no justified resentments and this is a
very difficult principle for many people
to get but one that I believe very
strongly in I was in a group one time of
drug addicts and alcoholics and I was
one of the people that was a sponsor and
leading this group and the sign on the
wall said there are no justified
resentments in this group and what I
said to that group that that night was
no matter what anybody says to you here
no matter what kind of anger comes
directed towards you no matter how much
hate you may encounter showing up in
your life there are no justified
resentments meaning that if you carry
around resentment inside of you about
anything or about anyone and I’m talking
about the person that you lent money to
and hasn’t paid you back I’m talking
about the person in your life that you
feel was abusive in your life I’m
talking about the person who walked out
on you and left you for somebody else
I’m talking about all of the things that
you have justified in your heart and in
your life that you have the right to be
resentful about and I’m suggesting to
you that those resentments will always
end up harming you and creating in you a
sense of despair I’ve often said that
you know one ever dies from a snake bite
the snake bite will never kill you you
cannot be unbidden once you’re bitten
you’re bitten but it’s the venom that
continues to pour through your system
after the bite
that will end up destroying you we used
to be pioneers that’s how this country
was settled and and we stopped
pioneering new things we we stay where
it’s comfortable we played where it’s
safe we we don’t really get out into the
wild or the possibilities we stay in the
confined cade of that that is tangible
in touchable nine-to-five and that’s it
but we need more creativity but we need
to follow our instincts now without that
you you may make some money but you
won’t find fulfillment I’ll never forget
a recent experience doing my business on
Wall Street getting on the train to come
back to midtown one o’clock in the
afternoon normally there’s a lull
this train should be empty but on this
day the train was full full of people
all in businesses a guy recognizes me
comes over says hey are you Chris
Gardner we started talking turns out I’m
in the car with the first wave of the
55,000 people who had just been laid off
by Citibank and I noticed something
everyone’s holding up box you’ve seen
the boxes you’ve seen them on television
they’ve got the house plant a coffee mug
the pictures of their kids and they’re
all going home they’re all going home to
tell their wife their husband their
children and the landlord they don’t
have a job I began to share with this
young guy that do you know what yeah you
lost your job but you haven’t lost your
skills your talent or your expertise
what we’ve got to do now is create
opportunities where the skilled talent
and expertise can be transferable
creating an opportunity and looking for
a job are two different things this
could be prime time for pushing your
button rather finding your button what
do I mean by that prime time to find
that one thing that you love to do so
much you would get up in the morning and
do it free prime time to find that one
thing that the Sun cannot comes up soon
enough in the morning because you want
to go do your thing this could be that
time in your life my mind as I think
about this idea of getting what you
really want and being able to attract it
into your life what what we have to look
at is basically the obstacles that we
have conditioned ourselves and you
notice I say that we have conditioned
ourselves because I have never believed
that we need to be putting the
responsibility on someone else if you’re
conditioned it’s because you have
allowed yourself to become that and if
we are conditioned if we conditioned
ourselves to believe certain kinds of
things and one of the things that we
kind of believe and hang on to and live
with is this whole idea that all of the
things that happened to me in my past
are what are keeping me from doing what
I’d like to do today so we hang on to
these things and we fill ourselves with
blame is they I’m the middle child I’m
the youngest child I’m the oldest child
I’m an only child
any one of those is a great excuse you
know if you’re the youngest child you
can say well you know I never how could
I be making decisions for myself and be
a fully fully functioning person today
but I always had somebody else telling
me what to do my whole life how could I
think for myself if you’re the oldest
child you can simply say to yourself how
could I be expected to think for myself
I always had to think for somebody else
I was always doing it for somebody else
and that leaves the middle child
you know the classic identity crisis oh
poor me
my mother didn’t even know my name she’s
always calling me by this one’s name but
that one’s name so I don’t know where I
fit in
so that take care of everybody except
the only child and of course the only
your parents looked at you and said we
won’t be doing that again you have to
live with that I don’t I so everybody
with their birth order or with their
mother like their sister better or that
we had enough but we didn’t have enough
and we had too much or we lived in the
north we lived in the south I’m too tall
I’m too short I’ve got too much hair I
don’t have enough hair it’s falling out
it’s not falling out whatever it is we
all have these excuses and I call all of
these things that we hang on to and use
to keep ourselves from reaching these
higher places in our lives the wake I
call it the wake and the wake is comes
from a story that I heard Alan Watts
tell one time it was a very powerful
story
he said your life is like a boat and
it’s heading up the river that say 40
knots and as it’s going you are somehow
able to metaphorically stand on the
stern the back of the boat and look down
into the water now there goes your life
in this direction and you’re standing
here and you’re looking down into the
water and you ask yourself these three
questions the first question what is the
way what is it what is this thing that
you see and the answer the wake is the
trail that is left behind that’s what it
is nothing more nothing less
it’s the trail that is left you second
question to ask yourself in this little
metaphor what’s driving the boat what’s
making this thing go in this direction
the answer the present moment energy
that’s being generated by the engine and
nothing more that’s the only thing
that’s making the boat go in this
direction and in this little scene this
means it’s the present moment thoughts
that I have and how I am using them that
is making my life go in this direction
and nothing more because the third
question is the most important and
powerful question and I’ve ever ever
since I heard it I’ve always thought
about this whenever I have a tendency to
is it possible for the wake to drive the
boat that is can a trail that is left
behind make a boat go in this direction
and of course the answer to that is no
it can’t it’s just a trail that is left
behind and in that trail there are an
enormous number of things that every one
of us has awake and we have a whole lot
of stuff in it and one of the problems
that we have is that we have a tendency
to look at the wake and all of the stuff
that’s in it to explain why it is my
life isn’t working the way I would like
it to work and who better to quote than
Thoreau right here in Concord when he
talked about some of us here a different
drummer and we must march to the music
that we hear but all of you everybody
watching everybody here in this
beautiful parish all of you have some
music playing and all of you have a
heroic mission
there’s no accidents in this universe we
all show up here with a purpose there’s
an intelligence that is a part of
everything and everyone and all of us
are connected to it and too many of us
are afraid to listen to that music and
March to it you out there I know you
have a book you wanted to write I know
there’s a composition you wanted to
compose I know there’s a song you want
to sing someplace maybe you want to
raise horses out in Montana well maybe
you want to open up an ice cream shop on
Cape Cod who knows what it may be maybe
you just want to travel and see the
world maybe you want to go into a
relationship with someone but you’ve
been afraid to but your heart says it’s
the right thing to do all of us feel
something and in leo tolstoy famous
novel the death of Ivan Illich
he asks this question that would be
terrifying to me
he says as he has this accountant from
Moscow lying on his deathbed
contemplating the horror of this
question what if my whole life has been
wrong I’ve known what my music is it’s
playing right now
as I stand here in front of you with
these cameras and in this place and as I
sit down and write my books and tell the
world what I know are my truths I feel
always completely on purpose and
fulfilled and no time will I ever come
to the end of my life and say what if my
whole life has been wrong whoever you
are whatever that music is however
distant it may sound however strange
however weird others may interpret it to
be don’t get to the end of your life and
know that you’re going to leave and not
have it played yet don’t die with your
musics Delaney Ritz Jocko will Inc you
mentioned retired Navy SEAL commander
used to be in charge of all West Coast
training for the SEAL Teams which is
intense highly highly decorated where
there’s Jocko saying discipline equals
freedom or you look at say some of the
writers or musicians or directors or
others in the book across pretty much
all of them you find that they find
freedom in constraints so what does that
mean it sounds kind of weird it also
sounds very sounds like an oxymoron
right and what I mean by that is all of
these people have routines they have set
recipes that they repeat on a daily and
weekly basis so that they are not making
a lot of extraneous decisions about
mundane things and they also recognize
that we all have our less ourselves our
impulses I love chocolate croissants for
where if I left my entire schedule to
whim I would just eat chocolate
croissants all day long I love them
they’re incredible and I still do have
them once a week I have my cheat day and
I’m allowed to do what I want so I let
my monkey mind and my lesser self just
go nuts
but these people all have typically
these and these are folks we might be
inclined to think of as superheroes and
maybe Jacko’s a supreme girl but the
vast majority have one or two strengths
and they may not even be the best of the
world but one or two strengths they
combine in a really unique way
and they build habits around those
strengths and then they have a thousand
other weaknesses but the habits and
routines are what helped them from going
off the rails and this is really
encouraging this should be really
encouraging because the people we see on
magazine covers that we might idolize
and feel we could never possibly emulate
because they have it all figured out
they have no insecurities they wake up
every morning and with a mental
karate-chop they just master the day
that’s not how it works I know these
people almost everyone in this book
certainly on the podcast I’ve become
friends with hundreds of these people
not true they have tons of not everyone
I don’t speak for everyone but tons of
neuroses tons of terrible self-defeating
habits and the safety that they create
is habits and routines that’s why Jocko
in part says discipline equals freedom
okay so you have trouble waking up in
the morning no problem you want to stage
this is something in Jocko does takes
his clothing prepares gets this sort of
coffee ready to brew clothing on the
floor for the workout right next to his
bed prepared the night before so there
are no decisions there are no
opportunities to make mistakes
between him opening his eyes and jakka
working out and you find this across
everybody it was something that Portia
Nelson who I knew who passed away a few
years back ten years back now
she lived up in Seattle and she had she
was at a seminar and they were asked to
write the autobiography of their life in
five five versus five chapters so and
they gave them only like cards this size
actually they were smaller than this
they were three by five cards so right
out Chapter one of your life and just go
to where you are today and I remember
doing this very same thing but what she
wrote was so brilliant that I asked her
daughter
if we could put it on public television
which I did on the most recent show and
we made a contribution to horses work so
this is what she wrote down in the
chapter fives of her life chapter one
she said I walk down the street there’s
a deep hole in the sidewalk I fall in
I’m lost I’m helpless it isn’t my fault
and it takes forever to find a way out
chapter two of my life I walk down the
same street there’s a deep hole in the
sidewalk I pretend I don’t see it I fall
in again I can’t believe I’m in the same
place it isn’t my fault it still takes a
long time for me to get out chapter
three of my life I walk down the same
street there’s a deep hole in the
sidewalk I see it there I still fall in
it’s a habit but my eyes are open I know
where I am and it is my own fault and I
get out immediately chapter four of my
life I walk down the same street there’s
a deep hole in the sidewalk I walk
around it chapter five of my life
finally
I walk down another Street
they’re great when people ask me like
what example should I look – look what
company should I’m like here’s an
organization with a vision a cause it
was founded with a cause it’s an
entrepreneurial venture it’s America is
an experiment it’s an entrepreneurial
venture where a bunch of people got
together and decided we needed to start
our own country because there were
certain obstacles that were getting in
the way of a vision that we had of a
better kind of country but a kind of
company right and they stated it right
at the beginning all men are created
equal endowed with these unalienable
rights among amongst which include life
liberty and pursuit of happiness and
it’s not a it’s not just a competitive
statement like to be the best to be the
most respected that’s not what it was
and I’m amazed how many companies start
their visions or missions with those
that terribly egocentric language it was
an ideal and the amazing thing is is
we’ve been good at it and bad at it in
our history but it’s endured for 240
plus years because we fundamentally
believed that we are at our best when
we’re pursuing that but it is an ideal
we will never actually achieve all
people are equal but we will die trying
and that’s the point and it’s the same
for a company which is true vision
inside a company is something that has
nothing to do with your product it is an
ideal to which you will attempt to build
an advanced that ideal through your
company with your product you’ll never
achieve the ideal but you’ll die trying
and this is what gives our work meaning
this is what it gives our lives purpose
right the difference between vision and
a goal is the finish line a goal is 26.2
miles
you can simply count the metrics and
know when you’ve completed your goal a
vision is having a crystal-clear sense
of what the finish line looks like but
no idea of how far away it is and it’s
and the reality is you will spend your
entire life never actually crossing the
finish line but the joy that every
marathon you complete you feel like
you’re getting closer every milestone
that you accomplish makes you feel like
you’re getting closer and closer to the
ideal and this is what gives our life
and our work me
no one likes being told what to do and
this isn’t just children this is all of
us one of my favorite songs it’s a song
from when I was back in high school
Oh give me land lots of land and the
starry skies above boy you know it don’t
fence me in don’t restrict me
don’t put don’t put boundaries on me
don’t tell me what I can do and what I
can’t do don’t tell me how to be there
don’t tell me what to wear what to think
don’t tell me how to even how to do yoga
don’t tell me I don’t want to be told
this is the sole speaking always the
soul is constantly having a desire to
expand and grow and anything or anyone
that comes into your life that attempts
to do that you will find yourself
fighting it and reaching back
most people have goals in life and we’ve
been broke think you got to be goal
oriented that’s the first mistake yes
you need goals but there’s something far
beyond goals which is what all
successful people have and that’s a
vision it’s a vision for the future see
the here’s that is you see things as
they are but not worse than they are
yeah which is what a lot of people do
yeah they say oh it’s so terrible they
tell themselves this wild story about
why they can’t take action and in truth
the story they tell themselves is
exactly what holds them back from being
successful okay it’s that bull story
that stops from acting like and they’re
all just so did the economy and they
play the blame game they complain they
justify and it stops them from moving
forward so see things as they are not
worse than they are yeah and then see
them better than they are
yeah and make them that way look at a
Gandhi right he survived hunger strikes
in the ID of the country not cause he
had a goal for free and yet he had a
vision of a free India Nelson Mandela
all those years in jail on vision yeah
it’s Richard Branson who’s a friend of
mine who I know he sponsors me my
my speaking to our visionary Bill Gates
they’re all visionaries and the best
example consider we’re in Hollywood is a
guy like James Cameron now here’s the
trap James camera is probably the
greatest visionary of all time in
filmmaking that would you agree Darrin
he was a food on Diane Sawyer and they
asked him a question of what are you owe
your success to and what he said was
this I said really really high goals so
even if I fall short I’m still doing
great and people thought that was pretty
profound and I actually believed that
too
it’s not true those see what’s happening
is this James Cameron it’s not a goal
setter he’s a visionary he just doesn’t
realize because he’s running unconscious
strategy himself you said the crisis of
James Caan was a really just the goals
but you’re a vision for Avatar he’d say
oh of course I won’t didn’t get all
excited we tell you how nothing was
gonna stop him from making this movie
the fact that it took ten years and ran
200 million over budget he put money in
himself or that’s not a goal setters do
goal setters will set a goal get tough
and they abandon it and I can’t overemphasize that distinction
very difficult principle for many people
to get but one that I believe very
strongly in I was in a group one time of
drug addicts and alcoholics and I was
one of the people that was a sponsor and
leading this group and the sign on the
wall said there are no justified
resentments in this group and what I
said to that group that that night was
no matter what anybody says to you here
no matter what kind of anger comes
directed towards you no matter how much
hate you may encounter showing up in
your life there are no justified
resentments meaning that if you carry
around resentment inside of you about
anything or about anyone and I’m talking
about the person that you lent money to
and hasn’t paid you back I’m talking
about the person in your life that you
feel was abusive in your life I’m
talking about the person who walked out
on you and left you for somebody else
I’m talking about all of the things that
you have justified in your heart and in
your life that you have the right to be
resentful about and I’m suggesting to
you that those resentments will always
end up harming you and creating in you a
sense of despair I’ve often said that
you know one ever dies from a snake bite
the snake bite will never kill you you
cannot be unbidden once you’re bitten
you’re bitten but it’s the venom that
continues to pour through your system
after the bite
that will end up destroying you we used
to be pioneers that’s how this country
was settled and and we stopped
pioneering new things we we stay where
it’s comfortable we played where it’s
safe we we don’t really get out into the
wild or the possibilities we stay in the
confined cade of that that is tangible
in touchable nine-to-five and that’s it
but we need more creativity but we need
to follow our instincts now without that
you you may make some money but you
won’t find fulfillment I’ll never forget
a recent experience doing my business on
Wall Street getting on the train to come
back to midtown one o’clock in the
afternoon normally there’s a lull
this train should be empty but on this
day the train was full full of people
all in businesses a guy recognizes me
comes over says hey are you Chris
Gardner we started talking turns out I’m
in the car with the first wave of the
55,000 people who had just been laid off
by Citibank and I noticed something
everyone’s holding up box you’ve seen
the boxes you’ve seen them on television
they’ve got the house plant a coffee mug
the pictures of their kids and they’re
all going home they’re all going home to
tell their wife their husband their
children and the landlord they don’t
have a job I began to share with this
young guy that do you know what yeah you
lost your job but you haven’t lost your
skills your talent or your expertise
what we’ve got to do now is create
opportunities where the skilled talent
and expertise can be transferable
creating an opportunity and looking for
a job are two different things this
could be prime time for pushing your
button rather finding your button what
do I mean by that prime time to find
that one thing that you love to do so
much you would get up in the morning and
do it free prime time to find that one
thing that the Sun cannot comes up soon
enough in the morning because you want
to go do your thing this could be that
time in your life my mind as I think
about this idea of getting what you
really want and being able to attract it
into your life what what we have to look
at is basically the obstacles that we
have conditioned ourselves and you
notice I say that we have conditioned
ourselves because I have never believed
that we need to be putting the
responsibility on someone else if you’re
conditioned it’s because you have
allowed yourself to become that and if
we are conditioned if we conditioned
ourselves to believe certain kinds of
things and one of the things that we
kind of believe and hang on to and live
with is this whole idea that all of the
things that happened to me in my past
are what are keeping me from doing what
I’d like to do today so we hang on to
these things and we fill ourselves with
blame is they I’m the middle child I’m
the youngest child I’m the oldest child
I’m an only child
any one of those is a great excuse you
know if you’re the youngest child you
can say well you know I never how could
I be making decisions for myself and be
a fully fully functioning person today
but I always had somebody else telling
me what to do my whole life how could I
think for myself if you’re the oldest
child you can simply say to yourself how
could I be expected to think for myself
I always had to think for somebody else
I was always doing it for somebody else
and that leaves the middle child
you know the classic identity crisis oh
poor me
my mother didn’t even know my name she’s
always calling me by this one’s name but
that one’s name so I don’t know where I
fit in
so that take care of everybody except
the only child and of course the only
your parents looked at you and said we
won’t be doing that again you have to
live with that I don’t I so everybody
with their birth order or with their
mother like their sister better or that
we had enough but we didn’t have enough
and we had too much or we lived in the
north we lived in the south I’m too tall
I’m too short I’ve got too much hair I
don’t have enough hair it’s falling out
it’s not falling out whatever it is we
all have these excuses and I call all of
these things that we hang on to and use
to keep ourselves from reaching these
higher places in our lives the wake I
call it the wake and the wake is comes
from a story that I heard Alan Watts
tell one time it was a very powerful
story
he said your life is like a boat and
it’s heading up the river that say 40
knots and as it’s going you are somehow
able to metaphorically stand on the
stern the back of the boat and look down
into the water now there goes your life
in this direction and you’re standing
here and you’re looking down into the
water and you ask yourself these three
questions the first question what is the
way what is it what is this thing that
you see and the answer the wake is the
trail that is left behind that’s what it
is nothing more nothing less
it’s the trail that is left you second
question to ask yourself in this little
metaphor what’s driving the boat what’s
making this thing go in this direction
the answer the present moment energy
that’s being generated by the engine and
nothing more that’s the only thing
that’s making the boat go in this
direction and in this little scene this
means it’s the present moment thoughts
that I have and how I am using them that
is making my life go in this direction
and nothing more because the third
question is the most important and
powerful question and I’ve ever ever
since I heard it I’ve always thought
about this whenever I have a tendency to
is it possible for the wake to drive the
boat that is can a trail that is left
behind make a boat go in this direction
and of course the answer to that is no
it can’t it’s just a trail that is left
behind and in that trail there are an
enormous number of things that every one
of us has awake and we have a whole lot
of stuff in it and one of the problems
that we have is that we have a tendency
to look at the wake and all of the stuff
that’s in it to explain why it is my
life isn’t working the way I would like
it to work and who better to quote than
Thoreau right here in Concord when he
talked about some of us here a different
drummer and we must march to the music
that we hear but all of you everybody
watching everybody here in this
beautiful parish all of you have some
music playing and all of you have a
heroic mission
there’s no accidents in this universe we
all show up here with a purpose there’s
an intelligence that is a part of
everything and everyone and all of us
are connected to it and too many of us
are afraid to listen to that music and
March to it you out there I know you
have a book you wanted to write I know
there’s a composition you wanted to
compose I know there’s a song you want
to sing someplace maybe you want to
raise horses out in Montana well maybe
you want to open up an ice cream shop on
Cape Cod who knows what it may be maybe
you just want to travel and see the
world maybe you want to go into a
relationship with someone but you’ve
been afraid to but your heart says it’s
the right thing to do all of us feel
something and in leo tolstoy famous
novel the death of Ivan Illich
he asks this question that would be
terrifying to me
he says as he has this accountant from
Moscow lying on his deathbed
contemplating the horror of this
question what if my whole life has been
wrong I’ve known what my music is it’s
playing right now
as I stand here in front of you with
these cameras and in this place and as I
sit down and write my books and tell the
world what I know are my truths I feel
always completely on purpose and
fulfilled and no time will I ever come
to the end of my life and say what if my
whole life has been wrong whoever you
are whatever that music is however
distant it may sound however strange
however weird others may interpret it to
be don’t get to the end of your life and
know that you’re going to leave and not
have it played yet don’t die with your
musics Delaney Ritz Jocko will Inc you
mentioned retired Navy SEAL commander
used to be in charge of all West Coast
training for the SEAL Teams which is
intense highly highly decorated where
there’s Jocko saying discipline equals
freedom or you look at say some of the
writers or musicians or directors or
others in the book across pretty much
all of them you find that they find
freedom in constraints so what does that
mean it sounds kind of weird it also
sounds very sounds like an oxymoron
right and what I mean by that is all of
these people have routines they have set
recipes that they repeat on a daily and
weekly basis so that they are not making
a lot of extraneous decisions about
mundane things and they also recognize
that we all have our less ourselves our
impulses I love chocolate croissants for
where if I left my entire schedule to
whim I would just eat chocolate
croissants all day long I love them
they’re incredible and I still do have
them once a week I have my cheat day and
I’m allowed to do what I want so I let
my monkey mind and my lesser self just
go nuts
but these people all have typically
these and these are folks we might be
inclined to think of as superheroes and
maybe Jacko’s a supreme girl but the
vast majority have one or two strengths
and they may not even be the best of the
world but one or two strengths they
combine in a really unique way
and they build habits around those
strengths and then they have a thousand
other weaknesses but the habits and
routines are what helped them from going
off the rails and this is really
encouraging this should be really
encouraging because the people we see on
magazine covers that we might idolize
and feel we could never possibly emulate
because they have it all figured out
they have no insecurities they wake up
every morning and with a mental
karate-chop they just master the day
that’s not how it works I know these
people almost everyone in this book
certainly on the podcast I’ve become
friends with hundreds of these people
not true they have tons of not everyone
I don’t speak for everyone but tons of
neuroses tons of terrible self-defeating
habits and the safety that they create
is habits and routines that’s why Jocko
in part says discipline equals freedom
okay so you have trouble waking up in
the morning no problem you want to stage
this is something in Jocko does takes
his clothing prepares gets this sort of
coffee ready to brew clothing on the
floor for the workout right next to his
bed prepared the night before so there
are no decisions there are no
opportunities to make mistakes
between him opening his eyes and jakka
working out and you find this across
everybody it was something that Portia
Nelson who I knew who passed away a few
years back ten years back now
she lived up in Seattle and she had she
was at a seminar and they were asked to
write the autobiography of their life in
five five versus five chapters so and
they gave them only like cards this size
actually they were smaller than this
they were three by five cards so right
out Chapter one of your life and just go
to where you are today and I remember
doing this very same thing but what she
wrote was so brilliant that I asked her
daughter
if we could put it on public television
which I did on the most recent show and
we made a contribution to horses work so
this is what she wrote down in the
chapter fives of her life chapter one
she said I walk down the street there’s
a deep hole in the sidewalk I fall in
I’m lost I’m helpless it isn’t my fault
and it takes forever to find a way out
chapter two of my life I walk down the
same street there’s a deep hole in the
sidewalk I pretend I don’t see it I fall
in again I can’t believe I’m in the same
place it isn’t my fault it still takes a
long time for me to get out chapter
three of my life I walk down the same
street there’s a deep hole in the
sidewalk I see it there I still fall in
it’s a habit but my eyes are open I know
where I am and it is my own fault and I
get out immediately chapter four of my
life I walk down the same street there’s
a deep hole in the sidewalk I walk
around it chapter five of my life
finally
I walk down another Street
they’re great when people ask me like
what example should I look – look what
company should I’m like here’s an
organization with a vision a cause it
was founded with a cause it’s an
entrepreneurial venture it’s America is
an experiment it’s an entrepreneurial
venture where a bunch of people got
together and decided we needed to start
our own country because there were
certain obstacles that were getting in
the way of a vision that we had of a
better kind of country but a kind of
company right and they stated it right
at the beginning all men are created
equal endowed with these unalienable
rights among amongst which include life
liberty and pursuit of happiness and
it’s not a it’s not just a competitive
statement like to be the best to be the
most respected that’s not what it was
and I’m amazed how many companies start
their visions or missions with those
that terribly egocentric language it was
an ideal and the amazing thing is is
we’ve been good at it and bad at it in
our history but it’s endured for 240
plus years because we fundamentally
believed that we are at our best when
we’re pursuing that but it is an ideal
we will never actually achieve all
people are equal but we will die trying
and that’s the point and it’s the same
for a company which is true vision
inside a company is something that has
nothing to do with your product it is an
ideal to which you will attempt to build
an advanced that ideal through your
company with your product you’ll never
achieve the ideal but you’ll die trying
and this is what gives our work meaning
this is what it gives our lives purpose
right the difference between vision and
a goal is the finish line a goal is 26.2
miles
you can simply count the metrics and
know when you’ve completed your goal a
vision is having a crystal-clear sense
of what the finish line looks like but
no idea of how far away it is and it’s
and the reality is you will spend your
entire life never actually crossing the
finish line but the joy that every
marathon you complete you feel like
you’re getting closer every milestone
that you accomplish makes you feel like
you’re getting closer and closer to the
ideal and this is what gives our life
and our work me
no one likes being told what to do and
this isn’t just children this is all of
us one of my favorite songs it’s a song
from when I was back in high school
Oh give me land lots of land and the
starry skies above boy you know it don’t
fence me in don’t restrict me
don’t put don’t put boundaries on me
don’t tell me what I can do and what I
can’t do don’t tell me how to be there
don’t tell me what to wear what to think
don’t tell me how to even how to do yoga
don’t tell me I don’t want to be told
this is the sole speaking always the
soul is constantly having a desire to
expand and grow and anything or anyone
that comes into your life that attempts
to do that you will find yourself
fighting it and reaching back
most people have goals in life and we’ve
been broke think you got to be goal
oriented that’s the first mistake yes
you need goals but there’s something far
beyond goals which is what all
successful people have and that’s a
vision it’s a vision for the future see
the here’s that is you see things as
they are but not worse than they are
yeah which is what a lot of people do
yeah they say oh it’s so terrible they
tell themselves this wild story about
why they can’t take action and in truth
the story they tell themselves is
exactly what holds them back from being
successful okay it’s that bull story
that stops from acting like and they’re
all just so did the economy and they
play the blame game they complain they
justify and it stops them from moving
forward so see things as they are not
worse than they are yeah and then see
them better than they are
yeah and make them that way look at a
Gandhi right he survived hunger strikes
in the ID of the country not cause he
had a goal for free and yet he had a
vision of a free India Nelson Mandela
all those years in jail on vision yeah
it’s Richard Branson who’s a friend of
mine who I know he sponsors me my
my speaking to our visionary Bill Gates
they’re all visionaries and the best
example consider we’re in Hollywood is a
guy like James Cameron now here’s the
trap James camera is probably the
greatest visionary of all time in
filmmaking that would you agree Darrin
he was a food on Diane Sawyer and they
asked him a question of what are you owe
your success to and what he said was
this I said really really high goals so
even if I fall short I’m still doing
great and people thought that was pretty
profound and I actually believed that
too
it’s not true those see what’s happening
is this James Cameron it’s not a goal
setter he’s a visionary he just doesn’t
realize because he’s running unconscious
strategy himself you said the crisis of
James Caan was a really just the goals
but you’re a vision for Avatar he’d say
oh of course I won’t didn’t get all
excited we tell you how nothing was
gonna stop him from making this movie
the fact that it took ten years and ran
200 million over budget he put money in
himself or that’s not a goal setters do
goal setters will set a goal get tough
and they abandon it and I can’t overemphasize that distinction
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