peace and Finnick waters diving deep
once again we are out here we’re in
nature we even had breakfast yet can I
get a hello there whoa breathing in that
good ass prana baby
okay we got a question that came in
we’re doing it word for word
let’s read it we’ve got it from a woman
saying hello Ralph
how are you I’m not too bad it’s a
beautiful day today I have a question
for you that I haven’t found a video of
yours about it how do you stop craving
for attention how do you shift your need
to have attention from your friends
family and even people you don’t know I
know it is a matter of self esteem but I
just don’t know how to change it it has
been affecting me in really serious ways
to the point where sometimes I don’t
even know who I am anymore
to the point where I doubt my work and
value
thanks a lot Ralph well thank you dear
let’s dive into it oh boy oh they put my
phone down we finished reading that
question when we talk of craving
attention you’ve heard the expression
attention seeker I always say that it is
wonderful to crave attention in fact we
naturally all crave attention because
naturally every human being wants to be
loved
subconsciously
we do things not just for ourselves but
for other people but you see where we
find a lot of problems is that we start
living from the outside in instead of
from the inside out can I get a Hello
there so love you got to start turning
things inside out when you were very
small
there was a punishment and a reward
system right when you did something good
you got a cookie when he did something
bad you got a glass of water what is
good for you so it’s not really that bad
in essence many times when we talk of
trying to stop craving attention you
don’t have to stop craving attention you
got to start giving yourself more
attention because people change
one day they love you next day they
don’t but how you see yourself is the
only thing that is important so what
happens when we really want people to
pay attention to us right we stand in
the middle of the street and we strip
down naked and people just walk by hey
I’m butt-naked right the least you can
do is take a selfie with me no they just
walk past because
the more you want people to give you
attention the more they don’t the moment
I let go everything came to me so I got
a story for you I’ve been talking about
becoming your becoming your greatest
version for a long time and when I was
first starting it’s always difficult
when you first stop sharing with the
world you think what can I do to get
people’s attention people were saying
look people don’t really have a big
concentration span all right they got a
very short concentration span really
short concentration span probably not
over two minutes if you’re lucky maybe
three nice that okay so let me just keep
my videos as short as possible then one
day I had an epiphany realizing that I
can’t please everybody I got to do it
for me can I get a hello there and that
day I made a video called how to stop
absorbing other people’s energy now I
was talking for so long when I stopped
the video it was about 24 minutes no it
was 24 minutes and I was like oh my gosh
it’s way too long who’s gonna watch it
but then I didn’t care I just put it out
there and that video went viral because
it’s not I wasn’t trying to get people’s
attention it was coming from a place of
authenticity true creative expression so
you got you’ve got to start living for
yourself for once do something for
yourself and realize that that is where
the greatest joy comes because you can
beg for people’s attention and you won’t
get it but once you start pleasing
yourself you got to fill your own cup
and wants the cup overflows well other
people can drink from it if it doesn’t
overflow well well they gotta go thirsty
can I get a hello hit many times where
we’re living in a generation of selfies
right likes and dislikes and you got to
start validating yourself you got to
start impressing yourself I’ve been
making videos for so long now that I
don’t even check the views the likes the
dislikes I’ve gone past that stage but
what I do know is that I’m reaching
people all around the world millions of
people on a very personal level right
and it’s beautiful it’s a beautiful
feeling because I’m not trying to get
people’s attention but I’m getting tons
of it because I’m doing what I like I’m
doing what I love I’m helping people
become their greatest version and you
got to start proving I talk of owning
your witness you’ve got to start proving
that it works for you right because lots
of us we don’t believe in ourselves
because since we were very small we had
to get the green light from other people
from friends and family saying no don’t
wear that change it and you’re like okay
I’ll change it what happens when you say
no I don’t want to change it I want to
take a risk today I want to be brave to
do it my way right because once you
start living your way
the opinions of others become less
important
the moment you start validating your own
existence many times we make things more
complicated than they actually are you
see my formula is very simple right I
could really attention seek write and I
don’t have to do though because once you
reach a certain level you’re just
flowing in the beginning is where you
think okay what should I do to make an
impact right you’re still under under
the jurisdiction under the control the
authority of what your family think okay
my family want me to go to college right
I don’t want to go to college what do I
do you got to start realizing if you go
against your own intuition you will
suffer if you go against what you know
is right within your heart you will
suffer if you listen to what friends say
even though you don’t believe it
yourself you will suffer what happens
when we ignore ourselves that’s what you
got to ask yourself what happens you
feel terrible right but what happens
when you actually one day say actually
I’m gonna go with my gut instinct even
if other people don’t like it they’re
probably throwing oranges at you right
now right or what what is it now like
pears pears or bananas something like
that right
and you’re on stage
keep it coming because through
vulnerability is where you find your
true power is where you become your
greatest version to be vulnerable means
that you you can’t always go with what
the crowd wants you want a gladiator for
goodness sakes are you not entertained
can I get a hello good so you don’t have
to be a gladiator you got to be a nerd
because nerds run the world and nerds do
whatever nerds want to do oh that’s
crazy oh yeah we just made a billion
really crazy right what is the greatest
time of your life
what are you most proud of your proudest
moment right that is how to stop craving
external attention and start seeking
internal affection hmm
can I get a hello there that is it right
there to stop craving external attention
and start seeking internal affection
that’s what you got to do you got to
create a better relationship with
yourself now how I do this is that I
come outside into nature and I just
start talking
I don’t cup because there are no
mistakes it’s all part of the artwork
it’s all part of the expression and that
is how you build confidence that is how
you build trust and that is how you
become a trendsetter you now become the
pioneer of the new generation can I get
a hello head so once you find your
proudest moment what are you most proud
of
maybe it was eating a whole tub of ice
cream right maybe it was going for a
walk maybe it is right in the present
moment that time where you help somebody
out right that time you were there for
somebody when nobody else was so you got
your proudest moment now you’ve got to
start pinning that on the fridge or
right on the dashboard so you can remind
yourself of all your proudest moments
that way you develop a deeper intimacy
with yourself you see many times we
don’t really care enough about ourselves
that is why we suffer we care more about
how other people perceive us and that is
why we suffer right so you probably if
you follow me on Instagram a lot of
people say gosh Ralph why do you upload
certain photos and then delete them
because I’m more I’m always about giving
you a photo at that precise present
moment I didn’t create Instagram for
likes and stuff I already got youtube
for that cat down the road knows that
right but you got to play around with it
learn the rules like a pro break them
like an artist it’s about the message
right so
remind yourself why you started
congratulate yourself clap for yourself
to see how far you’ve come and realize
that it is ok to crave attention you got
to start craving more of your own
affection your own love your own
compassion and your own attention right
because you see most people are so busy
during the day that they’re not even
paying attention to you they’re not
focused on you except me I’m the only
one that cares can I get a Hello there
life can become awfully tiring when
you’re breaking your back trying to make
everybody happy you see the only way to
make everybody happy
is to crucify yourself let me repeat
that the only way to make everybody
happy
is to crucify yourself what am I talking
about your own self-expression doing
this for so many years being at the
forefront you learn a lot of secrets
right that
people aren’t gonna care about you
unless you care about yourself let me
repeat that people aren’t gonna care
about you unless you care about yourself
and you know what you know what what
what who cares what people think
like the rock said it doesn’t matter can
I get a Hello there but it does right it
does matter of course it does that’s why
you can’t sleep at night you’re rockin
in your bed saying oh my gosh if only
it all comes down to getting attention
from the right kind of people right and
really the only person that should be
number one is you first and foremost and
then few close friends right but you got
to realize people are like that whoa
whoa right you can’t just depend on
other people’s attention sometimes
people say Ralph I haven’t seen your
video in two years I came back to it one
day gosh they’re amazing man what
happened I’ve been here what happened to
you I don’t know ain’t got nothing to do
with me
can I get a hello there because how you
see me
has nothing to do with me it has
everything to do with you you got to
take that mindset only talk of attention
right many times as a psychologist when
we talk of craving attention it does go
back to our childhood
many of us were suffering from
abandonment issues right and a lot of
the times you have to realize like my
dad left when I was five but at the same
time I had a wonderful mother had uncles
I had people and no bitterness I had the
most amazing childhood but you see many
times it’s not that people abandon us we
abandon ourselves whether it’s through
drugs a negative mind state working in a
shitty job right all of that is self
abuse and because of that self abuse we
are craving love externally we are
craving love from other people and that
is great but at the same time you see
you’ve got to come full in that way you
now start generating what we call the
love energy within yourself you now
become a magnet of attraction and guess
what you don’t even have to do anything
can I get a hello there why because
you’re doing things you’re moving you’re
hot right now and once you’re hot once
you’ve got the juice you create what we
call magnetism people see you’re doing
stuff so become the lighthouse focus on
what you want most out of your life
focus on what makes you most happy and I
guarantee you once you’re in alignment
to your true life purpose people will
naturally become inspired by that and
guess what it will start craving your
attention oh yeah because if you neglect
yourself what option do you leave me but
if you love yourself
I’m just gonna be like ah ain’t that
cute it is really cute right so form the
intimacy with yourself you can’t please
everyone what is your proudest moment go
over that see how far you’ve come take a
look at your timeline right and realize
that hey it is okay to be receiving lots
of love because we all naturally are
worthy offer lots we’re worthy of lots
of love and attention don’t see that as
a negative thing because none of us are
independent none of us I don’t care if
you live somewhere with a cat down the
road oh you’re still with a cat down the
road right so you never by yourself I’ve
never by myself right I’m always in
nature it’s a law of exchange baby so we
need people I need people but you got to
remind yourself that you’ve got to start
to find your own inner confidence which
can only happen once you hey guys see ya
whoa where did you just go 30 minutes by
yourself go into nature meditate because
if you don’t meditate
accidents happen and if you don’t
meditate you won’t be able to say can I
get a Hello it’s a beautiful day here in
California so that you have it dear
we’re out here you got a question you
can Instagram us and infinite waters go
to the website Ralph’s marcom we’re
thriving in abundance in nature getting
high I’m a beautiful day you infinite
waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy
once again we are out here we’re in
nature we even had breakfast yet can I
get a hello there whoa breathing in that
good ass prana baby
okay we got a question that came in
we’re doing it word for word
let’s read it we’ve got it from a woman
saying hello Ralph
how are you I’m not too bad it’s a
beautiful day today I have a question
for you that I haven’t found a video of
yours about it how do you stop craving
for attention how do you shift your need
to have attention from your friends
family and even people you don’t know I
know it is a matter of self esteem but I
just don’t know how to change it it has
been affecting me in really serious ways
to the point where sometimes I don’t
even know who I am anymore
to the point where I doubt my work and
value
thanks a lot Ralph well thank you dear
let’s dive into it oh boy oh they put my
phone down we finished reading that
question when we talk of craving
attention you’ve heard the expression
attention seeker I always say that it is
wonderful to crave attention in fact we
naturally all crave attention because
naturally every human being wants to be
loved
subconsciously
we do things not just for ourselves but
for other people but you see where we
find a lot of problems is that we start
living from the outside in instead of
from the inside out can I get a Hello
there so love you got to start turning
things inside out when you were very
small
there was a punishment and a reward
system right when you did something good
you got a cookie when he did something
bad you got a glass of water what is
good for you so it’s not really that bad
in essence many times when we talk of
trying to stop craving attention you
don’t have to stop craving attention you
got to start giving yourself more
attention because people change
one day they love you next day they
don’t but how you see yourself is the
only thing that is important so what
happens when we really want people to
pay attention to us right we stand in
the middle of the street and we strip
down naked and people just walk by hey
I’m butt-naked right the least you can
do is take a selfie with me no they just
walk past because
the more you want people to give you
attention the more they don’t the moment
I let go everything came to me so I got
a story for you I’ve been talking about
becoming your becoming your greatest
version for a long time and when I was
first starting it’s always difficult
when you first stop sharing with the
world you think what can I do to get
people’s attention people were saying
look people don’t really have a big
concentration span all right they got a
very short concentration span really
short concentration span probably not
over two minutes if you’re lucky maybe
three nice that okay so let me just keep
my videos as short as possible then one
day I had an epiphany realizing that I
can’t please everybody I got to do it
for me can I get a hello there and that
day I made a video called how to stop
absorbing other people’s energy now I
was talking for so long when I stopped
the video it was about 24 minutes no it
was 24 minutes and I was like oh my gosh
it’s way too long who’s gonna watch it
but then I didn’t care I just put it out
there and that video went viral because
it’s not I wasn’t trying to get people’s
attention it was coming from a place of
authenticity true creative expression so
you got you’ve got to start living for
yourself for once do something for
yourself and realize that that is where
the greatest joy comes because you can
beg for people’s attention and you won’t
get it but once you start pleasing
yourself you got to fill your own cup
and wants the cup overflows well other
people can drink from it if it doesn’t
overflow well well they gotta go thirsty
can I get a hello hit many times where
we’re living in a generation of selfies
right likes and dislikes and you got to
start validating yourself you got to
start impressing yourself I’ve been
making videos for so long now that I
don’t even check the views the likes the
dislikes I’ve gone past that stage but
what I do know is that I’m reaching
people all around the world millions of
people on a very personal level right
and it’s beautiful it’s a beautiful
feeling because I’m not trying to get
people’s attention but I’m getting tons
of it because I’m doing what I like I’m
doing what I love I’m helping people
become their greatest version and you
got to start proving I talk of owning
your witness you’ve got to start proving
that it works for you right because lots
of us we don’t believe in ourselves
because since we were very small we had
to get the green light from other people
from friends and family saying no don’t
wear that change it and you’re like okay
I’ll change it what happens when you say
no I don’t want to change it I want to
take a risk today I want to be brave to
do it my way right because once you
start living your way
the opinions of others become less
important
the moment you start validating your own
existence many times we make things more
complicated than they actually are you
see my formula is very simple right I
could really attention seek write and I
don’t have to do though because once you
reach a certain level you’re just
flowing in the beginning is where you
think okay what should I do to make an
impact right you’re still under under
the jurisdiction under the control the
authority of what your family think okay
my family want me to go to college right
I don’t want to go to college what do I
do you got to start realizing if you go
against your own intuition you will
suffer if you go against what you know
is right within your heart you will
suffer if you listen to what friends say
even though you don’t believe it
yourself you will suffer what happens
when we ignore ourselves that’s what you
got to ask yourself what happens you
feel terrible right but what happens
when you actually one day say actually
I’m gonna go with my gut instinct even
if other people don’t like it they’re
probably throwing oranges at you right
now right or what what is it now like
pears pears or bananas something like
that right
and you’re on stage
keep it coming because through
vulnerability is where you find your
true power is where you become your
greatest version to be vulnerable means
that you you can’t always go with what
the crowd wants you want a gladiator for
goodness sakes are you not entertained
can I get a hello good so you don’t have
to be a gladiator you got to be a nerd
because nerds run the world and nerds do
whatever nerds want to do oh that’s
crazy oh yeah we just made a billion
really crazy right what is the greatest
time of your life
what are you most proud of your proudest
moment right that is how to stop craving
external attention and start seeking
internal affection hmm
can I get a hello there that is it right
there to stop craving external attention
and start seeking internal affection
that’s what you got to do you got to
create a better relationship with
yourself now how I do this is that I
come outside into nature and I just
start talking
I don’t cup because there are no
mistakes it’s all part of the artwork
it’s all part of the expression and that
is how you build confidence that is how
you build trust and that is how you
become a trendsetter you now become the
pioneer of the new generation can I get
a hello head so once you find your
proudest moment what are you most proud
of
maybe it was eating a whole tub of ice
cream right maybe it was going for a
walk maybe it is right in the present
moment that time where you help somebody
out right that time you were there for
somebody when nobody else was so you got
your proudest moment now you’ve got to
start pinning that on the fridge or
right on the dashboard so you can remind
yourself of all your proudest moments
that way you develop a deeper intimacy
with yourself you see many times we
don’t really care enough about ourselves
that is why we suffer we care more about
how other people perceive us and that is
why we suffer right so you probably if
you follow me on Instagram a lot of
people say gosh Ralph why do you upload
certain photos and then delete them
because I’m more I’m always about giving
you a photo at that precise present
moment I didn’t create Instagram for
likes and stuff I already got youtube
for that cat down the road knows that
right but you got to play around with it
learn the rules like a pro break them
like an artist it’s about the message
right so
remind yourself why you started
congratulate yourself clap for yourself
to see how far you’ve come and realize
that it is ok to crave attention you got
to start craving more of your own
affection your own love your own
compassion and your own attention right
because you see most people are so busy
during the day that they’re not even
paying attention to you they’re not
focused on you except me I’m the only
one that cares can I get a Hello there
life can become awfully tiring when
you’re breaking your back trying to make
everybody happy you see the only way to
make everybody happy
is to crucify yourself let me repeat
that the only way to make everybody
happy
is to crucify yourself what am I talking
about your own self-expression doing
this for so many years being at the
forefront you learn a lot of secrets
right that
people aren’t gonna care about you
unless you care about yourself let me
repeat that people aren’t gonna care
about you unless you care about yourself
and you know what you know what what
what who cares what people think
like the rock said it doesn’t matter can
I get a Hello there but it does right it
does matter of course it does that’s why
you can’t sleep at night you’re rockin
in your bed saying oh my gosh if only
it all comes down to getting attention
from the right kind of people right and
really the only person that should be
number one is you first and foremost and
then few close friends right but you got
to realize people are like that whoa
whoa right you can’t just depend on
other people’s attention sometimes
people say Ralph I haven’t seen your
video in two years I came back to it one
day gosh they’re amazing man what
happened I’ve been here what happened to
you I don’t know ain’t got nothing to do
with me
can I get a hello there because how you
see me
has nothing to do with me it has
everything to do with you you got to
take that mindset only talk of attention
right many times as a psychologist when
we talk of craving attention it does go
back to our childhood
many of us were suffering from
abandonment issues right and a lot of
the times you have to realize like my
dad left when I was five but at the same
time I had a wonderful mother had uncles
I had people and no bitterness I had the
most amazing childhood but you see many
times it’s not that people abandon us we
abandon ourselves whether it’s through
drugs a negative mind state working in a
shitty job right all of that is self
abuse and because of that self abuse we
are craving love externally we are
craving love from other people and that
is great but at the same time you see
you’ve got to come full in that way you
now start generating what we call the
love energy within yourself you now
become a magnet of attraction and guess
what you don’t even have to do anything
can I get a hello there why because
you’re doing things you’re moving you’re
hot right now and once you’re hot once
you’ve got the juice you create what we
call magnetism people see you’re doing
stuff so become the lighthouse focus on
what you want most out of your life
focus on what makes you most happy and I
guarantee you once you’re in alignment
to your true life purpose people will
naturally become inspired by that and
guess what it will start craving your
attention oh yeah because if you neglect
yourself what option do you leave me but
if you love yourself
I’m just gonna be like ah ain’t that
cute it is really cute right so form the
intimacy with yourself you can’t please
everyone what is your proudest moment go
over that see how far you’ve come take a
look at your timeline right and realize
that hey it is okay to be receiving lots
of love because we all naturally are
worthy offer lots we’re worthy of lots
of love and attention don’t see that as
a negative thing because none of us are
independent none of us I don’t care if
you live somewhere with a cat down the
road oh you’re still with a cat down the
road right so you never by yourself I’ve
never by myself right I’m always in
nature it’s a law of exchange baby so we
need people I need people but you got to
remind yourself that you’ve got to start
to find your own inner confidence which
can only happen once you hey guys see ya
whoa where did you just go 30 minutes by
yourself go into nature meditate because
if you don’t meditate
accidents happen and if you don’t
meditate you won’t be able to say can I
get a Hello it’s a beautiful day here in
California so that you have it dear
we’re out here you got a question you
can Instagram us and infinite waters go
to the website Ralph’s marcom we’re
thriving in abundance in nature getting
high I’m a beautiful day you infinite
waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy
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