he’s infinite waters Josie Zeke once
again we’re out here in nature baby we
got the birds everywhere are you a
people pleaser
I admit I used to be a people pleaser
and it was pretty annoying because you
have to keep pleasing everyone every
single second gosh let’s just breathing
in that good off Prada baby ten things
people don’t realize you’re doing
because you’re a people pleaser
put your hand up if you are a people
pleaser oh my gosh they go what up
we even had breakfast yeah can I get a
hello
yeah so a lot of people write to me
about people-pleasing they are people
pleasers
and they don’t know what to do about it
so let me share with you what helped me
along my journey you see in our society
we love to please people and it’s okay
to please people but not at the expense
of your own well-being okay the first
thing people don’t realize you’re doing
because you’re a people pleaser is that
you listen to your parents and your
peers before you actually listen to
yourself and that was me because I was
always so concerned with the advice from
other people before ever listening to
myself is that you out there today
always listening to infinite waters
before you listen to yourself listen to
yourself first goodness gracious
okay and that was under a lot of
pressure growing up sometimes I used to
feel that my friends know better than me
my parents know better than me say hey
Ralph go and working that job that 9:00
to 5:00 for the rest of your life and
that’s it okay I’m gonna do it yes then
I realized
that was a recipe for disaster it’s not
about listening to even what your
parents say or your friends say it’s
about listening to yourself first and
foremost because you have to live with
you low motionless life what is the
second thing people don’t realize you’re
doing because you’re a people pleaser
fitting in getting in is not fitting in
is your worst nightmare Dhin Dhin Dhin
like the universe forbid that right
because you see people pleasers we love
to fit in we I’m not a people pleaser
anymore thank goodness right I talk
about
Indigo’s and stuff what’s that Ralph
well now you know okay admit that your
worst nightmare not fitting in because
standing gal oh my gosh I’m so exposed
right now that’s a people pleaser worst
nightmare and one my early journey
I too was like that I just wanted to sit
in never wanted to be controversial then
I started to talk about all kinds of
stuff then I was really cool okay so
sometimes what I will tell you if you
are a people pleaser and your worst
it’s the people who stand out that
really end up living their dream life
because they’re so different from the
norm right and it happened to me along
my journey because there’s this guy who
just comes into nature and is living in
infinite abundance you know him I do
right that’s me I’m different I don’t
want to fit in and that’s why I’m having
the time of my life
and it feels fantastic the third thing
people don’t realize you’re doing
because you’re a people pleaser 7-days
Egan challenge a lot do you always have
what they’re having let’s talk about
food nutrition for one moment now
growing up I used to go out and eat a
lot with friends and family and
sometimes I was really afraid to speak
my mind when it came to ordering food
I’m like okay I’ll go with what they’re
having and then later on in life I
started to realize I wanted to eat a
plant-based diet but still had a lot of
people saying that Ralph you need to eat
meat to get protein like where are you
gonna get your protein from now at the
time I didn’t know any better I’m like
okay they’re right so I’m gonna people
please yes yes you’re so right now like
Ralph you need to drink cow’s milk I’m
like yes you’re so right right so I did
that for a long time until I realized I
was started to throw up in the doggie
terrible don’t worry about it because
thank goodness some common sense went
into me and I started to realize that
chia seeds are a complete source of
protein hemp seeds our complete source
of protein spirulina complete source of
protein so there were so many
alternatives right I don’t drink cow’s
milk I drink almond milk because I’ve
been a vegan for over 13 years and I
stopped people-pleasing
and what happened I lost all my friends
oh don’t worry about it
because I found new one right look you
want to be around people who respect
what you eat if you are raw foodist even
if you don’t need maybe a breatharian
something like that right the right
people will respect you for you I
respect people who eat whatever makes
them happy right that’s your business
but I know the plant-based diet works
for me and I’m not going to people
please just to make other people happy
[Music]
what’s the fourth thing people don’t
realize you’re doing because you’re a
people pleaser you are always afraid to
say no no no no can’t say no say it no I
used to be afraid to say no why is know
so scary because no sometimes for a
people pleaser is like you’re letting
the team down ah you’re so disappointing
so you don’t say no it’s like you rarely
ever say no if someone invites you to go
out to the club or whatever yes uh you
can’t see and you can’t say that was me
growing up right I couldn’t say no to
people people would ring my phone and
yeah say it rough nah can’t say it like
I could never say no right and if you’re
a people pleaser you know all about no
no you don’t because you never say it
you know all about yes you are a yes
person and I realize this I couldn’t
continue to live my life like a yes
person yes to your family yes to your
mom yeah
see a dad yes dear friend but that means
no motion aside you got to stay
authentic don’t say yes when you really
want to say no right just realize that
once again the right people will
gravitate towards you naturally you
don’t have to impress anyone not even
the cat down the road
what’s the 5th thing people don’t
realize you’re doing because you’re a
people pleaser you are always concerned
with how you look in a minute in the
eyes of wait a minute others this jacket
okay right now wait wait a minute let me
get this straight so you’re always
concerned with oh my gosh how you look
in the eyes of others right that’s a
people pleaser right there okay are you
having like 50 costume changes every
single day you’re never happy with what
you’re wearing you just bought new
clothes but you want to take them back
is that you right now today talk to me I
used to be me not 50 costume changes but
a few okay
because I’m like how can I get
everyone’s attention right now right yes
so many people pleasers
are so concerned so preoccupied so
worried about how other people see them
that sometimes it can make them really
unhappy and let me share with you what
helped me along my journey was to say
this look how you see yourself is really
the only thing that matters because
people always changing their minds
anyway aren’t they so you can’t please
everyone not everyone in the world love
mangoes yes they did
no they don’t yes they don’t no they
don’t right a few people don’t well most
people do
what’s the six thing
people don’t realize you’re doing
because you are a people pleaser you are
always seeking external validation like
you live your life based on how other
people value you right you’re only happy
when you get validated externally and
that was me for a long time because I
started to feel better when I had other
people’s approval before my own right
and it’s okay to be validated by other
people like you say do you think I’m
good enough and they say no I mean they
say yes right oh I’m so happy right now
okay that’s fantastic we are all
connected we need people it’s wonderful
to be loved and appreciated but what I
learned is that you’ve got to stop
validating yourself first how about how
about this how about validating your own
existence just for one second please can
we do that today cuz I’m not going to
judge you so don’t worry about it
but when you learn how to validate
yourself you become empowered because
you can’t count on every single person
to validate you every single second
there are problems of their own
right there are problems of their own
right so it starts with you confidence
starts with you
and many people pleasers still can’t do
that they can’t validate themselves and
once you learn how to do that you will
stop being such an annoying people
pleaser right what is the 7 thing people
don’t realize you’re doing because you
are a people pleaser
for you it’s hard to cut ties with
people even if they are toxic and it
happened to me along my journey because
I never want to upset people like I’m a
nice person
what does that mean anyway
right that’s why you’re probably a
people-pleaser because you have this
label of yourself as a nice person there
are no nice people new the lot boiler a
lot and there are no perfect people
there are only real people and that
really helped me along my journey what
will happen is if you are people pleaser
you can probably relate there’s a friend
of yours who always is trash-talking you
maybe even bullying you on the side and
you’re just like keeping them around you
are people pleaser like why are you
tolerating that nonsense that BS like is
that all your work so I got rid of them
because I’m like them right it’s time to
start inviting people with better energy
into your life can I get a Hello yeah
that’s better
so learn that it’s okay to let certain
people go to invite better energy into
your life that’s going to serve you in
the long run what’s the 8th thing people
don’t realize you’re doing because well
you’re a people pleaser you wait for it
apologize wait for it but absolutely
everything including being yourself like
I’m so sorry I was born right now should
I just go ever been around someone like
that they arrive like 1 minute late and
they’re like I’m so sorry like please
forgive me I’ll do anything I’ll even
scratch your back you’re like okay
scratch my back right now
that’s better right that’s a
people-pleaser now I used to be like
that that maybe you and what really got
me out of that was say you don’t have to
say sorry every five seconds it’s okay
to say sorry sometimes but don’t
apologize for being you don’t apologize
for making mistakes don’t apologize
or sometimes falling over on your I like
it happened trust me I’ve done it plenty
of time right it’s about time we began
to love ourselves don’t you think a
little bit more right and that really
helped me get over that hump right off
manic people-pleasing what’s the night
thing people don’t realize you’re doing
well because you’re a people pleaser you
make how much time do you make for
yourself you’re a people pleaser zero oh
because you’re so kind to yourself on
you right you make absolutely no time
for yourself
many people pleasers never have time for
themselves but they always have time for
other people and that’s a very very
dangerous way to live and I really got a
universal slap ouch universe is so
gentle when it slaps you it’s like this
wake up Ralph and I’m like okay what did
the universe tell me that look make time
for yourself the only reason why I can
share right now and inspire millions of
people is because I make time for myself
getting high and it feels fantastic but
if you’re a people pleaser you don’t
know about that you don’t know about
that life right because you always like
got no time for yourself well I’m here
to tell you it’s time to start making
time for yourself even if it’s just five
minutes a day like
we go for five minutes a day please
right and then you’ll see you’ll feel a
lot happier I did anyway
okay what’s the tenth thing people don’t
realize you’re doing because you are
people please look you overanalyze
everything and because of that you
neglect your own needs
right so over analyzing everything
analysis is paralysis slow motion this
life and I’m sometimes over analyzing
everything and I realized growing up it
was because I was a people pleaser I’ll
be like am I good enough am i wearing
this am i standing right my human being
okay and then when you get caught up
into over analyzing everything you
become less important your needs get put
at the back and then you get carried
away with work making the living without
really living with it right so I started
to realize you got to put your needs and
your health concerns at the forefront
got to start living in the moment
stop people-pleasing realize perfection
doesn’t exist anywhere I accept myself
100% what I have called unconditional
positive self-acceptance and that’s what
I live by and that’s why every single
day I wake up and I say feels so good to
be alive baby can I get a Hello there
much love you beautiful deep divers have
getting high infinitely diving pink ones
[Music]
you
you [Music]
again we’re out here in nature baby we
got the birds everywhere are you a
people pleaser
I admit I used to be a people pleaser
and it was pretty annoying because you
have to keep pleasing everyone every
single second gosh let’s just breathing
in that good off Prada baby ten things
people don’t realize you’re doing
because you’re a people pleaser
put your hand up if you are a people
pleaser oh my gosh they go what up
we even had breakfast yeah can I get a
hello
yeah so a lot of people write to me
about people-pleasing they are people
pleasers
and they don’t know what to do about it
so let me share with you what helped me
along my journey you see in our society
we love to please people and it’s okay
to please people but not at the expense
of your own well-being okay the first
thing people don’t realize you’re doing
because you’re a people pleaser is that
you listen to your parents and your
peers before you actually listen to
yourself and that was me because I was
always so concerned with the advice from
other people before ever listening to
myself is that you out there today
always listening to infinite waters
before you listen to yourself listen to
yourself first goodness gracious
okay and that was under a lot of
pressure growing up sometimes I used to
feel that my friends know better than me
my parents know better than me say hey
Ralph go and working that job that 9:00
to 5:00 for the rest of your life and
that’s it okay I’m gonna do it yes then
I realized
that was a recipe for disaster it’s not
about listening to even what your
parents say or your friends say it’s
about listening to yourself first and
foremost because you have to live with
you low motionless life what is the
second thing people don’t realize you’re
doing because you’re a people pleaser
fitting in getting in is not fitting in
is your worst nightmare Dhin Dhin Dhin
like the universe forbid that right
because you see people pleasers we love
to fit in we I’m not a people pleaser
anymore thank goodness right I talk
about
Indigo’s and stuff what’s that Ralph
well now you know okay admit that your
worst nightmare not fitting in because
standing gal oh my gosh I’m so exposed
right now that’s a people pleaser worst
nightmare and one my early journey
I too was like that I just wanted to sit
in never wanted to be controversial then
I started to talk about all kinds of
stuff then I was really cool okay so
sometimes what I will tell you if you
are a people pleaser and your worst
it’s the people who stand out that
really end up living their dream life
because they’re so different from the
norm right and it happened to me along
my journey because there’s this guy who
just comes into nature and is living in
infinite abundance you know him I do
right that’s me I’m different I don’t
want to fit in and that’s why I’m having
the time of my life
and it feels fantastic the third thing
people don’t realize you’re doing
because you’re a people pleaser 7-days
Egan challenge a lot do you always have
what they’re having let’s talk about
food nutrition for one moment now
growing up I used to go out and eat a
lot with friends and family and
sometimes I was really afraid to speak
my mind when it came to ordering food
I’m like okay I’ll go with what they’re
having and then later on in life I
started to realize I wanted to eat a
plant-based diet but still had a lot of
people saying that Ralph you need to eat
meat to get protein like where are you
gonna get your protein from now at the
time I didn’t know any better I’m like
okay they’re right so I’m gonna people
please yes yes you’re so right now like
Ralph you need to drink cow’s milk I’m
like yes you’re so right right so I did
that for a long time until I realized I
was started to throw up in the doggie
terrible don’t worry about it because
thank goodness some common sense went
into me and I started to realize that
chia seeds are a complete source of
protein hemp seeds our complete source
of protein spirulina complete source of
protein so there were so many
alternatives right I don’t drink cow’s
milk I drink almond milk because I’ve
been a vegan for over 13 years and I
stopped people-pleasing
and what happened I lost all my friends
oh don’t worry about it
because I found new one right look you
want to be around people who respect
what you eat if you are raw foodist even
if you don’t need maybe a breatharian
something like that right the right
people will respect you for you I
respect people who eat whatever makes
them happy right that’s your business
but I know the plant-based diet works
for me and I’m not going to people
please just to make other people happy
[Music]
what’s the fourth thing people don’t
realize you’re doing because you’re a
people pleaser you are always afraid to
say no no no no can’t say no say it no I
used to be afraid to say no why is know
so scary because no sometimes for a
people pleaser is like you’re letting
the team down ah you’re so disappointing
so you don’t say no it’s like you rarely
ever say no if someone invites you to go
out to the club or whatever yes uh you
can’t see and you can’t say that was me
growing up right I couldn’t say no to
people people would ring my phone and
yeah say it rough nah can’t say it like
I could never say no right and if you’re
a people pleaser you know all about no
no you don’t because you never say it
you know all about yes you are a yes
person and I realize this I couldn’t
continue to live my life like a yes
person yes to your family yes to your
mom yeah
see a dad yes dear friend but that means
no motion aside you got to stay
authentic don’t say yes when you really
want to say no right just realize that
once again the right people will
gravitate towards you naturally you
don’t have to impress anyone not even
the cat down the road
what’s the 5th thing people don’t
realize you’re doing because you’re a
people pleaser you are always concerned
with how you look in a minute in the
eyes of wait a minute others this jacket
okay right now wait wait a minute let me
get this straight so you’re always
concerned with oh my gosh how you look
in the eyes of others right that’s a
people pleaser right there okay are you
having like 50 costume changes every
single day you’re never happy with what
you’re wearing you just bought new
clothes but you want to take them back
is that you right now today talk to me I
used to be me not 50 costume changes but
a few okay
because I’m like how can I get
everyone’s attention right now right yes
so many people pleasers
are so concerned so preoccupied so
worried about how other people see them
that sometimes it can make them really
unhappy and let me share with you what
helped me along my journey was to say
this look how you see yourself is really
the only thing that matters because
people always changing their minds
anyway aren’t they so you can’t please
everyone not everyone in the world love
mangoes yes they did
no they don’t yes they don’t no they
don’t right a few people don’t well most
people do
what’s the six thing
people don’t realize you’re doing
because you are a people pleaser you are
always seeking external validation like
you live your life based on how other
people value you right you’re only happy
when you get validated externally and
that was me for a long time because I
started to feel better when I had other
people’s approval before my own right
and it’s okay to be validated by other
people like you say do you think I’m
good enough and they say no I mean they
say yes right oh I’m so happy right now
okay that’s fantastic we are all
connected we need people it’s wonderful
to be loved and appreciated but what I
learned is that you’ve got to stop
validating yourself first how about how
about this how about validating your own
existence just for one second please can
we do that today cuz I’m not going to
judge you so don’t worry about it
but when you learn how to validate
yourself you become empowered because
you can’t count on every single person
to validate you every single second
there are problems of their own
right there are problems of their own
right so it starts with you confidence
starts with you
and many people pleasers still can’t do
that they can’t validate themselves and
once you learn how to do that you will
stop being such an annoying people
pleaser right what is the 7 thing people
don’t realize you’re doing because you
are a people pleaser
for you it’s hard to cut ties with
people even if they are toxic and it
happened to me along my journey because
I never want to upset people like I’m a
nice person
what does that mean anyway
right that’s why you’re probably a
people-pleaser because you have this
label of yourself as a nice person there
are no nice people new the lot boiler a
lot and there are no perfect people
there are only real people and that
really helped me along my journey what
will happen is if you are people pleaser
you can probably relate there’s a friend
of yours who always is trash-talking you
maybe even bullying you on the side and
you’re just like keeping them around you
are people pleaser like why are you
tolerating that nonsense that BS like is
that all your work so I got rid of them
because I’m like them right it’s time to
start inviting people with better energy
into your life can I get a Hello yeah
that’s better
so learn that it’s okay to let certain
people go to invite better energy into
your life that’s going to serve you in
the long run what’s the 8th thing people
don’t realize you’re doing because well
you’re a people pleaser you wait for it
apologize wait for it but absolutely
everything including being yourself like
I’m so sorry I was born right now should
I just go ever been around someone like
that they arrive like 1 minute late and
they’re like I’m so sorry like please
forgive me I’ll do anything I’ll even
scratch your back you’re like okay
scratch my back right now
that’s better right that’s a
people-pleaser now I used to be like
that that maybe you and what really got
me out of that was say you don’t have to
say sorry every five seconds it’s okay
to say sorry sometimes but don’t
apologize for being you don’t apologize
for making mistakes don’t apologize
or sometimes falling over on your I like
it happened trust me I’ve done it plenty
of time right it’s about time we began
to love ourselves don’t you think a
little bit more right and that really
helped me get over that hump right off
manic people-pleasing what’s the night
thing people don’t realize you’re doing
well because you’re a people pleaser you
make how much time do you make for
yourself you’re a people pleaser zero oh
because you’re so kind to yourself on
you right you make absolutely no time
for yourself
many people pleasers never have time for
themselves but they always have time for
other people and that’s a very very
dangerous way to live and I really got a
universal slap ouch universe is so
gentle when it slaps you it’s like this
wake up Ralph and I’m like okay what did
the universe tell me that look make time
for yourself the only reason why I can
share right now and inspire millions of
people is because I make time for myself
getting high and it feels fantastic but
if you’re a people pleaser you don’t
know about that you don’t know about
that life right because you always like
got no time for yourself well I’m here
to tell you it’s time to start making
time for yourself even if it’s just five
minutes a day like
we go for five minutes a day please
right and then you’ll see you’ll feel a
lot happier I did anyway
okay what’s the tenth thing people don’t
realize you’re doing because you are
people please look you overanalyze
everything and because of that you
neglect your own needs
right so over analyzing everything
analysis is paralysis slow motion this
life and I’m sometimes over analyzing
everything and I realized growing up it
was because I was a people pleaser I’ll
be like am I good enough am i wearing
this am i standing right my human being
okay and then when you get caught up
into over analyzing everything you
become less important your needs get put
at the back and then you get carried
away with work making the living without
really living with it right so I started
to realize you got to put your needs and
your health concerns at the forefront
got to start living in the moment
stop people-pleasing realize perfection
doesn’t exist anywhere I accept myself
100% what I have called unconditional
positive self-acceptance and that’s what
I live by and that’s why every single
day I wake up and I say feels so good to
be alive baby can I get a Hello there
much love you beautiful deep divers have
getting high infinitely diving pink ones
[Music]
you
you [Music]
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