peas and Finnick waters diving deep once
again welcome to another episode of the
q and a’s if you are a new member
oh boy we got some news for you take off
your shoes take off your coat put it in
the room over there
can I get a hello there
we’re gonna dive deep now this is where
we go behind the scenes I do a lot of
videos on the main channel but really
this is a space where I answer your
that’s right your personal question each
and every one of your questions I will
answer I do this out of my heart because
I just want to give back even more so if
you have a question because I get
thousands of emails every single day
right in the subject heading infinite
waters question answer it right now okay
and then I’m gonna look at it and say no
I’m just kidding I will answer it
because I’m I’m nice like that
it’s a family issue someone says that
they told their parents they don’t
believe in the religious ideals they
were raised in and this has created a
whole wave of conflict drama
arguments they’re feeling really bad
about it they don’t know what to do and
they wanted to know if I could share any
insane okay what happens when you speak
the truth to a family member and they
got time for them what are we gonna do I
always say nobody is an island and my
family support me a hundred percent
that’s the only reason I can do what I
do today but it wasn’t always perfect
right I had to show them who I really
was when we talk of the family the
family we have are our Guardians our
custodians they take care of us they
change your nappy when you’re crawling
around in diapers right be thankful they
pick up after you when you’re throwing
around all your rubbish when you’re
growing up right our family do a whole
lot for us they feed us they clothe us
to a certain extent they are the first
primary God’s we have that is why a lot
of us look up to our parents we seek
their approval and if we don’t get their
approval we feel bad why because we have
just disrespected God right
parents family have that much influence
over us I realized I love my gym now
when we talk of conflict from voicing
how you really feel
happened to me along my chin right I
told my mom I don’t want to go to church
she said what I said yeah that’s right
he heard me want me to say it again and
it was very difficult and the most
compassionate way by the way not just
like that I said mom it’s a mom I don’t
want to go to church I’m sorry I know
this is gonna piss you off
I knew it already I was trembling in my
boots I was like oh my gosh do you know
what this is gonna do to our
relationship I thought okay now my mom’s
gonna look down on me a lot of us we
feel we are gonna get abandoned disowned
and sometimes that is what happens don’t
worry about it they’ll let you back in
the house when we realize that many of
us we are living in different
generations the generation of our
parents essentially is very different to
the generation of ourselves especially
if you are it’s a new millennial
generation right so realize you have to
be very brave you owe it not only to
your family you owe it to yourself to
always speak from your true authenticity
let me repeat that you owe it
not only to your family but to yourself
start raising those eyebrows
stop creasing that forehead because it
is gonna feel very very uncomfortable
for not only you but for the family
member you tell and you break the news
to maybe you don’t follow their way of
life there maybe you don’t adhere to
their values you want to break out you
the front doors that way don’t do it do
it okay that’s the voice is going
through your head don’t do it do it now
the only thing that keeps us from really
expressing ourselves to our parents is
fear I say let love guide you not fear
realize that actually the great paradox
of expressing how you really feel to
your parents is that they will respect
you afterwards even though your
connection relationship with your
parents is gonna grow tenfold why
because once you show your family who
you really are it’s a make-or-break
decision they have to make they are
either gonna say come here come here
Michelle come here whatever your name is
Tom
standard name give me a hug and you’re
like thank you mom thank you Dad thank
you sister thank you brother
thank you nice thank you nephew oh
you’re doing a whole song with him right
so and now you live happily ever after
doesn’t always go like that I’m afraid
sometimes you do that and it’s like get
out of my house
and you’re like but before I do let me
at least take my studio with me I’m
gonna need to do a lot of podcasts about
this that’s perfectly fine but just
remind yourself generally speaking most
parents love is unconditional for their
child that is in a perfect setting not
in all cases but in a large majority of
cases so realize a lot of parents they
do see their children with compassion
it’s all about how you stop talking to
your parents ask yourself am i coming
from a place of compassion well how am i
coming from a place of anger you see if
you go to your parents in a very
aggressive way because you just want to
get out what you have to say that is
gonna trigger something in them to react
just like how you are acting you’re
going to know go in a very calm and
peaceful way okay now you’re gonna get
them in the mood but also don’t tell
them when they’re just up when they’re
just unloading all of the shopping out
of the car they’ve just been fired from
their job they’re sweating and then you
go and tell them that right chances are
they’re gonna be pissed off which is
they want to do that that’s fine why not
tell them when they are sitting
somewhere in a very relaxed place maybe
non-holiday they’re having a good time
they’re smiling mom hey right it’s like
seven people who say I’m gay to that
parent
what are their parents gonna say certain
people say I’m gonna get married to this
beautiful woman
nobody parents are happy with that
sometimes parents are happy with when
you tell them hey I just quit my job but
most times they’re not they’re like okay
you’re gonna pay the rent I don’t care
how you gonna find the money go and do
it right now be brave and realize that
if you are living in shame guilt this
can’t help you become your greatest
version you’ve got to spill the beans
essentially and then let me know how you
get on okay
oh that helped that’s good too the
second question someone wrote in this is
a love connection baby how to keep a
relationship now when you’re single you
want a relationship when you’re in a
relationship you want to leave not in
all cases I’m just kidding
it depends if you with your soul mate
you want to stay of course you do
who’s making you who’s making you
breakfast who’s massaging you right okay
so let me share with you will help me
along my chin I always talk about five
pillars of a great relationship you’ve
heard this time and time again but
here’s one more time for you because I
love you guys
communication right that’s how to keep a
relationship in a nutshell if you’re not
communicating
chances are the relationship is gonna be
flushed down the toilet I’m sorry and
then flush down again I’m sorry and then
flush down again
I’m sorry you’re gonna keep saying sorry
because you’re flushing your
relationship down the toilet
number two is appreciation if you can
appreciate your partner at least take
them on a cruise every month no I’m just
kidding you can if you want they’ll
thank you for it that’s a good sign
small things go a long way women love to
receive flowers men also love to receive
flowers and some chocolates essentially
we all want the same thing we want to
know we want to we want our partner to
show us they care not just tell us they
care but actually show us physically
right with their time and attention so
ask yourself are you giving time and
attention to your partner number three
passion do you still have passion for
the relationship are you very less
affair are you not really lighting that
flame of love anymore are you getting
complacent are you being dishonest and
that’s the fourth pillar trust do you
trust your partner that is how to keep a
relationship you gotta have a lot of
trust now growing up if you never
trusted yourself chances are you’re
gonna get into a relationship and you’re
gonna be Facebook stalking your partner
bad idea because when they find out they
are not only gonna slap you they’re
gonna say who the hell am i with this
control freak people want to be free in
a relationship
that’s what a relationship is all about
trust compassion and love in a perfect
city anyway the number five is pajama
party
Oh pajama party is what I call fun you
having a lot of fun with your partner
that’s a wonderful thing that’s a
beautiful thing that’s an amazing thing
right you’re having fun with your
partner it really shows the relationship
is gonna last longer than a week that’s
a good sign if you’re not chances are it
might be finished by the end of this
video make sure you can still both make
each other laugh be silly sometimes be
fun be joyous sometimes don’t take
yourself so seriously we’ll take your
partner seriously and they should take
you seriously but in a very fun and
funny way if you get my drift right if
you apply one of those five pillars of a
great relationship into your life you
are gonna maintain a great relationship
and then you have the next question read
the next question we receive is is
patience necessary to gain happiness
that’s a good one
well I always talk of radical action
okay so let’s let’s go into it a great
benefit of being patient especially when
we talk about becoming your greatest
version did you see that Guinness adverb
all good things come to those who wait
and you’re waiting here and people are
just throwing apple pies a
but at least you can even write it could
be rocks never mind it’s wonderful to be
patient see patients code of eights the
deeper intimacy with yourself the
problem is when you start waiting too
long when you start living life in the
waiting room solely you become very lazy
you feel that everything has to come to
you instead of laying your intention
onto the universe instead of laying your
imprint onto the universe which is the
most powerful way to become your
greatest version so what I do love my
journey is I am patient on a Monday I am
impatient on a Tuesday patient on a
Wednesday impatient on Thursday patient
on Friday impatient on Saturday and then
I’m patient again on Sunday because it’s
the day of rest fuse being patient with
impatient fuse action with inaction and
this will help you become your greatest
version there are certain times when we
need to wait there are certain times
when we need to act
Canha no that’s not the right time to do
it wait for it ok so there you have it
in a nutshell
much love to all the people diving deep
to the q and a’s if you’ve got a
question email me infinite waters at
gmail.com and most of all have a
wonderful week we are out here we’re in
here whatever infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy
again welcome to another episode of the
q and a’s if you are a new member
oh boy we got some news for you take off
your shoes take off your coat put it in
the room over there
can I get a hello there
we’re gonna dive deep now this is where
we go behind the scenes I do a lot of
videos on the main channel but really
this is a space where I answer your
that’s right your personal question each
and every one of your questions I will
answer I do this out of my heart because
I just want to give back even more so if
you have a question because I get
thousands of emails every single day
right in the subject heading infinite
waters question answer it right now okay
and then I’m gonna look at it and say no
I’m just kidding I will answer it
because I’m I’m nice like that
it’s a family issue someone says that
they told their parents they don’t
believe in the religious ideals they
were raised in and this has created a
whole wave of conflict drama
arguments they’re feeling really bad
about it they don’t know what to do and
they wanted to know if I could share any
insane okay what happens when you speak
the truth to a family member and they
got time for them what are we gonna do I
always say nobody is an island and my
family support me a hundred percent
that’s the only reason I can do what I
do today but it wasn’t always perfect
right I had to show them who I really
was when we talk of the family the
family we have are our Guardians our
custodians they take care of us they
change your nappy when you’re crawling
around in diapers right be thankful they
pick up after you when you’re throwing
around all your rubbish when you’re
growing up right our family do a whole
lot for us they feed us they clothe us
to a certain extent they are the first
primary God’s we have that is why a lot
of us look up to our parents we seek
their approval and if we don’t get their
approval we feel bad why because we have
just disrespected God right
parents family have that much influence
over us I realized I love my gym now
when we talk of conflict from voicing
how you really feel
happened to me along my chin right I
told my mom I don’t want to go to church
she said what I said yeah that’s right
he heard me want me to say it again and
it was very difficult and the most
compassionate way by the way not just
like that I said mom it’s a mom I don’t
want to go to church I’m sorry I know
this is gonna piss you off
I knew it already I was trembling in my
boots I was like oh my gosh do you know
what this is gonna do to our
relationship I thought okay now my mom’s
gonna look down on me a lot of us we
feel we are gonna get abandoned disowned
and sometimes that is what happens don’t
worry about it they’ll let you back in
the house when we realize that many of
us we are living in different
generations the generation of our
parents essentially is very different to
the generation of ourselves especially
if you are it’s a new millennial
generation right so realize you have to
be very brave you owe it not only to
your family you owe it to yourself to
always speak from your true authenticity
let me repeat that you owe it
not only to your family but to yourself
start raising those eyebrows
stop creasing that forehead because it
is gonna feel very very uncomfortable
for not only you but for the family
member you tell and you break the news
to maybe you don’t follow their way of
life there maybe you don’t adhere to
their values you want to break out you
the front doors that way don’t do it do
it okay that’s the voice is going
through your head don’t do it do it now
the only thing that keeps us from really
expressing ourselves to our parents is
fear I say let love guide you not fear
realize that actually the great paradox
of expressing how you really feel to
your parents is that they will respect
you afterwards even though your
connection relationship with your
parents is gonna grow tenfold why
because once you show your family who
you really are it’s a make-or-break
decision they have to make they are
either gonna say come here come here
Michelle come here whatever your name is
Tom
standard name give me a hug and you’re
like thank you mom thank you Dad thank
you sister thank you brother
thank you nice thank you nephew oh
you’re doing a whole song with him right
so and now you live happily ever after
doesn’t always go like that I’m afraid
sometimes you do that and it’s like get
out of my house
and you’re like but before I do let me
at least take my studio with me I’m
gonna need to do a lot of podcasts about
this that’s perfectly fine but just
remind yourself generally speaking most
parents love is unconditional for their
child that is in a perfect setting not
in all cases but in a large majority of
cases so realize a lot of parents they
do see their children with compassion
it’s all about how you stop talking to
your parents ask yourself am i coming
from a place of compassion well how am i
coming from a place of anger you see if
you go to your parents in a very
aggressive way because you just want to
get out what you have to say that is
gonna trigger something in them to react
just like how you are acting you’re
going to know go in a very calm and
peaceful way okay now you’re gonna get
them in the mood but also don’t tell
them when they’re just up when they’re
just unloading all of the shopping out
of the car they’ve just been fired from
their job they’re sweating and then you
go and tell them that right chances are
they’re gonna be pissed off which is
they want to do that that’s fine why not
tell them when they are sitting
somewhere in a very relaxed place maybe
non-holiday they’re having a good time
they’re smiling mom hey right it’s like
seven people who say I’m gay to that
parent
what are their parents gonna say certain
people say I’m gonna get married to this
beautiful woman
nobody parents are happy with that
sometimes parents are happy with when
you tell them hey I just quit my job but
most times they’re not they’re like okay
you’re gonna pay the rent I don’t care
how you gonna find the money go and do
it right now be brave and realize that
if you are living in shame guilt this
can’t help you become your greatest
version you’ve got to spill the beans
essentially and then let me know how you
get on okay
oh that helped that’s good too the
second question someone wrote in this is
a love connection baby how to keep a
relationship now when you’re single you
want a relationship when you’re in a
relationship you want to leave not in
all cases I’m just kidding
it depends if you with your soul mate
you want to stay of course you do
who’s making you who’s making you
breakfast who’s massaging you right okay
so let me share with you will help me
along my chin I always talk about five
pillars of a great relationship you’ve
heard this time and time again but
here’s one more time for you because I
love you guys
communication right that’s how to keep a
relationship in a nutshell if you’re not
communicating
chances are the relationship is gonna be
flushed down the toilet I’m sorry and
then flush down again I’m sorry and then
flush down again
I’m sorry you’re gonna keep saying sorry
because you’re flushing your
relationship down the toilet
number two is appreciation if you can
appreciate your partner at least take
them on a cruise every month no I’m just
kidding you can if you want they’ll
thank you for it that’s a good sign
small things go a long way women love to
receive flowers men also love to receive
flowers and some chocolates essentially
we all want the same thing we want to
know we want to we want our partner to
show us they care not just tell us they
care but actually show us physically
right with their time and attention so
ask yourself are you giving time and
attention to your partner number three
passion do you still have passion for
the relationship are you very less
affair are you not really lighting that
flame of love anymore are you getting
complacent are you being dishonest and
that’s the fourth pillar trust do you
trust your partner that is how to keep a
relationship you gotta have a lot of
trust now growing up if you never
trusted yourself chances are you’re
gonna get into a relationship and you’re
gonna be Facebook stalking your partner
bad idea because when they find out they
are not only gonna slap you they’re
gonna say who the hell am i with this
control freak people want to be free in
a relationship
that’s what a relationship is all about
trust compassion and love in a perfect
city anyway the number five is pajama
party
Oh pajama party is what I call fun you
having a lot of fun with your partner
that’s a wonderful thing that’s a
beautiful thing that’s an amazing thing
right you’re having fun with your
partner it really shows the relationship
is gonna last longer than a week that’s
a good sign if you’re not chances are it
might be finished by the end of this
video make sure you can still both make
each other laugh be silly sometimes be
fun be joyous sometimes don’t take
yourself so seriously we’ll take your
partner seriously and they should take
you seriously but in a very fun and
funny way if you get my drift right if
you apply one of those five pillars of a
great relationship into your life you
are gonna maintain a great relationship
and then you have the next question read
the next question we receive is is
patience necessary to gain happiness
that’s a good one
well I always talk of radical action
okay so let’s let’s go into it a great
benefit of being patient especially when
we talk about becoming your greatest
version did you see that Guinness adverb
all good things come to those who wait
and you’re waiting here and people are
just throwing apple pies a
but at least you can even write it could
be rocks never mind it’s wonderful to be
patient see patients code of eights the
deeper intimacy with yourself the
problem is when you start waiting too
long when you start living life in the
waiting room solely you become very lazy
you feel that everything has to come to
you instead of laying your intention
onto the universe instead of laying your
imprint onto the universe which is the
most powerful way to become your
greatest version so what I do love my
journey is I am patient on a Monday I am
impatient on a Tuesday patient on a
Wednesday impatient on Thursday patient
on Friday impatient on Saturday and then
I’m patient again on Sunday because it’s
the day of rest fuse being patient with
impatient fuse action with inaction and
this will help you become your greatest
version there are certain times when we
need to wait there are certain times
when we need to act
Canha no that’s not the right time to do
it wait for it ok so there you have it
in a nutshell
much love to all the people diving deep
to the q and a’s if you’ve got a
question email me infinite waters at
gmail.com and most of all have a
wonderful week we are out here we’re in
here whatever infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy
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