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How to Stop People You Care About Becoming Distant Strangers To You


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Pease and Finnick waters diving deep
once again we are out here in the heart
and nature baby beautiful day whoa
breathing in that good-ass prawn baby
how to stop making good friends
strangers like it was all good just a
week ago how to never make those you
care about grow so distant that’s the
question that came in someone says they
were great friends with someone now all
of a sudden they don’t even know who
they are and we an even had breakfast
yet
and that’s a great question
I’m gonna share with you what’s helped
me along my journey now we need people
anyone who says they don’t need anybody
they must be a unicorn okay what happens
when there are people that we care about
and then all of a sudden they grow so
distant okay it happened to me along my
journey a long time ago and I’m gonna
share with you what I learned what I
found out and how I solved this problem
because a lot of people are going
through it right what is stopping you
from forming that incredible friendship
that relationship it could even be with
your family members right certain people
haven’t spoken to their parents in like
ten years they don’t even know what they
okay I’m gonna share with you ten simple
ways that’s helped me along my journey
to not make great friends become
strangers right those who really care
about now what first help me along my
journey was to realize this before you
speak before you open your mouth to say
it has to go through three gates ask
yourself is this kind what I’m about to
say probably not
don’t worry about it okay is it truthful
and is it necessary because how
friendships connections relationships
how they drift apart is through worse
okay reverse worst swords okay words are
powerful words can cut you they can also
heal you and however you talk to someone
is either gonna help out the situation
or gonna make it a whole lot worse okay
just by something you said now someone’s
taking a whole nother way and now look
where you both are okay so a simple word
is just like I get where you’re coming
from just saying that can do so much
more than saying you’re wrong I’m right
okay you’re saying that to someone who
was there for you at one point and now
all of the sudden you’ve said it and now
you don’t want to take it back cuz you
hurt right now okay but by you saying
that now you’re not talking for like
five years and it doesn’t take much just
to say okay I get where you’re coming
from
so ask yourself whenever you speak to
someone is it kind is it necessary and
is it the truth because we just say a
whole bunch of Lies when we feel hurt
when we feel someone has wronged us even
if it’s someone we care about okay
growing up sometimes I would get in
little debates with people in my family
and then I would say stuff which wasn’t
true okay so you have to check yourself
on a daily basis to say okay is this
going through the three gates kind
truthful and necessary is it necessary
right now is it you have to find out kid
what’s the second simple way that helped
me along my journey not to make great
friends people that you care about
become strangers is what I call foolish
pride now along my early journey I had a
bit of foolish pride and I started to
see okay I get it you see a whole entire
lives a lot of us we develop this
persona and that’s very difficult to
break away from if you’re not self-aware
I became self-aware and I realize okay
I’m not this person this persona this
masked I’m carrying around but let’s
just say let’s just say you actually
believe you are this persona so you
develop what I call Hulett pride and
then the other person develops what I
call foolish pride as well and it’s your
pride that drifts both of you
apart from each other too much pride and
both of you aren’t grounded to see
actually okay we’ve got something to
share right now okay cuz pride whoa it
will even turn you against the cat down
the road you’re like I don’t want to
spend any time with the cat down the
road because I’m too good for it
you don’t want to be like that okay cat
down the road is awesome so I had to
start realizing foolish pride comes
about when people can’t surrender
okay people can’t admit that okay both
of us need to check ourselves we need to
apologize we need to go back and just
take a hike together okay can we do that
we can do that okay let’s put it all
behind us
but you see foolish pride will make you
hold on to a grudge but not one year but
three years not three years but five
years until eventually you both realize
that you haven’t been talking to each
other for this long and both of you
don’t even know why okay could be even
an old childhood friend okay just
because of foolish pride so stop living
in the mind so much move down to your
heart space that’s what’s helped me
along my journey okay
what’s the third simple way to stop
making people you care about become so
distant seven day vegan challenge I get
it and I know this is probably happening
to you when I shifted towards a
plant-based diet 12 years ago a lot of
my family members were like what are you
doing and I had to explain myself to say
okay don’t worry guys I’m gonna get
enough protein from Chia I’m gonna get
enough protein from him okay because
they thought I was flippin crazy okay
you’re not gonna eat any animals no eggs
right it’s bad enough when you tell your
family you don’t want to eat meat okay
let alone you don’t want to eat any eggs
or milk drink milk or whatnot okay I was
doing the whole lot I was going radical
but actually it wasn’t okay that was
just
me moving towards a better lifestyle
okay and I have started to realize
because of me becoming a vegan eating a
plant-based diet it started to affect my
relationships even with my family even
with my partner at the time okay because
they weren’t eating what I was eating
and I started to realize okay certain
people I care about just because what
I’m eating we are drifting apart so when
they would invite me to go out to a
restaurant I would be like at first I’ll
be like no I can’t do it because there
is nothing there on the vegan menu and I
started to realize wait a minute it
means I have to literally turn down
every every every invitation that’s not
that’s not good okay so what helped me
was to say actually look I can invite
them to come come I can invite them to
come out with me to eat and I can go out
with them to eat and I’ll just drink
some green tea okay and that’s what I
did and then the relationships just they
became better until eventually family
members they got it they were like okay
Ralph eats grass watercress actually
right that’s great
kale yes and then they started to become
more open-minded till in fact a lot of
them started to transition towards a
plant-based diet that’s what happens
slow motion this side what’s number four
a fourth way simple way okay to not make
great friends become strangers it was
all good just a week ago a few days ago
a few seconds ago is this
daily watering that’s what’s helped me
along my journey you see the longer you
don’t talk to someone that’s fine that
can work but there has to be a super
deep connection you see and a lot of the
times just that daily watering can do so
much just a message like I’m always
sharing messages so my friends get to
see me every single day right that’s
enough okay
we want to share a message sometimes
even if you’re not talking to them every
single day just keep sharing what you’re
sharing so they can see you but daily
watering is where you can call them you
can meet them up just for a breakfast we
ain’t even had breakfast yet so go and
have it okay daily watering you pay them
a compliment you send them something in
the posts you write a letter who does
that anymore
nobody knows okay send them an email if
you want to do that write daily watering
does so much like show them okay show
them that you care through action words
are great but show them through action
as well and it does a lot daily watering
like always always show people how much
what’s the fifth simple way to stop
making great friends become strangers
now I’ve spoken about foolish pride how
that creates separation right
let’s talk about the ego which I always
say is what is one of the primary
reasons why people don’t talk to each
other who will want friends for like
eight years
okay the ego creates separation period
and a lot of us we actually believe we
are egos so sometimes when we actually
with certain people in the presence of
certain people our ego takes over and it
changes us it transforms us into totally
different people
and it doesn’t allow us to surrender
okay cuz only the heart can do that slow
motion this side and I would realize
along my early early journey when I
would sometimes be in the ego a lot and
the ego is not negative by the ways for
our survival is just that once you start
identifying solely with the ego it
becomes a problem and come to that later
so I started to realize okay I’m living
upstairs I’m in my ego I’m all about
survival and because of that people I
care about I didn’t have time for
and a lot of people say I don’t have
time but there is always time it’s just
a matter of priorities ok so I started
to realize if you are in the hot space
and that’s why it’s so important to
realize how important it is to open your
heart chakra you surrender totally
that’s why children are so open to other
children okay because they haven’t
formed that massive massive ego yet okay
because once again children do get a lot
of things done for them so they don’t
have to worry about surviving once
you’re into the wide wide world massive
arena okay a lot of people working they
got bills to pay babies to feed
okay so ego is always like I’ve got to
survive I’ve got to survive so you move
out of your heart space and now people
that you care about you grow distant so
to start coming closer together start
living more in your heart space take a
deep breath baby number six
okay the sick way simple way that helped
me along my journey to not make great
friends become strangers baby baby is to
realize that it’s okay it’s okay to be
absent okay even from great friends
family members partners to make people
appreciate your true Worth
because once people are absent you start
to realize okay wow this person it’s
amazing being I’ve just been taking them
for granted for so long
okay and what really helped me along my
journey was to say absence is not a
negative thing okay that’s actually what
brings people closer together so don’t
feel okay because you’re not talking to
them it’s a bad thing just realize
actually now how much you really miss
them okay own up to it say yeah I really
miss you yeah and then just talk to them
meet them up and then everything is all
beautiful okay so the absence embrace it
okay if you’re not talking embrace it
and then reflect upon how much they
actually mean to you okay how much you
miss them own up to it cuz foolish pride
will make you feel like you don’t even
miss them when you really do you really
do you really do even the cat out no
even the cat down the road knows you do
come off it okay
what’s number seven baby the seventh
simple way to stop making people you
care about grow so distant do you have a
common interest this is what’s helped me
along my journey I know that certain
people come into our lives for a reason
and sometimes it’s a lesson sometimes
it’s a lesson and sometimes it’s
blessing sometimes it’s for a short time
sometimes for a long time and that’s
fine because everything happens for a
reason you don’t want to be in a
resistance to it it’s just that if you
have an interest both of you have an
interest
okay chances are you’re gonna come
closer together and chances are it was a
real authentic relationship to begin
with if you are growing apart chances
are your friendship your connection your
relationship was already built on a
shitty key foundation to begin with
meaning there was nothing both of you
had to talk about in the first place
so I’m a deep diver I inspire millions
to become their greatest version now I
know other people were doing similar
things I got friends who will always
diving deep with I’m always diving deep
okay and sometimes if I say okay I’ve
been spoken to this person for like two
years
oh my gosh don’t worry about it I just
say yeah wait a minute we forgot that
conversation on the Akashic records okay
then we’re and we’re right back in it
then we are right back in it okay cuz
area of interest whenever you both are
passionate about something you grow
closer together okay so that’s how you
do it remember how passionate they got
you remember the people who inspired you
along your journey the people that
helped you when no one else was around
these are the people you gotta honor
baby what’s number eight how to stop
making great friends become strangers no
they’re worth honor they’re worth right
a lot of people don’t realize how people
actually impact them like my mentor when
I was going through a really rough time
even my mom right these are people who
are gonna pay homage to because they
helped me in a very very bad situation
okay when I was lost confused right so
let’s just say that happened to a great
friend of mine certain times it has I’ve
had great friends who I’m like wait a
minute
they really impacted my life I can’t let
these people disappear like that
it’s just not gonna happen okay so I say
it’s not gonna happen because I know
their worth and I honor what they have
done for me okay so you gotta really be
very meditative about it very
contemplative about it right contemplate
on everything they’ve done for you and
what you’ve done for them and how you
feel when you are around them
slow motion this side how you feel when
you are around them not what you’re
thinking right now because you’re
probably really annoyed how you feel
when you are around them okay then all
of this memory will come back to you
these memories of euphoria and then
you’re like oh my gosh what am i doing
right now they’re amazing and you’re
amazing and then it all becomes
beautiful baby baby what’s number nine a
deed a deed is everything right what
I’ve been there for a lot of friends
I’ve been there for a lot of people
worldwide and a lot of people have been
there for me and I know there are people
who are always who will always be there
for me even people who I’ve never met
just because my videos reach millions
okay but a deed is everything alright I
got people who send me gifts paintings
I’m like wow I’m blown away okay so a
small gesture can go a long way
you never forget the person that picked
you up at the airport when all your
other friends let you down do you know
you don’t right because the taxi was
really expensive so when you find
yourself growing apart from that person
just remember that good deed they did
for you and remember a good deed you did
for them and then both of you sing
Kumbaya under a tree you don’t want to
sing Kumbaya
don’t you don’t have to just sit there
oh and get hi baby
I was number ten how to stop making
people you care about grow so distant
baby baby become your greatest version
what’s helped me along my journey is
this certain times even your best
friends even your partner even your
family okay even just your next-door
neighbor’s right everybody on the planet
is going through something you know
nothing about you don’t even want to
know you don’t even have a clue you
don’t even have the faintest idea
the mess they’ve gotten themselves into
okay so when you see them you’re like
what why don’t they pay me any attention
when they got fire up their backside for
one right they are going through
something and what’s helped me is to
realize I get it okay I’ve got certain
friends and certain times they they’re
not as reciprocal as I am I’m a Pisces
which means I’m always giving right I’m
always sharing naturally and certain
times I share with people they don’t
reciprocate and I’m like okay that’s not
fair and I’m like wait a minute I’ve got
to see the bigger picture I get it maybe
they are going through something so
crazy right now I wouldn’t believe it
and chances are they are and guess what
they are okay
yes there are few lazy ones don’t worry
about it
but a lot of people are going through
stuff certain people they got family
issues drama so you got to take into
consideration other people’s states of
emotional mental and physical health
okay not everybody can always be there
because they’re dealing with something
so it’s up to you to recognize that and
always just realize that people always
come around just give it time be patient
and then both of you can form a better
relationship a better connection but if
you really want to come closer to people
who you grew you’ve both grown so far
apart just once again focus on the
people who are always helping you along
your journey were always inspiring you
along your journey will always say feels
so good to be alive baby
and I get a hello I’m a beautiful day
we’re out here in nature we’re out here
baby we’re out here in nature baby is so
windy and beautiful I don’t know whether
to dance will smile have a beautiful day
infinite luminous diving deep once again stay well stay healthy

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