you have to be prepared to take any and
every opportunity that’s presented to
you
all right nothing’s just gonna happen
you know everybody say it’s all on you
it is all on you there’s other people
that can educate you and help you but
you take these different experiences
that you learn that stick with you I
mean you may not remember a whole lot
when you were four years old but there’s
certain memories there’s certain things
you can use them to either harness you
to greatness or you can use them to kind
of just keep you where you’re at and
most people are just satisfied with that
there’s always the next level your
definition of greatness and what you
want achieve could be totally different
than somebody else’s there are so many
people in the world and and and you know
you may be watching this right now and
you have these incredible ideas and what
you think is missing is motivation and
that’s not true
because the way that our minds are wired
and the fact about human beings is that
we are not designed to do things that
are uncomfortable or scary or difficult
our brains are designed to protect us
from those things because our brains are
trying to keep us alive and in order to
change in order to build a business in
order to be the best parent of a spouse
to do all those things that you know you
want to do with your life with your work
with your dreams you’re gonna have to do
things that are difficult uncertain or
scary which sets up this problem for all
of us you’re never gonna feel like it
motivations garbage you you only feel
motivated to do the things that are easy
what do you think that is oh I know
exactly why that is because I I’ve
studied this so much because for me one
of the hardest things to figure out was
why is it so hard to do the little
things that would improve my life and
what I’ve come to realize and that we’ll
talk a lot about today is that the way
that our minds are designed is our minds
are designed to stop you at all costs
from doing anything that might hurt you
and the way that that that that this all
happens is it all starts with something
super subtle that none of us ever catch
and that is with this habit that all of
us have that nobody’s talking about
everything
matters
if you take any situation and just take
the word only and take the word just out
of it
it changes the holy phrase
it’s just a game
it’s a game
it’s only a job
if you feel like this isn’t only a job
before this interview is up I advise you
to get up and leave right now
because if somebody else will fill this
seat up and take that job and turn it
into a career be careful of those words
trap words I’m just gonna smoke one
cigarette
that shows you their preparation for a
mental standpoint of how weak they
really are we all have a habit of
hesitating hmm we have an idea you’re
sitting in a meeting you have this
incredible idea and instead of just you
know saying it you stop and you hesitate
now what none of us realize is that when
you hesitate just that moment that micro
moment that small hesitation it sends a
stress signal to your brain it wakes
your brain up and your brain all of a
sudden goes oh wait a minute wait why is
he hesitating he didn’t hesitate when he
put on his killer spiky sneakers he
didn’t hesitate with the really cool
track pants he didn’t hesitate with the
NASA tee shirt now he’s hesitating to
talk something must be up
so then your brain goes to work to
protect you it has a million different
ways to protect you one of them is
called the spotlight effect it’s a known
phenomenon where your brain magnifies
risk Y to pull you away from something
that it perceives to be a problem and so
you can truly trace every single problem
or complaint in your life to silence and
hesitation those are decisions and what
I do and what’s changed my life is
waking up and realizing that motivations
garbage I’m never gonna feel like doing
the things that are tough for difficult
or uncertain or scary or new so I need
to stop leading until I feel like it and
number two I am one decision away from a
totally different marriage a totally
different life a totally different job a
totally different income a totally
different relationship with my kids
not like one decision I’m divorcing you
in in the marriage example but one
decision on you know you could be having
a conversation with your spouse and you
feel your emotions rise up and within a
tiny window those emotions can take over
and can impact how your marriage goes or
you can learn how to take control of
that micro moment
and make a decision to act in a way that
actually shifts your marriage your life
comes down to your decisions and if you
change your decisions you will change
everything I’m convinced that well
virtually everyone you’re ever gonna
meet they will tell you that they want
to do something great with their life
they’ll tell you that they’ve got big
dreams they’ve got plans and they’re
gonna make it happen
but they can’t take criticism they’re
not willing to look at what they’re
doing wrong they’re not willing to admit
that everything is their fault but it’s
just a frame of reference and if they
would change that frame of reference it
would change everything and as Tim
Grover said the only difference between
feedback and criticism is how you hear
it
understanding the brain understanding
how we process data understanding the
way that ideas get into your mind and
cause a chain reaction of emotions if
you can’t figure that out and rise above
it and not become a victim of your
emotions not become a victim to people
saying something that knock you off your
confidence that make you feel insecure
that actually cripple your ability to
perform because of how you have decided
to hear something and that moment of
awakening that breakthrough that is the
realization that you decide what to
focus on you decide what to hear and
what to take away from something
somebody can assail you they can attack
you they can victimize you but it’s a
choice as to whether or not you play the
victim as Winston Churchill said
criticism may not be agreeable but it’s
necessary it fulfills the same function
as pain in the human body it calls
attention to an unhealthy state of
things in the pursuit of greatness
people are still trying to avoid
if you really want to do something if
you really want to become somebody then
you’ve got to run headlong into pain
you’ve got to be looking for those
things that make you suffer you’ve got
to seek out the pain you’ve got to seek
out things that make you uncomfortable
you’ve got to want to hit that
difficulty because it is in those
moments it is in that bit of suffering
it is in seeing what you are not good at
that is going to allow you to become
great and if you have to let it fill you
with rage to really stand in anguish in
order to force yourself to move then
stand in it do whatever you need to do
in order to reach your goals and if
that’s the motivation that you need then
embrace it and chase it as Tony Robbins
said the purpose of pain is to move us
into action it’s not to make us suffer
so in that anguish in the excruciating
pain find no suffering see the joining
welcome it like an old friend and the
day that you can welcome your pain like
an old friend because you know like a
friend it is taking you where you need
to go it is spurring you into action it
is pushing you to become something and
the process of rebirth my friends hurts
but whether you choose to suffer or not
is your choice because remember Tim’s
words the only difference between
feedback and criticism is how
the only difference between pain and
suffering is how you frame it so it’s
your choice it’s up to you how you’re
gonna move forward but never for one
second forget that it’s a choice the
body has limitations the mind does not
we focus so much on what goes on from
the neck down that we forget it all
starts from here everything starts with
if you’re not mentally ready you’re
never really physically prepared
and that’s where the preparation starts
I firmly believe that everybody in this
room everybody on this planet has a gift
it’s your job to figure out what that
gift is
then it becomes your job to decide
whether you’re going to act on that or
not everyone sees
the work that you put in but it’s what
you don’t see it’s going to determine
how far you did again I I hear stuff all
the time people say oh look in the
mirror and you’ll see why you’re not
succeeding I don’t believe that it’s
what you don’t see the mirror that’s
what’s holding you back
it’s what you’re not willing to see is
why talent is not enough
when you finally see it and accept it
and decide to work on it
you can take that next level the truth
is very concise
the words are very few but people don’t
want to hear the truth cause the truth
hurts
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you
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every opportunity that’s presented to
you
all right nothing’s just gonna happen
you know everybody say it’s all on you
it is all on you there’s other people
that can educate you and help you but
you take these different experiences
that you learn that stick with you I
mean you may not remember a whole lot
when you were four years old but there’s
certain memories there’s certain things
you can use them to either harness you
to greatness or you can use them to kind
of just keep you where you’re at and
most people are just satisfied with that
there’s always the next level your
definition of greatness and what you
want achieve could be totally different
than somebody else’s there are so many
people in the world and and and you know
you may be watching this right now and
you have these incredible ideas and what
you think is missing is motivation and
that’s not true
because the way that our minds are wired
and the fact about human beings is that
we are not designed to do things that
are uncomfortable or scary or difficult
our brains are designed to protect us
from those things because our brains are
trying to keep us alive and in order to
change in order to build a business in
order to be the best parent of a spouse
to do all those things that you know you
want to do with your life with your work
with your dreams you’re gonna have to do
things that are difficult uncertain or
scary which sets up this problem for all
of us you’re never gonna feel like it
motivations garbage you you only feel
motivated to do the things that are easy
what do you think that is oh I know
exactly why that is because I I’ve
studied this so much because for me one
of the hardest things to figure out was
why is it so hard to do the little
things that would improve my life and
what I’ve come to realize and that we’ll
talk a lot about today is that the way
that our minds are designed is our minds
are designed to stop you at all costs
from doing anything that might hurt you
and the way that that that that this all
happens is it all starts with something
super subtle that none of us ever catch
and that is with this habit that all of
us have that nobody’s talking about
everything
matters
if you take any situation and just take
the word only and take the word just out
of it
it changes the holy phrase
it’s just a game
it’s a game
it’s only a job
if you feel like this isn’t only a job
before this interview is up I advise you
to get up and leave right now
because if somebody else will fill this
seat up and take that job and turn it
into a career be careful of those words
trap words I’m just gonna smoke one
cigarette
that shows you their preparation for a
mental standpoint of how weak they
really are we all have a habit of
hesitating hmm we have an idea you’re
sitting in a meeting you have this
incredible idea and instead of just you
know saying it you stop and you hesitate
now what none of us realize is that when
you hesitate just that moment that micro
moment that small hesitation it sends a
stress signal to your brain it wakes
your brain up and your brain all of a
sudden goes oh wait a minute wait why is
he hesitating he didn’t hesitate when he
put on his killer spiky sneakers he
didn’t hesitate with the really cool
track pants he didn’t hesitate with the
NASA tee shirt now he’s hesitating to
talk something must be up
so then your brain goes to work to
protect you it has a million different
ways to protect you one of them is
called the spotlight effect it’s a known
phenomenon where your brain magnifies
risk Y to pull you away from something
that it perceives to be a problem and so
you can truly trace every single problem
or complaint in your life to silence and
hesitation those are decisions and what
I do and what’s changed my life is
waking up and realizing that motivations
garbage I’m never gonna feel like doing
the things that are tough for difficult
or uncertain or scary or new so I need
to stop leading until I feel like it and
number two I am one decision away from a
totally different marriage a totally
different life a totally different job a
totally different income a totally
different relationship with my kids
not like one decision I’m divorcing you
in in the marriage example but one
decision on you know you could be having
a conversation with your spouse and you
feel your emotions rise up and within a
tiny window those emotions can take over
and can impact how your marriage goes or
you can learn how to take control of
that micro moment
and make a decision to act in a way that
actually shifts your marriage your life
comes down to your decisions and if you
change your decisions you will change
everything I’m convinced that well
virtually everyone you’re ever gonna
meet they will tell you that they want
to do something great with their life
they’ll tell you that they’ve got big
dreams they’ve got plans and they’re
gonna make it happen
but they can’t take criticism they’re
not willing to look at what they’re
doing wrong they’re not willing to admit
that everything is their fault but it’s
just a frame of reference and if they
would change that frame of reference it
would change everything and as Tim
Grover said the only difference between
feedback and criticism is how you hear
it
understanding the brain understanding
how we process data understanding the
way that ideas get into your mind and
cause a chain reaction of emotions if
you can’t figure that out and rise above
it and not become a victim of your
emotions not become a victim to people
saying something that knock you off your
confidence that make you feel insecure
that actually cripple your ability to
perform because of how you have decided
to hear something and that moment of
awakening that breakthrough that is the
realization that you decide what to
focus on you decide what to hear and
what to take away from something
somebody can assail you they can attack
you they can victimize you but it’s a
choice as to whether or not you play the
victim as Winston Churchill said
criticism may not be agreeable but it’s
necessary it fulfills the same function
as pain in the human body it calls
attention to an unhealthy state of
things in the pursuit of greatness
people are still trying to avoid
if you really want to do something if
you really want to become somebody then
you’ve got to run headlong into pain
you’ve got to be looking for those
things that make you suffer you’ve got
to seek out the pain you’ve got to seek
out things that make you uncomfortable
you’ve got to want to hit that
difficulty because it is in those
moments it is in that bit of suffering
it is in seeing what you are not good at
that is going to allow you to become
great and if you have to let it fill you
with rage to really stand in anguish in
order to force yourself to move then
stand in it do whatever you need to do
in order to reach your goals and if
that’s the motivation that you need then
embrace it and chase it as Tony Robbins
said the purpose of pain is to move us
into action it’s not to make us suffer
so in that anguish in the excruciating
pain find no suffering see the joining
welcome it like an old friend and the
day that you can welcome your pain like
an old friend because you know like a
friend it is taking you where you need
to go it is spurring you into action it
is pushing you to become something and
the process of rebirth my friends hurts
but whether you choose to suffer or not
is your choice because remember Tim’s
words the only difference between
feedback and criticism is how
the only difference between pain and
suffering is how you frame it so it’s
your choice it’s up to you how you’re
gonna move forward but never for one
second forget that it’s a choice the
body has limitations the mind does not
we focus so much on what goes on from
the neck down that we forget it all
starts from here everything starts with
if you’re not mentally ready you’re
never really physically prepared
and that’s where the preparation starts
I firmly believe that everybody in this
room everybody on this planet has a gift
it’s your job to figure out what that
gift is
then it becomes your job to decide
whether you’re going to act on that or
not everyone sees
the work that you put in but it’s what
you don’t see it’s going to determine
how far you did again I I hear stuff all
the time people say oh look in the
mirror and you’ll see why you’re not
succeeding I don’t believe that it’s
what you don’t see the mirror that’s
what’s holding you back
it’s what you’re not willing to see is
why talent is not enough
when you finally see it and accept it
and decide to work on it
you can take that next level the truth
is very concise
the words are very few but people don’t
want to hear the truth cause the truth
hurts
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you
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