How to Talk to People Without Feeling Awkward

peace infinite waters diving deep once
again how to talk to people without
feeling awkward without feeling scared
without feeling nervous can I get a
hello there I get a lot of questions
around this subject people who are in
their workplace but they don’t feel they
can be themselves people who are in a
relationship but they don’t feel they
can be themselves what are we talking
about here we’re talking about
expression I’ve seen a lot my journey
that all around us we are surrounded by
social media technology but there is
very little connection it’s not that we
don’t want to communicate it’s that we
don’t know how I’ve read hundreds of
self-help books and guess what it didn’t
help much you have to step into radical
action to overcome this fear let me
share with you what’s helped me along my
journey in the great words of Terence
Mckenna
culture is not your friend growing up
your family wanted you to do this if you
said no now you are cast away so a lot
of us are subconscious programming is to
always accept what other people won
therefore guess what we don’t want to
offend people we don’t want to upset
people to nice for our own good but it
backfires why because now we suppress
all of this energy until one day you are
going to explode
much of our social interactions are
based around the image we have of
ourselves in our minds how do you see
yourself that’s the only thing that
matters and this is what holds us back
that’s the trap once you have this
identity which is fearful it’s very hard
to be calm I say the first moment you
were embarrassed is the first moment you
lost your innocence why because now we
are protecting this identity but what is
this identity it’s all bs belief systems
who are you Who am I
I don’t know all I know is what I put in
there but guess what you can always
rewrite it when we are awkward around
people we have to move into our body
because that is where all our emotions
and feeling that’s where the feelings
like a lot of us what do we want to do
we want to start thinking about how
we’re going to talk to this person that
just come round to your house for a cup
of tea you’ve never met them before an
old distant relative so we’re smiling
but we’re not really doing it genuinely
when you breathe from the base of your
spine you have this euphoria it gives
you the clarity now you can say what are
my energetic boundaries I’m not just
going to absorb what people are saying
around me because that’s what makes us
awkward I have found that it’s all about
having an interest
when you have a common interest now you
don’t feel awkward but what is happening
a lot of us we’re working in
environments which aren’t complimenting
our energy we know we shouldn’t be there
but we’re still there you see so
therefore in the staff room or even in a
relationship that’s not serving you we
have to pretend we have to wear a mask a
new mask for a new day until eventually
we don’t even know who we are it’s all
about reconnecting back to your true
authenticity what’s allowed me to share
and what keeps allowing me to express
myself a hundred percent is to break
structure you have to lose all your
expectations you have of me you know why
because I have lost all expectations I
have of me this beautiful flow that you
create within yourself allows you to
accept yourself for instance when I’m
making videos I don’t stop on one video
because I don’t care about the product
the outcome I’m only concerned with the
process it’s never what you say it’s the
energy behind that matters if I was just
all the time in my head what am I gonna
say should I say it like this shall I
say like that
I wouldn’t be able to get any sleep and
you would be the reason for them I have
to sleep it’s all about loosening up
it’s all about seeing your worth because
when we are feeling awkward anxious
tense around people many times is
because we have an inferiority complex
there is hierarchy you are down below
someone is above you so we’re looking up
to them that always creates fear
sometimes it’s because we have too much
on the line that is why we feel awkward
talking to people you’ve been in the
situation where you’re at work and you
want to speak your truth maybe you’ve
started to discover what kind of a world
we live in as a collective the truth
about the matrix and you share this with
one of your work colleagues and guess
what they say oh yeah that makes sense
but guess what
we better get back to work because we’re
not here for that we’re here to do a job
therefore we have to take a hundred
percent responsibility for the
environment we place ourselves in every
single day I love talking to people now
because it’s coming from authentic space
I haven’t got time for surface
relationships that’s why the social
media I use I just post pictures but I
prefer meeting people face to face when
you do this you begin to lose this
mirage of separation this illusion we’ve
all created from the persona the ego has
been given a bad rap in psychology I say
embrace your ego your sense of I because
it is through contrast that we discover
the AI is that voice it is that
deserve more I am worthy for more you
see a lot of us we have silenced
ourselves so that’s why it feels awkward
talking to people
we’re just listening all the time we
the human body works through
reinforcement the more you do something
the stronger it becomes therefore I say
I’m not learning
I’m unlearning because we have all
accumulated so much junk it’s just like
your room
it’s a beautiful mess you clear it now
you feel lighter within yourself within
yourself you feel more confident more
calm whenever we are around other people
we must never blame them for our lack of
expression because they are there to
show us if we are who we say we are that
is the challenge
how will we rise to the occasion I say
what’s helped me is taking small steps
don’t run away from people you don’t
want to talk to face them
and then feel why you don’t want to talk
to them have that confidence to stand by
you if people say you want to go out
tonight no yes speak with conviction
knowing that you can never offend
anybody once you are vibrating in your
overthinking is the art of creating
problems that never existed in the first
place I say whatever you focus on gross
so if we are feeling awkward by you
focusing on your awkwardness it is
creating that ripple effect focus on
what is going on for you that makes you
feel confident the other person may just
be as nervous as you are
look at the scenario you meet someone
but you feel awkward but you really want
to talk to them and you say to yourself
in your mind don’t worry
I’ll see them tomorrow tomorrow is not
promised and guess what tomorrow comes
you don’t see them now you go home and
you spend four hours thinking about what
has just happened making you more
awkward so now it is even harder to
express yourself to someone it is even
harder to express how you really feel
because we’ve been waiting we’ve been
is the biggest secret I’ve learned I can
talk to anyone because I’m not looking
at their status I’m not looking at how
much money they have in their bank
account or how big their houses I don’t
care about none of them I am seeing them
as energy and ultimately that is what we
are that is what I identify myself with
pure energy we feel awkward a lot of the
times because we’re afraid of making
mistakes we’re afraid of being laughed
at being mopped to talk to people
without feeling awkward we have to be
prepared for that more so we have to see
that is inevitable when you start
speaking your truth people will love you
at the same time people will also not be
resonating with what you have to say it
doesn’t bother me one bit who listens to
me because the longer you do something
that you’re passionate about everything
becomes clear like a beautiful summers
day I’m already on to the next one I
keep it moving and it’s about losing
your fear to step into your true
authenticity in that place you see you
can talk to anyone we are here infinite
waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy peace