I went to Mass Bay Masbate Community
College I did it after a whole year I
took a whole year off like that was the
big cloud that was always hanging over
everybody’s head what are you doing
after high school what are you doing
after high school and it was like this
impending date of doom that was coming
up so everybody was scared all the time
yeah and everybody wanted to be they
wanted to be a man everybody wanted to
prove themselves they wanted to be
something special no one felt special
you know everybody felt like an loser
you know we’re all like waiting waiting
to become an adult
so you get a job like all these are the
people you knew that were around you or
escape or figure out a way to escape and
I just I only went back to school
because I didn’t want people thinking I
was a loser so I did like maybe one
semester of math bad don’t even think I
finished a semester and then I left and
went to UMass UMass Boston had this like
adult education program we didn’t have
to have a GED or a not GED SAT cuz I
never took my SATs
mmm so when I graduated from high school
I’m like I am never going to school
again like fuck this but I got so tired
of feeling like a fucking loser
like when I tell people I was taking I
would always say I was taking a year off
taking a year off mm-hmm but it really I
just had no direction all I was doing
was like doing martial arts and
competing and I just was so terrified of
what the fuck the future lead and so I
went to UMass for like three years but
not like three full years like there was
still a lot of credits to be acquired if
I was gonna graduate and I just was
wasting my time I was barely paying
attention I wasn’t doing I was
completely half-assing whatever project
we had and then I was realizing like
what am i why am I wasting my time yeah
and then I got some letter saying that I
couldn’t come back with the grades that
I had unless I came up with some very
compelling reason so they wanted me to
make an argument for why they should
include me back in the class and I wrote
out in hand Britain because back then no
one had a fucking typewriter this total
bullshit letter this ridiculous like a
persuasive bullshit e letter about how
important education is to me and how
poor like how important it means
and then I realize like the amount of
effort that I put writing this bullshit
letter to keep these people from kicking
me out of their school which I wasn’t
paying attention to far exceeds any
effort that I ever put on any project
ever in class yeah and then I realize
okay whatever I’m gonna do with my life
it’s not gonna involve doing this yeah
it’s not gonna involve someone else
dictating my schedule yeah well I had a
conversation with a science teacher this
science teacher and it was the same kind
of thing I I’m I mocked him in class not
necessarily mocked him but I brought up
something that was contrary to what he
was teaching he was talking about a Lake
Erie being a dead Lake and I said listen
man they had a documentary on PBS last
night about Lake Erie making a
resurgence and these scientists have
figured out these new ways to minimize
water pollution and all this shit and
like other kids looking at Miller what
the and he got pissed at me he got
really pissed at me and he said you’re
undermining my class and this nautical
hey man you’re teaching old shit yeah
how you teach all this is on TV man this
is on TV like yesterday yeah and I had a
conversation with him afterwards and
because I had to talk to him in order to
get back in the class he kicked me out
of class and he said two things he said
one he said first of all I don’t know
whether or not that was the case whether
or not it’s true and if I allow you to
just interrupt my class and chime in
something like that and it’s not true I
have in fact checked it you’re telling
the whole class and I don’t know if
you’re right or you’re wrong or you’re
making things up but you’re interrupting
my class that’s the point if you have
something to tell me about it maybe you
can tell me about it after the class and
then I can go and look it up and then
maybe I can correct the class it was but
to in interrupting a class you showed
yourself to be more articulate and more
intelligent that you ever showed ever in
the entire semester so you’re totally
half-assing everything you do you’re
writing everything in paper you turn in
every test you do every time I call upon
you for a question totally have to have
asked that but when you wanted to
correct me on something also you knew
all the words you knew how to form the
sentence correctly you’re going to say
it with the right impact so you just you
just your focuses off
god damn that dudes on the money mm-hmm
and I realize I’m like yeah so I’m not
stupid all right I just can’t I can’t
listen I can’t do it their way I got to
do it my way
right I could I just didn’t I grew up
not having any direction yeah so someone
doesn’t tell you what to do all your
life look essentially you’re just out
free I would go fishing I’d hang out my
friends in the woods we just go find
shit to do and then all sudden you’re in
school and they’re telling you
everything you have to do all day like
I’m not ready for that there’s a real
movement right now towards minimalism or
where people are trying to pair the life
down as much as possible what do you
really appreciate what’s important to
you like what’s really important to you
you know because you don’t have forever
right so what is important to you
because you only have 24 hours in a day
so what’s important to you find out what
that is and do more of that yeah and try
to figure out like how to how to make
enough money so that you’re not starving
that you’re doing well yeah but don’t
just chase that chase what you’re trying
to do I did the point system attached to
it the monetary point system get you to
working like 12 hours a day 13 hours
it’s at what to get more stuff to get
better stuff to get more prestigious
stuff to get stuff that you know all
your other stuff having friends or
really jealous of your stuff good to
treat other people the way you would
like to be treated yourself it’s like a
golden rule and there’s a reason for and
that reason is that we’re connected in
some strange way that we don’t totally
understand and unless you are good to
other people around you unless you are
kind and friendly and warm and loving
you’re not gonna enjoy this life you’re
just not you’re gonna be problems
everywhere you go you’re gonna have
problems everywhere you go you got to
figure out a way to enjoy this life it’s
not because of Jesus it’s not because of
Moses it’s not because of anybody that
may or may not have ever existed it’s
because that’s how you fit in better in
the world that’s how you stay positive
and it doesn’t have to be some that was
written 5,000 years ago on animal skins
that doesn’t have to be the Golden Rule
because it’s old
you know that’s dumb we need to figure
out like now today what what is you know
the
– way to live your life what is that you
know there’s got to be way so you can be
putting forward the most positive energy
I mean we know objectively what’s
causing pollution we know objectively
what’s causing birth defects and you
know and we’re taking in too much
chemicals and not enough vitamins we
know objectively all this stuff we know
how to organize our world and yeah we
don’t do it we know how to organize our
health and yet very few people do it we
know all these things the right path to
like being like a happy healthy person
is to do all that we already know you’re
supposed to do take care of your body
take care of your health take care of
your mind your stress meditate be kind
to people we all know that you ask
anybody they know how to get by and to
be the the the the most evolved version
of you that you can be I mean it’s not
like a magical checklist if you talk to
people about it you said okay here you
got a person you want to improve them
what are the things you’re gonna do to
them okay well if I was a life coach the
first thing I would say is this guy’s
got to get on a diet that makes them
healthy I don’t mean a diet just to lose
weight I mean just healthy foods in your
body
many many vegetables vegetables a lot of
good good quality protein a lot of water
stop the sodas stop the Bulls start
working out your body and get a better
sense of like how this machine feels
when it’s moving it’s flowing better
there’s less tension in it your mind
feels like relaxed and you enjoy every
single moment of the day better
step one everybody knows that step right
what step two be cool to people be nice
to as many people as you can smile of as
many people as you can have them smile
back at you tip well when you go to
restaurants just do the most you can be
as nice as you can you know and just
still manage to not have people walk all
over you just get through this life it’s
nice as you can what else
do what you want to do with your life
right don’t don’t go be doing something
you don’t enjoy don’t do something
that’s don’t get locked into you know a
car that you can’t afford and doing
something crazy because you need the
money don’t don’t do that
do what you want to do do what is it
that you really want to do because if
someone else is doing it you can do it
you know I mean everybody makes their
own path through this world but a lot of
people don’t follow the path that they
really feel pulled to
you know there’s for whatever reason
they got negative programming you know
when they were kids someone told them
that couldn’t do it or told them to take
the shortcut or or take the the shore
route that’s a sad thing man when you
talk to dudes especially like talented
dudes and they don’t follow up with what
they want to do you know a bunch of
people that will say yeah well I’m
family so you know it’s a great idea for
you to just go out there and go crazy I
have people to support you need to
listen stop saying that
stop saying any of those things every
single person who has ever done anything
worthwhile or exceptional or difficult
or extraordinary anyone whether it’s
great artists or authors or
mathematicians or whatever the it is
everyone encounters difficulties there
is no easy road it does not exist it is
impossible everyone has issues if you
have time to pursue a hobby if you have
time to do anything in your life you can
better yourself and here’s one way you
never better yourself when you come up
with excuses for why other people are
successful you’re not that it’s
dangerous
when you give yourself an escape yeah
well that’s easy for you to say you know
you do this you do trust me everybody
has a hard road I wanted to jump out of
windows several times during my young
life I wanted to jump in front of a
train just end it because too much
pressure not really but you know I’m
saying theoretically we all go through
hard times we all go through depression
we all do go through doubt and then
moments in your life where it’s really
difficult and you’re trying to figure
out what the your path is gonna be its
hardest but stephannie now we’re talking
about this before the podcast starts
that that is what makes you a person and
those difficult moments are what build
your character show me a great man who’s
the son of a great man that’s what we’re
saying these kids that are born
billionaires your your your never going
to be a self-made person you have a back
up trust for your back up trust for your
trust and your demand I’m fascinated by
martial arts I’m fast
needed by comedy I’m fascinated by many
many different things I don’t understand
when people say they’re bored because if
I had the time to live a hundred lives
I’d be speaking different languages I’d
be living in different countries I would
I would try out a number of different
careers because I think there’s a lot of
unbelievably fascinating puzzling
complex things that you could study in
this world that’s just me and my
personality but that’s a personality
also that I’ve cultivated over years and
we like that as a kid – while I was
involved in martial arts very early and
I think that is one of the things that
motivated me to explore difficult tasks
because through difficult tasks you
learn an incredible amount about
yourself and you through through the
fire of competition you get to
understand you get to understand
motivation you get to understand the
resistance that you have inside your
mind to doing the hard work you get to
understand the rewards of discipline
like you don’t truly appreciate
relaxation unless you’ve worked hard and
that is the yin and the yang of life and
I’ve said this to to the point of people
getting sick of it but one of the worst
decisions a man can make I can only
speak for men obviously is to be
comfortable I don’t think you should try
to be comfortable I think what you
should try to do is try to earn comfort
and if you if you can get a day off
where you you you’ve worked hard and
you’ve accomplished goals that day off
will be so sweet when I work hard and I
sit in front of TV I enjoy the shit out
of it I put my feet up I have a nice
drink you know I enjoy my the stairs
that mids your back or something one of
those are great right right yeah I don’t
use it that much though honestly I’m
more of a workaholic than I should be
probably if the balance was I probably
should relax more than I do but I never
feel like I earned it but that’s not
part of the reason why when I do feel
like I earned it I can enjoy it this is
because I am more connected to the idea
that I need to accomplish things and
it’s not like for anybody else’s benefit
other than my own or anybody else is
approval
my own I just when I have a task whether
it’s today I’m gonna write a thousand
words you know or 2,000 or whatever the
number is if I don’t do that I don’t
write things down like I’ll write down a
list of things that get accomplished
that day and if I don’t accomplish that
I’ll get sick like I’ll it’ll drive me
crazy if I can’t fill out that list that
drives me nuts you know but that’s what
led me to be a championship-level
martial artist and that’s what led me to
achieve look it’s like that
it’s the reinforcement of those goals
like understanding that you can achieve
those goals it’s gonna be difficult
you’re gonna push through the difficulty
and then you’re gonna understand what
difficulty truly is and how much of it
is just mental how much of it is just in
your mind this adversity to to difficult
tasks or to struggle you know and a lot
of people have that they’re scared
they’re scared of complications they’re
scared of failure failure is a big one
that people are afraid of but failure is
one of the most important things you
could ever have as far as like the
motivation to do things differently one
of the reasons why I think that I’m good
at friendships and relationships is
because I failed at them in the past one
of the things that I’m good at comedies
because I bombed on stage one of the
reasons why I’m good at work is because
I’ve been a worker in the past and I
know the the feeling of failure the
feeling of of shame of being like a weak
non motivated lazy person it’s a weak
feeling it’s a you don’t respect
yourself you know and I have this phrase
that I use all the time to people to try
to motivate people I say that be the
hero in your own movie pretend that if
your life was a movie and your life
started now what would the hero do what
would the person that you respected what
would the person that you admire person
that inspires you what would they do
we’ll do that and if you do that you
slowly build momentum you like today I
did what I wanted to do today I started
a class in yoga I did this I did all
these things that I was saying I wasn’t
gonna do and now I feel momentum and
momentum is a very important point in
people’s lives that’s why some folks
don’t like to take days off because they
feel like they’re losing momentum
and they sort of have to restart the
wheel up again after a vacation and
there’s a lot of folks that live life on
a cushy cloud of Mars
growls and bullsh and then one day
something goes wrong and I mean that’s
why spoiled kids are so sad like a
spoiled young boy is one of the saddest
things ever a young boy that becomes a
man and can’t take care of himself and
it’s dad us to keep on rescuing him his
dad has to keep on bailing them out of
situations and giving them money I’ve
met guys like that and that is a
crippling affliction when they don’t
have the character themselves to be able
to get by in life they constantly need
someone to help them and bail them out
even as a grown man I’ve met guys in
their 40s that still need help from
their parents I’m like what tough man
you’re never gonna get it right because
somewhere along the line they didn’t
face enough of the adversity to realize
that there’s sometimes we just got to
get up and get you done there’s some
times we have to pull yourself up and
you have to push forward even if you
want to stay in bed and if you don’t do
that you just keep calling on your daddy
and your daddy keeps rescuing you you
never develop those tools you never
develop that ability to recognize what
you’re doing wrong with your life
because you’re you’re soft you got a
cushiony you got a safety net a safety
net for safety net say if you had like a
20 year old and he just took doper where
he wakin bakes and doesn’t get anything
done he’s just always like hanging out
with his friends and playing video games
and he’s just a loser
I wish there was a way you could show
someone like that like I know that
you’re getting some comfort and
satisfaction I just laying around doing
nothing eating and getting fat but your
life would feel better and richer if you
had a goal you chase that goal you
accomplished some things and you would
get this boost of confidence you’d get
this boost of self-esteem like whatever
it is they’re going to do maybe you’re
in a drawn comic books maybe you’re into
nah by making pottery or sculptures but
fine whatever that is and pursue that
instead of doing nothing like the people
that are doing nothing those are the
real people look doing something might
be as simple as like that Alex Honnold
guy he just climbs rocks but he’s
world-class rock to find it’s something
but it’s also a goal of his and he’s
also the best at it yes yeah but those
people who smoke pot all day and those
are also the guys who hate on Joe Rogan
for being
you don’t see there being discipline or
get on Kevin Hart since scram and to
hate on you know I’m saying cuz they
don’t it’s their own insecurities I see
what you’re saying
but I would assume they would get
motivated by seeing other people do
something with their lives like that
should be motivating not yeah if you
grew up with losers and you’re around a
bunch of people yeah attitude especially
if it’s in your household I was very
lucky that both my mom and my stepdad
there now they’re not they’re the least
hater people I’ve ever met my life
they’re just not haters in any way like
if someone’s doing well though I was
like wow look at this guy or like wow
wow look at him there was never any hate
in my house in terms of other people’s
success but if you grew up with a dad
and your dad’s like yeah these all these
rich assholes there’s you think she’s a
badass and this you know there’s people
that look at other people’s success
instead of saying wow like I did a lot
of work like the way I’m a successful
person but the way I look at Kevin Hart
he exhausts me you know or the rock
those guys exhausted me I’m like Jesus
Christ like I feel lazy next to those
guys like they do so much like those
guys are so overbearing Lee ambitious
you know but some people they see that
and they compare themselves and they
don’t like it so they get started
getting really SH and it’s like a
natural feeling to try to chip away at
that person the worst people that you
know are the people that don’t have a
good self judge that everything they do
is awesome those never grow anywhere
right and that’s a huge issue with
comedy when you run into people that
have a terrible comedy sets but think
they did great like we would always Greg
Fitzsimmons and I would always talk
about that with like open mike errs like
there’s people that he or phantom labs
like they think they’re doing great and
they have this delusional self opinion
where everything they do is awesome and
they don’t know why they’re not
successful already they don’t
why they’re not famous and those people
I believe I mean it’s some sort of a
weird narcissistic way you could look at
it this way that those people are there
to teach you this is the consequences of
not feeling that awful feeling when you
fail
I was talking to burr a couple weeks ago
he did a set at The Comedy Store and I
saw part of it it was he was killing and
then I ran into him in the hallway and I
go out man main room show was great
right and he goes yeah up at the end
though I tried to hang in there too long
in the last bit bomb like he was just it
was a rotten atom that the last bit like
he goes I hung in there too long I
should have got off with a bit before
that like but you know when I was in
there he was killing you know but that
wasn’t in his mind the success was not
in his mind what was like okay whatever
that happened at the end don’t do that
again right but that’s why he’s bill
burr that’s why he’s really good you’re
alone with your thoughts you get an idea
of what your thoughts actually are if
you live your life just acting
constantly on the momentum of other
people’s expectations of you wanting to
be liked by these other people you can
run into a trap and you you you set up a
life that you didn’t really want you’re
you’re you’re you’re trapped in this
situation where you have a mortgage
you’ve got credit card bills you’ve got
student loans you have to pay you have a
bunch going on you have to continue to
feed and all that and especially if you
have a family and you have to feed them
oh my goodness
then you’re fully locked in you can’t
take any chances whatsoever and
oftentimes people make the mistake of
getting stuck and it is just a tactical
mistake just like it would be a mistake
if you got stuck on a video game just
like it would be a mistake if you
followed a map incorrectly and you got
stuck in the woods your life is
certainly some sort of a journey it’s
certainly some sort of a journey and we
have to all be aware that when we’re
making journeys we’re not going to
always make the right steps and
sometimes you have to back up and try
again and if you’re in a position where
you can’t back up and try again you’ve
trapped yourself and the system will set
out honey pots for people to get trapped
in the system will set out the ideas of
retirement the ideas of the golden years
providing you benefits
fining you a healthy work environment
why well because they want people to
work for them they don’t want people to
realize their own dreams and escape
those pain in the ass you gotta hire
more people and train them and they want
to set it up so that you stick around
stick around some sort of an
unsatisfying world it’s up to you to see
that video game problem to see that
issue as it comes up on the map and
known I think this is a right turn to
see all the problems that could
potentially lay in front of you and
calculate your your future and then also
look around all the people that didn’t
do it and look at the misery that
they’re in and learn that you don’t want
to be like them and then look at the
people that have kind of taken chances
and navigated their way what did they do
differently what what what objectivity
do they have that maybe you lack what
insight into their own mistakes are they
willing to delve into that you’re not
that you step back and you could you
know I don’t I just don’t want to look
at myself that closely but the person
who’s able to look at themselves the
closest it’s gonna get the more rational
results the things that’s causing this
funk that people are in is that we’re
living our lives many of us at least in
these very unfulfilled ways or you’re
going to this office with artificial
light and you’re doing something you
don’t want to do all day long and then
you get home and you’re tired and on top
of that you’re eating you’re eating
potato chips and you’re drinking soda
and your body is just like what in the
is this we’re supposed to be out in the
fields we’re supposed to be walking up
hills we’re supposed to be looking for
animals or gathering vegetables we’re
supposed to be doing all these things
that our body is designed to do we’re
supposed to be in nature yeah and nature
is like a medicine like it literally is
a medicine to you like people people
that go you don’t have to go hunting you
don’t have to go fishing just go hike
man just go hike up to the top of a
mountain and look out you know there’s a
reward that you get from that that is
intensely like soul filling just like
something about like when I was in
Colorado and there was this this area of
older we drive up one of these roads and
there was this area where you could park
and it was this incredible view man
these people just Park and just go out
there and just look but you get there
and you park and you go
because you would see you’re literally
seeing the Continental Divide these
snow-capped mountains in July in July
it’s covered with snow for whatever
reason most people their associations
are to avoid anything that’s
uncomfortable but it’s so illogical
because when you look at comfort and you
look at success and progress and the
eventual the feelings of accomplishment
and of getting past certain hurdles and
in terms of like how you feel about life
a lot of those are connected to
discomfort like discomfort is your
friend it really is like discomfort and
and not being happy and content with
certain situations in life or certain
feelings in life there are massive
massive motivators and they’re they’re
amazing at facilitating change and yet
our instinct is to avoid those and just
sit on the couch and watch some reality
show about dudes and make moonshine with
our jaw open like it’s with bizarre
College I did it after a whole year I
took a whole year off like that was the
big cloud that was always hanging over
everybody’s head what are you doing
after high school what are you doing
after high school and it was like this
impending date of doom that was coming
up so everybody was scared all the time
yeah and everybody wanted to be they
wanted to be a man everybody wanted to
prove themselves they wanted to be
something special no one felt special
you know everybody felt like an loser
you know we’re all like waiting waiting
to become an adult
so you get a job like all these are the
people you knew that were around you or
escape or figure out a way to escape and
I just I only went back to school
because I didn’t want people thinking I
was a loser so I did like maybe one
semester of math bad don’t even think I
finished a semester and then I left and
went to UMass UMass Boston had this like
adult education program we didn’t have
to have a GED or a not GED SAT cuz I
never took my SATs
mmm so when I graduated from high school
I’m like I am never going to school
again like fuck this but I got so tired
of feeling like a fucking loser
like when I tell people I was taking I
would always say I was taking a year off
taking a year off mm-hmm but it really I
just had no direction all I was doing
was like doing martial arts and
competing and I just was so terrified of
what the fuck the future lead and so I
went to UMass for like three years but
not like three full years like there was
still a lot of credits to be acquired if
I was gonna graduate and I just was
wasting my time I was barely paying
attention I wasn’t doing I was
completely half-assing whatever project
we had and then I was realizing like
what am i why am I wasting my time yeah
and then I got some letter saying that I
couldn’t come back with the grades that
I had unless I came up with some very
compelling reason so they wanted me to
make an argument for why they should
include me back in the class and I wrote
out in hand Britain because back then no
one had a fucking typewriter this total
bullshit letter this ridiculous like a
persuasive bullshit e letter about how
important education is to me and how
poor like how important it means
and then I realize like the amount of
effort that I put writing this bullshit
letter to keep these people from kicking
me out of their school which I wasn’t
paying attention to far exceeds any
effort that I ever put on any project
ever in class yeah and then I realize
okay whatever I’m gonna do with my life
it’s not gonna involve doing this yeah
it’s not gonna involve someone else
dictating my schedule yeah well I had a
conversation with a science teacher this
science teacher and it was the same kind
of thing I I’m I mocked him in class not
necessarily mocked him but I brought up
something that was contrary to what he
was teaching he was talking about a Lake
Erie being a dead Lake and I said listen
man they had a documentary on PBS last
night about Lake Erie making a
resurgence and these scientists have
figured out these new ways to minimize
water pollution and all this shit and
like other kids looking at Miller what
the and he got pissed at me he got
really pissed at me and he said you’re
undermining my class and this nautical
hey man you’re teaching old shit yeah
how you teach all this is on TV man this
is on TV like yesterday yeah and I had a
conversation with him afterwards and
because I had to talk to him in order to
get back in the class he kicked me out
of class and he said two things he said
one he said first of all I don’t know
whether or not that was the case whether
or not it’s true and if I allow you to
just interrupt my class and chime in
something like that and it’s not true I
have in fact checked it you’re telling
the whole class and I don’t know if
you’re right or you’re wrong or you’re
making things up but you’re interrupting
my class that’s the point if you have
something to tell me about it maybe you
can tell me about it after the class and
then I can go and look it up and then
maybe I can correct the class it was but
to in interrupting a class you showed
yourself to be more articulate and more
intelligent that you ever showed ever in
the entire semester so you’re totally
half-assing everything you do you’re
writing everything in paper you turn in
every test you do every time I call upon
you for a question totally have to have
asked that but when you wanted to
correct me on something also you knew
all the words you knew how to form the
sentence correctly you’re going to say
it with the right impact so you just you
just your focuses off
god damn that dudes on the money mm-hmm
and I realize I’m like yeah so I’m not
stupid all right I just can’t I can’t
listen I can’t do it their way I got to
do it my way
right I could I just didn’t I grew up
not having any direction yeah so someone
doesn’t tell you what to do all your
life look essentially you’re just out
free I would go fishing I’d hang out my
friends in the woods we just go find
shit to do and then all sudden you’re in
school and they’re telling you
everything you have to do all day like
I’m not ready for that there’s a real
movement right now towards minimalism or
where people are trying to pair the life
down as much as possible what do you
really appreciate what’s important to
you like what’s really important to you
you know because you don’t have forever
right so what is important to you
because you only have 24 hours in a day
so what’s important to you find out what
that is and do more of that yeah and try
to figure out like how to how to make
enough money so that you’re not starving
that you’re doing well yeah but don’t
just chase that chase what you’re trying
to do I did the point system attached to
it the monetary point system get you to
working like 12 hours a day 13 hours
it’s at what to get more stuff to get
better stuff to get more prestigious
stuff to get stuff that you know all
your other stuff having friends or
really jealous of your stuff good to
treat other people the way you would
like to be treated yourself it’s like a
golden rule and there’s a reason for and
that reason is that we’re connected in
some strange way that we don’t totally
understand and unless you are good to
other people around you unless you are
kind and friendly and warm and loving
you’re not gonna enjoy this life you’re
just not you’re gonna be problems
everywhere you go you’re gonna have
problems everywhere you go you got to
figure out a way to enjoy this life it’s
not because of Jesus it’s not because of
Moses it’s not because of anybody that
may or may not have ever existed it’s
because that’s how you fit in better in
the world that’s how you stay positive
and it doesn’t have to be some that was
written 5,000 years ago on animal skins
that doesn’t have to be the Golden Rule
because it’s old
you know that’s dumb we need to figure
out like now today what what is you know
the
– way to live your life what is that you
know there’s got to be way so you can be
putting forward the most positive energy
I mean we know objectively what’s
causing pollution we know objectively
what’s causing birth defects and you
know and we’re taking in too much
chemicals and not enough vitamins we
know objectively all this stuff we know
how to organize our world and yeah we
don’t do it we know how to organize our
health and yet very few people do it we
know all these things the right path to
like being like a happy healthy person
is to do all that we already know you’re
supposed to do take care of your body
take care of your health take care of
your mind your stress meditate be kind
to people we all know that you ask
anybody they know how to get by and to
be the the the the most evolved version
of you that you can be I mean it’s not
like a magical checklist if you talk to
people about it you said okay here you
got a person you want to improve them
what are the things you’re gonna do to
them okay well if I was a life coach the
first thing I would say is this guy’s
got to get on a diet that makes them
healthy I don’t mean a diet just to lose
weight I mean just healthy foods in your
body
many many vegetables vegetables a lot of
good good quality protein a lot of water
stop the sodas stop the Bulls start
working out your body and get a better
sense of like how this machine feels
when it’s moving it’s flowing better
there’s less tension in it your mind
feels like relaxed and you enjoy every
single moment of the day better
step one everybody knows that step right
what step two be cool to people be nice
to as many people as you can smile of as
many people as you can have them smile
back at you tip well when you go to
restaurants just do the most you can be
as nice as you can you know and just
still manage to not have people walk all
over you just get through this life it’s
nice as you can what else
do what you want to do with your life
right don’t don’t go be doing something
you don’t enjoy don’t do something
that’s don’t get locked into you know a
car that you can’t afford and doing
something crazy because you need the
money don’t don’t do that
do what you want to do do what is it
that you really want to do because if
someone else is doing it you can do it
you know I mean everybody makes their
own path through this world but a lot of
people don’t follow the path that they
really feel pulled to
you know there’s for whatever reason
they got negative programming you know
when they were kids someone told them
that couldn’t do it or told them to take
the shortcut or or take the the shore
route that’s a sad thing man when you
talk to dudes especially like talented
dudes and they don’t follow up with what
they want to do you know a bunch of
people that will say yeah well I’m
family so you know it’s a great idea for
you to just go out there and go crazy I
have people to support you need to
listen stop saying that
stop saying any of those things every
single person who has ever done anything
worthwhile or exceptional or difficult
or extraordinary anyone whether it’s
great artists or authors or
mathematicians or whatever the it is
everyone encounters difficulties there
is no easy road it does not exist it is
impossible everyone has issues if you
have time to pursue a hobby if you have
time to do anything in your life you can
better yourself and here’s one way you
never better yourself when you come up
with excuses for why other people are
successful you’re not that it’s
dangerous
when you give yourself an escape yeah
well that’s easy for you to say you know
you do this you do trust me everybody
has a hard road I wanted to jump out of
windows several times during my young
life I wanted to jump in front of a
train just end it because too much
pressure not really but you know I’m
saying theoretically we all go through
hard times we all go through depression
we all do go through doubt and then
moments in your life where it’s really
difficult and you’re trying to figure
out what the your path is gonna be its
hardest but stephannie now we’re talking
about this before the podcast starts
that that is what makes you a person and
those difficult moments are what build
your character show me a great man who’s
the son of a great man that’s what we’re
saying these kids that are born
billionaires your your your never going
to be a self-made person you have a back
up trust for your back up trust for your
trust and your demand I’m fascinated by
martial arts I’m fast
needed by comedy I’m fascinated by many
many different things I don’t understand
when people say they’re bored because if
I had the time to live a hundred lives
I’d be speaking different languages I’d
be living in different countries I would
I would try out a number of different
careers because I think there’s a lot of
unbelievably fascinating puzzling
complex things that you could study in
this world that’s just me and my
personality but that’s a personality
also that I’ve cultivated over years and
we like that as a kid – while I was
involved in martial arts very early and
I think that is one of the things that
motivated me to explore difficult tasks
because through difficult tasks you
learn an incredible amount about
yourself and you through through the
fire of competition you get to
understand you get to understand
motivation you get to understand the
resistance that you have inside your
mind to doing the hard work you get to
understand the rewards of discipline
like you don’t truly appreciate
relaxation unless you’ve worked hard and
that is the yin and the yang of life and
I’ve said this to to the point of people
getting sick of it but one of the worst
decisions a man can make I can only
speak for men obviously is to be
comfortable I don’t think you should try
to be comfortable I think what you
should try to do is try to earn comfort
and if you if you can get a day off
where you you you’ve worked hard and
you’ve accomplished goals that day off
will be so sweet when I work hard and I
sit in front of TV I enjoy the shit out
of it I put my feet up I have a nice
drink you know I enjoy my the stairs
that mids your back or something one of
those are great right right yeah I don’t
use it that much though honestly I’m
more of a workaholic than I should be
probably if the balance was I probably
should relax more than I do but I never
feel like I earned it but that’s not
part of the reason why when I do feel
like I earned it I can enjoy it this is
because I am more connected to the idea
that I need to accomplish things and
it’s not like for anybody else’s benefit
other than my own or anybody else is
approval
my own I just when I have a task whether
it’s today I’m gonna write a thousand
words you know or 2,000 or whatever the
number is if I don’t do that I don’t
write things down like I’ll write down a
list of things that get accomplished
that day and if I don’t accomplish that
I’ll get sick like I’ll it’ll drive me
crazy if I can’t fill out that list that
drives me nuts you know but that’s what
led me to be a championship-level
martial artist and that’s what led me to
achieve look it’s like that
it’s the reinforcement of those goals
like understanding that you can achieve
those goals it’s gonna be difficult
you’re gonna push through the difficulty
and then you’re gonna understand what
difficulty truly is and how much of it
is just mental how much of it is just in
your mind this adversity to to difficult
tasks or to struggle you know and a lot
of people have that they’re scared
they’re scared of complications they’re
scared of failure failure is a big one
that people are afraid of but failure is
one of the most important things you
could ever have as far as like the
motivation to do things differently one
of the reasons why I think that I’m good
at friendships and relationships is
because I failed at them in the past one
of the things that I’m good at comedies
because I bombed on stage one of the
reasons why I’m good at work is because
I’ve been a worker in the past and I
know the the feeling of failure the
feeling of of shame of being like a weak
non motivated lazy person it’s a weak
feeling it’s a you don’t respect
yourself you know and I have this phrase
that I use all the time to people to try
to motivate people I say that be the
hero in your own movie pretend that if
your life was a movie and your life
started now what would the hero do what
would the person that you respected what
would the person that you admire person
that inspires you what would they do
we’ll do that and if you do that you
slowly build momentum you like today I
did what I wanted to do today I started
a class in yoga I did this I did all
these things that I was saying I wasn’t
gonna do and now I feel momentum and
momentum is a very important point in
people’s lives that’s why some folks
don’t like to take days off because they
feel like they’re losing momentum
and they sort of have to restart the
wheel up again after a vacation and
there’s a lot of folks that live life on
a cushy cloud of Mars
growls and bullsh and then one day
something goes wrong and I mean that’s
why spoiled kids are so sad like a
spoiled young boy is one of the saddest
things ever a young boy that becomes a
man and can’t take care of himself and
it’s dad us to keep on rescuing him his
dad has to keep on bailing them out of
situations and giving them money I’ve
met guys like that and that is a
crippling affliction when they don’t
have the character themselves to be able
to get by in life they constantly need
someone to help them and bail them out
even as a grown man I’ve met guys in
their 40s that still need help from
their parents I’m like what tough man
you’re never gonna get it right because
somewhere along the line they didn’t
face enough of the adversity to realize
that there’s sometimes we just got to
get up and get you done there’s some
times we have to pull yourself up and
you have to push forward even if you
want to stay in bed and if you don’t do
that you just keep calling on your daddy
and your daddy keeps rescuing you you
never develop those tools you never
develop that ability to recognize what
you’re doing wrong with your life
because you’re you’re soft you got a
cushiony you got a safety net a safety
net for safety net say if you had like a
20 year old and he just took doper where
he wakin bakes and doesn’t get anything
done he’s just always like hanging out
with his friends and playing video games
and he’s just a loser
I wish there was a way you could show
someone like that like I know that
you’re getting some comfort and
satisfaction I just laying around doing
nothing eating and getting fat but your
life would feel better and richer if you
had a goal you chase that goal you
accomplished some things and you would
get this boost of confidence you’d get
this boost of self-esteem like whatever
it is they’re going to do maybe you’re
in a drawn comic books maybe you’re into
nah by making pottery or sculptures but
fine whatever that is and pursue that
instead of doing nothing like the people
that are doing nothing those are the
real people look doing something might
be as simple as like that Alex Honnold
guy he just climbs rocks but he’s
world-class rock to find it’s something
but it’s also a goal of his and he’s
also the best at it yes yeah but those
people who smoke pot all day and those
are also the guys who hate on Joe Rogan
for being
you don’t see there being discipline or
get on Kevin Hart since scram and to
hate on you know I’m saying cuz they
don’t it’s their own insecurities I see
what you’re saying
but I would assume they would get
motivated by seeing other people do
something with their lives like that
should be motivating not yeah if you
grew up with losers and you’re around a
bunch of people yeah attitude especially
if it’s in your household I was very
lucky that both my mom and my stepdad
there now they’re not they’re the least
hater people I’ve ever met my life
they’re just not haters in any way like
if someone’s doing well though I was
like wow look at this guy or like wow
wow look at him there was never any hate
in my house in terms of other people’s
success but if you grew up with a dad
and your dad’s like yeah these all these
rich assholes there’s you think she’s a
badass and this you know there’s people
that look at other people’s success
instead of saying wow like I did a lot
of work like the way I’m a successful
person but the way I look at Kevin Hart
he exhausts me you know or the rock
those guys exhausted me I’m like Jesus
Christ like I feel lazy next to those
guys like they do so much like those
guys are so overbearing Lee ambitious
you know but some people they see that
and they compare themselves and they
don’t like it so they get started
getting really SH and it’s like a
natural feeling to try to chip away at
that person the worst people that you
know are the people that don’t have a
good self judge that everything they do
is awesome those never grow anywhere
right and that’s a huge issue with
comedy when you run into people that
have a terrible comedy sets but think
they did great like we would always Greg
Fitzsimmons and I would always talk
about that with like open mike errs like
there’s people that he or phantom labs
like they think they’re doing great and
they have this delusional self opinion
where everything they do is awesome and
they don’t know why they’re not
successful already they don’t
why they’re not famous and those people
I believe I mean it’s some sort of a
weird narcissistic way you could look at
it this way that those people are there
to teach you this is the consequences of
not feeling that awful feeling when you
fail
I was talking to burr a couple weeks ago
he did a set at The Comedy Store and I
saw part of it it was he was killing and
then I ran into him in the hallway and I
go out man main room show was great
right and he goes yeah up at the end
though I tried to hang in there too long
in the last bit bomb like he was just it
was a rotten atom that the last bit like
he goes I hung in there too long I
should have got off with a bit before
that like but you know when I was in
there he was killing you know but that
wasn’t in his mind the success was not
in his mind what was like okay whatever
that happened at the end don’t do that
again right but that’s why he’s bill
burr that’s why he’s really good you’re
alone with your thoughts you get an idea
of what your thoughts actually are if
you live your life just acting
constantly on the momentum of other
people’s expectations of you wanting to
be liked by these other people you can
run into a trap and you you you set up a
life that you didn’t really want you’re
you’re you’re you’re trapped in this
situation where you have a mortgage
you’ve got credit card bills you’ve got
student loans you have to pay you have a
bunch going on you have to continue to
feed and all that and especially if you
have a family and you have to feed them
oh my goodness
then you’re fully locked in you can’t
take any chances whatsoever and
oftentimes people make the mistake of
getting stuck and it is just a tactical
mistake just like it would be a mistake
if you got stuck on a video game just
like it would be a mistake if you
followed a map incorrectly and you got
stuck in the woods your life is
certainly some sort of a journey it’s
certainly some sort of a journey and we
have to all be aware that when we’re
making journeys we’re not going to
always make the right steps and
sometimes you have to back up and try
again and if you’re in a position where
you can’t back up and try again you’ve
trapped yourself and the system will set
out honey pots for people to get trapped
in the system will set out the ideas of
retirement the ideas of the golden years
providing you benefits
fining you a healthy work environment
why well because they want people to
work for them they don’t want people to
realize their own dreams and escape
those pain in the ass you gotta hire
more people and train them and they want
to set it up so that you stick around
stick around some sort of an
unsatisfying world it’s up to you to see
that video game problem to see that
issue as it comes up on the map and
known I think this is a right turn to
see all the problems that could
potentially lay in front of you and
calculate your your future and then also
look around all the people that didn’t
do it and look at the misery that
they’re in and learn that you don’t want
to be like them and then look at the
people that have kind of taken chances
and navigated their way what did they do
differently what what what objectivity
do they have that maybe you lack what
insight into their own mistakes are they
willing to delve into that you’re not
that you step back and you could you
know I don’t I just don’t want to look
at myself that closely but the person
who’s able to look at themselves the
closest it’s gonna get the more rational
results the things that’s causing this
funk that people are in is that we’re
living our lives many of us at least in
these very unfulfilled ways or you’re
going to this office with artificial
light and you’re doing something you
don’t want to do all day long and then
you get home and you’re tired and on top
of that you’re eating you’re eating
potato chips and you’re drinking soda
and your body is just like what in the
is this we’re supposed to be out in the
fields we’re supposed to be walking up
hills we’re supposed to be looking for
animals or gathering vegetables we’re
supposed to be doing all these things
that our body is designed to do we’re
supposed to be in nature yeah and nature
is like a medicine like it literally is
a medicine to you like people people
that go you don’t have to go hunting you
don’t have to go fishing just go hike
man just go hike up to the top of a
mountain and look out you know there’s a
reward that you get from that that is
intensely like soul filling just like
something about like when I was in
Colorado and there was this this area of
older we drive up one of these roads and
there was this area where you could park
and it was this incredible view man
these people just Park and just go out
there and just look but you get there
and you park and you go
because you would see you’re literally
seeing the Continental Divide these
snow-capped mountains in July in July
it’s covered with snow for whatever
reason most people their associations
are to avoid anything that’s
uncomfortable but it’s so illogical
because when you look at comfort and you
look at success and progress and the
eventual the feelings of accomplishment
and of getting past certain hurdles and
in terms of like how you feel about life
a lot of those are connected to
discomfort like discomfort is your
friend it really is like discomfort and
and not being happy and content with
certain situations in life or certain
feelings in life there are massive
massive motivators and they’re they’re
amazing at facilitating change and yet
our instinct is to avoid those and just
sit on the couch and watch some reality
show about dudes and make moonshine with
our jaw open like it’s with bizarre
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