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Things I Wish I Knew At 20 (At Least I Know Now)


there are things we all wish we could
have known at 20 it would have saved us
a lot of time money energy now don’t go
and blame the cat down the road it
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peace and Finnick waters diving deep
once again beautiful deep divers we are
here I hope your day is going good
things I wish I knew at 20 at least I
know now become your greatest version
deep divers we’ve got a whole lot to
talk about now I’m gonna share with you
all the things I wish I knew at 20 that
I know now that have completely
transformed my life I know what it’s
like you may be 20 right now you may be
in your early 20s your late teens and
this is a very difficult time if you are
a young person I’m here to tell you
every little thing is gonna be pretty
awesome pretty awesome and we ain’t even
had breakfast yet can I get a hello
wonderful deep divers were just well
breathing in that good ass prana baby
sending you tons of positive energy so
let me start with this the first thing I
wish I knew at 20 at least I know now is
that getting liked is overrated like a
lot of us right now we just want to be
accepted we want to be validated by
other people we spend so much time
trying to be accepted I remember when I
was in the first year of university and
I’m just like I want to get on
everyone’s good side and in the process
I found myself becoming inauthentic this
is what happens when you’re trying to
please everyone
you end up never pleasing yourself mmm
slow motion inside so what I now know is
that it is great to make people feel
comfortable it is great to be polite but
you have to keep it real you didn’t come
here to impress everybody you came here
to be you you’re wonderful authentic
self deep divers there is a reason why I
talk about everything under the Sun the
pineal gland DMT marijuana why because I
don’t care what you think this is my own
expression and that’s why I’m extremely
happy but when I was 20 I was like this
don’t say that around that person what
are they gonna think of you Ralph right
so I had to learn how to find my voice
and realize that getting liked by
everyone is so overrated you came here
to be the unique wonderful being that
you are what is the second thing I wish
I knew at 20 deep diamonds at least I
know now that you wants the posts to
have it all figured out right now I
remember when I was 20 I’m like gosh all
my other friends seemed to have it all
figured out no they don’t
right everyone else seems to know what
to do with their life except you you’re
like gosh what am I supposed to be doing
I should have manifested everything by
now I’m being left behind Ralph help
wait wait wait a minute no you’re not
we move into a catastrophy mindset where
the whole world is ending things are
crumbling and we don’t have enough time
and that was me in my twenties when I
was 20 I had a lot of anxiety a lot of
panic and it was all because I thought I
should have received everything by now
somehow someway what I know right now is
that everything is a process a
step-by-step process when I’m sharing
inspiring you wonderful deep divers
you’ve seen me throughout the years when
I had the massive afro this effort was
pretty cool as well right yeah baby
what happened day in day out now I
started to manifest because I was in it
for the long haul when I was 20 for me
it was all about instant gratification I
wanted it all right now not realizing I
had to be worthy for it we never attract
what we want we always attract what we
are we always attract what we do the
work for deep divers what is a third
thing I wish I knew at 20 at least I
know now people will come and go in your
life that’s right your heart will be
broken bad relationships
people will scam you abuse you mistreat
you and you just got to deal with it
when I was 20 that all happened to me
I got scammed people mistreated me and
guess what deep divers I felt like a
victim because I felt like a victim it
didn’t help the situation it only made
it worse because now I had someone to
blame and therefore it kept me in that
state of powerlessness so the moment I
realized wait a minute I’m not a victim
I’m not gonna tolerate if someone treats
me a certain way I’m gonna stand up for
my rights I’m not gonna give up the
fight so I realized that at 20 when
people say oh I’m your friend no it’s
like so slippery just like so they come
and go right
no real friendship is more than just
texting someone a real relationship is
more than lust oh I like her backside oh
I like his muscles Ralph does that 20 I
thought okay that’s all a relationship
is now what I know is that
let’s take friendship for example
friendship is grown over time yes
friendship is built on trust with
relationships now I know that it’s not
just about the physical can you imagine
a world where we only saw people’s
energy hmm slow motion they say now I
know that it’s about the heart
connection I don’t care how you look
well actually I do but I want to know
how you look how you make me feel how I
make you feel it’s about the mental
connection the heart connection the
emotional connection the Trinity
physical mental emotional and that’s why
my relationship is better my
relationships are better my friendships
are better because I’m realizing it’s
more than
just surface connections when I was 20
it was hi hi how are you I’m fine
fearful insecure neurotic and emotional
you’ve never been fine in your entire
life I remember when I was 20 I was
sugarcoating my emotions how I was
feeling
people would say Ralph are you okay I’m
like I’m fine but that’s where we left
it at right now when someone says Ralph
how are you how you doing I give them a
whole essay Oh baby
right you yeah you’re really gonna know
how I’m doing right so if you are 20
right now if you are in your late teens
early 20s realize that’s how it is
sometimes people are just gonna come in
your life they’re gonna go but the real
friends will remain and your
relationships become better when you
look for something deeper than just the
physical body because that will fade
away only the love in your heart will
remain deep divers the fourth thing I
wish I knew at 20 at least I know now
because the cat down the road told me is
that the universe will throw all kinds
of curveballs your way that’s right so
many challenges came for me they came my
way at 20 I didn’t know if I would
overcome them and many challenges seemed
insurmountable I don’t know if I can do
this Ralph like why is this happening to
me right now this isn’t the universe no
I’ve also got a student loan to pay back
exactly right problem off the problem
off the problem when I was 20
a lot what’s happening and I realize
this that I was always focusing on the
problems like gosh
my life is terrible right now and guess
what it became a self-fulfilling
prophecy what I know right now is how to
turn a so-called bad situation into a
positive situation because right now
even if I get a challenge
it’s surmountable I can get on top of it
why because I have a new perspective I
realize this challenge won’t last
forever this challenge does not define
who I am this challenge is not going to
interfere with my peace of mind or
happiness why because I’m better than
that
why because life is so short life is so
precious I’m not gonna allow this
challenge to consume me I wish I knew
that at 20 it would have saved a lot of
tissue paper because I was crying all
the time deep dive is what is the fifth
thing I wish I knew at 20 at least I
know now you have the rest of your life
ahead of you but when I was 20 I didn’t
think like that I was 20 I felt like 44
is that you right now are you in your
20s and you feel really old are you a
teenager and you feel really old right
so I felt really old when I was 20 I had
old man’s problems I felt the whole
world was caving in on me and I thought
it was the apocalypse every single day I
thought that hey it’s not gonna get any
better than this because it hasn’t got
any because it hasn’t gotten any better
than this right I thought it’s not gonna
get any better than this
because it hasn’t gotten any better than
this so I had a fixed way of thinking
what I know right now is that what seems
to be the end
is actually the beginning like at 20
when I thought the whole world was
ending it was actually the beginning
because even what I studied psychology
and criminology yes I worked in a school
with autistic children people with ADHD
was fantastic fantastic I use my degree
but for YouTube you don’t need a degree
all you need is to know how to say feel
so get to be a live baby can I get a
Hello so what I know right now deep dive
is is that I have the rest of my life
the whole of my life right in front of
me I can do anything be anything and
every single day I’m evolving every
single day I’m learning how to love
myself learning how to realize I am
worthy learning how to speak my truth I
didn’t know how to do that at 20 but my
oh my I know how to do that right now
and it feels so good to be alive deep
divers we are here have a beautiful day
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infinite waters deep divers today is the
first day of the rest of your life have
a beautiful day infinite waters diving
deep once again stay well stay healthy
peace
you but being 20 was pretty cool as well
like like like no responsibilities like
house parties can I be 20 again
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