situation the question is can you handle
can you manage the thoughts and the
emotions that are trying to poison your
progress
forget managing the situation
no matter whose fault it is that
something is broken if it’s your
it’s not somebody’s fault if their
father was an abusive alcoholic but it’s
for damn sure their responsibility to
figure out how they’re gonna do with
those traumas and try to make a life out
it’s not your fault if your partner
cheated and ruined your marriage but it
is for damn sure your responsibility to
figure out how to take that pain and how
to overcome that and build a happy life
fault and responsibility do not go
together Sox but they don’t was
something is somebody’s fault we want
them
to suffer we want them punished we want
them to pay we want it to be their
responsibility to fix it but that’s
that’s not how it works especially when
it’s your heart your heart your life
your happiness your responsibility
fear
the only place that fear can exist is in
a product of our imagination causing us
to fear things that do not at present
and may not ever exist as long as we’re
pointing a finger and and stuck in whose
fault
something is we’re jammed and trapped
into victim mode when you’re in victim
oh you’re stuck in suffering the road to
power is in taking responsibility your
heart your life your happiness is your
responsibility and your responsibility
fail early fail often fail forward you
know it’s always a little bit
frustrating to me when people have a
negative relationship with failure
failure is a massive part of being able
to be successful you have to get
comfortable with failure yet you have to
actually seek failure failure is where
all of the lessons are you know when you
go to the gym and you work out you’re
actually seeking failure you want to
take your muscles to the point where you
get to failure because that’s where the
the adaptation is that’s where growth is
successful people fail a lot they fail a
whole lot more than they succeed but
they extract the lessons from the
failure and they use that the the energy
and they use the wisdom to come around
to the next phase of success you’ve got
to take a shot you have to live at the
edge of your capabilities you got to
live where you’re almost certain you’re
gonna fail that’s the reason for a
practice practice is controlled failure
you’re getting to your limit getting to
your limit getting to your limit you
can’t lift that you can’t do that you
until you get to the point that all of a
sudden your body makes the adjustment
and then you can do it failure actually
helps you to recognize the areas where
you need to evolve so fail early fail
often fail forward I found myself in a
room with Arnold Schwarzenegger and I
was like okay
I want to be the biggest movie star in
the world and Arnold Schwarzenegger he
said he said the most important thing is
that you have a vision did you have a
cord because without that vision and
without that core again you’re drifting
around and you’re never gonna end up
anywhere people don’t become successful
just by accident you know I mean maybe
the guy that found gold in California
and started the gold rush but don’t
count on that that’s a one-in-a-lifetime
kind of a situation so you got to really
have a specific order to me to have that
vision that I want to be mr. universe
they don’t want to be the greatest
bodybuilder of all time that was a great
vision and that specifically they look
like reg Park and to be up down that
stage and to lift the trophy overhead
and to win the championship over and
over and over again so that was a great
core you have to have a corner it
doesn’t have to be that specific code
but it has they have some core this is
why I always recommend to people sit
down take your time instead thinking
about why do you want the workout what
is your core dreams without goals remain
dreams jet streams and ultimately few
disappointment dreams without goals
yearly goals like goals daily goals
monthly goals hourly goals
minute by minute goals dreams without
goals are just dreams and they
ultimately fuel disappointment goals on
the road to achievement cannot be
achieved without discipline and
successful people who fail a lot they
fail a whole lot more than they succeed
but they extract the lessons from the
failure and they use that energy and
they use the wisdom to come around to
the next phase of success when you had
that third failure in a row did you
think I need to pack this in why not
I don’t ever give up I mean I’d have to
be dead or to be incapacitated the only
thing that I see that is distinctly
different about me is I’m not afraid to
die on a treadmill I will not be be
outworked right period you know you
might have more talent than me you might
be smarter than me you might be sexier
than me you might be all of those things
you got it on me in nine categories but
if we get on the treadmill together
right there’s two things you’re getting
off first yeah or I’m gonna die it’s
really that simple so you’ve got to have
some reasons that when life knocks you
down that’s gone to hell it’s guard to
knock you down when people disappoint
you and that’s going to happen when they
betray you and that’s going to happen
when they lied to you and that’s gonna
have one is that all you can count on me
and they won’t show up and that’s going
to happen when you want to throw in the
towel and give up yourself and that’s
gonna happen when life collapse on you
and catch you on the Blind Side
it dropped you to your knees is that
choking you what reason can you remember
that you can call on that you can reach
on that can make you get back up find
that reason
because you live it knocked me down I
said life I’m doing this because I want
to make my mama proud of me I’m doing
this because I want my children to have
a better life than what I had
I’m doing this because all my life I’ve
been told I’d be a loser that I wouldn’t
make it all my life I heard people said
made me take them back to the welfare
department I’m doing this to make them a
la I believe like Frank Sinatra he said
the best revenge in life is massive
success so first we have to define
success for ourselves and then we have
to put in the work to maintain it take
that daily tally tend our garden keep
the things that are important to us in
good shape
let-let-let submit it we’ve all got to
wolves and a good one and a bad they
both want to eat the best I can tell we
just got to feed that goose
it is proven that the kids don’t do as
well in school
that’s subcultures of crime break out in
the community because if you don’t see
better you know do better what they have
learned over time is that mixed income
housing does the best so that the kid
who’s on welfare lives across the street
from the kid whose dad is a doctor
because if you can see up oh come on you
you might not have it but if you can see
it in your neighborhood you learn to put
a demand on life and expect more for
yourself
because you say is he can’t do it but if
you don’t see anybody doing it you stop
reaching for it
and you cannot receive anything you’re
not reaching for if all you’ve ever seen
is poverty if all you’ve ever seen this
domestic violence let me take you you
want the idea of happily berry but you
will pick somebody who’s mean because
the nice guy is boring and the nice guy
who fell in love I don’t know he’s nice
but I’m just not attracted to him you’re
attracted to what you’re exposed to and
even though you say you don’t want it
sometimes yeah you’ve gotta come a
little piece of yourself Oh
no matter how much he hurt
tell me I believe anything is possible
right I live in the world of possibility
and I also believe that anything we can
accomplish anything with our two hands
and just putting in the work with our
two hands and also you hear this often
but it’s really really true you got to
find something if you love what you do
and find and be passionate about what
you do and find something that you be
passionate like it really helps you know
it gives you that motivation when you
sometimes life’s gonna hit you in the
head with a brick don’t lose faith I’m
convinced that the only thing that kept
me going was that I loved what I did
you’ve got to find what you love and
that is this true for work as it is for
your lovers your work is going to fill a
large part of your life and the only way
to be truly satisfied is to do what you
believe is great work and the only way
to do great work is to love what you do
if you haven’t found it yet keep looking
and don’t settle as with all matters of
the heart you’ll know when you find it
fail early fail often fail forward you
know it’s always a little bit
frustrating to me when people have a
negative relationship with failure
failure is a massive part of being able
to be successful you have to get
comfortable with failure yet you have to
actually seek failure failure is where
all of the lessons are fail early fail
often fail forward I’m not going to I’m
going to get destroyed but if I can just
be lucid if I can still be standing on
my feet
you know what life isn’t so bad and I
think again symbolically at the very end
of our lives if we can still say you
know we were never humbled we were
knocked down but we got up and I can say
I lived life with integrity and I took
all the blows as the song says and I
still prevailed I think that’s that’s a
but how do you keep going why do you
keep going when the world says
everything else is supposed to be
opposite there’s two sides of pain that
I don’t think a lot of people really
understand right there’s there’s one
side of pain that’s the suffering and
the discomfort side of pain that’s why
everybody raised their hands when I
first acts do you have everything I’ve
ever been through pain because that
hurts you remember what that felt like
but then there’s another side of pain
that’s called effort
it’s called glory it’s called if you can
find a way to push to pain there’s
something greater on the other side of
it and and and and if you’ve never tap
into it it’s because the first time you
felt that you backed off first time you
feel ah that burn the first time you
feel that it’s too much and we
rationalize with ourselves to where we
automatically stop of us give up so much
life so quick
but suppose I told you the greatest pain
suppose I was able to share with you my
routine was so crazy man I was seeing
almost nine doctors for nine weeks 6:00
a.m.
ten days ten days from tricep repair
surgery didn’t have enough strength
and I minutes I’m made up in my mind
stop crying
make a choice but you just decide what
its gonna be who you’re gonna be how
you’re gonna do it just decide and then
from that point the universe is going to
get out your way this lets water once it
wants to move and go around stuff you
know push me said empty your mind be
formless shapeless like water now you
put water into a cup it becomes the cup
you put water into a bottle it becomes
the bottle you’re putting in a teapot it
becomes the teapot the water can flow or
it can crash be water my friend pain is
temporary it may last for a minute or an
hour or a day or even a year but
eventually it will subside and something
else will take its place if I quit
courage courage is the key to life
itself
a lot of people who were born in
situation of uh survived just I’ll never
get out of this so they won’t I say to
people say well I would like to have
done so and so on so somebody could have
done it some but I couldn’t get out of
here man the bus runs every day
successful people who fail a lot they
fail a whole lot more than they succeed
but they extract the lessons from the
failure and they use that the the energy
and they use the wisdom to come around
to the next phase of success I’m not
afraid to fail I’m not afraid to fall
over make a mistake that often time
cripples people on the onset of getting
too into anything the first time ever
picked up a DJ decks was home horrible
now but I’m not afraid of that I’m not
afraid of that feeling it actually
propels me works quite the opposite
I believe desire and will to win is
everything I don’t know why I’m like I
am but my butt’s always burning there’s
always something say our dad gummit
you’re supposed to go far Hart dad
gummit you’re supposed to be somebody
you’re supposed to make a difference
with your lie what does the $500,000
your person do the $50,000 your person
doesn’t do you’re looking outside and
study those two individuals everything
seems to be the same they both are the
same sex they both are the same aids
have the same training the same
positions the same contract the same
friends benefits
they both are successful they work hard
they’re good family people
make tough commitments but what’s the
difference what does the $500,000 person
do the $50,000 your person doesn’t do he
pays the price a little bit more he
works Harding a little bit more he’s
loyal to the cutting a little bit more
he believes in a little bit more he may
explain a little bit more he saves money
a little bit more leadership is
everything you show me anything in these
United States that win I’ll show you a
leader at work you show me a successful
church Boy Scout troop club football
team business I’ll show you some a run
by leader sissy I thought at one time in
my life you had to be smart to win I
used to have these smart people that
dress so pretty and talk so pretty and
use these big words they just
intimidated me I said aren’t you can’t
ever be that good why don’t you just
throw in the towel and going back coach
football for living and I found two
things out about smart people I think
it’s almost impossible for a smart
person to win in Fitness in America
today because I find smart people spend
their whole lifetime figuring things out
they always trying to figure out an
easier way in a quicker way and another
thing I found out about smart people’s
they just don’t get around to doing
nothing they see something I like art
Williams everybody said well he can’t do
it
I can’t do it but he does it see folks I
want you to know almost everybody in
America almost does enough to win they
almost get there they almost over the
hump they almost have it going
they almost did everything they do
almost as a way of life to almost
everybody in America but the winners do
it what do they do they do whatever it
takes to get the job done they do it and
do it and do it and do it and do it
until the job gets done and then they
talk about how great it is to be
somebody they’re proud of we need
leaders in America who can do it if you
want to become somebody do it if you
want to go in business for yourself do
it if you are the company it’s
independent do it I hear too much talk
in these United States everybody can
talk a good game we need people in
America who can do it I go all over this
country with Al waves and I have people
say hard you you count on me
wonderful just do it hi cutie this is my
life last stop I’m gonna win now
SuperDuper just do it all right if I
could just have one good month and get
the ball going I know I could make it
big super just do it or if I could just
pay all this dad I can really go
great just do it by yourself a house do
I’m not making any money what can I do
you just do it but do what are you do it
and do it and do it hard I get you ever
win this contest
super duper just do it hard over the hub
now watch my smoke grades just do it
hard I will make it so bad I tasted what
I do you just do it all right I’m a vice
No thank you Paul keeping order really
hurt what I do did you just do it but do
what art you do it and do it and do it
all my life I want to be somebody
important well what do it Dan
I will save money so I don’t have to go
through this again granny just do it I
don’t feel like I’ve had enough training
what I do and you just do it
my heart my manager don’t give me no
help what I do you just do it
my heart’s you don’t understand I was
mr. everything at my former company you
don’t mean I have to start with Danny
the bomb and do it do you
Bart was the primary difference between
winners and losers the one at the
until the job gets done
I represent hard work mm-hmm
determination motivation I think without
without a doubt if anything else by
watching me it’s simply an example of
hard work pays off
what you put into your craft you can get
out to it if you put a hundred and ten
percent into it and I’m just an example
of it the guy who was willing to hustle
the most is gonna be the guy that just
gets that loose ball my biological
mother found out later that my mother
had never graduated from college and my
father had never graduated from high
school she refused to sign the final
adoption papers she only relented a few
months later when my parents promised
that I would go to college I had no idea
what I wanted to do with my life and no
idea how college was going to help me
figure it out and here I was spending
all the money my parents had saved their
entire life so I decided to drop out and
trust that it would all work out okay it
was pretty scary at the time but looking
back it was one of the best decisions I
ever made I didn’t have a dorm room so I
slept on the floor in friends rooms I
returned coke bottles for the five cent
deposits to buy food with and I would
walk the seven miles across town every
Sunday night to get one good meal a week
at the Hari Krishna temple I loved it
everybody wants to pass but nobody loves
the process everybody wants to be a
champion but nobody’s willing to put in
the work that it takes to be a champion
everybody wants to hold up the trophy
and say man I get it but nobody’s
willing to put in the work that it takes
to do it I love the process I love the
thought of working for what I wallet and
I firmly believed you never supposed to
wish for it more than you’re willing to
work for it
your expectations never supposed to
exceed your effort but a lot of people
they wish and they’re not willing to
work and the great thing about life life
has a funny way of testing all of us and
seeing how bad we really want what it is
that we say we want because the thing I
know about people people can talk to
talk and people do it very well but life
is going to hit you with a certain level
of opposition life is going to hit you
with a certain level of that versity and
life is going to say to you you said you
wanted it now let’s see how bad you
really want it but the great thing about
it if you love the process when our
position in that verse see hitch
you will have a way of embracing it and
using it not only for yourself but you
will use it to make everybody that’s
connected to you stronger because your
vision has to be larger than yourself if
everything that you do is just about you
and for your personal gain something’s
gonna come up against you that’s gonna
be a lot tougher than you and if it’s
just about you the moment you hit it you’re gonna quit and give up every time