peace and Finnick waters diving deep
once again we are here in the art
gallery whoa breathing in that good ass
Prada are you feeling socially awkward
for some strange reason every time
you’re out and about someone messaged me
that like they feel so socially awkward
it’s hard to be a human being Ralph is
that you help there you go to the beach
and you feel really awkward you’re
eating with someone meeting someone just
walking around casually as you do and
now you’re having a panic attack
I mean even at breakfast yet can I get a
hello I’m gonna share with you was help
me along my journey because I grew up
socially awkward I used to take the
train to school and I would have anxiety
attacks every three minutes and I would
just feel so awkward like just being in
public places and spaces I would feel
nervous feel a bit queasy so what
happened what was going on with me by
the way what’s going on with you right
now now I found out how to stop social
openness you got to start looking at the
reasons why you are socially awkward and
the first reason why so many people
around the planet around the globe have
social awkwardness is because you
believe the hype Public Enemy said don’t
believe the hype what they were actually
telling you in that song is how to stop
in our mind we have hierarchy so if
you’re working in a job and then you got
a manager and then your manager has
another manager and that manager has
another manager and that manager has
another map you’re gonna feel awkward
because you’re like I’m a nobody
right you go to a party you’re having a
drink and everyone’s talking about their
fabulous career they’re talking about
how amazing their life is that traveling
on different planes going here and there
and you’re like in your mind
I’m just staying at home with my cat
that’s good enough that’s amazing
why don’t you see it so you believe the
hype that everybody’s life is more
glorious than yours so whenever you are
out and about you have this mindset that
everybody has got it figured out right
everybody has got this figured out that
was me for a long time then I realize
wait a minute the real secret
the real secret nobody knows what
they’re doing we’re just walking around
on a planet that’s spinning really fast
that’s the truth and that really helped
me stop social openness just have
transparency glasses like imagine
everyone is butt naked right now and
guess what everybody goes to the toilet
does that make you feel better
great what’s the second reason you’re
socially awkward it’s what I call
repetitive meet-and-greets so you might
meet someone and every time you meet
this person you say the exact same thing
to this person how are you I’m fine
bye-bye you’re right you’re right
it gets a bit tiresome you’re
exasperated in fact you don’t even want
to meet this person because you already
know what you’re gonna say to each other
you psychic you right that’s
why it feels so awkward because it feels
so forced the organic flow is where you
dive deeper into the conversation you
ask them about their childhood what’s
your best childhood memory and they’ll
be like well I ate all the cookies
you’ll start laughing you’ll create a
better flow with them that’s what will
loosen both of you up to each other you
are socially awkward because your
conversations simply don’t go anywhere
it’s like this awkward silence has ever
happened to you there’s this gloomy
silence and both of you are like I don’t
know what I’m doing right now okay to
stop that you have to dive deeper into
the conversation get intimate with
people ask more questions what’s the
third reason you’re socially awkward
seven day vegan challenge I realized it
was because I was dehydrated when you
are dehydrated you are gonna feel
awkward inside of you because every
single cell needs water
right we are over 66% water so what I
found out was that I was dehydrated my
solution and this really helped me
overcome social awkwardness is to stay
hydrated now a lot of people don’t like
drinking water well guess what there are
fruits which contain a lot of water
strawberries over 90 percent water
blueberries over 90 percent water
cucumbers over 90 percent water
watermelon over 90 percent water I could
go on don’t make me do that okay
grapes high amounts of water in them so
you’re getting the two-for-one you get
the amazing nutrients the vitamins the
antioxidants but also you hydrate
yourself now when you eat for confidence
you will have so much you will feel so
empowered being around anybody doesn’t
matter who they are
okay what’s the fourth reason you’re
socially awkward what I found out alone
my Jenny is I have what I call the
comparing mind I was always comparing my
life with other people’s and that’s one
of the greatest traps that is probably
the greatest catalyst for your anxiety
because you feel you are being left
behind somewhere like everybody else is
getting on with their life and your life
isn’t moving anywhere you are stuck
that’s just the belief it’s all bs
belief systems so what I started to do
was create my own league stop thinking
stop thinking you can know someone’s
life just because of their Instagram
selfie that’s not their life that’s not
real right that’s just the part of their
life so you stop comparing yourself to
other people when you learn how to love
yourself 100% and then you take the
focus off how marvelous you think other
people’s lives are and then you actually
start saying actually I’ve got a lot
going on for me and when you are around
these people you can actually hold your
ground you can actually stand up tall
and say yeah let’s let’s have a great
chat you are socially awkward because
you feel inadequate you don’t feel
worthy to be in other people’s presence
because someone has told you that you’re
no good who has told you that you so
stop comparing yourself comparison is
the greatest thief of joy slow motion
this side what’s the fifth reason you’re
socially awkward what I found out along
my journey was this I was unable to
express a full range of emotions and
that’s what happens whenever you can’t
go like ah you’re gonna be socially
awkward you want to be able to say ah
that’s a good sign that you’re actually
relaxed about just expressing what evers
going on in that beautiful mind of yours
okay
a lot of people they’re always just
showing one kind of emotion certain time
does that work certain times you’re
around friends but you don’t really show
different emotions you don’t really tap
into different emotions we feel more
relaxed around people when we can open
up emotionally to them okay and that’s
how to stop socially social awkwardness
right learn to express a full range of
emotions by being around people who
respect you and you just don’t care how
they perceive you basically what’s
number six
I found out along my journey I was
really socially awkward because people
didn’t know the real me I was diving
deep even in my teenage years and I was
around friends and I just felt odd like
I felt like I was an alien and if they
really knew how I would think like how I
thought right now right how I was
thinking right now I probably wouldn’t
have any friends where did they all go
no one knows right you are afraid of
people seeing the real you and that is
why in society people try so hard to be
accepted to fit in
okay because they know that they’re
pretty their mind is pretty crazy okay
so it’s this that this mindset that I
want to fit in I don’t want people to
see who I really am
well guess what I Got News for you the
people who really love you for you will
accept you for who you really are slow
motion this side show all the different
sides of you because then you will meet
your real friends now number seven the
seventh reason you’re socially awkward
what I started to realize is that I was
ashamed to be vulnerable like I always
had to say okay I’ve got this
programming I’m the man I do this I
can’t display weakness I can’t display
sensitivity I got to be the macho man
and I realize that’s a load of nonsense
right because I actually like birds and
I actually like turquoise and I actually
like so many different things right I
like the good life the sensitive life I
like classical music I like sitting on
beautiful beaches watching waves go like
that but like that right they like that
that’s cool for me so being vulnerable
will help you overcome social
awkwardness learn to show people that
you want perfect that you still have
challenges that’s what I do that’s why I
say I’m no same in fact I’m trying to
see how this whole thing works okay
that’s why I connect with so many people
I’m not here to show you how perfect I
am I’m here to show you how I’ve worked
on my imperfections
however accepted my imperfections how
they’ve helped me become my greatest
version
mm slow motion inside
[Music]
vulnerability is the human element when
you say okay this one time I fell down
and everyone laughed at me oh my gosh I
just loved can I just give you a hug
right now
right that’s how you create this dynamic
relationship this beautiful connection
with someone else when you are able to
be vulnerable with them you don’t have
to appear like you are this person who
has no problems because that’s just not
the truth let me go wardrobe clothes
everywhere Conte idea what’s the eighth
reason you are socially awkward now what
I’ve seen along my journey is this that
I was in the wrong environment for a
long time an environment where I just
felt alone even though there were people
around me and this was even when I was
studying I was studying psychology and
criminology and it was almost as if I
couldn’t even connect with these people
I was around I felt like the odd one out
and I felt really socially awkward
because once again it was that
repetitive meet and greet then I said
okay I thought I started to work I
started to work once again it was that
environment I wasn’t really resonating
with that environment and then I said
okay I’m gonna find an environment which
complements my own energy and then I
landed in nature I landed with the birds
and the bees and I just found out that
was a secret to feeling less socially
awkward go to a garden party right be in
the right environment ask yourself am I
really suited to this environment I’m in
certain environments work better for
certain people at certain times you got
to know what is the right environment
the best environment that you thrive and
become your greatest version okay
the ninth reason you’re feeling socially
awkward what I found out along my
journey was this
we go through life scratching our head
and a lot of us simply don’t love
ourselves okay that’s why we’re
scratching our head right now when
everyone’s on the table talking you feel
your voice doesn’t matter so you let
everyone else talk they’re yapping
yapping yapping and you’re like my voice
doesn’t matter of course you’re gonna
feel socially and awkward you’re gonna
feel real awkward because I’ve got news
for you your voice does matter anything
you say is just as important as anything
they say and that’s really what did it
for me that’s when I said okay I get it
now
like I’m not just going to be silent
when everyone’s talking I’m gonna
actually say something and obviously you
can see I really know how to use my
voice well right and then I started to
be less socially awkward because I
started to actually talk what I was
really feeling and stop sugarcoating it
just to make you smile more now you’re
not smiling are you good because now I
know who my real friends are okay and I
found them and lastly number 10 you may
be socially awkward because you feel you
aren’t being heard okay whenever we feel
no one’s listening to us it’s a socially
awkward moment okay so surround yourself
with people we’ll surround yourself with
people where you feel heard you feel
loved and cared for and that’s why I
started making videos because I didn’t
feel like I was being heard when I used
to work when I used to study like I
didn’t feel anybody got me and right now
we are living in great times of change
right so much is happening on the planet
you want to be heard you want to realize
your opinion matters
your thoughts matters write your
thoughts matter who you are matters and
you are worthy to be in the presence of
anybody anybody anybody and then you
just say feel so good to be a live baby
can I get a Hello and there you have it
I’m a beautiful day we’re just
chillaxing in the art gallery getting
high in a fin of waters dive deep once
you [Music]
once again we are here in the art
gallery whoa breathing in that good ass
Prada are you feeling socially awkward
for some strange reason every time
you’re out and about someone messaged me
that like they feel so socially awkward
it’s hard to be a human being Ralph is
that you help there you go to the beach
and you feel really awkward you’re
eating with someone meeting someone just
walking around casually as you do and
now you’re having a panic attack
I mean even at breakfast yet can I get a
hello I’m gonna share with you was help
me along my journey because I grew up
socially awkward I used to take the
train to school and I would have anxiety
attacks every three minutes and I would
just feel so awkward like just being in
public places and spaces I would feel
nervous feel a bit queasy so what
happened what was going on with me by
the way what’s going on with you right
now now I found out how to stop social
openness you got to start looking at the
reasons why you are socially awkward and
the first reason why so many people
around the planet around the globe have
social awkwardness is because you
believe the hype Public Enemy said don’t
believe the hype what they were actually
telling you in that song is how to stop
in our mind we have hierarchy so if
you’re working in a job and then you got
a manager and then your manager has
another manager and that manager has
another manager and that manager has
another map you’re gonna feel awkward
because you’re like I’m a nobody
right you go to a party you’re having a
drink and everyone’s talking about their
fabulous career they’re talking about
how amazing their life is that traveling
on different planes going here and there
and you’re like in your mind
I’m just staying at home with my cat
that’s good enough that’s amazing
why don’t you see it so you believe the
hype that everybody’s life is more
glorious than yours so whenever you are
out and about you have this mindset that
everybody has got it figured out right
everybody has got this figured out that
was me for a long time then I realize
wait a minute the real secret
the real secret nobody knows what
they’re doing we’re just walking around
on a planet that’s spinning really fast
that’s the truth and that really helped
me stop social openness just have
transparency glasses like imagine
everyone is butt naked right now and
guess what everybody goes to the toilet
does that make you feel better
great what’s the second reason you’re
socially awkward it’s what I call
repetitive meet-and-greets so you might
meet someone and every time you meet
this person you say the exact same thing
to this person how are you I’m fine
bye-bye you’re right you’re right
it gets a bit tiresome you’re
exasperated in fact you don’t even want
to meet this person because you already
know what you’re gonna say to each other
you psychic you right that’s
why it feels so awkward because it feels
so forced the organic flow is where you
dive deeper into the conversation you
ask them about their childhood what’s
your best childhood memory and they’ll
be like well I ate all the cookies
you’ll start laughing you’ll create a
better flow with them that’s what will
loosen both of you up to each other you
are socially awkward because your
conversations simply don’t go anywhere
it’s like this awkward silence has ever
happened to you there’s this gloomy
silence and both of you are like I don’t
know what I’m doing right now okay to
stop that you have to dive deeper into
the conversation get intimate with
people ask more questions what’s the
third reason you’re socially awkward
seven day vegan challenge I realized it
was because I was dehydrated when you
are dehydrated you are gonna feel
awkward inside of you because every
single cell needs water
right we are over 66% water so what I
found out was that I was dehydrated my
solution and this really helped me
overcome social awkwardness is to stay
hydrated now a lot of people don’t like
drinking water well guess what there are
fruits which contain a lot of water
strawberries over 90 percent water
blueberries over 90 percent water
cucumbers over 90 percent water
watermelon over 90 percent water I could
go on don’t make me do that okay
grapes high amounts of water in them so
you’re getting the two-for-one you get
the amazing nutrients the vitamins the
antioxidants but also you hydrate
yourself now when you eat for confidence
you will have so much you will feel so
empowered being around anybody doesn’t
matter who they are
okay what’s the fourth reason you’re
socially awkward what I found out alone
my Jenny is I have what I call the
comparing mind I was always comparing my
life with other people’s and that’s one
of the greatest traps that is probably
the greatest catalyst for your anxiety
because you feel you are being left
behind somewhere like everybody else is
getting on with their life and your life
isn’t moving anywhere you are stuck
that’s just the belief it’s all bs
belief systems so what I started to do
was create my own league stop thinking
stop thinking you can know someone’s
life just because of their Instagram
selfie that’s not their life that’s not
real right that’s just the part of their
life so you stop comparing yourself to
other people when you learn how to love
yourself 100% and then you take the
focus off how marvelous you think other
people’s lives are and then you actually
start saying actually I’ve got a lot
going on for me and when you are around
these people you can actually hold your
ground you can actually stand up tall
and say yeah let’s let’s have a great
chat you are socially awkward because
you feel inadequate you don’t feel
worthy to be in other people’s presence
because someone has told you that you’re
no good who has told you that you so
stop comparing yourself comparison is
the greatest thief of joy slow motion
this side what’s the fifth reason you’re
socially awkward what I found out along
my journey was this I was unable to
express a full range of emotions and
that’s what happens whenever you can’t
go like ah you’re gonna be socially
awkward you want to be able to say ah
that’s a good sign that you’re actually
relaxed about just expressing what evers
going on in that beautiful mind of yours
okay
a lot of people they’re always just
showing one kind of emotion certain time
does that work certain times you’re
around friends but you don’t really show
different emotions you don’t really tap
into different emotions we feel more
relaxed around people when we can open
up emotionally to them okay and that’s
how to stop socially social awkwardness
right learn to express a full range of
emotions by being around people who
respect you and you just don’t care how
they perceive you basically what’s
number six
I found out along my journey I was
really socially awkward because people
didn’t know the real me I was diving
deep even in my teenage years and I was
around friends and I just felt odd like
I felt like I was an alien and if they
really knew how I would think like how I
thought right now right how I was
thinking right now I probably wouldn’t
have any friends where did they all go
no one knows right you are afraid of
people seeing the real you and that is
why in society people try so hard to be
accepted to fit in
okay because they know that they’re
pretty their mind is pretty crazy okay
so it’s this that this mindset that I
want to fit in I don’t want people to
see who I really am
well guess what I Got News for you the
people who really love you for you will
accept you for who you really are slow
motion this side show all the different
sides of you because then you will meet
your real friends now number seven the
seventh reason you’re socially awkward
what I started to realize is that I was
ashamed to be vulnerable like I always
had to say okay I’ve got this
programming I’m the man I do this I
can’t display weakness I can’t display
sensitivity I got to be the macho man
and I realize that’s a load of nonsense
right because I actually like birds and
I actually like turquoise and I actually
like so many different things right I
like the good life the sensitive life I
like classical music I like sitting on
beautiful beaches watching waves go like
that but like that right they like that
that’s cool for me so being vulnerable
will help you overcome social
awkwardness learn to show people that
you want perfect that you still have
challenges that’s what I do that’s why I
say I’m no same in fact I’m trying to
see how this whole thing works okay
that’s why I connect with so many people
I’m not here to show you how perfect I
am I’m here to show you how I’ve worked
on my imperfections
however accepted my imperfections how
they’ve helped me become my greatest
version
mm slow motion inside
[Music]
vulnerability is the human element when
you say okay this one time I fell down
and everyone laughed at me oh my gosh I
just loved can I just give you a hug
right now
right that’s how you create this dynamic
relationship this beautiful connection
with someone else when you are able to
be vulnerable with them you don’t have
to appear like you are this person who
has no problems because that’s just not
the truth let me go wardrobe clothes
everywhere Conte idea what’s the eighth
reason you are socially awkward now what
I’ve seen along my journey is this that
I was in the wrong environment for a
long time an environment where I just
felt alone even though there were people
around me and this was even when I was
studying I was studying psychology and
criminology and it was almost as if I
couldn’t even connect with these people
I was around I felt like the odd one out
and I felt really socially awkward
because once again it was that
repetitive meet and greet then I said
okay I thought I started to work I
started to work once again it was that
environment I wasn’t really resonating
with that environment and then I said
okay I’m gonna find an environment which
complements my own energy and then I
landed in nature I landed with the birds
and the bees and I just found out that
was a secret to feeling less socially
awkward go to a garden party right be in
the right environment ask yourself am I
really suited to this environment I’m in
certain environments work better for
certain people at certain times you got
to know what is the right environment
the best environment that you thrive and
become your greatest version okay
the ninth reason you’re feeling socially
awkward what I found out along my
journey was this
we go through life scratching our head
and a lot of us simply don’t love
ourselves okay that’s why we’re
scratching our head right now when
everyone’s on the table talking you feel
your voice doesn’t matter so you let
everyone else talk they’re yapping
yapping yapping and you’re like my voice
doesn’t matter of course you’re gonna
feel socially and awkward you’re gonna
feel real awkward because I’ve got news
for you your voice does matter anything
you say is just as important as anything
they say and that’s really what did it
for me that’s when I said okay I get it
now
like I’m not just going to be silent
when everyone’s talking I’m gonna
actually say something and obviously you
can see I really know how to use my
voice well right and then I started to
be less socially awkward because I
started to actually talk what I was
really feeling and stop sugarcoating it
just to make you smile more now you’re
not smiling are you good because now I
know who my real friends are okay and I
found them and lastly number 10 you may
be socially awkward because you feel you
aren’t being heard okay whenever we feel
no one’s listening to us it’s a socially
awkward moment okay so surround yourself
with people we’ll surround yourself with
people where you feel heard you feel
loved and cared for and that’s why I
started making videos because I didn’t
feel like I was being heard when I used
to work when I used to study like I
didn’t feel anybody got me and right now
we are living in great times of change
right so much is happening on the planet
you want to be heard you want to realize
your opinion matters
your thoughts matters write your
thoughts matter who you are matters and
you are worthy to be in the presence of
anybody anybody anybody and then you
just say feel so good to be a live baby
can I get a Hello and there you have it
I’m a beautiful day we’re just
chillaxing in the art gallery getting
high in a fin of waters dive deep once
you [Music]
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