years old I’m
21 not only did I get a blessing from
that because all things come in
blessings for you I got out 90 days
early and they stamped on my record P I
because the president took it up and
sent it to the secretary Muslim and I
never heard from him when I get P I on
your record means political influence
and they don’t like anybody with
political influence on the bottom and as
soon as they saw that they said this is
somebody we probably will be giving a
discharge real soon
there was no book there was no
court-martial and in September of 1962 a
brand new policy was initiated on Guam
which allowed any civilian to shop in
the Navy exchanges and it came about as
a result of someone saying these rules
are immoral and therefore it’s immoral
to obey them new ways of being ethics
rather than rules and when your kids
want to know why how come these rules
are so stupid how come we have to do
that encourage them to change
my mother always did that she would have
to help me get out of the out of the
messes that I got myself into because I
did it in my impetuous youth I would
just when they would say to me what’s
more important your job or school I was
just honest
patek top of course that’s how I felt in
those days but what you do put out in
the world is exactly what’s coming back
to you and if you find things coming
back to you that you don’t like and
don’t understand don’t ask yourself why
these things are coming to you ask
yourself what you’re doing to make sense
when you start putting the
responsibility on yourself and person a
traumatic changes dramatic changes new
way of being
instead of ethic instead of rules ethics
a new another new way of being instead
of looking all your life
for achievements and externals try
living your life on knowledge for the
sake of knowledge knowledge instead of
achievement for the sake of knowledge
being in a in a context in which you
don’t have to collect a lot of merit
badges you don’t have to collect a lot
of a lot of awards and other people’s
value judgments that you go to school or
you go out into the world or you read or
whatever it is you do because it makes
sense to you not because of what
somebody else is going to put on a
transcript or where you’re going to
appear in a class list we need to help
our children to understand and value the
importance of knowledge for the sake of
knowledge and doing things that make
sense rather than taking the easy way
knowledge rather than always trying to
achieve we’re in an achievement oriented
society which tells us that we evaluate
and judge a human being based upon how
many cheese achievements he has but most
of the people who get caught up in that
trap and are always in this circle of
trying to get ahead trying to always get
ahead their reward for that almost
always as higher blood pressure ulcers
early deaths and even things like cancer
we’re beginning to find out are related
to
the kinds of stresses that we have and
remember it’s a perfect universe there’s
no stress in it there’s only people
thinking stressful thoughts
and when you put that pressure on
yourself to always achieve and get it
into the other guy you miss what it’s
really all about another new way of
being for me is to think of yourself in
terms of personal authority rather than
being an authoritarian personal
Authority a person who has authority
never needs to dominate anyone else ever
dominating doesn’t become necessary in
business you can have a Thor that people
have the most authority are the ones who
listen the most and the ones who are the
most conscientious about what do other
people have to say a person in a
relationship who have to dominate
somebody else and has to make the other
person submissive shows that they don’t
have authority because they’re getting
their power not from within for
themselves but on the basis of who they
can control and that never laughs that
never moved the only thing that lasts is
having inner power if you will know
thyself so Shakespeare said know thyself
the more you know yourself the more you
the more you become honest with yourself
honestly becomes just a way of life and
no I don’t think the world necessarily
does but you can’t run your world you
can’t run your world based upon what the
rest of the people in the world want or
don’t want to me honesty is like
karma that goes out into the world how
people free you in the world is there
kind of how you react is yours and what
when you react to it with dishonesty
that’s what you’re putting out into the
world dishonesty and when you put this
out honestly out into the world that’s
what’s going to come back to you because
what goes out is what comes back that
all as you sow so shall you reap I mean
it’s in every great institution that
there is in the world whether it’s a
religion or a philosophy or whatever
what you put out is what comes back
whatever you plant is what you’re going
to get that and the more that you put
out honesty just because it’s what you
are because you are being honesty you’re
not trying to be honest you’re just
being honesty then that’s what will come
back to you on a regular basis and what
it doesn’t you’ll just see that as
another test for you to pass and finally
a fifth way of being that is new for me
and because become a way of life
it’s called serenity instead of
acquisitions the more you try to acquire
the more you try to get the more you try
to collect in your life and evaluate
yourself on the basis of that the less
serenity you’re going to have
more is less it’s almost a secret of the
universe
serenity means inner peace means that
you can find joy in every moment that
you have in your life instead of like
always looking for it it means that
while you are driving along the
countryside you know and seeing instead
of saying are but this is I’m on my way
to this point that you can open your
eyes and see it with new eyes so you see
the rolling mountains see the grass see
the deer see the sky see you can just
stop wherever you are in this second
wherever you are and just look around
you and you can begin to appreciate just
your and your surroundings in your
environment then you can begin to
appreciate the people that are in your
life and even the ones that are negative
and you’re having to the most difficulty
with you can practice a new way of being
with them which is sending them love
sending them flowers send them books and
imitate send them something and just see
what kind of reaction that you get super
emotional health it’s just an attitude
an attitude is everything
I want to love summarize these new ways
of being and again give you the most
important ingredient on the path as we
leave I said that it’s quality in your
life to be focusing on rather than
appearances and it
rules and its knowledge rather than
achievement all that group and is being
personally an authority on yourself
rather than the authoritarian and trying
to be dominant dominating someone else
or to be dominated and serenity which is
the name of my little girl my youngest
daughter Sarina rather than acquisitions
and accumulations and trying to prove
your son that way when you get that
serenity which comes from the way that
you think always then you will replace
all of the other junk that keeps you
back here between 6 and 1 on that clock
and once you’re ten once you get patent
you’ll never ever be able to go back
because light living in the light is a
way of a way of being that if you’re not
there you don’t get it yet but once you
see it and once it begins to and take
over your life you can never go back
that that is your purpose it isn’t your
purpose isn’t to try to be loving your
purpose is to be loved and only have
that to give away well but there’s one
other ingredient and it’s really crucial
forgiveness is the vital ingredient on
the path of enlightenment and if you
don’t know how to do it and practice
sending out love take the person or the
people that you’re having conflict with
any place in your life send them
something you don’t have to even do it
physically just send them something that
comes from inside and what’s inside is
how you choose to think and if you can
make that love and do that and that is
to me the test not whether you can love
someone when they smell good when they
do everything that you’re supposed but
whether you can love someone who has
sent you hate or anguish in your life
and send it back you don’t have to
forget you don’t have to go back but you
got to get it out of you because it just
blocking you and
you back and when I said you’ll see it
when you believe it
all my life I’ve wanted to write fiction
a parable three four years ago I decided
to go off to Hawaii to Maui to kind of
poly beach and to write now the books
that had met the most difference in my
life were the little prince Candide
Siddhartha Jonathan Livingston Seagull
illusions Alice Through the Looking
Glass Gulliver’s Travels terrible’s
teaching parables stories that can tell
a message I went over to Molly and I sat
down on the beach and I’ve been talking
about writing this I’ve been talking
about doing this and it was something
that I have a little girl and her name
is Skye SK ye
I decided to reverse the letters in her
name ey K s and put an eye in there
which symbolizes the self I kiss and I
just created this parable of a woman
whose name as I guess who lives on
another planet the planet is Uranus and
it’s a duplicate mirror image of Earth
only I kiss can only see things as they
are not as we would like them to be and
therefore people are neurotic on Uranus
because they have to be she gives the
anxiety attack report if you will
because anxiety really does attack over
there and tell us about anxiety coming
in on the weekends and so on well my
visitor in my parable goes to Uranus
meet psychic she cannot understand as he
describes earth why people would be
neurotic by choice on earth why would
anybody be unhappy or depressed or
miserable when they don’t have when
anxiety doesn’t attack and when
elevators really don’t scare you and
when if you want a complex on Uranus you
want to give a complex to your wife you
go to the store and buy one it’s what
happened well my husband gave me a
complex
on its – alright on earth if you have a
complex it’s because you’ve chosen to
have once you can’t figure it out okay
but she comes here observes our people
and begins to see the secrets of the
universe and gives us these secrets
talks to the top leaders in our field
and that was my parable when I wrote it
it gives all of these wonderful secrets
some of which I’ve been talking about
here today but what I want to tell you
is that my wife gave me a license plate
and the license plate says I kiss okay
it’s a vanity plate and I was pumping
gas on federal highway in Fort
Lauderdale Florida and a little man from
Greece came up to me and he said but
means this ftas which is how you say
that in Greek I said well that’s just a
word it’s my daughter’s name spelled
backwards it’s a parable that I wrote he
said no he said in Greek that’s
so what could that be he said it means
best wishes for all you’ll see it when
you believe the great big peroneus on
the cosmic erroneous on that you get
this when you’ll have it and understand
it all there is no way to happen
happiness is the way
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