peace infinite waters diving deep once
again how to stop and spot mental and
emotional manipulators can I get a hello
there so I received a question from
someone asking how to differentiate
between someone being nice and someone
being nice because they want something
and that always happens right it’s hard
to tell the difference she has an issue
with the workplace the images she sees
in the media she feels she is being
manipulated and she wants to know the
difference between manipulation and
genuine love because nowadays it seems
everyone has an ulterior motive now I
can share with you what’s helped me
along my journey look you go into a shop
and there are no prices on the products
in your mind you’re thinking I’m about
to be screwed over and you’re right so
what is manipulation I say manipulation
is influence without consent everyday so
many of us are in our minds so we are
playing mind tricks we are trying to
persuade someone we’re trying to
influence someone so the foot in the
door technique which is a good example
of persuasion starts with starting small
and going big a small favour turns into
a massive favor
hi I’m lost do you know where the beach
is
oh yeah sure it’s just about five miles
down that way Oh could you show me
that’s the foot in the door
what about door in the face where you
start off big then you go small for this
project I’m doing I need $100 donation
that’s a lot you misheard me I said I
need $1 donation one dollar look one
dollar is nothing okay no problem here
you go
have you been manipulated
no because manipulation once again is
influence without consent but you have
consented to that request
you see nobody ever says I was
manipulated into buying foods at Whole
Foods you made me eat kale you made me
be healthy
you made me become my greatest version
why because it’s a positive influence
so being influenced by someone is not a
bad thing
there are many positive outcomes where
it’s a good thing but what happens when
we are not aware of the deal so a
classic case of manipulation
the workplace your boss has some work
for you he or she wants you to work an
extra one hour so you say yes please why
well you need to go out to me later on
but that one hour was actually two hours
but they never told you so now you feel
angry you feel like you have been
manipulated and rightly so why because
it was influence without your consent
just like when someone hands you a
contract a lot of us we don’t read the
small print I never knew that I was
unaware of that well I’m sorry it was in
the contract
many times the traits of manipulators
are hard insensitive dishonest I could
go on
they aren’t flexible when someone is
coming from their heart space they are
honest they are sensitive they are
receptive they are listening to your
feelings your opinions your desires and
they are taking that into consideration
many times manipulators their aim is to
seize power and control but ultimately
their aim is to make you unaware so you
see this in the media
the images that we see are influencing
us they are influencing us without our
consent because they are working on the
subconscious mind so the great
psychologist Robert C aldini talked off
the six principles of persuasion which
gives us a better understanding now he
talked of reciprocity look if someone
leaves a massive parcel outside your
door you’re going to be thinking who did
that and then you see them and then
you’re like come inside let me make you
a meal thank you so much
because we want to return the favor but
we have to ask ourselves was it coming
from a genuine place consensus when the
majority do something we feel compelled
to do the same thing commitment the
third principle which is all about
look advertisers use this sign up for
this it’s $1.99 and then afterwards it
goes to $30 30 pounds so because we have
made an initial commitment we are more
likely to continue with the payment so
you have to become aware of the subtle
techniques liking which is the fourth
principle which is very powerful when
everybody likes the same thing we feel
we have to why because nobody wants to
be left out scarcity the fifth principle
when something is rare we are more
persuaded to buy it this is the last one
left it’s a sale wait a minute
there always seems to be a sale on are
you lying to me
so beware of that too and the last
principle is Authority if someone tells
you they are a doctor you feel they are
to be trusted
so we are more influenced because of
their social status but once again
manipulation can only happen without
your consent once you are aware of all
of these techniques you can’t be
manipulated so what’s helped me along my
journey is first of all realizing I have
a choice we always have a choice always
and that choice begins once we start
taking responsibility for where we find
ourselves for who we are surrounding
ourselves with the company we are
keeping the work we are working here and
then it’s discernment which is the
ability to judge well ask yourself can I
believe everything that Ralph is saying
right now don’t believe it know it for
yourself do your own research when you
hear a new story questioning really
questioning the power of know this is
the most empowering thing that has
helped me along my journey you see when
we are dealing with mental and emotional
manipulation the problem is not really
out there the issue at hand is within
yourself what am I talking about many of
us have a problem with communication we
are afraid to say no no no and once you
say no without guilt you reclaim back
your power we feel someone is
manipulating us because we are
externalizing our power also we have to
exercise the power of yes when we really
want to say yes we have to commit to it
a hundred percent because that way we
are exercising our autonomous power so
that’s it in a nutshell always remind
yourself that to influence and to be
influenced is not a negative thing but
influence without consent is
manipulation I will think about it
that’s all you have to say when you feel
you are being manipulated
why because many times manipulators
speak really fast because they want you
to make a decision
once again they hope you are unaware of
what you are actually doing when you
confront your manipulators it is the
most empowering thing you can do when
you don’t fall into that trap which is
all about complacency just acting
without discernment or once you say I’ll
think about it now through a meditation
once you are in balance spare
it’s your mind is clearer with more
clarity comes more wisdom and that’s it
right there I say there are still so
many amazing people out there I always
say in people in the media it’s all
about what are you looking for are you
looking for the bottom people because
guess what you’re gonna see a health
alone are you looking for the good guess
what you are going to see a hell of a
lot because it’s all about where we are
placing our focus it’s all about this
relationship we have to ourselves and
this helps us become our greatest
version why because now we naturally
attract everything we need we start
surrounding ourselves with people who
are resonating with us with people who
have our best interests at hand but what
happens when we are not in the right
company
now we may become a victim of
manipulation but once again let’s check
the wording we are not victims we are
survivors was that from myself we are
co-creators we are architects of our own
reality when you see you have all of
this amazing power nobody can make you
feel like a victim without your
permission
become your greatest version we are here
infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy
again how to stop and spot mental and
emotional manipulators can I get a hello
there so I received a question from
someone asking how to differentiate
between someone being nice and someone
being nice because they want something
and that always happens right it’s hard
to tell the difference she has an issue
with the workplace the images she sees
in the media she feels she is being
manipulated and she wants to know the
difference between manipulation and
genuine love because nowadays it seems
everyone has an ulterior motive now I
can share with you what’s helped me
along my journey look you go into a shop
and there are no prices on the products
in your mind you’re thinking I’m about
to be screwed over and you’re right so
what is manipulation I say manipulation
is influence without consent everyday so
many of us are in our minds so we are
playing mind tricks we are trying to
persuade someone we’re trying to
influence someone so the foot in the
door technique which is a good example
of persuasion starts with starting small
and going big a small favour turns into
a massive favor
hi I’m lost do you know where the beach
is
oh yeah sure it’s just about five miles
down that way Oh could you show me
that’s the foot in the door
what about door in the face where you
start off big then you go small for this
project I’m doing I need $100 donation
that’s a lot you misheard me I said I
need $1 donation one dollar look one
dollar is nothing okay no problem here
you go
have you been manipulated
no because manipulation once again is
influence without consent but you have
consented to that request
you see nobody ever says I was
manipulated into buying foods at Whole
Foods you made me eat kale you made me
be healthy
you made me become my greatest version
why because it’s a positive influence
so being influenced by someone is not a
bad thing
there are many positive outcomes where
it’s a good thing but what happens when
we are not aware of the deal so a
classic case of manipulation
the workplace your boss has some work
for you he or she wants you to work an
extra one hour so you say yes please why
well you need to go out to me later on
but that one hour was actually two hours
but they never told you so now you feel
angry you feel like you have been
manipulated and rightly so why because
it was influence without your consent
just like when someone hands you a
contract a lot of us we don’t read the
small print I never knew that I was
unaware of that well I’m sorry it was in
the contract
many times the traits of manipulators
are hard insensitive dishonest I could
go on
they aren’t flexible when someone is
coming from their heart space they are
honest they are sensitive they are
receptive they are listening to your
feelings your opinions your desires and
they are taking that into consideration
many times manipulators their aim is to
seize power and control but ultimately
their aim is to make you unaware so you
see this in the media
the images that we see are influencing
us they are influencing us without our
consent because they are working on the
subconscious mind so the great
psychologist Robert C aldini talked off
the six principles of persuasion which
gives us a better understanding now he
talked of reciprocity look if someone
leaves a massive parcel outside your
door you’re going to be thinking who did
that and then you see them and then
you’re like come inside let me make you
a meal thank you so much
because we want to return the favor but
we have to ask ourselves was it coming
from a genuine place consensus when the
majority do something we feel compelled
to do the same thing commitment the
third principle which is all about
look advertisers use this sign up for
this it’s $1.99 and then afterwards it
goes to $30 30 pounds so because we have
made an initial commitment we are more
likely to continue with the payment so
you have to become aware of the subtle
techniques liking which is the fourth
principle which is very powerful when
everybody likes the same thing we feel
we have to why because nobody wants to
be left out scarcity the fifth principle
when something is rare we are more
persuaded to buy it this is the last one
left it’s a sale wait a minute
there always seems to be a sale on are
you lying to me
so beware of that too and the last
principle is Authority if someone tells
you they are a doctor you feel they are
to be trusted
so we are more influenced because of
their social status but once again
manipulation can only happen without
your consent once you are aware of all
of these techniques you can’t be
manipulated so what’s helped me along my
journey is first of all realizing I have
a choice we always have a choice always
and that choice begins once we start
taking responsibility for where we find
ourselves for who we are surrounding
ourselves with the company we are
keeping the work we are working here and
then it’s discernment which is the
ability to judge well ask yourself can I
believe everything that Ralph is saying
right now don’t believe it know it for
yourself do your own research when you
hear a new story questioning really
questioning the power of know this is
the most empowering thing that has
helped me along my journey you see when
we are dealing with mental and emotional
manipulation the problem is not really
out there the issue at hand is within
yourself what am I talking about many of
us have a problem with communication we
are afraid to say no no no and once you
say no without guilt you reclaim back
your power we feel someone is
manipulating us because we are
externalizing our power also we have to
exercise the power of yes when we really
want to say yes we have to commit to it
a hundred percent because that way we
are exercising our autonomous power so
that’s it in a nutshell always remind
yourself that to influence and to be
influenced is not a negative thing but
influence without consent is
manipulation I will think about it
that’s all you have to say when you feel
you are being manipulated
why because many times manipulators
speak really fast because they want you
to make a decision
once again they hope you are unaware of
what you are actually doing when you
confront your manipulators it is the
most empowering thing you can do when
you don’t fall into that trap which is
all about complacency just acting
without discernment or once you say I’ll
think about it now through a meditation
once you are in balance spare
it’s your mind is clearer with more
clarity comes more wisdom and that’s it
right there I say there are still so
many amazing people out there I always
say in people in the media it’s all
about what are you looking for are you
looking for the bottom people because
guess what you’re gonna see a health
alone are you looking for the good guess
what you are going to see a hell of a
lot because it’s all about where we are
placing our focus it’s all about this
relationship we have to ourselves and
this helps us become our greatest
version why because now we naturally
attract everything we need we start
surrounding ourselves with people who
are resonating with us with people who
have our best interests at hand but what
happens when we are not in the right
company
now we may become a victim of
manipulation but once again let’s check
the wording we are not victims we are
survivors was that from myself we are
co-creators we are architects of our own
reality when you see you have all of
this amazing power nobody can make you
feel like a victim without your
permission
become your greatest version we are here
infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy
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