hi everyone welcome to another episode
of unlocking lily so I believe that this
world would be a better place if we all
just embrace who we truly are and when
after what we truly want which is what
inspired me to do just that start a
business to help people live the
extraordinary life on their terms
today Evan is helping me build a
business around my coaching and speaking
and I’m fighting all of you guys to join
me on my startup journey so the two main
things that I do for my business is I’m
a coach and a speaker so as a coach I
have the wonderful opportunity in
helping my clients find out who they
truly are and help them build a business
and life that they really want as a
speaker I’ve spoken at TEDx I’ve spoken
corporate events and private functions
and it all revolves around one theme
that theme is to unlock human potential
at the same time I’m also trying to help
myself grow both as a coach and as a
speaker so far I have read books I have
done online courses I’ve attended live
seminars and workshops I even have the
awesome help of my mentor Evan so the
next step for me is to reach out to
people that I believe have a unique set
of skills or a diverse background to
really learn from so that way I can
bring even more value to my clients and
the people I speak in front of so today
I am going to learn from mr. Josh Pais
Josh is an awesome human being he has
created this program called committed
impulse it’s a high-performance training
program for anybody who wants to be
creatively invincible which is pretty
awesome amongst all of that Josh is also
a speaker no he’s not amongst all of
that josh is also an actor an
entrepreneur and a coach so next up
you’re gonna see my interview with Josh
Pais as we sit down to talk about his
mission and the
techniques that’s going to help you
become creatively invincible enjoy what
I really really love about you is your
approach in how we handle different
types of emotion emotions that we
typically don’t enjoy having like
nervousness anxiety fear and you you
touched upon it briefly earlier about
how they are just sensations that we
feel in a body and if we were not to
dramatize those sensations those
emotions it actually disappears within
seven to twelve seconds yes it is so
huge I don’t know if you know how big
this is
it’s it’s nice I meant I know that it’s
big and I know that this concept is it
really is not about me but just that
note people put so much energy to try to
alter what they feel and it comes from
this notion that there’s an ideal state
that we should strive to be in and the
truth of the matter in 20 years of
training people and experimenting is
that honestly we don’t know what we’re
going to feel we don’t know what we’re
gonna feel in two minutes from now
and so if we can honor that that this
biological system innocent from our
minds point of view is out of control
meaning it’s gonna go here it’s gonna go
there and for a part of our mind that’s
disturbing
however it’s not you know our mind goes
we’re out of control but it’s really
you’re in control from your body’s point
of view and what I work with is instead
of coming up with ways to overcome fear
to get rid of this to get rid is to
expand your tolerance for the full
spectrum of you and by if you can party
with whatever this sensation is like
then you have creative invincibility
I like your analogy about partying with
your emotions
whatever the situation is can you talk
more about that basically I mean if I
have any mantra before I’m shooting a
movie before you know before the cameras
about to roll or I’m in the I’m doing an
off-broadway play right now there’s
anything that I say to myself before
going in to shoot something or teaching
a you know weekend course or whatever it
may be is is that I don’t know I don’t
know what I’m gonna feel and just to
remind myself to be in it it’s like I
don’t hang out with I don’t know is a
really magical thing to do and since
grammar school you know it’s been we’re
conditioned I don’t know is a bad thing
it means you’re not prepared you did but
there’s a real creativity and I don’t
know and because if you just allow it to
you know your wonder to be there people
that take my class for a while like
they’ll be like you know say what do you
feel right now just so that to make sure
they’re connected to whatever’s there
and let and create from that and people
that have been doing it for this work
for a while with me there’ll be like I
feel anxious and like that’s awesome
because that’s something to connect to
if you want to be spontaneous and create
from your truth in this moment and
engage people
you have to just honor party with
wherever you are hmm
but if you’re going like you know you
feel something and and you hold in your
mind oh that’s a bad thing to feel or if
people saw that I felt this it would
mean that I wasn’t professional or would
mean that I wasn’t prepared whatever the
thought may be then you’re gonna
disconnect from you and as soon as you
disconnect from I’ll say your party your
body party simultaneously the audience
will disconnect from you and they will
go in their head if you’re speaking with
people and you’re in your head judging
how your yourself is doing or wondering
what they’re thinking of you
it triggers them to go into their head
so if you can stay in you and breathe
like your BOTS your creativity is in
your body it’s not in our intellect you
stay in your body and the most brilliant
thing work will come out I love it and
it seems so intuitive like it seems like
that’s where we should be and get any
overdramatize things we intellectualize
things you know I go into like some kind
of existentialist bummer anytime like
someone looks at me in a different way
but you know it’s all about having a
party in our body so it’s a yeah and the
party is always there it’s always the
right thing and there’s no you know
there’s no bad sensation if you can get
that notion I mean I’m not talking about
you know getting hurt or something like
that but anything that’s happening in
here if you can shift to that it’s all
good because it’s built into your DNA
this is how your were designed to feel
this full spectrum of sensation and it
you know I often think you know I was
walking through the woods one day and I
was just thinking about how to talk
about this stuff and it’s almost like to
go like going through the woods and
going like no that that plant is wrong
yeah you know that those bushes are
wrong they’re not shouldn’t be there
it’s the same thing as going like this
you know feeling some calm you know
that’s wrong feeling some it you know
some intensity some you know a lot of
vibration in your chest for example oh
that’s wrong it’s ridiculous and so
again it’s just a bit if you can expand
your tolerance for all of you it’s like
you’re free Wow and and one one thing
that I do in my classes which I would
suggest is a great way to start
integrating this work is in my classes
anytime somebody goes in their heads
like you know we’ll be engaged with
whatever’s happening and then somebody
is like you know
goes off you know shopping and
Bloomingdale’s in their head and like
walking down the aisles you know they’re
just like and as soon as you’re aware
that you’ve left everybody you say I’m
back it’s a great thing just to do in
you know you can’t always do it in the
middle of the meeting but in your day to
day life just practicing like you can be
walking down the street and you realize
wow I haven’t seen anything in front of
me it’s like I’m back what do I take a
breath what’s what is this information
what do I actually see and that just
trains us to stay in the moment and to
be present I’m back I’m back the more
that you do it you know in the beginning
it’s kind of shocking to people because
they’re like oh my god I’m back I’m back
I’m back but the more that you do it
when you’ll be more and more present and
then when you do leave it’ll be really
clear and you can come right back mm-hmm
I actually did that that exercise when I
did your online course and it was
amazing how many times I had to say I’m
back like and I thought I practiced
mindfulness and I practiced meditation
and I feel like I’m very present but
even after doing all of that I’m still
constantly telling myself I’m back it
could be something small like oh what’s
going out this water bottle I’m back
yeah like oh my mind kind of wanders and
it’s so important to be present because
I feel like when we’re not present we’re
always either behind the time or ahead
of time which causes like stress exactly
instead of being right in a moment yeah
I mean our mind what our mind wants us
to do is to project about the future you
know it’s either gonna be terrible or
it’s gonna be better or reflect on the
past the past was better I where I
screwed up the past and that’s why
everything’s a mess what else so it’s
there’s a part of our brain that wants
to constantly go to past past and future
and you know at one point you know that
was a survival technique that was
important but in
this era that is what causes all the
problems and I’m a PHA even in the
worlds like if we can really see and
connect with each other and let go of
all these stories that were carrying
around and I’m talking about globally
it’s like the planet would shift but we
kept our mind there’s a part of our
minds that want to carry a story and
carry a grudge and get justified and get
revenge or whatever it may be and when
we’re when that’s occurring we’re in
this thought week we’re not engaged with
what’s actually in front of each other
it’s like that I don’t know if it was I
don’t know the story I think it was I
don’t know it was World War 2 or
whatever where there were some soldiers
that for whatever reason I’m screwing
the story up but the essence of it was
that they just stopped and they just
really looked at each other and they
really saw this this other human in
front of them and it was a really
profound experience like they were they
couldn’t fight each other in that moment
that is so beautiful Josh I think that’s
a good place for us to end this
interview I I do I I see your point and
I see your mission as well which is why
I thought it was so important to have
you on our channel because I think more
people need to learn about you and what
you’re about I think there’s a lot of
programs out there which is helpful in
some sort of way but I think there’s a
lot of like you says suppressive
qualities in it and I think we can’t
suppress us and ourselves anymore we
need to be free and what you said that
when we’re present and we’re human to
human face to face it’s something
magical and profound happens it’s a
sense of understanding it’s a sense of
our humanity and empathy that we cannot
get if we’re not present so I really
really want to thank you for that Josh
thank you okay so that’s it that’s my
interview with
Josh I want to be respectful of his time
I know he’s a busy guy so thank you so
much Josh do you have any just less I
know you said a lot of really amazing
things but last sentence to leave us
with today just have fun like see see
how much fun you can bring to the
smallest interaction whether it’s buying
some coffee with someone or whatever
work that you’re about to do you know if
you have stuff you have to write or
whatever it may be if you can just
infuse fun in it it just is another way
to open the creative channel amazing
thank you so much Josh and thank you
guys for watching bye I am back from the
interview with Josh price you guys enjoy
the interview as much as I did and I
want to spend a little bit of time going
over the two things that I learned from
Josh that I actually put into practice
since meeting him so the first thing
that I learned from him was party with
the old eat motion I love it I love this
one because I don’t know to dance and I
like to party last week what I did was I
party about my emotions I had to film a
bunch of videos with Evan and that day
was like jam-packed
I had workshops in the afternoon to do I
had to make the video and in the morning
I did a lot of coaching sessions I was
like running back and forth above all of
that I was actually really sick and I
haven’t been sick in here so I was
getting frustrated about that too so I
have all of these things going on in my
head and then I had to make an awesome
video at the same time so instead of
really using all of the calming
techniques that I used to use before I
calm down
I believe all that kind of stuff which
which is good again it works but I
wanted to try Josh’s technique as I was
going up the escalator going to the TDS
dance studio I said to myself oh boy I’m
feeling some bubbling coming up my
stomach into my chest then it’s the
really hot it’s going to work my face
and you know I’m just gonna party with
it I’m fire raining all over the place
and I’m just going to party with these
emotions I’m gonna make this work I’m
not gonna try to suppress anything so I
got to the studio I was like completely
like hey I’m partying with my emotions I
was like really high-energy and I saw
Evan and Jason was that camera person
and it was fun it was a lot of fun we
had some fun with the video as well and
you know what that nervousness anxiety
that was feeling it actually disappeared
within a few seconds of me really just
letting it be letting my emotions be as
it is and they’re all are just
sensations and I walked away feeling
like you know what I represented myself
number two is I’m back our presence is
so incredibly important not only for
herself but for every single person that
we encounter how many times have we been
in a situation where we’re sitting
across from someone and we feel like
they’re just not listening to us it just
doesn’t feel great does it and how many
times have we been that person who’s not
listening so over the last week after
talking to Josh I really started
practicing I’m back technique so every
time my mind would wonder I would bring
it back over and over again and now in
the beginning it was like all the time
and then later on as I did it more and
more I became more present and I had to
see it less and less so I really want to
challenge all of you to go on this
journey with me a presence because I’m
gonna continue to do this and I want you
guys to do it with me as well so every
time your mind wanders tell yourself
that you are back you don’t have to say
it out loud but just say it in your mind
and
see how much more focused you are and
see how much clearer you are because I
have seen the benefits of that so I want
to pass it over to you guys as well so
in addition to do the interview with
Josh I’m also enrolled in his online
course called committed impulse so if
you guys are curious and you want to
find out more information about his
course I will have it in the links below
as well as a link to a free 20 minute
lesson to kind of check it out and see
how you feel about the course as well
and I’m a special shutter for Steven
Harris Steven thank you so much for
writing that awesome comments in my last
episode and I hope you and your family
are having a wonderful time and finally
the question of the day is which part of
this video was your favorite you can
name anything from the interview from
the techniques that we talked about I’m
really curious to find out so leave in
the comments below and I’ll join in on
the discussion thank you guys so much
for watching and more importantly being
on this journey with me I feel like I’m
just getting started and I feel the
comfort in knowing that all of you guys
are going along with me every step of
the way
so thank you guys again and I’ll see you
very very soon
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of unlocking lily so I believe that this
world would be a better place if we all
just embrace who we truly are and when
after what we truly want which is what
inspired me to do just that start a
business to help people live the
extraordinary life on their terms
today Evan is helping me build a
business around my coaching and speaking
and I’m fighting all of you guys to join
me on my startup journey so the two main
things that I do for my business is I’m
a coach and a speaker so as a coach I
have the wonderful opportunity in
helping my clients find out who they
truly are and help them build a business
and life that they really want as a
speaker I’ve spoken at TEDx I’ve spoken
corporate events and private functions
and it all revolves around one theme
that theme is to unlock human potential
at the same time I’m also trying to help
myself grow both as a coach and as a
speaker so far I have read books I have
done online courses I’ve attended live
seminars and workshops I even have the
awesome help of my mentor Evan so the
next step for me is to reach out to
people that I believe have a unique set
of skills or a diverse background to
really learn from so that way I can
bring even more value to my clients and
the people I speak in front of so today
I am going to learn from mr. Josh Pais
Josh is an awesome human being he has
created this program called committed
impulse it’s a high-performance training
program for anybody who wants to be
creatively invincible which is pretty
awesome amongst all of that Josh is also
a speaker no he’s not amongst all of
that josh is also an actor an
entrepreneur and a coach so next up
you’re gonna see my interview with Josh
Pais as we sit down to talk about his
mission and the
techniques that’s going to help you
become creatively invincible enjoy what
I really really love about you is your
approach in how we handle different
types of emotion emotions that we
typically don’t enjoy having like
nervousness anxiety fear and you you
touched upon it briefly earlier about
how they are just sensations that we
feel in a body and if we were not to
dramatize those sensations those
emotions it actually disappears within
seven to twelve seconds yes it is so
huge I don’t know if you know how big
this is
it’s it’s nice I meant I know that it’s
big and I know that this concept is it
really is not about me but just that
note people put so much energy to try to
alter what they feel and it comes from
this notion that there’s an ideal state
that we should strive to be in and the
truth of the matter in 20 years of
training people and experimenting is
that honestly we don’t know what we’re
going to feel we don’t know what we’re
gonna feel in two minutes from now
and so if we can honor that that this
biological system innocent from our
minds point of view is out of control
meaning it’s gonna go here it’s gonna go
there and for a part of our mind that’s
disturbing
however it’s not you know our mind goes
we’re out of control but it’s really
you’re in control from your body’s point
of view and what I work with is instead
of coming up with ways to overcome fear
to get rid of this to get rid is to
expand your tolerance for the full
spectrum of you and by if you can party
with whatever this sensation is like
then you have creative invincibility
I like your analogy about partying with
your emotions
whatever the situation is can you talk
more about that basically I mean if I
have any mantra before I’m shooting a
movie before you know before the cameras
about to roll or I’m in the I’m doing an
off-broadway play right now there’s
anything that I say to myself before
going in to shoot something or teaching
a you know weekend course or whatever it
may be is is that I don’t know I don’t
know what I’m gonna feel and just to
remind myself to be in it it’s like I
don’t hang out with I don’t know is a
really magical thing to do and since
grammar school you know it’s been we’re
conditioned I don’t know is a bad thing
it means you’re not prepared you did but
there’s a real creativity and I don’t
know and because if you just allow it to
you know your wonder to be there people
that take my class for a while like
they’ll be like you know say what do you
feel right now just so that to make sure
they’re connected to whatever’s there
and let and create from that and people
that have been doing it for this work
for a while with me there’ll be like I
feel anxious and like that’s awesome
because that’s something to connect to
if you want to be spontaneous and create
from your truth in this moment and
engage people
you have to just honor party with
wherever you are hmm
but if you’re going like you know you
feel something and and you hold in your
mind oh that’s a bad thing to feel or if
people saw that I felt this it would
mean that I wasn’t professional or would
mean that I wasn’t prepared whatever the
thought may be then you’re gonna
disconnect from you and as soon as you
disconnect from I’ll say your party your
body party simultaneously the audience
will disconnect from you and they will
go in their head if you’re speaking with
people and you’re in your head judging
how your yourself is doing or wondering
what they’re thinking of you
it triggers them to go into their head
so if you can stay in you and breathe
like your BOTS your creativity is in
your body it’s not in our intellect you
stay in your body and the most brilliant
thing work will come out I love it and
it seems so intuitive like it seems like
that’s where we should be and get any
overdramatize things we intellectualize
things you know I go into like some kind
of existentialist bummer anytime like
someone looks at me in a different way
but you know it’s all about having a
party in our body so it’s a yeah and the
party is always there it’s always the
right thing and there’s no you know
there’s no bad sensation if you can get
that notion I mean I’m not talking about
you know getting hurt or something like
that but anything that’s happening in
here if you can shift to that it’s all
good because it’s built into your DNA
this is how your were designed to feel
this full spectrum of sensation and it
you know I often think you know I was
walking through the woods one day and I
was just thinking about how to talk
about this stuff and it’s almost like to
go like going through the woods and
going like no that that plant is wrong
yeah you know that those bushes are
wrong they’re not shouldn’t be there
it’s the same thing as going like this
you know feeling some calm you know
that’s wrong feeling some it you know
some intensity some you know a lot of
vibration in your chest for example oh
that’s wrong it’s ridiculous and so
again it’s just a bit if you can expand
your tolerance for all of you it’s like
you’re free Wow and and one one thing
that I do in my classes which I would
suggest is a great way to start
integrating this work is in my classes
anytime somebody goes in their heads
like you know we’ll be engaged with
whatever’s happening and then somebody
is like you know
goes off you know shopping and
Bloomingdale’s in their head and like
walking down the aisles you know they’re
just like and as soon as you’re aware
that you’ve left everybody you say I’m
back it’s a great thing just to do in
you know you can’t always do it in the
middle of the meeting but in your day to
day life just practicing like you can be
walking down the street and you realize
wow I haven’t seen anything in front of
me it’s like I’m back what do I take a
breath what’s what is this information
what do I actually see and that just
trains us to stay in the moment and to
be present I’m back I’m back the more
that you do it you know in the beginning
it’s kind of shocking to people because
they’re like oh my god I’m back I’m back
I’m back but the more that you do it
when you’ll be more and more present and
then when you do leave it’ll be really
clear and you can come right back mm-hmm
I actually did that that exercise when I
did your online course and it was
amazing how many times I had to say I’m
back like and I thought I practiced
mindfulness and I practiced meditation
and I feel like I’m very present but
even after doing all of that I’m still
constantly telling myself I’m back it
could be something small like oh what’s
going out this water bottle I’m back
yeah like oh my mind kind of wanders and
it’s so important to be present because
I feel like when we’re not present we’re
always either behind the time or ahead
of time which causes like stress exactly
instead of being right in a moment yeah
I mean our mind what our mind wants us
to do is to project about the future you
know it’s either gonna be terrible or
it’s gonna be better or reflect on the
past the past was better I where I
screwed up the past and that’s why
everything’s a mess what else so it’s
there’s a part of our brain that wants
to constantly go to past past and future
and you know at one point you know that
was a survival technique that was
important but in
this era that is what causes all the
problems and I’m a PHA even in the
worlds like if we can really see and
connect with each other and let go of
all these stories that were carrying
around and I’m talking about globally
it’s like the planet would shift but we
kept our mind there’s a part of our
minds that want to carry a story and
carry a grudge and get justified and get
revenge or whatever it may be and when
we’re when that’s occurring we’re in
this thought week we’re not engaged with
what’s actually in front of each other
it’s like that I don’t know if it was I
don’t know the story I think it was I
don’t know it was World War 2 or
whatever where there were some soldiers
that for whatever reason I’m screwing
the story up but the essence of it was
that they just stopped and they just
really looked at each other and they
really saw this this other human in
front of them and it was a really
profound experience like they were they
couldn’t fight each other in that moment
that is so beautiful Josh I think that’s
a good place for us to end this
interview I I do I I see your point and
I see your mission as well which is why
I thought it was so important to have
you on our channel because I think more
people need to learn about you and what
you’re about I think there’s a lot of
programs out there which is helpful in
some sort of way but I think there’s a
lot of like you says suppressive
qualities in it and I think we can’t
suppress us and ourselves anymore we
need to be free and what you said that
when we’re present and we’re human to
human face to face it’s something
magical and profound happens it’s a
sense of understanding it’s a sense of
our humanity and empathy that we cannot
get if we’re not present so I really
really want to thank you for that Josh
thank you okay so that’s it that’s my
interview with
Josh I want to be respectful of his time
I know he’s a busy guy so thank you so
much Josh do you have any just less I
know you said a lot of really amazing
things but last sentence to leave us
with today just have fun like see see
how much fun you can bring to the
smallest interaction whether it’s buying
some coffee with someone or whatever
work that you’re about to do you know if
you have stuff you have to write or
whatever it may be if you can just
infuse fun in it it just is another way
to open the creative channel amazing
thank you so much Josh and thank you
guys for watching bye I am back from the
interview with Josh price you guys enjoy
the interview as much as I did and I
want to spend a little bit of time going
over the two things that I learned from
Josh that I actually put into practice
since meeting him so the first thing
that I learned from him was party with
the old eat motion I love it I love this
one because I don’t know to dance and I
like to party last week what I did was I
party about my emotions I had to film a
bunch of videos with Evan and that day
was like jam-packed
I had workshops in the afternoon to do I
had to make the video and in the morning
I did a lot of coaching sessions I was
like running back and forth above all of
that I was actually really sick and I
haven’t been sick in here so I was
getting frustrated about that too so I
have all of these things going on in my
head and then I had to make an awesome
video at the same time so instead of
really using all of the calming
techniques that I used to use before I
calm down
I believe all that kind of stuff which
which is good again it works but I
wanted to try Josh’s technique as I was
going up the escalator going to the TDS
dance studio I said to myself oh boy I’m
feeling some bubbling coming up my
stomach into my chest then it’s the
really hot it’s going to work my face
and you know I’m just gonna party with
it I’m fire raining all over the place
and I’m just going to party with these
emotions I’m gonna make this work I’m
not gonna try to suppress anything so I
got to the studio I was like completely
like hey I’m partying with my emotions I
was like really high-energy and I saw
Evan and Jason was that camera person
and it was fun it was a lot of fun we
had some fun with the video as well and
you know what that nervousness anxiety
that was feeling it actually disappeared
within a few seconds of me really just
letting it be letting my emotions be as
it is and they’re all are just
sensations and I walked away feeling
like you know what I represented myself
number two is I’m back our presence is
so incredibly important not only for
herself but for every single person that
we encounter how many times have we been
in a situation where we’re sitting
across from someone and we feel like
they’re just not listening to us it just
doesn’t feel great does it and how many
times have we been that person who’s not
listening so over the last week after
talking to Josh I really started
practicing I’m back technique so every
time my mind would wonder I would bring
it back over and over again and now in
the beginning it was like all the time
and then later on as I did it more and
more I became more present and I had to
see it less and less so I really want to
challenge all of you to go on this
journey with me a presence because I’m
gonna continue to do this and I want you
guys to do it with me as well so every
time your mind wanders tell yourself
that you are back you don’t have to say
it out loud but just say it in your mind
and
see how much more focused you are and
see how much clearer you are because I
have seen the benefits of that so I want
to pass it over to you guys as well so
in addition to do the interview with
Josh I’m also enrolled in his online
course called committed impulse so if
you guys are curious and you want to
find out more information about his
course I will have it in the links below
as well as a link to a free 20 minute
lesson to kind of check it out and see
how you feel about the course as well
and I’m a special shutter for Steven
Harris Steven thank you so much for
writing that awesome comments in my last
episode and I hope you and your family
are having a wonderful time and finally
the question of the day is which part of
this video was your favorite you can
name anything from the interview from
the techniques that we talked about I’m
really curious to find out so leave in
the comments below and I’ll join in on
the discussion thank you guys so much
for watching and more importantly being
on this journey with me I feel like I’m
just getting started and I feel the
comfort in knowing that all of you guys
are going along with me every step of
the way
so thank you guys again and I’ll see you
very very soon
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