peace and finit waters diving deep once
again breathing in that beautiful prana
baby we’re out here how to approach
someone without thinking Lots do you
think / think before you approach
someone someone wrote in this they have
tremendous anxiety in approaching
anybody but there’s this girl in
particular and it’s gotten to the point
where even their chest is tightening up
the hands are shaking
they’re sweating they’re feeling
incredibly nervous and we even had
breakfast yet can I get a hello there I
get thousands of questions every single
day that’s the understatement you want
to send in a question go to the website
Ralph smart calm or Instagram us at
infinite waters now I’m gonna share with
you what’s helped me along my journey
because I’ve been really really nervous
in the past as a psychologist as a
counselor but more so as an infinite
being I’m gonna give you confidence
hacks so you’re just gonna go up to that
girl or that boy or that man or that
woman or that dog will that cat down the
road and just be able just to speak your
heart out should we go for it let’s go
for it
okay you got to realize this it all
starts with learning how to calm your
nerves
now there’s two aspects of this food and
meditation 7 day vegan challenge you see
a lot of us we’re shaking we’re nervous
were anxious because we’re not eating
right and if you’re eating junk food
you’re gonna feel more anxious you’re
gonna have low confidence levels low
self-esteem levels so what
help me along my journey was actually I
ended up in the ocean
grab some seaweed because it’s full of
magnesium which is gonna calm your
nerves is full of tryptophan which is
gonna make you feel better about
yourself and now you are gonna be able
to approach that girl that boy the cat
down the road without any problems what
about meditation there was a Harvard
study dr. Sara Lhasa I’m a doula what
are we talking about the region in the
brain which detects threats closely
related to our fears just eight weeks of
meditation changes the entire structure
of the brain it actually shrinks lamech
dala that’s incredible
now as a psychologist I talk to people
every single day about overcoming this
fear of not feeling good enough to be in
anybody else’s presence what’s happening
here over the years spoken to so many
people and will come to the solutions
later you see what is happening is that
it has nothing to do with that person
it’s got everything to do with us and
how we perceive ourselves so I was
skating and I just bump into this person
who’s really really famous on Instagram
I will mention his name because I don’t
want to blow his cover but I’m like oh
you’re the guy from Instagram and we
just started talking but you see a lot
of us can’t even do that a lot of people
approach me every single day Oh infinite
waters and that’s good because they’ve
got the confidence to do it but I’ve
also met people who are like yeah I saw
you one time but I didn’t say anything
that stuff creeps me the hell out don’t
do that you see
we have total confidence when we don’t
want anything from any one let me repeat
that that’s like a new catchphrase let
me repeat that we have total confidence
when we don’t want anything from any one
so if you’re approaching a woman a man
whoever you’re approaching if you want
to give them more than you want to take
the amp the approach anxiety is gonna
decrease you see if you want something a
lot of the times we’ve always got an
ulterior motive hidden agenda sometimes
you want the number sometimes you want
to take them home sometimes you want to
take them on holiday now you don’t want
to take them on holiday yank on the
money for that oh you do okay you do you
just don’t want to take them that’s fine
fair enough so when you realize actually
the anxiety subsides when you do want
something you get a lot of anxiety
you’re starting to feel real nervous
right now because once again you’re
focusing on taking something from
someone so what help me along my journey
if I see someone I like I just say hi
what’s up bring them into the present
moment but I don’t want anything why
because you’ve got to find that within
yourself first
I’m already connecting with millions of
people we good we really good but at the
same time I can always learn from
different people but if you go with an
attitude of okay I want to take
something give me this give me that
you’re anxious because you have a fear
of rejection you have a fear of what
happens if you don’t get it but if you
don’t want anything then you’ve got
nothing to lose
it’s that simple so going with the
mindset go in with a mindset I don’t
want anything from this person I’m just
gonna create a conversation in the here
and now and we’re gonna see how it goes
I have no expectations of getting
anything when you’re going with that
mindset you’re gonna stop thinking over
thinking when you approach someone when
you go in with the mindset actually if I
don’t get their number it means I’m a
failure
then you’re gonna start thinking so much
you’re gonna keep staring at them don’t
stare at me talk to me goodness sakes
look at it like this a lot of us we’re
so serious all the time real serious
when it comes to approaching people why
because we have huge ego and if someone
rejects us if they reject us our ego
becomes hurt so you’ve got to learn how
to realize you want your ego this I
which we’ve created I am a psychologist
I am no no it’s not who we are
it’s just who we are in this world but
underneath it all we got to reconnect
back to our true authentic self there is
no shop no book no person that can give
you confidence true confidence emanates
from reconnecting back to your true
authentic self mm-hmm slow motion that
said to approach someone without
thinking lots realize this everybody is
gonna die no maybe not now maybe not in
a hundred years but maybe in a thousand
years in a couple of hundred years
everybody is going to be out of here so
what have you got to lose
you see we think that this is gonna make
us or break us when really and truly
it’s not that serious
so what help me along my journey was
realizing actually I’ve got nothing to
lose but what have I got to gain I could
gain a friend for life a future partner
and that’s why along my early journey I
would just set myself an experiment talk
to a person sometimes in a cafe and just
if I felt an intuition because that’s
what you wrote in you said you’ve got
this intuition to talk to them which
means you better start talking real
quick that’s a sign baby I would say
okay let me see what happens but if they
don’t want to talk that’s good at least
I’m not gonna keep staring at them it’s
gonna save me a lot of time and a lot of
hassle right look at it like this we
place people on pedestals this guy I met
who was super famous on Instagram
millions of followers
I wasn’t fazed by that I was just oh
cool he’s skating that’s that’s fine but
along my early journey I would say
actually Who am I to talk to this person
I would place him on a pedestal a lot of
people come up to me and say gosh
infinite waters I’m I was so shy in
meeting you I’m I’m starstruck and I’m
like don’t worry I’m just a regular Joe
with the cat down the road I’m not gonna
bite you
well if you’re covered in mangoes I
might that’s another story
look at it like this when you stop
ranking people treat people as equal
yeah I’ve been starstruck I’ve met
really inspiring people I get actually
more inspired by mentors people I’ve met
who have really changed my life these
for me are like celebrities and that’s
what people say to me so I actually do
get starstruck when I kind of meet the
kinds of people who have really changed
my life but even then I don’t want to
place them too much on a pedestal I just
want to say actually I’m worthy to be in
their presence because I’m a human being
and well they’re a human being last time
I checked hope they’re not an alien I
hope they’re not an alien
now we good what happens when this
happens we think that we’ve got all the
time in the world ever been wanting to
talk to someone maybe they’ve been
passing along the street and you’re like
yeah I’ll talk to them in the next 10
seconds no I’ll talk to them in the next
10 minutes no I’ll talk to them in the
next 10 hours oh my god I’m still
waiting yeah what’s happening
you’re never gonna talk to them Buddha
said the problem is you think you’ve got
time you’re saying The Breakfast Club
goodness gracious
the problem is you think you’ve got time
so I used to surf in Peniche Portugal
and you’ve got to catch that wave if you
don’t catch it you may not find another
one for a while but a lot of us we just
we’re just staring at someone thinking
well they’re always gonna be standing in
the same position for the next hour no
no if you don’t make that move they will
you’re beautiful it’s true right you
don’t have to do it James Blunt you can
actually talk to the girl for goodness
sakes and I have what I call the
10-second rule the reason why I say 10
seconds if you have an intuition to talk
to someone give yourself 10 seconds to
do it because I got a friend who just
dives into the ocean I kind of put one
foot in it’s really cold it’s really
cold then I jump in she just dives into
the ocean and that’s inspiring
now that’s almost what you got to do to
approach someone without thinking Lots
just dive in just dive into it just dive
into it just dive into it almost like as
if you’re drunk hey what’s up just act
like you don’t know what you’re doing
hey and once you dive into it what’s
gonna happen you’re gonna free yourself
of all of this pent up suppressed
emotions of not feeling good enough
feeling nervous shy anxious all of that
is just quickly out there because the
longer you wait the harder it gets we
think the longer we wait we’re gonna
build up more confidence no the longer
you wait the more reasons you have to
not do something mmm slow motion no slow
motion this time right so you don’t want
to wait too long you wanna you don’t
have to give yourself 10 seconds that’s
what I do you could give yourself 5
minutes make the five-minute rule maybe
the 10 minute rule but 10 minutes you
got to get yourself together to go and
start making some moves go up to them
and learn once again realize the power
of meditation beforehand to give you the
confidence to talk to anyone when you
are in the alpha brainwave state you’ve
got the most confidence that’s why I put
out the 4 3 2 Hertz millions of views
the 5 to 8 why because it calms you down
now you’ve got the confidence which
means to trust yourself to talk to
anyone you see a lot of us we don’t have
the right sound frequencies coming into
classical music is great by the way if
you want to talk to someone play some
classical music before
studies have shown how classical music
improves your cardiovascular system
right now you can’t even sit still
so breathing the good ass prana relax
take a moment to breathe deep what
happens when you’re just there maybe you
go to a party a social gathering and you
really have this intuition to talk to
someone now you’re not even really
breathing deep from the base of your
it’s just how to orgasm just right there
orgasm felt real good I’ve got to do it
like that when you inhale deep you
exhale slowly inhale deep exhale slowly
your nerves become calm your nerves
become calm everything starts to flow
more easily you see a lot of us we are
so frantic we can’t keep still have you
ever noticed when you’re nervous you
actually make someone else really
nervous and that’s why subconsciously we
have that fear we have a fear that
someone else is gonna pick up our vibes
that’s what keeps us away from them so I
used to have that thought as well so I
realized if I was calm or they’re gonna
get from me is calm if I’m chilled out
or they’re gonna get from me is chilled
out so I’ve got nothing to worry about
because guess what look at it like this
to approach someone without thinking
Lots if you don’t approach them you are
gonna end up thinking about them more
when they’re not there happened to me
along my journey I really really wanted
to talk to someone but I didn’t have the
guts
and guess what I was like they were just
right in front of me I could have just
said said hi hi what’s up but once again
I had the ego huge ego and a lot of us
think I don’t have a huge ego well if
you can’t talk to someone is coming up
nothing wrong with the ego but you see
the ego creates separation so I had to
say this I don’t want to go home
thinking about this person ruminating on
what could have been should have been no
it wasn’t so I’ve got to do it right
here and now and that’s always what
moves me to talk to someone ever seen
that Jack Nicholson meme don’t worry
about it just don’t worry about it you
see the less you care the happier you’ll
be because you don’t want to if
someone’s right in front of you open
your mouth cuz a lot of us we go away
and we’re like spending four hours
thinking about this person and guess
what I’m sorry you probably won’t see
them again
well you might maybe in Whole Foods in
Aisle number nine but that’s another
story
so once again realize the food you’re
eating seaweed high in magnesium that’s
what you need to calm your nerves
it creates a beautiful homeostasis
within the nerves within the body also
you want to stay away from a lot of
caffeine you already nervous enough for
goodness sakes and also what helped me
why do you want something come with your
cup full when you meet people right you
don’t want to come empty cuz now you’re
gonna be desperate you’re gonna be
shaking you’re gonna be gagging for it
we even had breakfast yet and also real
is that if you don’t approach this
person right now you’re gonna go home
and think about them for five hours why
waste precious time
so like Buddha said the problem is you
think you have time there is no time
there is only this moment and if you
want there is no time there is only this
moment and if you want to do something
do it right now it’s that simple
so we are out here breathing in that
good ass prana baby have a beautiful day
infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy peace
again breathing in that beautiful prana
baby we’re out here how to approach
someone without thinking Lots do you
think / think before you approach
someone someone wrote in this they have
tremendous anxiety in approaching
anybody but there’s this girl in
particular and it’s gotten to the point
where even their chest is tightening up
the hands are shaking
they’re sweating they’re feeling
incredibly nervous and we even had
breakfast yet can I get a hello there I
get thousands of questions every single
day that’s the understatement you want
to send in a question go to the website
Ralph smart calm or Instagram us at
infinite waters now I’m gonna share with
you what’s helped me along my journey
because I’ve been really really nervous
in the past as a psychologist as a
counselor but more so as an infinite
being I’m gonna give you confidence
hacks so you’re just gonna go up to that
girl or that boy or that man or that
woman or that dog will that cat down the
road and just be able just to speak your
heart out should we go for it let’s go
for it
okay you got to realize this it all
starts with learning how to calm your
nerves
now there’s two aspects of this food and
meditation 7 day vegan challenge you see
a lot of us we’re shaking we’re nervous
were anxious because we’re not eating
right and if you’re eating junk food
you’re gonna feel more anxious you’re
gonna have low confidence levels low
self-esteem levels so what
help me along my journey was actually I
ended up in the ocean
grab some seaweed because it’s full of
magnesium which is gonna calm your
nerves is full of tryptophan which is
gonna make you feel better about
yourself and now you are gonna be able
to approach that girl that boy the cat
down the road without any problems what
about meditation there was a Harvard
study dr. Sara Lhasa I’m a doula what
are we talking about the region in the
brain which detects threats closely
related to our fears just eight weeks of
meditation changes the entire structure
of the brain it actually shrinks lamech
dala that’s incredible
now as a psychologist I talk to people
every single day about overcoming this
fear of not feeling good enough to be in
anybody else’s presence what’s happening
here over the years spoken to so many
people and will come to the solutions
later you see what is happening is that
it has nothing to do with that person
it’s got everything to do with us and
how we perceive ourselves so I was
skating and I just bump into this person
who’s really really famous on Instagram
I will mention his name because I don’t
want to blow his cover but I’m like oh
you’re the guy from Instagram and we
just started talking but you see a lot
of us can’t even do that a lot of people
approach me every single day Oh infinite
waters and that’s good because they’ve
got the confidence to do it but I’ve
also met people who are like yeah I saw
you one time but I didn’t say anything
that stuff creeps me the hell out don’t
do that you see
we have total confidence when we don’t
want anything from any one let me repeat
that that’s like a new catchphrase let
me repeat that we have total confidence
when we don’t want anything from any one
so if you’re approaching a woman a man
whoever you’re approaching if you want
to give them more than you want to take
the amp the approach anxiety is gonna
decrease you see if you want something a
lot of the times we’ve always got an
ulterior motive hidden agenda sometimes
you want the number sometimes you want
to take them home sometimes you want to
take them on holiday now you don’t want
to take them on holiday yank on the
money for that oh you do okay you do you
just don’t want to take them that’s fine
fair enough so when you realize actually
the anxiety subsides when you do want
something you get a lot of anxiety
you’re starting to feel real nervous
right now because once again you’re
focusing on taking something from
someone so what help me along my journey
if I see someone I like I just say hi
what’s up bring them into the present
moment but I don’t want anything why
because you’ve got to find that within
yourself first
I’m already connecting with millions of
people we good we really good but at the
same time I can always learn from
different people but if you go with an
attitude of okay I want to take
something give me this give me that
you’re anxious because you have a fear
of rejection you have a fear of what
happens if you don’t get it but if you
don’t want anything then you’ve got
nothing to lose
it’s that simple so going with the
mindset go in with a mindset I don’t
want anything from this person I’m just
gonna create a conversation in the here
and now and we’re gonna see how it goes
I have no expectations of getting
anything when you’re going with that
mindset you’re gonna stop thinking over
thinking when you approach someone when
you go in with the mindset actually if I
don’t get their number it means I’m a
failure
then you’re gonna start thinking so much
you’re gonna keep staring at them don’t
stare at me talk to me goodness sakes
look at it like this a lot of us we’re
so serious all the time real serious
when it comes to approaching people why
because we have huge ego and if someone
rejects us if they reject us our ego
becomes hurt so you’ve got to learn how
to realize you want your ego this I
which we’ve created I am a psychologist
I am no no it’s not who we are
it’s just who we are in this world but
underneath it all we got to reconnect
back to our true authentic self there is
no shop no book no person that can give
you confidence true confidence emanates
from reconnecting back to your true
authentic self mm-hmm slow motion that
said to approach someone without
thinking lots realize this everybody is
gonna die no maybe not now maybe not in
a hundred years but maybe in a thousand
years in a couple of hundred years
everybody is going to be out of here so
what have you got to lose
you see we think that this is gonna make
us or break us when really and truly
it’s not that serious
so what help me along my journey was
realizing actually I’ve got nothing to
lose but what have I got to gain I could
gain a friend for life a future partner
and that’s why along my early journey I
would just set myself an experiment talk
to a person sometimes in a cafe and just
if I felt an intuition because that’s
what you wrote in you said you’ve got
this intuition to talk to them which
means you better start talking real
quick that’s a sign baby I would say
okay let me see what happens but if they
don’t want to talk that’s good at least
I’m not gonna keep staring at them it’s
gonna save me a lot of time and a lot of
hassle right look at it like this we
place people on pedestals this guy I met
who was super famous on Instagram
millions of followers
I wasn’t fazed by that I was just oh
cool he’s skating that’s that’s fine but
along my early journey I would say
actually Who am I to talk to this person
I would place him on a pedestal a lot of
people come up to me and say gosh
infinite waters I’m I was so shy in
meeting you I’m I’m starstruck and I’m
like don’t worry I’m just a regular Joe
with the cat down the road I’m not gonna
bite you
well if you’re covered in mangoes I
might that’s another story
look at it like this when you stop
ranking people treat people as equal
yeah I’ve been starstruck I’ve met
really inspiring people I get actually
more inspired by mentors people I’ve met
who have really changed my life these
for me are like celebrities and that’s
what people say to me so I actually do
get starstruck when I kind of meet the
kinds of people who have really changed
my life but even then I don’t want to
place them too much on a pedestal I just
want to say actually I’m worthy to be in
their presence because I’m a human being
and well they’re a human being last time
I checked hope they’re not an alien I
hope they’re not an alien
now we good what happens when this
happens we think that we’ve got all the
time in the world ever been wanting to
talk to someone maybe they’ve been
passing along the street and you’re like
yeah I’ll talk to them in the next 10
seconds no I’ll talk to them in the next
10 minutes no I’ll talk to them in the
next 10 hours oh my god I’m still
waiting yeah what’s happening
you’re never gonna talk to them Buddha
said the problem is you think you’ve got
time you’re saying The Breakfast Club
goodness gracious
the problem is you think you’ve got time
so I used to surf in Peniche Portugal
and you’ve got to catch that wave if you
don’t catch it you may not find another
one for a while but a lot of us we just
we’re just staring at someone thinking
well they’re always gonna be standing in
the same position for the next hour no
no if you don’t make that move they will
you’re beautiful it’s true right you
don’t have to do it James Blunt you can
actually talk to the girl for goodness
sakes and I have what I call the
10-second rule the reason why I say 10
seconds if you have an intuition to talk
to someone give yourself 10 seconds to
do it because I got a friend who just
dives into the ocean I kind of put one
foot in it’s really cold it’s really
cold then I jump in she just dives into
the ocean and that’s inspiring
now that’s almost what you got to do to
approach someone without thinking Lots
just dive in just dive into it just dive
into it just dive into it almost like as
if you’re drunk hey what’s up just act
like you don’t know what you’re doing
hey and once you dive into it what’s
gonna happen you’re gonna free yourself
of all of this pent up suppressed
emotions of not feeling good enough
feeling nervous shy anxious all of that
is just quickly out there because the
longer you wait the harder it gets we
think the longer we wait we’re gonna
build up more confidence no the longer
you wait the more reasons you have to
not do something mmm slow motion no slow
motion this time right so you don’t want
to wait too long you wanna you don’t
have to give yourself 10 seconds that’s
what I do you could give yourself 5
minutes make the five-minute rule maybe
the 10 minute rule but 10 minutes you
got to get yourself together to go and
start making some moves go up to them
and learn once again realize the power
of meditation beforehand to give you the
confidence to talk to anyone when you
are in the alpha brainwave state you’ve
got the most confidence that’s why I put
out the 4 3 2 Hertz millions of views
the 5 to 8 why because it calms you down
now you’ve got the confidence which
means to trust yourself to talk to
anyone you see a lot of us we don’t have
the right sound frequencies coming into
classical music is great by the way if
you want to talk to someone play some
classical music before
studies have shown how classical music
improves your cardiovascular system
right now you can’t even sit still
so breathing the good ass prana relax
take a moment to breathe deep what
happens when you’re just there maybe you
go to a party a social gathering and you
really have this intuition to talk to
someone now you’re not even really
breathing deep from the base of your
it’s just how to orgasm just right there
orgasm felt real good I’ve got to do it
like that when you inhale deep you
exhale slowly inhale deep exhale slowly
your nerves become calm your nerves
become calm everything starts to flow
more easily you see a lot of us we are
so frantic we can’t keep still have you
ever noticed when you’re nervous you
actually make someone else really
nervous and that’s why subconsciously we
have that fear we have a fear that
someone else is gonna pick up our vibes
that’s what keeps us away from them so I
used to have that thought as well so I
realized if I was calm or they’re gonna
get from me is calm if I’m chilled out
or they’re gonna get from me is chilled
out so I’ve got nothing to worry about
because guess what look at it like this
to approach someone without thinking
Lots if you don’t approach them you are
gonna end up thinking about them more
when they’re not there happened to me
along my journey I really really wanted
to talk to someone but I didn’t have the
guts
and guess what I was like they were just
right in front of me I could have just
said said hi hi what’s up but once again
I had the ego huge ego and a lot of us
think I don’t have a huge ego well if
you can’t talk to someone is coming up
nothing wrong with the ego but you see
the ego creates separation so I had to
say this I don’t want to go home
thinking about this person ruminating on
what could have been should have been no
it wasn’t so I’ve got to do it right
here and now and that’s always what
moves me to talk to someone ever seen
that Jack Nicholson meme don’t worry
about it just don’t worry about it you
see the less you care the happier you’ll
be because you don’t want to if
someone’s right in front of you open
your mouth cuz a lot of us we go away
and we’re like spending four hours
thinking about this person and guess
what I’m sorry you probably won’t see
them again
well you might maybe in Whole Foods in
Aisle number nine but that’s another
story
so once again realize the food you’re
eating seaweed high in magnesium that’s
what you need to calm your nerves
it creates a beautiful homeostasis
within the nerves within the body also
you want to stay away from a lot of
caffeine you already nervous enough for
goodness sakes and also what helped me
why do you want something come with your
cup full when you meet people right you
don’t want to come empty cuz now you’re
gonna be desperate you’re gonna be
shaking you’re gonna be gagging for it
we even had breakfast yet and also real
is that if you don’t approach this
person right now you’re gonna go home
and think about them for five hours why
waste precious time
so like Buddha said the problem is you
think you have time there is no time
there is only this moment and if you
want there is no time there is only this
moment and if you want to do something
do it right now it’s that simple
so we are out here breathing in that
good ass prana baby have a beautiful day
infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy peace
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