peace and finna waters diving deep once
again how to stop believing other
people’s perceptions how you see me has
nothing to do with me it has everything
to do with you breathing in that good
ass prana baby can I get a Hello so
that’s the question that someone asks
and I get literally thousands of
questions every single day I don’t
manage the Facebook the only place to
get your question answered is Instagram
at infinite waters or go to the website
Ralph smart calm the most recent picture
on the Instagram how you see me has
nothing to do with me it has everything
to do with you and that’s what I wrote
down as a psychologist counselor and
infinite being I’m gonna share with you
what’s helped me along my journey now
you probably saw those videos don’t
judge me
right where sometimes women they’re
wearing really horrible makeup and then
you see how beautiful they actually are
because we are so quick to judge people
and guess what I still judge people I
probably even judge you right because
I’m human it is natural to judge people
but as a psychologist and counselor I
realize that nine times out of ten when
I judge someone it’s not from who they
are it is from what I am experiencing
internally you see so let go of
resistance that is the first step
because resistance makes stronger when
you don’t want nobody to judge you to
have a perception of you
now you actually start believing in
their perceptions can I get a hello
there here’s how it works right someone
might say someone once told me Ralph I
really love when you say can I get a
hello there lots of people tell me that
does it bother me not really and some
people say can you please stop saying
that
does it bother me not really because and
go anything to do with me right I love
to do it
I’m gonna keep on doing it it makes me
feel fantastic right and that’s the
mindset you’ve got to have to stop
believing in other people’s perceptions
I’m gonna share with you what I created
called the perception experiment now all
you need is two good friends good
friends right not fake friends okay now
ask them to write down your positive
traits and your negative traits okay
separately right and then see what they
write down about you and then ask
yourself do I believe that to be the
truth about Who I am what you’re gonna
find is absolutely mind-boggling because
it usually goes something a little like
this one of your friends will say yeah
you are really funny the other one might
say actually you’re not really funny but
you try to be funny
one of your friends will say you are
very hard-working
another one of your friends will say you
are very lazy now what happened you see
you went to one of their birthdays right
and you arrived an hour early but guess
what you do that every single year so in
that friend of yours mind they think you
are very hard-working
because you not only go to their
birthday every single year you get there
an hour early to set up the chairs how
nice of you now the other friend yeah
they love you they think you’re awesome
but they think you are playing lazy
because you miss their birthday twice in
a row okay what happened well your
grandma was ill in hospital you had
another priority to attend to but they
couldn’t understand that so even though
they love you they have this perception
that you aren’t really trustworthy
enough you’re very lazy sometimes even
complacent now has that got anything to
do with who you are no but it’s got
everything to do with what they have
experienced so when we talk about not
believing in other people’s perceptions
you’ve got to be very clear that people
perceive us and judge us based on their
projection of who they think we are
based on their conditioning based on
their experiences based on their
standards and values what am I talking
of here
you see everybody has a different
standard and if you start missing
people’s birthdays well you might be
going against their values so they call
you lazy right if you are someone who
just has a lot of tattoos someone might
say who does this woman think she is
cover up someone might say actually
those are the most beautiful tattoos in
the world and because of that you have
helped me liberate myself you see that
once again has nothing to do with you
because just like in The Four Agreements
right one of them is nothing is personal
so to stop believing in other people’s
perceptions you have to realize it’s
nothing personal that’s why I’m not
concerned whether people love me or hate
me because you know how it goes first
they love you
and then they hate you then they love
you again just like when it’s a hot day
some people say oh it’s too hot when
it’s really cold
where did you go son right because it
wasn’t about the Sun it was about you
it always is us right so once again you
have to start changing how you see
yourself my famous quote the perception
you have of yourself is greater than the
perception other people have of you
you have to love yourself a hundred
percent because letting go of other
people’s expectations is how you begin
to love yourself a hundred percent if
you are trying to please everybody
including the cat down the road good
luck why because you can’t please
everybody
you can try though and that’s why so
many people write to me saying they’re
depressed they’re stressed
they’ve got panic attacks because we try
so hard but in the end it doesn’t even
matter because the only thing that
matters like the great psychologist said
and counselor Carl Rogers the person who
inspired me to become one you have to
see yourself with unconditional positive
regard let me repeat them you have to
see yourself with unconditional positive
regard and then relaxed breathing that
good-ass prana and realize so long as
you are happy with the image you have of
yourself that is the only thing that
matters but guess what here’s the real
secret that image you have of yourself
isn’t even who you really are because
you are a multi-dimensional being having
a human experience therefore you can
never truly know who you are that’s why
when you judge someone you are now
limiting your imagination of who they
could potentially be can I get a hello
there so to stop believing in other
people’s perceptions realize it is all
bs
we are breathing in that good ah spray
on a baby have a beautiful day well here
infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy
again how to stop believing other
people’s perceptions how you see me has
nothing to do with me it has everything
to do with you breathing in that good
ass prana baby can I get a Hello so
that’s the question that someone asks
and I get literally thousands of
questions every single day I don’t
manage the Facebook the only place to
get your question answered is Instagram
at infinite waters or go to the website
Ralph smart calm the most recent picture
on the Instagram how you see me has
nothing to do with me it has everything
to do with you and that’s what I wrote
down as a psychologist counselor and
infinite being I’m gonna share with you
what’s helped me along my journey now
you probably saw those videos don’t
judge me
right where sometimes women they’re
wearing really horrible makeup and then
you see how beautiful they actually are
because we are so quick to judge people
and guess what I still judge people I
probably even judge you right because
I’m human it is natural to judge people
but as a psychologist and counselor I
realize that nine times out of ten when
I judge someone it’s not from who they
are it is from what I am experiencing
internally you see so let go of
resistance that is the first step
because resistance makes stronger when
you don’t want nobody to judge you to
have a perception of you
now you actually start believing in
their perceptions can I get a hello
there here’s how it works right someone
might say someone once told me Ralph I
really love when you say can I get a
hello there lots of people tell me that
does it bother me not really and some
people say can you please stop saying
that
does it bother me not really because and
go anything to do with me right I love
to do it
I’m gonna keep on doing it it makes me
feel fantastic right and that’s the
mindset you’ve got to have to stop
believing in other people’s perceptions
I’m gonna share with you what I created
called the perception experiment now all
you need is two good friends good
friends right not fake friends okay now
ask them to write down your positive
traits and your negative traits okay
separately right and then see what they
write down about you and then ask
yourself do I believe that to be the
truth about Who I am what you’re gonna
find is absolutely mind-boggling because
it usually goes something a little like
this one of your friends will say yeah
you are really funny the other one might
say actually you’re not really funny but
you try to be funny
one of your friends will say you are
very hard-working
another one of your friends will say you
are very lazy now what happened you see
you went to one of their birthdays right
and you arrived an hour early but guess
what you do that every single year so in
that friend of yours mind they think you
are very hard-working
because you not only go to their
birthday every single year you get there
an hour early to set up the chairs how
nice of you now the other friend yeah
they love you they think you’re awesome
but they think you are playing lazy
because you miss their birthday twice in
a row okay what happened well your
grandma was ill in hospital you had
another priority to attend to but they
couldn’t understand that so even though
they love you they have this perception
that you aren’t really trustworthy
enough you’re very lazy sometimes even
complacent now has that got anything to
do with who you are no but it’s got
everything to do with what they have
experienced so when we talk about not
believing in other people’s perceptions
you’ve got to be very clear that people
perceive us and judge us based on their
projection of who they think we are
based on their conditioning based on
their experiences based on their
standards and values what am I talking
of here
you see everybody has a different
standard and if you start missing
people’s birthdays well you might be
going against their values so they call
you lazy right if you are someone who
just has a lot of tattoos someone might
say who does this woman think she is
cover up someone might say actually
those are the most beautiful tattoos in
the world and because of that you have
helped me liberate myself you see that
once again has nothing to do with you
because just like in The Four Agreements
right one of them is nothing is personal
so to stop believing in other people’s
perceptions you have to realize it’s
nothing personal that’s why I’m not
concerned whether people love me or hate
me because you know how it goes first
they love you
and then they hate you then they love
you again just like when it’s a hot day
some people say oh it’s too hot when
it’s really cold
where did you go son right because it
wasn’t about the Sun it was about you
it always is us right so once again you
have to start changing how you see
yourself my famous quote the perception
you have of yourself is greater than the
perception other people have of you
you have to love yourself a hundred
percent because letting go of other
people’s expectations is how you begin
to love yourself a hundred percent if
you are trying to please everybody
including the cat down the road good
luck why because you can’t please
everybody
you can try though and that’s why so
many people write to me saying they’re
depressed they’re stressed
they’ve got panic attacks because we try
so hard but in the end it doesn’t even
matter because the only thing that
matters like the great psychologist said
and counselor Carl Rogers the person who
inspired me to become one you have to
see yourself with unconditional positive
regard let me repeat them you have to
see yourself with unconditional positive
regard and then relaxed breathing that
good-ass prana and realize so long as
you are happy with the image you have of
yourself that is the only thing that
matters but guess what here’s the real
secret that image you have of yourself
isn’t even who you really are because
you are a multi-dimensional being having
a human experience therefore you can
never truly know who you are that’s why
when you judge someone you are now
limiting your imagination of who they
could potentially be can I get a hello
there so to stop believing in other
people’s perceptions realize it is all
bs
we are breathing in that good ah spray
on a baby have a beautiful day well here
infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy
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