5 Things To Remember When You Love Someone With Anxiety

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once again five remind us to go through
when you love someone with anxiety
we got a question that came in from
someone who says they are in a
relationship with their partner who has
severe anxiety and they are struggling
to cope
they are scratching their head a bit
more than usual but they still love them
they want to make it work
well let’s make it work then can I get a
Hello much-loved all the deep divers out
there I was in a relationship where
someone had anxiety me what about
forgetting about struggling to cope you
don’t want to struggle to cope in a
relationship
how about reminding yourself of useful
tools that can help your partner and
that can also help you because we all
need help especially if you live on
planet earth I talked about how anxiety
is prolonged panic or fight-or-flight
that is severe anxiety but we all have
anxiety everybody has experienced
anxiety even if it’s just for a split
second he’s still anxiety maybe for a
few seconds a few hours a few days
months some people experience it for a
decade and that’s where it can become
very difficult now if you are in a
relationship and you love this person
let me share with you some useful
reminders that you can use the first
reminder is to be calm look if you have
severe anxiety you’re very cautious off
surrounding yourself with other people
who have a lot of anxiety okay that’s
where panic attacks emanate from because
we are trying to avoid deep down
actually we’re trying to help ourselves
so if you are very calm with your
partner guess what you’re gonna help
make them come if you have a lot of
patience compassion empathy you’re now
supporting them if you say hey deal with
it no compassion leads to no
communication
the first great tool for a great
relationship is communication are you
listening to them because when you
listen to them guess what they can
listen to you because my oh my
you’ve got a lot to talk about right in
now strengthens the relationship when
you are calm because we become the
energy we surround ourselves with most
often let me repeat that we become like
the energy we surround ourselves with
most often so remind yourself of that if
you want to help people you can’t hurt
them
the second reminder don’t see them as a
victim don’t help justify their anxiety
because once again as human beings we
when you justify someone else’s anxiety
you actually help promote their anxiety
so how do we do this we say yeah my
partner has anxiety there is no cure
they are always gonna be like this they
are hearing you when you are saying this
so guess what they think well yeah I do
have anxiety and I’m always can have it
once again
anxiety anxiety being prolonged panic
can disappear the more we begin to
meditate become more in tune with our
bodies so don’t see them as a victim see
them in their most powerful light
realize they are powerful beyond measure
because once you stop believing in
people they start believing in
themselves and we all have to start
believing in ourselves first anyway the
third reminder is a stress-free
environment
now remind yourself that you are
choosing to be in this relationship and
you don’t have to tolerate this but you
have said that you love this person okay
so if you are creating a stress-free
stress free home of the Fung Shui going
got the colors going got the space going
as soon as your partner with severe
anxiety walks in
room they’re gonna feel more relaxed
more at peace with themselves but if the
environment is very stressful it’s gonna
trigger their anxiety the fourth
reminder is to exercise together you see
many people who have anxiety especially
in relationships they move into what I
call the freeze moment the freeze moment
is where you walk into a room and you’re
just there you just froze
okay I’ve spoken about that when you
stop exercising together walking in
nature together you now are moving into
your bodies both at the same time this
is gonna strengthen the relationship why
because you’re gonna cultivate more
compassion but also you’re gonna help
pull them into the present moment all
anxiety emanates from the desire to
escape the present moment that’s a
secret right there bring them into the
number five is to remind yourself there
are alternatives are you happy in this
relationship
don’t make your partner be the center of
attention because once again everybody
has their own issues I’ve got my own
issues I’m not perfect so whenever you
realize that okay they don’t have to
take antidepressants but can you show
them what else they can do mindfulness
meditation show them research but once
again this is not your job
okay you’re doing this out of love but
then see how they are cooperating with
you when you realize that you should
never let someone else feel like a
victim going back to the first point you
now reclaim your power you now help
empower that other person can you see if
they are ready to make that change
okay and the moment you both find an
alternative the relationship becomes
stronger you see many of us we focus on
the problems never the solutions and
look at it like this
many people who have panic attacks or
anxiety they might get a lot of anxiety
before they go out so I’ve spoken about
how important the rehearsal is go
through situations and scenarios where
they are very likely to get a lot of
anxiety just go through a rehearsal and
the more you do this rehearsal the more
their anxiety disappears but once again
with love anything is possible
let’s make it work let’s get it have a
wonderful day
infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy