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have a mind that is open to everything
and attached to nothing one of the
central principles of my life is that no
one knows enough to be a pessimist about
anything and that each and every one of
us when we close our mind to what is
possible for us or what is possible for
Humanity closes off the genius that
resides and lives in each and every one
of us having an open mind doesn’t
necessarily mean finding fault with all
of the things that you’ve been taught by
others it means opening yourself up to
the potentiality and the possibility
that anything and everything is possible
so having a mind that is open to
everything and attached to nothing
really means finding within ourselves
the ability to get rid of a trait that I
find so common in contemporary in the
contemporary world
do you know that most people that I meet
spend their lives looking for occasions
to be offended
they actually are out there hoping that
they can find some reason to be offended
and there’s no shortage of reasons
they’re out there everywhere the way
this person dressed of what the worst
person said they turn on the TV they
hear the news are offended by this
someone didn’t someone use language that
they didn’t like someone doesn’t share
the same customs at you and people all
day long in fact if you keep track
tomorrow you will find probably a
hundred reasons that you can go around
being offended but a mind that is open
to everything and attached to nothing is
a mind that says I’m never looking for
anything to be offended by and that
whatever anybody else out there has to
say my response to that is that’s an
interesting point of view I’ve never
considered that before
it took people who had a mind that
wasn’t closed to allow us to make the
progress that we’ve made progress is
import is impossible if you always do
things the way you’ve always done things
but the other word in this what talofa
said is be attached nowhere be attached
nowhere
attachment really means I am deluding
myself into a belief that if I can’t
have or if I can’t do this or that thing
then somehow I’m going to become
immobilized so an open mind that is
detached and I’ve often thought and I
really believe very strongly that
there’s a law sort of a law in the
universe I call it the law of attraction
and the law of attraction is one that
works like this
you get back from the universe from the
world what it is that you put out there
in the world and if you’re putting out
there into the world that I am not
worthy of attracting something beautiful
into my life that the universe will
respond back to you with exactly that
message
if your message to the universe is
gimme-gimme-gimme which is a lot of
people’s message to the universe i want
this from you i want that from you
please give me this i have to have that
that’s what their prayer is like that’s
what their message isn’t you know and
they say i want this from the universe
give me give me give me the universe’s
response back to that kind of an
mentality is exactly the same the
universe will say right back to you over
and over again gimme gimme gimme and
you’ll find yourself never ever arriving
but always being in a state of striving
always feeling as if you’re being
neglected never feeling as if you have
enough always feeling as if you’re being
shortchanged because you’re constantly
under the pressure to give to get back
what the universe is demanding and the
interesting thing about all of this the
irony of this is that if you shift that
and you say to the universe to the world
how may I serve how may I serve the
universe’s response back to you is how
may I serve you how may I serve you and
it’s very intriguing when you take your
energy and your attention off of what
you are demanding from the world and
instead saying what can I give to the
world that when I stopped thinking about
what was in it for Wayne Dyer and how
much could I get and I began to shift
and say how can I help you how can I
give to you what can I do for you and
people who write to me well I send them
something when when I encounter somebody
that needs help with some kind I’m very
often just giving that to them and then
I find that it just keeps coming back
into my life
and once I shifted that energy off of
what can I have into what can I give it
seemed to me that the universe responded
back with the very same message what can
I give to you and the most incredible
and one
from a beautiful abundance has flowed
into my life in every way that I can
possibly think of you can’t give away
what you don’t have so take a look at an
inventory of what you do have how much
do you love yourself how much kindness
do you have in you how much peace do you
have in you how much joy do you have in
you and if you’re able to give that away
as many times as you can in a given day
watch and see how much more of that
continues to show up and come back in
your life
don’t die with your music still in you
all of you have some music playing and
all of you have a heroic mission
there’s no accidents in this universe we
all show up here with a purpose there’s
an intelligence that is a part of
everything and everyone and all of us
are connected to it and too many of us
are afraid to listen to that music and
March to it you out there I know you
have a book you want it to ride I know
there’s a composition you wanted to
compose I know there’s a song you want
to sing someplace maybe you want to
raise horses out in Montana or maybe you
want to open up an ice cream shop on
Cape Cod who knows what it may be maybe
you just want to travel and see the
world maybe you want to go into a
relationship with someone but you’ve
been afraid to but your heart says it’s
the right thing to do all of us feel
something and in Leo Tolstoy his famous
novel the death of Ivan Illich he asked
this question that would be terrifying
to me he says as he has his accountant
from Moscow lying on his deathbed
contemplating the horror of this
question what if my whole life has been
wrong I’ve known what my music is
it’s playing right now as I stand here
in front of you with these cameras and
in this place and as I sit down and
write my books and tell the world what I
know are my truths I feel always
completely on purpose and fulfilled and
no time will I ever come to the end of
my life and say what if my whole life
whoever you are whatever that music is
however distant it may sound however
strange however weird others may
interpret it to be don’t get to the end
of your life and know that you’re going
to leave and not haven’t played yet
don’t die with your music still in you
it’s the message of the greatest
teachers who’ve ever walked them on
he said you can’t solve a problem with
the same mind that created
in order to work at solving these things
or problems in your life you have to
change your mind it is your mind where
they live it is your mind that created
them they there is where you experience
them they’re all illusions you must
change your mind literally rewrite your
agreement with reality
one of the things I had said earlier is
that one of the most difficult things to
do in the world is to admit that you
were wrong admitting that you were wrong
is nothing more than saying I have been
making choices with my mind that have
created things in my life that are not
working and I no longer intend to
continue making those choices I was
wrong you don’t have to make a
declaration of it you don’t have to go
out and feel guilty about it you just
simply say it didn’t work the
relationship that I was in before I
behaved in these ways I didn’t realize
that it wasn’t working for me
now I do and this is where I choose to
be now the secret of a successful
relationship is to me understanding that
you put your attention and your energy
in a person on what you love rather than
what you don’t love Robert Frost said it
so beautifully we love the things we
love for what they are
for what they are not for what they
ought to be not for what they used to be
but for what they are
so when you look into the eyes of a
person you’re in a relationship with
whether it’s your children you catch
them doing things right as much as you
possibly can that’s often Tam takes a
lot of hunting but you’ll find it and
when you think that my relationship
isn’t working remember it’s in my mind
what am I thinking about that person and
if I could just change my mind and put
my talks on what I love about this
person and keep them there that makes
the relationship flourish and there are
people who go through their entire
relationship history with no anger no
hatred no bitterness and only love
you know every thought has an energy
just like everything else in the
universe and if you have a thought of
shame
it will weaken your muscles and what is
your heart but a muscle if you raise a
child to believe in shame and feel
ashamed of themselves every time they
think that shameful thought they will be
weakened and if you have a thought of
fear and if you have a thought of stress
and you have a thought of anguish and
anxiety all of these thoughts and many
more are the thoughts that will always
weaken you when you are having a thought
that you know is it disempowering you
shift shift it to one that is empower
rather than disempowered and the
thoughts that empower our thoughts of
neutrality and willingness and love and
ultimately thoughts of divinity and when
you see a troubled person
who is out there struggling at the
highest level of unity consciousness or
god consciousness who spiritual
consciousness you recognize yourself in
all that you see there but for the grace
of God go I and I am connected to that
person changing your thoughts
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you are to sum total of all of the
choices that you’ve made up until now
and anything about yourself or your life
that you don’t like or isn’t working or
is mobilizing you is to be looked at in
terms of can I grow rather than why did
I do whatever hasn’t is wrong see the
two ways to motivate yourself our
deficiency motivation which says where I
am I don’t like I don’t like what I’ve
done I don’t like the fact that I can’t
do this well or I can’t do that well so
I will list these things in my own
repertoire and then I will be constantly
trying to repair those deficiencies
always assuming that I’m deficient that
there’s something wrong with me and I’m
trying to fix them and when you do that
you spend your whole life
and you never arrived because your life
becomes a series of trying to get
someplace else and it is if you follow
that if you live that if you behave that
then what what happens to you is you
become a person who will always suffer
from this disease called more you always
have to have more because whenever you
are getting where you want to go let’s
say you want $100,000 in the bank and
you work and you struggle then you deny
yourself and you do all of those things
and you finally finally you get there
here you are you got a hundred thousand
dollars in all of this stuff over here
of course your life and that is all you
know that’s what you know how to that’s
how you are that is your being that is
your way of being so that when you do
get here what you will do is say this is
not enough you must a No Limit person is
never operating from deficiency or from
lack in their life they’re never saying
I don’t have enough
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you see you’re never going to get enough
you already are
everything you’re everything that you
need think of it for just a moment
everything that you need to have total
bliss perfection of your life
you already are you already have it you
came into this world with nothing that’s
how you’re going out and the time that
you have here it what you have is your
uniqueness your specialness and you
don’t need anything else now think on
this if you don’t know how to appreciate
what you have and where you are in your
life you don’t need anything else
because if you do get something else you
won’t know how to appreciate that either
you’ll just want more or you’ll want it
to be different or you want it to be the
way it used to be or you’ll want someone
else to be the way you think they should
be successful people are no limit people
are self actualizing people inner
directed people however you whatever
labels that have been put on them by
great thinkers philosophers and
therapists and people that have looked
at human beings these kinds of people
are people who always have enough
you see your circumstances have very
little to do with your fulfillment in
life very little it’s it’s how you’re
approaching your circumstances it’s your
attitude towards your circumstances that
make all the difference in the world and
taking what you are and accepting it
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this is a very crucial concept for for
me and for virtually all of us it’s this
idea of taking your life in your own
hands and being the kind of person that
you choose to be and understanding that
everything that comes your way it is an
opportunity is a blessing and it wasn’t
until I learned how to celebrate
virtually everything that came my way
that I was able to transcend it you see
everything that was given to us by God
whatever that is is perfect no one can
deny the mountains are perfect and the
rivers are perfect and the birds are
perfect and the hippopotamuses are
perfect and and and so on this is just
what was given to us everything else
that you have on our planet that we have
in our planet comes about as a result of
thinking thinking thought makes it so
all right this microphone comes about as
a result of thinking somebody imagines
if somebody then tells somebody else and
it’s been a creative the dress that
you’re wearing this shirt that I’m the
shoes that you have the stage these
cameras everything that you see that
wasn’t given to us was created by man as
a result of the way that we think the
way that we think so what gets inside of
us as a cell comes about as a result of
the way that we choose to think in our
lives very important principle to
understand because once you get a hold
of thinking
and that it creates everything that you
have in your life you can change and
make it is absolutely perfect as you
want it to be because thought makes
itself
creative visualization is what we’re
talking about here you the imagery or
the image that you have of anything in
your life is really like mental behavior
it’s like going out and practicing go
out and practice with a basketball
shooting free-throws over and over again
that’s physical practice imagery is
mental practice is mental behavior when
you have an image that you can succeed
excel at something you have an image
that you can do it rather than that you
can’t do it when you get into your car
and you have an image that you’re going
to find a parking place rather than that
there’ll be no place to park so you’re
not looking for no place to find you
will start acting on the image that you
have very much like you will start
acting on the practice that you have
when you’re shooting baskets or when
you’re hitting a forehand ER or working
on your soup or anything else that
you’re doing
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and ask any doctor if you know any surge
in particular he was taking somebody
into surgery and asked them which person
has a better chance of living but
surviving stay serious surgery isn’t the
one who has a will to live or is it the
one who’s just given up and the surgery
and the cases are exactly the same fine
but the person who has that will which
we can’t define you can’t go out and get
a bucket full of will and bring it in
there it’s an attitude it’s an approach
it’s a belief right that you can do
something and when you have that belief
about yourself then you know you’ve got
so much better opportunity to be well in
your life and a belief is everything I
don’t know if you’ve ever thought of
that I watched a little girl five years
old learning how to swim and she holding
on to the edge of the pool and she wants
to get over here to the steps and it’s
just five feet or six feet and she’ll
let go in in to hold on again she’ll let
go and she’ll hold on again and finally
there comes a time when she lets go and
goes for it okay you’ve all seen you’ve
seen this with your children you’ve seen
and what you ask yourself is in the
moment before that when she was holding
on and then look at the moment
afterwards does she have any different
skills what’s changed you know the
skills are should have any new skills
these are learning skills in that second
what she has is a belief that she can do
and when you believe it when you really
just believe that you can do it that’s
what allows you to swim and when you
think about it now do you not a swim
yeah so when you dive into the water you
don’t think about that you just know
when you dive into the water you can
swim you don’t have any necessary
swimming skills or anything like that or
when you get on a bicycle you get on you
know that you’re gonna unless you
believe you can’t
mean to me means seeing the greatness
and the uniqueness in you and never
letting anybody else convince you to the
contrary when people ask me come on
you’re always talking about being up and
you’re always positive and so on you
mean to tell me that you’re always that
way this is and it isn’t because I’m out
there doing something in an artificial
way it’s an authentic response to my
heaven having gotten the junk out of me
and the junk is the way that I used to
think the way that I used to think think
for a moment if you can visualize right
here a clock big clock
and the hands on the clock go from the
112
the clock starts right out here with the
minute head and it goes over towards the
three the hour hand minute hand and
that’s the time in your life when you
are moving away from yourself
I’m here to yourself that’s the time
when you are trying to put other people
down trying to prove that you’re bigger
and better than somebody else trying to
make yourself right all the time as
opposed to being with somebody else it’s
like you’re moving away and a lot of
people spend a lot of time moving away
from their true self because your true
self is this little child it’s this
beautiful little child inside of you
that has only love and acceptance for
everything in the world and no disease
no absence of ease you move away towards
the three and then you move down here
this when you’re still moving away from
yourself until you hit the six the six
is the point in your life symbolically
metaphorically here when you are the
farthest away from yourself that you can
be it’s the low point in your life it’s
the point where many people break down
or many people break down their
relationships or they they feel full of
despair they feel full of hatred
whatever it may be and a lot of people
die then a lot of people are put into
hospitals that a lot of people have to
really seek out therapy
when you’re at dancing there’s another
part of the clock that goes from six to
twelve that I think of as living in the
light and this is when and see this
clock hand never can go back it can’t go
back it can only go this way it only
goes this way as does life that only
goes this way forward in this period is
placed between six and twelve that’s
when you start coming back to yourself
that’s when that’s what enlightenment is
that’s what that’s the pathway to
enlightenment when you send out that
stuff that is destroying you is killing
you in one way or another and you move
yourself back over here and eventually
you get yourself all the way back this
is the light over here this is the place
where you can’t go back you be tempted
you might be tempted to steal it might
be tempted to to to use angry might even
slip a little bit and you catch yourself
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that’s where you’re stuck that’s the
place to stuff because when you get all
of that out when that’s all gone and I
mean gone and it only comes about as a
result of the way that you think so it’s
just changing around your approach to
life the way that you think in life when
that starts to go away what you’ve
become filled up with is what your
natural self is which is this loving
accepting not fighting the universe but
instead living in it and going with the
flow and all of the kinds of cliches
that you’ve heard a thousand times it is
that’s the metaphor there and you see
every time you try to go back can’t do
it you can’t do it and the ingredients
that make for a No Limit life are five
in my opinion the first is quality
rather than appearances you begin to
change your thinking from appearances
and how things look and how other people
view me okay because every time you find
yourself upset in life about anything
that anyone else has said what you’re
really saying is what you think of me is
more important than what I think
so you change from appearances to what I
call quality thinking quality what is
the quality of my life rather than how
does it appear to others
now do you tell yourself that because my
friends don’t like me that that means
there’s something wrong with me
now that’s see that’s what you have to
learn that another person’s opinion is
just that it’s their opinion and that’s
all it is every time you are upset or
your children are upset because of what
somebody else says about them including
their peers what you are really saying
in that moment this is really important
what you’re saying is what you think of
me is more important than what I think
of myself and you must never give
anybody that kind of power and control
over you because they will always have
it
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the funny part about approval for those
of you who really want it in real now
I’m here to tell you that I like
approval I enjoy it I find it one of the
most exciting things in the way I like
it when people read my books I love it
when people applaud I’d like it when
people tell me nice things and all
I like approval I’m the first one to
admit it what I don’t do is I don’t need
approval there’s a big difference
between wanting approval and needing
approval when you need approval
it means you become immobilized when you
don’t get it
from making other people’s opinions more
important now for those of you who say
yeah but I want approval and I need it
and if I don’t get it and so on then
understand this the people who get the
most approval in life are the ones who
care the least about it and the ones who
get the least approval are the ones who
are always going after it so if you want
approval in this paradoxical way that
I’m talking about it stop needing it
stop consuming it’s number one ask
yourself who gets the most approval in
life think of the person that gets the
most approval and you’ll see that that
person couldn’t care less what other
people are thinking they’re so busy
being they don’t have time to notice
when their neighbors are doing
the RO said this he said if you advance
confidently in the direction of your own
dreams
and endeavor to live the life do you
have imagined
you will meet with a success unexpected
in common hours what that means is that
success is not some
that you can get in life
success is an inner process success is
something that you bring to everything
you do in your life it isn’t something
you get out of what you do and when you
get that and you learn how to get the
junk out and advance confidently doing
what makes the most amount of sense to
you based on your inner signals and the
one issue of morality which is you never
interfere with anybody else’s right to
do the same each person has their own
right to advance confidently in the
direction of their own greed and when
you violate that you’re violating the
principle of the universe essence of
Europe which is cooperation then success
will begin to chase you and it will come
into your life and arrive in your life
in amounts that you never dreamt of
before that you never dreamt up things
will start happening to you that you
would never imagined before I’m working
on a book right now that’s going to be
called you’ll see it when you believe it
when you start believing in some of
these principles you’ll start seeing
things that we were blind to for so long
when you were back here in the 2 and the
3 and the 4 and the 5 when you were
moving away from yourself as long as
you’re moving back towards your
Universal essence your harmony with
yourself your cooperation with the rest
things will start happening in ways that
you never dreamt up
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the
the quality versus appearance in your
life means that you get that inner
candle flame working in a way that gives
you quality independent of what other
people think of you Maslow in defining
self actualizing No Limit people said
they are independent of the good opinion
of other people of the good opinion of
other people independent of it they’re
so busy advancing confidently doing the
things that make sense and bringing
success to changing their baby’s diaper
and bringing success to weeding their
garden and bringing it to the job they
bring it on the airplane so that when
they run into somebody who is who is
rude to them a stewardess that is rude
they don’t see it as an attack on them
it’s just where they are and they send
them love help them a little bit they’re
kind when somebody wants to get in on
the freeway and their one old temptation
when they were on the one to the six I
was to say oh yeah nobody’s getting in
front of me I’m getting there first it’s
like it’s slowed down a little bit they
don’t have all that type-a stuff of
having to beat somebody else and having
to defeat somebody it is it’s a new way
of being it’s a way of quality where
you’re harmony allows you to cooperate
and you are a part of what this whole
thing is about
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but what you do put out in the world is
exactly what’s coming back to you and if
you find things coming back to you that
you don’t like and don’t understand
don’t ask yourself why these things are
coming to you ask yourself what you’re
doing to make them come back to you and
when you start putting the
responsibility on yourself you’ll start
seeing dramatic changes dramatic changes
new way of being
instead of ethics instead of rules
ethics a new another new way of being
instead of looking all your life for
achievements and externals try living
your life on knowledge for the sake of
knowledge knowledge instead of
achievement for the sake of knowledge
being in a in a context in which you
don’t have to collect a lot of merit
badges you don’t have to collect a lot
of a lot of awards and other people’s
value judgments that you go to school or
you go out into the world or you read or
whatever you do because it makes sense
to you not because what somebody else is
going to put on a transcript or where
you’re going to appear
classlist we need to help our children
to understand and value the importance
of knowledge for the sake of knowledge
and doing things that make sense rather
than taking the easy way
knowledge rather than always trying to
achieve we’re in an achievement oriented
society which tells us that we evaluate
and judge a human being based upon how
many chief achievements he has but most
of the people who get caught up in that
trap and are always in this circle of
trying to get ahead trying to always get
ahead their reward for that almost
always is higher blood pressure ulcers
early death and even things like cancer
we’re beginning to find out are related
to kinds of stresses that we have and
remember it’s a perfect universe there’s
no stress in it there’s only people
thinking stress the box
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you
have a mind that is open to everything
and attached to nothing one of the
central principles of my life is that no
one knows enough to be a pessimist about
anything and that each and every one of
us when we close our mind to what is
possible for us or what is possible for
Humanity closes off the genius that
resides and lives in each and every one
of us having an open mind doesn’t
necessarily mean finding fault with all
of the things that you’ve been taught by
others it means opening yourself up to
the potentiality and the possibility
that anything and everything is possible
so having a mind that is open to
everything and attached to nothing
really means finding within ourselves
the ability to get rid of a trait that I
find so common in contemporary in the
contemporary world
do you know that most people that I meet
spend their lives looking for occasions
to be offended
they actually are out there hoping that
they can find some reason to be offended
and there’s no shortage of reasons
they’re out there everywhere the way
this person dressed of what the worst
person said they turn on the TV they
hear the news are offended by this
someone didn’t someone use language that
they didn’t like someone doesn’t share
the same customs at you and people all
day long in fact if you keep track
tomorrow you will find probably a
hundred reasons that you can go around
being offended but a mind that is open
to everything and attached to nothing is
a mind that says I’m never looking for
anything to be offended by and that
whatever anybody else out there has to
say my response to that is that’s an
interesting point of view I’ve never
considered that before
it took people who had a mind that
wasn’t closed to allow us to make the
progress that we’ve made progress is
import is impossible if you always do
things the way you’ve always done things
but the other word in this what talofa
said is be attached nowhere be attached
nowhere
attachment really means I am deluding
myself into a belief that if I can’t
have or if I can’t do this or that thing
then somehow I’m going to become
immobilized so an open mind that is
detached and I’ve often thought and I
really believe very strongly that
there’s a law sort of a law in the
universe I call it the law of attraction
and the law of attraction is one that
works like this
you get back from the universe from the
world what it is that you put out there
in the world and if you’re putting out
there into the world that I am not
worthy of attracting something beautiful
into my life that the universe will
respond back to you with exactly that
message
if your message to the universe is
gimme-gimme-gimme which is a lot of
people’s message to the universe i want
this from you i want that from you
please give me this i have to have that
that’s what their prayer is like that’s
what their message isn’t you know and
they say i want this from the universe
give me give me give me the universe’s
response back to that kind of an
mentality is exactly the same the
universe will say right back to you over
and over again gimme gimme gimme and
you’ll find yourself never ever arriving
but always being in a state of striving
always feeling as if you’re being
neglected never feeling as if you have
enough always feeling as if you’re being
shortchanged because you’re constantly
under the pressure to give to get back
what the universe is demanding and the
interesting thing about all of this the
irony of this is that if you shift that
and you say to the universe to the world
how may I serve how may I serve the
universe’s response back to you is how
may I serve you how may I serve you and
it’s very intriguing when you take your
energy and your attention off of what
you are demanding from the world and
instead saying what can I give to the
world that when I stopped thinking about
what was in it for Wayne Dyer and how
much could I get and I began to shift
and say how can I help you how can I
give to you what can I do for you and
people who write to me well I send them
something when when I encounter somebody
that needs help with some kind I’m very
often just giving that to them and then
I find that it just keeps coming back
into my life
and once I shifted that energy off of
what can I have into what can I give it
seemed to me that the universe responded
back with the very same message what can
I give to you and the most incredible
and one
from a beautiful abundance has flowed
into my life in every way that I can
possibly think of you can’t give away
what you don’t have so take a look at an
inventory of what you do have how much
do you love yourself how much kindness
do you have in you how much peace do you
have in you how much joy do you have in
you and if you’re able to give that away
as many times as you can in a given day
watch and see how much more of that
continues to show up and come back in
your life
don’t die with your music still in you
all of you have some music playing and
all of you have a heroic mission
there’s no accidents in this universe we
all show up here with a purpose there’s
an intelligence that is a part of
everything and everyone and all of us
are connected to it and too many of us
are afraid to listen to that music and
March to it you out there I know you
have a book you want it to ride I know
there’s a composition you wanted to
compose I know there’s a song you want
to sing someplace maybe you want to
raise horses out in Montana or maybe you
want to open up an ice cream shop on
Cape Cod who knows what it may be maybe
you just want to travel and see the
world maybe you want to go into a
relationship with someone but you’ve
been afraid to but your heart says it’s
the right thing to do all of us feel
something and in Leo Tolstoy his famous
novel the death of Ivan Illich he asked
this question that would be terrifying
to me he says as he has his accountant
from Moscow lying on his deathbed
contemplating the horror of this
question what if my whole life has been
wrong I’ve known what my music is
it’s playing right now as I stand here
in front of you with these cameras and
in this place and as I sit down and
write my books and tell the world what I
know are my truths I feel always
completely on purpose and fulfilled and
no time will I ever come to the end of
my life and say what if my whole life
whoever you are whatever that music is
however distant it may sound however
strange however weird others may
interpret it to be don’t get to the end
of your life and know that you’re going
to leave and not haven’t played yet
don’t die with your music still in you
it’s the message of the greatest
teachers who’ve ever walked them on
he said you can’t solve a problem with
the same mind that created
in order to work at solving these things
or problems in your life you have to
change your mind it is your mind where
they live it is your mind that created
them they there is where you experience
them they’re all illusions you must
change your mind literally rewrite your
agreement with reality
one of the things I had said earlier is
that one of the most difficult things to
do in the world is to admit that you
were wrong admitting that you were wrong
is nothing more than saying I have been
making choices with my mind that have
created things in my life that are not
working and I no longer intend to
continue making those choices I was
wrong you don’t have to make a
declaration of it you don’t have to go
out and feel guilty about it you just
simply say it didn’t work the
relationship that I was in before I
behaved in these ways I didn’t realize
that it wasn’t working for me
now I do and this is where I choose to
be now the secret of a successful
relationship is to me understanding that
you put your attention and your energy
in a person on what you love rather than
what you don’t love Robert Frost said it
so beautifully we love the things we
love for what they are
for what they are not for what they
ought to be not for what they used to be
but for what they are
so when you look into the eyes of a
person you’re in a relationship with
whether it’s your children you catch
them doing things right as much as you
possibly can that’s often Tam takes a
lot of hunting but you’ll find it and
when you think that my relationship
isn’t working remember it’s in my mind
what am I thinking about that person and
if I could just change my mind and put
my talks on what I love about this
person and keep them there that makes
the relationship flourish and there are
people who go through their entire
relationship history with no anger no
hatred no bitterness and only love
you know every thought has an energy
just like everything else in the
universe and if you have a thought of
shame
it will weaken your muscles and what is
your heart but a muscle if you raise a
child to believe in shame and feel
ashamed of themselves every time they
think that shameful thought they will be
weakened and if you have a thought of
fear and if you have a thought of stress
and you have a thought of anguish and
anxiety all of these thoughts and many
more are the thoughts that will always
weaken you when you are having a thought
that you know is it disempowering you
shift shift it to one that is empower
rather than disempowered and the
thoughts that empower our thoughts of
neutrality and willingness and love and
ultimately thoughts of divinity and when
you see a troubled person
who is out there struggling at the
highest level of unity consciousness or
god consciousness who spiritual
consciousness you recognize yourself in
all that you see there but for the grace
of God go I and I am connected to that
person changing your thoughts
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you are to sum total of all of the
choices that you’ve made up until now
and anything about yourself or your life
that you don’t like or isn’t working or
is mobilizing you is to be looked at in
terms of can I grow rather than why did
I do whatever hasn’t is wrong see the
two ways to motivate yourself our
deficiency motivation which says where I
am I don’t like I don’t like what I’ve
done I don’t like the fact that I can’t
do this well or I can’t do that well so
I will list these things in my own
repertoire and then I will be constantly
trying to repair those deficiencies
always assuming that I’m deficient that
there’s something wrong with me and I’m
trying to fix them and when you do that
you spend your whole life
and you never arrived because your life
becomes a series of trying to get
someplace else and it is if you follow
that if you live that if you behave that
then what what happens to you is you
become a person who will always suffer
from this disease called more you always
have to have more because whenever you
are getting where you want to go let’s
say you want $100,000 in the bank and
you work and you struggle then you deny
yourself and you do all of those things
and you finally finally you get there
here you are you got a hundred thousand
dollars in all of this stuff over here
of course your life and that is all you
know that’s what you know how to that’s
how you are that is your being that is
your way of being so that when you do
get here what you will do is say this is
not enough you must a No Limit person is
never operating from deficiency or from
lack in their life they’re never saying
I don’t have enough
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you see you’re never going to get enough
you already are
everything you’re everything that you
need think of it for just a moment
everything that you need to have total
bliss perfection of your life
you already are you already have it you
came into this world with nothing that’s
how you’re going out and the time that
you have here it what you have is your
uniqueness your specialness and you
don’t need anything else now think on
this if you don’t know how to appreciate
what you have and where you are in your
life you don’t need anything else
because if you do get something else you
won’t know how to appreciate that either
you’ll just want more or you’ll want it
to be different or you want it to be the
way it used to be or you’ll want someone
else to be the way you think they should
be successful people are no limit people
are self actualizing people inner
directed people however you whatever
labels that have been put on them by
great thinkers philosophers and
therapists and people that have looked
at human beings these kinds of people
are people who always have enough
you see your circumstances have very
little to do with your fulfillment in
life very little it’s it’s how you’re
approaching your circumstances it’s your
attitude towards your circumstances that
make all the difference in the world and
taking what you are and accepting it
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this is a very crucial concept for for
me and for virtually all of us it’s this
idea of taking your life in your own
hands and being the kind of person that
you choose to be and understanding that
everything that comes your way it is an
opportunity is a blessing and it wasn’t
until I learned how to celebrate
virtually everything that came my way
that I was able to transcend it you see
everything that was given to us by God
whatever that is is perfect no one can
deny the mountains are perfect and the
rivers are perfect and the birds are
perfect and the hippopotamuses are
perfect and and and so on this is just
what was given to us everything else
that you have on our planet that we have
in our planet comes about as a result of
thinking thinking thought makes it so
all right this microphone comes about as
a result of thinking somebody imagines
if somebody then tells somebody else and
it’s been a creative the dress that
you’re wearing this shirt that I’m the
shoes that you have the stage these
cameras everything that you see that
wasn’t given to us was created by man as
a result of the way that we think the
way that we think so what gets inside of
us as a cell comes about as a result of
the way that we choose to think in our
lives very important principle to
understand because once you get a hold
of thinking
and that it creates everything that you
have in your life you can change and
make it is absolutely perfect as you
want it to be because thought makes
itself
creative visualization is what we’re
talking about here you the imagery or
the image that you have of anything in
your life is really like mental behavior
it’s like going out and practicing go
out and practice with a basketball
shooting free-throws over and over again
that’s physical practice imagery is
mental practice is mental behavior when
you have an image that you can succeed
excel at something you have an image
that you can do it rather than that you
can’t do it when you get into your car
and you have an image that you’re going
to find a parking place rather than that
there’ll be no place to park so you’re
not looking for no place to find you
will start acting on the image that you
have very much like you will start
acting on the practice that you have
when you’re shooting baskets or when
you’re hitting a forehand ER or working
on your soup or anything else that
you’re doing
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and ask any doctor if you know any surge
in particular he was taking somebody
into surgery and asked them which person
has a better chance of living but
surviving stay serious surgery isn’t the
one who has a will to live or is it the
one who’s just given up and the surgery
and the cases are exactly the same fine
but the person who has that will which
we can’t define you can’t go out and get
a bucket full of will and bring it in
there it’s an attitude it’s an approach
it’s a belief right that you can do
something and when you have that belief
about yourself then you know you’ve got
so much better opportunity to be well in
your life and a belief is everything I
don’t know if you’ve ever thought of
that I watched a little girl five years
old learning how to swim and she holding
on to the edge of the pool and she wants
to get over here to the steps and it’s
just five feet or six feet and she’ll
let go in in to hold on again she’ll let
go and she’ll hold on again and finally
there comes a time when she lets go and
goes for it okay you’ve all seen you’ve
seen this with your children you’ve seen
and what you ask yourself is in the
moment before that when she was holding
on and then look at the moment
afterwards does she have any different
skills what’s changed you know the
skills are should have any new skills
these are learning skills in that second
what she has is a belief that she can do
and when you believe it when you really
just believe that you can do it that’s
what allows you to swim and when you
think about it now do you not a swim
yeah so when you dive into the water you
don’t think about that you just know
when you dive into the water you can
swim you don’t have any necessary
swimming skills or anything like that or
when you get on a bicycle you get on you
know that you’re gonna unless you
believe you can’t
mean to me means seeing the greatness
and the uniqueness in you and never
letting anybody else convince you to the
contrary when people ask me come on
you’re always talking about being up and
you’re always positive and so on you
mean to tell me that you’re always that
way this is and it isn’t because I’m out
there doing something in an artificial
way it’s an authentic response to my
heaven having gotten the junk out of me
and the junk is the way that I used to
think the way that I used to think think
for a moment if you can visualize right
here a clock big clock
and the hands on the clock go from the
112
the clock starts right out here with the
minute head and it goes over towards the
three the hour hand minute hand and
that’s the time in your life when you
are moving away from yourself
I’m here to yourself that’s the time
when you are trying to put other people
down trying to prove that you’re bigger
and better than somebody else trying to
make yourself right all the time as
opposed to being with somebody else it’s
like you’re moving away and a lot of
people spend a lot of time moving away
from their true self because your true
self is this little child it’s this
beautiful little child inside of you
that has only love and acceptance for
everything in the world and no disease
no absence of ease you move away towards
the three and then you move down here
this when you’re still moving away from
yourself until you hit the six the six
is the point in your life symbolically
metaphorically here when you are the
farthest away from yourself that you can
be it’s the low point in your life it’s
the point where many people break down
or many people break down their
relationships or they they feel full of
despair they feel full of hatred
whatever it may be and a lot of people
die then a lot of people are put into
hospitals that a lot of people have to
really seek out therapy
when you’re at dancing there’s another
part of the clock that goes from six to
twelve that I think of as living in the
light and this is when and see this
clock hand never can go back it can’t go
back it can only go this way it only
goes this way as does life that only
goes this way forward in this period is
placed between six and twelve that’s
when you start coming back to yourself
that’s when that’s what enlightenment is
that’s what that’s the pathway to
enlightenment when you send out that
stuff that is destroying you is killing
you in one way or another and you move
yourself back over here and eventually
you get yourself all the way back this
is the light over here this is the place
where you can’t go back you be tempted
you might be tempted to steal it might
be tempted to to to use angry might even
slip a little bit and you catch yourself
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that’s where you’re stuck that’s the
place to stuff because when you get all
of that out when that’s all gone and I
mean gone and it only comes about as a
result of the way that you think so it’s
just changing around your approach to
life the way that you think in life when
that starts to go away what you’ve
become filled up with is what your
natural self is which is this loving
accepting not fighting the universe but
instead living in it and going with the
flow and all of the kinds of cliches
that you’ve heard a thousand times it is
that’s the metaphor there and you see
every time you try to go back can’t do
it you can’t do it and the ingredients
that make for a No Limit life are five
in my opinion the first is quality
rather than appearances you begin to
change your thinking from appearances
and how things look and how other people
view me okay because every time you find
yourself upset in life about anything
that anyone else has said what you’re
really saying is what you think of me is
more important than what I think
so you change from appearances to what I
call quality thinking quality what is
the quality of my life rather than how
does it appear to others
now do you tell yourself that because my
friends don’t like me that that means
there’s something wrong with me
now that’s see that’s what you have to
learn that another person’s opinion is
just that it’s their opinion and that’s
all it is every time you are upset or
your children are upset because of what
somebody else says about them including
their peers what you are really saying
in that moment this is really important
what you’re saying is what you think of
me is more important than what I think
of myself and you must never give
anybody that kind of power and control
over you because they will always have
it
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the funny part about approval for those
of you who really want it in real now
I’m here to tell you that I like
approval I enjoy it I find it one of the
most exciting things in the way I like
it when people read my books I love it
when people applaud I’d like it when
people tell me nice things and all
I like approval I’m the first one to
admit it what I don’t do is I don’t need
approval there’s a big difference
between wanting approval and needing
approval when you need approval
it means you become immobilized when you
don’t get it
from making other people’s opinions more
important now for those of you who say
yeah but I want approval and I need it
and if I don’t get it and so on then
understand this the people who get the
most approval in life are the ones who
care the least about it and the ones who
get the least approval are the ones who
are always going after it so if you want
approval in this paradoxical way that
I’m talking about it stop needing it
stop consuming it’s number one ask
yourself who gets the most approval in
life think of the person that gets the
most approval and you’ll see that that
person couldn’t care less what other
people are thinking they’re so busy
being they don’t have time to notice
when their neighbors are doing
the RO said this he said if you advance
confidently in the direction of your own
dreams
and endeavor to live the life do you
have imagined
you will meet with a success unexpected
in common hours what that means is that
success is not some
that you can get in life
success is an inner process success is
something that you bring to everything
you do in your life it isn’t something
you get out of what you do and when you
get that and you learn how to get the
junk out and advance confidently doing
what makes the most amount of sense to
you based on your inner signals and the
one issue of morality which is you never
interfere with anybody else’s right to
do the same each person has their own
right to advance confidently in the
direction of their own greed and when
you violate that you’re violating the
principle of the universe essence of
Europe which is cooperation then success
will begin to chase you and it will come
into your life and arrive in your life
in amounts that you never dreamt of
before that you never dreamt up things
will start happening to you that you
would never imagined before I’m working
on a book right now that’s going to be
called you’ll see it when you believe it
when you start believing in some of
these principles you’ll start seeing
things that we were blind to for so long
when you were back here in the 2 and the
3 and the 4 and the 5 when you were
moving away from yourself as long as
you’re moving back towards your
Universal essence your harmony with
yourself your cooperation with the rest
things will start happening in ways that
you never dreamt up
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the
the quality versus appearance in your
life means that you get that inner
candle flame working in a way that gives
you quality independent of what other
people think of you Maslow in defining
self actualizing No Limit people said
they are independent of the good opinion
of other people of the good opinion of
other people independent of it they’re
so busy advancing confidently doing the
things that make sense and bringing
success to changing their baby’s diaper
and bringing success to weeding their
garden and bringing it to the job they
bring it on the airplane so that when
they run into somebody who is who is
rude to them a stewardess that is rude
they don’t see it as an attack on them
it’s just where they are and they send
them love help them a little bit they’re
kind when somebody wants to get in on
the freeway and their one old temptation
when they were on the one to the six I
was to say oh yeah nobody’s getting in
front of me I’m getting there first it’s
like it’s slowed down a little bit they
don’t have all that type-a stuff of
having to beat somebody else and having
to defeat somebody it is it’s a new way
of being it’s a way of quality where
you’re harmony allows you to cooperate
and you are a part of what this whole
thing is about
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but what you do put out in the world is
exactly what’s coming back to you and if
you find things coming back to you that
you don’t like and don’t understand
don’t ask yourself why these things are
coming to you ask yourself what you’re
doing to make them come back to you and
when you start putting the
responsibility on yourself you’ll start
seeing dramatic changes dramatic changes
new way of being
instead of ethics instead of rules
ethics a new another new way of being
instead of looking all your life for
achievements and externals try living
your life on knowledge for the sake of
knowledge knowledge instead of
achievement for the sake of knowledge
being in a in a context in which you
don’t have to collect a lot of merit
badges you don’t have to collect a lot
of a lot of awards and other people’s
value judgments that you go to school or
you go out into the world or you read or
whatever you do because it makes sense
to you not because what somebody else is
going to put on a transcript or where
you’re going to appear
classlist we need to help our children
to understand and value the importance
of knowledge for the sake of knowledge
and doing things that make sense rather
than taking the easy way
knowledge rather than always trying to
achieve we’re in an achievement oriented
society which tells us that we evaluate
and judge a human being based upon how
many chief achievements he has but most
of the people who get caught up in that
trap and are always in this circle of
trying to get ahead trying to always get
ahead their reward for that almost
always is higher blood pressure ulcers
early death and even things like cancer
we’re beginning to find out are related
to kinds of stresses that we have and
remember it’s a perfect universe there’s
no stress in it there’s only people
thinking stress the box
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