peace infinite waters diving deep once
again this is sexology water fire hot
cold yin-yang we’re out here in nature
is marvelous liars
cheaters and lovers how to deal with
cheating and lying in relationships I’ve
been receiving so many questions about
this subject so let’s get into it
first of all we all have to see that we
exist within each other beyond gender
there is energy and that is essential to
dealing with relationships
what is cheating first of all for
everyone it’s different because everyone
has a different interpretation of what
they consider to be cheating but some
people it’s hugging someone else it may
be kissing someone else on the cheek it
may be saying I love you in a message on
Facebook well I hope so we have to
realize that when we look at cheating
five ways to build a better relationship
communication is the first one and this
is essential the reason why a lot of
people may cheat in relationships is
because there has been a communication
breakdown and I think that like you said
there are so many different
interpretations or definitions but I
think the overall idea is that we often
tend to consider cheating a form of
sharing energy with another person
sharing energy but also maybe in a way
that’s not transparent and there is a
communication breakdown really
essentially what cheating signifies is a
break down and communicate
one thing I found is that so the five
ways communication this is the strength
in a relationship communication trust
passion fun and appreciation if one of
those five things is absent from a
relationship people may seek something
else outside of the relationship there
have been many studies on why men and
women cheat they say that men cheat in
relationships for approval women cheat
in relationships for attention now we
have to remember one thing and what’s
helped me on my journey is to realize
that living in this 3d dimension many of
us our love is about possession
ownership we have to move into the
universal love energy where we say to
ourselves I do not own this person I am
with I own you you’re mine no we own
nobody
once you can feel that within yourself
you don’t become so protective over
someone you’re with because people feel
that energy and if people feel they are
being drained then they move outside of
the relationship we also have to
remember about responsibility we attract
what we are we chose to be in this
relationship and that is fundamental
when we look at cheating no one is
making us be with this person resonance
is the key we are with the person we are
with because we both made a mutual
agreement at any time we can place
ourselves where we choose to be and just
to go back to the idea of men cheat for
an attention
for approval women cheat for attention
I just want to also just want to
emphasize one point is that when you
feel that you are in a relationship and
your partner has cheated that is no way
a reflection of you being unworthy of
love or you being unworthy of open and
honest communication we really have to
be careful because such things may
happen and we will see that in many
relationships how we respond to it how
we interpret it is key is key to our own
process of self growth and it’s key to
really looking into those parts of
ourselves that need love attention that
perhaps make us feel at times incomplete
without the other person or make us feel
that this person went out and sought
another relationship because we’re
lacking in some aspect that is not the
case because that person can never the
person the other woman the other man can
never provide something that is a
replacement to what you have we are all
very unique in our own ways in every way
so it’s not about being replaced it’s
not about being unworthy it’s so
important to remember that and also to
realize that cheating signifies a
certain kind of weakness in the other
person I know we may see it as because
our ego is responding and we’re feeling
hurt how did this person go and honesty
is the best policy
yes lack of honesty is a weakness it’s a
weakness in a person’s ability to really
share and face the truth what whatever
that truth comes with so if your partner
was not feeling strong enough to
communicate with you their thoughts
their needs their desires their feelings
about another person that’s that’s a
weakness that’s a weakness but that’s
something they need to address
themselves what we need to concern
ourselves with is why we are still why
we still in the relationship is the self
love is the best love and the more you
love yourself you see the secret that
the greatest relationship we can have is
with ourselves therefore we say to
ourselves I am worthy for the best
relationship in the world in essence you
seek your complement your true
complement another great big awakening
moment for me was to realize that
cheating occurs when we don’t know each
other’s boundaries that is a secret so
you have to know your boundaries you
have to know her boundaries and that is
how it works once we have the boundaries
established we can begin to grow what is
acceptable for you may not be acceptable
for someone else and that is why many
people cheat because there’s a
communication breakdown certain people
feel it’s okay to do certain things a
big sign someone is cheating or lying
you phone them ring ring where are you
ah if they if you have that earth for
more than five seconds and it’s over but
in all respects it’s really about seeing
that we have to transcend and move to a
higher state of being in terms of
relationships where we can be honest and
open with people because we have to
share our love with everyone we come
into contact with but if your partner is
not okay with that then you’ve got a
problem some people are okay with
monogamy some people they work better in
an open relationship so we have to see
what works with us there is no right or
wrong in the universe there are only
actions and consequences and just one
thing I would like to share because I
have been on both sides of of this
spectrum having been in a relationship
where the other person cheated and
having been in relationships where I
cheated where I saw another relationship
without open communicate
without transparency and just one thing
I know it’s hard for us to accept or
come to terms with when we’re feeling
her betrayed let down by another person
is that there is something that we share
in common like the person that cheated
and the person that’s being cheated on
and that is our need to fill a certain
void that we feel only another person
outside of us can fill so the person
that’s cheating is really has a certain
void within them that they feel the
other person only another relationship
will be able to fill and because they’ve
already exhausted
this really connection they have with
one person it wears off you know and
they feel like they’ve got to go
somewhere else they’ve got to seek
something else some kind of excitement
you know an adrenaline rush and the
person is being cheated on is feeling
betrayed and because they feel that
there’s they may feel that their sense
of worthiness and feeling whole and
complete comes from that person being
connected to them and approving of them
so when that connection is disrupted
that feeling of inadequacy comes out and
so it’s really important to look to
really examine that feeling of
worthiness why why do I have to seek
someone outside of me to affirm that I
am worthy that I’m worthy of love begin
loving yourself and remember that the
moment you say if you are a woman all
men cheat then you’re sending a signal
out to the universe and you will receive
what you send out there you will
continue to meet men that she just as if
you are a man
so cheating is not exclusive to men or
women anyone can cheat I think it’s also
the way we have been socialized and I
really want to send a message to the men
and women but particularly to men
because we have been socialized to think
that it’s if it’s some kind of it’s
powerful you know when a man can
set his own rules and seek whoever he
wants to see be with whoever he wants to
be it’s it’s empower ‘fl maybe it in
some cases it’s even praised or approved
you know that he can be in more than one
relationship but I just want to urge you
to really look at how this empowering
that is how weak that is because if you
really if you want to be with another
person go be with another person but
handle the consequence right so don’t be
with someone and while it’s still going
on be with that person you want to be
that is the secret yes right and unshare
beyond I’m shattered chair
talk to your partner I I think
oftentimes we think we know that if we
share openly that that will change or
maybe end our relationship with the
person that we’re with but I truly think
that it’s an an act of selfishness and
it’s not selfishness in the sense of
loving oneself and being whole and
complete within oneself but it’s an act
of selfishness in the sense of knowing
that my open communication may change
the dynamics so I choose to withhold
information so that I can continue to be
in this relationship while creating
other other relationships the other
thing we really have to be aware of is
that relationships are a dance of energy
so when we bring another person into our
lives without the open communication
without being transparent we are
bringing our current partner and the new
partner or partners into this fusion and
dance of energy without them knowingly
and willingly wanting to be there so we
really have to be mindful right remember
that we all have to be happy in
relationships but being happy means
knowing thyself knowing what you want
and what is also best for your partner
honesty is the best policy so don’t be
with someone
and not become honest with them because
then you’ll be being dishonest to two
people at the same time possibly more
possibly more it depends how many you’ve
got on your list with Facebook going off
but we’re in nature infinite waters stay
healthy stay happy stay balanced stay
loving once though
diving deep and if you have any more
questions email us let us know this is a
sexology we’ll see if we can do this
every week if you want us to email us peace we did a slightly different ending
again this is sexology water fire hot
cold yin-yang we’re out here in nature
is marvelous liars
cheaters and lovers how to deal with
cheating and lying in relationships I’ve
been receiving so many questions about
this subject so let’s get into it
first of all we all have to see that we
exist within each other beyond gender
there is energy and that is essential to
dealing with relationships
what is cheating first of all for
everyone it’s different because everyone
has a different interpretation of what
they consider to be cheating but some
people it’s hugging someone else it may
be kissing someone else on the cheek it
may be saying I love you in a message on
Facebook well I hope so we have to
realize that when we look at cheating
five ways to build a better relationship
communication is the first one and this
is essential the reason why a lot of
people may cheat in relationships is
because there has been a communication
breakdown and I think that like you said
there are so many different
interpretations or definitions but I
think the overall idea is that we often
tend to consider cheating a form of
sharing energy with another person
sharing energy but also maybe in a way
that’s not transparent and there is a
communication breakdown really
essentially what cheating signifies is a
break down and communicate
one thing I found is that so the five
ways communication this is the strength
in a relationship communication trust
passion fun and appreciation if one of
those five things is absent from a
relationship people may seek something
else outside of the relationship there
have been many studies on why men and
women cheat they say that men cheat in
relationships for approval women cheat
in relationships for attention now we
have to remember one thing and what’s
helped me on my journey is to realize
that living in this 3d dimension many of
us our love is about possession
ownership we have to move into the
universal love energy where we say to
ourselves I do not own this person I am
with I own you you’re mine no we own
nobody
once you can feel that within yourself
you don’t become so protective over
someone you’re with because people feel
that energy and if people feel they are
being drained then they move outside of
the relationship we also have to
remember about responsibility we attract
what we are we chose to be in this
relationship and that is fundamental
when we look at cheating no one is
making us be with this person resonance
is the key we are with the person we are
with because we both made a mutual
agreement at any time we can place
ourselves where we choose to be and just
to go back to the idea of men cheat for
an attention
for approval women cheat for attention
I just want to also just want to
emphasize one point is that when you
feel that you are in a relationship and
your partner has cheated that is no way
a reflection of you being unworthy of
love or you being unworthy of open and
honest communication we really have to
be careful because such things may
happen and we will see that in many
relationships how we respond to it how
we interpret it is key is key to our own
process of self growth and it’s key to
really looking into those parts of
ourselves that need love attention that
perhaps make us feel at times incomplete
without the other person or make us feel
that this person went out and sought
another relationship because we’re
lacking in some aspect that is not the
case because that person can never the
person the other woman the other man can
never provide something that is a
replacement to what you have we are all
very unique in our own ways in every way
so it’s not about being replaced it’s
not about being unworthy it’s so
important to remember that and also to
realize that cheating signifies a
certain kind of weakness in the other
person I know we may see it as because
our ego is responding and we’re feeling
hurt how did this person go and honesty
is the best policy
yes lack of honesty is a weakness it’s a
weakness in a person’s ability to really
share and face the truth what whatever
that truth comes with so if your partner
was not feeling strong enough to
communicate with you their thoughts
their needs their desires their feelings
about another person that’s that’s a
weakness that’s a weakness but that’s
something they need to address
themselves what we need to concern
ourselves with is why we are still why
we still in the relationship is the self
love is the best love and the more you
love yourself you see the secret that
the greatest relationship we can have is
with ourselves therefore we say to
ourselves I am worthy for the best
relationship in the world in essence you
seek your complement your true
complement another great big awakening
moment for me was to realize that
cheating occurs when we don’t know each
other’s boundaries that is a secret so
you have to know your boundaries you
have to know her boundaries and that is
how it works once we have the boundaries
established we can begin to grow what is
acceptable for you may not be acceptable
for someone else and that is why many
people cheat because there’s a
communication breakdown certain people
feel it’s okay to do certain things a
big sign someone is cheating or lying
you phone them ring ring where are you
ah if they if you have that earth for
more than five seconds and it’s over but
in all respects it’s really about seeing
that we have to transcend and move to a
higher state of being in terms of
relationships where we can be honest and
open with people because we have to
share our love with everyone we come
into contact with but if your partner is
not okay with that then you’ve got a
problem some people are okay with
monogamy some people they work better in
an open relationship so we have to see
what works with us there is no right or
wrong in the universe there are only
actions and consequences and just one
thing I would like to share because I
have been on both sides of of this
spectrum having been in a relationship
where the other person cheated and
having been in relationships where I
cheated where I saw another relationship
without open communicate
without transparency and just one thing
I know it’s hard for us to accept or
come to terms with when we’re feeling
her betrayed let down by another person
is that there is something that we share
in common like the person that cheated
and the person that’s being cheated on
and that is our need to fill a certain
void that we feel only another person
outside of us can fill so the person
that’s cheating is really has a certain
void within them that they feel the
other person only another relationship
will be able to fill and because they’ve
already exhausted
this really connection they have with
one person it wears off you know and
they feel like they’ve got to go
somewhere else they’ve got to seek
something else some kind of excitement
you know an adrenaline rush and the
person is being cheated on is feeling
betrayed and because they feel that
there’s they may feel that their sense
of worthiness and feeling whole and
complete comes from that person being
connected to them and approving of them
so when that connection is disrupted
that feeling of inadequacy comes out and
so it’s really important to look to
really examine that feeling of
worthiness why why do I have to seek
someone outside of me to affirm that I
am worthy that I’m worthy of love begin
loving yourself and remember that the
moment you say if you are a woman all
men cheat then you’re sending a signal
out to the universe and you will receive
what you send out there you will
continue to meet men that she just as if
you are a man
so cheating is not exclusive to men or
women anyone can cheat I think it’s also
the way we have been socialized and I
really want to send a message to the men
and women but particularly to men
because we have been socialized to think
that it’s if it’s some kind of it’s
powerful you know when a man can
set his own rules and seek whoever he
wants to see be with whoever he wants to
be it’s it’s empower ‘fl maybe it in
some cases it’s even praised or approved
you know that he can be in more than one
relationship but I just want to urge you
to really look at how this empowering
that is how weak that is because if you
really if you want to be with another
person go be with another person but
handle the consequence right so don’t be
with someone and while it’s still going
on be with that person you want to be
that is the secret yes right and unshare
beyond I’m shattered chair
talk to your partner I I think
oftentimes we think we know that if we
share openly that that will change or
maybe end our relationship with the
person that we’re with but I truly think
that it’s an an act of selfishness and
it’s not selfishness in the sense of
loving oneself and being whole and
complete within oneself but it’s an act
of selfishness in the sense of knowing
that my open communication may change
the dynamics so I choose to withhold
information so that I can continue to be
in this relationship while creating
other other relationships the other
thing we really have to be aware of is
that relationships are a dance of energy
so when we bring another person into our
lives without the open communication
without being transparent we are
bringing our current partner and the new
partner or partners into this fusion and
dance of energy without them knowingly
and willingly wanting to be there so we
really have to be mindful right remember
that we all have to be happy in
relationships but being happy means
knowing thyself knowing what you want
and what is also best for your partner
honesty is the best policy so don’t be
with someone
and not become honest with them because
then you’ll be being dishonest to two
people at the same time possibly more
possibly more it depends how many you’ve
got on your list with Facebook going off
but we’re in nature infinite waters stay
healthy stay happy stay balanced stay
loving once though
diving deep and if you have any more
questions email us let us know this is a
sexology we’ll see if we can do this
every week if you want us to email us peace we did a slightly different ending
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