he’s infinite waters diving deep once
again body image anxiety how to deal
with him can I get a Hello so I covered
that and dress au rat story a lot of
people were typing away in the comment
section can you do a video on body image
anxiety because it affects so many of us
including myself along my journey I’ve
had to deal with it
I found out ways how to deal with it
when we talk of panic attacks anxiety a
lot of the emanates from our body image
how we perceive ourselves physically in
this 3d dimension now body image anxiety
has nothing to do with how you look let
me repeat that
body image anxiety has nothing to do
with how you look it’s got everything to
do with how you feel in the age of
Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube we
are all uploading pictures and moments
of ourselves to the world now no one is
gonna upload a picture of themselves on
the toilet or maybe you already did but
you are the brave one but most of us we
upload photos where we are smiling we
are in our best attire we are looking
fabulous but we never question how are
we feeling
that is why anxiety creeps up because we
are willing to spend thousands on that
new outfit on the new car to help our
body image
to go to the gym for 12 hours every day
but we never question how do I feel
about doing this Who am I doing it for
is it for the crowd is it for the
audience or is it because it makes me
feel good
so that is the foundation of dealing
with body image anxiety so look you’ve
got three people one is overweight and
guess what they want to lose weight
because they don’t like how they look so
they eventually lose weight and now they
are really thin but guess what they
don’t like how they look and then they
get into the perfect figure but guess
what they don’t like how they look but
what if I told you they weren’t three
people they were all the same person
that is what so many of us are dealing
with in the search for the perfect body
so how do we deal with this I can share
with you what’s helped me along my
journey and it starts with ditching the
standard you find power when you realize
that you have a unique body shape to
begin with but what happens when we
compare ourselves with people we see in
magazines who may have been photoshopped
airbrushed
or maybe that’s how they really look it
doesn’t matter because the moment you
try to become like someone else you can
never be like them so you end up being a
which makes you resent your true
authenticity because now you are
creating distance instead of intimacy so
ditching the standard is questioning who
puts up the standard who says this is
the perfect body in society
maybe companies maybe corporations so
this from childhood has been embedded
into your mind that this is the body I
want not because I want it but because
Society says it will take you places now
you can find the perfect boyfriend the
perfect girlfriend people will love you
because you look a certain way but what
happens when you place all of this
pressure on how you look guess what it
doesn’t matter if you finally get the
look because once again you have
invested absolutely no time in taking
care of how you feel so the first step
to dealing with body image anxiety is to
reconnect back to your feelings you can
do this through meditation going into
nature but most of all screw the
standard who cares more so create your
own standard give yourself your own
definition in essence put yourself in
your own leak now the fear disappears
which is false evidence appearing real
the reason why so many of us feel body
image anxiety is because we are
competing and comparing ourselves with
other people so what do I do let me take
you guys back to the fancy dress party
that’s what has helped me along my
journey have a fancy dress party any
event where you have to dress up in
really silly clothes or scary outfits or
whatever it is why do people feel so
liberated because they feel better
because it’s not about how they look as
it is as much as how much they want to
express themselves that’s the big word
here expression it’s not about having
the perfect body it’s about having the
perfect expression once you have the
perfect expression is wonderful to have
clothes that compliment you because it’s
an extension of who you are it’s not
solely who you are
so the fancy dress works by not caring
what anybody thinks of what you’re
wearing it is the ultimate freedom
because now you realise you are letting
go a hundred percent I don’t care I’m
not here to live up to your expectations
now the famous blue shirt I make videos
I’m a psychologist I counsel people
every single day about this topic people
always say oh I really like that shirt
you
wearing that famous blue shirt right so
what do I say I say thank you but did
you hear the message but what happens
when we think we are that blue shirt
when we think we are that dress
that someone said was so fabulous
now we think if I’m not wearing that
shirt that t-shirt if I don’t have that
dress those high heels that’s where your
confidence is because once again you are
externalizing your power so I’m out and
about I’m talking to a good friend and
I’m telling her imagine if someone said
I can tell you seem really happy in that
show because a lot of us when people are
talking we’re not listening to them
we’re judging them for what they’re
wearing so once again the clothes we
wear once you start not wearing it
because it makes you look good
instead it makes you feel good
the anxiety disappears because once
again all anxiety is born out of the
desire to escape the present moment so
once you start feeling good you will
tune yourself to the power of now and
now the anxiety vanishes fancy dress is
about tapping into your inner child
you’re having a party you’ve got friends
around no one cares about what you’re
wearing really they are just excited to
see you express yourself and they are
accepting you a hundred percent
why because you now accept yourself a
hundred percent you see many times we
compliment someone for working out oh my
gosh you’ve got a great body
but the real question we have to ask is
how do you feel we have to see this
person feeling great not just looking
great because that’s easy to feel great
takes a lot more work why because now
you have to start working on your
emotions the same person that is
overweight is missing something that
person that was thin is also missing
something that person has the perfect
body is missing something what are they
missing a distance from their true
emotions which are there in a guidance
system once you tune into that you
become more confident within yourself
you become more free within yourself and
you are not ashamed of who you are
because what happens when people are
spending so much time getting ready for
or five hours sometimes I grew up and
people were saying you’ve got to cut
your hair that’s the standard so I used
to cut my hair a lot but guess what I
would feel even more anxious because
once again there is too much pressure
once and desirability body image anxiety
emanates from the need to be desired by
other people body image anxiety
disappears when you have the need to be
desired by yourself that’s a secret when
you love yourself a hundred percent it
doesn’t matter how you look it only
matters how you feel so also in becoming
my greatest version I’ve seen that you
have to expose yourself once again
nobody wants to take a selfie when
they’re not ready to take a selfie
but that’s what you have to do because
we have to see these bodies are just
vehicles these bodies are temples but
inside of them is an essence so strong
is a truth so beautiful that is who you
are not just this but so many of us we
identify with this solely and that is
why a lot of anxiety comes up because we
have a lot of expectations not only from
out there but from the expectations we
place on ourselves so exposing yourself
once again
it goes back to ditching the standard it
goes back to wearing whatever you want
because it makes you feel good look who
are we trying to impress you have to
impress yourself first before you start
impressing other people you have to love
yourself first
before you can start loving other people
that’s how it works
and what I’ve been doing on a practical
level along my journey is just wearing
whatever I want because it’s not about
what I wear it’s about the message it’s
about seeing that these clothes are
complements of Who I am and that’s why I
love people who take pride in what they
wear as a form of expression as opposed
to it defining who they are it is an
extension of who they are I say love
your body the reason why so many of us
experience body image anxiety is because
we disregard our body we have a lack of
self-care which breeds anxiety that is
the perfect breeding gear that is the
perfect breeding ground for anxiety
a lack of self-care why because now once
again you become disconnected from the
truth of who you really are see the body
is a part of us and when you start
eating healthier foods you start to feel
better when you start to do what you
love when you’re in your life purpose
your life mission when you found a job
that works for you now your body image
improves how you perceive yourself
improves because the perception we have
of ourselves is greater than the
perception other people have of us you
become more accepting of yourself why
because all our emotions are stored
within our body all our feelings are
stored within our body so as a
psychologist I can agree that the body
is the subconscious mind however we are
feeling shows itself in our body so
loving your body for me has been about
letting go of junk food embracing more
plant-based foods full of phytonutrients
that has empowered me along my journey
that has given me the confidence to feel
better not look better to feel better
because the feeling is the internal the
looking is the external and yes they are
both connected but you need the feeling
first before you get the look a lot of
us we focus on the look first ah big
mistake I’ve seen you have to start
living from the inside out the only
reason I can share consistently is
because I love my body if I didn’t I
would hide away and run somewhere really
really fast it takes time to form this
deep intimacy with your body but we have
to ask ourselves who are we going to the
gym for are we going to the gym because
we want to be seen who are we doing yoga
for every day I do yoga every day but am
i doing it to impress you I’m sorry I’m
not because when it’s all said and done
would you still be doing what you’re
doing if nobody saw what you were doing
if you had to wear an invisible suit and
walk around but you could still train do
your exercise get in shape why are you
doing these things in the first place
because it empowers you it makes you
feel good but more so it allows you to
become your greatest version and that is
the secret so once you start loving your
body the next step I found so helpful
was getting over yourself
you see we are so neurotic as a society
meaning we are so obsessed with getting
it right what if I told you there is no
right or wrong there is no perfect body
because life is all about infinite
possibilities infinite expressions
infinite creations so when we spend our
whole life trying to fit in when we know
we were born to stand out we’ve got a
big problem when we spend our whole life
trying to look like that person in the
magazine who doesn’t even look like that
we’ve got a big problem when we spend
waiting for four hours to take the
perfect selfie we’ve got a problem why
not because it’s a bad thing to do
but because we are trying to be perfect
and that word perfect can create a lot
of problems more so it can serve as the
catalyst to body image anxiety so the
famous and dress–i you write story she
had a great body to begin with you see
the looks aren’t important when you are
dealing with body image anxiety why
because the only thing that matters is
how you see yourself she didn’t like how
she looked it didn’t matter if someone
said you’re beautiful you’re wonderful
she was uncomfortable with how she
looked so getting to the root of the
problem is all about getting over him
how do we get over it
once again when we see that letting go
of perfection is where perfection begins
because now you start working on your
heart space instead of just this outer
shell but what happens when you combine
the two mmm that is when great things
happen that is when you become super
powerful when you combine the two
together with how you feel now
complements and dictates how you look
that is it that is how to let go of body
image anxiety focus on the breath work
are we breathing deep from the base of
our spines do we feel nervous about the
job we’re doing because once again our
feelings are reflected in every single
cell within our body many times we
aspire to look like someone else
because we feel they are in a better
position some people say I want I want
the perfect body what happens when you
want whenever you want something you’re
sending a signal to the universe that
you don’t have what you desire therefore
you always remain in LAC so see yourself
already having it see yourself in your
mind your perception is already having
the perfect body that’s what I do every
day and for me I have the perfect body
for myself not for you don’t follow my
yoga routine my fitness routine my
eating routine do what works for you
that’s the secret until eventually you
realize you are not your body you are
this energy permeating all throughout
your body and that’s how to let go of
body image anxiety find a support
network connect with those who remind
you who you are
and realize we are so much more and this
body is the wonderful it’s a wonderful
vehicle but we have to see it as a
vehicle it’s a tool to get us from A to
B but the more we start doing the inner
work that’s where the real magic happens
love yourself a hundred percent we’re
here infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy
again body image anxiety how to deal
with him can I get a Hello so I covered
that and dress au rat story a lot of
people were typing away in the comment
section can you do a video on body image
anxiety because it affects so many of us
including myself along my journey I’ve
had to deal with it
I found out ways how to deal with it
when we talk of panic attacks anxiety a
lot of the emanates from our body image
how we perceive ourselves physically in
this 3d dimension now body image anxiety
has nothing to do with how you look let
me repeat that
body image anxiety has nothing to do
with how you look it’s got everything to
do with how you feel in the age of
Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube we
are all uploading pictures and moments
of ourselves to the world now no one is
gonna upload a picture of themselves on
the toilet or maybe you already did but
you are the brave one but most of us we
upload photos where we are smiling we
are in our best attire we are looking
fabulous but we never question how are
we feeling
that is why anxiety creeps up because we
are willing to spend thousands on that
new outfit on the new car to help our
body image
to go to the gym for 12 hours every day
but we never question how do I feel
about doing this Who am I doing it for
is it for the crowd is it for the
audience or is it because it makes me
feel good
so that is the foundation of dealing
with body image anxiety so look you’ve
got three people one is overweight and
guess what they want to lose weight
because they don’t like how they look so
they eventually lose weight and now they
are really thin but guess what they
don’t like how they look and then they
get into the perfect figure but guess
what they don’t like how they look but
what if I told you they weren’t three
people they were all the same person
that is what so many of us are dealing
with in the search for the perfect body
so how do we deal with this I can share
with you what’s helped me along my
journey and it starts with ditching the
standard you find power when you realize
that you have a unique body shape to
begin with but what happens when we
compare ourselves with people we see in
magazines who may have been photoshopped
airbrushed
or maybe that’s how they really look it
doesn’t matter because the moment you
try to become like someone else you can
never be like them so you end up being a
which makes you resent your true
authenticity because now you are
creating distance instead of intimacy so
ditching the standard is questioning who
puts up the standard who says this is
the perfect body in society
maybe companies maybe corporations so
this from childhood has been embedded
into your mind that this is the body I
want not because I want it but because
Society says it will take you places now
you can find the perfect boyfriend the
perfect girlfriend people will love you
because you look a certain way but what
happens when you place all of this
pressure on how you look guess what it
doesn’t matter if you finally get the
look because once again you have
invested absolutely no time in taking
care of how you feel so the first step
to dealing with body image anxiety is to
reconnect back to your feelings you can
do this through meditation going into
nature but most of all screw the
standard who cares more so create your
own standard give yourself your own
definition in essence put yourself in
your own leak now the fear disappears
which is false evidence appearing real
the reason why so many of us feel body
image anxiety is because we are
competing and comparing ourselves with
other people so what do I do let me take
you guys back to the fancy dress party
that’s what has helped me along my
journey have a fancy dress party any
event where you have to dress up in
really silly clothes or scary outfits or
whatever it is why do people feel so
liberated because they feel better
because it’s not about how they look as
it is as much as how much they want to
express themselves that’s the big word
here expression it’s not about having
the perfect body it’s about having the
perfect expression once you have the
perfect expression is wonderful to have
clothes that compliment you because it’s
an extension of who you are it’s not
solely who you are
so the fancy dress works by not caring
what anybody thinks of what you’re
wearing it is the ultimate freedom
because now you realise you are letting
go a hundred percent I don’t care I’m
not here to live up to your expectations
now the famous blue shirt I make videos
I’m a psychologist I counsel people
every single day about this topic people
always say oh I really like that shirt
you
wearing that famous blue shirt right so
what do I say I say thank you but did
you hear the message but what happens
when we think we are that blue shirt
when we think we are that dress
that someone said was so fabulous
now we think if I’m not wearing that
shirt that t-shirt if I don’t have that
dress those high heels that’s where your
confidence is because once again you are
externalizing your power so I’m out and
about I’m talking to a good friend and
I’m telling her imagine if someone said
I can tell you seem really happy in that
show because a lot of us when people are
talking we’re not listening to them
we’re judging them for what they’re
wearing so once again the clothes we
wear once you start not wearing it
because it makes you look good
instead it makes you feel good
the anxiety disappears because once
again all anxiety is born out of the
desire to escape the present moment so
once you start feeling good you will
tune yourself to the power of now and
now the anxiety vanishes fancy dress is
about tapping into your inner child
you’re having a party you’ve got friends
around no one cares about what you’re
wearing really they are just excited to
see you express yourself and they are
accepting you a hundred percent
why because you now accept yourself a
hundred percent you see many times we
compliment someone for working out oh my
gosh you’ve got a great body
but the real question we have to ask is
how do you feel we have to see this
person feeling great not just looking
great because that’s easy to feel great
takes a lot more work why because now
you have to start working on your
emotions the same person that is
overweight is missing something that
person that was thin is also missing
something that person has the perfect
body is missing something what are they
missing a distance from their true
emotions which are there in a guidance
system once you tune into that you
become more confident within yourself
you become more free within yourself and
you are not ashamed of who you are
because what happens when people are
spending so much time getting ready for
or five hours sometimes I grew up and
people were saying you’ve got to cut
your hair that’s the standard so I used
to cut my hair a lot but guess what I
would feel even more anxious because
once again there is too much pressure
once and desirability body image anxiety
emanates from the need to be desired by
other people body image anxiety
disappears when you have the need to be
desired by yourself that’s a secret when
you love yourself a hundred percent it
doesn’t matter how you look it only
matters how you feel so also in becoming
my greatest version I’ve seen that you
have to expose yourself once again
nobody wants to take a selfie when
they’re not ready to take a selfie
but that’s what you have to do because
we have to see these bodies are just
vehicles these bodies are temples but
inside of them is an essence so strong
is a truth so beautiful that is who you
are not just this but so many of us we
identify with this solely and that is
why a lot of anxiety comes up because we
have a lot of expectations not only from
out there but from the expectations we
place on ourselves so exposing yourself
once again
it goes back to ditching the standard it
goes back to wearing whatever you want
because it makes you feel good look who
are we trying to impress you have to
impress yourself first before you start
impressing other people you have to love
yourself first
before you can start loving other people
that’s how it works
and what I’ve been doing on a practical
level along my journey is just wearing
whatever I want because it’s not about
what I wear it’s about the message it’s
about seeing that these clothes are
complements of Who I am and that’s why I
love people who take pride in what they
wear as a form of expression as opposed
to it defining who they are it is an
extension of who they are I say love
your body the reason why so many of us
experience body image anxiety is because
we disregard our body we have a lack of
self-care which breeds anxiety that is
the perfect breeding gear that is the
perfect breeding ground for anxiety
a lack of self-care why because now once
again you become disconnected from the
truth of who you really are see the body
is a part of us and when you start
eating healthier foods you start to feel
better when you start to do what you
love when you’re in your life purpose
your life mission when you found a job
that works for you now your body image
improves how you perceive yourself
improves because the perception we have
of ourselves is greater than the
perception other people have of us you
become more accepting of yourself why
because all our emotions are stored
within our body all our feelings are
stored within our body so as a
psychologist I can agree that the body
is the subconscious mind however we are
feeling shows itself in our body so
loving your body for me has been about
letting go of junk food embracing more
plant-based foods full of phytonutrients
that has empowered me along my journey
that has given me the confidence to feel
better not look better to feel better
because the feeling is the internal the
looking is the external and yes they are
both connected but you need the feeling
first before you get the look a lot of
us we focus on the look first ah big
mistake I’ve seen you have to start
living from the inside out the only
reason I can share consistently is
because I love my body if I didn’t I
would hide away and run somewhere really
really fast it takes time to form this
deep intimacy with your body but we have
to ask ourselves who are we going to the
gym for are we going to the gym because
we want to be seen who are we doing yoga
for every day I do yoga every day but am
i doing it to impress you I’m sorry I’m
not because when it’s all said and done
would you still be doing what you’re
doing if nobody saw what you were doing
if you had to wear an invisible suit and
walk around but you could still train do
your exercise get in shape why are you
doing these things in the first place
because it empowers you it makes you
feel good but more so it allows you to
become your greatest version and that is
the secret so once you start loving your
body the next step I found so helpful
was getting over yourself
you see we are so neurotic as a society
meaning we are so obsessed with getting
it right what if I told you there is no
right or wrong there is no perfect body
because life is all about infinite
possibilities infinite expressions
infinite creations so when we spend our
whole life trying to fit in when we know
we were born to stand out we’ve got a
big problem when we spend our whole life
trying to look like that person in the
magazine who doesn’t even look like that
we’ve got a big problem when we spend
waiting for four hours to take the
perfect selfie we’ve got a problem why
not because it’s a bad thing to do
but because we are trying to be perfect
and that word perfect can create a lot
of problems more so it can serve as the
catalyst to body image anxiety so the
famous and dress–i you write story she
had a great body to begin with you see
the looks aren’t important when you are
dealing with body image anxiety why
because the only thing that matters is
how you see yourself she didn’t like how
she looked it didn’t matter if someone
said you’re beautiful you’re wonderful
she was uncomfortable with how she
looked so getting to the root of the
problem is all about getting over him
how do we get over it
once again when we see that letting go
of perfection is where perfection begins
because now you start working on your
heart space instead of just this outer
shell but what happens when you combine
the two mmm that is when great things
happen that is when you become super
powerful when you combine the two
together with how you feel now
complements and dictates how you look
that is it that is how to let go of body
image anxiety focus on the breath work
are we breathing deep from the base of
our spines do we feel nervous about the
job we’re doing because once again our
feelings are reflected in every single
cell within our body many times we
aspire to look like someone else
because we feel they are in a better
position some people say I want I want
the perfect body what happens when you
want whenever you want something you’re
sending a signal to the universe that
you don’t have what you desire therefore
you always remain in LAC so see yourself
already having it see yourself in your
mind your perception is already having
the perfect body that’s what I do every
day and for me I have the perfect body
for myself not for you don’t follow my
yoga routine my fitness routine my
eating routine do what works for you
that’s the secret until eventually you
realize you are not your body you are
this energy permeating all throughout
your body and that’s how to let go of
body image anxiety find a support
network connect with those who remind
you who you are
and realize we are so much more and this
body is the wonderful it’s a wonderful
vehicle but we have to see it as a
vehicle it’s a tool to get us from A to
B but the more we start doing the inner
work that’s where the real magic happens
love yourself a hundred percent we’re
here infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy
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