THE FIRST STEP TO SUCCESS – Motivational Speech On Success 2017

this is where it all starts and to start
this session I’ll tell you what I want
to talk to you about I want to talk to
you about what’s missing
yeah missing what’s missing from your
life right wait a second nothing is
missing from my life don’t ya I’m on a
roll I’m here with you in the ultimate
edge I mean my life is great I’m just
here good like to improve a few things
ok I believe you but if you’re really
honest I bet there’s something missing
by the way there’s nothing to be
embarrassed about that we’re so weird as
a society it’s like we all want to be
perfect you know something missing
there’s nothing missing we try to cover
it up even to ourselves but I’ll tell
you how we know it if you look around at
most people’s lives there’s a huge thing
called stress fact if you read
interviews with people that do all these
focus groups on politics on business on
products the number one emotion
experienced by people in North America
today you know what it is anxiety not
fear fears not so bad so if you get
fearful your whole body kind of gears up
and then something happens you know
either you were fearful and you were
right and you have to deal with the
problem or many times the situation gets
resolved and even man I was fearful I
didn’t need to be and the fear is gone
but anxiety is an emotion that most
people carry with them every day it’s
that feeling that never goes away
it never ends it’s a feeling that
Madison will run home and take care of
all those emails everything else you
know it’s like it just gets piling up
with more and more and more it’s the
feeling that you never completely win
that you can’t let go maybe you can’t
even fully allow yourself to enjoy much
less just achieve and succeed see the
goal of this first session is our power
is to get you not just to realize how
strong or your life is and appreciate
what you have but also to decide on what
you want and to make it happen by making
the shifts inside yourself that are
necessary
but to make that happen you’re gonna
have to recapture what missing not only
what you want and what you need but if
there’s one thing missing for most
people’s life today because the way we
live in technology it’s time we think
about it not just time but time for
yourself time to actually feel time to
not just react to the constant stimulus
time to sit down and dream or decide
this is how I want my life to be you
know this is what I’m committed to this
is how I’m going to live from this day
forward see most of us are so caught up
in making a living and reacting to the
CrackBerry or your iPhone or another set
of emails or someone who’s interrupting
in the middle of a conversation to take
an email yet on their phone or the
buzzing in your pocket or the stimulus
is a thousand channels all of this set
of triggers all our normal business
demands demands we have from our
families we want to take care of our
families want to make a difference in
the world because as strong as we could
possibly be we want to achieve and
succeed be happy and oh yeah by the way
we got to deal with terrorism economies
that go up and down and Wow what
happened to that stock market what
happened to that real estate market or
man that subprime crisis oil or you know
what’s happening my business there’s all
the normal stresses of the environment
and then there’s how we begun to live
but I’m here to say to you that if you
will give yourself one gift if you give
yourself a gift a little bit of time to
think to feel to be to condition your
body and mind to work together the whole
game can change but if you don’t you can
succeed like crazy you can make it all
happen
and you can still feel empty have you
been there when you made everybody else
feel good and you were super dad or mom
or businessperson and you know it’s all
there but you still got stress don’t get
me wrong I’m not saying you’re not going
to have stress in your life but I’m
saying there needs to be some time for
you you’re grieving on this so if you do
that you can make this psychological
shift that changes life
the mental shift the emotional shift and
the physical shift because after all
what are we talking about here when we
talk about an extraordinary life let’s
remind you what creates an extraordinary
life no matter what
our life it’s a psychology and by the
way are you experiencing extraordinary
life are we living in a world
extraordinary light extraordinary
resources yes but depending on where you
live in the world
you know if you live in the Western
world or quote the modern world what you
see mostly is stress you know I actually
live all over the world in four
different countries but my primary
residence where I’m from originally is
the US and you know here in America
we’re 5% of the world’s population but
we consume 80% of the world’s cocaine I
mean that tells you something’s missing
when you gotta cook yourself up drugged
yourself out type yourself up with more
caffeine distract yourself as much as
you can with your iPod your music
anything to just change your state
because there’s some levels filled with
dismissal don’t get me wrong all those
things are wonderful but they’ve got to
be things that we don’t rely on to be
alive
would you agree you know kids today are
ten times heavier that have ever been
why pay ten times I’m not exaggerating
by much we have more obese people in
America and frankly in the Western world
at any time in human history
we’re not exactly starving for food
we’re starving for wisdom we’re starving
for fulfillment we’re starving for the
emotions that we want so most of us turn
to drugs
it isn’t always a medical drug or even
an illicit drug but rather it’s the drug
of food the drug of distraction it’s the
drug of alcohol or cigarettes or
something to be able to just kind of
cope with the stress that’s in our life
but that doesn’t mean we have a better
life it’s just a break for a moment and
then we reenter that same world part of
my goal here with you in the ultimate
edge and even in the beginning of this
session is to set up a new game for you
that you designed that you can win and
that you can condition into your system
so that when things get crazy BAM you
can go there and it doesn’t require you
to go to some external stimulus to feel
that aliveness or to feel fulfilled or
to fill it peace or to feel your Center
so my goal is to get you to develop a
couple of simple habits to make a few
simple decisions to take a couple of
actions that will begin to create a
momentum for your life that will take
you to the point where you will stand
tall
of my life this is what I’ve always
dreamed about I am not willing to settle
for less than I can be or share or
create or give in my lifetime and I want
to take advantage of this incredible
time to be alive I want to enjoy it to
its fullest I want to make sure I
contribute in a unique way and 500
channels of television with nothing on
but infomercials and eight million
different forms of computers and music
and email and instant messages and
beepers and cell phones and and remote
access the internet none of that’s going
to transform your life your life is
going to change if you do nothing
because life is changing so rapidly
around you your body is going to change
what you want to do or not as time goes
by your relationships are going to
change people are going to die people
are going to pass on people going to
change your beliefs and values
everything your life is going to change
you have to work a change change is
automatic progress is not to get the
edge you have to decide that you’re
going to make progress in your life
you’re gonna have to decide that you’re
not going to be one of those people just
drawn by the river and you also can’t
get off the river and just sit on the
side because life keeps moving you got
to step in the river and you got to
direct your course by knowing what you
want for your life now why don’t most
people do this because most of us are so
stressed we never take time for the
thing that’s really missing time for
ourselves and what’s really missing is
we don’t ever contribute to ourselves
are so busy taking care of our children
are worrying about our spouses and our
friends and making sure at work we’re
accomplishing the tasks on time and the
last person that gets taken care of is
us and we live in a society that’s
supposed to be so selfish so many people
talk about but the truth of the matter
is most of us are working so hard to
make sure everybody else is happy that
we aren’t happy within ourselves and so
I want to talk to you about what’s
missing time for you I mean when do we
really stop and feel I mean really feel
remember who we are and what we’re about
what we want from our lives most of us
never find that time and so what happens
to most of us is since we’re constantly
in the action of doing and of the old
phrase we’re not human doings or human
beings it’s kind of corny but it’s true
you don’t take the time to be and so
what occurs is out of the stress of
being constantly competing try to make
sure we achieve me contributing take
care of family when dick everything
happened
most of us deserve
I look for a way to stop and distract
ourselves and so we drug ourselves and
the drug isn’t always regular drugs we
don’t call it drugs we call it food
because we eat enough that stuff and
load up guess what happens all sudden
you relax you know especially if you
overeat all that blood rushes into your
stomach you know and you start to
breathing and you ever notice when
you’re going go go go go like this
you’re not breathing very much that
creates just a bit of stress and some
people have fun enough they get CNN and
then they’re working on the internet
simultaneously and they’re getting a
conversation the other side is a bigger
thing keeping nothing’s going in their
head they can forget about all the stuff
that’s stressing them now they don’t
even care about what’s on the television
don’t really care about what they’re
surfing on the net they just need an
escape but you know you’ll never escape
your way to fulfilment you’ll never
escape your way to joy you’ll never
escape your way to an extraordinary life
the only way you get that is by deciding
what that means to you what is that
extraordinary life what is that
fulfillment what is it you want and
that’s got to be a process that is
consistent not something you do once in
a while when you had a birthday with a
zero on the end not something that you
do you know at New Year’s we sit down go
all right and I better look at my life
see I’m doing all right let’s make some
resolutions that I know I’m going to
break within the week and then I’ll
check in on a maybe a year from now next
New Year’s and see how I’m doing that’s
called recipe for failure do you think
most people live for fulfill or most
people might stressed now let me tell
you stress is a code word for fear and
when somebody says they’re stressed
that’s because they don’t say I’m
fearful you may don’t under stress they
have all these things to do well why are
you stressed about it well if I don’t
get them done if you don’t get em done
what well they’ll be upset well what if
they are a little upset well yeah you
know whether or not all available if you
bail what I mean well you keep on
digging if they fail they feel like if
they failed and they’re worthless of the
workers they won’t be loved you know
stress comes from making things more
important than they really are in most
people in life are spending all their
time majoring in minor things they’re
putting all the focus all their energy
all their attention I’m responding to
the reactions at the moment rather than
stopping that timeless place of who you
are in sync gosh what is it that I
really want today what do I want to
create because I got to tell you
something everything in the outside
world everything around you that you
like or dislike that’s stressing you or
that you’re thrilled about was first
created on the inside
everything that you’re experiencing your
life your relationship the way your kids
are your job your opportunities at all
start with decisions you made you had
decisions about what to focus on
decisions about what things were meaning
whether you should be upset about it
whether you should learn from it whether
this is a challenge an opportunity or
crisis and the decision about what
you’re going to do these decisions are
shaping your life you gotta understand
getting the edge simply means this 80%
of success in anything in life is
psychology the ability to manage your
mindset your ability to find the
opportunity in any situation this isn’t
stupid positive thinking we just sit
around and you know go to your garden
and say there’s no ‘yes’ no weeds
there’s no leads there’s no weeds I
don’t believe in that kind of positive
thinking it’s garbage there’s weeds
there you got to pull them out but you
gotta have enough intelligence enough
psychology to say I’m not going to see
it worse than it is because you know
people say I’m skeptical and pessimistic
no garbage you’re fearful if you say
you’re skeptical or you’re pessimistic
what you’re really saying is I’m afraid
of being disappointed I don’t want to
get my hopes up I don’t wanna look naive
so I don’t want to be hurt again but I
got news for you if you’re going to have
an extraordinary quality of life if
you’re going to get the edge in life or
the passion and the juice and the joy
and the fulfillment and the happiness
and the love and the failure where the
Kwan is like Jerry Maguire talked about
right well you got it all you got to
love the respect the connection the
contribution and the money to fund the
fame that whatever whatever your
definition of of the ultimate level of
life that edge comes when you master
your mind and your emotions you know
what 20% of your success of mechanics
and they do play a role and sometimes
our mechanics are getting in the way of
our psychology sometimes we structured
our life where there’s no time to think
or be so he’s okayed you ran to the raid
what am I supposed to do
alright you started kind of sad should
take some time for myself where am I
going to find out I gotta get up I got
to take the kids to school I got to make
it to work I get it all done I come back
home I gotta pick them up we gotta take
them a dance lesson at the sucker
waiting oh then I got to work on my home
run again it’s got to answer all my
emails what am I going to do this stuff
stop we all get what we have to have
that’s it the most basic principle
getting the edge is for you to
understand and for me to remember for
all of us remember we all get our must
we don’t get our shirts every go with
the shoes I should take time to work out
you know I should take time for myself I
should actually go on a diet I should
make more calls
I should just allow myself to listen to
some music and meditate a little bit I
should I should I should I should I
should do my taxes but most people doing
this stuff they just when I call
all over themselves you don’t want to
all over yourself here’s what’s
true what you must do what you believe
is the must happens right now you’re
earning what you must earn and not a
dime or not what you want – don’t get me
wrong and listen I know I sound like I’m
ranting that’s because I’m not but by
being and not have achieved a lot I’ve
achieved a lot of things in my dreams
and goals that happen because what I am
is I’m unreasonable my expectations have
a sound unreasonable it’s not to be
disrespectful and it’s not just a rant
it’s because I know I’ve spent the last
30 years of my life now with more than
three million people from every walk of
life from presidents of countries to
presidents of companies to parents to
children best sports people in the world
I’d had a chance to find the difference
in people and the difference is in their
unreasonable psychology that
unreasonableness has gotten them to say
this is a must and I will settle for
nothing less and those individuals
whether it’s a woman like Rosa Parks on
a bus who says no I will not move to the
back of the bus that was completely
unreasonable she had no way to back it
up and she changed the world or a little
lady tiny woman with no background no
education no money who decides she’s
going to change the world mother Teresa
person who by the power of her will her
psychology her unreasonableness by
making it a must to help people that no
one would help by making that her must
you changed the world when she died
every major leader the world flew 100
thousand people lining the streets to
watch a woman who supposedly had no
resources unreasonable men and women
shape the world if you want to get the
edge you got to get unreasonable the way
you get a reasonable as you turn your
shoulds in the must
I’m here to tell you you’re earning what
you must earn you have a time you must
have you know if you say to me oh you
know I really want a relationship but
I’m not in one then your relationships
should and not a month what’s really a
must is you don’t want to be hurt it’s a
month not to be hurt if it’s a month not
to be hurt you’re not going to be in a
relationship they’re going to be in
relationship there’s going to be earth
that’s part of the nature relationship
there’s going to be more joyed and could
ever imagine to like the advantage want
to get the edge get over your fear and
tell yourself the truth we got to take a
specific time each day where you break
away from the gnosis of the culture that
tells you to settle for less than you
can be it tells you not to get your
hopes up it tells you you should protect
yourself that tells you that basically
your life cannot be what you’ve dreamed
about at a time and I’m here to tell you
that as long as you buy into the culture
you’ll be like the majority of the
population who have no advantage and
have to settle for a life that really is
what I call no-man’s land a life where
they’re not really happy but they’re not
unhappy enough doing about it a life
where there is no passion and no real
Drive just that sinking feeling that
your life does not have a real meaning
or a real purpose but you got to
continue that’s a place no one wants to
live and that’s unfortunately when the
majority of people live the agree with
me on this or disagree if you’re pissed
a grad respectful of that but if you
want more if you believe that that’s
possible and you’re the kind of person
will settle and this is the first
session and you reclaiming your power
the first session and you putting your
foot down and saying I will not be
denied it’s the first session you saying
my body my mind my emotions my
relationships my finances my career
they’re not going to be perfect but
they’re going to be extraordinary and it
won’t be overnight but will change
overnight is my expectations of myself
no my expectations all suddenly be
perfect without any work this is not a
little cajoling session to say I’m going
to pump myself up I’m going to be Stuart
Smalley and say I’m good enough I’m
strong enough I’m kind of nothing by
calling people like me know some people
go like you something we’re going to
fight to try and keep you from achieving
somebody were going to tell you you’re
wasting your time and something we’re
gonna try and trick the other people
that you love and it’s not because they
don’t love you or they’re trying to hurt
you it’s they don’t want to be left
behind
well they don’t want you know your
success to make them feel inferior like
you’re achieving or even if you’re not
succeeding even if you’re striving and
they’re not there’s contrast in that
that’s part of life you ever think
anything else is to be dumb and you’re
not dumb or you want to turn this tape
off a long time ago give this thing to
somebody I don’t wipe this guy’s crazy
you know a little crazy but you gotta be
a little crazy you gotta be a little
different you gotta be a little weird
and your expectations rest of society
because if you agree with everybody else
you know you’re in trouble I mean
somebody told me a long time ago find
out where the masses are going go the
opposite direction your chances are
better you know you don’t even part of
the hypnosis of a culture that settles
not if you want the advantage in life
not if you want the edge and again the
edge is living life on your terms it
doesn’t mean the edge over something or
someone else it means living at the
level of life where life is fully worth
living
where that meaning is there how do we do
this what do we need to do today to
start this process well the first thing
we’ve got to do is understand what
creates that extraordinary life we’ve
already identified an extraordinary life
does not come from more money because
that’s of you have a lots of money and
they’re still miserable they’re unhappy
they’re unhealthy of their relationships
are weak and their people have no money
whatsoever who are totally happy and
fulfilled you know it’s not coming from
having a great relationship that doesn’t
get the extraordinary quality of life
how many people you know have an
incredible person who loves them
totally but they don’t feel loved or
they feel loved by them but they still
feel like their life is meaningless or
worthless because they haven’t achieved
enough they haven’t done enough their
body’s not strong enough their kids
haven’t accomplished enough see it’s not
going to come from money it’s not going
to come from the lationship it’s not
going to come from your job it’s not
going to come from getting a rave it’s
not going to come from anything but you
finally stopping and understanding that
the quality of your life is a direct
proportion of the quality of the
emotions you’re in on a daily basis if
you live in frustration if you live in
resent if you live in anger if you live
in rejection if you live in self-pity we
live in those emotional states the
quality of your life no matter what
happens no matter how much money again I
mean how many people think they love you
much you achieve will be worthless if
you live in a space of gratitude if you
cultivate the emotion
passion if you cultivate the emotion of
excitement of love of compassion of
drive of hunger of ambition of
appreciation of grace of humility and
those states it won’t matter what
happens in your job it won’t matter what
challenges come because they’re gonna
come there’s only a matter of time
you’ll have another one soon we all got
problems problems are a sign of life the
way we deal with them determines the
quality of our life and the way we deal
with them is where do you spend your
time emotionally where are you that idea
of an extraordinary life only comes from
an extraordinary psychology which is a
mindset that allows you to find an
empowering meaning whatever life gives
you I mean I meet people all the time
that are so upset over the littlest
things and you meet somebody who’s
terminally ill and you don’t even know
it you don’t even know you find out
later on from somebody else they’re so
happy they’re so exciting you talk to
them say how do you do this make they
listen to me it’s not how long I live
it’s how I live I’m here to live fully
while I’m here while I’m alive I’m gonna
get upset about little stuff like that I
have a friend that was shot down in
Vietnam was locked up for seven years
his name is Captain Jerry coffee and
captain coffee and I have been friends
for several decades now but I’ll tell
you the greatest thing he did that
allowed him to make this one of the best
experiences of his life which is
ridiculous as that sounds he really
experiences and believes is cuz he
developed a set of rituals while he was
in that prison that allowed him to take
control of his body his mind his
emotions and to this day they live
inside him one of the most valuable
things of the session the reason we
called this hour of power and the
shortcut to it by the way it’s called 30
minutes to thrive or at least 15 minutes
to be fulfilled everybody’s got 15
minutes is a set of rituals of what
you’re going to do with your body your
vision or focus your emotion your
language that will gear you up to be
able to handle anything we’re literally
whatever happens you’ll be able to say
the same thing about that aspect of your
life as Jerry Coffey said about those
seven years see in any moment in time
you can be upset about anything because
what’s wrong is always available I mean
you know if there’s nothing wrong with
you and you got kids there’s something
wrong there I promise you just look what
is something wrong with your spouse or
something wrong with your boss so
there’s something wrong with the world
there’s something wrong in Africa
there’s something wrong somewhere
what’s wrong is always available and so
is what’s right if you don’t consciously
decide what you’re going to focus on
every day and make it a priority then
weeds grow automatically you don’t have
to plant weeds they’re automatic you
don’t have to worry about gravity
something’s going to pull you down
unless you use your will to stand up and
move you go well it’s just natural to be
down all the time wasn’t in its natural
rely on the ground right but how we have
an extraordinary life as we resist the
natural forces I remember years ago when
I met Norman Vincent Peale is amazing it
was 92 years old he was doing a seminar
and I was 32 at the time I thought only
60 more years this well I said to my
said normal what are you doing still
going out here doing seminars at 92
years old he was so cute attorneys at
Tony there’s still a few negative people
out there that’s better laughing I’ve
been you’re the best and I tell me
what’s the most important thing you want
people understand when you’re talking is
that their problems are a sign of life
you the person I got that farm I said
what do you need so what I really
talking about they don’t want any
problems is it but the only people have
problems are people that live in
SEMATECH and I said I heard that
somebody said well yeah I said that 1936
my god you’ve been around a while but
the reason I tell the story about him is
the idea of resistance he said to me you
know when he first met gene honey who
was a heavily boxing champion the world
back then he said I went up to gene and
I said gene how do you get muscles like
that and gene looked at me and said do
you really want to know you just ask it
Norman said actually I was just asking
but he said I didn’t say that to him I
said yeah what no they said gene looked
it got really intense but this grimace
on his face he made his bicep really
huge and showed me the size you see I
get this every day I push against
enormous amounts of resistance and my
pushing against that resistance sculpts
these muscles they expand by demand Wow
stand by the man that’s pretty cool and
Norma looked at me and said you know I
thought about
time is you know I realized is I
realized that God gives us problems
because problems are the resistance that
we have to push against to sculpt our
character to sculpt our souls he said we
don’t have any problems with other life
I thought you know he’s right the only
thing I wanted a better quality of
problem you know the beginning I have
the problems like how do I eat you know
I take care of myself
then in my business how do I get them to
show up then it was like oh my god we
can’t get a big enough stadium these are
quality problems remind my team of that
the reason I tell you that is whether
it’s a problem when it’s an opportunity
comes down to focus if you’re in a lousy
state everything is a problem when
you’re feeling strong when you’re in
that place you feel alive then all of a
sudden what used to be a problem is like
God we can handle it but if you don’t do
something every day to get yourself in
that state first and you first get hit
with stuff I promise you you’re not
going to deal with the same way so let’s
get right to the point here if you’re
going to have an extraordinary life that
life or you are juiced then all that
means is you’re going to have life where
the primary emotions of your life are
the ones you want it doesn’t mean that
life works out every way you want
sometimes it rains on your parade
sometimes the events of your life you
can’t control but you can’t control what
it means to you when we control what it
means to you you have the ultimate power
of your life you have the edge the
ultimate advantage see I’ll give an
example did you see that movie that won
the Academy Award life is beautiful it’s
a story of a man who has an
extraordinary life not because he has
more money than anybody else not because
he’s in a situation where everything is
easy but because he’s alive he has this
joy about him and by the way if you’ve
actually ever met Roberto Benigni
the man who plays this character you
know that he lives this way day-to-day
you know he was offering this thing from
himself he’s such a joyous guy when he
won the Academy Award you’re gonna saw
so much emotion is like a little boy and
everybody loved it because nobody else
has the guts to be that way or they’d
forgotten what it feels like to just
feel to be alive what makes an
extraordinary an extraordinary
psychologist an extraordinary mindset an
extraordinary way of looking at the
world and in the movie the man has that
doesn’t and who does it affect everyone
everyone within the realm of his
influence his wife feels like the most
cherished person on earth and so so does
he because when he give that kind of
love and kind of joy people get it back
it’s infectious
his son seems so happy and then in the
middle of the Nazis taking over their
country and if you know the story I’ll
run it you know that they get picked up
and there’s such a connection amongst
the family that the wife is not being
sent away and she gets on the train with
them and they’re in the middle of this
camp this man with his extraordinary
psychology figures a way of looking at
the situation for his son presenting it
so that his son sees it as a game is in
life a game anyway instead of this
horrible situation and because he has
that perspective in the end his family
survives see if you want your family to
survive if you want them to succeed if
you want them to have joy if you want
your kids to have a lasting love if you
want to be able to give gifts in your
life and not just take care of yourself
then you gotta have an extraordinary
psychology within yourself it’s not
where you live physically it’s where you
live internally there are two worlds the
inside world in the outside world we
can’t totally control the outside one
but we have absolute control in the
inside one but you know what most of us
are too busy to take any time to check
out and see how it’s going on in here
but we just accept it is this is the
status quo this is who I am this is my
life or or I’ll get to it later manana I
got to handle this first something else
that’s not so important I want to invite
you my friend to take the time to say
I’m gonna have everyday an hour of power
every day I’m gonna have at least 30
minutes to thrive or 15 minutes to be
fulfilled for God’s sake so I’m going to
take those 15 minutes and I’m going to
focus on everything I’m grateful for I
mean if we’re going to have a life we
got to have time and the time has to
have some specific things we do and one
of those is gratitude if you want to
know what’s the quality of your life how
much time you spend in gratitude
how much time are you grateful and
appreciate it to the point that emotion
Wells up in you I’m feeling it now I’m
so grateful to God I’m so grateful to
have the privilege to serve you right
now so if you can get to that state
everything changes I’ll give you an
example if you think about being fearful
when you’re fearful you’re not grateful
and everybody’s got fear fear they’re
not enough fear that it won’t work out
here they won’t be loved you always got
that at some level unconsciously we’re
human so you can put the fear aside when
you’re grateful I don’t just mean
intellectually yeah I’m grateful for
those a grateful that is one I mean
stopping thinking seeing and feeling so
I’m gonna walk you through a system and
includes gratitude every day of our life
we gotta have addition every day our
life we got have something excited so
people tell me our I’m bored I’m tired
now everything that thing is boring no
you’re boring because you don’t have
something to excite you in your life you
haven’t come up with a vision you
haven’t come something to move towards
we all need something is going to make
us use more of who we are our courage
our passion our joy face our fears build
our emotional muscles but you don’t
build emotional muscles we do the same
thing day after day after day what you
get is a life that’s unfulfilled so
we’ve got to have a vision so every day
I take you through a simple process that
will get you to expand your vision so
you have a compelling future that thing
that makes you want to get up early
there’s a reason you got to have a
reason and you’ll have friends they’ve
sold their company one guy for this
company made almost a billion dollars in
cash about 800 million bucks and you
know you’re so excited for about two
months maybe three you know what after
that you know there’s only so much time
you want to sit on the beach by yourself
because everybody else is working you
know I’m doing something of being
productive
there’s only so many cocktails you can
take there’s only so many you know
movies you can watch I mean there’s a
limit to it
what do you needed was a new vision
anytime you achieve a goal as you get
close to it you better set up the next
one real quick because otherwise it’s
kind of like postpartum you’re looking
forward to that baby and now you got
them sometimes in the middle of night
you’re going what did I do here have you
ever had that experience I got four kids
I can relate I hope you can but you know
what you also have the experience on the
other side of it’s so wonderful kind of
like you got to have a vision for what
your life’s about now
without a vision people perish and you
have a daily vision that excites you
otherwise life becomes mundane and
there’s nothing worse than an okay life
I told you you’re not going to have that
war down here I promise you if you get
this little habit you won’t have to
settle for a mundane life what people
there goes what happened to you because
there’s an excitement in creation
there’s not a lot of excitement and
maintenance when you have to maintain
your body you got to maintain things but
creating things that’s what God created
us for gave us the gift to make choices
that could create new things businesses
ideas families friends you know a garden
and it’s available to everyone of us but
if you don’t get a vision each day then
the day is not going to have much juice
is it so every day there’s gotta be a
little time for vision all right time
for gratitude
time for vision every day you got to
move I’ll tell you why most people are
unhappy they don’t move
look at our lives today and most people
live in a box don’t think and then what
do they do they get up the morning out a
box cereal breakfast right and then they
get in their box and they drive and sure
enough they drive to their box office
they go up a box elevated pipe on a box
they talk in a box they have a box lunch
they drive their box home they turn the
box to be entertaining maybe maybe they
just really go for the variety and have
a cylinder to try and change their state
listen life has got to be about movement
when you move you’re alive emotion comes
from motion the more you move the more
you feel motion in your voice for me to
have this voice change
I’m G’s way I move you saw me right now
you think I’m a maniac because I’m
moving different ways but that’s how you
feel and by the way the less you move
the less you feel the less alive you are
if you’re totally rigid totally
inflexible no movement this is known as
death so if you have emotionally you’re
stuck move every day you got to move now
that can be a simple gentle form of
exercise but if something’s got to
happen and by the way if you want a
great relationship with anybody what do
you got to have some time with them
don’t you how about you how about you
and now why’d you have to have time with
them but maybe have a conversation with
them and most of us got conversations in
our head but we’re not directing you so
I’m going to show you today how to have
a conversation that you direct
a way of directing your mind shaping
your mind of condition your minds kind
of like going to the gym and just
getting in the best shape of your life
but it’s the best mental emotional
spiritual physical shape and you don’t
need me to do it I don’t follow you
around the rest of your life this can be
something to do for yourself and
remember if you don’t do this every day
it’s okay I don’t do it every day either
but I’ll tell you what I did I did it
three years I did it four months in a
row the way I shifted myself as I
realized I can’t do this once in a while
I got to drive it drive it drive it in
my body and I did the physical change
the focus the language until I literally
felt that breathing experienced it I
mean I literally drilled and program my
mind that I would follow through where I
would expect the best where I would take
action without hesitancy if you’re not
yet getting the result come back to this
process if you miss a day just do it the
next day but I will tell you this if you
do this for the next thirty days
twenty-one minimum a couple weeks
absolute minimum I’m talking at least
fifteen twenty thirty minutes you’re
gonna get momentum you’re gonna get
addicted asyou are not gonna be doing
like it’s a chore you can look forward
to this time with yourself you’re going
to come out so vital and strong for your
day or at the end of the day to get
ready for the next one you’re gonna love
it and I will tell you I’ve talked to
people done this for years and they
stopped for a while and then something
else showed up in their life and they
know exactly where to go to get back on
target they come back to this hour of
power and you don’t have to be a full
hour just just 15 minutes to be
fulfilled do seven eight or nine minutes
where you move your body you get focused
on what you’re grateful about you focus
on what you really want you do some
incantations and you’ll be marking and
rolling and if you do that you’ll get
momentum but he says go let me do at
least 15 minutes oh man it’s still good
let me go over a half hour don’t you
deserve at least 30 minutes out of your
day at 24 hours and how are 24 hours to
have the power and the juice and
excitement and the strength to be
activated in you is it all the cells in
you but if we don’t focus if we don’t
activate it we’re not going to have the
power and fulfillment we deserve but if
you do I’m telling you life whatever you
dreamed about about creating or shaping
we’re experiencing it’ll be our cartoon
compared to the experience you’ll
actually have of your life or what
you’ll really create I know this not
only from my own experience but for
millions of other people to do it this
has got to become your baby your
time take it use it live it by the way
this is a process you’re going to do for
yourself I’ll be here for you on this
audio program this ultimate edge but you
don’t need me
this becomes a ritual you can do on your
own you ever want to kick in the butter
you want some guidance come back here
and I’ll be here for you
but this is something you can do for the
rest of your life it’s not creating any
dependency this is your life this is
your process it’ll be your reward so how
does it work well let’s do this first
it’s time to you to make some
discoveries so I’m going to ask you just
take a moment and if you have our
journal there you can do it your
journaling and doing a piece of paper
you don’t make it rules driven just do
it don’t just do it your head I want you
to write down all the emotions you
experience in an average week and on one
side write all the good ones the other
side all the bad ones now I said bad
ones there really are no bad emotions
but the ones that are painful and you
don’t like so all the way users write
them down and when you write them down
try not to edit it don’t try and say
well just do it this way if you
experience this emotion on a consistent
basis doesn’t mean everyday but at least
once a week write it down
the ones you consistently feel I’m not
the one once in a while you feel this
feeling because what this is going to
tell us is where you’re really living
right now this doesn’t tell me your
income I don’t care but I care about
what you’re passionate about I care
about what hurts you I care about what
you love I care about what moves you and
you do too and you don’t have to tell me
the what let’s just figure out the
feelings first so please take a moment
right now but now we’re going to begin
to stop talking I want to start the
process of doing first step here is
let’s figure out where you are right
down now on one side all the emotions
you can Sicily feeling weak they’re
positive on the inside Omega so stop the
tape right now over the CD to pause it
and get yourself to this right now
go ahead are you still listening I’m not
going to continue until you do this
everyone here you got to get there right
no just listen okay if you’re in your
car you say you can’t do it then turn
off the CD or take stop it pause it and
do it in your head at least or pull the
car over you’re worth figuring out where
you are cars are going to go by you’re
going to drive the rest of your life
you’re still going to get there it’ll
take three minutes come on be one of you
to pull over
that’s it pull over right now sit down
and write this out just for a second I
promise you’ll be worth it go ahead and
do it do it right now
so now you have some emotions that you
really want how do you create them and
you have some emotions you don’t want
how do you get rid of them what if I
told you you literally could change how
you feel in an instant well you know
this is true from your past experience
at times right there are times where
you’re totally upset and then something
got your attention and now you’re
laughing you know people can be
literally at a funeral and they’re in a
terrible place and all of a sudden
something cracks them up and it’s pretty
rare but it has happened people can be
in a place where they’re and the worst
situation and somehow they find all
their determination how to do that
specifically is what I want to show you
real quickly now I’m gonna give you a
quick overview of it but I’ll give it to
you in three parts three things you need
to feel anything these are the reasons
why you feel anything in other words if
you feel sad or upset or frustrated or
depressed there’s only three reasons and
if you change any one of these three
you’re going to change how you feel and
I’ve changed all three you’ll change how
you feel completely if you’re feeling
happy if you’re feeling excited if
you’re feeling euphoric if you’re on a
roll and you want to know why you feel
that way you know maybe great things are
happening in your life but there’s a
reason why you feel that way in this
moment sometimes you have great things
happen in your life and you don’t feel
great so how do you do that there’s
three reasons three things have to be in
place for you feel great I call these
three reasons the Triad because there
are three patterns that if you do these
three patterns in your body in a certain
way you’ll get a certain result that’s
like a recipe you do one recipe you get
one result you do another one you get a
different result you get one kind of
cake or another so let’s give you an
example I have an initial seminar an
immersion where in one weekend people
get massive momentum to change their
life it’s called unleash the power then
it’s a chance in a weekend a really step
up and say I’m going to transform it I
don’t give it to my body my emotions of
fear my job it’s time to do it and we
put people in environments that three
days a total immersion that is a blast
and people come out transform that
process though very often what were the
first things I’ll do is I’ll ask people
what do you really want just I’ll take
people in the audience I got 1500 2000
people in that type of program usually
and they’ll say oh well I want to make
you know a million dollars I want to
make a billion dollars I want to help my
kids get through school I would have
more confidence
want to lose 57 pounds okay great why do
you want these things if you lost the 57
pounds if you made the billion dollars
what are you going to get consider later
they’d say well you know if I change the
world it will make a difference and I’ll
say yeah but what would I give you and
eventually say well it make me feel
don’t like my life that meaning or
they’ll say you know about 47 pounds I
feel more sexy I feel more energetic but
if I made this money I feel freedom or
power or secure whatever it is you want
you only want it cause you think it’s
going to give you a feeling and the
truth of the matter is you’re gonna have
that feeling right now if you just
change these three patterns I’m gonna
tell you so the first pattern is
terminal your feel is not the event but
what you do with your body in this
moment right now you’re feeling whatever
you’re feeling right now if you’re
listening to me is related first how
using the body if you’re slumped over if
you’ve not been using it if you’re tired
probably feel different than if you’re
looking at you’re walking right now is
anything now I’ll give you a more
specific example if I were to tell you
that there was a depressed person behind
curtain number one over here and for a
hundred thousand dollar donation to your
favorite charity if you could describe
them physically without seeing them I
bet you could do it couldn’t you what’s
their posture like you know say it or
thinking at least you can say it no
one’s gonna hear you’re probably in the
car you’re walking people parking phones
all the time they don’t know what’s
going on speak to me seriously what what
everybody like first their posture is
probably what slumped or their eyes down
where’s their head down
what’s a breathing like full or shallow
course it’s shallow
their facial expression up and tight or
slack you know what slack now how come
you know all these things without me
telling you because you practice this
stuff before haven’t you we all have oh
we’ve ever experienced this now if you
do this with your body I don’t care who
we are if you do these things your body
you’re going to feel lousy you’re going
to feel depressed now if you change the
way you use your body you put your
shoulders back and you breathe if you
use your voice in a different way if you
move or gesture in a different tempo
it’s hard to feel depressed in that way
in fact there was a research study that
was done early in my career there was
not at UC Berkeley and they did
something that sounded insane
traditionally if somebody’s depressed if
they go to a traditional psychiatric
approach today we live with a philosophy
that depression is new
a prozac deficiency know that we live in
this world today this things aren’t
working out let’s not resolve what’s
going on inside you let’s just drug you
it’s called better living through
chemistry
yeah just drug you keep on going we do
the same thing with kids today we got
this attention deficit disorder they now
upgraded it to ADHD attention deficit
hyperactive disorder this couldn’t be
the fact that kids are overstimulated
don’t get enough focus or attention and
don’t know how to use their energy in
their world where things are going so
slow when they’re learning in school
compared to how they are on the internet
and on MTV or anything else it must be
that we should drug them into submission
so they get as slow as us and we’re
comfortable it’s an interesting way that
we look at life today
the truth of the matter is these kids
are using their bodies and ways that
aren’t acceptable but they’re not being
directed we go for the quick hit we want
the instant solution even if it isn’t a
long-term solution that makes us more
healthy you can get a solution but it
may not be sustainable in a healthful
way the bottom line is and that approach
we usually drug people so at UC Berkeley
they tried something different no drugs
did something you’re going to think
sounds so stupid here’s all they did
they came up with a simple approach they
took people that were clinically
depressed this means you achieved high
levels of depression you’ve got
certification now you are clinically
depressed you are an achiever at the
depression level this means you practice
this pattern on a regular basis and they
took them in my way I know I’m sounding
obnoxious right now I’m not trying to
make depression sound like these people
are terrible because I felt that my life
a long time ago too but I don’t go there
anymore because I know exactly what
creates it and I want to break the
pattern of us thinking we’re not in
control so please understand where I’m
really coming at the point is here’s
what they did
they had people come for four weeks
stand in front of this mirror that has
three parts to it and do one silly play
grin from ear to ear
and they had to make them smile for no
good reason for 20 minutes now when
they’re doing this pedigree is so big
that they created crow’s feet on the
side of the eye you know that will set a
line you’re smiling so big now
interesting and they keep the shoulders
back while they’re doing this and
breathe full you know no idea what
happened not a single person was able to
remain the perhaps including woman who
claimed that she was depressed even
while she slept which is one heck of an
accomplishment and you know it’s
interesting at the end of these 20 days
many of them had no need for medication
anymore and it’s
all they change only one part of what we
call their try and just the physical
part that’s how powerful it is
see if you rise up if you move up if you
use your body in a totally different way
you’re going to feel different emotion
is created by motion see we have 80
muscles in our face how many of them are
you using collectively are you doing
anything different with your body so you
can feel different or do you do the same
things so you feel the same things you
look at your list you have written down
there that list represents a few
patterns that you do in your body on a
regular basis and you don’t even think
about it and whenever you do it you’re
gonna feel some make you feel good when
you do that so make it feel bad I know
when you think about a movement to
breathe you gotta move to sing you gotta
move to speak if I start talking like
this I’m moving organs in my body in a
different way if I starts I’m gonna
share with extraordinary life during the
next seven thousand hours of this
program you got turn this guy off quick
there’s got to be some combination of
energy there and that energy comes
because I’m not sitting in a chair here
I don’t have a script in front of me I’m
looking this microphone I’m visualizing
your face and I’m trying to think what I
can give you that I know make a
difference based on 25 years of
experience I’m totally the number one
thing has changed the way you move
change the way you use your body and
you’ll change the way you feel now
instantly I don’t care how bad you felt
if you change it now if you just change
it for a second and you move your hands
up for a moment you make a little minor
change you’ll get a minor change in
feeling but if you make a radical change
if you go yes I’m doing this now I’m
sick of this I promise you’re gonna feel
different if you go I don’t know what to
do I know this sounds so stupid but it
works and you know what the best study
life is what works even if it’s simple
it’s nice to have think so but why do we
have to make it so hard to feel good
here’s the second part of the triad the
second part is the pattern of focus and
belief and they relate to one another
see whatever you focus on you’re going
to feel whether it’s true or not have
you ever had an experience where
somebody did something or you thought
somebody did
even better example you heard you
thought and you thought they did it to
take advantage of you
and as you focused on that you got angry
or sad or hurt and then later on you
thought that you are dead wrong that
either they never get it it wasn’t true
or that wasn’t their intent and you felt
bad about it or you felt embarrassed how
can that be because whenever we focus on
we feel whether it’s true or not
focus equals feeling just like the way
you move affects your feeling your right
now if I said to you what are you juiced
about in your life what could you be
excited about if you really wanted to be
exciting your life right now what could
you be excited or what are you proud of
or could you determine who you wanna be
or who are you like a really loud who
loves you in comparison who do you
really love who loves you by the way
how’s that feel when you focus on when
you think about something you love see
whatever you focus on you’re going to
feel focus equals reality to the
individual even though it’s not reality
in actuality I’ll say that again
focus equals reality to the individual
even though it’s not reality in
actuality that’s a complicated way of
saying what if you focus on you’re going
to feel this joy not because your brain
doesn’t know the difference between
something you vividly imagine it’s gonna
focus on or something you actually
experience but very powerful if you use
this to your advantage it means
something very simple how fast can you
change how you feel as fast as you
change your focus as fast as you change
the way you move see right now if you’re
focused on something that’s really
upsetting or something you’re worried
about or something you’re fearful about
you’re going to feel those feelings if
you focus on something you’re really
grateful for it you’re going to feel a
totally different set of feelings so you
are in control and you can change your
feelings at instant
the problem is we don’t believe we can
change that fast and the second problem
is we have patterns of doing this don’t
we tend to like on a regular basis focus
on what overwhelms us or focus on what
we’re upset with in our spouse or focus
on why we failed in the past
so you keep focusing on things where you
didn’t succeed guess what you’re gonna
feel like a failure when you feel like a
failure you’re not going to take action
to make things better you can’t build on
the past that doesn’t work but you can
also focus on what you want and what you
want to create you can focus on the
solution when you had a problem there
he’s got problems but 95% your time has
got to be spent on the solution 5% a
problem most of spent on time describing
the problem more and more and more and
more detail we wonder why they feel
overwhelmed focus is the secret key to
changing and you can do it in an instant
one way to change your focus is to
change the third thing your language
patterns see all day long we’re thinking
or thinking all day long you’re asking
and answering questions with yourself
should I do this what does this mean why
is this where is this going on
that’s what initiates thinking is a
question the problem is we have patterns
of questions we ask that don’t serve us
some of those questions like how can
this always happens to me well it
doesn’t always happen to you but if you
ask a lousy question like that a regular
basis your brain goes because you’re
eating you know how come I can never
lose weight well you can lose weight but
ask a lousy question asking you shall
what you receive how come I can never
lose weight your brain says because
you’re a big you know come up with a
better question for God’s sake see
questions direct Asst questions are a
form of language and if you want to
change your life one of things I have
people discover is what questions are
asking and also what phrases do you say
a lot because phrases hypnotize us we
have certain words by themselves they’ll
change what you feel somebody says to
you hey listen I think you’re mistaken
about that you might have one feeling
they go you’re wrong you feel something
very different just by the language and
something says you’re a line and a whole
different feeling don’t you one word can
change the way you feel when someone
else speaks it to you the words you
select powerfully affecting I don’t mean
just being positive and doing the Stuart
Smalley thing where you’ve got positive
self-talk right and you say I’m good
enough I’m strong enough and by calling
people like no I mean noticing the habit
of the woods and the emotions they
create and then third part of language
is the phrases that you say with such
emotional intensity we start
we call those incantations incantations
like if you remember studying mythology
you know sorcerer would come up prints
over and over again a phrase over and
over again with such intensity that he
hypnotized men think that even the Frog
so of course you want the Frog that’s
what the experience we experience
whatever we focus on we feel whenever we
picture we feel whatever we say to
ourselves we feel whatever we do with
our bodies those are the three patterns
if you change those three patterns any
one of the three you’re going to change
how you feel if you change all three
you’re going to radically change how you
feel if you change the pattern of how
you use your body if you change the
pattern of what you focus on daily which
by the way I’m going to show you a
technique for dealing today that could
change your life very simple if you
change the pattern of what you say to
yourself with the emotional intensity
you say it you’re going to change the
pattern how do you feel now that means
you could pick any feeling you want say
if I want to feel that way what do I do
with my body when I’m in that state how
do I move how do I speak what do I do
let me try it what when I’m feeling that
good what do I focus on it what do I
really focus on and by the way what does
it mean to me when I focus on it because
you can focus on something and one
person looks at and says because that
happened that’s why I can never be close
to another man a woman in my life that’s
why I can never trust again and somebody
else had the same experience thing you
know because that happened what I’ve
learned so much about myself because
that happened I appreciate the person
I’m with now so much you can’t have a
foreground without a background that’s
the secret to life we have absolute
choice we have absolute control about
how we feel and whatever feelings we put
in our lives on a regular basis will
determine the quality of our lives so
you can have frustration anger upset
overwhelm insecurity you can be fearful
you can live in a say guilt worry
whatever or you can live in a place
called passion joy thankfulness great
from its connection Wow wonder and if
you create those emotions on a regular
basis are you gonna have a different
life you bet you are okay so how do we
take these three understandings and make
it smooth enough to think about it but
we actually on a regular basis condition
ourselves to have the great emotions we
want and get really emotions you don’t
want well first step is awareness so
next time you start to feel like ah so
frustrated so angry about this
you’re doing with your cheeks what are
you doing with your mouth what happened
to your breathing just now to do that
what’s that mean your eyebrows are you
tightening your fingers in your hands we
all have very specific things we do to
get into our version of anger or
frustration or tired or overwhelmed does
that make sense just notice what’s
happening a body
okay I’m not breathing that’s a clue let
me start with a little change there my
mother so tight I can’t even talk that
might be a clue why you’re a little
uptight so loosen your jaw
second thing okay what am i focusing on
I’m focusing on how you know this this
isn’t working now to help you understand
the belief part ask yourself in order to
feel this way what would I have to
believe in order to be frustrated what
would I have to believe I have to
believe that it should be done and it
isn’t and it’s not and it’s not working
well maybe it isn’t working but it’s not
going to help you to focus on it isn’t
working let’s focus on what we can do or
if you say you know I feel I feel like
it’s hopeless because in order to feel
hopeless I have to believe that there’s
nothing I can do is that really true
because there’s nothing you can do or
you just caught up in a state are you
just caught up in a pattern
see if you ask yourself what do I have
to believe to feel this way it’ll help
you to break that part of a triad
because you’ll start playing out and
they’re really even true all right
that’ll help you then third part of
awareness is say okay I’m going to say
to myself why do they do this how come
they always do these things why don’t
they ever listen I’m asking Allah allows
e questions because they may listen
sometimes but I’m saying no I’m saying
it with total intensity of course I’m
going to say that let me change what I’m
saying
let me change what I’m asking how can I
turn this away what do I need to focus
on to make this work what’s the truth
here you know maybe I can’t control all
but I can throw what means to me what
does this really mean if you just have
that awareness and you break your
pattern you can get out of a negative
emotion in the moment then you say well
how I want to feel I feel like that one
would have to focus on right now won’t
have to believe not to believe you know
what I can turn anything around I don’t
may not like it but I can make it happen
it’s just another challenge that God
given me to sculpt my soul thrown at me
that’s what this is about
now here’s what you can do that’ll make
this part of your life
you make it a simple ritual when you use
the word ritual some people think of
something religious or something you
know hocus pocus rituals a simple rhythm
or Thor rituals would be habits but I
think rituals is better because every
person has rituals whether they know it
or not in fact your rituals equal your
results if you look at your life and
let’s say your body is not where it
wants to be I promise you whether you
know it or not you got rituals what do
you do you start your day – same way
each day I’m sure you start your day by
first going on a wrong walk or exercise
approach you eat really consciously
that’s why you’re overweight right wrong
you know you may be starting off at
Starbucks you know and then you’re going
for that muffin and then you’re rushing
off and not really taking care of
yourself and so your body never gets the
right start and what do you end up doing
when you get to the office you have a
set of rituals whenever people are
failing
they have rituals that cause them to
fail cause them to fail to achieve what
they want listen if you come home and
the first thing you do when you go home
is you go straight into turning on your
email you know and flip it on or you
flip on the news in the background and
you do all these different things if the
first thing you don’t do people have
rituals in their relationships what’s
yours
what’s the first thing you do
consistently each day when you go home I
know every day is different but there’s
some overall patterns aren’t there I
mean people have a great relationship
have a very different Rijal of people
that don’t you know there may be people
that love each other but there’s no
passion because what’s the first thing
they do their rituals come on
hey honey a little kiss on the cheek and
then boom go straight and turn on the
email or boom go and turn on the news or
something in the background or say you
know I gotta go take a break right now
they don’t connect they don’t have some
ritualistic way to connect that produces
energy and excitement or playfulness or
fun you need a couple that are really in
love they have fun thing and my first
thing I do and I’m not saying we’re the
ideal but you know this is the weird
thing we do I come home the first half
of the door closed I go Lucy you know
because I remember as a kid watching
Lucy Arnaz and sure enough you know I
Love Lucy my wife is a crazy mofo my
wife is a crazy nut right that’s why
we’re made for each other and you know
it creates a different tone and
different energy
and then oftentimes we do different
things but all said nothing where are
you you know she’ll hide or she’ll come
running at me you know like you know you
we haven’t seen each other for years you
know playful Amy hug and twirl you do
this stuff all the time I mean I’m
making this up you talk people go to my
personal assistant very often the most
common question she gets Udall sage niya
you know I’ve seen them in the seminars
I’ve seen in this environment I mean
they’re not like that really all the
time are they and that’s how bad our
society has become because most people’s
rituals do not produce playfulness they
don’t produce passion you know produce
sensuality or teasing or flirting
happens or somebody at work but maybe
not with a person you’re in love with at
all see rituals shape your life so what
this is about
is discovering a set of rituals that’ll
make you stronger for every area of your
life but I want this also to become kind
of a trigger for you to say okay if I’m
not thrilled with a certain part of my
life
what’s my ritual on that area of my life
what are my financial rituals is it
avoidance you know do I really get
focused on it do I pay attention to it
because if it’s not working you got the
wrong ritual find someone is succeeding
and find out what they do differently
and do that your life will change that’s
the essence that we’re starting with so
we’re going to give you a simple
fundamental ritual we call the hour of
power or 30 minutes to thrive because
everybody’s got 30 minutes or at least
15 minutes to be fulfilled so what does
it look like here’s what it is simply at
the end of this session there’s another
CD you can actually take with you on a
walk you can go and make this process
happen and I’ll guide you through it in
case you forget how this works but it’s
pretty simple it has three parts here’s
what you’re going to do the first step
is that you want to make sure that the
moment you wake up in the morning there
is no hesitancy to get up so you start
to train your body which is training
your mind remember your body and minor
length whatever you do with your body
it’s going to affect your mind you want
to train your body and jump out of bed
immediately with energy without
hesitancy and to start moving because
remember emotion comes from motion we’ve
got to move now ideally you would
exercise in the morning there’s a lot of
reasons to do that because of all the
times and by the way I’m a night person
so I understand it all morning I’m
jumping out of bed in the morning I turn
on around men
at 1:00 in the morning sometimes I’m
going to bed 2 4 or 5 so what I’m
talking about you can adapt but just
hear me out the ideal time to workout is
in the morning because if you exercise
in the morning you turn on your
metabolism and you have it for the whole
day if you don’t exercise you get no
metabolism you just keep gaining fat and
your body loses its strength and you
lose muscle every single year especially
as you age but if you can train yourself
to do that in the morning is the first
thing even if you have to get up earlier
go to bed slightly earlier I just take
one hour less sleep or 30 minutes little
sleep or 15 minute left sleep if you can
do that in the morning you turn on the
metabolism but you also turn on your
emotions movement and breath are the
first stage so what’s going to do have
your shoes beside your bed and if you’ve
got something to do this with is even
better I mean if you got your lover and
the first thing you do is get in the
morning and you can spend time walking
with them that’s great but you get up
and you physically move if you go for a
walk anywhere you get outside you get
out of the house you move immediately
now walking doesn’t sound very dynamic
and you may want to run but you walk
first to start warming up your body
warming up your metabolism and as you’re
walking there’s a pattern of breathing
that when you do it it will stimulate
your body to cleanse itself and it’ll
start to move everything you need and
the ratio of breath is you’re inhaling
for breaths in a row so then you’re
exhaling for a row as you’re doing this
you’re actually going to be tapping
fingers you’ll be doing this same
pattern again and again
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this pattern of breathing will alter
your state you will literally after
doing this for about five minutes you’re
going to feel radically different now
you’re going to inhale through your nose
as you probably heard and exhale out
your mouth and this is something called
breath walking
they’ve been studies done on this at MIT
and it literally alters brain
functioning you don’t have to know the
study is to be able to feel what it does
in your system so all you going to do is
for the first five minutes enjoy
yourself get up you don’t have to worry
about oh I got a run right now my back’s
sore you just get up and you start to
walk you walk for about five minutes
with this breathing pattern step two you
get grateful and you begin to visualize
so in Phase two what you’re going to do
now is you’re going to cultivate the
emotion of gratitude what you’re going
to do very simply is remember I said
fear disappears when you’re grateful the
minute you’re grateful you’re rich when
you have everything you like to be
grateful for you don’t feel that emotion
you got nothing you’re poor so this has
to be a daily emotion it’s like the
antidote to all the stress the antidote
to all the frustration but you got to
cultivate it because if you go into a
state of depression on a regular basis
pretty soon your body goes there
automatically because it’s conditioned
it’s trained it’s like what we call
anchoring it by going into that
physiology by breathing and by
visualizing so what you’re going to do
is you’re going to focus on ask yourself
what are all the things in my life I’m
grateful for awhile you walk to outdoors
you’re moving so your pattern of
physiology makes you feel good now how’s
your moving you’re thinking about
editing a great before it I usually
start with a circle I start with myself
right here and my wife’s age and I think
about all the things I’m grateful to God
for my life my health I start to think
immediately okay my family members and I
think about that I send love to them I
make this spiral of thought going out
and then I think about my close friends
and my close business associates and
then all the people I get to serve you
might work in the world and I just
expand it you think of moments you’re
grateful for you know a moment that I
had with my son where he shared
something with me just made me cry it
was so beautiful you know there are
moments in your life so what are we
doing we’re moving breathing that’s
changing our physiology or being
grateful that’s a focus and so now you
change your focus and now what you focus
on is everything that you really want in
your life but you focus on it from the
state as if it’s already been achieved
I honestly start just giving thanks for
it is it’s not I am
so grateful that business skills come
together the way it has so what I do is
I begin to see it as if it’s already
done because remember your brain can’t
tell the difference between something
you vividly imagine then something you
actually experience so I see it I feel
it I think about it I feel the emotion
as if it’s already achieved the more you
can program your body and your mind and
your emotions if something’s achieved
your brain can do things you’re unaware
of and if you focus on what you want
continuously you’ll move towards it
whatever you focus on you move towards
most people are focused on what they’re
afraid of so as an example and
somebody’s out of control in a car they
immediately look at the wall they don’t
want to hit and of course as they look
at it they steer right into it
the same thing happens in life wherever
you focus that’s where you go don’t
focus on what you fear focus on what you
want and make it real the more certain
you are that what you want can happen
the easiest for your brain to figure
away when you say this is important your
brain starts noticing anything that’ll
get you to what’s important and if you
believe it’s already happened you know
enough about wife that when you have
that kind of certainty your brain will
find the way now you start focusing on
today what do you want to create that
you think about meaning is going to
happen what do you want to make that
happen third I got to go to this meeting
what do I want most people think about
what they have to do think about what
you want to do who do you want to turn
on excite make happy who do you want to
make a laugh what do you want to achieve
there what do you want to accomplish the
more you can see it in advance you can
remember everything that’s in your
outside world started in your inside
wall everything in my life my kids my
businesses this conversation with you
started as something in my head and now
it’s real the same is true for you you
got to create in your head first the way
you want it if you wanted to show up in
your life the way you want it most
people create and what they don’t want
and so of course they keep manifesting
what they don’t want so even for this
day now focus on what do you want to
create out of this day think about
what’s coming up how do you want it to
go how do you want to feel how could you
respond and just get yourself juiced
about the day so now what you need to do
is incantations so if you’re walking as
you’re walking you can be doing this you
need to be doing it with the same breath
you started with or you can be going I
love my life
I love my life I love my life you guys
sound so positive think you don’t you
know what if you do it over and over
again you’re gonna be vibrated I’ve done
incantations my entire life it’s how
I’ve conditioned myself 25 years ago
when I first started speaking was 17
years old I make some changes in my life
really quickly and I started sharing it
and I did enough speaking skills but I
had a state you know when you’re in
state and things just flow just like
having a conversation you not to think
about it comes out of you and I made
myself get in state because I was
fearful so I said I got to focus on how
to serve not on am I going to do a good
job I need to focus on giving not on how
am I going to do if you feel good how
you’re going to do you’re going to get
worried so I created an incantation and
I’ve done it for 25 years before I go
onstage every single time is anyone’s
been backstage they’ll see what I do I
make a big change in my body take an
explosive breath and I do this thing I
call a power move that stimulates my
body so I’m at the strongest data I can
be second thing I do is I give my
incantation and what I do is I say this
I say I now command my subconscious mind
to direct me in helping as many people
as possible day to better their lives by
giving me the strength the emotion the
persuasion the humor the brevity
whatever it takes to show these people
and get these people to change their
life now and I do it again and again and
again now I can do it once today and I’m
there because I used to do this
literally for 45 minutes driving
someplace I’m driving my old Volkswagen
bug I’m supposed to do this speech to
share with people how they can do these
things I’m supposed to meet this person
one-on-one and I would literally chant
this out loud now why do you do it out
loud because if you don’t in your hand
it doesn’t affect you speaking engages
your physiology and when you speak with
certainty and intensity it conditions
you so the bottom line is you do this
when he walks up here conscious about
this you can do it under your breath
like I said you can doing a breathing
pattern you can do something simplistic
like you know every day and every way
I’m getting stronger and stronger as
you’re jogging as you’re walking every
day in every way I’m getting stronger
and stronger some old phrase from an old
book some years ago anything will work
as long as you say it with intensity
every day and every way I’m feeling
happier and happier every day and you
say it again again and what you’ll
actually get is a rhythm I’ll tell you
what incantations do in case it sounds
stupid to you lame little help have you
ever made the fatal mistake of going to
Disney with and getting on a ride called
it’s the small world after all if you
have you know the power of incantations
is what’s stuck in your head for the
next three weeks that song in 37
languages right or if you hear a song
and you get it in your head and you
can’t get it out you know that goes on
and on and on well this is a way to get
the right idea in your head and
condition it and not just the idea the
field so now what you need to do is
exercise
ideally 20 minutes no less than 15 30
even better and even do 45 minutes
that’s wonderful that’s how you get to
the out and so at the end of this hour
of power you want to celebrate you want
to say my god I got myself to do this
thing that set me up for victory now you
won’t have to work at celebrating I
promise you you’ll feel so good you’d be
vibrating especially if you did the
incantations now this process you might
so I’m not going to run in five times a
week and you don’t have to you can just
go on a walk and you can do this process
this hour power focus and you can spend
10 minutes on gratitude 10 minutes on
visualizing 10 minutes on what you want
to have happen today and do it in 30
minutes this is your freedom but I can
tell you if you’ll give yourself an hour
where 15 or 20 of those minutes are
based on these three things
massive changes in your physiology that
make you feel great massive changes in
your focus that make you focus
specifically on gratitude and
specifically on what you want to have
happen and feel
like it’s already been achieved and then
massive changes where you push your body
to be stronger and you make some
incantations you say some phrases over
and over at least five or ten minutes of
it you will have conditioned your mind
your body your emotions and your spirit
will soar and now you will be all
problems radically differently than what
you promised will be challenges for you
and more importantly you’ll be excited
to connect with people you’d be excited
about your projects you will affect
people around you in a different way
because you will have an extraordinary
psychology now by the way these these
fundamental rituals they really come
down once again to doing something to
change your body something to change
your focus something to change your
language and what I come up with this
well the biggest changes of my entire
life have always been engaging those
three forces I mean I have called it the
triad then or the hour of power but
these are things that change me when I
was in my very early stage of my life
and my mother and father got in this
major conflict and my mom got really
upset so she kicked my father out and
you get a sense of who was the power in
the relationship by that description
don’t you but the bottom line is she
thought I was in his side so I went out
next and it was Christmas Eve and I had
to figure out how to survive and so one
of the things I did was I stayed at some
friends houses I dealt with you know I
lived a pretty intense and crazy life at
that stage I was 17 years old and I was
working as a janitor and I worked in a
place called San Marino California and I
was living in a city called Azusa I was
still in high school and I would
literally take buses to be able to get
to this place in San Marino I worked
with two banks security Pacific Bank and
Lloyds and I literally loved being a
janitor because I could work in the
middle of the night and you got paid for
results you know sort of lollygagging
along then I kicked bud I went in there
putting you know the equivalent my
iTunes on but in those days it was this
big 8-track portable player let’s show
you how ancient I am but I carried
around from room to room and man I just
kicked butt
and I got through that thing you know
they gave me six hours to do and I think
I used to do it remember right like in
three and a half or four but it took
hours to get there hours to get back not
just one bus but how to make connections
on them so long story short I’m doing
this I’m not getting much sleep and
getting up in the morning going to
school
and I’m burning out but I’m still
sticking with and I’m upset with my mom
because I feel like she is not listening
to me and frankly this is not an attack
on my mom thank God she did this has
made me so strong at the time I hated
her guts honestly but you know she she
was pushing me and waves I didn’t really
realize at the time you know you don’t
always understand as a kid I just had my
own story about it but all I knew was
are trying to survive and the bottom
line of the story reason I’m telling you
this in terms of rituals of this you
know I finished maybe 130 one o’clock in
the morning and then I get out there and
I jump on that late night bus and start
the long journey home well interesting
enough on this night I get out there I’m
waiting for the bus waiting for the bus
waiting for the bus and I’m gone I know
it and miss it and I kept my eye out on
it because you know I couldn’t afford to
miss the bus is the only bus till
morning or you know I don’t know in
hours and hours later I never discovered
that but I knew I had to be on that bus
and nothing came an alibi and nothing
came an hour and a half went by now
limits I don’t know the real-time I
can’t remember honestly but somewhere
around 2:30 3:00 in the morning I’m
freaking out and so sure enough guess
what somebody comes by and goes hey kid
what are you doing I said what are you
talking about this man he said you know
the buses aren’t coming because I’m
sitting on the bench he said there’s a
bus strike so what we do you know I
didn’t have any friends with cars
I couldn’t quote call home and get a
lift so I finally thought I got to get
home and I started walking I thought at
this pace of walking I’m never gonna get
there so inside of me something just
snapped
something got mad something got intense
and what I started to do is started to
jog I can’t jog all this way home and
then something inside of me when you’re
gonna find the way you’re gonna find a
way and I started doing these
incantations in those days I just
started wienies books on programming my
minds with those old basic books and I
started as with jogging on every day and
every way I’m getting stronger and
stronger every day and every way I’m
getting stronger and stronger and then I
after doing this over and over again it
became like an addiction you ever had
one of those songs get stuck in your
head you know as you ever make that
fatal mistake of going to Disneyland and
riding on that ride called it’s a small
world after all
and then that song is stuck in your head
for like next three weeks in 167
languages well if this can happen in a
positive way this incantation I kept
changing on getting healthier and
healthier I’m getting stronger and
stronger honestly I think in the very
beginning I went I’m gonna show her I’m
gonna show her you know it was anger
initially honestly I’m gonna show my mom
she can’t stop me got a thing and then
it converted into joy I ran from San
Marino to Azusa how long is that
accurately I can’t tell you to the exact
mile but it’s roughly 12 miles I’d ever
run three miles in my life but I want to
tell you something at the end of that
run I never felt stronger in my entire
life I felt like I could storm through
anything nothing was going to stop me
and that created a whole new momentum in
my life and what was it physiology focus
and language at the most intense level
and literally to this day when I have
faced things in my life over the last
20-30 years I can pull back up that
moment that experience without even
thinking about it it almost gave me it’s
like it made that fundamental muscle now
after that time in my life my life
started to take off and eventually
obviously amended things with my mom or
my family and everything became
beautiful and equally importantly I grew
as a man I wasn’t a stupid boy he was
just focused on himself I really started
shift how I contribute how he could grow
how I could make a difference in a short
period of time at a very young age here
I was you know very successful young man
I was written up in newspapers and
magazines my nickname was Wonder Boy my
ego started to grow real big you know
and the interesting thing happened was I
then got beyond my comfort zone I
started feeling that third killer I
didn’t call it man but I started feeling
inner conflicts I mentioned this when I
talked to you a little bit in that first
session on decisions and destiny but I
found myself in a place where I was
making a lot of money and I grew up very
poor and I had this blueprint this
mindset that said man you know I’ve gone
through you know three divorces or my
mom I seen these men come and go all of
those arguments were based on financial
stress that’s the story I had in my head
obviously it was more than that they had
conflicts and their values and their
beliefs but I simplified it to that so I
thought man I can earn enough money I
can make everybody happy love will be
there it’s not what happened I went back
and start hanging out with my friends
and all of a sudden they’re sad like
yeah you got money now and
I had all this judgment I was never
doing it for money I was doing good want
to make a difference and I wanted have
some financial freedom too so you know I
started doing started to sabotage myself
I didn’t do it consciously I did that
unconsciously start not showing up for
key meetings started showing up late you
know started snapping at people and I’m
a loving guy and I feel bad about it and
then I’d apologize to the person who can
I go do it again it was like
unconsciously I want to get back to
where I knew everybody be okay with me
it’d be okay if I was successful but not
too financially successful and the
bottom line is if you’ve heard story of
my life before you know people come up
saying how did you change your life you
know you’re back there in Venice that’s
where I was I lost everything
financially I moved into this cheap
little you know one room bachelor part
of it not a bedroom just one room I was
living in that room I had my little
cooking plate I had I used to wash my
dishes in the bathtub
25:16 Pacific Avenue apartment 3a have
you ever gonna check it out so I
literally went back there years ago and
knocked on the door to see who was
living there and see if I could help him
out see even lightning could strike
twice in the same place that’s a whole
nother story I’ll tell you sometime but
the point is I found myself in this
place where I was waking up each day
feeling sorry for myself you know my
life was a mess I was watching
television all the time I was eating to
try and fill myself up because I wasn’t
filled up emotionally and I gained 38
pounds and about two and a half months
and again that’s not easy to do so you
know what did I do I kept eating and
just not moving as much as possible but
would change me was a series of events
one in particular but a series of them
that really made me feel humiliated made
me look at my life and say man somewhere
inside of me I know I’m more than what
I’m demonstrating mentally and
emotionally and physically and
financially and spiritually and the day
that all snapped for me the way I
changed it was with the same ritual I
didn’t think about it consciously
I doesn’t look I got this big gut I got
no energy I feel like I had no control
over my life so I decided I was going to
go on a run now going on run is not
something I done for several years at
that point least year-and-a-half and I
have this big guy and so I put on in
those days what used to be known as a
Walkman
if your ancientness remember those as
well you can see how I was moved from
eight tracks all the way into the
Walkman there’s giant little device with
a headphone I remember I played some
music from a group called hearts
remember them had a song called
Barracuda and I got on that beach and I
ran as hard as I could you may run but I
felt like I was going to spit up blood I
kept on doing it I didn’t know what I
was doing at the time but you know what
I was doing is making a big change in my
physiology and I use the music to put
myself in a peak state of focus and when
I was done I took out this journal I
wrote a line down the middle page and on
one side I wrote everything I was
committed to having in my life
everything and the other side I wrote
everything I’m committed and not having
in my life which was most of ours living
the relationship I was in the way I was
living physically where I was
financially and even know how I was
going to change but I had an absolute
vision for what I wanted I was in a peak
State physically and I started doing
incantations I started doing these I
started going God’s wealth is
circulating in my life his wealth flows
to me and avalanches of abundance all my
needs desires and goals are met
instantaneously by infinite intelligence
for I am one with God and God is
everything and remember so vividly I’m
not looking at some script right now I
remember it vividly because I did it day
after day after day and I didn’t just
say these over and over again I
visualized God’s water circulating in my
life and I see the wealth of God coming
to me in the form of love and joy and
connection and making a difference
his wealth flows to me an avalanche as
of abundance and I’d imagine avalanches
of joy of happiness of impact of money
of love of fun everything an Imogen
I’d feel it in my body that what’s
happening that’s what the circle in my
life is wealth flows to me avalanches
abundance all my needs desires and goals
are met instantaneously by infinite
intelligence I would say with that
intensity and see it I’m one with God
and God of everything over and over and
over and over again so I would wake up
thinking these thoughts because well the
circle in my life I would feel this
connection to God I do this connection
and nature ideal the sense of abundance
and sure enough whenever you focus on
where focus goes energy flows I start
looking for answers what did I do
our power and I continue to do this
today any time I want to strengthen
myself and sometimes I’m not even trying
to strengthen I just want to get in the
state of momentum I go into an hour of
power and I do it different ways but it
always includes a change in the
physiology my focus my language my sense
of vision and gratitude I can do at
different times of great all kinds of
writing use music and elements but it
never leaves me and by the way I promise
to tell you exactly what Pat Riley did I
said you know how to tap when he lost
the second game of the NBA championship
two in a row and he’s looking his
players and he sees that they don’t
believe they can turn this around and
all the media saying only two teams in
history I’ve ever been able to come back
from zero and two and win the
championship and you don’t have a
historic team here it’s not like you
have the greatest players in the world
on your team he’s hearing all this how
do you find a way to find that internal
certainty that could get him to mentally
believe but do what’s necessary to
maximize his ability as a coach how do
you find enough certainty that he could
transfer that to his team he did his own
version our power does it to this day
perhaps way of doing it as he gets a
little walk going and then he does these
yoga like postures that cause him to
make this radical change in the way that
he’s sitting moving breathing and
focusing and then he starts to get
visions he starts to meditate and he get
the vision for what he’s really after
that was afraid of what he wants he
asked quality question give him follow
the answers and then of course he had
the incantations for himself and for his
team they have a theme that they repeat
again and again and again until it
literally gets in their nervous system
want to pass most fundamental belief
systems that he uses with an incantation
with his teams as long as you as a coach
but simply this we are the best
conditioned strongest toughest most
disliked team in the league because you
wanted to be so strong that they could
say for anything and all these guys get
that in their body day after day after
day but it was in one of these sessions
and he got some insight to say we are
winning he got the vision we’re going to
win 12 days from today and then his
second hour of power he got the inside
ok I’m gonna get these guys to have
certainty because I’m gonna tell him
they’re only bringing one suit or not
booking in any other hotel rooms only
one night there isn’t going to be a
seven
and we’re winning on the 6th game and
we’re even gonna book the venue for
victory here in Miami that night when we
get home
I mean I’m gonna box us in he got that
oven out there and then the sharing of
the experience of Martin Luther King’s
writings that came on his third day of
our power during this process you want
insights you want an extraordinary body
it takes a ritual doesn’t it her ritual
of diet or a ritual of exercise if you
want an extraordinary emotion and spirit
it takes rituals one of those you might
want to add to this our power is prayer
if you believe in prayer this is it this
is the formula maybe the greatest prayer
is not asking for things but saying
thank you thank you look getting in that
place on a daily basis from no less than
15 minutes the fulfillment and ideally
the hour of power will change your life
more than anything else if you did it
for six months your life will never be
the same because all the research shows
that if you even exercise for six months
you’ll exercise for the rest of your
life because it becomes physically
addictive to you if you get away from it
you’ll feel pulled to do it all you got
to do right now is give it a week or 10
days do this with me for 10 days and I
promise you you’re going to get some
momentum by the way if you want to
guarantee success do it for 30 this
process works
all you got to do is give yourself the
gift of a little bit of time each day
are you going to do it are you gonna
follow through you bet you are and I’ll
be with you each step of the way I know
this audio session is much longer than
any other other than a workshop because
I really wanted to hopefully engage it
my goal let’s do everything I could to
get you to give yourself what you
deserve and to tell you the three things
that you got to take control of and to
remind you of the fundamentals that your
life is nothing but your emotions if you
get the right emotions you’ll work out
if you’re determined you’ll work out you
can change a state that fast but you
gotta get to have it okay sold I hope so
because the sale is for you it’s not for
me it’s for you to create what you want
long term if you will do this and you’ll
even do it four days a week if you’ll
just get a habit that you’ll commit to a
nut break your pride will soar because
when you just discipline yourself a tiny
bit by the way doesn’t feel like this
with what it feels like
when you do it but if you discipline
yourselves just a little bit you get a
positive habit you consciously created
it spills over to all the areas of your
life so thank you for listening and what
I want you to do is come on I want you
to go do this first thing in the morning
don’t you start out your day by doing
this hour of power or this 30 minutes to
thrive or these 15 minutes and selmak
just do it by the way if this sounds
complex I have overloaded you because
it’s been a long session don’t worry
I’ll walk you through it fresh as we do
it but make sure you get started the
hardest part is the first step the
hardest part to get is momentum so my
friend I plead with you give yourself
this gift today I mean this is really
one of the most important decisions of
your life
I hope my crazy outrageous approach
pushed you in the right direction and
then push you away help somehow I found
my way into your heart or your intellect
or whatever part of you we’ve got to
reach to push the button that launches
your life to the next level the level
deserves to be so this is the beginning
of a brand new journey and I’m really
grateful that you’ve allowed me to be
your coach in this first part of the
process I think we can make immense
progress so let’s start taking real
action let’s not just talk a good game
you and I let’s do it