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“LIVE in the STATE of Being UNCOMFORTABLE!” | Sarah Jakes Roberts


you’re gonna have to start living in a
state of being uncomfortable
everything’s gotta go
every hater every doubt every fear every
insecurity depression I didn’t want to
do what had already been done before
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on today’s lessons from a woman who went
from being pregnant as a teenage mom at
age 13 having a drop out of college so
she can waitress to support herself to
becoming a highly successful
entrepreneur speaker and author she’s
Sara Jake’s Roberts and here’s my take
okay let’s kick it off with rule number
one find your wild earnest a wilderness
is an uncultivated uninhabited and
inhospitable region where God has set up
a place for you to thrive I’m gonna say
that again because I know that most of
us would want to be in a hospitable
environment where everyone likes us and
we don’t have any issues in any
struggles but what I’m telling you is
that you are at your best when you are
at the wilderness where God has created
a place for you to thrive a wilderness
is an uncultivated uninhabited and
inhospitable it’s corporate America it’s
marriage when you’ve never seen it
displayed for you before it’s
entrepreneurship it’s an uncultivated
uninhabited no one else has done it the
way that you’re gonna do it and that’s
why it’s a wilderness no one in the room
looks like me and that’s how I know I’m
in the wilderness no one in my family
thinks like me but that’s how I know I’m
in the wilderness it is an uncultivated
uninhabited an inhospitable region that
God set up for me to thrive rule number
two shift your mindset there are very
few words that bless my soul as a
believer like the following 3 everything
must go those words bless me not just
because of the reason that I found one
studying but when I see them on on a
store it speaks to me that God is really
looking out
for my finances in this season say god I
prayed for savings and you put my
favorite store on sale how great is your
mercy towards me everything must go and
that used to make me so excited because
I knew that when I walked into the store
that they would be willing to discount
even further items that I had been
waiting to get for a very long time and
so when I went home and I told my
husband that I finally got something
that I’d been looking for I could tell
him but honey it was on sale and so we
saved money I didn’t spend money now
that I am a business owner though I
realized that when they put those words
outside of the store it’s not just
because they want to bless my spirit
just fascinating they actually do that
because they have new inventory coming
in and because they have new inventory
coming in they have to get rid of
everything that is no longer profitable
so that that which is profitable can
take its place what if we as believers
started to treat our life with that same
level of philosophy that we looked
within ourselves and said everything
must go that is no longer profitable so
that that which is profitable can come
in how much powerful would we be if we
looked at our bitterness and said no you
can’t stay because you’re taking that
place where my joy could be what if we
looked at our misery and said no you
can’t stay because you’re taking up
space where my purpose could be what if
we started to say depression you can’t
stay here joy is in your place you got
to make room and everything let’s go
this is a mindset that we should have
everything must go I won’t be
this part with this message until you
leave here desperate to clear out
anything that’s taking up unprofitable
space down on the inside of you anytime
a negative thought starts rising up
until you say everything must go God
renew my mind and give me a mind like
Christ I can’t afford to have this
thinking thinking any longer I’m trying
to press towards the mark and I can’t do
it thinking like the same girl I used to
be everything’s gotta go everything’s
gotta go
every hater every doubt every fear every
insecurity depression lose my mind did
you know that you have authority on your
[Applause]
rule number three be willing to be
uncomfortable I want to show you what it
looks like to be in harvest it’s harvest
time but it looks like work it’s harvest
time but it looks like it took more work
to bring in the harvest than it did to
actually sprinkle the seeds you see this
is what harvest time looks like it looks
like sweat down your back it looks like
confusion it looks like no one
understands what’s fully going on no one
sees what’s harvest and what’s tare no
one sees the weeds no one can tell
what’s going on but these women who
understand that what they planted in
these fields have come back up and now
it’s time for them to do the work to
receive the harvest and then church
everyone gets so excited about harvest
time but they don’t tell you how much
work goes into harvest they don’t tell
you that reaping actually takes work and
so we’ll be looking at other people
rejoicing and wondering when are we
going to get this chance to finally
relax and to put our life on cruise
control and then God tells us that
which is like a total bummer
because aren’t we all working to get to
this place called comfortable this place
where we’re no longer worried about how
Inns are going to be met or how we’re
going to be perceived in the world or
whether or not the deal is going to come
through or whether or not we’re going to
get the promotion we’re all waiting for
this place called comfort but God says
that you’re gonna have to start living
in a state of being uncomfortable that
in order to reap the harvest he has for
your life you’re gonna have to risk
sweating rule number four be authentic
did you see a lot you know just growing
up in church world yeah where you felt
like I’ve got to conform I can’t be
myself I’ve got to conform yes certainly
it is all that I felt that this idea of
Christianity and having a relationship
with God had to look like whatever
someone else’s relationship with God
look like and so anytime my relationship
didn’t mirror that I felt like there was
something wrong with me and I wasn’t one
of those people who wanted to pretend so
either had it or I didn’t and I didn’t
realize at that time they’re growing
with God is a process you know and that
everyone has an individual relationship
with God and I think it’s a disservice
to people to say that in order to be a
Christian you have to look like this you
have to act like that because the
reality is that God is too creative to
make us one version of a Christian and
we limit who people can be and really I
think in the long run do a disservice to
church because there’s so much
creativity that our generation and other
generations have to offer but because it
doesn’t look like tradition we throw it
away and then those people find a place
in the world and we cry you know and so
as I grew my platform and people started
really gravitating towards me I didn’t
want to do what had already been done
before I wanted to remain authentic and
genuine and my process with God and you
know that doesn’t mean that you know
wearing the dresses down here in your
skirt that is wrong that’s not for me
you know and it doesn’t mean that it’s I
won’t be right for me I could decide
tomorrow you know like my relationship
with God has convicted me to do this
but I think ultimately it’s about
conviction rule number five make a
breakthrough back in Genesis when Eve
ate from the forbidden fruit and God
cursed the serpent and he cursed the
woman he told the woman that you’re
going to be in pain when you give birth
and you’re longing will be for your
husband did you know that Eve started
this whole woman evil thing yeah in
Genesis 3 in 15 when God has given out
this curse when he is giving this woman
the curse that another woman would carry
in a prophecy in Revelations the
beginning in the end it’s all connected
I just need you to know that you didn’t
get to where you are by yourself that
some women in this room are carrying
another woman’s purse and that’s okay
because when he gave the curse to Eve he
also gave her a promise and the promise
was that even though the serpent is
going to bruise your heel that her heel
is going to crush your head and I just
wanted you to know that you may not have
gotten it from your mother that you may
not have ever seen another woman do
exactly what God has called you to do
but I came to tell you that you are a
curse breaker that you are a head
crushing demon trembling hell gets
nervous when you wake up in the morning
because I may be carrying another
woman’s curse but God also gave me
another woman’s breakthrough so I’m
getting in position I may be pregnant
because of her pain but when I birthed
it I’m gonna break it off for her and me
and my daughters for generations to come
I can’t just move on from that point
until every woman in this room
understands that just because you have
another woman’s curse doesn’t mean that
you don’t have the power to break it for
her and for everything coming after you
rule number six play to win I think that
I enjoy social media perhaps in a way
that is not very healthy sometimes
because I consider it my opportunity to
be like a touch point for people and I
wonder if
the process of me being a touch point
for people that I forget that I’m first
a touch point for god to the people not
a touch point for the people and if you
don’t realize that you are a touch point
for God to people then you will become a
touch point exclusively to people and
let me tell you the danger in that is
that people will have you making
decisions about your life and about
what’s next for you it’s almost like
they trick you into believing that
you’re trying to avoid a loss and when
you live life like you’re trying to
avoid a loss you settle for just trying
to keep your head above water because I
don’t want anyone else to see me fail
when you become a touch point for people
they dictate what success looks like
they dictate whether you are supposed to
be married or not they dictate whether
or not you should have made it by now or
not because you have become to live your
life for people’s access and for
people’s viewing and I realized that
that’s one way to live life where we
live life trying to avoid a loss but
another more divine more strategic way
to live as if we live like we’re playing
to win
if we win like heavens resources are
backing us up so we already recognized
that God has gone ahead of us it it
sounds very similar because if you’re
trying to avoid a loss perhaps you
organically get a win but that’s not
necessarily true because there’s levels
to this but when you maneuver like
you’re playing to win you just carry
yourself differently you’re not seeking
validation it’s when you are the
ultimate touch point for God God touched
me and so now I have been touched to be
a touch and so now I’m maneuvered
differently because I know I have
something to offer I’m not looking for
something to take and this is the big
deal
for me because I used to be a touch
point for people I used to live my life
based on their opinions asking them to
accept me asking them to love me but
then I messed around a meta Savior who
convinced me that I was fearfully and
wonderfully made that that he had
already created me and His grace was
sufficient for everything that I had
gone through so now I live my life
playing to win I’m playing to win I’m
after something I’m after something I am
after becoming a touch point for God and
every area and in every arena of my life
rule number seven don’t compare to
others first force of Galatians 6 says
but let each one examine his own work
and then he will have rejoicing in
himself alone and not in another this
says to take inventory of what you’re
doing in your life compare it with what
God told you you were supposed to be
doing if you can say that the thing that
you’re currently doing is exactly what
God told you to do then you can rejoice
and yourself and you don’t have to
rejoice in what anyone else is doing and
you don’t have to compare yourself with
what anyone else is doing that you can
have enough confidence in who you are
and where you are if you know without a
doubt that you’re where God placed you
you see the problem is that we examine
our life by other people’s success and
when we do that we can’t rejoice within
ourselves all we can do is pick
ourselves apart but this scripture says
that we can rejoice remember 8 don’t
punish yourself just to give you insight
the mindset of someone that age when
they get pregnant is that I’m going to
get in trouble
you know without any real reality of
recognizing that it’s bigger than just
timeout or being grounded that you’re
bringing a life into the world before
you’ve even discovered what life is
about yourself I felt so much shame I
felt dirty I felt embarrassed and you
know we all go through something I think
it’s a little bit more challenging
when you are responsible for your own
issues I think that oftentimes people
can be victimized and then people can
make decisions that end them up in
places that they never expected and for
me I felt like because I had the power
to stop this and I didn’t then there
must be something wrong with me and so I
spent many many years thinking less than
what God says about me and I think that
that some of the things that we do when
we’re experiencing shame as we punish
ourselves and we think if I beat myself
up in my head I used to call myself all
the names in the book you’re a ho nobody
once you just all of these things and I
lived that until it became a reality and
then I hated who I became and I just had
to make a decision that ultimately you
can continue to listen to these voices
of shame in your head or you can decide
I’m just gonna try and live on the faith
that I am who God says I am that I am
fearfully and wonderfully made in spite
of what I’ve gone through in spite of
what my past looks like on paper I’m
just I want to believe that I’m better
than the mistakes that I’ve made and the
moment I lived in that consciousness I
started noticing things changed for me
and began to turn around and I think
what I’m most proud of though I have you
know a book deals and I’ve been so
blessed to be on these tours when I’m
most proud of is that I look in the
mirror and I love the girl I am their
ugly truth and the beautiful things and
I’m no longer ashamed of Who I am
rule number nine take ownership if we
are not careful and intentional about
harnessing the gift that God has given
us then there will be people who see our
crown even though we don’t see it and
they will see a way to manipulate your
crown for their advantage and so what
pushes us in
having authority is when we realize if I
don’t protect this thing that God has
given me then someone could come and
strip it away from me before I fully
develop what it is I had to say that I
got to say that like in a way that I
really mean it that’s why it was so
important that Pastor caught a prayer
for identity so that you can see
yourself properly because sometimes the
people on the outside can see you better
than you see yourself and because they
can see you better than you see yourself
they see gifts and talents that can work
for them but work against you and so we
do have a responsibility to take
authority over my gift I can’t just do
anything I just can’t hang out with
anyone I’m taking the ownership and
Authority come on 20:19 what’s y’all
talking about I’m taking authority over
what God has given me I’m not just gonna
wait for someone to hand me something
I’m gonna go out there and establish it
myself because I don’t want to have to
bow down to the person who gave it to me
I have to create an opportunity to
exercise the authority God has given me
over my gift seeing yourself properly is
the greatest gift that you can ever gift
yourself it will qualify relationships
and opportunities it will tell you who
you can be connected with and who you
cannot be connected with I take
authority over my gift I know I’ve been
through some things I don’t have the
perfect little pest but I’m still here
which means that there’s something still
down on the inside of me and so now like
never before I take ownership and
authority over what God has placed on
the inside of me god I want every ounce
of what you’ve given me God I want every
ounce of every gift in every town that
I’m supposed to push out into this earth
and I take authority over it I’m not
just going to cast my pearls amongst
once I take authority over my anointing
I take authority over my gift I don’t
put myself on clearance anymore I take
authority over what God has given me I
am a child of God I am fearfully and
wonderfully made and I did not survive
through all of the things that I have
gone through to get to this level and
mess it up
that’s better than y’all cramping that’s
alright but it’s something that changes
down on the inside of you I I had a
moment like this myself where I realized
God you didn’t just call me to be an
influencer for the sake of being in an
influencer you’ve called me to effect
something in culture so instead of
waiting for culture to come to me I take
authority over what God has called me to
do and I will invade the culture for the
sake of the kingdom so I take authority
God I feel that for somebody I don’t
know who that is for and I want to move
past it but I feel like it is a season
for you to take authority over who you
are I’m not going to be dictated by what
people say about me I’m not going to
keep apologizing for something I cannot
change I’m ready to move forward and
they take ownership over who God has
called me to be I take authority over my
voice I don’t need you speaking for me
any longer I take authority over my
relationship with God it’s about me and
him and no one else any longer I can’t
afford help my power back my 40 back
know what me and God can do when we
combined together and I can’t do that
unless I take authority and will never
attain the last bonus clip is have fun
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now I’ve got a special bonus clip from
Sarah on how to not settle for safe that
I really think you’re gonna enjoy but
before that is time for the three-point
landing questions time to move from just
watching another video to taking an
action in your life or business and if
you’re feeling bold leave your answers
in the comments below here we go
question number 1 where do you punish
yourself too much number 2 who do you
need to stop comparing yourself to and
number 3 what big mindset shift do you
need to make don’t settle for less give
to us what inspired you to write this
book well you know I really decided as I
was looking at my life I was coming off
the heels of going through such a
difficult time and I thought you know
what I just want to find this safe place
I was a single mother and I said I just
want to get a job I want to get a home
and I just want to get this routine that
feels safe for me and then the more that
I got that routine I realized that there
were still things happening to me we set
challenges we said obstacles and I
started really questioning this idea of
safety and I recognized that safety is
such an illusion because regardless of
what you’ve accomplished in life or
where what station you are in life you
still have these issues you still have
problems that spring up in your life
problems that make you feel a little bit
unstable and maybe question your faith
and then I recognize it if we choose to
stop settling for this idea of state and
instead recognize that in embracing the
unpredictability of life that there are
lessons and wisdom that we can gain from
those experiences so we don’t have to
start searching for safe instead we can
embrace the uncomfortable and in doing
if you like this video check out the top
ten rules I did on Bishop TD jakes the
link is right there next to me I think
you’ll enjoy it
continue to believe and I’ll see you
there but only instinct can find it you
must understand that the purpose is an
underlying chemistry that makes you live your life
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