peace infinite waters diving deep once
again we’re out here we’re in nature
we got the bird singing first thing in
the day we even had breakfast yet can I
get a hello there breathing in that good
ass prana baby so I’ve been receiving
tons of tons of tons of really
lololololololol or long questions right
from ladies who say their partners are
becoming very distant and cold and
recently I received one from a woman who
said she wrote a really long question
right she said that she was dating this
guy in fact let me just read the
question it’s such a long question such
a beautiful question but next time
please keep it shorter right and what
does she say okay she says that I’m sure
you get a million emails or DMS a day
but I figured writing to you would be
worth a shot the reason I’m writing to
you is because I’m having trouble
letting go so about two years ago I was
dating this guy and I wasn’t really into
the relationship because I felt we were
both very different at times
incompatible nevertheless I still loved
him I felt like he challenged me to be a
better person and my entire family got
along with him his love for me was
genuine he would put so much effort into
the relationship a lot more than me
anyways towards the end of the
relationship wait for it he became
distant and cold with me and broke
things off with me one weekend when I
was at work that’s not nice
he blocked me completely from all forms
of social media and communication so one
month later I discovered he had
basically moved on with another
all that he already knew so I’m sure
this is a typical scenario and I’m not
the only girl suffering from these
unfortunate mishaps she even goes on to
say so
till today there are still they are
still dating
right a part of me is happy that he’s
found someone that is compatible with
him and a part of me wonders if he
misses me or wants to work things out
right so it’s been two years I’m having
trouble connecting finding other guys
so I’m fair to them it’s frustrating for
me I wish it could be simpler I wish I
could let it all go I would appreciate
some advice or feedback in terms of what
I should do
I’m sorry this turned into a novel don’t
worry dear can I get a Hello there it
happens all the time now as a
psychologist and counselor I get
thousands of questions around this topic
right what happens when you’re in a
relationship and so on just turns really
cold like shivering kind of cold right
getting real frosty around you and
you’re like what did I do
I didn’t do anything
and you are right you didn’t do anything
as a psychologist you got to realize
that you want responsible for someone
else’s behavior mmm can I get a hello
there let me repeat that you aren’t
responsible for someone else’s behavior
I want you to ask yourself one question
honey does he define who I am it happens
all the time in relationships we
externalize our power our love our
attention on to someone else our value
on to someone else so that means when
they move away our value moves away hmm
can I get a hello there our trust moves
away our respect moves away but our
doubt remains with us because we feel we
are never gonna move on we think it’s
got something to do with us I’m going to
tell you like this
Hey ladies what’s up if you’re in a
relationship dating someone and all of a
sudden the temperature changes they
become very cold and distant many times
we think the more effort we use the more
we can keep them closer to us no in fact
the opposite happens the more you try to
hold someone closer to you the more they
try to run away and that’s why ladies
know what I’m talking about when it
feels almost like a guy is slipping out
of your hands right you think gosh is he
losing interest in me you got to start
recognizing realizing and appreciating
your own self-worth and value
don’t let anybody to find that not even
the cat down the road when you realize
communication five secrets of a great
relationship and communication
communication comes top off the list
right once you are communicating with
someone asking meaningful questions not
just how’s the game right because a lot
of guys are scratching their balls
saying all the games great house
stereotypical no a lot of guys are
reading right meditating and stuff hush
right when you start communicating start
asking what happened in your childhood
get to know them what happens in
relationship so many times is that we
focus only on our external appearance
you see that is what got us with them in
the first place right we will
barring certain outfit we spend so much
money on makeup right we spend so much
money on our outward appearance which is
so important but you see that’s not the
glue that holds people together in
relationships
intimacy is the glue that holds people
together in a relationship and the only
way to form intimacy is by diving deeper
with someone is by having time what I
call in relationships priority time
right priority time that’s it priority
time right don’t say I’m too busy you
see when we say a lot of people are
becoming distant and cold is because two
people haven’t created enough special
priority time where both of you go into
nature you take time to meditate
together eat grapes together see the cat
down the road together can I get a Hello
have fun together but you see many times
what happens and as a psychologist I I
deal with consultations daily around
this right what happens is that people
don’t have time because we can continue
to blame that other person that they’ve
become distant and cold right lots of
ladies know what I’m talking about
first he was really interested in you
and then all of a sudden the temperature
just changed you gotta ask yourself are
you all so busy you got to start taking
a responsibility here because if you
don’t you now become the victim and what
happens to the victim they feel helpless
so once again you externalize your power
which is why you are in the predicament
before he got with you he was very
interested in
right he couldn’t wait to be with you
then he got with you and then he lost
interest why does that happen because
before you have something the value is
very high when you get something the
value diminishes when you lose something
the value goes up it goes up right so
you’ve got to recognize the secret you
are beautiful you are wonderful over
seven billion people in the world
cluding kat down the road right so that
means you got to ask yourself is he the
only one for me you got to start to
learn how to fill your own cup and let
the cup overfloweth can I get a Hello
there because once again you have an
image of him in your mind which goes
like this he is the one I know he is the
one he has to be the one he’s moved on
now but I wonder if he’s still thinking
about what we had no honey you’re worth
so much more than flashbacks mmm
can I get a Hello there let me repeat
that you are worth so much more than
flashbacks because you see relationships
work based on resonance and the higher
the resonance the greater the
relationship so just as you are thinking
about him when he’s with his new partner
he should be thinking about you if it’s
meant to be that’s what we call the love
connection but once again you don’t want
to be selling yourself short
many times we limit ourselves we create
fantasies in our mind illusions we block
ourselves not realizing our own true
self worth and value you gotta look at
yourself honey as the crown jewels
can I get a Hello there you got to start
realizing what you have
you better start realizing what you have
he should be
after you all the time right just like
you’re after him
it’s got to be 5050 many times in
relationships people can become distant
or cold even lose interests for the
simple reason people’s needs are being
met when people’s needs aren’t being
fulfilled they go elsewhere right that’s
why a lot of people are in relationships
but the other one isn’t in the
relationship how does that work
nobody knows don’t worry about it
sometimes people sleep together but the
other person is thinking of someone else
the cat down the road right being in a
relationship doesn’t mean anything in
fact being in a relationship is just the
start of forming the bridge what am I
talking about what am I talking about
the bridge of the love connection
the reason why a lot of people might
become distant or cold you said your
partner was distant and cold is because
you got to ask yourself for the future
how can we keep the bridge how can we
maintain the bridge how can we keep the
glue of our relationship stronger some
relationships aren’t meant to be that is
why people go and meet someone else and
we’ve got to let them move freely
another question you got to ask yourself
this do I control this person do I own
this person do they own me a problem
that occurs in many relationships my
boyfriend my girlfriend look at the
first word my so once upon a time he was
yours just like a car or a book you
owned him because you bought him in a
shop right some guy say I own her
I bought her right we don’t own anybody
when you feel someone is growing more
distant or cold towards you it’s nothing
personal
but you got to ask yourself why am I
still here mmm
can I get a hello there you gotta remind
yourself you are making a conscious
choice to be in this relationship right
so you don’t have to be there you don’t
have to settle for Less mediocrity
you don’t have to do that you deserve to
be in a relationship that helps you
become your greatest version you are
worthy of the best and nothing less but
his eyes the way he touched me right
we’re still having flashbacks once again
you are worth so much more than a
flashback so I asked you today
to grab a mirror and once again that
exercise the exercise is say write down
descriptive adjectives of how you feel
about yourself right the more you
describe how you feel about yourself
of how other people affect you sometimes
people say I feel worthless if you feel
worthless it’s a lot easier to feel
someone is doing something to you if
they don’t give you attention because
you don’t give yourself attention now
you feel that person is becoming distant
and cold people do lose interests oh
yeah
sometimes and guess what most of the
times it’s got nothing to do with you
it’s got everything to do with their
core needs you’ve got to start putting
your needs at the forefront you put your
needs at the forefront when you ask
yourself am I wasting time am I happy
here are they happy here do I really
want to be with someone who is halfway
in halfway out or do I want to be with
someone who gives me a hundred percent
all the time do I feel that the universe
is a static place what do I feel it
moves an ebb and flow motion people meet
people and then they move on but there’s
always a lesson to be learned when you
remind yourself everyone you meet in a
relationship is your teacher you free
yourself right I’ve learnt so many crazy
stuff in relationship right it really
puts a smile on your face
sometimes a frown on your face but you
learn right you learn your value you
learn what to tolerate and what not to
tolerate you also learn how to let go
through that process of realizing you
don’t own anybody you see
it’s all mental right the reason why you
said you can’t let go even though you’ve
two years now two years right honey
you can’t let go because once again you
are trying to meet a guy who is like
your ex it’s not happening
to move on in a relationship you got to
start seeing new relationships with new
partners and meet someone new we’ve got
to give them a chance we got to learn
how to stop comparing them to the last
one because they’re never gonna match
last one you can try but sometimes the
shoe doesn’t fit it all goes back to you
honey it all goes back to knowing your
own self-worth you don’t have to put up
with someone becoming distant or cold
you got to ask yourself how can you give
yourself more warmth more self-love so
you can naturally attract someone who
gives you the same hmm can I get a hello
there well here just having fun you got
a question we get thousands every single
day Instagram us at infinite waters
we’ll go to the website Ralph’s smarter
calm we’re creating abundance baby and
it feels great the love connection is
alive whoa breathing in that good Oz
prana
have a beautiful day infinite waters to
hiving deep once again stay well stay healthy peace
again we’re out here we’re in nature
we got the bird singing first thing in
the day we even had breakfast yet can I
get a hello there breathing in that good
ass prana baby so I’ve been receiving
tons of tons of tons of really
lololololololol or long questions right
from ladies who say their partners are
becoming very distant and cold and
recently I received one from a woman who
said she wrote a really long question
right she said that she was dating this
guy in fact let me just read the
question it’s such a long question such
a beautiful question but next time
please keep it shorter right and what
does she say okay she says that I’m sure
you get a million emails or DMS a day
but I figured writing to you would be
worth a shot the reason I’m writing to
you is because I’m having trouble
letting go so about two years ago I was
dating this guy and I wasn’t really into
the relationship because I felt we were
both very different at times
incompatible nevertheless I still loved
him I felt like he challenged me to be a
better person and my entire family got
along with him his love for me was
genuine he would put so much effort into
the relationship a lot more than me
anyways towards the end of the
relationship wait for it he became
distant and cold with me and broke
things off with me one weekend when I
was at work that’s not nice
he blocked me completely from all forms
of social media and communication so one
month later I discovered he had
basically moved on with another
all that he already knew so I’m sure
this is a typical scenario and I’m not
the only girl suffering from these
unfortunate mishaps she even goes on to
say so
till today there are still they are
still dating
right a part of me is happy that he’s
found someone that is compatible with
him and a part of me wonders if he
misses me or wants to work things out
right so it’s been two years I’m having
trouble connecting finding other guys
so I’m fair to them it’s frustrating for
me I wish it could be simpler I wish I
could let it all go I would appreciate
some advice or feedback in terms of what
I should do
I’m sorry this turned into a novel don’t
worry dear can I get a Hello there it
happens all the time now as a
psychologist and counselor I get
thousands of questions around this topic
right what happens when you’re in a
relationship and so on just turns really
cold like shivering kind of cold right
getting real frosty around you and
you’re like what did I do
I didn’t do anything
and you are right you didn’t do anything
as a psychologist you got to realize
that you want responsible for someone
else’s behavior mmm can I get a hello
there let me repeat that you aren’t
responsible for someone else’s behavior
I want you to ask yourself one question
honey does he define who I am it happens
all the time in relationships we
externalize our power our love our
attention on to someone else our value
on to someone else so that means when
they move away our value moves away hmm
can I get a hello there our trust moves
away our respect moves away but our
doubt remains with us because we feel we
are never gonna move on we think it’s
got something to do with us I’m going to
tell you like this
Hey ladies what’s up if you’re in a
relationship dating someone and all of a
sudden the temperature changes they
become very cold and distant many times
we think the more effort we use the more
we can keep them closer to us no in fact
the opposite happens the more you try to
hold someone closer to you the more they
try to run away and that’s why ladies
know what I’m talking about when it
feels almost like a guy is slipping out
of your hands right you think gosh is he
losing interest in me you got to start
recognizing realizing and appreciating
your own self-worth and value
don’t let anybody to find that not even
the cat down the road when you realize
communication five secrets of a great
relationship and communication
communication comes top off the list
right once you are communicating with
someone asking meaningful questions not
just how’s the game right because a lot
of guys are scratching their balls
saying all the games great house
stereotypical no a lot of guys are
reading right meditating and stuff hush
right when you start communicating start
asking what happened in your childhood
get to know them what happens in
relationship so many times is that we
focus only on our external appearance
you see that is what got us with them in
the first place right we will
barring certain outfit we spend so much
money on makeup right we spend so much
money on our outward appearance which is
so important but you see that’s not the
glue that holds people together in
relationships
intimacy is the glue that holds people
together in a relationship and the only
way to form intimacy is by diving deeper
with someone is by having time what I
call in relationships priority time
right priority time that’s it priority
time right don’t say I’m too busy you
see when we say a lot of people are
becoming distant and cold is because two
people haven’t created enough special
priority time where both of you go into
nature you take time to meditate
together eat grapes together see the cat
down the road together can I get a Hello
have fun together but you see many times
what happens and as a psychologist I I
deal with consultations daily around
this right what happens is that people
don’t have time because we can continue
to blame that other person that they’ve
become distant and cold right lots of
ladies know what I’m talking about
first he was really interested in you
and then all of a sudden the temperature
just changed you gotta ask yourself are
you all so busy you got to start taking
a responsibility here because if you
don’t you now become the victim and what
happens to the victim they feel helpless
so once again you externalize your power
which is why you are in the predicament
before he got with you he was very
interested in
right he couldn’t wait to be with you
then he got with you and then he lost
interest why does that happen because
before you have something the value is
very high when you get something the
value diminishes when you lose something
the value goes up it goes up right so
you’ve got to recognize the secret you
are beautiful you are wonderful over
seven billion people in the world
cluding kat down the road right so that
means you got to ask yourself is he the
only one for me you got to start to
learn how to fill your own cup and let
the cup overfloweth can I get a Hello
there because once again you have an
image of him in your mind which goes
like this he is the one I know he is the
one he has to be the one he’s moved on
now but I wonder if he’s still thinking
about what we had no honey you’re worth
so much more than flashbacks mmm
can I get a Hello there let me repeat
that you are worth so much more than
flashbacks because you see relationships
work based on resonance and the higher
the resonance the greater the
relationship so just as you are thinking
about him when he’s with his new partner
he should be thinking about you if it’s
meant to be that’s what we call the love
connection but once again you don’t want
to be selling yourself short
many times we limit ourselves we create
fantasies in our mind illusions we block
ourselves not realizing our own true
self worth and value you gotta look at
yourself honey as the crown jewels
can I get a Hello there you got to start
realizing what you have
you better start realizing what you have
he should be
after you all the time right just like
you’re after him
it’s got to be 5050 many times in
relationships people can become distant
or cold even lose interests for the
simple reason people’s needs are being
met when people’s needs aren’t being
fulfilled they go elsewhere right that’s
why a lot of people are in relationships
but the other one isn’t in the
relationship how does that work
nobody knows don’t worry about it
sometimes people sleep together but the
other person is thinking of someone else
the cat down the road right being in a
relationship doesn’t mean anything in
fact being in a relationship is just the
start of forming the bridge what am I
talking about what am I talking about
the bridge of the love connection
the reason why a lot of people might
become distant or cold you said your
partner was distant and cold is because
you got to ask yourself for the future
how can we keep the bridge how can we
maintain the bridge how can we keep the
glue of our relationship stronger some
relationships aren’t meant to be that is
why people go and meet someone else and
we’ve got to let them move freely
another question you got to ask yourself
this do I control this person do I own
this person do they own me a problem
that occurs in many relationships my
boyfriend my girlfriend look at the
first word my so once upon a time he was
yours just like a car or a book you
owned him because you bought him in a
shop right some guy say I own her
I bought her right we don’t own anybody
when you feel someone is growing more
distant or cold towards you it’s nothing
personal
but you got to ask yourself why am I
still here mmm
can I get a hello there you gotta remind
yourself you are making a conscious
choice to be in this relationship right
so you don’t have to be there you don’t
have to settle for Less mediocrity
you don’t have to do that you deserve to
be in a relationship that helps you
become your greatest version you are
worthy of the best and nothing less but
his eyes the way he touched me right
we’re still having flashbacks once again
you are worth so much more than a
flashback so I asked you today
to grab a mirror and once again that
exercise the exercise is say write down
descriptive adjectives of how you feel
about yourself right the more you
describe how you feel about yourself
of how other people affect you sometimes
people say I feel worthless if you feel
worthless it’s a lot easier to feel
someone is doing something to you if
they don’t give you attention because
you don’t give yourself attention now
you feel that person is becoming distant
and cold people do lose interests oh
yeah
sometimes and guess what most of the
times it’s got nothing to do with you
it’s got everything to do with their
core needs you’ve got to start putting
your needs at the forefront you put your
needs at the forefront when you ask
yourself am I wasting time am I happy
here are they happy here do I really
want to be with someone who is halfway
in halfway out or do I want to be with
someone who gives me a hundred percent
all the time do I feel that the universe
is a static place what do I feel it
moves an ebb and flow motion people meet
people and then they move on but there’s
always a lesson to be learned when you
remind yourself everyone you meet in a
relationship is your teacher you free
yourself right I’ve learnt so many crazy
stuff in relationship right it really
puts a smile on your face
sometimes a frown on your face but you
learn right you learn your value you
learn what to tolerate and what not to
tolerate you also learn how to let go
through that process of realizing you
don’t own anybody you see
it’s all mental right the reason why you
said you can’t let go even though you’ve
two years now two years right honey
you can’t let go because once again you
are trying to meet a guy who is like
your ex it’s not happening
to move on in a relationship you got to
start seeing new relationships with new
partners and meet someone new we’ve got
to give them a chance we got to learn
how to stop comparing them to the last
one because they’re never gonna match
last one you can try but sometimes the
shoe doesn’t fit it all goes back to you
honey it all goes back to knowing your
own self-worth you don’t have to put up
with someone becoming distant or cold
you got to ask yourself how can you give
yourself more warmth more self-love so
you can naturally attract someone who
gives you the same hmm can I get a hello
there well here just having fun you got
a question we get thousands every single
day Instagram us at infinite waters
we’ll go to the website Ralph’s smarter
calm we’re creating abundance baby and
it feels great the love connection is
alive whoa breathing in that good Oz
prana
have a beautiful day infinite waters to
hiving deep once again stay well stay healthy peace
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