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hello believe nation today we’re going
to look at how you can have more joy and
as always guys if you hear something
that really resonates with you please
leave it down the comments below put
quotes around it so other people can be
inspired and when you write it down
yourself it’s much more likely to stick
with you as well
enjoy happiness is pleasure and
happiness is joy you can be either one
you add them up in exotic Falls or the
uber category of happiness pleasure is
short-lived lasts an hour last a minute
lasts a month and it Peaks and then goes
down it Peaks very high but the next
time you want to get that same peak you
have to do it twice as much it’s like
drugs you know just you have to keep
doing it because it insulates itself no
matter what it is whether you’re
shopping whether you’re you know engaged
in any other kind of pleasure that all
has the same quality about it on the
other hand is joy and joy is the thing
that doesn’t go as high as pleasure in
terms of your emotional reaction but it
stays with you joy it’s something you
can recall pleasure you can’t so the
secret is that even though it’s not as
intense as the pleasure the joy will
last you a lot longer and people who get
the pleasure they keep saying well if I
can just get richer and get more cars
you know I’ll never you’ll never relive
the moment you got your first car that’s
it that’s the highest peak yes you can
get three Ferraris in a new Gulfstream
jet and maybe you’ll get close but you
have to keep going and eventually you
run out I mean you just can’t do it
doesn’t work so if you’re trying to
sustain that level of peak pleasure
you’re doomed
it’s a very American idea but it just
can’t happen you just let it go
peak great pleasure it’s fun it’s great
but you can’t keep it going forever just
accept the fact that it’s hearings gone
and maybe again it’ll come back and you
get to do it again joy lasts forever
pleasure is purely self-centered it’s
all about your pleasure it’s about you
it’s about a selfish self-centered
emotion that’s created by a
self-centered motive of greed joy is
compassion joy is giving yourself to
somebody else or something else and it’s
a kind of thing that is in its subtlety
and lowness much more powerful than
pleasure you get hung up on pleasure
you’re doomed if you pursue joy you will
find everlasting happiness and one
mental point is bringing joy back into
our everyday lives because so many of us
and I speak as a complete culprit you
know this is like a certifiable type-a
workaholic driven personality who
basically felt my job is about getting
it all done getting it done in time
getting it accomplished and joy who is
time for joy and now I feel that not at
all that it’s like when I’m not joyful
I look at what happened I don’t mean I
don’t mean joyful like there are no
challenges problems etc I mean like when
I’m not like hey this is great I’m
blessed I’m doing something I love I’m
grateful and when I don’t have that
feeling and not I’m off I need to
course-correct so joy kind of really
checking in and seeing how am i doing
you might if you don’t even have to
check in because you know when you are
in the flow in the joy and when you’re
not if you want to know how to decide if
a career opportunity is a good one there
are several things you have to take into
consideration number one does it make
your heart sing the number one feedback
system that you are given at birth is
joy if you’re not experiencing joy as
you think about doing
something and as you pursue doing it
then it’s off course for you you also
want to put your rational mind to work
you want it to some due diligence ask
other people who’ve gone down that road
before what was it like what did they
have to do over some of the cost of that
path what were some of the bay offs and
the benefits and really get a sense of
what it would be like to do that
sometimes you can go and do an
internship or you can work for a friend
in their restaurant just to see if you
like it because often the fantasy
doesn’t match the reality and the other
thing is to simply trust yourself you
know deep inside what’s true for you and
if you’ll take a few minutes and go
inside we call it meditation and just
ask and sit with the question and see
what kind of feelings come up does this
feel right so do all the rational
research but then ultimately bring it
back into your heart and decide does
this feel good for me and if it makes
sense up here and it feels good then
step into it just lean into it and see
what happens pursue it no decision is
forever you can always change if it’s
not what you want I was always a person
with a lot of confidence and I never
took very seriously any one making less
of me I think you learn by your failures
and you learn by your mistakes but you
don’t take them to heart because as soon
as you do it takes the spirit out of you
it kind of you die a little bit look the
world is dark as just it’s as bad as it
gets you look in the newspaper it’s bad
it’s you look over shoulder it’s bad
news if you want me to cry out try right
now for you because I can find so much
sadness in the world I can find so much
tragedy I can find so much heartache
that it will just be massive okay now
where’s the joy where’s the spirit
where’s the fun that’s the goal to me so
I’ve never understood why so much is
harped on the negative because negative
is easy dark is easy and doing it
artfully yes we must all do that but I
find it much more interesting to find
out where the joy is so during those
time
I probably perceived negative but I went
for life I learned how to become a jet
pilot I travelled the world I rubbed
elbows with all sorts of people and I
learned what they were about and that
was feeding me you know I had a choice I
could have believed that things were
finished things were over that life is
bad that life is not worth it
why don’t we all die or something like
that it’s just not not my nature you see
so my feeling was that you get through
that the best you can by living life
fully and using the spirit of other
people to feed you and you feed them and
you rise above it all that way everybody
who’s successful and by successful I
mean like absolutely fulfilled in their
career you know passionate about it and
feeling like they’re doing something
that they’re supposed to do they have
these three characteristics and first of
all they have joy they’re happy in their
work they enjoy what they do most of the
time they’re not doing a soul-sucking
job if they have a job it’s a great job
or if it’s something that they built for
themselves they really enjoy it and the
second quality is money because there’s
lots of things you can do that you enjoy
but if you don’t get paid for them then
it’s a hobby which is great like it’s
good to have a hobby but if you’re
talking about a career it has to be
financially sustainable so joy money and
then the third factor is flow which is
really doing something that you’re good
at really doing something where when you
do it you’re immersed in it and ours
just kind of pass by and it’s also
really easy for you because it’s
something that you’re good at and other
people are like wow like you know she’s
really good at that takes me a lot
longer to do that or I’m not good at it
but so I think what we’re looking for is
this combination of all three factors we
want something that brings joy we want
something that is financially
sustainable we want something that
brings flow and I don’t think people
will be happy unless they have all three
of these factors yeah I think you can be
a little bit you can be okay right
there’s lots of people who do jobs they
don’t love and that’s fine they get a
paycheck and maybe they’re satisfied in
other areas of their life but because
life is short why not try to work toward
something
you know that is not just you know okay
but is amazing right isn’t that the goal
we see yourself working
we talked right down the way that would
together ever
a lot of stranger to talk with we
justify device telling you on the deep
and figured on using you got really like
that
so why do our delta not for yourself
right there’s a moment I think you
damage an essential health approach
entirely the temperature yourself the
way you want that for your emotion she’s
right she said she doesn’t think
anything has it means so you have
nothing to fear in the moment right
if you are behaviors of the worst of it
and I want to be like the birthday
before we get there be the stop talking
something for every book you have this
corresponding action you may be able to
your projection rate but where did that
come from that you reach and like you
were saying earlier if your genie fell
on world works and now you’re higher
status or something your lesson where
they’re saying that Shan Shan what who
you are Chen you’re not worthy to
promptly person she that this person saw
that power over easy was it for you that
you’re not enough you’re actually
nothing
not reaching out to come along in a
two-block remember that shingle up who
you are and what happened right your
shame we lock it and turn to joy
so the all idea approachable place of
joy if you all visit joy is evidence of
shame you’ll have to learn in life
that’s what we call a collective a
medium a medium stage which is what we
have enjoyed they were all things if you
walk out there like okay all right there
all these people and they’re going to
prove religion to the bottom they don’t
feel competitive you know my cell so my
self-esteem in hang up every stranger to
talk to you’re setting yourself up for
trouble
yeah and pushed a stated being a lot of
school let’s talk about that yourself
off with the judge at handicap the wave
I rode I think I was eight years old
that wave stands out in my head probably
more than any wave in my life for some
reason it it wasn’t any sort of amazing
wave it was a just a little wave
probably you know wasted chest high
it took off on it and I just did I did
it bottom turn and I did a little turn
off the top and I just did that three
different times and when I finished the
third one I came down I sort of
straighten off on the way when I looked
over my dad was smiling at me and right
at that moment it was just such sheer
joy you know like connecting with my dad
but also finding the thing that like I
was becoming good at I think probably in
that moment I knew that this is what I
was going to do forever
I wasn’t like I am always been a very
optimistic upbeat person when I first
came to college it was a time that I was
trying to figure out who am I what makes
me special and I started to find most of
my value in the fact that I was
for several years had no idea I had
become anorexic and be places with
people I cared about but what I was
thinking about was the extra grease on
the pizza or the calories that I knew
were in that shake and I just was
talking to my wall one day and I broke
down crying because I realized for the
first time I have problem and that this
isn’t normal people don’t think like
this I finally realized I wasn’t happy
anytime there’s a change to be made you
have to realize that there’s somewhere
else you want to be and I wanted
basically to be happy
that was far more important than the
skinniest girl in a room once I realized
that there was a problem that’s when I
could change I knew that I could be
happy again
we collect this year about eight billion
dollars of customers money so thank you
all of you for giving us your money and
what we do is we say that money is
entrust to create joy we have to turn
that into the most joy possible and so
we look and we say for every show if a
show cost a hundred million dollars how
much joy how much viewing did it create
amongst all of you if it costs 50
million or 200 million of course you
want different amounts of joy so we look
at it as how much joy can we create of
your money and if we turn it into joy
effectively then you’re happy and you
tell your friends and we grow and then
we have more money next year to turn
into more joy so we’re we think of
myself like Alchemist we take in money
and out comes joy some of you need a
laugh right now so I’m going to stop
right in the middle of this preaching
and tell you a joke
[Applause]
well honey I’ve never been in a church
like this well two old people were
laying in bed side-by-side I’m talking
really old like wrinkled up old and she
said honey why don’t you ever hold my
hand like you used to at night so his
little old wrinkled hand came across the
bed he took her little old wrinkled hand
she said honey why don’t you ever hold
me in your arms like you used to at
night so he sighed and it took him a
little while but he got over to her side
of the bed
got her in his arms and she rested a
little bit then she said honey why don’t
you ever nibble on my ear like you used
to at night and all of a sudden he
jumped up and started across the floor
and she’s gone where are you going he
said well I got to get my teeth
[Applause]
I see you’re thinking whoa what does
that have to do with anything
nothing it has nothing to do with
anything and that’s exactly what you
need to get through your head that
everything doesn’t have to have some
SuperDuper purpose
[Applause]
it’s okay just stop right the middle
some work and just have a little bit of
fun
matter of fact you could laugh it
yourself and lighten up your life a
whole lot thank you guys so much for
watching I hope you enjoyed I’d love to
know what was your paper clip what
resonated the most with you what are you
going to take from this video and
immediately apply to your life or your
business somehow please leave it down in
the comments I’m super curious to find
out thank you guys again for watching I
believe in you I hope you continue to
believe in yourself and whatever your
one word is much love I’ll see you soon
hello believe nation today we’re going
to look at how you can have more joy and
as always guys if you hear something
that really resonates with you please
leave it down the comments below put
quotes around it so other people can be
inspired and when you write it down
yourself it’s much more likely to stick
with you as well
enjoy happiness is pleasure and
happiness is joy you can be either one
you add them up in exotic Falls or the
uber category of happiness pleasure is
short-lived lasts an hour last a minute
lasts a month and it Peaks and then goes
down it Peaks very high but the next
time you want to get that same peak you
have to do it twice as much it’s like
drugs you know just you have to keep
doing it because it insulates itself no
matter what it is whether you’re
shopping whether you’re you know engaged
in any other kind of pleasure that all
has the same quality about it on the
other hand is joy and joy is the thing
that doesn’t go as high as pleasure in
terms of your emotional reaction but it
stays with you joy it’s something you
can recall pleasure you can’t so the
secret is that even though it’s not as
intense as the pleasure the joy will
last you a lot longer and people who get
the pleasure they keep saying well if I
can just get richer and get more cars
you know I’ll never you’ll never relive
the moment you got your first car that’s
it that’s the highest peak yes you can
get three Ferraris in a new Gulfstream
jet and maybe you’ll get close but you
have to keep going and eventually you
run out I mean you just can’t do it
doesn’t work so if you’re trying to
sustain that level of peak pleasure
you’re doomed
it’s a very American idea but it just
can’t happen you just let it go
peak great pleasure it’s fun it’s great
but you can’t keep it going forever just
accept the fact that it’s hearings gone
and maybe again it’ll come back and you
get to do it again joy lasts forever
pleasure is purely self-centered it’s
all about your pleasure it’s about you
it’s about a selfish self-centered
emotion that’s created by a
self-centered motive of greed joy is
compassion joy is giving yourself to
somebody else or something else and it’s
a kind of thing that is in its subtlety
and lowness much more powerful than
pleasure you get hung up on pleasure
you’re doomed if you pursue joy you will
find everlasting happiness and one
mental point is bringing joy back into
our everyday lives because so many of us
and I speak as a complete culprit you
know this is like a certifiable type-a
workaholic driven personality who
basically felt my job is about getting
it all done getting it done in time
getting it accomplished and joy who is
time for joy and now I feel that not at
all that it’s like when I’m not joyful
I look at what happened I don’t mean I
don’t mean joyful like there are no
challenges problems etc I mean like when
I’m not like hey this is great I’m
blessed I’m doing something I love I’m
grateful and when I don’t have that
feeling and not I’m off I need to
course-correct so joy kind of really
checking in and seeing how am i doing
you might if you don’t even have to
check in because you know when you are
in the flow in the joy and when you’re
not if you want to know how to decide if
a career opportunity is a good one there
are several things you have to take into
consideration number one does it make
your heart sing the number one feedback
system that you are given at birth is
joy if you’re not experiencing joy as
you think about doing
something and as you pursue doing it
then it’s off course for you you also
want to put your rational mind to work
you want it to some due diligence ask
other people who’ve gone down that road
before what was it like what did they
have to do over some of the cost of that
path what were some of the bay offs and
the benefits and really get a sense of
what it would be like to do that
sometimes you can go and do an
internship or you can work for a friend
in their restaurant just to see if you
like it because often the fantasy
doesn’t match the reality and the other
thing is to simply trust yourself you
know deep inside what’s true for you and
if you’ll take a few minutes and go
inside we call it meditation and just
ask and sit with the question and see
what kind of feelings come up does this
feel right so do all the rational
research but then ultimately bring it
back into your heart and decide does
this feel good for me and if it makes
sense up here and it feels good then
step into it just lean into it and see
what happens pursue it no decision is
forever you can always change if it’s
not what you want I was always a person
with a lot of confidence and I never
took very seriously any one making less
of me I think you learn by your failures
and you learn by your mistakes but you
don’t take them to heart because as soon
as you do it takes the spirit out of you
it kind of you die a little bit look the
world is dark as just it’s as bad as it
gets you look in the newspaper it’s bad
it’s you look over shoulder it’s bad
news if you want me to cry out try right
now for you because I can find so much
sadness in the world I can find so much
tragedy I can find so much heartache
that it will just be massive okay now
where’s the joy where’s the spirit
where’s the fun that’s the goal to me so
I’ve never understood why so much is
harped on the negative because negative
is easy dark is easy and doing it
artfully yes we must all do that but I
find it much more interesting to find
out where the joy is so during those
time
I probably perceived negative but I went
for life I learned how to become a jet
pilot I travelled the world I rubbed
elbows with all sorts of people and I
learned what they were about and that
was feeding me you know I had a choice I
could have believed that things were
finished things were over that life is
bad that life is not worth it
why don’t we all die or something like
that it’s just not not my nature you see
so my feeling was that you get through
that the best you can by living life
fully and using the spirit of other
people to feed you and you feed them and
you rise above it all that way everybody
who’s successful and by successful I
mean like absolutely fulfilled in their
career you know passionate about it and
feeling like they’re doing something
that they’re supposed to do they have
these three characteristics and first of
all they have joy they’re happy in their
work they enjoy what they do most of the
time they’re not doing a soul-sucking
job if they have a job it’s a great job
or if it’s something that they built for
themselves they really enjoy it and the
second quality is money because there’s
lots of things you can do that you enjoy
but if you don’t get paid for them then
it’s a hobby which is great like it’s
good to have a hobby but if you’re
talking about a career it has to be
financially sustainable so joy money and
then the third factor is flow which is
really doing something that you’re good
at really doing something where when you
do it you’re immersed in it and ours
just kind of pass by and it’s also
really easy for you because it’s
something that you’re good at and other
people are like wow like you know she’s
really good at that takes me a lot
longer to do that or I’m not good at it
but so I think what we’re looking for is
this combination of all three factors we
want something that brings joy we want
something that is financially
sustainable we want something that
brings flow and I don’t think people
will be happy unless they have all three
of these factors yeah I think you can be
a little bit you can be okay right
there’s lots of people who do jobs they
don’t love and that’s fine they get a
paycheck and maybe they’re satisfied in
other areas of their life but because
life is short why not try to work toward
something
you know that is not just you know okay
but is amazing right isn’t that the goal
we see yourself working
we talked right down the way that would
together ever
a lot of stranger to talk with we
justify device telling you on the deep
and figured on using you got really like
that
so why do our delta not for yourself
right there’s a moment I think you
damage an essential health approach
entirely the temperature yourself the
way you want that for your emotion she’s
right she said she doesn’t think
anything has it means so you have
nothing to fear in the moment right
if you are behaviors of the worst of it
and I want to be like the birthday
before we get there be the stop talking
something for every book you have this
corresponding action you may be able to
your projection rate but where did that
come from that you reach and like you
were saying earlier if your genie fell
on world works and now you’re higher
status or something your lesson where
they’re saying that Shan Shan what who
you are Chen you’re not worthy to
promptly person she that this person saw
that power over easy was it for you that
you’re not enough you’re actually
nothing
not reaching out to come along in a
two-block remember that shingle up who
you are and what happened right your
shame we lock it and turn to joy
so the all idea approachable place of
joy if you all visit joy is evidence of
shame you’ll have to learn in life
that’s what we call a collective a
medium a medium stage which is what we
have enjoyed they were all things if you
walk out there like okay all right there
all these people and they’re going to
prove religion to the bottom they don’t
feel competitive you know my cell so my
self-esteem in hang up every stranger to
talk to you’re setting yourself up for
trouble
yeah and pushed a stated being a lot of
school let’s talk about that yourself
off with the judge at handicap the wave
I rode I think I was eight years old
that wave stands out in my head probably
more than any wave in my life for some
reason it it wasn’t any sort of amazing
wave it was a just a little wave
probably you know wasted chest high
it took off on it and I just did I did
it bottom turn and I did a little turn
off the top and I just did that three
different times and when I finished the
third one I came down I sort of
straighten off on the way when I looked
over my dad was smiling at me and right
at that moment it was just such sheer
joy you know like connecting with my dad
but also finding the thing that like I
was becoming good at I think probably in
that moment I knew that this is what I
was going to do forever
I wasn’t like I am always been a very
optimistic upbeat person when I first
came to college it was a time that I was
trying to figure out who am I what makes
me special and I started to find most of
my value in the fact that I was
for several years had no idea I had
become anorexic and be places with
people I cared about but what I was
thinking about was the extra grease on
the pizza or the calories that I knew
were in that shake and I just was
talking to my wall one day and I broke
down crying because I realized for the
first time I have problem and that this
isn’t normal people don’t think like
this I finally realized I wasn’t happy
anytime there’s a change to be made you
have to realize that there’s somewhere
else you want to be and I wanted
basically to be happy
that was far more important than the
skinniest girl in a room once I realized
that there was a problem that’s when I
could change I knew that I could be
happy again
we collect this year about eight billion
dollars of customers money so thank you
all of you for giving us your money and
what we do is we say that money is
entrust to create joy we have to turn
that into the most joy possible and so
we look and we say for every show if a
show cost a hundred million dollars how
much joy how much viewing did it create
amongst all of you if it costs 50
million or 200 million of course you
want different amounts of joy so we look
at it as how much joy can we create of
your money and if we turn it into joy
effectively then you’re happy and you
tell your friends and we grow and then
we have more money next year to turn
into more joy so we’re we think of
myself like Alchemist we take in money
and out comes joy some of you need a
laugh right now so I’m going to stop
right in the middle of this preaching
and tell you a joke
[Applause]
well honey I’ve never been in a church
like this well two old people were
laying in bed side-by-side I’m talking
really old like wrinkled up old and she
said honey why don’t you ever hold my
hand like you used to at night so his
little old wrinkled hand came across the
bed he took her little old wrinkled hand
she said honey why don’t you ever hold
me in your arms like you used to at
night so he sighed and it took him a
little while but he got over to her side
of the bed
got her in his arms and she rested a
little bit then she said honey why don’t
you ever nibble on my ear like you used
to at night and all of a sudden he
jumped up and started across the floor
and she’s gone where are you going he
said well I got to get my teeth
[Applause]
I see you’re thinking whoa what does
that have to do with anything
nothing it has nothing to do with
anything and that’s exactly what you
need to get through your head that
everything doesn’t have to have some
SuperDuper purpose
[Applause]
it’s okay just stop right the middle
some work and just have a little bit of
fun
matter of fact you could laugh it
yourself and lighten up your life a
whole lot thank you guys so much for
watching I hope you enjoyed I’d love to
know what was your paper clip what
resonated the most with you what are you
going to take from this video and
immediately apply to your life or your
business somehow please leave it down in
the comments I’m super curious to find
out thank you guys again for watching I
believe in you I hope you continue to
believe in yourself and whatever your
one word is much love I’ll see you soon
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