5 Disturbing Things You’re Doing to Yourself Everyday

peace infinite waters diving deep once
again we’ve got a lot of disturbed
people out here what are we gonna do
five disturbing things you’re doing to
yourself every day can I get a hello
much love to all the deep divers out
there I’ve been getting tons of
questions about not feeling good enough
from women who say they’ve got body
issues – men who say they are useless to
society now if you’ve got a question
Instagram us at infinite waters we’ll go
to the website
Ralph smart calm now before we go into
the solutions let’s take a little look
at some of the most disturbing things
you do and I’ve done in the puss we do
to ourselves the first one is what I
call ascribing intent so you’ve just
emailed someone right you’re eating
cereal right and you check back in the
next oh five seconds they haven’t
replied you start having a panic attack
then you check back in the next ten
seconds they haven’t replied and you say
hey they don’t like me so you ascribe
intent and now you feel miserable when
what they are doing is a reflection of
who they are it is not a reflection of
who you are it has nothing to do with
you let me repeat that it has nothing to
do with you but in your mind you’re
saying well actually it does okay it’s
because I’m unattractive nobody likes me
because nobody likes me because nobody
likes me
you see happy
people the happiest people in the world
never ascribed in 10 they’re like well
is their loss too bad ok the second most
disturbing thing we all do is using
ourselves as punch bags right ok how do
we do this
because this is the key point here what
we do a lot of the times is that we are
so kind everybody else but the moment we
slip up in anything we give ourselves
hell we trash-talk ourselves we slap
ourselves across the face and then we
expect to feel well afterwards have you
heard of cognitive dissonance when you
have two opposing beliefs and you’re
really confused so what happens to the
person who says I hate my job and then
goes to work well they have cognitive
dissonance they know it’s bad for them
but they’re still there anyway so the
only way they can get around that is by
changing their beliefs and their
perception so they say well I gotta eat
not realizing they have another choice
and they don’t have to go through every
day beating themselves up what about the
person who is in an abusive relationship
who says well I don’t want to be alone
cognitive dissonance what about the
person who says I don’t have time to
work on my dream but I’ve got a lot of
time to watch and fill my mind with all
of this entertainment nonsense right
cognitive dissonance and you justify it
by saying well I’m just waiting for the
right moment I understand
but be kind to yourself that is the
secret that’s what I’m practicing more
and more each day to realize hey one
step at a time a lot of us were feeling
overwhelmed right now on the planet and
it’s because we’ve been a bit too much
more than we can chew focus on what
you’re good at and do it well
every single day at the same time even
if you mess up hey take a day off number
three is comparing yourself to other
people now this is deeply disturbing
because we do it all the time whether is
a celebrity Instagram is probably the
biggest source of that or Facebook how
many lights did they get oh they’re
living in this massive mansion and then
you look at your life and it’s terrible
so we focus on celebrities because most
of our lives are complete misery
you are the star you don’t need to focus
on a celebrity if only I’d known that
you are the stuff right of your own
story but what happens when we say no no
no I’m not there life is better than
mine now guess what you are gonna you’re
you’re trying to be someone who you’re
known right many people who say I don’t
like my body you might even go on a diet
just to look like someone else who is on
that diet but that diet may not be right
for you
I love plant-based foods this is what
works for me I don’t want to follow your
diet because I have a lifestyle I eat
well I feel great
and I do amazing things now many times
we want to be someone else because we
are so far removed from who we are we
are so
sensitized to our organic feeling that
the thought of it is a nightmare an
absolute nightmare
so the way around NYX is really to go
and dump yourself off in the woods and
stay there for at least four years and
then you will really get to know
yourself and you won’t want to be anyone
else because for those four years you
haven’t had a choice but to be with
yourself okay and lastly it’s when you
have a fear of making mistakes so I
posted on Instagram the moment I stopped
waiting for the perfect moment I began
to get things done
now what’s worse than making a mistake
not doing anything at all right a lot of
people say Ralph yeah I’m working on
this on this dream I have on this vision
I’m like great have you started they’re
like no it’s too risky I don’t want to
make a mistake so you haven’t done
anything and that’s right right
mistakes will only lead you to where you
want to go to they are the stepping
stones to help you become your greatest
version
I love making mistakes baby right it
means I’m doing something I don’t want
everything to be perfect we don’t live
in a perfect world for goodness sake so
get used to the rough rugged and raw the
good the bad the ugly and get on with it
but we are deeply disturbed every single
day when we are even afraid of trying
goodness gracious what has the world
come to there are no mistakes once you
give it a go
oh really rough oh really oh yeah let’s
debate about that have a beautiful day
much loved with a deep
out there we are here infinite waters
diving deep once again stay well stay healthy peace