it’s no surprise that so many people
today have a great deal of uncertainty
about where life the world the economy
is going now we’re going through massive
changes and some of them are
unprecedented we haven’t seen for 40 50
60 70 80 years and you at the same time
we inherently know that with all this
change there’s opportunity that there’s
a chance for our lives to be better than
they’ve ever been that transformations
are happening and science and technology
can truly change the quality of our
lives the length of our lives the way we
experience life and yet day to day most
people live I think with a great deal of
foreboding a great deal of uncertainty
and so I thought it might be nice to
just drop in for a couple of minutes and
give you a couple of triggers to remind
you what I know you know in your heart
and that is we are not made to survive
we’re made to thrive human beings our
spirit our capacity to adapt our ability
to grow I’ll do they learn when
lightning like speed our ability to find
a way to serve others that calling
inside of us that we have as a parent or
as a friend or someone who truly cares
when we put our fear aside because
there’s something we want to serve
greater than ourselves we all have that
ability to find that passion in our life
and as we now are in 2014 a lot of
people start out with a new year and it
becomes a trigger for you know the
possibility of a new life but that
disappears after a few disappointments
after coming up with a few New Year’s
resolutions that within a week or two
they’ve already broken I’m gonna talk to
you about just the simple core of
letting you and I our main phone we are
not made to survive we’re not made to
manage our pain or get through it we’re
made to be creators of our lives we can
create anything anything we could dream
about we can create I know that sounds
like positive thinking it just BS but in
your soul there have been times in your
life I know when you’ve had something
that you wanted so much maybe you wanted
something for someone you care about
maybe you want something for yourself
but you became so obsessed with
something achieving it experiencing what
it was a transformation you know in
yourself a change in your business you
know making a certain amount of money
getting a job you know increase of some
physician increase maybe it was doing
something for your mom and your dad or
your kids somewhere in your life you’ve
gotten obsessed enough to really want to
eight something then you’re not even
known how you were gonna do it but you
just wanted it desired it that you
started all of a sudden taking action
and you got insights and before you knew
it what used to be just this impossible
dream became a reality is it fair to say
that some stage in your life that there
are some things today in your life there
aren’t just a dream or a goal that once
seemed difficult or impossible whether
it be the job you have or the
relationship you’re in and might be
taking for granted is it is there
anything in your life today that was
once like that well then you and I are
creators and very often when we get
overwhelmed by so many things we feel
out of control by we start getting into
being managers of our life managing our
pain managing through the situation so
my purpose here is to say what does it
take to thrive once again so let me give
you five quick keys number one key to
thriving is you cut it while yourself to
be able to take advantage of uncertainty
yes the world is uncertain right now
uncertainty has changed changes life we
both know that we all know that but if
you and I are gonna become masters we
have to understand and we have to work
on change change is automatic progress
is not if you’re not gonna make progress
here in 2014 whatever stage of the year
he’s looking at this progress comes when
you tell yourself the truth and you’re
able to feel the uncertainty and take
action anyway the thing that stops us
all is fear it’s no surprise if you’re a
failure for your rejection fear the
unknown fear about looking good and that
fear we could translate into the simple
thing of uncertainty now when you look
at someone who’s incredibly successful
you look at someone who’s truly a leader
in their life or in their field the one
thing they have in common is they exude
this sense of certainty now where’s that
come from this is inborn
are they lucky I think just going their
way now great leaders know how to step
in the uncertainty and bring the
certainty to the situation most people
in life we really feel like the level of
stress in our life comes to how much of
life do you feel like you control how
much does life control you do you tend
to control more what’s going on or
events controlling you it’s very easy
that those events start to take control
unless we take control what’s between
our ears our own mind
you see what you and I focus on
massively affects how we feel whether
we’re thriving or surviving if you focus
on what you can’t control
if you focus on the past if you focus on
what’s missing from your life constantly
that pattern of focus will make you
frustrated overwhelmed depressed it
won’t even matter if you’re you know
taking end of the prescence if you keep
focusing what you can’t control what’s
missing from your life you’re gonna feel
depressed until you think as many
antidepressants as you want
focus equals power if you want to thrive
you got to focus on what you can control
you got to focus on the difference you
can make it you’re to focus on what’s
already in your life that you’re
grateful for and I have a little process
here at the end that’s my gift to you
which is just a simple ritual that can
bring you back to this place so one
thing that leaders do is they focus on
the things they want they focus on what
they can control they focus on what they
have they have a combination of
gratitude strength and commitment
they’ve really unleashed the second
element they have a vision they have
something that they’re after something
they want to create something they want
to contribute something they want to
give something you want to make happen
and that’s when you become a creator
again instead of a manager of life and
it’s easy to lose that sense of vision
in your life through disappointments
we’ve all had them you get all excited
about something and then you know life
seems to crush it
somebody betrays you you betray yourself
you don’t follow through and then you
don’t trust yourself at the same level
what makes somebody a leader is they
build this certainty and not only with
focus and not only do they get a vision
for what they want but they bring that
certainty in their body listen if you’ve
ever been to one of my live events you
know that one of the greatest things
about let’s say unleash the power within
is you go through the weekend where you
literally clean your nervous system
certainly I mean how the heck did you
get people to storm through fire
it’s not about fire walking it’s about
getting yourself to be able to take
action and the areas of your life that
normally you would more than hold back
or your brain would take over and say I
can’t do this are you crazy somebody
else did it but not me only do is get
people in a state where you’re gonna
follow through you’re gonna face your
fear and do it anyway and the way we do
that besides changing people’s focus
showing you how to direct and control
that focus is also by learning how to
use
body is the tool to change your state
listen if I drop my shoulders enough I
would have breathing shallow enough and
I would have slowed down and say you
know I don’t know I’ll give it a try
and going to this state I’d be like
Samson getting us hair cut off
because what we don’t realize is that
our mind is directly affected by the way
we use our body if you change the tempo
what you move then you change the way
you breathe and you change the way you
use your voice you literally change your
biochemistry and the one thing that
you’ll see that’s the same well the
greatest golfer in the world or the
greatest musician or the greatest you
know actor is they have the sense of
certainty and it isn’t born it’s
something that you make is a habit you
drill it into yourself I sure as heck
didn’t have that sense of certainty
growing up not even close and what I
found myself doing early on is I felt so
uncertain I couldn’t get myself to do
anything so I did all these rituals
these rituals of certainty I would go on
these runs and on the run even though I
didn’t feel like it I would do these
incantations where I would say out loud
over and over again you know gods won’t
this circulate in my life his wealth
flows to me an avalanche of abundance
all my needs desires and goals are met
instantaneously by infinite intelligence
but I’m one with God and God is
everything and I would say that over and
over and over for 30 minutes just crazy
and I would envision that God circling
is well circling my life and I see the
wealth of love and friendship and impact
and growth and economics and all these
things physical fitness and aliveness
I’ve seen this wealth of abundance
flowing oceans of it into my life as I
went and did these things if you
envision something clearly enough and
you bring certainty to it over and over
again if you engage your physical body
in a simple ritual it could be as little
as 10 minutes a day I call it my hour of
power or 15 minutes the need fulfilled
and all you do is you take five minutes
and in those first five minutes you get
yourself moving and you get yourself in
a state of certainty and the way you
move and the way you breathe you focus
on what you’re excited about in your
life you focus on what you want to
create
you want to bring to your children you
want to bring to the world and it it
changes your state we all know what
happens when you’re out of state when
you’re burnt out when you’re frustrated
when you’re overwhelmed you snap at
people sometimes feel bad about it
you didn’t mean to it’s just the state
you’re in so to thrive this year take
uncertainty and bring certainty to it to
thrive this year get what I call a
compelling future pick anything a goal a
dream a desire something to excite you
so much that you’re gonna feel yourself
compelled to actually find a way to make
it happen you’ve done it before
you’ve got an abscessed you know you
know how you did it but things happen
and you’ve got yourself to where you
want to be let’s make that happen this
year right now regardless of its later
in the year the beginning you’re
watching this I made this so that
hopefully I’d remind you what you know
that your main to thrive not survive
what’s the third element that makes
somebody an effective leader makes them
a thriver even when the environment is
crazy well they bring certainty and
uncertainty if that’s leadership skill
buy focus and physiology by the way they
moved by the way to breathe like what
they do they bring that certain because
there’s something they want so bad that
it makes them overcome the fear they
focus on what they want to create what
they want to give not oh my god what if
I fail but the third thing they do is
they’re decisive listen nothing changes
your life like decision I mean real
decision though not Whoopie well well
you know I’ll try or I kind of decided I
want to give this a shot the word
decision comes some incision in Latin to
cut off from and when you make a
decision you cut off from any
possibility except the thing you’ve
committed to I always tell people if you
want to take the island burn the boats I
mean if you make a real decision to
every bit of you is committed to
something
it’s amazing how life will move for the
force of nature of the human being man
or woman that says this is how it will
be I don’t know how I’m gonna get it
done but I know this is what I’m gonna
do I know why I’m gonna do it
there’s a Martin Luther King you said
it’s a man any man hasn’t figured out
what he’s willing to die for isn’t fit
to live if you can find something you’re
so excited about if you can find
something
we’ll drive you with that certainty and
you add to that decisiveness you can
change anything you don’t like your job
change it no but there’s no jobs out
there pull right change it start the job
change who you are in the job where you
are and enjoy yourself change your
perception change your appreciation
change your gratitude change your daily
rituals so you start to enjoy things
change what you notice change them
trying to get something to try to give
something the whole game will change
decisiveness is the ability to make a
decision even though you’re uncertain
once again what keeps people make a
decision fear of failure I remember I
had a chance to get to know general
Norman Schwarzkopf during the time in
which he was commanding our forces an
amazing man and he would step over there
Desert Storm as they called it in those
days and he could command a guy that was
just brilliant you know an officer who
came out of you know Harvard or
background of Princeton and he could
take a kid from the inner city and just
have that same command in connection
with them and I think part of what they
respected about him is he respected
every one himself he had this connection
with people but the other thing
everybody respected was the man was
decisive and I asked him where he
developed that decision-making
capability just the willingness to just
make a decision and trust me so Tony
I’ll tell you where I worked for this
general I was very young and I was his
assistant and he said I remember there
was a research project that the you know
the Pentagon had worked on for that time
he said I remember right like five years
and there were arguments it was a very
strategic decision for where the Defense
Department was going to move towards in
the future how they were going to
operate and he said there were arguments
for both sides and for five years
they’ve gone back and forth and nothing
was resolved and they came to the
general that he was serving at that time
as the assistant and they had a meeting
and the meeting lasted one hour and at
the end of the hour the new generals
stood up and said do that and he picked
one of the two and he did it with
absolute certainty and in the military
you salute you take your orders and you
go
books war Scott said he was just curious
really curious to know you know how
could he get up and make a decision like
that because swear Scott said I was the
one doing all the research and there was
just there was loads and loads of
research and I know he had read it all
they said it bothered me but just like a
decision like that without knowing
everything he could possibly know and so
he said snorts God said I finally good
timin said sir permission to express
myself freely
he said permission granted he said sir
how could you make that decision he said
there are leaves and leaves and leaves
of information you got a one-hour
meeting you heard what 20 minutes of
discussion for both sides and you
decided the entire direction where
things are gonna go for their armed
services with it this part of the armed
services and he said how could you
possibly do that you don’t have all the
information he said no one does in fact
information is important to an extent
but ultimately action is what needs to
be taken
someone needs to decide he goes but how
do you know you made the right decision
he said no one has made an incision
young man in five years a half a decade
what I decided will be right because
either we’ll put all our resources and
we’ll make it right or if it’s wrong
we’ll discover that quicker than sitting
on the fence for in another five years
and we’ll find out it’s not right it
will change leadership is making
decisions if you’re gonna lead your own
life you got to make decisions and
what’s worse Scott says he realized rule
number one in life is when put in charge
from putting command take charge make
the decision if it’s right or wrong
you’re gonna find out quicker than if
you sit around and the interesting thing
is the more you make decisions the
better you get what makes somebody a
leader what makes somebody a leader is
they’re willing to make the decision
other people won’t make they want to put
themself on the line knowing that you’re
gonna be wrong at some of those
decisions but you’re gonna find out
quicker and you can simply adapt and
change your approach to still get where
you want to go be decisive don’t like
your body change it don’t like your
relationship change it start by changing
you if you’ve changed you it’s still not
right then change it but the way you
make any change happens starts with a
decision all action all results our
mother door fathered if he would by a
decision what’s one small decision
right now I would take you in a
direction you know you need to go what’s
a big decision that might be really
tough but have you really made it
truthfully it would take you on a new
direction in your life because whatever
direction you head into will lead to an
ultimate destination or destiny when you
know what’s right it’s time when you’re
still fearful it’s still time you want
to change your life decide decide
something you’re gonna do decide
something radical to commit an act that
moves you forward instead of thinking
more because we all can get caught up
you know I tell people you get in your
head you’re dead
the brain is a great thing to strategize
with but there’s a point what you got to
get back in your heart and you got to
push yourself on the line and do
something so if you’re gonna thrive this
year bring certainty to your
decision-making by just putting yourself
in that state and trusting trust your
Creator not just a manager of life what
do you have to do get a vision for what
you want what else decide and step
forward real quick act there is no such
thing as decision without action a real
decision you kind of things off and you
make it happen you do something and I’ve
always thought in my life never leave
the sight of making a decision if it’s
something that’s important without doing
something in that moment that commit you
to follow through take some action in
that moment because otherwise here’s
what happened you get excited or
something makes sense to you you’re
passionate about it and you go I’m gonna
go do this and then you go home and get
caught up in emails and phone calls and
other people need things from you mixing
you know you’re out of state you know
follow-through has it happened to you
before
and promise you if it hasn’t it will in
the future people that succeed with
opportunities there they trust they
trust if I’m going to thrive this is
here in my wife for a purpose life isn’t
happening
to me life is happening for me even this
pain or challenge or this opportunity is
something are gonna find a way to make
yourself I need to make a decision and I
need to do something right now to move
things forward in the direction of what
I really want for my life even if I
don’t know the final destination I need
to move in that
and you take some form of action most
people they have all these visions maybe
they start to make a little sort of
decision but they don’t make a real
decision because they don’t act on it
and if you don’t act on it your ideas
your dreams will die in your mind
they’ll die in your lips and think about
most people in North America around the
world the Western world are they truly
fit strong and healthy do they truly
have a relationship that’s totally
passionate do they love their work are
they economically free the vast majority
you and I both know the answer is no if
you want to be like most people then
what you gotta do is figure how to
survive if you want to lead you got to
thrive and you have that capability and
you’re probably already doing it I’m
probably speaking to the choir to some
extent if you’re still watching this
right now you’ve turned me off as a
raging maniac
who’s on a land because that’s where I
am I’m gonna land right now a rant to
call to your soul to say and when our
great life is take it to the next level
find the way to thrive on the very
things that stop other people attracts
thrive on what produces fear inside you
and in other people thrive on something
that you envision that you have a higher
purpose for thrive by being decisive
thrive by taking massive action and if
the massive action doesn’t work what you
try doesn’t work just simply try
something else and if that doesn’t work
try something else that doesn’t work try
something else until you find what works
now you can speed that up try modeling
by finding somebody who’s already
getting the results that you want to get
in your life somebody already has lost
30 pounds and kept it off they aren’t
lucky it’s been five years somebody who
started with nothing and now they’re
financially free and their family has an
extraordinary call life why not figure
out what they do somebody who truly is
happy not because everything’s going
their way because they find a deeper
meaning
and a richness and everything around
themselves whether it be their children
or nature or even problems because
obviously if we have no problems if
you’re dead inside problems can either
destroy you or call you to become more
if you look at the biggest challenges in
your life if you brought certainty to it
if you better vision beyond the problem
if you made some decision of what you’re
gonna change even if you know how and if
you took immediate action with enough
intensity massive action you probably
found the cure-all you probably found a
way to adapt and get where you want to
be that’s what thriving is really all
about
but the ultimate driving is not just
breaking through and making things
happen the open thriving for this year
or any year of your life is to remember
the secret to living is giving it’s too
as corny as that sounds it’s to connect
to something bigger than yourself and it
can be done so easily it can be done
right there at home instead of running
past your kids looking at your phone
it’s stopping connecting it’s getting
kissing your spouse in a way where those
sparks happen like when you’re first met
instead of how you doing I’m moving on
most of us are moving so fast trying to
manage our lives that we’re not thriving
thriving comes with depth you’re not
gonna find thriving in a friendship that
happens in milliseconds online nothing
wrong with it’s great connection but a
depth of a real friendship does not your
Facebook friend it’s not the same as
being with somebody and actually having
a full attention not while you’re
monitoring what’s going on on your cell
phone just the experience of being with
somebody but contributing your caring
contributing your interest contributing
either in a simple way finding some way
to give love attention care joy your
happiness to any human being it doesn’t
have to be working in a soup kitchen but
I could be pretty wonderful too
volunteering an hour in a month an hour
and a week can change a person’s life
but it can be outside world can also be
really on the inside
if you want to thrive then you got to
remember life’s not about me it’s about
Lee you already know it it’s in your
soul that you know it doesn’t matter
words I say if I’m saying something
that’s BS you can feel if I’m saying
something’s true you can feel in your
heart and soul and the thing that’s true
is we’re here for more than just
ourselves and we feel most alive when
we’re doing something that’s beyond
ourselves when there’s something what we
think that by this interaction someone’s
gonna feel more loved somebody who’s
gonna feel more lifted someone who is
down is gonna get up someone’s gonna
know that they’re cared for or I’m gonna
help somebody physically food skills
ability talent whatever helping a
stranger or helping someone you love
help comes from a place where you’re
abundant you’re not scarce so the most
important time the help is when you
think you need it
so next time you’re really feeling down
and out maybe find somebody else who’s
much worse off because there’s always
somebody there if you look around and
see what you can do to help them and
watch what that does to change your
entire spirit psychology and state
you’ll find yourself thriving when you
step into a life of meaning beyond you
and ironically life is about you too and
when you’re in that thriving state of
growing and giving in that state of
certainty and that state of a vision of
what you want with a sense of purpose in
that state of decisiveness and that
state of action and that state of giving
oh how can you break a list and you’re
still gonna drive oh how could be break
loose and having a great time so next
time you throw an uncertain remind
yourself you’re a creator of life not a
manager of circumstances and I hope this
little trigger will remind you that also
what’ll help you have this is not just
this video that you watched here which
may be watching it’ll be helpful
maybe not it’s up to you but if you get
the heart of what I’m really sharing it
leads to the end of understanding that
we are really our lives are reflection
of our rituals if somebody tells me this
is their dream this is their goal and so
that’s a wonderful tell me your plan but
more importantly let me see your rituals
and we all rituals what they know
they’re not rituals equal results if
you’re overweight it’s because your
rituals just find out what they are and
change it your rituals are to get up
every morning and go to Starbucks and
have a mocha smoker or whatever the hell
it is you have you know and bunch of
carbs and who everyone knows what it’s
not hard to figure out your blood
Sugar’s gonna be dropping and you’re
looking for another coffee a few hours
later that does a great life of energy
that’s on fire that creates a place
where you’re riding the roller coaster
of how much energy you have for now
there’s an unlimited level of energy
with a different ritual when you start
out your day doing what I call really my
our power and my 15 minutes to be
fulfilled so at three or four days a
week five days a week it took five or
ten or fifteen minutes one every now and
then you’ll get so much momentum you’ll
give yourself an hour an hour for
yourself an hour to connect to what
matters most and Howard to be grateful
an hour to get strong working out at
least fifteen minutes I’m gonna tell you
they’ll frame your life in a different
level and you’ll find yourself thriving
so take a look what rituals you have
that don’t work and what might be some
new rituals like instead of focusing
what you don’t have being truly grateful
for what you do have instead of focusing
on what you can’t control
think what you can do right now to
participate in your own rescue not
waiting for someone else to do it
rituals define us and so my hope is
maybe these five things to thrive can
trigger you to get in this state where
you create some new rituals as they will
create the habits and experiences of the
life that you desire and that you
deserve so that’s my rant I hope it
touched you if it didn’t I apologize
because my intent is pure blessings to
you and I hope I have a chance to serve
and see you soon maybe an event or
somewhere else in the world
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today have a great deal of uncertainty
about where life the world the economy
is going now we’re going through massive
changes and some of them are
unprecedented we haven’t seen for 40 50
60 70 80 years and you at the same time
we inherently know that with all this
change there’s opportunity that there’s
a chance for our lives to be better than
they’ve ever been that transformations
are happening and science and technology
can truly change the quality of our
lives the length of our lives the way we
experience life and yet day to day most
people live I think with a great deal of
foreboding a great deal of uncertainty
and so I thought it might be nice to
just drop in for a couple of minutes and
give you a couple of triggers to remind
you what I know you know in your heart
and that is we are not made to survive
we’re made to thrive human beings our
spirit our capacity to adapt our ability
to grow I’ll do they learn when
lightning like speed our ability to find
a way to serve others that calling
inside of us that we have as a parent or
as a friend or someone who truly cares
when we put our fear aside because
there’s something we want to serve
greater than ourselves we all have that
ability to find that passion in our life
and as we now are in 2014 a lot of
people start out with a new year and it
becomes a trigger for you know the
possibility of a new life but that
disappears after a few disappointments
after coming up with a few New Year’s
resolutions that within a week or two
they’ve already broken I’m gonna talk to
you about just the simple core of
letting you and I our main phone we are
not made to survive we’re not made to
manage our pain or get through it we’re
made to be creators of our lives we can
create anything anything we could dream
about we can create I know that sounds
like positive thinking it just BS but in
your soul there have been times in your
life I know when you’ve had something
that you wanted so much maybe you wanted
something for someone you care about
maybe you want something for yourself
but you became so obsessed with
something achieving it experiencing what
it was a transformation you know in
yourself a change in your business you
know making a certain amount of money
getting a job you know increase of some
physician increase maybe it was doing
something for your mom and your dad or
your kids somewhere in your life you’ve
gotten obsessed enough to really want to
eight something then you’re not even
known how you were gonna do it but you
just wanted it desired it that you
started all of a sudden taking action
and you got insights and before you knew
it what used to be just this impossible
dream became a reality is it fair to say
that some stage in your life that there
are some things today in your life there
aren’t just a dream or a goal that once
seemed difficult or impossible whether
it be the job you have or the
relationship you’re in and might be
taking for granted is it is there
anything in your life today that was
once like that well then you and I are
creators and very often when we get
overwhelmed by so many things we feel
out of control by we start getting into
being managers of our life managing our
pain managing through the situation so
my purpose here is to say what does it
take to thrive once again so let me give
you five quick keys number one key to
thriving is you cut it while yourself to
be able to take advantage of uncertainty
yes the world is uncertain right now
uncertainty has changed changes life we
both know that we all know that but if
you and I are gonna become masters we
have to understand and we have to work
on change change is automatic progress
is not if you’re not gonna make progress
here in 2014 whatever stage of the year
he’s looking at this progress comes when
you tell yourself the truth and you’re
able to feel the uncertainty and take
action anyway the thing that stops us
all is fear it’s no surprise if you’re a
failure for your rejection fear the
unknown fear about looking good and that
fear we could translate into the simple
thing of uncertainty now when you look
at someone who’s incredibly successful
you look at someone who’s truly a leader
in their life or in their field the one
thing they have in common is they exude
this sense of certainty now where’s that
come from this is inborn
are they lucky I think just going their
way now great leaders know how to step
in the uncertainty and bring the
certainty to the situation most people
in life we really feel like the level of
stress in our life comes to how much of
life do you feel like you control how
much does life control you do you tend
to control more what’s going on or
events controlling you it’s very easy
that those events start to take control
unless we take control what’s between
our ears our own mind
you see what you and I focus on
massively affects how we feel whether
we’re thriving or surviving if you focus
on what you can’t control
if you focus on the past if you focus on
what’s missing from your life constantly
that pattern of focus will make you
frustrated overwhelmed depressed it
won’t even matter if you’re you know
taking end of the prescence if you keep
focusing what you can’t control what’s
missing from your life you’re gonna feel
depressed until you think as many
antidepressants as you want
focus equals power if you want to thrive
you got to focus on what you can control
you got to focus on the difference you
can make it you’re to focus on what’s
already in your life that you’re
grateful for and I have a little process
here at the end that’s my gift to you
which is just a simple ritual that can
bring you back to this place so one
thing that leaders do is they focus on
the things they want they focus on what
they can control they focus on what they
have they have a combination of
gratitude strength and commitment
they’ve really unleashed the second
element they have a vision they have
something that they’re after something
they want to create something they want
to contribute something they want to
give something you want to make happen
and that’s when you become a creator
again instead of a manager of life and
it’s easy to lose that sense of vision
in your life through disappointments
we’ve all had them you get all excited
about something and then you know life
seems to crush it
somebody betrays you you betray yourself
you don’t follow through and then you
don’t trust yourself at the same level
what makes somebody a leader is they
build this certainty and not only with
focus and not only do they get a vision
for what they want but they bring that
certainty in their body listen if you’ve
ever been to one of my live events you
know that one of the greatest things
about let’s say unleash the power within
is you go through the weekend where you
literally clean your nervous system
certainly I mean how the heck did you
get people to storm through fire
it’s not about fire walking it’s about
getting yourself to be able to take
action and the areas of your life that
normally you would more than hold back
or your brain would take over and say I
can’t do this are you crazy somebody
else did it but not me only do is get
people in a state where you’re gonna
follow through you’re gonna face your
fear and do it anyway and the way we do
that besides changing people’s focus
showing you how to direct and control
that focus is also by learning how to
use
body is the tool to change your state
listen if I drop my shoulders enough I
would have breathing shallow enough and
I would have slowed down and say you
know I don’t know I’ll give it a try
and going to this state I’d be like
Samson getting us hair cut off
because what we don’t realize is that
our mind is directly affected by the way
we use our body if you change the tempo
what you move then you change the way
you breathe and you change the way you
use your voice you literally change your
biochemistry and the one thing that
you’ll see that’s the same well the
greatest golfer in the world or the
greatest musician or the greatest you
know actor is they have the sense of
certainty and it isn’t born it’s
something that you make is a habit you
drill it into yourself I sure as heck
didn’t have that sense of certainty
growing up not even close and what I
found myself doing early on is I felt so
uncertain I couldn’t get myself to do
anything so I did all these rituals
these rituals of certainty I would go on
these runs and on the run even though I
didn’t feel like it I would do these
incantations where I would say out loud
over and over again you know gods won’t
this circulate in my life his wealth
flows to me an avalanche of abundance
all my needs desires and goals are met
instantaneously by infinite intelligence
but I’m one with God and God is
everything and I would say that over and
over and over for 30 minutes just crazy
and I would envision that God circling
is well circling my life and I see the
wealth of love and friendship and impact
and growth and economics and all these
things physical fitness and aliveness
I’ve seen this wealth of abundance
flowing oceans of it into my life as I
went and did these things if you
envision something clearly enough and
you bring certainty to it over and over
again if you engage your physical body
in a simple ritual it could be as little
as 10 minutes a day I call it my hour of
power or 15 minutes the need fulfilled
and all you do is you take five minutes
and in those first five minutes you get
yourself moving and you get yourself in
a state of certainty and the way you
move and the way you breathe you focus
on what you’re excited about in your
life you focus on what you want to
create
you want to bring to your children you
want to bring to the world and it it
changes your state we all know what
happens when you’re out of state when
you’re burnt out when you’re frustrated
when you’re overwhelmed you snap at
people sometimes feel bad about it
you didn’t mean to it’s just the state
you’re in so to thrive this year take
uncertainty and bring certainty to it to
thrive this year get what I call a
compelling future pick anything a goal a
dream a desire something to excite you
so much that you’re gonna feel yourself
compelled to actually find a way to make
it happen you’ve done it before
you’ve got an abscessed you know you
know how you did it but things happen
and you’ve got yourself to where you
want to be let’s make that happen this
year right now regardless of its later
in the year the beginning you’re
watching this I made this so that
hopefully I’d remind you what you know
that your main to thrive not survive
what’s the third element that makes
somebody an effective leader makes them
a thriver even when the environment is
crazy well they bring certainty and
uncertainty if that’s leadership skill
buy focus and physiology by the way they
moved by the way to breathe like what
they do they bring that certain because
there’s something they want so bad that
it makes them overcome the fear they
focus on what they want to create what
they want to give not oh my god what if
I fail but the third thing they do is
they’re decisive listen nothing changes
your life like decision I mean real
decision though not Whoopie well well
you know I’ll try or I kind of decided I
want to give this a shot the word
decision comes some incision in Latin to
cut off from and when you make a
decision you cut off from any
possibility except the thing you’ve
committed to I always tell people if you
want to take the island burn the boats I
mean if you make a real decision to
every bit of you is committed to
something
it’s amazing how life will move for the
force of nature of the human being man
or woman that says this is how it will
be I don’t know how I’m gonna get it
done but I know this is what I’m gonna
do I know why I’m gonna do it
there’s a Martin Luther King you said
it’s a man any man hasn’t figured out
what he’s willing to die for isn’t fit
to live if you can find something you’re
so excited about if you can find
something
we’ll drive you with that certainty and
you add to that decisiveness you can
change anything you don’t like your job
change it no but there’s no jobs out
there pull right change it start the job
change who you are in the job where you
are and enjoy yourself change your
perception change your appreciation
change your gratitude change your daily
rituals so you start to enjoy things
change what you notice change them
trying to get something to try to give
something the whole game will change
decisiveness is the ability to make a
decision even though you’re uncertain
once again what keeps people make a
decision fear of failure I remember I
had a chance to get to know general
Norman Schwarzkopf during the time in
which he was commanding our forces an
amazing man and he would step over there
Desert Storm as they called it in those
days and he could command a guy that was
just brilliant you know an officer who
came out of you know Harvard or
background of Princeton and he could
take a kid from the inner city and just
have that same command in connection
with them and I think part of what they
respected about him is he respected
every one himself he had this connection
with people but the other thing
everybody respected was the man was
decisive and I asked him where he
developed that decision-making
capability just the willingness to just
make a decision and trust me so Tony
I’ll tell you where I worked for this
general I was very young and I was his
assistant and he said I remember there
was a research project that the you know
the Pentagon had worked on for that time
he said I remember right like five years
and there were arguments it was a very
strategic decision for where the Defense
Department was going to move towards in
the future how they were going to
operate and he said there were arguments
for both sides and for five years
they’ve gone back and forth and nothing
was resolved and they came to the
general that he was serving at that time
as the assistant and they had a meeting
and the meeting lasted one hour and at
the end of the hour the new generals
stood up and said do that and he picked
one of the two and he did it with
absolute certainty and in the military
you salute you take your orders and you
go
books war Scott said he was just curious
really curious to know you know how
could he get up and make a decision like
that because swear Scott said I was the
one doing all the research and there was
just there was loads and loads of
research and I know he had read it all
they said it bothered me but just like a
decision like that without knowing
everything he could possibly know and so
he said snorts God said I finally good
timin said sir permission to express
myself freely
he said permission granted he said sir
how could you make that decision he said
there are leaves and leaves and leaves
of information you got a one-hour
meeting you heard what 20 minutes of
discussion for both sides and you
decided the entire direction where
things are gonna go for their armed
services with it this part of the armed
services and he said how could you
possibly do that you don’t have all the
information he said no one does in fact
information is important to an extent
but ultimately action is what needs to
be taken
someone needs to decide he goes but how
do you know you made the right decision
he said no one has made an incision
young man in five years a half a decade
what I decided will be right because
either we’ll put all our resources and
we’ll make it right or if it’s wrong
we’ll discover that quicker than sitting
on the fence for in another five years
and we’ll find out it’s not right it
will change leadership is making
decisions if you’re gonna lead your own
life you got to make decisions and
what’s worse Scott says he realized rule
number one in life is when put in charge
from putting command take charge make
the decision if it’s right or wrong
you’re gonna find out quicker than if
you sit around and the interesting thing
is the more you make decisions the
better you get what makes somebody a
leader what makes somebody a leader is
they’re willing to make the decision
other people won’t make they want to put
themself on the line knowing that you’re
gonna be wrong at some of those
decisions but you’re gonna find out
quicker and you can simply adapt and
change your approach to still get where
you want to go be decisive don’t like
your body change it don’t like your
relationship change it start by changing
you if you’ve changed you it’s still not
right then change it but the way you
make any change happens starts with a
decision all action all results our
mother door fathered if he would by a
decision what’s one small decision
right now I would take you in a
direction you know you need to go what’s
a big decision that might be really
tough but have you really made it
truthfully it would take you on a new
direction in your life because whatever
direction you head into will lead to an
ultimate destination or destiny when you
know what’s right it’s time when you’re
still fearful it’s still time you want
to change your life decide decide
something you’re gonna do decide
something radical to commit an act that
moves you forward instead of thinking
more because we all can get caught up
you know I tell people you get in your
head you’re dead
the brain is a great thing to strategize
with but there’s a point what you got to
get back in your heart and you got to
push yourself on the line and do
something so if you’re gonna thrive this
year bring certainty to your
decision-making by just putting yourself
in that state and trusting trust your
Creator not just a manager of life what
do you have to do get a vision for what
you want what else decide and step
forward real quick act there is no such
thing as decision without action a real
decision you kind of things off and you
make it happen you do something and I’ve
always thought in my life never leave
the sight of making a decision if it’s
something that’s important without doing
something in that moment that commit you
to follow through take some action in
that moment because otherwise here’s
what happened you get excited or
something makes sense to you you’re
passionate about it and you go I’m gonna
go do this and then you go home and get
caught up in emails and phone calls and
other people need things from you mixing
you know you’re out of state you know
follow-through has it happened to you
before
and promise you if it hasn’t it will in
the future people that succeed with
opportunities there they trust they
trust if I’m going to thrive this is
here in my wife for a purpose life isn’t
happening
to me life is happening for me even this
pain or challenge or this opportunity is
something are gonna find a way to make
yourself I need to make a decision and I
need to do something right now to move
things forward in the direction of what
I really want for my life even if I
don’t know the final destination I need
to move in that
and you take some form of action most
people they have all these visions maybe
they start to make a little sort of
decision but they don’t make a real
decision because they don’t act on it
and if you don’t act on it your ideas
your dreams will die in your mind
they’ll die in your lips and think about
most people in North America around the
world the Western world are they truly
fit strong and healthy do they truly
have a relationship that’s totally
passionate do they love their work are
they economically free the vast majority
you and I both know the answer is no if
you want to be like most people then
what you gotta do is figure how to
survive if you want to lead you got to
thrive and you have that capability and
you’re probably already doing it I’m
probably speaking to the choir to some
extent if you’re still watching this
right now you’ve turned me off as a
raging maniac
who’s on a land because that’s where I
am I’m gonna land right now a rant to
call to your soul to say and when our
great life is take it to the next level
find the way to thrive on the very
things that stop other people attracts
thrive on what produces fear inside you
and in other people thrive on something
that you envision that you have a higher
purpose for thrive by being decisive
thrive by taking massive action and if
the massive action doesn’t work what you
try doesn’t work just simply try
something else and if that doesn’t work
try something else that doesn’t work try
something else until you find what works
now you can speed that up try modeling
by finding somebody who’s already
getting the results that you want to get
in your life somebody already has lost
30 pounds and kept it off they aren’t
lucky it’s been five years somebody who
started with nothing and now they’re
financially free and their family has an
extraordinary call life why not figure
out what they do somebody who truly is
happy not because everything’s going
their way because they find a deeper
meaning
and a richness and everything around
themselves whether it be their children
or nature or even problems because
obviously if we have no problems if
you’re dead inside problems can either
destroy you or call you to become more
if you look at the biggest challenges in
your life if you brought certainty to it
if you better vision beyond the problem
if you made some decision of what you’re
gonna change even if you know how and if
you took immediate action with enough
intensity massive action you probably
found the cure-all you probably found a
way to adapt and get where you want to
be that’s what thriving is really all
about
but the ultimate driving is not just
breaking through and making things
happen the open thriving for this year
or any year of your life is to remember
the secret to living is giving it’s too
as corny as that sounds it’s to connect
to something bigger than yourself and it
can be done so easily it can be done
right there at home instead of running
past your kids looking at your phone
it’s stopping connecting it’s getting
kissing your spouse in a way where those
sparks happen like when you’re first met
instead of how you doing I’m moving on
most of us are moving so fast trying to
manage our lives that we’re not thriving
thriving comes with depth you’re not
gonna find thriving in a friendship that
happens in milliseconds online nothing
wrong with it’s great connection but a
depth of a real friendship does not your
Facebook friend it’s not the same as
being with somebody and actually having
a full attention not while you’re
monitoring what’s going on on your cell
phone just the experience of being with
somebody but contributing your caring
contributing your interest contributing
either in a simple way finding some way
to give love attention care joy your
happiness to any human being it doesn’t
have to be working in a soup kitchen but
I could be pretty wonderful too
volunteering an hour in a month an hour
and a week can change a person’s life
but it can be outside world can also be
really on the inside
if you want to thrive then you got to
remember life’s not about me it’s about
Lee you already know it it’s in your
soul that you know it doesn’t matter
words I say if I’m saying something
that’s BS you can feel if I’m saying
something’s true you can feel in your
heart and soul and the thing that’s true
is we’re here for more than just
ourselves and we feel most alive when
we’re doing something that’s beyond
ourselves when there’s something what we
think that by this interaction someone’s
gonna feel more loved somebody who’s
gonna feel more lifted someone who is
down is gonna get up someone’s gonna
know that they’re cared for or I’m gonna
help somebody physically food skills
ability talent whatever helping a
stranger or helping someone you love
help comes from a place where you’re
abundant you’re not scarce so the most
important time the help is when you
think you need it
so next time you’re really feeling down
and out maybe find somebody else who’s
much worse off because there’s always
somebody there if you look around and
see what you can do to help them and
watch what that does to change your
entire spirit psychology and state
you’ll find yourself thriving when you
step into a life of meaning beyond you
and ironically life is about you too and
when you’re in that thriving state of
growing and giving in that state of
certainty and that state of a vision of
what you want with a sense of purpose in
that state of decisiveness and that
state of action and that state of giving
oh how can you break a list and you’re
still gonna drive oh how could be break
loose and having a great time so next
time you throw an uncertain remind
yourself you’re a creator of life not a
manager of circumstances and I hope this
little trigger will remind you that also
what’ll help you have this is not just
this video that you watched here which
may be watching it’ll be helpful
maybe not it’s up to you but if you get
the heart of what I’m really sharing it
leads to the end of understanding that
we are really our lives are reflection
of our rituals if somebody tells me this
is their dream this is their goal and so
that’s a wonderful tell me your plan but
more importantly let me see your rituals
and we all rituals what they know
they’re not rituals equal results if
you’re overweight it’s because your
rituals just find out what they are and
change it your rituals are to get up
every morning and go to Starbucks and
have a mocha smoker or whatever the hell
it is you have you know and bunch of
carbs and who everyone knows what it’s
not hard to figure out your blood
Sugar’s gonna be dropping and you’re
looking for another coffee a few hours
later that does a great life of energy
that’s on fire that creates a place
where you’re riding the roller coaster
of how much energy you have for now
there’s an unlimited level of energy
with a different ritual when you start
out your day doing what I call really my
our power and my 15 minutes to be
fulfilled so at three or four days a
week five days a week it took five or
ten or fifteen minutes one every now and
then you’ll get so much momentum you’ll
give yourself an hour an hour for
yourself an hour to connect to what
matters most and Howard to be grateful
an hour to get strong working out at
least fifteen minutes I’m gonna tell you
they’ll frame your life in a different
level and you’ll find yourself thriving
so take a look what rituals you have
that don’t work and what might be some
new rituals like instead of focusing
what you don’t have being truly grateful
for what you do have instead of focusing
on what you can’t control
think what you can do right now to
participate in your own rescue not
waiting for someone else to do it
rituals define us and so my hope is
maybe these five things to thrive can
trigger you to get in this state where
you create some new rituals as they will
create the habits and experiences of the
life that you desire and that you
deserve so that’s my rant I hope it
touched you if it didn’t I apologize
because my intent is pure blessings to
you and I hope I have a chance to serve
and see you soon maybe an event or
somewhere else in the world
LIVESTRONG
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