listen to what my culture told me but
there’s some missing data I felt that
there was just some information that was
missing self-love is not an indulgence
it’s not a nice-to-have it is a
prerequisite even if all you want to do
is feel successful you know we all talk
about business all the time but the
aspect of health is the most important
part nobody talks about it yeah what’s
that belief nation at seven my one word
is believe and I believe in you I
believe you have an amazing gift inside
you that I want to see explode out onto
the world now I started to believe life
series to try to tackle topics outside
of just growing your business and so to
help you build your best believe life
today we’re gonna look at eight things
that you need to know before you turn 30
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alright let’s kick things off with rule
number one life is not about you
with Neale Donald Walsch for the first
50 years of my life issue I thought that
my life was about me I had the attitude
of a 10 year old or a 9 year old or a 6
year old but I had that attitude when I
was 29 or 39 I just you know I thought
that wasn’t a bad person I’m not trying
to paint myself as his horrible
individual but I was fairly
self-centered I was looking at my own
career my own goals my old objectives my
old needs my own wants my old desires I
tried to be even-handed about it if
somebody helped me and I tried to give
back if I could and all those things
that were taught to do but basically my
life was focused on me
fascinatingly even though my life was
focused on me virtually all the time my
life wasn’t working I mean at some point
in my life I really got oh gosh I can’t
seem to find happiness that lasts more
than a little while like I can’t seem to
find success that lasts was it a little
while everything is so ephemeral it just
comes in and goes out comes in and goes
out I never seem to get anywhere to the
top of the mountain when when is to
struggle over this what I was
experiencing when I had my first
conversation with God so that’s the
context that’s the background why I was
given that wisdom because I asked God
okay obviously there’s something here I
don’t understand I listen to what my
daddy told me and listen to what my
mommy told me I listen to what my
religion told me I listen to what my
culture told me but there’s some missing
data I felt that there was just some
information that was missing so I said
to God what is it what is it that I
don’t understand here the understanding
of which would change everything God
said to be Neal it’s really very simple
and then she said what you just said
here Neal your life is not about you
your life is about everyone else whose
life you touch and the way in which you
touch it and I said look I don’t
understand it was supposed to give up
everything that I ever wanted her
desired her hoped for give up all of my
goals all of my objectives and she said
no no no I didn’t say that I didn’t say
that you don’t have to set aside all of
your goals set aside all of your
objectives set aside all of the things
to do all of your desires no I didn’t
say that but it’s about achieving them
working toward them moving toward them
in a whole different way for a whole
different reason if you’re doing those
things to enrich the lives of everyone
whose life you touch watch the world
fall in on you with Wonder and joy and
celebration but if you’re doing those
things together to gather gather gather
get can’t can’t have more have more have
more but you just like you know you just
want to get as much as you can for
yourself if that’s your prime motivation
you’re gonna be struggling every day for
the rest of your life
rule number two credit cards are
dangerous with Mark Cuban don’t use
credit cards of all the investments
you’ll ever make
pain pain 19% or you know where 18% on
something is easily as easily the
dumbest that’s money that you should be
keeping you can be saving it’s a
different world now because you can be a
smart consumer you know you you have the
ability to price check anything on
Amazon or Walmart calm and you know what
you need to say for put it on layaway
with them now and ended up I had so many
credit cards cut up I actually I was
cleaning up some stuff and saw my old
credit report Sears Amex Visa Kaufman’s
he’s old I mean the situation I was in
was like anybody who would give me a
credit card I would use because I didn’t
have any money so I needed to use it and
so I literally there someone’s flipping
the old chunks of my old credit card
somewhere so you know stay away from
credit rule number three practice
self-love with Tim Ferriss I realized
I’d say two years ago but especially
less six months very recent that
and this is the part that would make my
Tim of five years ago just Crane like
vomit a little in his own mouth much it
but with friends it’s the same thing you
want friends they’re not friends if
they’re not these people you want
friends who when something good happens
to you they’re at that’s good for you
right they’re happy about that they’re
not like all bitter and resentful
underground and like saying horrible
things behind your back and telling you
how they did something that was better
and trying to drag you down it’s like
that’s not helpful and then when
something bad happens to you and you go
to them and you say look this terrible
thing happened to me first of all they
don’t try to top it with some like
horrible thing that happened to them
because they don’t have the patience to
listen and second they’re not secretly
gloating about the fact that catastrophe
finally befell you it’s like they’re
actually hurt by it and that chapters an
injunction is like take a look at the
people that are around you and if
they’re not on the side of what’s good
for you then walk away because well
first of all that’s best for them too if
you put up with
all you’re doing is enabling it it’s
like well it’s okay that you mistreat me
in a way that’s harmful to me and
everyone else it’s like actually no that
is not okay it’s not in it’s not the
least bit okay that doesn’t mean you
shouldn’t try to help someone when
they’re down that’s a whole different
issue raise your standard Apple at the
core it’s core value is that that people
need passion and not one drop of most
self-worth depends on your it’s supposed
to mean
I don’t ever give up I’d have to be dead
or completely incapacitated hey believe
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