hey some Finnick waters diving deep once
again we’re out here we got the birds
all around us
singing breathing in that beautiful
prana baby how to stop caring what
people think according to a psychologist
criminologist counselor Modi dimensional
being someone wrote in that they can’t
get this person out of their head
they’re worried because they keep
telling them stuff and they want to know
how can they stop caring about this
person’s perceptions of who they are
they’re losing sleep losing weight I
mean even had breakfast yet can I get a
Hello let me share with you us help me
along my journey got a question Ralph
smart calm Instagram us at infinite
waters that’s the only places I check
for questions now let’s jump straight
into it I made a video on this along
lalalalalalalalala long time ago but a
lot has changed since then I’ve even cut
my hair as a psychologist who really
connects with millions of people as a
counselor talking to people every single
day this is what comes up now I’m going
to share with you five secrets how to
stop caring what people think let’s
start with the first one stop pretending
like you don’t care no slow motion
stop pretending like you don’t care so I
get it we want to show to the world that
we’re immune from their perceptions of
us so we act like I don’t care what you
course you do of course we care what
people think goodness gracious
that’s all we’re thinking about right
we’re thinking about how other people
perceive us that’s why you’re taking an
hour just to take a selfie it’s
understandable
so why help me along my journey was to
acknowledge I do care what people think
I remember when I was just starting to
make videos I was like a little lamb
lost in the woods terrified scared and
feeling very afraid so I used to start
my intro like peas and a lot of people
would say why do you do that hmm it was
hard to take it was a hard pill to
swallow
cuz guess what I didn’t even have 10,000
subscribers hmm yeah I didn’t even have
10,000 subscribers so I was scared
because I didn’t see the proof of what I
was doing was working and that’s how it
always starts if we don’t see evidence
we think well other people telling the
truth so I had to say okay I actually do
care what people think now I’ve got a
choice to make
am I gonna do what they want or am I
gonna do what I want you see that’s the
choice we’ve got to make now freedom is
for the brave if you want to become
super successful in anything you do
you’ve got to be able to take the second
choice which is doing what you
one and that’s very difficult to do
because we really do care what people
think I remember when I was working had
this great job as a psychologist helping
people with ADHD autism bipolar disorder
friends and family thought I was crazy
for leaving even I did I had to make a
choice because at first I was like well
I don’t care what you guys think I’m
just gonna live my dream job wait a
minute actually I do care what you think
because you’re making me feel really bad
about this decision you see when you can
actually acknowledge that you care what
people think it will help you make the
second decision which is to do what you
second secret to stop caring what people
think is to practice more self-love
letting go of what people think is the
greatest form of self-love as your
self-expression increases your self-love
increases you’ve heard me say that
before in the first video you see what I
found out about them why does that work
or we talked about letting go of what
other people think of you it’s very
simple because you see let’s just say
someone says don’t do it like that
you’re not supposed to be a vegan 7 day
vegan challenge had to bring it in
somewhere now what are we gonna do it
happened to me along my early journey
and that’s the hardest part about
embracing a plant-based diet dealing
with the people who don’t support you
and once again when I was first starting
had no friends who were vegan
had no friends who ain’t a lot of chia
seeds a lot of maca a lot of maca a lot
of hemp
nobody was into that they were just into
Burger King and stuff so it was hard
because at that stage I didn’t practice
self-love now if you don’t practice
self-love what happens what are we
talking about a lack of self-love is the
root of all suffering slow-motion aside
hmm let me repeat that a lack of
self-love is the root of all suffering
so can you imagine you don’t love
yourself and someone says I don’t like
you what is gonna happen to you I’ll
give you a minute to answer you don’t
need a minute do you you’re gonna be on
the floor crying oh my god
but you see if you are practicing what I
call unconditional self-acceptance
unconditional self-acceptance you’ll be
just fine and that’s what I practice
every single day that’s why life is very
abundant you think I can just create
videos every day just like that what’s
happening how does he do it because I’m
practicing self-love now you see
self-love isn’t created in one day in
one week I’ve worked with people over
the years of doing this from so many
years a lot of people know me from back
in the day still here still practicing
self-love because it’s not something
that is there’s no pinnacle it’s a
process which can always grow because
sometimes you’re gonna doubt yourself
someone is gonna say something which
really strikes
enough so only learn to practice
self-love
if someone says oh I don’t like what
you’re wearing I can’t believe you’re a
vegan you’re losing weight that it uh
you say okay I’m really angry right now
mmm I’m really mad right now they’re
making me feel real nervous right now
but maybe that’s a good thing because
when you’re practicing self-love you’ve
got more of a sense of humor right I
think one of my last videos on says I’ll
wrap your face looks a bit red I was
like of course it does I just won the
lottery baby can I get a hello there
we’re making magic money every single
day but don’t worry about that
life is good you see sometimes people
don’t know what’s going on behind the
scenes so who has lost love
but in practicing self-love you’ve got
to realize the support is all around you
if truth be told I receive hundreds of
messages thousands from people saying
thanks a lot your videos have changed my
life so that even helps me to practice
more self-love to say actually I’m
inspiring millions of people that’s all
people are saying
Ralph you’ve changed my life that’s the
truth
it speaks for itself I spire people who
inspire millions of people let me repeat
that I inspire people who inspire
millions of people true story
I got celebrities who watch me you guys
because you’re stars so in practicing
self-love you find out why do you care
so much about what other people think
obviously bringing something out of you
they’re highlighting unresolved issues
within yourself that are dormant within
your subconscious mind that they’ve
triggered bringing to the forefront so
how I work how I work with people on
this is to say okay
if someone really strikes enough has
made you really uncomfortable that’s
great that is amazing because that’s
what they’re here to do you see nobody
should have that much power over your
internal emotional and mental condition
except you and if someone does it
obviously means they are an angel in
disguise because they’re helping you
become your greatest version no slow
motion what’s the third secret to stop
caring what people think according to a
psychologist counselor multi-dimensional
being learn to start validating yourself
stop waiting for people to validate your
existence stop waiting for people to
validate your existence a lot of us we
want to do different things we want to
work somewhere else we want to go
outside butt naked and have avocados
party well we could pretty much do that
if we stop waiting for other people to
validate our existence to validate to
validate who we are what we can do what
we can say where we can go you got to
ask yourself whose life am i living more
so whose subconscious program am i
running we adopt other people’s belief
systems which now become our own which
is why we care so much what people think
on an esoteric level the reason why we
subconsciously care so much what people
think is because we know we are all
connected
therefore monkey-see monkey-do we have a
natural tendency to do what other people
are doing because we want to fit in
because that is really the universal
truth that everything is one but through
one there is polarity so to stop caring
what people think you’ve got to start
getting the bigger picture and that is
how to start learning how to validate
your own existence the bigger picture is
you can’t please everybody you are here
to please everybody and if you think you
are that is why you care so much what
people think it goes on to the fourth
secret to stop caring what people think
this is the mantra people are entitled
to their opinions but their opinions are
theirs not yours their opinions are
their truths not yours and that’s how to
stop caring what people think let people
think goodness gracious
whatever they want that’s what people do
I have so many opinions about you it’s
unbelievable
oh all the time I say gosh why it’s not
true but it doesn’t mean what I think
about you is your truth no it’s coming
from my subjective experience my
subjective reality how I see the world
you see how people treat you and see you
has nothing to do with you it’s got
everything to do with them how people
see you treat you is a reflection of
their experience not yours people
project onto you their own subjective
reality that’s all we can ever do if I
see someone I like them it’s because it
has
something to do with me what I see in
them is mirroring back something I see
in myself that’s why I like it if I
don’t like something about someone it’s
because I don’t like that aspect I see
myself which is showing up in them we’ll
come to that later so let people talk
after all they were born with a mouth
but to stop caring once again you don’t
want to pretend like what they say
doesn’t matter it’s not about stopping
to care about what people think it’s
about asking yourself how much am I
gonna let what they think affect my
everyday actions I didn’t let it stop me
and I’m glad I did keep that in true
years ago I was almost almost about to
change it but when you get millions of
views over half a million subscribers
you start to see that once again you are
right all along just like Dorothy in The
Wizard of Oz the power was with you all
along you got to believe in yourself
trust can only be gained through a long
period of time through self-acceptance
unconditional self-acceptance you got to
trust yourself we know what we’re doing
and now the results speak for themselves
so let people talk at the end of the day
we’ll see who’s laughing and then we saw
who was laughing and it wasn’t them
right what’s the fifth secret to stop
caring what people think you got to be
so busy doing what you love that you
don’t allow other people’s opinions to
affect
your process of becoming your greatest
version you see a lot of us we aren’t in
alignment with our true life purpose we
don’t know what we’re here to do we’re
not doing it
we’re distracting ourselves with things
places and people no longer serving us
they’re not serving you but you’re still
tuning into that frequency so you’ve got
to really let go of people places and
things which really don’t serve you if
you have a lot of time to think and
ruminate about someone who has a lot of
opinions about you whose fault is that
is it theirs or yours you see a lot of
us we don’t think about it like that we
I’m a cinematographer so you got to
focus right you got to realize you can
ruminate on people who don’t serve you
who are no longer serving you or people
who actually do serve you so I always
focus on the millions of deep divers
will always show me love and respect I
love them I appreciate them the other
people they don’t exist because they are
nobody we don’t focus on them so they
don’t exist whatever you focus on grows
it becomes your reality I focus every
single day on amazing people I connect
with and therefore I keep meeting I keep
meeting more amazing people the life
experience becomes more joyous more
fruitful more so more fulfilling now you
see a lot of us we care too much what
people think because we focus on trying
to win their approval so let’s just say
someone says oh I really love what
you’re wearing
like ten people say it then
person says oh I don’t like what you’re
wearing now are you gonna listen to the
10 people or the 1 person which one you
got one minute okay a few seconds you
see here’s the secret you shouldn’t
listen to neither not the 10 people who
say I really love it or the one person
who says oh I don’t like what you’re
wearing who should you be listening to
you got it you should be listening to
you to yourself and that is the secret
of becoming your greatest version get
inspired by people’s opinions of you you
can even use it as constructive
criticism you can use it as a fuel to
become greater but ultimately you’ve got
to choose it’s got to come out of you
from your own intuition and if you do
that you’re gonna see the results I see
it every single day that’s why what I’m
doing works I don’t have to go to work
for anybody
I’m my own CEO right it’s a mindset and
it’s only growing large every single day
a lot of successful people that’s what
they do they realize yes what other
people say affects them but they don’t
let it control their behavior like Frank
said I did it my way and that is the
only way to become your greatest version
you got to do what you know you came
here to do and focus on the people who
are resonating with you not the people
who want your vibe attracts your tribe
so there you have it
in a nutshell whoa breathing in that
good ass prana baby we’re out here
infinite waters diving deep once again have a beautiful day
again we’re out here we got the birds
all around us
singing breathing in that beautiful
prana baby how to stop caring what
people think according to a psychologist
criminologist counselor Modi dimensional
being someone wrote in that they can’t
get this person out of their head
they’re worried because they keep
telling them stuff and they want to know
how can they stop caring about this
person’s perceptions of who they are
they’re losing sleep losing weight I
mean even had breakfast yet can I get a
Hello let me share with you us help me
along my journey got a question Ralph
smart calm Instagram us at infinite
waters that’s the only places I check
for questions now let’s jump straight
into it I made a video on this along
lalalalalalalalala long time ago but a
lot has changed since then I’ve even cut
my hair as a psychologist who really
connects with millions of people as a
counselor talking to people every single
day this is what comes up now I’m going
to share with you five secrets how to
stop caring what people think let’s
start with the first one stop pretending
like you don’t care no slow motion
stop pretending like you don’t care so I
get it we want to show to the world that
we’re immune from their perceptions of
us so we act like I don’t care what you
course you do of course we care what
people think goodness gracious
that’s all we’re thinking about right
we’re thinking about how other people
perceive us that’s why you’re taking an
hour just to take a selfie it’s
understandable
so why help me along my journey was to
acknowledge I do care what people think
I remember when I was just starting to
make videos I was like a little lamb
lost in the woods terrified scared and
feeling very afraid so I used to start
my intro like peas and a lot of people
would say why do you do that hmm it was
hard to take it was a hard pill to
swallow
cuz guess what I didn’t even have 10,000
subscribers hmm yeah I didn’t even have
10,000 subscribers so I was scared
because I didn’t see the proof of what I
was doing was working and that’s how it
always starts if we don’t see evidence
we think well other people telling the
truth so I had to say okay I actually do
care what people think now I’ve got a
choice to make
am I gonna do what they want or am I
gonna do what I want you see that’s the
choice we’ve got to make now freedom is
for the brave if you want to become
super successful in anything you do
you’ve got to be able to take the second
choice which is doing what you
one and that’s very difficult to do
because we really do care what people
think I remember when I was working had
this great job as a psychologist helping
people with ADHD autism bipolar disorder
friends and family thought I was crazy
for leaving even I did I had to make a
choice because at first I was like well
I don’t care what you guys think I’m
just gonna live my dream job wait a
minute actually I do care what you think
because you’re making me feel really bad
about this decision you see when you can
actually acknowledge that you care what
people think it will help you make the
second decision which is to do what you
second secret to stop caring what people
think is to practice more self-love
letting go of what people think is the
greatest form of self-love as your
self-expression increases your self-love
increases you’ve heard me say that
before in the first video you see what I
found out about them why does that work
or we talked about letting go of what
other people think of you it’s very
simple because you see let’s just say
someone says don’t do it like that
you’re not supposed to be a vegan 7 day
vegan challenge had to bring it in
somewhere now what are we gonna do it
happened to me along my early journey
and that’s the hardest part about
embracing a plant-based diet dealing
with the people who don’t support you
and once again when I was first starting
had no friends who were vegan
had no friends who ain’t a lot of chia
seeds a lot of maca a lot of maca a lot
of hemp
nobody was into that they were just into
Burger King and stuff so it was hard
because at that stage I didn’t practice
self-love now if you don’t practice
self-love what happens what are we
talking about a lack of self-love is the
root of all suffering slow-motion aside
hmm let me repeat that a lack of
self-love is the root of all suffering
so can you imagine you don’t love
yourself and someone says I don’t like
you what is gonna happen to you I’ll
give you a minute to answer you don’t
need a minute do you you’re gonna be on
the floor crying oh my god
but you see if you are practicing what I
call unconditional self-acceptance
unconditional self-acceptance you’ll be
just fine and that’s what I practice
every single day that’s why life is very
abundant you think I can just create
videos every day just like that what’s
happening how does he do it because I’m
practicing self-love now you see
self-love isn’t created in one day in
one week I’ve worked with people over
the years of doing this from so many
years a lot of people know me from back
in the day still here still practicing
self-love because it’s not something
that is there’s no pinnacle it’s a
process which can always grow because
sometimes you’re gonna doubt yourself
someone is gonna say something which
really strikes
enough so only learn to practice
self-love
if someone says oh I don’t like what
you’re wearing I can’t believe you’re a
vegan you’re losing weight that it uh
you say okay I’m really angry right now
mmm I’m really mad right now they’re
making me feel real nervous right now
but maybe that’s a good thing because
when you’re practicing self-love you’ve
got more of a sense of humor right I
think one of my last videos on says I’ll
wrap your face looks a bit red I was
like of course it does I just won the
lottery baby can I get a hello there
we’re making magic money every single
day but don’t worry about that
life is good you see sometimes people
don’t know what’s going on behind the
scenes so who has lost love
but in practicing self-love you’ve got
to realize the support is all around you
if truth be told I receive hundreds of
messages thousands from people saying
thanks a lot your videos have changed my
life so that even helps me to practice
more self-love to say actually I’m
inspiring millions of people that’s all
people are saying
Ralph you’ve changed my life that’s the
truth
it speaks for itself I spire people who
inspire millions of people let me repeat
that I inspire people who inspire
millions of people true story
I got celebrities who watch me you guys
because you’re stars so in practicing
self-love you find out why do you care
so much about what other people think
obviously bringing something out of you
they’re highlighting unresolved issues
within yourself that are dormant within
your subconscious mind that they’ve
triggered bringing to the forefront so
how I work how I work with people on
this is to say okay
if someone really strikes enough has
made you really uncomfortable that’s
great that is amazing because that’s
what they’re here to do you see nobody
should have that much power over your
internal emotional and mental condition
except you and if someone does it
obviously means they are an angel in
disguise because they’re helping you
become your greatest version no slow
motion what’s the third secret to stop
caring what people think according to a
psychologist counselor multi-dimensional
being learn to start validating yourself
stop waiting for people to validate your
existence stop waiting for people to
validate your existence a lot of us we
want to do different things we want to
work somewhere else we want to go
outside butt naked and have avocados
party well we could pretty much do that
if we stop waiting for other people to
validate our existence to validate to
validate who we are what we can do what
we can say where we can go you got to
ask yourself whose life am i living more
so whose subconscious program am i
running we adopt other people’s belief
systems which now become our own which
is why we care so much what people think
on an esoteric level the reason why we
subconsciously care so much what people
think is because we know we are all
connected
therefore monkey-see monkey-do we have a
natural tendency to do what other people
are doing because we want to fit in
because that is really the universal
truth that everything is one but through
one there is polarity so to stop caring
what people think you’ve got to start
getting the bigger picture and that is
how to start learning how to validate
your own existence the bigger picture is
you can’t please everybody you are here
to please everybody and if you think you
are that is why you care so much what
people think it goes on to the fourth
secret to stop caring what people think
this is the mantra people are entitled
to their opinions but their opinions are
theirs not yours their opinions are
their truths not yours and that’s how to
stop caring what people think let people
think goodness gracious
whatever they want that’s what people do
I have so many opinions about you it’s
unbelievable
oh all the time I say gosh why it’s not
true but it doesn’t mean what I think
about you is your truth no it’s coming
from my subjective experience my
subjective reality how I see the world
you see how people treat you and see you
has nothing to do with you it’s got
everything to do with them how people
see you treat you is a reflection of
their experience not yours people
project onto you their own subjective
reality that’s all we can ever do if I
see someone I like them it’s because it
has
something to do with me what I see in
them is mirroring back something I see
in myself that’s why I like it if I
don’t like something about someone it’s
because I don’t like that aspect I see
myself which is showing up in them we’ll
come to that later so let people talk
after all they were born with a mouth
but to stop caring once again you don’t
want to pretend like what they say
doesn’t matter it’s not about stopping
to care about what people think it’s
about asking yourself how much am I
gonna let what they think affect my
everyday actions I didn’t let it stop me
and I’m glad I did keep that in true
years ago I was almost almost about to
change it but when you get millions of
views over half a million subscribers
you start to see that once again you are
right all along just like Dorothy in The
Wizard of Oz the power was with you all
along you got to believe in yourself
trust can only be gained through a long
period of time through self-acceptance
unconditional self-acceptance you got to
trust yourself we know what we’re doing
and now the results speak for themselves
so let people talk at the end of the day
we’ll see who’s laughing and then we saw
who was laughing and it wasn’t them
right what’s the fifth secret to stop
caring what people think you got to be
so busy doing what you love that you
don’t allow other people’s opinions to
affect
your process of becoming your greatest
version you see a lot of us we aren’t in
alignment with our true life purpose we
don’t know what we’re here to do we’re
not doing it
we’re distracting ourselves with things
places and people no longer serving us
they’re not serving you but you’re still
tuning into that frequency so you’ve got
to really let go of people places and
things which really don’t serve you if
you have a lot of time to think and
ruminate about someone who has a lot of
opinions about you whose fault is that
is it theirs or yours you see a lot of
us we don’t think about it like that we
I’m a cinematographer so you got to
focus right you got to realize you can
ruminate on people who don’t serve you
who are no longer serving you or people
who actually do serve you so I always
focus on the millions of deep divers
will always show me love and respect I
love them I appreciate them the other
people they don’t exist because they are
nobody we don’t focus on them so they
don’t exist whatever you focus on grows
it becomes your reality I focus every
single day on amazing people I connect
with and therefore I keep meeting I keep
meeting more amazing people the life
experience becomes more joyous more
fruitful more so more fulfilling now you
see a lot of us we care too much what
people think because we focus on trying
to win their approval so let’s just say
someone says oh I really love what
you’re wearing
like ten people say it then
person says oh I don’t like what you’re
wearing now are you gonna listen to the
10 people or the 1 person which one you
got one minute okay a few seconds you
see here’s the secret you shouldn’t
listen to neither not the 10 people who
say I really love it or the one person
who says oh I don’t like what you’re
wearing who should you be listening to
you got it you should be listening to
you to yourself and that is the secret
of becoming your greatest version get
inspired by people’s opinions of you you
can even use it as constructive
criticism you can use it as a fuel to
become greater but ultimately you’ve got
to choose it’s got to come out of you
from your own intuition and if you do
that you’re gonna see the results I see
it every single day that’s why what I’m
doing works I don’t have to go to work
for anybody
I’m my own CEO right it’s a mindset and
it’s only growing large every single day
a lot of successful people that’s what
they do they realize yes what other
people say affects them but they don’t
let it control their behavior like Frank
said I did it my way and that is the
only way to become your greatest version
you got to do what you know you came
here to do and focus on the people who
are resonating with you not the people
who want your vibe attracts your tribe
so there you have it
in a nutshell whoa breathing in that
good ass prana baby we’re out here
infinite waters diving deep once again have a beautiful day
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