please infinite waters diving deep once
again the 10-second rule epic dating
advice can I get a hello there so
recently I’ve gotten a lot of questions
about how to approach women men girls
boys and I’m gonna share with you what’s
helped me along my journey I call it a
10 10 second rule now the great thing
about the 10 second rule is that it not
only applies to dating but whether or
not you wanna book a holiday before I
came to California I wanted to book a
flight and I waited and guess what
happened the price went up it could
apply to finding a job choosing what
kinds of foods to eat you got 10 seconds
go so what is the ten second rule when
you see someone you are attracted to
what happens many of us we freeze up
what I call the visceral connection that
gut feeling that is when you start
sweating your heart starts palpitating
boom boom boom what’s going on you turn
into what I call the starer
the great paradox of being creepy is
that it’s creepy to go and talk to
someone right if you feel you want to
wait a minute no no it’s more creepy to
stare at them for 30 minutes without
doing anything so when it comes to the
law of attraction the 10 second rule is
all about stepping into radical action
you’ve got 10
to go and talk to that person and that
is why this also applies to social
gatherings what happens when we are all
in a room I went through the full circle
event a couple of days ago a talk on
sacred geometry there was also tapping
going up going on upstairs and it was
interesting lots of different people and
I applied the 10-second rule to go and
talk to someone I had never spoken to
before counting it down why is the
10-second rule important because the
longer you leave it the harder it
becomes why because now you get into
your mind and analysis is paralysis you
want to know where they’re from what do
they have a breakfast but more so you
start to doubt yourself
any longer than 10 seconds fear sets in
panic sets in what prevents us from
stepping into the ten second rule many
times it’s low confidence a low
self-esteem a lack of self-worth so once
you change how you see yourself you can
approach anybody anywhere because it all
starts with our body language the great
social psychologist Amy Cuddy talks
about power poses if you want confident
in your body how can you become
confident in approaching someone a lot
of us we see someone and we freeze up so
it’s happening in our body before it
happens in our mind so if you can step
into that relaxed state the Harvard
study eight-week study on meditation has
showed you already what meditation can
do
for you it changes your entire brain
structure giving us that confidence that
calmness to not see people as a threat
when you have this attraction towards
someone what happens what happens you
feel that you have all the time in the
world Buddha told us the problem is you
think you have time because what happens
when you are just staring at someone
first of all you create separation which
creates fear but more so we fall into
the illusion that they are going to be
here forever and it’s just like surfing
you might miss the wave so 10 seconds
you see someone you like them go and
talk to them people who are confident in
approaching a man in approaching a woman
they never ascribe intent what am I
talking of if someone doesn’t
reciprocate oh I really like you and the
person says I’m sorry I’m not interested
they don’t think to themselves it’s got
something to do with him who knows they
could be married they could have
children or they may just want to see
the sunset or breathe in that beautiful
prana it’s got nothing to do with them
that’s what makes them more confident
many times we’ve been put into the
friend zone that’s what makes us nervous
that’s why we take longer than 10
seconds
to initiate conversation with someone so
what happens when we get that gut
feeling what I call the first voice of
intuition that is a sign a clear sign we
have to start making the move because
you never know what is gonna happen you
never know what to expect but the longer
you are stuck in your mind now you start
creating the illusion you start creating
stories oh they may be this person but
until you ask
until you approach you would never know
now ten seconds ten seconds what happens
you see someone and if you are living in
your mind what do you say you say well
my hair isn’t done no no wait you say
I’m not wearing the right clothes no you
say wait a minute they can’t see me like
this so I need more time and that time
you are trying to fix yourself up maybe
you want to put on some makeup what
happens they’re gone and you never see
them again
the visceral connection that gut feeling
is where you step into that radical
action immediately and that way
you become more confident in approaching
women or men and now life takes on a
whole new meaning and I use the ten
second rule in all areas of my life
because the more we get into
overthinking what happens for instance
you see a woman you are attracted to you
see a
man you are attracted to but because of
your lack of self-worth it’s a no-go
area because you think they may be too
good for me so it’s not really about the
other person
it’s about yourself once you start
changing the perception you have a for
yourself you can talk to literally
anybody without fear without doubt
without guilt you just literally plunge
yourself into the moment the person that
you think is stuck-up maybe the
individual that is the most open the one
you think is the most open may not
resonate with you so how do we break
down these barriers how do we move
beyond our preconceived ideas it starts
with the ten second rule you’ve got ten
seconds some people do it in three oh hi
and it’s the simplest things that bring
us the most confidence what happens when
you go over ten seconds now the mind is
very cunning you see someone and you’re
nervous you’re thinking about what to
say so you say silly things you say
things which aren’t coming from your
heart space they’re coming from your
mind space like do you have the time you
know damn well you don’t care about the
time but guess what
you need something to talk about but
with the 10-second rule you just say hi
how you doing you get into the
conversation in the most organic
so this applies not only to dating but
to being more social to let off anxiety
which starts with absorbing yourself in
the present moment and changing how you
see yourself to say I am good enough the
number one reason why so many people
have approach anxiety is because they
are comparing people you say she’s a 10
he’s a 6 she’s a 5 you let go of anxiety
once you let go of your judging system
when you see two women is exactly the
same you free yourself when you see two
men as exactly the same you free
yourself why do we feel anxious in
someone we are attracted to but not
anxious around someone we are not
attracted to because many times we feel
that oh oh this is the moment of truth
what’s gonna happen if I don’t get a
phone number and take a home and you
know what no slow it down because when
you realize that physical attraction is
only one level when you realize that
there are so many levels of attraction
you start to say wait a minute it’s just
a conversation
I’m just saying hello and because of
that you don’t think about their
financial status you don’t think about
their nationality all of these things is
what creates a separation in the first
place that makes you go over that ten
seconds which makes it literally
impossible to approach so let go of
separation and embrace
the truth that everything is connected
10 seconds that’s all you have go for it
we’re here infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy peace
again the 10-second rule epic dating
advice can I get a hello there so
recently I’ve gotten a lot of questions
about how to approach women men girls
boys and I’m gonna share with you what’s
helped me along my journey I call it a
10 10 second rule now the great thing
about the 10 second rule is that it not
only applies to dating but whether or
not you wanna book a holiday before I
came to California I wanted to book a
flight and I waited and guess what
happened the price went up it could
apply to finding a job choosing what
kinds of foods to eat you got 10 seconds
go so what is the ten second rule when
you see someone you are attracted to
what happens many of us we freeze up
what I call the visceral connection that
gut feeling that is when you start
sweating your heart starts palpitating
boom boom boom what’s going on you turn
into what I call the starer
the great paradox of being creepy is
that it’s creepy to go and talk to
someone right if you feel you want to
wait a minute no no it’s more creepy to
stare at them for 30 minutes without
doing anything so when it comes to the
law of attraction the 10 second rule is
all about stepping into radical action
you’ve got 10
to go and talk to that person and that
is why this also applies to social
gatherings what happens when we are all
in a room I went through the full circle
event a couple of days ago a talk on
sacred geometry there was also tapping
going up going on upstairs and it was
interesting lots of different people and
I applied the 10-second rule to go and
talk to someone I had never spoken to
before counting it down why is the
10-second rule important because the
longer you leave it the harder it
becomes why because now you get into
your mind and analysis is paralysis you
want to know where they’re from what do
they have a breakfast but more so you
start to doubt yourself
any longer than 10 seconds fear sets in
panic sets in what prevents us from
stepping into the ten second rule many
times it’s low confidence a low
self-esteem a lack of self-worth so once
you change how you see yourself you can
approach anybody anywhere because it all
starts with our body language the great
social psychologist Amy Cuddy talks
about power poses if you want confident
in your body how can you become
confident in approaching someone a lot
of us we see someone and we freeze up so
it’s happening in our body before it
happens in our mind so if you can step
into that relaxed state the Harvard
study eight-week study on meditation has
showed you already what meditation can
do
for you it changes your entire brain
structure giving us that confidence that
calmness to not see people as a threat
when you have this attraction towards
someone what happens what happens you
feel that you have all the time in the
world Buddha told us the problem is you
think you have time because what happens
when you are just staring at someone
first of all you create separation which
creates fear but more so we fall into
the illusion that they are going to be
here forever and it’s just like surfing
you might miss the wave so 10 seconds
you see someone you like them go and
talk to them people who are confident in
approaching a man in approaching a woman
they never ascribe intent what am I
talking of if someone doesn’t
reciprocate oh I really like you and the
person says I’m sorry I’m not interested
they don’t think to themselves it’s got
something to do with him who knows they
could be married they could have
children or they may just want to see
the sunset or breathe in that beautiful
prana it’s got nothing to do with them
that’s what makes them more confident
many times we’ve been put into the
friend zone that’s what makes us nervous
that’s why we take longer than 10
seconds
to initiate conversation with someone so
what happens when we get that gut
feeling what I call the first voice of
intuition that is a sign a clear sign we
have to start making the move because
you never know what is gonna happen you
never know what to expect but the longer
you are stuck in your mind now you start
creating the illusion you start creating
stories oh they may be this person but
until you ask
until you approach you would never know
now ten seconds ten seconds what happens
you see someone and if you are living in
your mind what do you say you say well
my hair isn’t done no no wait you say
I’m not wearing the right clothes no you
say wait a minute they can’t see me like
this so I need more time and that time
you are trying to fix yourself up maybe
you want to put on some makeup what
happens they’re gone and you never see
them again
the visceral connection that gut feeling
is where you step into that radical
action immediately and that way
you become more confident in approaching
women or men and now life takes on a
whole new meaning and I use the ten
second rule in all areas of my life
because the more we get into
overthinking what happens for instance
you see a woman you are attracted to you
see a
man you are attracted to but because of
your lack of self-worth it’s a no-go
area because you think they may be too
good for me so it’s not really about the
other person
it’s about yourself once you start
changing the perception you have a for
yourself you can talk to literally
anybody without fear without doubt
without guilt you just literally plunge
yourself into the moment the person that
you think is stuck-up maybe the
individual that is the most open the one
you think is the most open may not
resonate with you so how do we break
down these barriers how do we move
beyond our preconceived ideas it starts
with the ten second rule you’ve got ten
seconds some people do it in three oh hi
and it’s the simplest things that bring
us the most confidence what happens when
you go over ten seconds now the mind is
very cunning you see someone and you’re
nervous you’re thinking about what to
say so you say silly things you say
things which aren’t coming from your
heart space they’re coming from your
mind space like do you have the time you
know damn well you don’t care about the
time but guess what
you need something to talk about but
with the 10-second rule you just say hi
how you doing you get into the
conversation in the most organic
so this applies not only to dating but
to being more social to let off anxiety
which starts with absorbing yourself in
the present moment and changing how you
see yourself to say I am good enough the
number one reason why so many people
have approach anxiety is because they
are comparing people you say she’s a 10
he’s a 6 she’s a 5 you let go of anxiety
once you let go of your judging system
when you see two women is exactly the
same you free yourself when you see two
men as exactly the same you free
yourself why do we feel anxious in
someone we are attracted to but not
anxious around someone we are not
attracted to because many times we feel
that oh oh this is the moment of truth
what’s gonna happen if I don’t get a
phone number and take a home and you
know what no slow it down because when
you realize that physical attraction is
only one level when you realize that
there are so many levels of attraction
you start to say wait a minute it’s just
a conversation
I’m just saying hello and because of
that you don’t think about their
financial status you don’t think about
their nationality all of these things is
what creates a separation in the first
place that makes you go over that ten
seconds which makes it literally
impossible to approach so let go of
separation and embrace
the truth that everything is connected
10 seconds that’s all you have go for it
we’re here infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy peace
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