hi it’s Tony Robbins Happy New Year
listen how’d you knew you’re coming out
so far I know it’s early it’s January
15th and I thought I’d send you out this
little video message because you know
what that day means don’t you January
15th is the cutoff
statistics show that 95% of the people
that actually made a new year’s
resolution have already broken it by
today and that’s if you even made a
resolution now if you’re the exception
to that I’m thrilled for you and I
support you and I say keep rocking it
but if you’ve missed maybe I could drop
you a quick little message or two here
that can help you not only recover but
get way beyond just making some new
year’s resolution and make some real
lasting change in your life I mean think
about it most people don’t even make a
resolution anymore why because they’ve
made them from years and years and years
and they know they’re not gonna follow
through so after a while who wants to
disappoint yourself who wants to be
upset with yourself why even bother to
set a new standard for this year you
know it’s gonna be the same as last year
and you’re the kind of person watching
this right now and you’ve actually
opened this email and you haven’t shut
me off already then obviously that’s not
you so the question is you know what is
it that makes us even want to make a
resolution interesting question why is
it at the beginning of the year we have
this tradition but it goes beyond
tradition it’s something inside of us
that makes us want to make things better
and I think part of it is the calendar
gives us this idea that we can have a
fresh start that we can start from fresh
and have this great victory and it’s
really the calendar itself is quite
arbitrary it’s wonderful to use it but
if you didn’t use it effectively let’s
use the calendar to serve you today
let’s just see what does it really take
to make this thing happen because
there’s no denying that inside of you
the only thing that’s going to make you
happy and
the year ahead and the decades ahead is
gonna be having up an experience where
on a regular basis you feel like your
life is making progress there’s one
thing I teach I want remind you that
it’s really simple things getting things
is not gonna make you happy
that’s good news in a tough economy it’s
a good reminder it doesn’t matter what
you get doesn’t matter whether it be
money or opportunity all those things
might excite you for the moment you know
even a relationship as magnificent it
may be might be exciting for a while but
if you don’t keep growing that
relationship wasn’t gonna stay excited
so the secret to real happiness is
progress progress equals happiness and I
believe to make progress on a regular
basis we feel alive and that’s why at
the beginning of the year we get this
thing like okay I get have this fresh
start I could really do with my soul
desires I could expand I can grow
I can improve I can change or maybe
better than James I could progress see
think about that progress
– it doesn’t you don’t the work of
changing people say all the time though
I’m I’m working on changing don’t worry
about changing changes automatic your
body’s gonna change whether you want it
or not as the years go by you no matter
how hard you work there’s gonna be some
changes going on there and the economy
is gonna change no matter what you want
it to do the weather is gonna change
relationships are gonna change
everything in life is always changing we
have to work on change change is
automatic but progress is not so if you
want to make real progress then you
really got to look at your life in a
different way you gotta say I gotta take
control of this process and not just
hope that’s gonna work out like people
do who make a resolution cuz really
isn’t that what they’re really doing at
the beginning of the year they’re saying
well here’s my resolutions for the year
and they really basically tell you their
wishes
it’s their wish list it’s what they hope
it all comes together and then they call
it a resolution but they don’t know what
a resolution is when you resolve
something to have a resolution is to
resolve it when you’ve resolved this is
how it’s gonna be that’s when you cut
off any possibility except the thing
you’ve committed to it’s like the old
adage if you want to take the island and
you burn the boats because when you burn
those boats there’s no going back you’re
gonna find a way to make things work and
most people they’re stating what they
hope will come together and if it
doesn’t happen then they’re disappointed
but they’re not too disappointed cuz
they’re not too vested what does it take
to successfully create a lasting change
in your life to not only have a new
year’s resolution you follow through on
don’t really have a lasting change well
the first step for lasting change is
very much like making a new year’s
resolution fundamentally it’s the same
the first step is you got to have a
vision a vision for what it is you
really truly want not what you think you
want or what you should have I mean one
of most people’s New Year’s resolutions
I’m gonna stop eating sugar you know I’m
gonna stop smoking I’m gonna lose 10
pounds problem with that is it’s not
very inspiring for most people
you know it’s not telling you what
you’re gonna get it’s only what you’re
not gonna do it’s kind of hard to have
you move forward with them a vision is
about what you’re here to create a
vision that really works is one that
excites you if you say well my you know
my resolution my goal my outcome for
this month this week this year is to
lose X number of pounds that’s okay but
it’s not very compelling it has to be a
compelling vision it’s gotta have
something has the power to pull you not
something you have to push yourself to
do well the two different kinds of
motivation plush requires willpower and
willpower never last what will last is
pull having something so exciting is so
attractive so something you desire so
much that you have a hard time going to
sleep at night and get salt up early in
the morning to a rocket and take it to
the next level that’s what you’re
looking at great that was easy to get
but one of the reasons we do seminars of
events is they know why
just read a book for some peace because
when you give it an environment where
you were the people that are being put
in a peak State but when you’re going to
a sporting event if you watch the
sporting event at home it might have a
certain level of excitement but when
you’re in a stadium with 50,000 people
suddenly it has a whole different level
of intensity when we feel that and the
bottom line of our follow-through comes
down to our emotional intensity in a
different state of mind you’re gonna
come up with a much better and more
exciting vision than if you’re sitting
the couch gun okay what am i new
resolutions for this year and you’re
doing it the morning after the new year
is started and you’re a little
inebriated and the football games on in
the background probably not gonna have
the power of focus they’re probably not
gonna have the power of the energy to
create something that’s gonna pull you
for this year and you got to do that so
it’s got to be a vision that’s
compelling something that you know it’s
gonna be a gift to make sure that it
happens and also along with that
compelling vision you gotta have strong
enough reasons that you’re gonna follow
through and the going gets tough that’s
one of the biggest things missing for
most people they say this is what I want
to do it’s not very exciting it’s not
very compelling but most importantly
they don’t have strong enough reasons to
push themselves through what’s gonna be
necessary to get that dream to get that
goal when the inevitable challenges come
up when you’re starving hungry and
you’re trying to go on a diet right when
you got no time and you’re stressed out
you haven’t worked out still that’s what
you’re supposed to do when the economy
gets tight and what you thought you’re
gonna do doesn’t work and so you give up
on the goal instead of finding another
way to get there you don’t let the fear
take you over if you’ve got strong
enough reasons those reasons can be
positive or those reasons can also be
negative they can be if I don’t do this
it’s gonna cost me and if I do to this
this is what I’m gonna gain in my life
reasons come first answers come second
if you get a compelling vision and you
got strong enough reasons that will push
you through the tough times you’re gonna
do things other people don’t do instead
of collapsing even if you get off target
you won’t go I blew it you’ll get right
back on target and make the change make
things happen and I knew you’ve done
this in many areas your life just think
about it again I’m not teaching me
something really new here today I just
want to remind you of what your soul
knows you got a change you got to
improve and you’ve got to go through a
simple process fundamentally to make
that progress first step vision that’s
compelling second step make sure that
they’re strong enough reason to follow
through third step you got to review it
and feel it every day I mean anything
I’ve never had this happen in your life
has there been anything in your life
that you’ve ever wanted so badly you
were so desirous of against such a
hunger for it now you couldn’t stop
thinking about it could been a career
move could have been when you’re a kid a
car it could have been a relationship
that could have been anything but you
were obsessed you wanted to make this
happen you wanted to track this to your
life you wanna you just want it
and you don’t even know how to get it
but we’re so compelling – you kept
thinking about it every day and
visioning imagining and feeling it and
then stuff happen and suddenly you start
to attract people or situations to your
life and it just came together like you
don’t even have a total plan was just
that it was so a part of your focus with
so much intensity and emotions so often
that it sensitize you to notice anything
that you get you that there’s a part of
your brain called the reticular
activating system for short we call it
the RAS that part of your brain
determines what you notice in the world
and it’s really important because when
you set a goal when you get really clear
in a vision they’re strong enough
reasons and you review it enough that
becomes a part of you that part of your
brain says anything that relates to this
I need to notice it’s like did you ever
buy a certain kind of car or maybe a
certain outfit and suddenly you see that
car everywhere are those outfits
everywhere you know the cars were always
around but why do you see it now because
your Ras knows this is important this
was part of my world now similarly when
you really get clear and it’s compelling
and you’re reviewing it every day got
strong reasons here you’re viewing it
every day and you’re feeling it the
brain becomes incredibly acute at
noticing anything to get you to move
forward and so that’s the power of this
so you know what do people do with New
Year’s resolution they come up with
something they kind of want it’s not a
compelling vision they don’t really have
strong enough reasons and they never
review it again and tell them notice
that they broke what they said they
really want to have make happen because
they didn’t really resolve if you
resolve you got the vision it’s
compelling you review it daily and you
feel it you envision it and you
experience it simple as it sounds now
ultimately what is this really about
ultimately if you’re gonna have lasting
change in anything you’re really talking
about just raising your standards I mean
I always tell people if you want to know
how to change your life they give it to
you in three words boring as it sounds
raise your standards but what does that
mean corney’s and sounds raise your
standards well thank you for the
breakthrough thought Tony are you glad I
wasted my time watching this little
email with you but think about it
lasting change is different than a goal
you don’t always get your goals but you
always get your standards maybe they’ll
help you is to think about it this way I
try to explain standards to people with
a different set of words think of it as
everybody in life gets there must they
don’t get the shit’s right think about
it
you must be above a list of shits now if
they don’t have a list of the chud’s
things you should do you should follow
through on I I should lose some weight I
should work out more I should make more
calls I should respond more rapidly to
my email whatever you know I should get
into the office earlier I should be you
know more confident whatever your should
list is people love that their should
list make the map and it’s kinda like
New Year’s resolutions if it does it’s
really exciting but if it doesn’t what
you’re most
a little disappointing that you kind of
know it’s not gonna happen but when you
decide something as a must for you and
absolutely must Luca any possible you
say I’m gonna find the way I’m gonna
make the leg human beings when they
resolve things and they have make a real
resolution inside themselves which is
they raise the standard they make it a
must they find the way how would you
have some area of your life where you
raise your standard your life is never
been the same maybe at one time you like
to use smoke cigarettes or you did
something and you did it for years and
you kept trying to change it trying to
change it and kept telling yourself I
should and then one day something
happened something just clicked you over
something took you over that kind of
tipping point and inside yourself you
said no more there was a very very
different experience wasn’t it something
inside you shifted and what was a should
became a must and you’ve never gone back
is there an area like that in your life
you could think of again I ever smoked
cigarettes did you ever eat a certain
way drink a certain form of alcohol and
then finally saying no mourn you just
don’t go back and notice this it doesn’t
really take any willpower anymore
because somewhere when we make this
click we make something a must we attach
ourselves to it it becomes part of our
identity the one thing I’ve learned in
the last gosh 33 years are working
people from now over 100 countries four
million people is human beings
absolutely follow through on who they
believe they are if you say said to me
well I’m really gonna work hard to stop
smoking but you know I’ve been a smoker
my whole life and I’m you know I am a
smoker I know your days are numbered
you’re gonna be back smoking cigarettes
again because we all act consistent with
who we believe we are
I tell people the strongest force in the
whole human personality is this
to stay consistent with how we define
ourselves if you define yourself as
somebody who is really conservative
you’re not gonna be crazy and act nuts
unless you’re really drunk or something
and then you can say it’s the alcohol
when it really does you finally getting
permission to be yourself the alcohol is
your excuse if you’re a really crazy
person you act crazy outrageous playful
you don’t have conservative because it’s
nothing you are fern often people say
well I can’t do that I’m not that kind
of person and I always say to people
really when did you define yourself I
mean really how many years ago did you
come up with what you could and couldn’t
do in your life how many years ago most
people if they really look at how
they’re living their life today
it’s based on a set of standards a set
of beliefs that they made choices about
10 20 30 or more years ago I mean
they’re often we made decisions in our
youth or very young about what to
believe
about what we were capable of about who
we are as a person and that becomes the
glass ceiling whew well that controls us
there’s a corny metaphor but it’s true I
remember one time I was you put my
family in the circus and
there they have this big giant elephant
you look at his elephant and they take
this little rope put around that
hopefully snack they drive the stake
into the ground and I mean you look at
this you know that elephant could rip
down the entire tent with almost no
effort the elephant doesn’t struggle
doesn’t try why does the elephant’s
conditioned and they take that elephant
conditioned the elephant when it’s a
baby elephant that’s how they train them
when it’s a little baby elephant it
doesn’t have the power yet they put a
big rope around it and they drive this
huge stake in the ground the elephant
fights and fights and fights and one day
finally that often decides I’m not
capable alling this out and once that
becomes the definition of an identity of
anyone an elephant in this case they
don’t even try anymore it’s just who I
am that’s how it is that’s just the way
it is in my life I’d like to ask you to
take a look at any place you’ve got a
limitation ask yourself when did I
decide to accept that limitation and you
may not even see it as a limitation you
might see that just that’s who I am but
so often our lives we’ve adapted to be a
certain way so that we don’t fail or so
that people will like us or respect us
but it’s not necessarily who we are joy
comes when you’re spontaneous
it’s really hard to be truly happy when
you’re not being yourself and most of us
have no clue we are and so a big part of
my work if you’ve ever been to an event
you know is to get people or do things
spontaneously without thinking because
that’s when the real you shows up that’s
when the energy comes alive and when you
do that when you start to connect to
your true nature suddenly there’s energy
available for you to set a higher
standard for what you want in your life
that’s what this is really all about
and when I talk about standards when I
talk about you know shoulds versus must
think about your own life I know there
have been areas in your life where some
point in time you just shifted and you
raise the standard in your life change
because whatever people have their
identity attached to they live we live
who we believe we are that’s just how it
works it’s just kind of like I give an
example
look at your physical body your physical
body today is an absolute reflection of
only one thing
not your goals not your desires but your
standards the identity you have for
yourself if your standard is you’re an
athlete then there’s a certain amount of
strength a muscle tone and energy that’s
available in your body on a regular
basis because that’s who you are and so
you do whatever’s necessary to maintain
that identity again the strongest force
and the human personalities this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves because if you don’t know who
you are you would not act once you lock
in on that activity your brain finds a
way to keep you there if you say you
know and I’m all the way that I’ve
always been overweight I’m big-boned and
that’s the story you’ve got then you’re
gonna always find a way to get back
there that’s your assembling point
that’s your identity that’s where things
lock in if you see somebody who’s a
really great shape you ask them
you work out nubian sir yes how often
the mill today three times four times
five times a week whatever in a seminar
last people who here works out at least
five days a week
I’m stand-up and you look around that
room and you know that they work out
five times a week as you can see their
body you don’t just get a result without
some kind of action without some form of
ritual ritual meaning actions you do
consistently now if you think you know
those people that are out there working
out five days a week do they have more
time than you do
or I have for anybody else of course not
is that a wife less busy of course not
it’s just a must for them they must work
out that way and they’ve made that turn
their life changed so I’m not saying you
have to work out five days a week I’m
just saying whatever you really want
once don’t get met consistently
standards do whatever you identify this
is Who I am and so it’s not so much
about changing your identity as this
expanding it you know deciding that you
know instead of your goals to lose ten
pounds which is not compelling what if
your vision was to get back to my
fighting weight you know just this year
this month this next 90 days I’m gonna
transform my body I’m gonna take on a
new challenge I’m gonna find some
technique or strategy there’s a million
of them that can reframe myself or I’m
gonna feel younger stronger more vibrant
than ever before
here’s my reasons because I want the
energy to really make my life work
because it’s tough out there and I want
to be stronger than I’ve ever been
before I don’t think going for the
mirror if I’m naked enough you know want
to laugh I will look there and take a
good look and go yeah I’m proud of
whatever I see there whatever it takes
something’s gonna make you laugh smile
something that’s gonna tease yourself
but something’s gonna move you to
another level if you identify yourself
in a new way and you own that every day
that becomes the staredown you live
you’ll find the way to make that
standard wheel money’s the same way
think about it doesn’t matter what’s
happening quote-unquote in the
marketplace people that make money find
a way to make money no matter what don’t
they
I mean most people’s standard is to pay
their bills so that’s what most people
find a way to do even when economic
times get tough most people that’s their
absolute standard to find one some
people’s standard is pay their bills and
most of the time and so most of the time
they do some people standard is not just
to pay their bills but to take care of
your family and maybe even some of their
friends and they find a way in fact
human if some people may be in a family
where they don’t have enough money they
barely have money pay their bills they
work in guts out and then somebody their
mother the father somebody else their
sister gets ill and there’s not enough
money to take care of it nobody else has
money family they don’t either but they
find a way to get that money to take
care of their mother father don’t they
and they their belt they never could do
it before why the situation made them
raise their own standard and not
everybody does that somebody else in the
family might have money and still not
take care of their mother it all comes
down to the inner game my friends
changing your life is a change in the
inner game
the outside world you can’t control but
you have absolute control of us one if
you learn the dynamics of what shapes
you up an identity is one of those
simple clear fundamental basics that if
you start to ship it everything else in
your life must be find a way I know that
sounds overly simplistic but it’s true
now somebody once said you can take all
the money in the world out of the hands
of everybody out of all the wealthy
people in the world who are really
successful give it to other people it
wouldn’t take too long those people have
it back in their hands it’s not because
their manipulator it’s because they have
a standard some are manipular don’t get
me wrong but they’ve got a standard of
what they’re gonna find a way to make
happen I’m just simply saying to you
take those three magic words and live
them raise your standard if you really
want to do it then I’ll tell you the
most important secret have you ever done
this have you ever told yourself you’re
raising you’re standing okay I’m gonna
go make this happen I’m gonna go make
this much money I’m gonna transform my
kids I’m gonna create the ultimate
relationship of my life I’m gonna
transform my body whatever it is and
then you don’t have strong enough
reasons and you know lose use it you
don’t follow through it’s because you
didn’t back up your standards with what
makes those standards real and that’s
rituals
rituals all of the power is whenever we
do our Robbins results coaching you know
is it Robbins equals results
wait we get results with people it’s the
same way if you listen to my ultimate
edge program are back in the old days
personal power or if you went to one of
my seminars you know what I do is I take
these huge challenges you got and we
break them down into little bite-sized
steps little things you do each day that
after you do them you get so much
momentum that it’s easy to succeed
you’re not overwhelmed you have these
victory day after day after day on
little things if you’d went to ultimate
edge I’m sure you learn about the hour
of power or the 15 minutes to be able to
be fulfilled or 30 minutes to thrive
where you literally just condition your
body and emotion with a couple little
rituals so it doesn’t matter what’s
going on in your world you feel that
strength and it’s not fake it’s not some
pump up it’s coming from inside you and
it works
rituals define us see all the results in
your life are coming from your rituals
they start with a standard and then have
rituals that fall in up like for example
if you are where you want to be
physically you have very different
rituals than if you’re not where you
want to be physically you’re overweight
you and I both know you got a different
ritual than if you’re physically fit it
would be different you get up in the
morning what’s the first thing you do if
you’re fit your shoes are there you roll
over the minute how do you feel you put
on the shoes you lace and you start
walking or whatever that ritual is if
you’re overweight you roll over and you
have a very different ritual you might
roll up for several times the tourney
line walk off you go in and get your
local smoker whatever you know special
coffee stop by at Starbucks or the case
maybe have a nice sugar muffin
it’s supposed to be really nice whatever
you do it’s a different ritual if you
have great passionate relationship
they’re very different rituals of how
you come home than if you have
we come home the first thing you do is
you’re tweeting somebody or you’re
emailing or looking on the news
come home and what are the rituals
whenever I study people that are
successful while I look for is what’s
the standard they hold himself to and
then what are all those little rituals
that up because think about it success
and failure are not giant events they
don’t just show up you don’t just
suddenly become successful or suddenly
have this cataclysmic event that makes
you fail it may look that way but
failure comes from all the little things
its failure to make the call its failure
to check the books its failure to say
I’m sorry its failure to push yourself
to do things physically that you don’t
want to do and all those little failures
day after day come together until one
day some Cataclysm if it happens you
blame that that event happen because you
missed all the little stuff get grieve
me and success by the way is not some
overnight event it’s all these little
things success is having a vision
success is making it compelling success
is really seeing it feeling it every day
it was strong enough for reasons success
is feeling the sense that I’m here to
grow and I’m here to give something to
the world more than just myself success
is caring about other people success is
calling and saying I love you in the
middle of day for no damn reason or
sending a note that will change your
relationship have a ritual of something
funny playful or a surprise you do how
many relationships are dead today
because they have no surprise rituals
anymore you need to have some rituals
some cool things you do that nobody else
does that gives you a better life than
anybody else has all the little stuff
that’s where success comes from and in
business it comes to delivering more
than anybody could imagine all those
little things add up people
that’s who I want to do business with
it’s true in any area of your life so if
you look at somebody’s really successful
even Wow I mean there are so amazing
there’s such a genius you got to dig
underneath you got to remember something
people are rewarded in public for what
they practice for years in private
myself and my business people say how
are you get up and speaking of nono-chan
you go for three days and nights and the
room is like it wired it’s incredible
MicroBot bronzer how do you do that
honey at that confidence of home hey you
know it’s not confidence it’s experience
met but I did so much behind the scenes
that I still do to make things right
I mean how many people would know that
since the time I was 17 years old before
I walk on stage school do to this day
wouldn’t need to do it play still do it
I never walk out there without being in
an absolute peak state of mind you know
there days my back is hurting my throat
was hurting or I may have had a
challenger my father passed away and I
still got to deliver to these people cuz
my standard is give my all every time
everything has to be better
he’s been dormant for 5-10 years some of
our trainers
he does it he’s always finds a way to
make better that’s not an ego thing
that’s a scam and my ritual though is I
prepare I think I got the new
information I think I’ll put something
across better what do people need I
spend time with our customers I see
what’s going on and before I get on
stage each today is a ritual to put
myself in a state of mind and I did it
starting like 17 years old I started
doing it say I now command my
subconscious mind and I say this out
loud several times this little phrase
set of phrases as an incantation to kind
of condition my mind and body and that’s
an now command my subconscious mind to
direct me in helping as many people as
possible today by giving me the strength
and the emotion and the humor and the
brevity whatever it takes to show this
person and help this person change their
life now and I started that with a
person when I work with people one on
one and I will do that for 45 minutes
driving in my Volkswagen to go serve and
coach somebody for the first time now I
don’t say that person I say these people
and I can go out in the room of 10,000
people and deliver for 50 hours and I do
it every time I come back onstage it’s a
ritual a ritual to go into peak stay
Peaks they don’t just show up they’d
only interrupt you great ideas don’t
interrupt you got to pursue them I
talked to Michael Jordan I’ll never
forget dad the peak of his career and
got to watch his final game saw him
backstage and spend some time with him
and there’s pretty exciting time there’s
famous basketball player I think that
ever lived and has ever lived and I
asked him I said you know what sets you
apart Michael you know what is it and is
it god-given talent the ability skill
what is it you tell me you know said I
can shoot you straight and you know it’s
not you know I’m you trying to act
humble he goes I have a lot of talent
god-given talent lot of skill I’ve
worked really hard but he said really
it’s my standards he said every day I
demand more for myself than anybody else
could humanly expect I’m not competing
with somebody else I’m competing with
why I’m capable of hmm magic formula
because most of us lower our standards
why because who you spend time with my
friends is who you become one of the
biggest reasons I started going to
seminars when I was like 17 is I had
nobody
he is a great robot I can read about
somebody but being around people being
in that environment was very different
finding way to go to work with someone
who lived that standard life was very
different and get around people at low
standards and you compete with it you
don’t need to compete with it it’s like
okay I mean remember Jerry Springer
he’ll if he’s still in the air but I
never used to get people on the show
right but where would he find these
people watch these people go my life’s
know pretty darn good can hear that
person look at them you don’t have to
change your life all you up to this find
somebody with a lower standard you feel
good about yourself but if you feel that
good feeling it’s an illusion you only
think it’s gonna make you happen my
friend and this year or any other is to
step up it’s to raise the standard is to
discover what you’re capable of and feel
that incredible power pushing through
whatever is holding you back and get to
the other side of more of your true self
that’s what this game is all about and
look at the best of all believing Tiger
Woods what
to win golf tournaments no to be the
best that ever lived that’s his goal
that’s his vision but here’s what’s
interesting he backs it up with rituals
if you just have a vision and you know
have the rituals stop lying to yourself
his rituals are he started doing things
nobody did before he went started
lifting weights golfers lifting weights
no way he went out and he changed his
sling when he was the best in the world
because he realized already be the best
that ever lived he’s gonna have to
change his swing if you don’t thing
about golf you don’t change your swing
when you’re the best and he went and
retrained himself
because he has different rituals than
other golfers now many people are
modeling as rituals to get better it’s
amazing you know you look at somebody
like Michael Phelps the 2008 swimmer won
seven you know only two people I think
in history if I remember correctly that
have gotten seven gold medals in one
session and here’s a guy he’s got number
six centers Dalton he’s exhausted and
he’s going in for that final swim I’m
sure you remembered and how does the guy
win by one hundredths of a second do you
think that was some massive skill that
got him over the top or was it a
standard that says this is who I am I am
the champion and no one is taking this
from me and somehow in those finals
milliseconds hundredth of a second he
pushed himself just beyond his
competitor but you know how about
Michael Phelps would allow them to help
push beyond that moment is his rituals
go steady the guy most people who swim
have these unbelievable workouts he does
two and three of their workout sessions
a day all the other swimmers the
beginning thought he was insane
good overtrain you can’t do that it’s
not physically possible but he had a
standard and the rituals to back it up
so here’s my final message to you
because I’ve gotten carried away I
thought it’s going to send you like a
five-minute message but you can see
there’s no script here just leave a
little crazy with you but I want to
really see you get what you want this
year don’t let this year be like last
and if last year was great still gonna
let it be that way raise the standard if
your life is perfect and extraordinary
you darn well know and they’re gonna be
happy unless you keep making it better
that’s what makes us feel like it’s not
what we got to make us happy it’s who we
become and what we’re able to give
because we become more that sense of
contribution is what creates the deepest
moment so here’s my assignment for if
you want one if you want to go from
conversation with some action your
simple thing to do once an air your life
right now that you really want to please
what’s an area that’s important to
improve your body’s great
how much curve careers great how about
your relationship empty open special or
your kids or your relationship will
create spiritual side of your life or is
it your finances the gray area really
matters decide on that number one write
down what your
in that area right now specifically as
possible you might say well I’m thirteen
point five pounds overweight
whatever the way there’s weather the
situation is or my body fats like this I
wake up exhausted in the morning and you
write the truth of where you are right
now
so you’re real quick or
in relationship I say I want a
relationship but I I’m not in one I
don’t seem to find them all the good
ones seem to be gone is my belief you
know and I really do want one but I
don’t have it whatever your definition
well I’m in a relationship and god I
wish I wasn’t in a relationship I’m
planning my escape wherever you are or I
have a wonderful relationship we’d love
each other but there just isn’t enough
passion just right the truth of where
you are the area you want to change what
right how it is and then the second step
is that’s where you gotta be really
honest with yourself what are the
rituals that have put me there because
whatever results you’re getting even if
you don’t like the results there’s some
rituals that are keeping you in that
place there’s some rituals of what you
eat or don’t eat how you move or don’t
move how you sleep or don’t sleep
there’s some rituals and the lack of
variety or spice or energy or focus in
an area there’s something you’re doing
and it’s usually not one thing it’s a
bunch of little things they kind of do
consistently whatever you think about
getting in a relationship whatever you
think about working out whenever you
think about money and get yourself in a
state of overwhelm you start thinking
about all the things you can’t control
just write down all the rituals you have
and then here’s the third step what do
you want what’s your vision and be
really specific I’m gonna be my fighting
way I want to be the strongest I’ve ever
felt I want to be I’m gonna turn my act
whatever it is be specific and then last
step number four what are the rituals
that’ll get you there what would you do
differently each morning if you’re going
to be that kind of energy that kind of
strength how would you have to often
would you work out what days would you
work out what time a ritual something
you do consistently usually at a
specific time so becomes by tomorrow let
me tell you something willpower doesn’t
last
but rituals can last a lifetime I bet
you have some rituals in your life right
now you’ve been doing for years even
though some of them don’t serve you
I’m just saying wake yourself up
make you want a new year and a new life
you don’t they need to start in January
first start today start with this little
video and just begin to see what happens
and see how easy it is to just do a few
little rituals don’t do them all just do
two or three new things you know what
happens you’ll get momentum cuz once you
discipline yourself in one area life you
feel yourself doing it I berries as well
I always say something my original
teacher taught me always remind people
there’s always two pains in life is it
the pain of discipline or is the pain of
regret discipline weighs ounces is my
friend Jim Rohn taught me for black
waste tons
they don’t have regret so right now what
do you want to change what’s it really
like when the rituals that got you there
that’ll take a little homework if you’re
not sure half the people around you
they’ll tell you what your rituals are
what do I really
in depth where the rituals that would
get me there and then get yourself to
start a few those actions and lock them
in place but I can’t help you anyway
we’re here as a company to support you
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starting with you
if you make the change in yourself
you’re gonna be proud this year and no
amount of money or accolades other
people can mirror the feeling I’d be
proud of knowing you taken back control
of your life or you’ve taken a great
life to another level as once you do
that you have something you can give
other people with it be your kids or
your friends or your family and
ultimately that’s why it’s about so
thanks for listening I know how long I
went to here but I hope this has been
helpful for you I just thought it’s a
new year and I want people to be able to
truly create a new life and till I see
again hopefully something soon or it
gets a chance to meet you live strong
and they live with passion and of course
god bless you happy new
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you
listen how’d you knew you’re coming out
so far I know it’s early it’s January
15th and I thought I’d send you out this
little video message because you know
what that day means don’t you January
15th is the cutoff
statistics show that 95% of the people
that actually made a new year’s
resolution have already broken it by
today and that’s if you even made a
resolution now if you’re the exception
to that I’m thrilled for you and I
support you and I say keep rocking it
but if you’ve missed maybe I could drop
you a quick little message or two here
that can help you not only recover but
get way beyond just making some new
year’s resolution and make some real
lasting change in your life I mean think
about it most people don’t even make a
resolution anymore why because they’ve
made them from years and years and years
and they know they’re not gonna follow
through so after a while who wants to
disappoint yourself who wants to be
upset with yourself why even bother to
set a new standard for this year you
know it’s gonna be the same as last year
and you’re the kind of person watching
this right now and you’ve actually
opened this email and you haven’t shut
me off already then obviously that’s not
you so the question is you know what is
it that makes us even want to make a
resolution interesting question why is
it at the beginning of the year we have
this tradition but it goes beyond
tradition it’s something inside of us
that makes us want to make things better
and I think part of it is the calendar
gives us this idea that we can have a
fresh start that we can start from fresh
and have this great victory and it’s
really the calendar itself is quite
arbitrary it’s wonderful to use it but
if you didn’t use it effectively let’s
use the calendar to serve you today
let’s just see what does it really take
to make this thing happen because
there’s no denying that inside of you
the only thing that’s going to make you
happy and
the year ahead and the decades ahead is
gonna be having up an experience where
on a regular basis you feel like your
life is making progress there’s one
thing I teach I want remind you that
it’s really simple things getting things
is not gonna make you happy
that’s good news in a tough economy it’s
a good reminder it doesn’t matter what
you get doesn’t matter whether it be
money or opportunity all those things
might excite you for the moment you know
even a relationship as magnificent it
may be might be exciting for a while but
if you don’t keep growing that
relationship wasn’t gonna stay excited
so the secret to real happiness is
progress progress equals happiness and I
believe to make progress on a regular
basis we feel alive and that’s why at
the beginning of the year we get this
thing like okay I get have this fresh
start I could really do with my soul
desires I could expand I can grow
I can improve I can change or maybe
better than James I could progress see
think about that progress
– it doesn’t you don’t the work of
changing people say all the time though
I’m I’m working on changing don’t worry
about changing changes automatic your
body’s gonna change whether you want it
or not as the years go by you no matter
how hard you work there’s gonna be some
changes going on there and the economy
is gonna change no matter what you want
it to do the weather is gonna change
relationships are gonna change
everything in life is always changing we
have to work on change change is
automatic but progress is not so if you
want to make real progress then you
really got to look at your life in a
different way you gotta say I gotta take
control of this process and not just
hope that’s gonna work out like people
do who make a resolution cuz really
isn’t that what they’re really doing at
the beginning of the year they’re saying
well here’s my resolutions for the year
and they really basically tell you their
wishes
it’s their wish list it’s what they hope
it all comes together and then they call
it a resolution but they don’t know what
a resolution is when you resolve
something to have a resolution is to
resolve it when you’ve resolved this is
how it’s gonna be that’s when you cut
off any possibility except the thing
you’ve committed to it’s like the old
adage if you want to take the island and
you burn the boats because when you burn
those boats there’s no going back you’re
gonna find a way to make things work and
most people they’re stating what they
hope will come together and if it
doesn’t happen then they’re disappointed
but they’re not too disappointed cuz
they’re not too vested what does it take
to successfully create a lasting change
in your life to not only have a new
year’s resolution you follow through on
don’t really have a lasting change well
the first step for lasting change is
very much like making a new year’s
resolution fundamentally it’s the same
the first step is you got to have a
vision a vision for what it is you
really truly want not what you think you
want or what you should have I mean one
of most people’s New Year’s resolutions
I’m gonna stop eating sugar you know I’m
gonna stop smoking I’m gonna lose 10
pounds problem with that is it’s not
very inspiring for most people
you know it’s not telling you what
you’re gonna get it’s only what you’re
not gonna do it’s kind of hard to have
you move forward with them a vision is
about what you’re here to create a
vision that really works is one that
excites you if you say well my you know
my resolution my goal my outcome for
this month this week this year is to
lose X number of pounds that’s okay but
it’s not very compelling it has to be a
compelling vision it’s gotta have
something has the power to pull you not
something you have to push yourself to
do well the two different kinds of
motivation plush requires willpower and
willpower never last what will last is
pull having something so exciting is so
attractive so something you desire so
much that you have a hard time going to
sleep at night and get salt up early in
the morning to a rocket and take it to
the next level that’s what you’re
looking at great that was easy to get
but one of the reasons we do seminars of
events is they know why
just read a book for some peace because
when you give it an environment where
you were the people that are being put
in a peak State but when you’re going to
a sporting event if you watch the
sporting event at home it might have a
certain level of excitement but when
you’re in a stadium with 50,000 people
suddenly it has a whole different level
of intensity when we feel that and the
bottom line of our follow-through comes
down to our emotional intensity in a
different state of mind you’re gonna
come up with a much better and more
exciting vision than if you’re sitting
the couch gun okay what am i new
resolutions for this year and you’re
doing it the morning after the new year
is started and you’re a little
inebriated and the football games on in
the background probably not gonna have
the power of focus they’re probably not
gonna have the power of the energy to
create something that’s gonna pull you
for this year and you got to do that so
it’s got to be a vision that’s
compelling something that you know it’s
gonna be a gift to make sure that it
happens and also along with that
compelling vision you gotta have strong
enough reasons that you’re gonna follow
through and the going gets tough that’s
one of the biggest things missing for
most people they say this is what I want
to do it’s not very exciting it’s not
very compelling but most importantly
they don’t have strong enough reasons to
push themselves through what’s gonna be
necessary to get that dream to get that
goal when the inevitable challenges come
up when you’re starving hungry and
you’re trying to go on a diet right when
you got no time and you’re stressed out
you haven’t worked out still that’s what
you’re supposed to do when the economy
gets tight and what you thought you’re
gonna do doesn’t work and so you give up
on the goal instead of finding another
way to get there you don’t let the fear
take you over if you’ve got strong
enough reasons those reasons can be
positive or those reasons can also be
negative they can be if I don’t do this
it’s gonna cost me and if I do to this
this is what I’m gonna gain in my life
reasons come first answers come second
if you get a compelling vision and you
got strong enough reasons that will push
you through the tough times you’re gonna
do things other people don’t do instead
of collapsing even if you get off target
you won’t go I blew it you’ll get right
back on target and make the change make
things happen and I knew you’ve done
this in many areas your life just think
about it again I’m not teaching me
something really new here today I just
want to remind you of what your soul
knows you got a change you got to
improve and you’ve got to go through a
simple process fundamentally to make
that progress first step vision that’s
compelling second step make sure that
they’re strong enough reason to follow
through third step you got to review it
and feel it every day I mean anything
I’ve never had this happen in your life
has there been anything in your life
that you’ve ever wanted so badly you
were so desirous of against such a
hunger for it now you couldn’t stop
thinking about it could been a career
move could have been when you’re a kid a
car it could have been a relationship
that could have been anything but you
were obsessed you wanted to make this
happen you wanted to track this to your
life you wanna you just want it
and you don’t even know how to get it
but we’re so compelling – you kept
thinking about it every day and
visioning imagining and feeling it and
then stuff happen and suddenly you start
to attract people or situations to your
life and it just came together like you
don’t even have a total plan was just
that it was so a part of your focus with
so much intensity and emotions so often
that it sensitize you to notice anything
that you get you that there’s a part of
your brain called the reticular
activating system for short we call it
the RAS that part of your brain
determines what you notice in the world
and it’s really important because when
you set a goal when you get really clear
in a vision they’re strong enough
reasons and you review it enough that
becomes a part of you that part of your
brain says anything that relates to this
I need to notice it’s like did you ever
buy a certain kind of car or maybe a
certain outfit and suddenly you see that
car everywhere are those outfits
everywhere you know the cars were always
around but why do you see it now because
your Ras knows this is important this
was part of my world now similarly when
you really get clear and it’s compelling
and you’re reviewing it every day got
strong reasons here you’re viewing it
every day and you’re feeling it the
brain becomes incredibly acute at
noticing anything to get you to move
forward and so that’s the power of this
so you know what do people do with New
Year’s resolution they come up with
something they kind of want it’s not a
compelling vision they don’t really have
strong enough reasons and they never
review it again and tell them notice
that they broke what they said they
really want to have make happen because
they didn’t really resolve if you
resolve you got the vision it’s
compelling you review it daily and you
feel it you envision it and you
experience it simple as it sounds now
ultimately what is this really about
ultimately if you’re gonna have lasting
change in anything you’re really talking
about just raising your standards I mean
I always tell people if you want to know
how to change your life they give it to
you in three words boring as it sounds
raise your standards but what does that
mean corney’s and sounds raise your
standards well thank you for the
breakthrough thought Tony are you glad I
wasted my time watching this little
email with you but think about it
lasting change is different than a goal
you don’t always get your goals but you
always get your standards maybe they’ll
help you is to think about it this way I
try to explain standards to people with
a different set of words think of it as
everybody in life gets there must they
don’t get the shit’s right think about
it
you must be above a list of shits now if
they don’t have a list of the chud’s
things you should do you should follow
through on I I should lose some weight I
should work out more I should make more
calls I should respond more rapidly to
my email whatever you know I should get
into the office earlier I should be you
know more confident whatever your should
list is people love that their should
list make the map and it’s kinda like
New Year’s resolutions if it does it’s
really exciting but if it doesn’t what
you’re most
a little disappointing that you kind of
know it’s not gonna happen but when you
decide something as a must for you and
absolutely must Luca any possible you
say I’m gonna find the way I’m gonna
make the leg human beings when they
resolve things and they have make a real
resolution inside themselves which is
they raise the standard they make it a
must they find the way how would you
have some area of your life where you
raise your standard your life is never
been the same maybe at one time you like
to use smoke cigarettes or you did
something and you did it for years and
you kept trying to change it trying to
change it and kept telling yourself I
should and then one day something
happened something just clicked you over
something took you over that kind of
tipping point and inside yourself you
said no more there was a very very
different experience wasn’t it something
inside you shifted and what was a should
became a must and you’ve never gone back
is there an area like that in your life
you could think of again I ever smoked
cigarettes did you ever eat a certain
way drink a certain form of alcohol and
then finally saying no mourn you just
don’t go back and notice this it doesn’t
really take any willpower anymore
because somewhere when we make this
click we make something a must we attach
ourselves to it it becomes part of our
identity the one thing I’ve learned in
the last gosh 33 years are working
people from now over 100 countries four
million people is human beings
absolutely follow through on who they
believe they are if you say said to me
well I’m really gonna work hard to stop
smoking but you know I’ve been a smoker
my whole life and I’m you know I am a
smoker I know your days are numbered
you’re gonna be back smoking cigarettes
again because we all act consistent with
who we believe we are
I tell people the strongest force in the
whole human personality is this
to stay consistent with how we define
ourselves if you define yourself as
somebody who is really conservative
you’re not gonna be crazy and act nuts
unless you’re really drunk or something
and then you can say it’s the alcohol
when it really does you finally getting
permission to be yourself the alcohol is
your excuse if you’re a really crazy
person you act crazy outrageous playful
you don’t have conservative because it’s
nothing you are fern often people say
well I can’t do that I’m not that kind
of person and I always say to people
really when did you define yourself I
mean really how many years ago did you
come up with what you could and couldn’t
do in your life how many years ago most
people if they really look at how
they’re living their life today
it’s based on a set of standards a set
of beliefs that they made choices about
10 20 30 or more years ago I mean
they’re often we made decisions in our
youth or very young about what to
believe
about what we were capable of about who
we are as a person and that becomes the
glass ceiling whew well that controls us
there’s a corny metaphor but it’s true I
remember one time I was you put my
family in the circus and
there they have this big giant elephant
you look at his elephant and they take
this little rope put around that
hopefully snack they drive the stake
into the ground and I mean you look at
this you know that elephant could rip
down the entire tent with almost no
effort the elephant doesn’t struggle
doesn’t try why does the elephant’s
conditioned and they take that elephant
conditioned the elephant when it’s a
baby elephant that’s how they train them
when it’s a little baby elephant it
doesn’t have the power yet they put a
big rope around it and they drive this
huge stake in the ground the elephant
fights and fights and fights and one day
finally that often decides I’m not
capable alling this out and once that
becomes the definition of an identity of
anyone an elephant in this case they
don’t even try anymore it’s just who I
am that’s how it is that’s just the way
it is in my life I’d like to ask you to
take a look at any place you’ve got a
limitation ask yourself when did I
decide to accept that limitation and you
may not even see it as a limitation you
might see that just that’s who I am but
so often our lives we’ve adapted to be a
certain way so that we don’t fail or so
that people will like us or respect us
but it’s not necessarily who we are joy
comes when you’re spontaneous
it’s really hard to be truly happy when
you’re not being yourself and most of us
have no clue we are and so a big part of
my work if you’ve ever been to an event
you know is to get people or do things
spontaneously without thinking because
that’s when the real you shows up that’s
when the energy comes alive and when you
do that when you start to connect to
your true nature suddenly there’s energy
available for you to set a higher
standard for what you want in your life
that’s what this is really all about
and when I talk about standards when I
talk about you know shoulds versus must
think about your own life I know there
have been areas in your life where some
point in time you just shifted and you
raise the standard in your life change
because whatever people have their
identity attached to they live we live
who we believe we are that’s just how it
works it’s just kind of like I give an
example
look at your physical body your physical
body today is an absolute reflection of
only one thing
not your goals not your desires but your
standards the identity you have for
yourself if your standard is you’re an
athlete then there’s a certain amount of
strength a muscle tone and energy that’s
available in your body on a regular
basis because that’s who you are and so
you do whatever’s necessary to maintain
that identity again the strongest force
and the human personalities this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves because if you don’t know who
you are you would not act once you lock
in on that activity your brain finds a
way to keep you there if you say you
know and I’m all the way that I’ve
always been overweight I’m big-boned and
that’s the story you’ve got then you’re
gonna always find a way to get back
there that’s your assembling point
that’s your identity that’s where things
lock in if you see somebody who’s a
really great shape you ask them
you work out nubian sir yes how often
the mill today three times four times
five times a week whatever in a seminar
last people who here works out at least
five days a week
I’m stand-up and you look around that
room and you know that they work out
five times a week as you can see their
body you don’t just get a result without
some kind of action without some form of
ritual ritual meaning actions you do
consistently now if you think you know
those people that are out there working
out five days a week do they have more
time than you do
or I have for anybody else of course not
is that a wife less busy of course not
it’s just a must for them they must work
out that way and they’ve made that turn
their life changed so I’m not saying you
have to work out five days a week I’m
just saying whatever you really want
once don’t get met consistently
standards do whatever you identify this
is Who I am and so it’s not so much
about changing your identity as this
expanding it you know deciding that you
know instead of your goals to lose ten
pounds which is not compelling what if
your vision was to get back to my
fighting weight you know just this year
this month this next 90 days I’m gonna
transform my body I’m gonna take on a
new challenge I’m gonna find some
technique or strategy there’s a million
of them that can reframe myself or I’m
gonna feel younger stronger more vibrant
than ever before
here’s my reasons because I want the
energy to really make my life work
because it’s tough out there and I want
to be stronger than I’ve ever been
before I don’t think going for the
mirror if I’m naked enough you know want
to laugh I will look there and take a
good look and go yeah I’m proud of
whatever I see there whatever it takes
something’s gonna make you laugh smile
something that’s gonna tease yourself
but something’s gonna move you to
another level if you identify yourself
in a new way and you own that every day
that becomes the staredown you live
you’ll find the way to make that
standard wheel money’s the same way
think about it doesn’t matter what’s
happening quote-unquote in the
marketplace people that make money find
a way to make money no matter what don’t
they
I mean most people’s standard is to pay
their bills so that’s what most people
find a way to do even when economic
times get tough most people that’s their
absolute standard to find one some
people’s standard is pay their bills and
most of the time and so most of the time
they do some people standard is not just
to pay their bills but to take care of
your family and maybe even some of their
friends and they find a way in fact
human if some people may be in a family
where they don’t have enough money they
barely have money pay their bills they
work in guts out and then somebody their
mother the father somebody else their
sister gets ill and there’s not enough
money to take care of it nobody else has
money family they don’t either but they
find a way to get that money to take
care of their mother father don’t they
and they their belt they never could do
it before why the situation made them
raise their own standard and not
everybody does that somebody else in the
family might have money and still not
take care of their mother it all comes
down to the inner game my friends
changing your life is a change in the
inner game
the outside world you can’t control but
you have absolute control of us one if
you learn the dynamics of what shapes
you up an identity is one of those
simple clear fundamental basics that if
you start to ship it everything else in
your life must be find a way I know that
sounds overly simplistic but it’s true
now somebody once said you can take all
the money in the world out of the hands
of everybody out of all the wealthy
people in the world who are really
successful give it to other people it
wouldn’t take too long those people have
it back in their hands it’s not because
their manipulator it’s because they have
a standard some are manipular don’t get
me wrong but they’ve got a standard of
what they’re gonna find a way to make
happen I’m just simply saying to you
take those three magic words and live
them raise your standard if you really
want to do it then I’ll tell you the
most important secret have you ever done
this have you ever told yourself you’re
raising you’re standing okay I’m gonna
go make this happen I’m gonna go make
this much money I’m gonna transform my
kids I’m gonna create the ultimate
relationship of my life I’m gonna
transform my body whatever it is and
then you don’t have strong enough
reasons and you know lose use it you
don’t follow through it’s because you
didn’t back up your standards with what
makes those standards real and that’s
rituals
rituals all of the power is whenever we
do our Robbins results coaching you know
is it Robbins equals results
wait we get results with people it’s the
same way if you listen to my ultimate
edge program are back in the old days
personal power or if you went to one of
my seminars you know what I do is I take
these huge challenges you got and we
break them down into little bite-sized
steps little things you do each day that
after you do them you get so much
momentum that it’s easy to succeed
you’re not overwhelmed you have these
victory day after day after day on
little things if you’d went to ultimate
edge I’m sure you learn about the hour
of power or the 15 minutes to be able to
be fulfilled or 30 minutes to thrive
where you literally just condition your
body and emotion with a couple little
rituals so it doesn’t matter what’s
going on in your world you feel that
strength and it’s not fake it’s not some
pump up it’s coming from inside you and
it works
rituals define us see all the results in
your life are coming from your rituals
they start with a standard and then have
rituals that fall in up like for example
if you are where you want to be
physically you have very different
rituals than if you’re not where you
want to be physically you’re overweight
you and I both know you got a different
ritual than if you’re physically fit it
would be different you get up in the
morning what’s the first thing you do if
you’re fit your shoes are there you roll
over the minute how do you feel you put
on the shoes you lace and you start
walking or whatever that ritual is if
you’re overweight you roll over and you
have a very different ritual you might
roll up for several times the tourney
line walk off you go in and get your
local smoker whatever you know special
coffee stop by at Starbucks or the case
maybe have a nice sugar muffin
it’s supposed to be really nice whatever
you do it’s a different ritual if you
have great passionate relationship
they’re very different rituals of how
you come home than if you have
we come home the first thing you do is
you’re tweeting somebody or you’re
emailing or looking on the news
come home and what are the rituals
whenever I study people that are
successful while I look for is what’s
the standard they hold himself to and
then what are all those little rituals
that up because think about it success
and failure are not giant events they
don’t just show up you don’t just
suddenly become successful or suddenly
have this cataclysmic event that makes
you fail it may look that way but
failure comes from all the little things
its failure to make the call its failure
to check the books its failure to say
I’m sorry its failure to push yourself
to do things physically that you don’t
want to do and all those little failures
day after day come together until one
day some Cataclysm if it happens you
blame that that event happen because you
missed all the little stuff get grieve
me and success by the way is not some
overnight event it’s all these little
things success is having a vision
success is making it compelling success
is really seeing it feeling it every day
it was strong enough for reasons success
is feeling the sense that I’m here to
grow and I’m here to give something to
the world more than just myself success
is caring about other people success is
calling and saying I love you in the
middle of day for no damn reason or
sending a note that will change your
relationship have a ritual of something
funny playful or a surprise you do how
many relationships are dead today
because they have no surprise rituals
anymore you need to have some rituals
some cool things you do that nobody else
does that gives you a better life than
anybody else has all the little stuff
that’s where success comes from and in
business it comes to delivering more
than anybody could imagine all those
little things add up people
that’s who I want to do business with
it’s true in any area of your life so if
you look at somebody’s really successful
even Wow I mean there are so amazing
there’s such a genius you got to dig
underneath you got to remember something
people are rewarded in public for what
they practice for years in private
myself and my business people say how
are you get up and speaking of nono-chan
you go for three days and nights and the
room is like it wired it’s incredible
MicroBot bronzer how do you do that
honey at that confidence of home hey you
know it’s not confidence it’s experience
met but I did so much behind the scenes
that I still do to make things right
I mean how many people would know that
since the time I was 17 years old before
I walk on stage school do to this day
wouldn’t need to do it play still do it
I never walk out there without being in
an absolute peak state of mind you know
there days my back is hurting my throat
was hurting or I may have had a
challenger my father passed away and I
still got to deliver to these people cuz
my standard is give my all every time
everything has to be better
he’s been dormant for 5-10 years some of
our trainers
he does it he’s always finds a way to
make better that’s not an ego thing
that’s a scam and my ritual though is I
prepare I think I got the new
information I think I’ll put something
across better what do people need I
spend time with our customers I see
what’s going on and before I get on
stage each today is a ritual to put
myself in a state of mind and I did it
starting like 17 years old I started
doing it say I now command my
subconscious mind and I say this out
loud several times this little phrase
set of phrases as an incantation to kind
of condition my mind and body and that’s
an now command my subconscious mind to
direct me in helping as many people as
possible today by giving me the strength
and the emotion and the humor and the
brevity whatever it takes to show this
person and help this person change their
life now and I started that with a
person when I work with people one on
one and I will do that for 45 minutes
driving in my Volkswagen to go serve and
coach somebody for the first time now I
don’t say that person I say these people
and I can go out in the room of 10,000
people and deliver for 50 hours and I do
it every time I come back onstage it’s a
ritual a ritual to go into peak stay
Peaks they don’t just show up they’d
only interrupt you great ideas don’t
interrupt you got to pursue them I
talked to Michael Jordan I’ll never
forget dad the peak of his career and
got to watch his final game saw him
backstage and spend some time with him
and there’s pretty exciting time there’s
famous basketball player I think that
ever lived and has ever lived and I
asked him I said you know what sets you
apart Michael you know what is it and is
it god-given talent the ability skill
what is it you tell me you know said I
can shoot you straight and you know it’s
not you know I’m you trying to act
humble he goes I have a lot of talent
god-given talent lot of skill I’ve
worked really hard but he said really
it’s my standards he said every day I
demand more for myself than anybody else
could humanly expect I’m not competing
with somebody else I’m competing with
why I’m capable of hmm magic formula
because most of us lower our standards
why because who you spend time with my
friends is who you become one of the
biggest reasons I started going to
seminars when I was like 17 is I had
nobody
he is a great robot I can read about
somebody but being around people being
in that environment was very different
finding way to go to work with someone
who lived that standard life was very
different and get around people at low
standards and you compete with it you
don’t need to compete with it it’s like
okay I mean remember Jerry Springer
he’ll if he’s still in the air but I
never used to get people on the show
right but where would he find these
people watch these people go my life’s
know pretty darn good can hear that
person look at them you don’t have to
change your life all you up to this find
somebody with a lower standard you feel
good about yourself but if you feel that
good feeling it’s an illusion you only
think it’s gonna make you happen my
friend and this year or any other is to
step up it’s to raise the standard is to
discover what you’re capable of and feel
that incredible power pushing through
whatever is holding you back and get to
the other side of more of your true self
that’s what this game is all about and
look at the best of all believing Tiger
Woods what
to win golf tournaments no to be the
best that ever lived that’s his goal
that’s his vision but here’s what’s
interesting he backs it up with rituals
if you just have a vision and you know
have the rituals stop lying to yourself
his rituals are he started doing things
nobody did before he went started
lifting weights golfers lifting weights
no way he went out and he changed his
sling when he was the best in the world
because he realized already be the best
that ever lived he’s gonna have to
change his swing if you don’t thing
about golf you don’t change your swing
when you’re the best and he went and
retrained himself
because he has different rituals than
other golfers now many people are
modeling as rituals to get better it’s
amazing you know you look at somebody
like Michael Phelps the 2008 swimmer won
seven you know only two people I think
in history if I remember correctly that
have gotten seven gold medals in one
session and here’s a guy he’s got number
six centers Dalton he’s exhausted and
he’s going in for that final swim I’m
sure you remembered and how does the guy
win by one hundredths of a second do you
think that was some massive skill that
got him over the top or was it a
standard that says this is who I am I am
the champion and no one is taking this
from me and somehow in those finals
milliseconds hundredth of a second he
pushed himself just beyond his
competitor but you know how about
Michael Phelps would allow them to help
push beyond that moment is his rituals
go steady the guy most people who swim
have these unbelievable workouts he does
two and three of their workout sessions
a day all the other swimmers the
beginning thought he was insane
good overtrain you can’t do that it’s
not physically possible but he had a
standard and the rituals to back it up
so here’s my final message to you
because I’ve gotten carried away I
thought it’s going to send you like a
five-minute message but you can see
there’s no script here just leave a
little crazy with you but I want to
really see you get what you want this
year don’t let this year be like last
and if last year was great still gonna
let it be that way raise the standard if
your life is perfect and extraordinary
you darn well know and they’re gonna be
happy unless you keep making it better
that’s what makes us feel like it’s not
what we got to make us happy it’s who we
become and what we’re able to give
because we become more that sense of
contribution is what creates the deepest
moment so here’s my assignment for if
you want one if you want to go from
conversation with some action your
simple thing to do once an air your life
right now that you really want to please
what’s an area that’s important to
improve your body’s great
how much curve careers great how about
your relationship empty open special or
your kids or your relationship will
create spiritual side of your life or is
it your finances the gray area really
matters decide on that number one write
down what your
in that area right now specifically as
possible you might say well I’m thirteen
point five pounds overweight
whatever the way there’s weather the
situation is or my body fats like this I
wake up exhausted in the morning and you
write the truth of where you are right
now
so you’re real quick or
in relationship I say I want a
relationship but I I’m not in one I
don’t seem to find them all the good
ones seem to be gone is my belief you
know and I really do want one but I
don’t have it whatever your definition
well I’m in a relationship and god I
wish I wasn’t in a relationship I’m
planning my escape wherever you are or I
have a wonderful relationship we’d love
each other but there just isn’t enough
passion just right the truth of where
you are the area you want to change what
right how it is and then the second step
is that’s where you gotta be really
honest with yourself what are the
rituals that have put me there because
whatever results you’re getting even if
you don’t like the results there’s some
rituals that are keeping you in that
place there’s some rituals of what you
eat or don’t eat how you move or don’t
move how you sleep or don’t sleep
there’s some rituals and the lack of
variety or spice or energy or focus in
an area there’s something you’re doing
and it’s usually not one thing it’s a
bunch of little things they kind of do
consistently whatever you think about
getting in a relationship whatever you
think about working out whenever you
think about money and get yourself in a
state of overwhelm you start thinking
about all the things you can’t control
just write down all the rituals you have
and then here’s the third step what do
you want what’s your vision and be
really specific I’m gonna be my fighting
way I want to be the strongest I’ve ever
felt I want to be I’m gonna turn my act
whatever it is be specific and then last
step number four what are the rituals
that’ll get you there what would you do
differently each morning if you’re going
to be that kind of energy that kind of
strength how would you have to often
would you work out what days would you
work out what time a ritual something
you do consistently usually at a
specific time so becomes by tomorrow let
me tell you something willpower doesn’t
last
but rituals can last a lifetime I bet
you have some rituals in your life right
now you’ve been doing for years even
though some of them don’t serve you
I’m just saying wake yourself up
make you want a new year and a new life
you don’t they need to start in January
first start today start with this little
video and just begin to see what happens
and see how easy it is to just do a few
little rituals don’t do them all just do
two or three new things you know what
happens you’ll get momentum cuz once you
discipline yourself in one area life you
feel yourself doing it I berries as well
I always say something my original
teacher taught me always remind people
there’s always two pains in life is it
the pain of discipline or is the pain of
regret discipline weighs ounces is my
friend Jim Rohn taught me for black
waste tons
they don’t have regret so right now what
do you want to change what’s it really
like when the rituals that got you there
that’ll take a little homework if you’re
not sure half the people around you
they’ll tell you what your rituals are
what do I really
in depth where the rituals that would
get me there and then get yourself to
start a few those actions and lock them
in place but I can’t help you anyway
we’re here as a company to support you
to come you have an event with us come
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starting with you
if you make the change in yourself
you’re gonna be proud this year and no
amount of money or accolades other
people can mirror the feeling I’d be
proud of knowing you taken back control
of your life or you’ve taken a great
life to another level as once you do
that you have something you can give
other people with it be your kids or
your friends or your family and
ultimately that’s why it’s about so
thanks for listening I know how long I
went to here but I hope this has been
helpful for you I just thought it’s a
new year and I want people to be able to
truly create a new life and till I see
again hopefully something soon or it
gets a chance to meet you live strong
and they live with passion and of course
god bless you happy new
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