10 Secrets Emotionally Mature People Won’t Tell You

peace and Finnick waters diving deep
once again we are out here first thing
in the day
well breathing in that Gurdas prana the
harder nature baby ten secrets
emotionally mature people won’t tell you
but why Ralph I have no idea and we
ain’t even had breakfast yet can I get a
Hello now I’m gonna share with you
what’s helped me along my journey become
more emotionally mature the secret of
becoming your greatest version you see
we always talk about IQ how high is your
IQ by the way it’s not important right
do you know that EQ is going to be the
new IQ emotional intelligence because a
lot of people say I’m really smart I’m
really wise but wisdom without heart is
dangerous
now let’s start with the first secret
holding on to grudges you see along my
earlier journey when I was just coming
up I used to think I was holding on to a
grudge it was a good thing you see
emotionally mature people know that
holding on to a grudge is like holding
on to boiling hot water expecting the
other person to get hot yeah I told you
just put it down
you see emotionally mature people
realize that their heart is more
powerful than their brain electrically
that’s been proven so everything we do
we have to put our heart first say okay
how is this gonna affect my heart
literally speaking because a lot of
people walk around with a heavy heart
they’re always holding on to a grudge
they’re like Ralph I’m not I’m not gonna
talk to this person for like five years
because they didn’t they didn’t respond
to an email I’m like goodness gracious
you may not even be here in five years
but is that the problem is you think
you’ve got time so what’s helped me
along my journey become more emotionally
mature is to realize that look if you
can’t settle your differences with
someone that’s fine but always work on
yourself to have a light heart because
your heart really is the command center
every other organ in your body if you’re
walking around with a heavy heart
chances are you’re not going to go far
at all
what’s the second secret that
emotionally mature people realize they
don’t always have to be right I use
someone that always has to be right even
though you know you’re wrong you see I
love my early journey I would think okay
everything I say must be the truth
because I said it the truth is
subjective but emotionally mature people
use what we call discernment which is
the ability to judge well they realize
that there could be multiple different
answers to the same question but
different perspectives and that’s
perfectly fine it’s not about saying
okay I’m right you’re wrong no no it’s
about looking at things from a whole
bird’s-eye view getting a broader scope
a bigger perspective to realize actually
it’s not about just being right or being
wrong it’s about hearing people out and
seeing where they’re coming from I know
it’s hard to do isn’t it because you’re
right all the time apparently what’s the
third secret seven day vegan challenge
do you know that there was a time when I
used to just eat a lot of fries drink a
lot of coca-cola
and expect to be happy sugar rush super
high followed by a whooping whooping
crash okay what happens why does it
happen like that
emotionally mature people realize that
food is directly linked to mood and
therefore they actually choose what
kinds of foods they eat to make them
feel certain way for instance you want
more blood rushing through your body
they eat a lot of strawberries which is
packed full of vitamin C which actually
improves their cardiovascular health
they get technical like that gave they
want a serotonin boost and they’ll eat
more cacao more bananas tryptophan
they’ll start feeling better by
selecting certain foods if they want to
detox cleanse sometimes their thoughts
are making them feel really groggy then
they’ll eat some kale some spinach
the greens don’t lie what’s the fourth
secret emotionally mature people won’t
tell you that being vulnerable is really
the secret of getting anything you want
ever had someone come up to you and they
just spill the beans they actually get
really honest and open up about how they
really feel you’re like oh my gosh
take everything like take it you see we
are attracted to vulnerable people
certain artists they’re singing a song
and they’re pouring their heart out in
your life can I just buy the song
already you see in our society we’ve
been told that being vulnerable is a
weakness when in actuality it is a
strength and that’s something I’ve been
working on every single day to be more
vulnerable being vulnerable is what will
help you become your greatest version
because a lot of us we think that if we
hide our feelings it’s going to serve us
no no no it just disconnects us from the
world around us let’s talk about number
five you see emotionally mature people
realize that it’s not about suppressing
emotions it’s about expressing emotions
you see how many times have you wanted
to say no I don’t want to go out tonight
even to a good friend and you’re kind of
torn in between two minds I don’t want
to let them down but I also want to
respect my energetic boundaries you see
emotionally mature people realize that
you’ve got to not suppress how you feel
if you want to be happy be happy you
want to be sad be sad if you want to say
no say no then in there cuz if you don’t
set up healthy energetic boundaries is
gonna bite you off ouch I told you I
love my early journey I would just
sometimes I’m a kind of mutable Pisces
so people would be talking and I would
just be going along with what they’re
saying but not really into it so over
time what’s helped me is to really
learn to stop suppressing how I feel if
I wanna I want to hug you I’m gonna hug
you
get ready for what’s number six
emotionally mature people realize it’s
not about feeding the trolls you see
trolls haters whatever you want to call
them negative people they work by being
fed you are giving them food by focusing
your attention on them and emotionally
mature people realize that actually
they’re not going to give them any food
they’re not going to feed the trolls
instead they’re actually gonna focus on
people who actually serve them who do
something for them and that’s why every
time you see me even if you look at the
comments section I say infinite love and
balance it’s on says Ralph I hate you I
say I I keep it moving just probably
send you love back I want well for
everybody that’s why I’m thriving that’s
why I’m always healthy I’m always in
nature I’m always whoa breathing in that
good a spur on a baby because I’m
focusing on the people who inspire me
who give me something back and I give
them something back I got no time for
trolls and people who don’t do anything
for me
sorry even the cat down the road does
apologize I’m sorry for you
okay what’s number seven emotionally
mature people realize that they are
nowhere near their full potential there
is so much more they can do and so much
more they can become you see let me ask
you a question do you think you know
everything do you feel you have all the
answers of the universe yes yeah okay
chances are you’ve stopped growing
that was me along my early journey I
said I don’t need to to learn anything
else I know everything and
happened what happened I stopped growing
I stopped becoming ing my greatest
version you see emotionally mature
people realize they can learn from
everything and everyone from animals
from trees from plants from birds and
bees because they aren’t finished you
see a lot of us we say I’ve arrived
emotionally mature people say arrived
like where where have you arrived you
can always work on yourself that goes on
to number eight emotionally mature
people in becoming your greatest version
realize that the artwork which is them
is not finished you see every single day
we are adding to the artwork of our life
we can always improve ourselves we’re
not perfect we are work in progress so
emotionally mature people will take
areas of their life for instance
sometimes they’re really untidy I had to
learn how to become more tidy sometimes
there’s clothes everywhere I walk into
the room I’m like ah I just want to go
outside I had to learn to tidy my room I
had to learn to work on my own character
flaws which I thought I had was one of
them Ralph well sometimes I’m an
indecisive Pisces so I’ve learned how to
become more decisive over time you see
when you are working on yourself you
realize that it is beautiful we don’t
expect you to be perfect all the time
you see emotionally mature people
realize there are certain areas that
need work and they work on them
emotionally immature people feel well
they’ve got it all figured out that’s
the big difference
okay what else let’s move on to number
nine
you see emotionally mature people put
heart over money hum heart over money
someone might pay them a large sum of
money but if their heart isn’t in it
they won’t do it I’ve had offers
thousands Ralph come and be part of this
TV show I’m like do I have to sign that
I don’t want to do it I don’t want to
sell my soul man look emotionally mature
people realize that what is most
important to you right now that’s what
I’m asking you you probably might think
well it’s earning lots of money that’s
great that’s beautiful that’s fantastic
but at the same time you’ve always got
to put your heart over money that means
making time for friends family but also
setting principles that you live by or
moral code the moral ethic so you don’t
get you don’t just do it for the money a
lot of people just sell their souls for
money and that could include working in
a job which you know is not serving you
which you know is not helping you become
your greatest version you’ve now put
money over heart when emotionally mature
people put heart over money if their
heart isn’t in it they won’t do it
I was trying to get that to rhyme next
time I was another ten see emotionally
mature people realize attitude is
everything they realize what a smile can
do first thing in the day every single
day I smile sometimes I’m just
stretching skating and I just do this
like why because I’m releasing all of
these endorphins oxytocin serotonin our
facial expressions are connected to our
physiology
therefore they affect the
neurotransmitters in our body
therefore by making certain by making
certain facial expressions we can
actually start recreating that same
experience chemically within our body
see our whole body is like a massive
pharmaceutical company but organic one
which will create different concoctions
and potions and all kinds of stuff so
realize that in becoming more
emotionally mature this will help me out
that even if you’re not feeling happy
smile because you see you’re sending a
signal to the cells within your body to
start smiling as well and therefore you
now start recreating that same
experience within your body until you
start raising uplifting your mood you
see what a frown does if I’m like
all your cells are now shutting down
this is something we call epigenetics
how our perception influences our DNA
and this is real so once again in being
emotionally mature it doesn’t mean you
got to be serious all the time in fact a
lot of emotionally mature people I know
is some of the silliest people I know
and then they’re serious and then
they’re fun and then they’re like
laughing not that order though okay but
you see a lot of us on the planet we
might be emotionally immature because
once again we don’t realize it’s about
working on yourself every single day to
become your greatest version to realize
that EQ is gonna be the new IQ can I get
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we’re here with nature whoa getting high
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